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Subject please close the windows and doors. Dear Uncle Steve
and Aunt Shirley. I'm a twenty four year old student
and i still live at home with my parents. My
parents had me when they were eighteen years old, so
they're still young, fly and very much in love with
each other. I love hanging out with them because we
listen to the same music and we get along great.
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But there's a huge issue that I'm having with them,
and I made jokes about it, but they don't seem
to care. Sometimes it's fun to be cool cool with
my parents, and other times it gets to be too much.
I'm allowed to smoke weed in the house because it's
legal in our state and it helps me with my cramps.
I'm allowed to have my boyfriend stay overnight, but he's
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got to sleep in the guest room. I'm allowed to
use profanity, and I can express myself any way I
choose to around them. I appreciate the openness, I really do.
But what I don't appreciate is how open they are
with me. My parents' bedroom is below my bedroom, and
they had sex darn near every day.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
It doesn't have to be at night.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
I can be getting ready to go to work at
three in the afternoon and they are in there going
at it with the door open. They've jokingly told me
to stay upstairs if I don't want to see or
hear it. But what they don't know is I can
still hear it, and so can the neighbors, probably because
they have the windows up too. I've been sitting in
the hot tub on the patio and I've heard my
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parents having sex loudly on a Sunday after I would
love to move, but I can't afford rent and my car.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Note it's their house.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
But I don't I deserve a little respect as long
as I live here. The jokes about it aren't working,
so would I be out of line to ask them
to close the door and the windows during sex. Sorry
to say this, but nope, you have no rights. You
have no rights. It's their house, period. Your job is
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to be grateful you have a nice place to lay
your head, and to get a job, some kind of job,
save your money so you can get a place of
your own one day soon. I know you got your
rent and your car note and all of that, but
you know that's up to you to get out, get
a job, and get your own plates. If you don't
like what you're hearing, but I do understand. I do
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understand what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
I hear you.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
You feel how you feel, and your feelings are valid.
But until you can move out, your hands are tied.
No child has ever been comfortable with catching or hearing
their parents doing it.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I don't know any child who's comfortable with that.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Most kids think it's disgusting, even though that's how they
got here. I get that part, but that's what grown
people do, and parents do it too. Okay, you know
that at twenty four, of course they should close the door,
but they might be doing it to help you. They
know you don't want to hear them. They're not you know,
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they're not that caught up. I think that's their way
of helping you into trying harder to move out. They
want you to start being more responsible and to get
out on your own. Remember that even though you guys
are really close, you and your parents are really close,
they are not your best friends. They are still your parents.
And parents everywhere have this thing about this is my house,
and I do what I want to do in my house.
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If you don't like it, you can leave. That's just
how parents are. But I say this, look at the
bright side. I know it's embarrassing, but at least your parents.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Are in love.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
They're making love, they're not arguing, they're not yelling, they're
not trying to kill each other.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
So there's that, Steve.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Well your last statement, they not trying to kill each other.
You don't know that.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Let me just go start with that.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Well interesting letters.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
So as I was listening to the letter, I figured,
you know, I do numbers all the time.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
You twenty four year old student, you live with your parents.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
Your parents had you when they were eighteen, which means
your parents right.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
Now forty two forty two.
Speaker 4 (04:47):
That's young to have a twenty four year old in
the house living.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
That's young man, So they.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
Still young fly very much in love with your and
the love hanging out with them because y'all listen to
the same music. Because forty two years old, that's hip hop.
You hip hop. Y'all listening to the same music. Way
different from me and my kids, way different. You know,
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we get along great, but there's a huge issue that
I'm having with them, and I made jokes about it,
but they don't.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Seem the care.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
Sometimes it's fun to be gool with my parents, and
other time it gets to be too much.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
And why is that?
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Because I'm telling you, as parents that are listening to
this letter that we're about to read, your child really
wants a parent. Your child really wants to be parented.
I tell all my kids, I like you. We can
do some friendly stuff, but all your friends is up
at the school. I'm your daddy. Now, let's just be
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clear about that.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
Ha he Hell.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
We can ha ha he he sometimes, but I'm not
your friends. I'm your parent and I'm gonna.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Play my role.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
But you I'm allowed to smoke weed in the house
because it's legally in our state and it helps me
with my cramp. No that's not why you're allowed to
smoke weed in the house. You will be allowed to
smoke weed in the house because that's what they do.
If it was illegal, they let you smoke it. They
letting you do whatever they do because they ain't trying
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to be your parents. They focusing on being your friends.
