June 15, 2026 • 19 mins
A listener is conflicted after she set aside money for her daughter's college. Her second husband is upset that she won't split the fund with her daughter and his son... Judge Keke weighs in! Plus, listen to this fun fact about sunsets!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Why would Why would I do seventy five to get soft?
I would do seventy five to get hard, I guess,
but I wouldn't do seventy five to get I mean
I already have yes, says I am soft to medium,
so I'm not trying to get soft. I mean the
seventy five soft. He's going in Colbert's every Day or
something like her. You know Fred's show is on. It's Monday,
Good Morning, June fifteen. The Fred shows here, Hi, Kalein
(00:23):
No Hi, Jason Ride, Hello, Paula, Hi, Kiki, Good morning
showb Shelley and Bell are here. Kiky's courting just a second.
The Throwback dance Party now every day around twenty Central
nine to twenty easton will do that. The entertainment reports
coming up to what are you working on?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
K Keiky? Did you hear ed Sharon's big announcement? Which one?
He's been making a lot of announcements. Well you're not
too happy about this?
Speaker 1 (00:44):
OK, too many announcements for you.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
He just got a lot going out and we need
to have a conversation. Bos order.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
It's a fresh show. It's Gieky's Court, all right. The
Honorable kleag is here, judge kiky, what say you?
Speaker 2 (00:58):
All right, let's get in the court, It says Heiki key,
Am I wrong for refusing to split my daughter's money
with my stepson. I've been saving for my daughter's college
since the day she was born, and thanks to her grandparents,
over the years, the account has grown to a really
nice amount of money for college. However, I married my
second husband when she was ten years old, and he
(01:21):
also came into the marriage with the son the same
age as my daughter, And now that they're both preparing
to go to college, my husband believes that we should
split my daughter's college fund between the two of them
so that they can start adulthood on equal footing. I refused.
Every dollar in that account was saved specifically for my
daughter years before I even met him. Now, my husband says,
(01:42):
I'm showing his son that I never truly considered him family.
And my stepson overheard this argument. It is hurt. I
feel bad, but it's a no. Am I wrong?
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Why didn't dad save? Hello?
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Thank you?
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Sorry Joki me. I hate to bury the headline. I'm
not trying to bury the headline here, but like, why
is it? Don't do that?
Speaker 2 (02:01):
I mean so you would not, you would not share
with your steps on.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
I want to be sure I'm clear on this. So
she saved for years and years and years for her
own child, prior to even knowing this man or the child,
the steps even existed. Yes, okay, well then what was
he doing during that time to prepare for his child's future?
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Exactly?
Speaker 1 (02:22):
I'm sorry, but like, that's not how these works. You
don't just after a couple of years ago. Okay, that
all that money that I saved for my kid's future,
now we're splitting it in half, and now good. I'm sorry.
It has nothing to do with love, It has nothing
to do with it's it's your thing. Now, I'm all
fired up about this. I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
That's true. You said for get them kids.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
You're not.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
I think the parents have response to individual responsibility for
their children when in blended families. And this isn't a
matter of them saving together for years and years and
years and then giving it to one This is her savings,
she This is this should have been ironed out ahead
of time. This is has nothing to do with them,
as I could do with love for anything else. It's
I saved for my kid's future. That was my job.
(03:04):
I did it here it is. I'm sorry, but I
don't have to. Maybe I can help a little bit,
but I don't have to split this dead in half
when I didn't even have any of that in mind
before then.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
There it is. I agree with you on that. I mean,
I feel bad because they she's obviously known this child
and he's been a part of her life since he
was ten years old. That's when they got married, So
that's eight to ten. There are seven years ago where
you maybe could have said, hey, you know, I do
have a college one for my daughter. What do you
have in place for our son? It doesn't seem like
that conversation ever happened. But I think it's wrong for
(03:36):
the dad to just wake up today and assume, like, oh, well,
we must split this money for both of them because
they're both going to college. Like, no, maybe you and
your ex wife should have thought of something when you
had a child.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Did he put any money into this account? I'm assuming
he didn't.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
It doesn't sound like it, but I can't be sure.
