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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If you
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
All right, thank you. Nephew's subject My husband has found
his meal ticket. Dear Stephen Shirley. I met my husband
while he was at work. I had my arm crushed
in a bad car accident and I needed help with
my insurance. That was my husband's job at the time.
We talked a lot, and he offered to bring me
prescriptions and food since I'm a right handed person and
(00:48):
that's the arm I broke. We got closer and he
asked me to marry him. After two years of dating,
and our wedding was last summer. Since then, our relationship
has gone downhill. He lost his job because he kept
missing work, claiming he was in pain all the time
from an old football injury. I took over the role
(01:08):
as a breadwinner, nurse and babysitter because he came with
five year old twins from his first marriage. I guess
you can say fools rush in because I am a
big fool to take on this man and all his problems.
I did not know when we were dating that he
was part time at his job. Anyway, seems like he
was waiting for a meal ticket. As soon as he
(01:30):
met me, he found his meal ticket. He has new
aches and pains every week, and I got sick of it,
so I took him to the doctor that I knew
really well. She's also got a psychologist in her office
that I wanted my husband to talk to. But he
saw right through me and he accused me of not
being supportive. He said he took care of me when
I was down, but the minute he has health problems,
(01:53):
I want to run for the hills. I told him
the truth that I think he's making up illnesses to
keep from going to work his unemployment that has run out,
and I'm not taking care of him. I know he's
faking because he still wants to have sex as much
as possible. He's a total turn off for me now,
and I want no parts of this marriage unless he
can prove that something is wrong with him. Am I
(02:14):
wrong for how I'm feeling? Well, No, you're not wrong
for having feelings, because of course you have a right
to feel what you feel. The question is are you
right in all of this? Is what you're feeling about
your husband? Is it true? Is he using you? Are
you his meal ticket? And you don't believe his pain
is from an old football injury and that's why he
(02:37):
lost his job, And now you want some answers, and
rightfully so. I agree you're doing a lot. But didn't
he do a lot for you when he nursed you
back to health after you shattered your arm. You knew
him two years before you married him, right, that's what
you said. That was a time to get to know
this man. You could have found out a lot about him,
(02:58):
a lot about the twins. You could have asked more
about his job and about his physical health. I agree
you shouldn't have to take care of a grown man.
I also agree with getting him to a doctor to
find out what exactly is wrong with him. If in fact,
it is a football injury that's causing him his pain,
can it be cured all of that, and if he
(03:19):
can work or not. These are the kinds of answers
you should be looking for. So my suggestion is do it.
You guys, get back to the doctor, immediately, get the
doctor's report, and then go from there.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Steve Man, this is game now. Now listen to you. Now,
what I'm not gonna let you do, ladies, is get played.
That's that's not what I'm gonna do. So this ain't
nothing but game right here. My husband has found his
meal ticket. And the reason you feel that way is
(03:51):
because that's what your intuition is telling you. I met
my husband while he was at work. I had my
arm crushed in an accident and that was my husband's
job at the time. We talked a lot, and he
offered to bring me prescriptions and food since I'm right
handed person and that was the arm I broke. We
(04:12):
got closer and he asked to marry you after two
years of dating. Now you dated for two years, that's
long enough to find out a lot of key information.
I don't know what y'all was talking about, why y'all
was dating, because you act like you don't even know
this man, because you say it since then your relationship
(04:33):
that went downhill. He lost his job because he kept
missing work, claiming he was in pain all the time
from an old football injury. Well, you the insurance man.
You ain't hanging on the back of a waste management truck.
(04:55):
You don't do construction work. You don't work in the
plant loading You ain't working at ups or FedEx loading trucks.
You ain't got to make no deliveries to nobody. You
ain't the mail man. You ain't got to carry this bag.
So how you keep missing all this damn work cause
your old football injury. You had the old football injury
(05:16):
when you was working before, when you was dating this girl,
I took over the role as bread winner, nurse and
babysitter because he came with five year old twins from
his first marriage. Okay, you should have known that. I
think you did. I guess you could say foods rush
in because I'm a big fool to take on this
(05:37):
man and all his problems. I did not know when
we were dating that he was part time at his job. Anyway,
let's put the brakes on. Let's put the breaks on
right here. You're dating a dude for two years and
you don't know he part time, if he always got time,
(05:58):
if he ain't ever at work, if any time you
call he come, he ain't tied. I got to go
to bad I got to get up in the morning.
You ain't heard none of this in two years. That's
cost he part time. When you work part time, you
(06:20):
got a part time looking car, and you gotta you
stay in a part time looking place. I guess you
ain't noticed none of that. Huh Okay, we'll be back
find out how much longer you gonna be the meal ticket,
because you is the meal ticket.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
All right, Steve, we'll have part two of your response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's
strawberry letter, subject my husband has found his meal ticket.
