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June 19, 2024 13 mins

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am 57 years old and have been married to an intelligent, extremely good looking 60 year old man for ten years. We’re admired by friends and family because we seem to have the perfect marriage. At home and in public, we act like two teenagers in love. We send each other silly texts all day and we play all kind of silly games at home..............

 

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, guys, it is time now for today's Strawberry
Letter and listen. If you need advice on relationships, sex, dating, work, parenting,
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Speaker 2 (00:13):
We could be reading your letter live on the air.

Speaker 1 (00:16):
Just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now.

Speaker 3 (00:20):
Buggle up, hold on tight, We got it for you here.
It is a Strawberry Letter subject.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
I'm in the military and I never enlisted. Here's Stephen Shirley.
I am fifty seven years old and have been married
to an intelligent, extremely good looking sixty year old man
for ten years. We're admired by friends and family because
we seem to have the perfect marriage. At home and
in public, we act like two teenagers in love.

Speaker 2 (00:46):
We send each other.

Speaker 1 (00:47):
Silly text messages all day, and we play all kind
of all kinds of silly games at home. But then
there's the one part of the marriage that's getting on
my nerves. My husband works on a military base, and
he brings his job home with him every day. I'm
usually home from work first, so I cook dinner so
he can relax and eat after work. Instead, he comes

(01:10):
in and starts looking around to see what's out of order.
If I'm cooking, he adjusts the temperature of the pots
on the stove. He prefers that I use the microwave
as much as possible, and a few times he has
lectured me on how the microwave was invented to conserve energy.
He regularly adds a little water to my perfectly good
bottle of dishwashing liquid so it will last longer, and

(01:33):
expects all silverware and glassware after I wash dishes. Whenever
I leave the house without him, he calls to tell
me what I did wrong. I left a light on,
the blinds were opened too widely, I didn't put the
clean dishes away, and the list goes on and on.
In spite of our good times together, he keeps arguing

(01:53):
with me about something I am not doing right. It
gets to the point where I find more reasons to
leave the house just for I'm not one of his
enlistees in the army.

Speaker 2 (02:03):
How can I get him to stop? Wow?

Speaker 1 (02:06):
Pretty controlling your husband is, huh? And not to mention nagging?
Who wants to hear this on a daily basis? You
know it does take two people to argue though you said,
he keeps arguing with you about what you're not doing right,
Just stop talking to him.

Speaker 2 (02:22):
Don't argue with him.

Speaker 1 (02:23):
Okay, you're telling Steve and I about this, but who
you really need to tell? Is this worrisome nitpicking husband
of yours?

Speaker 2 (02:32):
I mean you have a voice, Use your voice.

Speaker 1 (02:35):
Tell him in a strong, respectful, you could be nice
about it way that You've had enough of his complaining
that you're not a child. You're not his child, you're
not the maid, you're not one of his co workers
from a military base.

Speaker 2 (02:46):
You are his wife.

Speaker 1 (02:47):
He can't talk to you this way, or he shouldn't
be talking to you this way.

Speaker 2 (02:52):
Why is he trying to control you? Tell him you
know that you're grown all of this stuff. He just
needs to quit following up behind you.

Speaker 1 (02:59):
You don't need anyone to follow up behind you and
check up after you. And if he persists, stop answering
his calls. Like I said, stop arguing with him. It
takes two people to argue. Stop answering his calls when
he calls you about this kind of stuff, send his
but to voicemail.

Speaker 2 (03:14):
I mean, who does he think he is?

Speaker 1 (03:16):
Steve?

Speaker 4 (03:17):
I don't understand why she wrote the letter, because I
don't see what the problem is. It's this woman is
fifty seven married to an intelligent, extremely good look at
sixty year old man for ten years. You admired by
friends because y'all seem like you got a perfect marriage.
At home and in public, y'allt like two teenagers in love.
Y'all seeing silly text messages all day, we play all

(03:39):
kinds of silly games. But then here's the part of
the marriage to get on your damn nerves. Your husband
work at the military base, and he brings his job
home with him, so usually home first, right, so you
cook dinner so he could relax and he'd have to
work instead. He comes in and start looking around and
see what's out of order. So obviously he does some
type of inspection work.

