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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
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We got it for you here. It is Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Letter subject, I'm tired of covering for this man. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm dating a guy that's been living with
a woman for six years and they're not married, so
technically he's single, so we're not cheaters. He's not happy
with her, but he tries to make her think he is,
which is confusing to me. I've been acting like I
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am his cousin, and I'm tired of covering for this man.
If I call him, he pretends like he's talking to
one of his homeboys. I have been on FaceTime with
him many times and I've had to drop my phone.
When she walked in the room, everyone is hinted to
her that her man is cheating, and she's mentioned it
to me before, but I always assure her that her
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man is faithful. Yes, I have been in social situations
with them, and she really thinks I am this man's cousin.
Lucky for us, his family lives way across the couch
of the country and he's not close to them. I've
picked up their daughter from daycare before, and I have
babysat for them. I've done all of this. I've done
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it all to keep the peace and keep him happy.
But when do I get to be happy and have
him all to myself. He said he can't leave because
his child isn't even two years old and he doesn't
want to miss any of the major moments in her life.
Just like last week, his girlfriend gave him a chance
to leave. They got into a heated argument and she
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accused him of cheating and told him that she loves him,
but he can leave if he's found someone better. She
confide it in me, and I assured her that she
did the best thing, but he chickened out, told her
that he didn't want anyone but her. He doesn't know
that I'm giving her that. I'm giving her relationship advice
on the side. I'm tired of covering for him while
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he lies to her about his feelings. Should I be
straight up with her? Nosis No, be straight up with yourself.
That's who you need to be straight up with. This
has nothing to do with anyone but you. He's lying
to you, and you're believing it and lying to yourself,
and you're in her face lying with these lies he's
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giving you. It is just too many lies in this letter.
I don't care what he tells you. He's not leaving
her to be with you. If so, he would have
done it already. Okay, but you do need to leave him.
He may not be married to her legally, like you say,
but he has a child with her and everything else
that comes with marriage. They're doing it. They live together,
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all of that. He's been with her for a whole
six years. This is not your man. He's just doing
you on the side, period.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
That's it. Okay.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
You ask what do you need to do to be
happy when you put yourself first and leave this mess
you're in. This is a mess you need to get out.
Think about it. He calls you his cousin. She thinks
you're his cousin. Everybody thinks you're his cousin, and he
calls you his homeboy when he's talking to you on
the phone. He's hiding you. He doesn't respect you, and
he really doesn't want you. So please get out while
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you can get out, Tommy.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
I never thought i'd see it. What best side piece ever?
Hands down?
Speaker 3 (03:35):
She wins, hands down.
Speaker 4 (03:38):
Listen, listen, listen.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
If you are side piece out there, I want you
to take notes on this letter right here, because this
his hands down best side piece ever.
Speaker 4 (03:47):
This woman.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
First of all, she gets an oscar cause she acting.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Her butt off.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Every single day she is acting. She got to be,
she got to be the cousin this day. Cheap see
Darnelle another day. I mean, she's so many of the
baby when it's your baby's sitting over here. We were
picking the baby up from daycare, we doing all. This
is by far the best side peace ever. And for
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him to just be so, you know, I don't like
how he's taking care of the side peace.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
I really don't.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
I don't like because he's not caring for her, and
I don't like that part he got nervorus. I don't
want to miss none of the baby's and moments, and
the baby's like, well, what does that mean? That means
you ain't gonna never leave, So that means I'm gonna
be your cousin forever. Then you're gonna have to show
me some something. I need a little something more. You
got to make me feel a little bit more better.
And then then then here's the one that you gotta
also understand is uh, she gave him a chance to leave.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
He had an out.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
You sitting there looking at that out, and the whole
time you looking at that out, you on the other side,
confiding in her, letting them support her. Take girl, I
know what you're gonna do. You are You're playing both sides.
So oh you the coldest side.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
You love her right now?
Speaker 5 (05:00):
What?
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Oh my god, She's so affectionate with everybody. She's making
everybody comfortable in this letter the baby eyes of baby
doing the baby doing good?
Speaker 4 (05:11):
Wise, baby doing.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Good because cousin slash side pieces what taking care of
the baby, babysitting, picking the baby up to daycare. You
over there more than damn mama. You're doing what you're
supposed to be doing. Then you making sure that mama
gets some support because she needs some mental support from somebody.
You over there in her ear, girl, you're gonna be alright.
I'm here if you need me, if you need somebody
to talk to, I'm here for you. You're doing everything for
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him and he is not carving out any time for you.
And that's the part that's bothered me. He is not
supporting his side piece, and that's not what you're supposed
to be doing. You are a great side piece. You
are doing a great job. You're doing a wonderful job.
My uncle would be uh would jump off a clip
if he was here, hear my answer, because you know,
because he being here preaching, hell is you doing with
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his ass?
Speaker 4 (05:53):
You need? You should have.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Been gone here, you know he'd have been told you
to leave. You know you is the person that's messing
up the damn relationship. Why don't you find you something
to do toim? And not gonna tell you, Aull that
Tom is gonna command you TOIM is gonna command you
on what.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
You are doing? Well. You are doing very well at
side piecing.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Okay, wow.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
And if ever there's a model of side piece slash cousin,
you are it.
Speaker 4 (06:20):
And I just want to commend you on what you
have done.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
You have really set the stakes high, and I hope
all the other side pieces are listening out there and
know what they need to do and how they need
to step start, start picking up their start picking up.
Speaker 4 (06:32):
These people's are kids and stuff from school. Help out.
If you're gonna say.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Well, I'm Part two of our response to this crazy
strawberry letter coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's subjects I'm tired of covering for this man.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
There's a side piece meeting on Thursday of next week.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
hard Morning show. All right, we're gonna recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is I'm tired of covering for this man.
