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Thank you the nephew. Subject My wife keeps leaving me
and coming back. She keeps leaving me and coming back.
Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty five year old man with
two kids and a step daughter by my wife. I
love my family, but I have come to a breaking
point with my wife.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
For the second time in four years.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
She has left the home and cut off all contact
with me and the kids. The first time she left,
she ran off with a man that she met online.
She bought a bus ticket and wrote wrote out west
and didn't contact for a month. Eventually, the guy dumped
her and she reached out to me. I ended up
sending her four hundred dollars for her to get back home.
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Earlier this summer. I was grilling and the kids were
in the pool. My wife said she had to run
to Walmart to get a few things. We have not
seen her since then. The kids and I rode all
around town looking for her that night and the next day.
I kind of figured she'd left us again, but I
didn't want to upset the kids.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I filed a missing.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Person's report with the police, and the police told me
since she'd left before, they wouldn't open an investigation right away.
I posted pictures on Facebook, and instantly I got all
kinds of messages saying that she'd been seen around our
city and a few cities close by. I wasn't surprised,
and I waited for her to call home. After forty
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five days, she called, saying she needs to come back
home and she is ashamed of what she keeps doing
to the family. I told the kids she called and
is ready to come home. They said I shouldn't let
her come back, and we'd be just fine without her.
We've been married fourteen years and I've kept the marriage
together for the kids. But now they're saying to throw
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her and the whole marriage away. Do you think I
should take their advice or give my wife one more chance,
please advise well, I mean, you know, the decision, of course,
is ultimately up to you what you do. Should you
take the kid's advice or give your wife one more chance?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Is that what you want to do?
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Well, it's certainly not what the kids want you to do,
because they're sick of her. They really are, and they
let you know so you can let yourself off the hook.
They want you to stop feeling guilty about all this,
your wife leaving and coming back and running off with
some man she met online, and you know, just not
hearing from her, no contact for forty days than a month,
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forty five days? What is all of this? And then
you have two kids and one of them is her stepdaughter.
She's sick of her mom too. They want a divorce
from her, and really so should you At this point
your wife doesn't care about you, She doesn't care about
the kids.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
And your kids I don't know how old they are.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
You said they were in the pool while you were grilling,
but I mean they're cool just with being with you.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Dad.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
I just say, I'm.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Saying sorry here, but your wife is trifling and she's
a horrible mom.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
I mean, is she on drugs? Or something.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
What is going on with her who just walks out
on her family and comes back like nothing ever happened.
I'm sure this is devastating for your children. I'm sure
it is.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Who does this?
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Why should they have to continue to go through this
time and time again? They can't be secure, they can't
you know, they're unsure of themselves. And why should you
have to continually go through this? Who can live like this?
I just you know, you never know from one day
to the next if you'll have a mom or or
if you have a wife or not. I say, pack
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her bags, put yourself and your kids out of this
revolving door of a marriage, and tell your wife that
you and the guys will be just fine without her.
She's selfish and that's what the kids want you to
do anyway, But unless you really want to do it,
and I don't see why you wouldn't, I don't know,
don't let her back. Okay, she's a source of misery
(04:28):
for you guys.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Steve, Well, let me start by saying this to you.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
It ain't a good look when your kids is smarter
than you, right, you know, it just ain't a good look.
Let me just start there, Okay, all right, here we go.
You're thirty five year old man, got two kids and
a stepdaughter.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
I love my family. But she had a breaking point.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
For the second time in four years, she'd have left home,
cut off all contact with me and the kid.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
The first time.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
She first time she left, she ran off with a
man she met online.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
She bought a.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Who buys a bus ticket to ride out west, you know,
like she in a Western or something.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Old West, young man fortune out there.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
And she left you for a dude that sent her
a bus ticket from a man that has a house
with a swimming pool in it in the backyard, grilling.
She left you for a man that sent her a
bus ticket. Your wife is not a bright person. The
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kids are, the wife is not. So let's try to
make some sense of it. And she brought Eventually the
God dumped her. She reached out to me. I ended
up spending four hundred dollars for her to get back home.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Now you obviously bought a plane ticket.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Hold on, We'll hold on, Steve, hold that fuck God,
just hold it, hold it.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up in
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's subject my wife
keeps leaving me and coming back. We'll get into it
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recap today's strawberry letter. That's subject my wife keeps leaving
me and coming back.