I mean, over they've been together for like eight years now,
so I.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Would think that would be an and key part of
the story where she would say, you know, hey, he
did contribute to this for the last eight years, the
one which case, then he should be entitled to half
of whatever he put in or all of what whatever
it is. But like, if he didn't put anything in this,
why all of a sudden is it you're responsible for
my kid's future too, when you've been planning for this forever.
(04:15):
I had eight five five five one three five. You
can call him text the same number. I know it sounds,
you know, hurtful, but you got to be responsible for
your kid in a blended situation, like you can't expect
someone else to do it for you, Like why was
this not something you thought about when the kid was little?
(04:37):
And you say incrementally, a little bit at a time,
it's on him.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I mean, we agree on that, but I feel like
it can get tricky because you are a blended family
and you should consider his son your son, and you know,
ten years ago, maybe you guys should have come up
with the plan for both of the kids, but that
didn't happen clearly, and now we're facing this. So I
feel feel bad for the son, especially that he heard
this argument. And you know, I never want a child
(05:04):
to feel left out of anything. So if I was stepmom,
I would I don't know what I would do. Actually
I would try to help him out, but like, I
can't give you my daughter's fun like that her grandparents
have helped put But it's.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
The thing people have contributed to this with her in mind, Yeah,
who maybe had nothing to do with this other you know,
with the way that the family has sort of evolved.
I guess this lady could have said, hey, look, you know,
I'm saving every month for so and so's college. What
are you doing? Something like should we be thinking about that?
(05:37):
Maybe she assumed that he did. Maybe he did, but
it's not as much. I don't know, But like, this
is not this isn't necessarily reflection on the love she
has for her stepchild when she had a plan for
her own kid and that's her responsibility. And that plan
started way before this family evolved into what it is,
and it involved other people's money that were you're marked
(06:00):
for their family, right, you know? And I know I
know it sounds mean, but hey, Sophie, how you doing.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
We're good for you.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
Oh my gosh, we love you so much.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Well, thank you, Sophie. So what do you think so
basically this this this woman and her husband are fighting
over a college fund that was intended for her kid
when there's no money saved for her step son. And
and now the step son hears, and he's heard, and
then the dad husband's like, well wait a minute, I
want half of that. Well that that wasn't intended for you.
(06:33):
What do you think?
Speaker 5 (06:35):
Well, I know this is Keiky's court and not stay
or go, but I still think she should leave that
bomb and his entitled son because he has agreed this
is personal, like he had all that time, and he
can't just expect that this that she would pitch in
like all this money when he had all this time.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
He was there since sports red flag.
Speaker 5 (06:56):
You know, he said have been saving that up if
it really was his priority, but he because he lazy
about it. I don't think he should have put it
all on on his life. That's not fair to her.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Well, and I also think that when you get into
a relationship or you get married in this case, I
have to think that you sit down responsibly and say, okay,
here's how much I make. Here, so much you make,
what are you going to pay for? What am I
going to pay for? And part of that conversation should
probably have been, hey, I've set aside this much money
for her, what are we doing for him? What are
you doing for him? But it seems like he never
(07:24):
even thought about that, And now all of a sudden,
it's well, you're a bad person for not giving me
half of yours. It's like, no, but you should have
been thinking about that on your own, right, like that,
you should have had a plan before that had nothing
to do with her, because well, it's your child. And yes,
I realized that they're sharing that responsibility in some ways
(07:45):
because you know, hopefully step kids aren't viewed as as
less than or secondary. But like when it comes to
the money, that probably should have been something that he
should have brought up or should have been discussed if
he had any expectation of it being a joint commitment.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
Right, yeah, he shouldn't have procrastinated.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
He left us also last minute, so he should come
up with the money, so they didn't talk about it earlier.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Yeah, thank you, thank you, Sophie. I'm glad you called.
