July 4, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Friday, July 4th, 2025. Subject: "She's Too Phony & Bony Now"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, guys, it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter,
(00:02):
and if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve BARBFM
dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
We're going to read this one right here, right now,
and you never know it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Buggle up and hold on tight.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
We got a told you here. It is a Strawberry Letter.
Thank you, nephew.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Subject She's too phony and bony now. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I've been married for four years to the love of
my life. When we met, she had just had a
handsome baby boy, and we bonded over us being both
being heartbroken. I was engaged to a self centered woman
before I met my wife, and two weeks before our wedding,
(00:46):
she ghosted me. My wife had been dating a man
for a long time, and when she got pregnant, he
ghosted her. We were two damaged friends that became lovers.
I have raised her son as my own and loved
her through her weight challenge. Is I know she was
bigger when we met because she just had a baby.
I knew she was bigger because she just had a
(01:07):
baby when she was still overweight. A year later, we
started eating healthier and I encouraged her to lose weight.
We got a trainer and she went and got a
breast reduction. When the weight came off, she got a
lot of new clothes, and she let her hair grow,
and she got a perm. It was like her attitude
changed overnight, and she was very uppity all of a sudden.
(01:29):
I suggest that she eats up on working out because
she lost all of her curves. She started hanging out
with her trainer and the trainer's friends, who are all skinny,
single airheads.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
That drink a lot and like to be in the streets.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
My wife started wearing emerald contacts, and she wants some
kind of cosmetic procedure on her chin. Our son will
be five in two months, and she wants to rent
a venue for his party because she said my house
is not adequate enough. She puts her tiny little but
in lingerie before sex, and her moan sounds so phony,
(02:05):
like we're in a poorno. I can't keep up with
a new woman she has become, and I hope she
doesn't tell me that I'm not enough for her. How
do I get my juicy, down to earth wife back. Well, honestly,
I don't think that's gonna happen. I don't think you're
gonna get her back, I think. And the problem is
you're afraid that you can't keep up with this new
(02:26):
woman she has become. And I think she's gone for good.
And you just basically told us why because she's changed
on the outside. You said, she got a breast reduction,
she lost dollar curve, she's wearing Emerald contacts now. But
I really think it's the inside change that's bothering you
the most. Because she has new friends now. She hangs
(02:47):
out with her trainer and his people. They like to
drink and they're from the street, you say. And although
you were very supportive in the beginning, you know about
her weight loss and all of that getting a trainer
and all of that eating healthier. That broken girl that
you bonded with a few years back, that girl is
no longer interested in being a good wife at see.
(03:10):
She's trying to live her best life right now after
conquering her weight issues, and this is who she really is.
You need to get used to this this is who
this person really is. She's skinny now, all of that
she you know, she got her priorities mixed up. They're
all out of order now because she's trying to find
herself and she's losing you. I mean, doesn't she realize
(03:33):
that she could have it both. She could have a
good family, a good marriage, she could have a good life, and.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
She could still have a good toned body.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
And all of a sudden, your house isn't good enough
for a five year old's birthday party. I mean, the
five year old doesn't care about that. He just wants
to party with his little friends. I say, you got
to talk to her. It might be too late, but
you know you've got to try to reason with her
because I think it's not over until it's over. I mean,
I can't speak on her fake moaning because if she
(04:03):
is faking it, that may be the real reason she's
checked out.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
I mean, that's what's got you so scared.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
You got to try and sit down and figure this
whole situation out with her. But I do think part
of her is gone for good. You'll never get that back.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Steve. Okay, look, you all bonded out of mutual hurt,
but I think the relationship started in a genuine fashion.
Seems like now when you all had this baby and
she was still overweight a year later. Now, let's talk
(04:37):
about this for a second. That's that baby wait. Man,
it's hard to get rid of it, really, really is.
I hear a lot of women talk about the struggles
of baby wait, and you got to understand that there
are women that's dealing with baby wait thirteen years afterwards.
I mean, you know, yes, And who am I? Who
am I to say that she'd have gotten rid of
(04:58):
it by now because I look at my i stomach
and I think I should have gotten rid of it
by now, But it don't go away like I wanted to.
