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Speaker 1 (00:25):
Letter, Thank you for you. Subject. My cousin owns the
car wash. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a twenty nine year
old hopeless romantic and I got married too quickly to
a man that I barely knew. Now all of my
family is in my business, and I'm so disappointed in myself.
I met a man that's from another city, and after
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we dated for a few months, he came to visit
me and never left. He quickly got a great job
and he got settled in. He has a friend in town,
so he's usually hanging out with him or he's at work.
I never suspected he was cheating on me until three
days ago when I found out that he's had sex
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in his car. My cousin owns a car wash and
he specializes in wheels and detailing leather seats. My husband's
escalade is his pride and joy, so he gets it
washed often. I did not know he was going all
the way across town to get his car washed until
I got a call from my cousin's wife. She said,
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my husband has brought his truck to the car wash
a few times, and he's always got interesting stains and
pieces of weeds all over the truck. My cousin figured
out that it's my husband after he saw a business
card in the truck. See, my cousin wasn't invited to
my wedding because he is on the ghetto side of
my family, so he didn't know my husband. I just
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hate that. Before my cousin's wife called me, she called
my mom and told her that my husband has been
having sex in his truck and getting it cleaned. Afterwards,
I asked my husband about the rumor, and he threatened
to fight my cousin and out him as a liar
and a bad businessman. I assured him that my cousin
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is not the one to be played with like that.
If my husband is not cheating. Why would he be
so upset. I don't see my cousin hating on my
husband for no reason since my family knows can my
marriage survive this? Well, you really don't have much of
a marriage to survive anything. You know, you guys don't
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even spend a lot of time together. You said he's
over at his friend's house or he's over at work.
It sounds like your man is cheating and everyone knows it.
Your family is messy, and you are right. Your cousin's
wife didn't have to bless the business to your mom.
But you said yourself that you barely know this man.
I mean, you barely knew him when you married him.
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He's probably doing what he normally did when he was
single in that other town, but you didn't know him then,
so you don't have anything to compare his behavior to.
And when you asked him about it, he didn't deny it.
He didn't say absolutely not, no, he didn't blah blah
blah blah blah, didn't even try to lie. He just
didn't deny it and said he was going to give
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your cousin and beat down. It looks like your husband
is cheating, not if he's cheating, like you wrote in
a letter. Steve, that's what you need to wrap your
mind around. Your marriage is in trouble, and I don't
see how you're going to get past this one. Let's
see what kind of lies we can come up with
for this one, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Well, I don't think it's really got to be no lies,
because opou should analyze this letter properly.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
I mean, let's go through this.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
It's circumpedience.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
Times has this circumstance. See we deal with circumstance. Okay,
watch how we do this. This woman says that I'm
a twenty nine year old hopeless role manic. I got
married too quickly to a man that I barely knew. Now,
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I don't know if this is the definition of a
hopeless romantic. This is not what this is. I think
this is called crazy. This may just be crazy. He
might not have nothing to do with you being a
hopeless romantic at all, because you married a man you
didn't hardly know what what what they got to do
with it. And I'm so disappointed in myself. Now, all
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your family's in your business. You say, you say you
met this man from another city. Y'all dated a few months,
came to visit me and never left. That didn't sound
that didn't seem strange to you. How can a man
come from another city visit you and never go back
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where he work, where he lived, where his house?
Speaker 2 (04:53):
What's what's his least payment? What? What's it? He ain't
got no least, no way? What how you just go.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Visit and then don't go back. That's not being a
hopeless romantic. Something's wrong with this. He quickly got a
great job, okay, settled in, He got a friend in town.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
He usually hanging out with him or he's at work.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Then the lady said, I never suspected he was cheating
on me until three days ago. Now here's what this
whole letter is about. My cousin owns the car wash.
And then I don't know why she threw this in here.
He specializes in wheels and detail and.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Leather seats, so he got a car washed.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Everybody got a car wash, wiping seats and doing wheels.
Everybody with a car wash. Anyway, My husband's escalade is
his pride and joy, so he gets it washed off.
Here's another precarious line. I did not know he was
going all the way across town to get his car washed.
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What difference do that make where he get his car washed?
Speaker 2 (06:14):
What? Maybe it's because it's a great car wash.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Remember your cousin, specially life has in wheels.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I love to see he went over there for a specialty.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
And all of this was going good until you got
a call from your cousin's wife. When we come back,
I will tell you what's wrong with this whole letter.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
All right, Steve?