My husband has found his meal ticket. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
(06:54):
The subject is my husband has found his meal ticket.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
This lady dated this man for two years and in
the two years didn't do no discovery, just dating them,
laughing and everything. She met him because he worked at
the insurance company. She was in a badcock and then
got an arm messed up. He started calling and seeing
how she was. Then offered to bring her food and
take prescriptions to her and stuff, and she right handed,
(07:22):
and that's the arms she broke. And after two years
of dating they had a wedding, and since then the
relationship that gone downhill because he lost his job because
he kept missing work. Now, well this is key. He
lost his job because he kept missing work, claiming he
was in pain all the time from an old football injury. Okay,
(07:43):
now when you met him, he had the old football injury,
because you didn't meet him as a football player. You
met him as an insurance agent of some kind, so
he had already played football. That was over with. Then
I took over the role as bread when a nurse
babysitter because he came with five year old twins from
(08:04):
his first marriage. Okay, in two years, you would know that. Okay,
I guess you could say foods rush in. Because I'm
a big fool to take on this man and all
his problems. I did not know when we were dating
that he was part time at his job. Anyway, all right,
let's stop right here. You can't be that. You can't
be that blind. You didn't know this man was part time.
(08:27):
Two years of knowing him and you didn't know he
was part time working. You ain't know he was always available.
You ain't know he ain't ever got to get in
because he got to get up early in the morning
to make it in. He part time. I can promise
you this. He was driving a part time looking car
and he had a part time looking place. That's what
(08:50):
part time gets you. Part time gets you some of
the money that other people have. That's what part time is.
Always remember that part what time pays you some of
the money that all the people, all other people have.
You got a full time job, that that's your money.
If you part time, you getting half of that. Okay,
(09:12):
So then it seems like he was waiting for a
meal ticket. As soon as he met me, he found
his meal ticket. He has new aches and pains every week,
and I got sick of it, so I took him
to the doctor. I know very well, she's got a
psychologist in office. I wanted her to talk to my husband,
but he saw right through me and accused me of
not being supportive. He said he took care of me
(09:34):
when I was down, but the minute he has health problems.
I want to run for the hills. Hold of oh,
when he met you, I want you to understand, some lady,
he didn't take care of you. He was hitting on you.
All he got time to go get prescriptions, bring over food.
He wasn't taking care of you. He was after you.
(09:56):
That's that's that's not the period you want account see
on account to take care of you part when you
need him most. This was in the beginning. I'm pretty
sure you had been dating somebody before you met him,
and all it was you just liked him bringing that
food over to the house. But wasn't he bringing enough
(10:17):
for him too? And you could buy food with part
time money. You had two years to figure this out,
and he wasn't taking care of you. He was trying
to get you. Now, now here's other part. So he
(10:37):
said he took care of me the minute I had
health issues. I want to run for the hills. That's
what he said. I told him the truth that I
think he's making up illnesses to keep from going to work.
His employment has run out, and I'm not taking care
of him. His part time employment has run out. I
know he's faking because he still wants to have sex
(10:58):
as much as possible. He's eternal, total turnoff for me
now and I want no parts of this marriage unless
he can prove that something is wrong with him. Am
I wrong for how I'm feeling? No, you're not, And
let me tell you something ain't none wrong with him?
Is nothing wrong with dog. He can't go to work
(11:18):
because he got a old football injury. So what his
ass was going to do if he didn't meet you?
You know this, Oh, I can't go to work because
I'm hurting. Now you don't want to go to work
because you got somebody making some money. Now you was
already part time. You're dating a man that has no ambition.
(11:41):
In two years, you didn't discuss one time what his
plans were, what his goals and aspirations were, because he
has none. His plan is for you to take care
of him and them two five year old kids. And
that's what you're doing. And that's why it's a turnoff
because women when you when a woman is looking for
(12:02):
a man, she wants two things. She wants love and security.
That's what a woman wants. And fellas you can get
off this. I ain't taking care of no woman. You
a fool for not because that's our job. And if
you get the right woman, her job is to take
(12:22):
care of you. See it's it's a give and take.
And you'd have met this food talking about he got
an old football injury. What team he played for? I
can tell you what kind of he probably wasn't even
no real old football injury. Lady, you don't even know
if he played football. You didn't, you didn't know he
(12:43):
was part time. Your man is faking. He ain't going
to the doctor. There's nothing wrong with him. He's a user.