It's gonna get old, and I can see that it
already had.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, hang on, Steve, we'll have part cheers your
response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's Strawberry Letter subject. Please close the windows and doors.
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let's recap today's Strawberry Letter. The subject is please close
the windows and doors.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
This woman is having a problem. She's twenty four.
Speaker 4 (07:43):
Her problem is with her parents, who are not parenting
because they're so busy being hud freed. They had this
little girl at eighteen. They are now forty two years old.
She's twenty four. That's you young. She likes hanging with
her parents because they have a good time, because they
listen to the same music. That's the hip hop generation,
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got it?
Speaker 3 (08:06):
I missed that. My kids miss that. They know good.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
Hell well, when I get in the car, you know
what we're listening to, daddy, Can we listen to something else?
Speaker 3 (08:16):
Now? Daddy?
Speaker 4 (08:21):
You heard little babies new And now I don't know
who little baby is. Dall baby, that damn baby, black baby,
white baby, new baby. But now she has a problem
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because she says hanging out with him is cool with
my parents, and other times it gets to be too much.
I'm allowed to smoke weed in the house because it's
legal in our state and it helps me with my cramps. No,
you allowed to smoke weed in the house because that's
what they do. If it was illegal, they you smoke weed.
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I'm allowed to have my boyfriend stay overnight, cause that's
what they did.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
They had you at eighteen. At eighteen, that means that
the sex was going on before they was eighteen, So
that's what they did.
Speaker 4 (09:17):
But he's got to go to sleep in the guest
room like he ain't snuck over there in the middle
of the night, and hell, he gonna stay in the
guess room. I'm allowed to use profanity, and I can
express myself anywhere I choose around them. Couse, that's what
they do. They cussing around you. My kids can cuss
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around me. Now that was a age when they lived
in my house.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
That ain't happening.
Speaker 4 (09:47):
But when you move out the house and you come
back over, you can cuss. Now you need to understand something. Now,
there's no way you can outcuss me. Come over here
cussing if you want to. I got some combinations you're
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not quite familiar with. I puts it together. But what
I don't appreciate is how open they are with me.
But what I don't appreciate is how open they are
with me. My parents' bedroom is below my bedroom, and
they have sex near every day.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
It don't have to be at night.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
I can be getting ready to go to work at
three and afternoon and they are in there going at it.
You know why they they can do it? They your friends,
ain't your parent with the door open. They've jokingly told
me to stay upstairs if I don't want to see
it or hear it. But what they don't know is
I can still hear it, and so can the neighbors,
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probably because they have the windows up too. I've been
sitting in the hot tub on the paddle. I've heard
my parents having sex loudly on a Sunday afternoon. To move,
but I can't afford to rent and my canoe. It's
their house, but I don't I deserve a little respect
as long as I live here.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
The jokes about it aren't working.
Speaker 4 (11:09):
So would I be out of line to ask them
to close the door and windows doing sex. Shirley said,
you can't cause it's your mama's them house, and technically
she's right. But see, y'all friends, though friends get to
talk to friends like they want to. I think you
should sit them down as friends and say, Mom, Dad,
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the hell going on?
Speaker 3 (11:31):
I would use another word, but.
Speaker 4 (11:33):
That, yeah, you know, but they allow you to come
this sugar honey ice tea y'all doing this. It's some
it's some bull sugar honey ice tea because all these
fudging neighbors is listening to y'all.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
Upstairs fudge, and they can hear it.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
Now fudge. Y'all need to stop. This is embarrassing. This
sugar honey ice tea gonna have to stop because you
two is it's just too much since they let you
talk any kind of way. But now here's what you're
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gonna have to do. You got to move, Yeah, you
got to move. And I want to say this to you,
young lady. You're obviously in school and stuff. You're twenty four.
Sometimes parents teach us what not to do, just like
they teach us what to do. I have a lot
of boys that come to my minnory camp who are
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from fatherless homes, who are vowed.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
When they have a child, they not gonna do like
their father did them.
Speaker 4 (12:47):
So when you do have a child and you're obviously waiting,
remember these moments and remember the feelings you have. It's
cool to be cool with your parents, but even you
at twenty four still want to have some guideline. You
want some parents, and this letter is for parents. Just
listen to this. Stop trying to be your kids. They
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need guidance and love and discipline. They would appreciate that
more than you're sitting up smoking weed, cussing with them
having sex with the dope.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
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They really young.
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What you could do is you could film and then post,
because that's what they do.
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