Speaker 1 (06:38):
All right? Hang on for part two of Steve's response,
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All right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter,
the subject my cousin owns the car wash.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Before I do this letter.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
I've noticed a trend in Surely and I's responses to
these letters. If a man is accused of cheating, if
a man has circumstantial evidence about cheating, then my partner
in crime.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Who we are supposed to give our.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Own opinions and separate, looks at this ninety eight percent
of the time gonna ride his ass to the police
station and locked his ass.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Up for cheap.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Absolutely, and in this letter there was no difference. But
I have several problems with this letter, all right. So
after she calls herself a romantic, hopeless romantic, meets this
guy she barely news. Guy believes town one time, comes
to visit her and never goes back.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
That's odd. He gets a job quickly settles in.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
She's embarrassed by this because now she met him, she
married a man she hardly knew, her family all up
in the business, and so everything is going right, and
she had no suspicions of him cheating until three days
ago when he took his car to a car wash
that specializes in wheels and leather seats.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Okay, we got that right.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Now, she gets a call from her cousin's wife. Now
this is where the letter takes a turn. She said
that my husband bought his truck to the car wash
a few times, and he's always got interesting stains and
pieces of weave all over the truck. This is what
your cousin's wife said. You've never seen the weave in
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the truck, and you've never seen any stains.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Okay, that's just a fact.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
So we're going based on what your cousin's wife told you.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Now listen to this. My cousin figured out.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
That it's my husband's after he saw a business card
in the truck.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Now, and then here we go.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
See, my cousin wasn't invited to my wedding because he's
on the ghetto side of my family, so he didn't
know my husband.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
This is very important information.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
She didn't invite that side of the family because they ghetto. Okay,
then she says, I just hate that before my cousin's
wife called me, she called my mom and told her
that my husband has been having sex in his truck
and getting it cleaned afterwards.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Okay, how she know that, y'all.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I mean, really, the stains and the weave, the stains
in the.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
Weave that the wife ain't never seen. You just said
they ghetto. You ain't invite him to the wedding. Now
I'm gonna show you something else in here that gets
a little crazy.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
So that's pay that because they didn't come from to
the wedding, they didn't get no.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Listen to this.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
I asked my husband about the rumor, and he threatened
to fight my cousin and out him as a liar
and a bad businessman, as he should. I assured him
that my cousin is not the one to be played
with like that. Now this is good information because you
just said you didn't invite your husband to the wedding
because he ghetto.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
To the wedding because he ghetto.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
Okay, And so now this is a fair water. If
you go over there and fight the dude that on
the car washing, go get your ass whooped. That's that's
what this is about. Get your ass whooped. But now
she's saying, if he didn't cheat, why is he doing this?
But I assured him that my cousin is not the
one to be played with. Why would he be so upset.
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I don't see my husband hating. I don't see my
cousin hating on my husband for no reason since my
family knows, can my marriage survive this?
Speaker 4 (11:11):
Now?
Speaker 2 (11:13):
I think you know that your family on that side
is messy.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Versy and this word has speculated they had some stains
and weave in the truck that you've never seen. And
now you ain't invite us to the wedding, so you
must thank you all that in a bag of chips.
So now let me show you that you ain't all that.
And I'm gonna tell your mama he was having sex
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in the truck. How you know that what stains?
Speaker 1 (11:44):
But see, just because she didn't see it, does that
mean that it didn't happen?
Speaker 2 (11:48):
But so then you're going to end your marriage based
on that.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
She has what stains Shirley James, that the cousin saw
in the back seat.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Yeah she didn't.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
She didn't specify because she mes, Yeah, they're messy.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
But see, hold up though, let me ask you something.
So does the cousin's wife work at the car.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
Washing Well it sounds like she does.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Yeah, so if she ain't washing cars, how she knows
what's in the car.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
No doubt if he owned the cars car washed. His
wife is out there washing cars.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
I doubt that this reeks of hate for not being
invited to the web that see y'all ruining your Well, Look,
you married the man too soon. The man might be cheating,
but you gona hate it on this speculation. You should
have ended it on something that you knew and not
on hearsay. And if you if you took this to court,
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you would lose. I just want to tell you that
because you have no evidence. You ain't seen no pictures
of it, you ain't went through his phone, you ain't
got no text messages. You getting a DNA report off
of forensic science. Hell for that, ain't even a forensic scientist.
I don't think might not be cheating at all.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Sorry, Shure, and he might be.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
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