Thanks for listening.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Gay, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Eight five five three five high back you. Good morning, Hi,
good morning, And oh man, this is a tricky one,
but at the same time, it's not right. What do
you think, No.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
It's definitely not a tricky one. First, I want to
say I love you guys. I listened to you every day,
even in the summer.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
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commitment to each other, all right, it's it's we're here
for you know. We don't take the summers off just
because the teachers and whomever else just choose not to
wake up in the morning.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
Anyway, I have to get work every day, so do you, guys.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
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You guys have earned the right to those of you
to sleep in. But then that doesn't mean you can't
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Go ahead, I'm sorry, tell me what you think?
Speaker 4 (08:59):
No, yeah, So definitely she's in saving for her daughter
all of this time. If it was important for him,
he would have been saving for his son or like
that should have been a conversation that they had when
they got together. Of hey, let's put some extra aside
and say for both of them, but as it is, no,
that's her daughter's money.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
The fact that he didn't even know that this account
existed means that this was never a conversation that they
had now because if he knew it existed, then he
might have said, Okay, well I need to contribute to
this so that or I need to have one of
my own. But that was never discussed obviously, which also
makes me think their finances must be separate. Yeah, and
(09:40):
if that's because if she's putting money away and he's
unaware of it, then it's not as though she's taking
community funds and earmarking them for one kid and not
the other, right exactly, So he even know about this,
and now he's always there's money there. Give me half
of that. And the fact that the kid feels bad
about this, I hate that, right because it's the kid's fault.
(10:01):
It's the dad's responsibility. Trusty, daddy, Thank you, Becky. Have
a good day, you too. Hold on, somebody disagree with me?
Many hung up? No, I was, I was Mike. I
don't know where it was, Mike, right, you know, you
(10:21):
know I'll take the dissenting opinions and I'll just tell
you that you're wrong. It's fine. I don't know what
happened to Mike though. Let me see here. Oh hell no,
those funds do not need to be split. The funds
were there before. Yes see. That's my other thing is
we got other family members involved who didn't know Aaron Hiring,
good morning, good morning, Hey, thanks for calling. Doing great.
Speaker 6 (10:45):
This happened to you, this is something that happened to me. Actually, okay,
how so okay, So my parents.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
Have been a more since I was four, and my
mom put away money for me and my older sister
and also my dad, and then my uh stepmom came
into the picture, and she's wonderful, but she also like
(11:15):
they had to put the money money for them, but
they didn't have the money as much as they did
when I was younger because of whatever circumstances.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
And so that was.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
One thing that they had talked about, was splitting up
the money between all of us because I have four sisters.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
So yeah, that's hard, that's that's hard. No, I'm sorry
that happened to Aaron. Thank you, have a good day. Thanks.
That's tough because you don't want you don't want the
kids to because I mean, look, I was part of
a situation where where I was, I had step brothers,
and I guess I have stepsisters. Now I don't know,
(11:56):
you'd have to ask somebody else. But there's always an
ever to make everybody feel equal. But then in this
particular case, you're talking about something that wasn't intended for everybody, right,
So this should be a conversation that never should have
taken place. The kids should never have known about this,
because the kids are not This isn't having to do
(12:17):
with them, you know what I mean. So the kids,
I feel bad for the step son who now feels
less than and who maybe isn't old enough to understand
how this all worked right and how it does work
and how this isn't personal. But hey, your dad should
have been doing your that's you guys should have been
handling this. Hey Taylor, heay, what's up? Hey, good morning?
This happened to you.
Speaker 7 (12:37):
Two, Yeah, it happened to me.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Yeah, sure explain please all right?
Speaker 7 (12:43):
So, uh, stepdad and my mom got together. Me and
my stepmother were the same age, and so I was
a really good academically loved school just like you know,
three point nine GPA in high school. I had a
bunch of had a bunch of college offers. My mom
properly planned, step that did not properly plan, which is
(13:03):
totally fine, it happens. And my step father wanted to
go to college, but he didn't have any money, and
so I forfeited my my bible.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
With a five ole one she planned whatever that is.