He done found a meal ticket. Now you need to
make the necessary adjustments.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and
Facebook at Steve Harvey Sham. Check us out on the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up next,
it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're
listening Morning show. H
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If you
need advice and relationships, works, sex, parenting and more, please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
All right, thank you. Nephew's subject My husband has found
his meal ticket. Dear Stephen Shirley. I met my husband
while he was at work. I had my arm crushed
in a bad car accident and I needed help with
my insurance. That was my husband's job at the time.
We talked a lot, and he offered to bring me
prescriptions and food since I'm a right handed person and
(00:48):
that's the arm I broke. We got closer and he
asked me to marry him. After two years of dating,
and our wedding was last summer. Since then, our relationship
has gone downhill. He lost his job because he kept
missing work, claiming he was in pain all the time
from an old football injury. I took over the role
(01:08):
as a breadwinner, nurse and babysitter because he came with
five year old twins from his first marriage. I guess
you can say fools rush in because I am a
big fool to take on this man and all his problems.
I did not know when we were dating that he
was part time at his job. Anyway, seems like he
was waiting for a meal ticket. As soon as he
(01:30):
met me, he found his meal ticket. He has new
aches and pains every week, and I got sick of it,
so I took him to the doctor that I knew
really well. She's also got a psychologist in her office
that I wanted my husband to talk to. But he
saw right through me and he accused me of not
being supportive. He said he took care of me when
I was down, but the minute he has health problems,
(01:53):
I want to run for the hills. I told him
the truth that I think he's making up illnesses to
keep from going to work his unemployment that has run out,
and I'm not taking care of him. I know he's
faking because he still wants to have sex as much
as possible. He's a total turn off for me now,
and I want no parts of this marriage unless he
can prove that something is wrong with him. Am I
(02:14):
wrong for how I'm feeling? Well, No, you're not wrong
for having feelings, because of course you have a right
to feel what you feel. The question is are you
right in all of this? Is what you're feeling about
your husband? Is it true? Is he using you? Are
you his meal ticket? And you don't believe his pain
is from an old football injury and that's why he
(02:37):
lost his job, And now you want some answers, and
rightfully so. I agree you're doing a lot. But didn't
he do a lot for you when he nursed you
back to health after you shattered your arm. You knew
him two years before you married him, right, that's what
you said. That was a time to get to know
this man. You could have found out a lot about him,
(02:58):
a lot about the twins. You could have asked more
about his job and about his physical health. I agree
you shouldn't have to take care of a grown man.
I also agree with getting him to a doctor to
find out what exactly is wrong with him. If in fact,
it is a football injury that's causing him his pain,
can it be cured all of that, and if he
(03:19):
can work or not. These are the kinds of answers
you should be looking for. So my suggestion is do it.
You guys, get back to the doctor, immediately, get the
doctor's report, and then go from there.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Steve Man, this is game now. Now listen to you. Now,
what I'm not gonna let you do, ladies, is get played.
That's that's not what I'm gonna do. So this ain't
nothing but game right here. My husband has found his
meal ticket. And the reason you feel that way is
(03:51):
because that's what your intuition is telling you. I met
my husband while he was at work. I had my
arm crushed in an accident and that was my husband's
job at the time. We talked a lot, and he
offered to bring me prescriptions and food since I'm right
handed person and that was the arm I broke. We
(04:12):
got closer and he asked to marry you after two
years of dating. Now you dated for two years, that's
long enough to find out a lot of key information.
I don't know what y'all was talking about, why y'all
was dating, because you act like you don't even know
this man, because you say it since then your relationship
(04:33):
that went downhill. He lost his job because he kept
missing work, claiming he was in pain all the time
from an old football injury. Well, you the insurance man.
You ain't hanging on the back of a waste management truck.
(04:55):
You don't do construction work. You don't work in the
plant loading You ain't working at ups or FedEx loading trucks.
You ain't got to make no deliveries to nobody. You
ain't the mail man. You ain't got to carry this bag.
So how you keep missing all this damn work cause
your old football injury. You had the old football injury
(05:16):
when you was working before, when you was dating this girl,
I took over the role as bread winner, nurse and
babysitter because he came with five year old twins from
his first marriage. Okay, you should have known that. I
think you did. I guess you could say foods rush
in because I'm a big fool to take on this
(05:37):
man and all his problems. I did not know when
we were dating that he was part time at his job. Anyway,
let's put the brakes on. Let's put the breaks on
right here. You're dating a dude for two years and
you don't know he part time, if he always got time,
(05:58):
if he ain't ever at work, if any time you
call he come, he ain't tied. I got to go
to bad I got to get up in the morning.
You ain't heard none of this in two years. That's
cost he part time. When you work part time, you
(06:20):
got a part time looking car, and you gotta you
stay in a part time looking place. I guess you
ain't noticed none of that. Huh Okay, we'll be back
find out how much longer you gonna be the meal ticket,
because you is the meal ticket.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
All right, Steve, we'll have part two of your response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's
strawberry letter, subject my husband has found his meal ticket.