Speaker 3 (04:00):
Down at his job.

Speaker 4 (04:03):
So now here his ass coming in the house inspected.
If I'm cooking, he adjusts the temperature of the pots
on the stove. He wants you to use the microwave
as much as possible, and a few times he lectured
you on how the microwave was invented to conserve energy.

Speaker 3 (04:20):
Okay, is he stupid?

Speaker 1 (04:22):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (04:24):
Who wants a microwave dish.

Speaker 4 (04:27):
When you got a woman or someone that's cooking you
a home cooked fresh meal, he's stupid, he fight, he nitpicking,
but hear what. I don't understand. Why don't you just do, lady,
what women do. Are y'all capable of doing it? I
don't understand why you're doing it? Straighten his ass out you.

(04:51):
I'm at home. First, I cook dinner so he can relax.
He come in and start looking around there I'm cooking.
He adjusts the temperature of the pots on the stove.
I tell you what, set y'all ass down somewhere. And
then when he come in here right up to here,
just the temperature. She said, Okay, so you cooking now, humph,
thank you. Put your feet up and start working with

(05:12):
watching TV. He prefers that you use the microwave as
much as possible. And he'd election me on how the
microwave invented to con servant. Take all the food, Put
it in the microwave, all of it. Yes, put the
eggs in there with the with the with with with
the ham. Put the ham in there with the potato salad.

(05:35):
Put that in there, with the slough. Put that in there,
put and put the gravy all of it, and cut
it on.

Speaker 3 (05:40):
And set your ass down to go and send the microwave.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
Yes, Jeeve.

Speaker 4 (05:47):
He regularly adds a little water to my perfectly good
bottled dish washing liquor so it would last longer. Okay, cool,
Now here go all the dishes. I ain't done them.
You use that water down ass dishwashing liquid, and see
how long you gonna be scrubbing grease spots?

Speaker 3 (06:09):
Sit show ass down.

Speaker 4 (06:12):
He constantly inspects all the silver way and glass.

Speaker 3 (06:16):
Where After I wash the dishes, I spin on everything.
We got.

Speaker 4 (06:24):
Spin on every Now, what are these water spots? They
ain't water spots. They my spots.

Speaker 2 (06:38):
Hang on Steve's hang on. I knew you were gonna
work yourself up. We'll have part two with me.

Speaker 1 (06:44):
Steve's response coming up at twenty three after the hour.
Subject I'm in the military and I never even enlisted.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
We'll be back right after this. You're listening hard morning show.

Speaker 1 (06:55):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letters.
Subject I'm in the military terry and I never enlisted.

Speaker 3 (07:02):
And here was this man tripping every time she do something.

Speaker 4 (07:05):
He got something to complain about want her to use
a microwave instead of stove. He adjusting temperature on pots
when she come in. He looking at all the glasses
and silver waves. See if they got spots on it.
I'd have told you what to do. Quit cooking. He
adjusted temperature, Sit down somewhere. He wanted everything in the microwave.

(07:27):
Put everything y'all having for dinner. Don't cook nothing, hacking
all in that microwave.

Speaker 3 (07:33):
As soon as he walked through the door.

Speaker 4 (07:35):
Just put it on twenty minutes and pressed in it,
and go sit down your dinner in the damn microwave
like you like it.

Speaker 3 (07:44):
He in there checking on a silver way and all
this here looking for water spots. I spin on everything
in there.

Speaker 2 (07:55):
What about him telling her about the leaving the lights on?

Speaker 4 (07:58):
And now we getting to the right that now you
leave a house without him, he calls to tell you
what you did wrong. I left a light on, the
blinds were open to wide. I didn't put the clean
dishes away. And the list goes on and on, because
I hear what you do next time you lead the light,
next time you leave a house, don't leave a damn

(08:19):
light on in there? Nowhere, Let every blind, shut up,
drape shield.