Speaker 4 (07:25):
Yeah, yeah, she been doing it.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Second time in four years she done left.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
The first time she left with a man she met online.
She bought a bus ticket and rolled out west. I
knew this relationship was doom. You meet a dude online,
he's buy you a bus ticket. All right, Clearly you
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care more about her than the dude online.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Now hit the good one right here.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
Earlier this summer, I was grilly kids was outside in
the pool. My wife said, what did she What happened
at the walmart?
Speaker 3 (08:17):
This is bad. The kids and I rode around town
looking for her that night.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
And the next day.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
And the next day.
Speaker 4 (08:33):
Then the dude said, because he got tuition, I kind
of figured she left us again. I ain't want to
upset the kids, so I filed a missing person report.
Please told me since she left before, they wouldn't open
then investigation right away. Then you put some pictures on Facebook,
and everybody started calling you, telling you I saw that
helper doll.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
That Earl Turners.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
Well, I saw up at Abigail's. She was that to
speak easy too. Now she came into taping Friday. They
just saw her everywhere. Yeah, you know she old bro
that go do country stuff.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
You know this ain't no big city.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Chicken, Okay, because of the bus.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
So I wasn't surprised. And I waited for her to
call home after funny fat days so crazy. This help
of call back home says she's ashamed of what she
keeps doing to the family.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
Shirley says, something right. Is she on drugs? Because this
guy crackhead rolled all over it.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Yeah, yeah, matter of fact.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
Let me, let me, let me, let me, let me
back it down a little bit, and she on't meth
Let me tell you what when you see her look
at her teeth real good? Why because if you on,
Matthew teeth is shot. Oh you ain't see the time?
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Good king?
Speaker 2 (10:01):
Yeah saw yeah his man.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
Did you see his mom? Oh?
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Oh yeah yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, that's right.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
I don't care what your sexual preference is. You got
to want somebody.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
You have to, you have to.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (10:21):
Now I told the kids she called and ready to
come home. The kids said, don't let her come back.
We just fine without it. You know, you messed up
when your kids don't want their mama.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
No more, your blood daughter, your blood daughter.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
We've been married fourteen years, and I've kept the marriage
together for the kids. Now this is interesting because now
they're saying to throw her in the whole marriage away.
So if she had a stepdaughter, the stepdaughter got to
be at least fifteen, because y'all only been together for
fourteen years. Unless she had the baby while she was
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on the bus.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Trip, she could have.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
She is.
Speaker 4 (11:09):
Do you think I should take their advice or give
my wife one more chance? Let me ask you something, brother,
Give your wife one more chance to do what.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
To leave a third time?
Speaker 4 (11:21):
Please advise, brother, I don't even know why you're struggling
with her. This is not a sign of a person
that's no longer any in love with you or her family.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
She loves something else.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
Now.
Speaker 3 (11:33):
I ain't saying she owned drugs.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
It do sound like drugs to me because she go
on these benches. I don't know what's wrong with her,
but the kids deserve better.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
You seem like a good man. You can probably get
you a good woman.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (11:49):
Me personally, I'm just this is just Steve Harvey talker.
Please don't tweet and facebook me about my responses, because
you know I don't really care no more. I really don't.
I done got sixty three. I don't got real comfortable
with what I'm saying on this show.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
I divorced.
Speaker 4 (12:08):
Yeah, yeah, I'm divorcing. His real choice, I'm divorcing her.
I'm not living like this is clear. You don't want
me and these kids. I don't want to see he
sending the kids through it, and I want somebody to
agree with me and the kids and be in the pool.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
Right, you could leave your husband and your kids, you will.
Speaker 4 (12:28):
Leave me or somebody that bought a bus ticket. Yeah,
that's what I'm throwd off.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
Fat.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
I can see if you came up. You didn't even
go lateral. You just took a step down. You rode
a bus out west.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
We don't even know what.
Speaker 4 (12:48):
Probably just went west to the Mississippi, ended up ended
up in Mississippi.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Wow wherever.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
Yeah, she's a bad she's a bad she's not a
good person. I'm done with them. You can do what
you want to do, Bro, but.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
He's thank you. Steve.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
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