Speaker 7 (13:14):
I forfeited my plan to him, and then I end
up getting scholarships, and so you know, it all kind
of worked out. And eventually, honestly, whenever I need some
cash and go for whatever reason right invest in stuff,
He's always there for me.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
So it really kind of worked out.
Speaker 7 (13:31):
Even though our parents are no longer together, we're very
close and as a family, you make things work. So
there's definitely a solution here, whether it's hey, we'll forfit
the first semester, see how you do. If you do
well in college, then we'll continue to kind of figure
that out and have a lot of scholarships and a
line up in place. But there's over millions of dollars
of scholarships, you know what any of these students can get.
(13:53):
So I'll always say, see how the first semester goes.
If they excel in college, they can excel getting a scholarship,
you don't forfeit all the money.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
And Taylor, I'm glad it works out for you. But
in this case, you know you were able to earn
your tuition to be paid for such that the money.
You didn't need the money. But had you needed the money,
I think it probably should have been yours to take first,
and there should have been no obligation that it'd be
given to anyone else. Now, I think it would have
been one thing if you got a full ride scholarship
and then you kept the cash and prevented someone else's blessing.
(14:24):
But you didn't do that, so it worked out. But
in this case, let's assume there is no scholarship money.
That's kind of not on her.
Speaker 7 (14:30):
Yeah, no, it kind of is. Though as a parent,
as a parent, you want to do well for your children,
even though you're a step mom or a stepdad. The
biggest thing you can do is provide your children with
a good setup for their future. And when it comes
to these kind of plans, it isn't about just like again,
you can say, hey, look we're not giving up half
(14:52):
the money for whatever reason. You can send someone to
college for a semester for a year and see how
it goes, and you could earn scholarships along the way.
This isn't a know, a make one decision and it's
all said, are done, And so as the parents, what
I was suggesting to do is say, hey, look again,
we're not gonna I'm not gonna give you half of it.
But what I will do is see how your child
does or our child, our child does as a first
(15:14):
semester or that first year, right, and then from there
you can get scholars leaders. There are a thousand ways
to get paid to the student. When once you're in.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
The door, why isn't Dad were on that? Dad should
be focused on that? Dad should be Why doesn't Dad
take out the loan? Then? Like why, I guess I
just don't know why this why we're focused in on
the money that's in hand, when when I don't necessarily
think anyone's entitled to that or entitled to have to
give it away except for the people who saved it
(15:42):
and who it's and who it's supposed to before you know,
I mean, like Dad needs to take some responsibility here.
I didn't save so now I'm gonna have to take
the hit on this, and and she did prepare and
I don't know where I was for this, but like
maybe that's a separate conversation. Is Hey, if we have
future goals in this relationship and we're splitting things and
we need to be more aligned with you know, contributing
equally to that, not oh wait, I forgot give me
(16:04):
half of someone else's.
Speaker 7 (16:07):
Yeah, I guess the difference is now. And now we're
talking about who owns what in a relationship, and it's
a marriage, obviously I assume yes, So you know, now
it's like, all right, well is a dad or who's
funding you, who's pankling mortgage to the house, who's panking
the car notes, who's taking care of the camps?
Speaker 4 (16:21):
All this stuff kind.
Speaker 7 (16:22):
Of comes an equation and the dad is taking care
of a lot of that and saying, hey, well, look,
you know I'm paying for this, so therefore I would
like something for that. That's totally okay in a relationship,
but it should not be all or nothing. There are
other solutions that are non binary. And for people to
talk about divorced on this crap, they're not they haven't
been married, they don't know what a relationship takes and
obviously how the effect that has some kids, or we're
(16:43):
talking about kids future. I will do whatever it takes.
I will cross any road for any kid that I
have in my possession.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Dad, look at you. Good for you, Taylor. I appreciate you.