Speaker 3 (08:26):
Dough light.

Speaker 4 (08:29):
Put blankets up to the window.

Speaker 3 (08:32):
Tack them up.

Speaker 2 (08:33):
It's flacking.

Speaker 3 (08:34):
You can't look in here if work, you can't see
a damn thing in here. I love it and.

Speaker 4 (08:42):
Walk your answer in this dark cass house that you're
stupid ass. Matter of fact, go downstairs and click all
the fuse box switches the other way. Make sure ain't
no damn not only is the lights not on, damn it.

Speaker 3 (08:59):
Dan't come on.

Speaker 4 (09:02):
Since you like saving money, did he all man? Because
you didn't put no clean dishes away. Don't worry about it.
Quit doing them damn dishes.

Speaker 3 (09:12):
Do it your damn set. This is your response.

Speaker 4 (09:17):
Do it sho damn set, because this is what women
would say. It's getting to the point where I find
more reasons to leave the house just for peace. No, no,
no correction, He's getting to the point where you find
more reasons to leave this.

Speaker 3 (09:33):
Big, dark ass house.

Speaker 4 (09:36):
Cut all the damn lights off, blankets up to the woodows,
and go downstairs with a flashlight and cut all the
fuses off. So when he come on, ain't no lights
in the house because you want to save extra energy.
So now he got to feel his way down that
damn base really to cut them fuses back on.

Speaker 2 (09:58):
Bay, But okay, he's the backs of the microwave.

Speaker 3 (10:02):
So microwaves, this is what you do.

Speaker 4 (10:06):
Take the cabbage, the ham, the cold slow, the potato salad,
the yellow mode.

Speaker 3 (10:15):
The cake, the yams, and the greens.

Speaker 4 (10:21):
Take them all out they container, put them in a bowl,
all of it.

Speaker 3 (10:27):
Stick it in.

Speaker 4 (10:27):
The microwave as soon as he come in the dope
after he found all the light switches and stuff, and
cut they fuse back on. When he comes ups there,
slam the microwave dough. Put it on twenty minutes and
press in them and go in there and sit down
and say your dinner, and the damn microwave.

Speaker 3 (10:47):
Like you like it to dessert. The cake it's in that,
like you like it.

Speaker 2 (10:55):
He's lectured to her about the microwave.

Speaker 3 (10:58):
He ain't lectured to me about it. Damn thing. You
need to find that fuse box and cut these lights off.
This takes better. Yes, it's in the microwaves.

Speaker 4 (11:21):
And I know you like eating all that once, so
I had to put it all in there at once,
mister old time.

Speaker 2 (11:31):
And then she's con serve it on the dishes.

Speaker 4 (11:33):
That she and I'll tell you something else to save
money too, and took all the toilet tissue out this house.

Speaker 3 (11:40):
Wow, yes, what yes?

Speaker 2 (11:43):
Need say anything about that?

Speaker 4 (11:45):
Well, see, he complained about everything else we spending money
in here, all these money saving issue.

Speaker 3 (11:50):
We don't need toilet tissue no more. Use your face.

Speaker 5 (11:53):
Time, use your face time off. Yeah, now you and
then use that same FaceTime and washing damn dishes with
water down there, dishwashing.

Speaker 4 (12:12):
Oh my god, we're saving money. We're saving money, and
we're not buying no more laundry detergent.

Speaker 3 (12:22):
We're gonna use the.

Speaker 4 (12:23):
Same dishwashing liquid. We ain't out and closed no more
because that's too much money too. Put all him damn
clothing of and if he does, you're baking the funk
out of.

Speaker 3 (12:42):
Wow.

Speaker 2 (12:45):
All right, well I think we get the message.

Speaker 5 (12:47):
Thank you, Steve.

Speaker 1 (12:48):
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Speaker 3 (12:58):
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Speaker 2 (13:08):
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