So this is a weight issue. This whole thing is
about weighting attitude. This whole thing. Y'all started eating healthier,
and you encourage her to lose weight. She got a trainer,
(05:20):
she went and got a breast reduction. So she just
started taking everything down. I'm gonna take this weight down
and get rid of these breasts. You know, all this
health The weight came off, she bought a lot of
new clothes, she let her hair grow, and she got
a purrent. Now I'm just really basing on these new
changes that you're telling me. I just want to deal
(05:42):
with what was it? We was dealing with it rigularly.
There you go, because you do cut everything. So it
just makes me when the weight she got a breast reduction, Yeah,
when the weight came, or she got a lot of
(06:03):
new clothes and she let her hair grow and got
a perm. Law, Jesus, what was going on before? So
before the breast reduction, before the weight loss, before she
grew her hair, and before the perm and before the
(06:24):
emerald eye contexts? Ho, Lord Jesus, who was you staying with?
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Don't forget the emerald context? I said that just now,
all right, here we go.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
When we come back, we'll have part two of Steve's
response at twenty three.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Minutes after the hour. You definitely don't want to miss it.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Today's Strawberry letter subject is she's too phony and bony.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Now we'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. Hi, this is Shirley's
Strawberry and I'm part with the leave. Let me tell
you it couldn't have come at a better time. I'm
owe some furniture around last weekend in my new place.
It turns out that was a really bad idea because
all that bending and lifting and pretending I'm still twenty
(07:12):
five didn't agree with my knees. So I grabbed a
leave because when my body pain shows up, I need
something that lasts. With just one pill. A leave lasts
up to twelve hours. Don't let those aches and pain
hold you back from doing what's important to you. Use
as directed. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's
strawberry letter. The subject is she's too phony and bony.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Now, well, this was a letter about a man and
woman who met, who had mutual pain, but they were
there for each other, and both of them got ghosted.
One after this she got pregnant. The other ones the
guy got ghosted two weeks before his wed and they
met each other. They were friends. They two damaged friends
that became lovers. Was his description. You've raised a son
(07:58):
like your own. You've loved her through weight challenges. Now,
you said in the letter, I knew she was bigger
when we met because she just had a baby when
she was still overweight a year later. Then y'all started
eating health and you encourage her to lose a weight.
I'm assuming we started because you was kind of you know,
(08:18):
big boy yourself a little bit. Then got a trainer,
win it.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Now here was the problem.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
I have to I'm listening to everything she's done, and
I want to just see what were we dealing with
before all this? So these is the change. She got
a trainer and got a breast reduction, so that's the
first thing she got. Because then you said when the
weight came or she got really new clothes. So she
got the breast reduction done first. That was probably so
(08:45):
she could do the workouts. What I don't know, That's
what I'm thinking. They stole this letter right here. If
I was an ignorant person reading this letter, and I
do have a tendency to be ignorant at times.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Oh really, check she was overweighted.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
A year later, we started eating health together, we got
a trainer, she went and got a breast reduction. I'm
assuming that these exercises with without the breast reduction was
a bit much. She was getting hit in the mouth
a lot, you know, maybe even jumped and knocked herself out,
you know, Uh, couldn't couldn't see the flow, you know,
(09:25):
doing the little letter drills on the floe and couldn't
see the flow caught the breast. It was in the way.
I don't know what, but to do these exercises, she
had to get this breast reduction. Then when the weight
come off, she got a lot of clothes. Then she
let her hair grow and got a perm. So before
this it wasn't no hand and it wasn't no perm.
(09:46):
I'm just basing this on that. Then her attitude changed
and she started wearing emerald contacts. You gotta be careful
with the emerald contact because they got to match your
told you just can't want green eyes and be any shade.
Now if some of this we bought a line, scary.
(10:06):
Now we're looking like children of the coin and stuff
like this. Now, you you know, like really really fair
complexing people can't get mraal eyes, and real dog people
can't get m raal eyes. You can't go on the street.
You gotta be somewhere in the middle. You gotta be
like a different color to get them eyes. Then you
said she wanted some kind of cosmetic surgery on her chin,
(10:30):
or her chin was probably damaged from her breast. You know,
a lot of this golds hand in hand in this
letter right here, I'm not gonna be able to help
this couple out.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
I can see that right now.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
So let's just find the joy out of this letter.