Speaker 7 (16:52):
Man.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
Have a good day.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Look a look at tailor.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
He made some really good points.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
It is a good point. If the dude is paying
for everything and all she's been doing is saving for college.
If one dred percent of her salary is going to
college tuition and he's paying for one hundred percent of
everything else, then maybe in that case you could say, well,
at least some of that probably should be split, maybe
not all of it, but for the last seven years,
you haven't paid one single bill and so now I
(17:21):
need your help with this. That's one thing. But if everything,
I gotta think everything is separate. Otherwise he'd know about
this account. He would have known about it before.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Well. I don't know if everything is separate, but I
do think that they She should hold some responsibility to
her steps on's future as well. That comes with parenting.
So you may not give him your daughter's money, but
you probably will be signing alone with your husband to
help him get through college as well.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
So yeah, and I think just one more. This is
the kind of stuff that has to be discussed. Oh yeah,
in relationships, right, Like you got to sit down from
the very beginning so that the expectations are set, you know,
for this. If this was something that he didn't even
know about, and it appears, it's like, oh, look, pile
of money over here, half of that's mine. Not how
that works. So the fact that you didn't even know
(18:06):
is a little bit strength.
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Why would Why would I do seventy five to get soft?
I would do seventy five to get hard, I guess,
but I wouldn't do seventy five to get I mean
I already have yes, says I am soft to medium,
so I'm not trying to get soft. I mean the
seventy five soft. He's going in Colbert's every Day or
something like her. You know Fred's show is on. It's Monday,
Good Morning, June fifteen. The Fred shows here, Hi, Kalein
(00:23):
No Hi, Jason Ride, Hello, Paula, Hi, Kiki, Good morning
showb Shelley and Bell are here. Kiky's courting just a second.
The Throwback dance Party now every day around twenty Central
nine to twenty easton will do that. The entertainment reports
coming up to what are you working on?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
K Keiky? Did you hear ed Sharon's big announcement? Which one?
He's been making a lot of announcements. Well you're not
too happy about this?
Speaker 1 (00:44):
OK, too many announcements for you.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
He just got a lot going out and we need
to have a conversation. Bos order.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
It's a fresh show. It's Gieky's Court, all right. The
Honorable kleag is here, judge kiky, what say you?
Speaker 2 (00:58):
All right, let's get in the court, It says Heiki key,
Am I wrong for refusing to split my daughter's money
with my stepson. I've been saving for my daughter's college
since the day she was born, and thanks to her grandparents,
over the years, the account has grown to a really
nice amount of money for college. However, I married my
second husband when she was ten years old, and he
(01:21):
also came into the marriage with the son the same
age as my daughter, And now that they're both preparing
to go to college, my husband believes that we should
split my daughter's college fund between the two of them
so that they can start adulthood on equal footing. I refused.
Every dollar in that account was saved specifically for my
daughter years before I even met him. Now, my husband says,
(01:42):
I'm showing his son that I never truly considered him family.
And my stepson overheard this argument. It is hurt. I
feel bad, but it's a no. Am I wrong?
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Why didn't dad save? Hello?
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Thank you?
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Sorry Joki me. I hate to bury the headline. I'm
not trying to bury the headline here, but like, why
is it? Don't do that?
Speaker 2 (02:01):
I mean so you would not, you would not share
with your steps on.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
I want to be sure I'm clear on this. So
she saved for years and years and years for her
own child, prior to even knowing this man or the child,
the steps even existed. Yes, okay, well then what was
he doing during that time to prepare for his child's future?
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Exactly?
Speaker 1 (02:22):
I'm sorry, but like, that's not how these works. You
don't just after a couple of years ago. Okay, that
all that money that I saved for my kid's future,
now we're splitting it in half, and now good. I'm sorry.