My husband has found his meal ticket. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
(06:54):
The subject is my husband has found his meal ticket.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
This lady dated this man for two years and in
the two years didn't do no discovery, just dating them,
laughing and everything. She met him because he worked at
the insurance company. She was in a badcock and then
got an arm messed up. He started calling and seeing
how she was. Then offered to bring her food and
take prescriptions to her and stuff, and she right handed,
(07:22):
and that's the arms she broke. And after two years
of dating they had a wedding, and since then the
relationship that gone downhill because he lost his job because
he kept missing work. Now, well this is key. He
lost his job because he kept missing work, claiming he
was in pain all the time from an old football injury. Okay,
(07:43):
now when you met him, he had the old football injury,
because you didn't meet him as a football player. You
met him as an insurance agent of some kind, so
he had already played football. That was over with. Then
I took over the role as bread when a nurse
babysitter because he came with five year old twins from
(08:04):
his first marriage. Okay, in two years, you would know that. Okay,
I guess you could say foods rush in. Because I'm
a big fool to take on this man and all
his problems. I did not know when we were dating
that he was part time at his job. Anyway, all right,
let's stop right here. You can't be that. You can't
be that blind. You didn't know this man was part time.
(08:27):
Two years of knowing him and you didn't know he
was part time working. You ain't know he was always available.
You ain't know he ain't ever got to get in
because he got to get up early in the morning
to make it in. He part time. I can promise
you this. He was driving a part time looking car
and he had a part time looking place. That's what
(08:50):
part time gets you. Part time gets you some of
the money that other people have. That's what part time is.
Always remember that part what time pays you some of
the money that all the people, all other people have.
You got a full time job, that that's your money.
If you part time, you getting half of that. Okay,
(09:12):
So then it seems like he was waiting for a
meal ticket. As soon as he met me, he found
his meal ticket. He has new aches and pains every week,
and I got sick of it, so I took him
to the doctor. I know very well, she's got a
psychologist in office. I wanted her to talk to my husband,
but he saw right through me and accused me of
not being supportive. He said he took care of me
(09:34):
when I was down, but the minute he has health problems.
I want to run for the hills. Hold of oh,
when he met you, I want you to understand, some lady,
he didn't take care of you. He was hitting on you.
All he got time to go get prescriptions, bring over food.
He wasn't taking care of you. He was after you.
(09:56):
That's that's that's not the period you want account see
on account to take care of you part when you
need him most. This was in the beginning. I'm pretty
sure you had been dating somebody before you met him,
and all it was you just liked him bringing that
food over to the house. But wasn't he bringing enough
(10:17):
for him too? And you could buy food with part
time money. You had two years to figure this out,
and he wasn't taking care of you. He was trying
to get you. Now, now here's other part. So he
(10:37):
said he took care of me the minute I had
health issues. I want to run for the hills. That's
what he said. I told him the truth that I
think he's making up illnesses to keep from going to work.
His employment has run out, and I'm not taking care
of him. His part time employment has run out. I
know he's faking because he still wants to have sex
(10:58):
as much as possible. He's eternal, total turnoff for me
now and I want no parts of this marriage unless
he can prove that something is wrong with him. Am
I wrong for how I'm feeling? No, you're not, And
let me tell you something ain't none wrong with him?
Is nothing wrong with dog. He can't go to work
(11:18):
because he got a old football injury. So what his
ass was going to do if he didn't meet you?
You know this, Oh, I can't go to work because
I'm hurting. Now you don't want to go to work
because you got somebody making some money. Now you was
already part time. You're dating a man that has no ambition.
(11:41):
In two years, you didn't discuss one time what his
plans were, what his goals and aspirations were, because he
has none. His plan is for you to take care
of him and them two five year old kids. And
that's what you're doing. And that's why it's a turnoff
because women when you when a woman is looking for
(12:02):
a man, she wants two things. She wants love and security.
That's what a woman wants. And fellas you can get
off this. I ain't taking care of no woman. You
a fool for not because that's our job. And if
you get the right woman, her job is to take
(12:22):
care of you. See it's it's a give and take.
And you'd have met this food talking about he got
an old football injury. What team he played for? I
can tell you what kind of he probably wasn't even
no real old football injury. Lady, you don't even know
if he played football. You didn't, you didn't know he
(12:43):
was part time. Your man is faking. He ain't going
to the doctor. There's nothing wrong with him. He's a user.
He done found a meal ticket. Now you need to
make the necessary adjustments.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and
Facebook at Steve Harvey Sham. Check us out on the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up next,
it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're
listening Morning show. H
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