Because after this breast reduction, notcha, for the first time.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
She's seeing her chin.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
Now she got to get something done because them breakfasts
all up under her throat. She had her cleavage started.
Her cleavage was so big some people thought she had
a cleft in her chin. It was actually her breast.
So now once she got that cleavage reduced, she found
(11:11):
out it wasn't a cleft in her chin.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Uh huh.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Then the sun gonna be five in two months, and
she want to rent a venue because the house ain't
adequate enough for the five year old party, because she
want a flex in front of her little skinny uh
friends and train of friends. Then then she puts on
a little tiny butt in large and ray before sex
(11:36):
and her moon sounds so funny, like we are a
porno and you just can't keep up with this woman.
She could come and hope she don't tell me that
I'm not enough for her. How do I get my
juicy down to earth wife back? She could be gone
with all this chin worth weight reduction and then took
the breast off. You just can't go packing that back home.
(11:56):
But we're gonna have to start though. The only way
we're gonna get big Juicy back is we got to
start with food. We got to get these calories up.
This I can help you with. I can't help you
with losing weight, but I can show no how to
packing the bread. Bread is very important, and not just
bread alone, but you got to put something on the bread.
(12:16):
It's got to be the butter or jam, stuff like that.
You don't just eat the bread by itself. Because we
got to get big juice it back. That's what you want.
You want big juice it down to earth. And she
was down to earth because she couldn't get off the earth,
you understand. So big people is gonna be more ground
dead because they are very rarely ever a born. So
(12:39):
there you're gonna have these moments like this here. So
to get big juice It back, we got to start
with bread. We need to go to the grocery store
and buy that big bag of potatoes, the one you
ain't bought in a while. That's paper, but it's got
the little mesh on the front so you can see
that there is potatoes. And you need to go down
there at the bottom row.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
They are the.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
Bottom row of that out and get that big bag
of rice, the one that that that you can't hold
in one head. It's on the bottom rope. It's the
big bags is on the bottom row right all right, listen,
she gets that in done. She get that chi in done.
You ain't gonna be talk to her.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
On the Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey on Instagram
and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
All right, guys, it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter,
(00:02):
and if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve BARBFM
dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
We're going to read this one right here, right now,
and you never know it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Buggle up and hold on tight.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
We got a told you here. It is a Strawberry Letter.
Thank you, nephew.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Subject She's too phony and bony now. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I've been married for four years to the love of
my life. When we met, she had just had a
handsome baby boy, and we bonded over us being both
being heartbroken. I was engaged to a self centered woman
before I met my wife, and two weeks before our wedding,
(00:46):
she ghosted me. My wife had been dating a man
for a long time, and when she got pregnant, he
ghosted her. We were two damaged friends that became lovers.
I have raised her son as my own and loved
her through her weight challenge. Is I know she was
bigger when we met because she just had a baby.
I knew she was bigger because she just had a
(01:07):
baby when she was still overweight. A year later, we
started eating healthier and I encouraged her to lose weight.
We got a trainer and she went and got a
breast reduction. When the weight came off, she got a
lot of new clothes, and she let her hair grow,
and she got a perm. It was like her attitude
changed overnight, and she was very uppity all of a sudden.
(01:29):
I suggest that she eats up on working out because
she lost all of her curves. She started hanging out
with her trainer and the trainer's friends, who are all skinny,
single airheads.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
That drink a lot and like to be in the streets.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
My wife started wearing emerald contacts, and she wants some
kind of cosmetic procedure on her chin. Our son will
be five in two months, and she wants to rent
a venue for his party because she said my house
is not adequate enough. She puts her tiny little but
in lingerie before sex, and her moan sounds so phony,
(02:05):
like we're in a poorno. I can't keep up with
a new woman she has become, and I hope she
doesn't tell me that I'm not enough for her. How
do I get my juicy, down to earth wife back. Well, honestly,
I don't think that's gonna happen. I don't think you're
gonna get her back, I think. And the problem is
you're afraid that you can't keep up with this new
(02:26):
woman she has become. And I think she's gone for good.