It has nothing to do with love, It has nothing
to do with it's it's your thing. Now, I'm all
fired up about this. I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
That's true. You said for get them kids.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
You're not.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
I think the parents have response to individual responsibility for
their children when in blended families. And this isn't a
matter of them saving together for years and years and
years and then giving it to one This is her savings,
she This is this should have been ironed out ahead
of time. This is has nothing to do with them,
as I could do with love for anything else. It's
I saved for my kid's future. That was my job.
(03:04):
I did it here it is. I'm sorry, but I
don't have to. Maybe I can help a little bit,
but I don't have to split this dead in half
when I didn't even have any of that in mind
before then.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
There it is. I agree with you on that. I mean,
I feel bad because they she's obviously known this child
and he's been a part of her life since he
was ten years old. That's when they got married, So
that's eight to ten. There are seven years ago where
you maybe could have said, hey, you know, I do
have a college one for my daughter. What do you
have in place for our son? It doesn't seem like
that conversation ever happened. But I think it's wrong for
(03:36):
the dad to just wake up today and assume, like, oh, well,
we must split this money for both of them because
they're both going to college. Like, no, maybe you and
your ex wife should have thought of something when you
had a child.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Did he put any money into this account? I'm assuming
he didn't.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
It doesn't sound like it, but I can't be sure.
I mean, over they've been together for like eight years now,
so I.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Would think that would be an and key part of
the story where she would say, you know, hey, he
did contribute to this for the last eight years, the
one which case, then he should be entitled to half
of whatever he put in or all of what whatever
it is. But like, if he didn't put anything in this,
why all of a sudden is it you're responsible for
my kid's future too, when you've been planning for this forever.
(04:15):
I had eight five five five one three five. You
can call him text the same number. I know it sounds,
you know, hurtful, but you got to be responsible for
your kid in a blended situation, like you can't expect
someone else to do it for you, Like why was
this not something you thought about when the kid was little?
(04:37):
And you say incrementally, a little bit at a time,
it's on him.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I mean, we agree on that, but I feel like
it can get tricky because you are a blended family
and you should consider his son your son, and you know,
ten years ago, maybe you guys should have come up
with the plan for both of the kids, but that
didn't happen clearly, and now we're facing this. So I
feel feel bad for the son, especially that he heard
this argument. And you know, I never want a child
(05:04):
to feel left out of anything. So if I was stepmom,
I would I don't know what I would do. Actually
I would try to help him out, but like, I
can't give you my daughter's fun like that her grandparents
have helped put But it's.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
The thing people have contributed to this with her in mind, Yeah,
who maybe had nothing to do with this other you know,
with the way that the family has sort of evolved.
I guess this lady could have said, hey, look, you know,
I'm saving every month for so and so's college. What
are you doing? Something like should we be thinking about that?
(05:37):
Maybe she assumed that he did. Maybe he did, but
it's not as much. I don't know, But like, this
is not this isn't necessarily reflection on the love she
has for her stepchild when she had a plan for
her own kid and that's her responsibility. And that plan
started way before this family evolved into what it is,
and it involved other people's money that were you're marked
(06:00):
for their family, right, you know? And I know I
know it sounds mean, but hey, Sophie, how you doing.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
We're good for you.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
Oh my gosh, we love you so much.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Well, thank you, Sophie. So what do you think so
basically this this this woman and her husband are fighting
over a college fund that was intended for her kid
when there's no money saved for her step son. And
and now the step son hears, and he's heard, and
then the dad husband's like, well wait a minute, I
want half of that. Well that that wasn't intended for you.
(06:33):
What do you think?
Speaker 5 (06:35):
Well, I know this is Keiky's court and not stay
or go, but I still think she should leave that
bomb and his entitled son because he has agreed this
is personal, like he had all that time, and he
can't just expect that this that she would pitch in
like all this money when he had all this time.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
He was there since sports red flag.