Woman wrote in she's been dating a guy that's been
living with a woman for six years. But the guy
and the woman he's living with are not married. So
the woman who wrote the letter says, technically he is
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still single and they're not cheating. That's in her mind,
that's how she sees this situation. She says, the man
is not happy with her, but he tries to make
her think he is, and she's confused about it all.
So she's been acting. She's been acting like the side piece,
has been acting like she's his cousin. But right now,
she's tired of covering for the dude. She's tired of it.
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Now if she calls him on the phone, he has
to pretend like she's one of his homeboys. She's been
on FaceTime with him many times, and when the girlfriend
comes in, who he lives with, she has to drop
the phone and he's still talking to her like, you know,
she's one of his homeboys. So she's unhappy with this
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entire situation. She's been in social situations with them, and
she where the The girlfriend really thinks that she's the
man's cousin, and you know, it's just a mess for her.
She wants to be happy. She wants to have some
peace in her life. She's baby set for them, you know,
taking care of the little two year old baby. You know,
she's tired of all this. She's comforted the girlfriend. She's
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done all this and she's tired. And when they got
into a heated argument, the man and his girlfriend, that
was a chance for him to leave because a girlfriend
told him to leave, but he didn't want to leave. Yeah,
he didn't want to leave because he said the baby
is barely two years old, so he needs to stay
and stick it out. So you know, he chickened out
from leaving. She says she's tired of covering for him
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and lying to her about his feelings, so she wants
to know. Should she be straight up with her? Okay, Junior,
that's where we are with this.
Speaker 5 (08:48):
Tommy's right, and I have to agree with Tommy on
this one. You deserve an oscar.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
You do.
Speaker 4 (08:54):
You deserve it.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
You've earned this, You've earned it. So I mean, you
ain't just acting. I change your voice too, because you
gotta be darn now. Like tom said, you gotta he's
having what you gotta say?
Speaker 4 (09:05):
All of this?
Speaker 3 (09:07):
Hey, hey, what's having? You got to do all of this?
Speaker 5 (09:09):
You are acting? See, that's that's what we've learned fellas today.
You need a side piece.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
That can act.
Speaker 5 (09:16):
She's active, she is doing a great job too. She's
dark now, she's the baby center. And then matter fact,
you're so good his girlfriend called you as, should I
be straight up with her? She needs to know from you,
Oh this.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
Is Oh she's good. Oh she's good. Oh I love her?
You love her? In fact, those things I'll think about this,
missing out this letter.
Speaker 5 (09:38):
Surely her name, she didn't give us that. If we
do my name, we want to call her. We want
her teacher class.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
She's seriously, we're not playing.
Speaker 5 (09:49):
She need to teach the other side pieces how to
act because they don't know all this.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
Want to be up front, be in the background. That's
your job. Be in the background, the job to be
back out.
Speaker 5 (10:00):
But be my homework when I need you, be a
baby sitter, be my current girlfriend, best friend.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
You ain't got to do all three.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
Of these days.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
This girl good.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
So should she go to poor acting classes?
Speaker 3 (10:12):
No, she gonna teach other side pieces.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
She don't need no acting class, acting classes.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
No, No, she's she's the best one.
Speaker 5 (10:20):
The professor, professor, Yeah, she has a PhD. You know
what she's doing now. I know she tired, but she
still did she say she was quitting?
Speaker 1 (10:31):
No she still she did.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Not No, No, she didn't say she was quitting. That
means she's good at it though.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Yeah, but Junior, he's gonna have to start, you know,
pitching in little mo I mean like when she dropping
that phone on, when she on FaceTime, you know, cracking
her screen. He got to make sure, she really got
the supply. She needs to get through this kind of stuff.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
I agree with that.
Speaker 5 (10:51):
Yeah, she needs her phone should never be broke. Her
phone should never be broken.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
What do you think she does on like holidays and
stuff when he's spending time. She's there, the girlfriend and
she's sitting at the table.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
She's a cousin. The cousin is.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
That thing because she's family.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
She's family, so she's family. She's a babysitter.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
She's talented.
Speaker 4 (11:13):
Really, she's very talented.
Speaker 5 (11:15):
She's the she's the girlfriend's best friend. Because she said,
should I be straight up with her? She asked him
she should have her own show.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Reality.
Speaker 4 (11:27):
I know one when I who can do all that?
You don't know? Nobody can juggle all that.
Speaker 5 (11:31):
This is probably a stretch, but I'm gonna say it.
She really need to be Kamla Harris vice president. She
should running running.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
She'd be her running mate.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
She needs to be She's like a VP.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
She can help all the other countries because I don't
worry about this. I got this, I got Africa, I got.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
And she could do all of this. Wow, she did
You don't even know she did do you just say,
didn't you just say she was the babysitter.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
For she's great for them.
Speaker 5 (12:02):
I don't know what he tripping on the baby ain't
but two the baby too. I don't want to miss
no moments to yo that twenty four month boy.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
She's gonna be fifteen one day and.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
They grow up fast.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Yeah, but no, she should. She should. She is that good.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
I'm proudly should she should she be giving the girlfriend
relationship advice on the sun.
Speaker 3 (12:23):
Absolutely no.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
What is she saying to her though? What do you
think she's saying to her?
Speaker 2 (12:32):
She's not encouraging her to leave, you know what I mean.
She's not being selfish, She's not doing that. She's not
doing that, And she's telling her to stay in there,
staying there. He'll work out, y'all, get it together and
don't worry about it later on when she laying up
with him. You know she you know, she's getting tired
of your ass, you know that.
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Do you know, Lisa, you're listening to Harvey Morning Show.