And you just basically told us why because she's changed
on the outside. You said, she got a breast reduction,
she lost dollar curve, she's wearing Emerald contacts now. But
I really think it's the inside change that's bothering you
the most. Because she has new friends now. She hangs
(02:47):
out with her trainer and his people. They like to
drink and they're from the street, you say. And although
you were very supportive in the beginning, you know about
her weight loss and all of that getting a trainer
and all of that eating healthier. That broken girl that
you bonded with a few years back, that girl is
no longer interested in being a good wife at see.
(03:10):
She's trying to live her best life right now after
conquering her weight issues, and this is who she really is.
You need to get used to this this is who
this person really is. She's skinny now, all of that
she you know, she got her priorities mixed up. They're
all out of order now because she's trying to find
herself and she's losing you. I mean, doesn't she realize
(03:33):
that she could have it both. She could have a
good family, a good marriage, she could have a good life, and.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
She could still have a good toned body.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
And all of a sudden, your house isn't good enough
for a five year old's birthday party. I mean, the
five year old doesn't care about that. He just wants
to party with his little friends. I say, you got
to talk to her. It might be too late, but
you know you've got to try to reason with her
because I think it's not over until it's over. I mean,
I can't speak on her fake moaning because if she
(04:03):
is faking it, that may be the real reason she's
checked out.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
I mean, that's what's got you so scared.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
You got to try and sit down and figure this
whole situation out with her. But I do think part
of her is gone for good. You'll never get that back.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Steve. Okay, look, you all bonded out of mutual hurt,
but I think the relationship started in a genuine fashion.
Seems like now when you all had this baby and
she was still overweight a year later. Now, let's talk
(04:37):
about this for a second. That's that baby wait. Man,
it's hard to get rid of it, really, really is.
I hear a lot of women talk about the struggles
of baby wait, and you got to understand that there
are women that's dealing with baby wait thirteen years afterwards.
I mean, you know, yes, And who am I? Who
am I to say that she'd have gotten rid of
(04:58):
it by now because I look at my i stomach
and I think I should have gotten rid of it
by now, But it don't go away like I wanted to.
So this is a weight issue. This whole thing is
about weighting attitude. This whole thing. Y'all started eating healthier,
and you encourage her to lose weight. She got a trainer,
(05:20):
she went and got a breast reduction. So she just
started taking everything down. I'm gonna take this weight down
and get rid of these breasts. You know, all this
health The weight came off, she bought a lot of
new clothes, she let her hair grow, and she got
a purrent. Now I'm just really basing on these new
changes that you're telling me. I just want to deal
(05:42):
with what was it? We was dealing with it rigularly.
There you go, because you do cut everything. So it
just makes me when the weight she got a breast reduction, Yeah,
when the weight came, or she got a lot of
(06:03):
new clothes and she let her hair grow and got
a perm. Law, Jesus, what was going on before? So
before the breast reduction, before the weight loss, before she
grew her hair, and before the perm and before the
(06:24):
emerald eye contexts? Ho, Lord Jesus, who was you staying with?
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Don't forget the emerald context? I said that just now,
all right, here we go.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
When we come back, we'll have part two of Steve's
response at twenty three.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Minutes after the hour. You definitely don't want to miss it.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Today's Strawberry letter subject is she's too phony and bony.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Now we'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. Hi, this is Shirley's
Strawberry and I'm part with the leave. Let me tell
you it couldn't have come at a better time. I'm
owe some furniture around last weekend in my new place.
It turns out that was a really bad idea because
all that bending and lifting and pretending I'm still twenty
(07:12):
five didn't agree with my knees. So I grabbed a
leave because when my body pain shows up, I need
something that lasts. With just one pill. A leave lasts
up to twelve hours. Don't let those aches and pain
hold you back from doing what's important to you. Use
as directed. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's
strawberry letter. The subject is she's too phony and bony.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Now, well, this was a letter about a man and
woman who met, who had mutual pain, but they were
there for each other, and both of them got ghosted.
One after this she got pregnant. The other ones the
guy got ghosted two weeks before his wed and they
met each other. They were friends. They two damaged friends
that became lovers. Was his description. You've raised a son
(07:58):
like your own. You've loved her through weight challenges. Now,
you said in the letter, I knew she was bigger
when we met because she just had a baby when
she was still overweight a year later. Then y'all started
eating health and you encourage her to lose a weight.
I'm assuming we started because you was kind of you know,
(08:18):
big boy yourself a little bit. Then got a trainer,
win it.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Now here was the problem.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
I have to I'm listening to everything she's done, and
I want to just see what were we dealing with
before all this? So these is the change. She got
a trainer and got a breast reduction, so that's the
first thing she got. Because then you said when the
weight came or she got really new clothes. So she
got the breast reduction done first. That was probably so
(08:45):
she could do the workouts. What I don't know, That's
what I'm thinking. They stole this letter right here. If
I was an ignorant person reading this letter, and I
do have a tendency to be ignorant at times.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Oh really, check she was overweighted.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
A year later, we started eating health together, we got
a trainer, she went and got a breast reduction. I'm
assuming that these exercises with without the breast reduction was
a bit much. She was getting hit in the mouth
a lot, you know, maybe even jumped and knocked herself out,
you know, Uh, couldn't couldn't see the flow, you know,
(09:25):
doing the little letter drills on the floe and couldn't
see the flow caught the breast. It was in the way.
I don't know what, but to do these exercises, she
had to get this breast reduction. Then when the weight
come off, she got a lot of clothes. Then she
let her hair grow and got a perm. So before
this it wasn't no hand and it wasn't no perm.
(09:46):
I'm just basing this on that. Then her attitude changed
and she started wearing emerald contacts. You gotta be careful
with the emerald contact because they got to match your
told you just can't want green eyes and be any shade.
Now if some of this we bought a line, scary.
(10:06):
Now we're looking like children of the coin and stuff
like this. Now, you you know, like really really fair
complexing people can't get mraal eyes, and real dog people
can't get m raal eyes. You can't go on the street.
You gotta be somewhere in the middle. You gotta be
like a different color to get them eyes. Then you
said she wanted some kind of cosmetic surgery on her chin,
(10:30):
or her chin was probably damaged from her breast. You know,
a lot of this golds hand in hand in this
letter right here, I'm not gonna be able to help
this couple out.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
I can see that right now.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
So let's just find the joy out of this letter.
Because after this breast reduction, notcha, for the first time.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
She's seeing her chin.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
Now she got to get something done because them breakfasts
all up under her throat. She had her cleavage started.
Her cleavage was so big some people thought she had
a cleft in her chin. It was actually her breast.
So now once she got that cleavage reduced, she found
(11:11):
out it wasn't a cleft in her chin.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Uh huh.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Then the sun gonna be five in two months, and
she want to rent a venue because the house ain't
adequate enough for the five year old party, because she
want a flex in front of her little skinny uh
friends and train of friends. Then then she puts on
a little tiny butt in large and ray before sex
(11:36):
and her moon sounds so funny, like we are a
porno and you just can't keep up with this woman.
She could come and hope she don't tell me that
I'm not enough for her. How do I get my
juicy down to earth wife back? She could be gone
with all this chin worth weight reduction and then took
the breast off. You just can't go packing that back home.
(11:56):
But we're gonna have to start though. The only way
we're gonna get big Juicy back is we got to
start with food. We got to get these calories up.
This I can help you with. I can't help you
with losing weight, but I can show no how to
packing the bread. Bread is very important, and not just
bread alone, but you got to put something on the bread.
(12:16):
It's got to be the butter or jam, stuff like that.
You don't just eat the bread by itself. Because we
got to get big juice it back. That's what you want.
You want big juice it down to earth. And she
was down to earth because she couldn't get off the earth,
you understand. So big people is gonna be more ground
dead because they are very rarely ever a born. So
(12:39):
there you're gonna have these moments like this here. So
to get big juice It back, we got to start
with bread. We need to go to the grocery store
and buy that big bag of potatoes, the one you
ain't bought in a while. That's paper, but it's got
the little mesh on the front so you can see
that there is potatoes. And you need to go down
there at the bottom row.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
They are the.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
Bottom row of that out and get that big bag
of rice, the one that that that you can't hold
in one head. It's on the bottom rope. It's the
big bags is on the bottom row right all right, listen,
she gets that in done. She get that chi in done.
You ain't gonna be talk to her.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
On the Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey on Instagram
and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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