Speaker 5 (06:56):
You know, he said have been saving that up if
it really was his priority, but he because he lazy
about it. I don't think he should have put it
all on on his life. That's not fair to her.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Well, and I also think that when you get into
a relationship or you get married in this case, I
have to think that you sit down responsibly and say, okay,
here's how much I make. Here, so much you make,
what are you going to pay for? What am I
going to pay for? And part of that conversation should
probably have been, hey, I've set aside this much money
for her, what are we doing for him? What are
you doing for him? But it seems like he never
(07:24):
even thought about that, And now all of a sudden,
it's well, you're a bad person for not giving me
half of yours. It's like, no, but you should have
been thinking about that on your own, right, like that,
you should have had a plan before that had nothing
to do with her, because well, it's your child. And yes,
I realized that they're sharing that responsibility in some ways
(07:45):
because you know, hopefully step kids aren't viewed as as
less than or secondary. But like when it comes to
the money, that probably should have been something that he
should have brought up or should have been discussed if
he had any expectation of it being a joint commitment.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
Right, yeah, he shouldn't have procrastinated.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
He left us also last minute, so he should come
up with the money, so they didn't talk about it earlier.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Yeah, thank you, thank you, Sophie. I'm glad you called.
Thanks for listening.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Gay, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Eight five five three five high back you. Good morning, Hi,
good morning, And oh man, this is a tricky one,
but at the same time, it's not right. What do
you think, No.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
It's definitely not a tricky one. First, I want to
say I love you guys. I listened to you every day,
even in the summer.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Thank you understand the assignment. Okay, listen, we make a
commitment to each other, all right, it's it's we're here
for you know. We don't take the summers off just
because the teachers and whomever else just choose not to
wake up in the morning.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
Anyway, I have to get work every day, so do you, guys.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
I'm you don't want the teachers want to teach us.
You guys have earned the right to those of you
to sleep in. But then that doesn't mean you can't
listen to the podcast later on the iHeartRadio app. It's fretting,
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Go ahead, I'm sorry, tell me what you think?
Speaker 4 (08:59):
No, yeah, So definitely she's in saving for her daughter
all of this time. If it was important for him,
he would have been saving for his son or like
that should have been a conversation that they had when
they got together. Of hey, let's put some extra aside
and say for both of them, but as it is, no,
that's her daughter's money.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
The fact that he didn't even know that this account
existed means that this was never a conversation that they
had now because if he knew it existed, then he
might have said, Okay, well I need to contribute to
this so that or I need to have one of
my own. But that was never discussed obviously, which also
makes me think their finances must be separate. Yeah, and
(09:40):
if that's because if she's putting money away and he's
unaware of it, then it's not as though she's taking
community funds and earmarking them for one kid and not
the other, right exactly, So he even know about this,
and now he's always there's money there. Give me half
of that. And the fact that the kid feels bad
about this, I hate that, right because it's the kid's fault.
(10:01):
It's the dad's responsibility. Trusty, daddy, Thank you, Becky. Have
a good day, you too. Hold on, somebody disagree with me?
Many hung up? No, I was, I was Mike. I
don't know where it was, Mike, right, you know, you
(10:21):
know I'll take the dissenting opinions and I'll just tell
you that you're wrong. It's fine. I don't know what
happened to Mike though. Let me see here. Oh hell no,
those funds do not need to be split. The funds
were there before. Yes see. That's my other thing is
we got other family members involved who didn't know Aaron Hiring,
good morning, good morning, Hey, thanks for calling. Doing great.
Speaker 6 (10:45):
This happened to you, this is something that happened to me. Actually, okay,
how so okay, So my parents.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
Have been a more since I was four, and my
mom put away money for me and my older sister
and also my dad, and then my uh stepmom came
into the picture, and she's wonderful, but she also like
(11:15):
they had to put the money money for them, but
they didn't have the money as much as they did
when I was younger because of whatever circumstances.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
And so that was.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
One thing that they had talked about, was splitting up
the money between all of us because I have four sisters.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
So yeah, that's hard, that's that's hard. No, I'm sorry
that happened to Aaron. Thank you, have a good day. Thanks.
That's tough because you don't want you don't want the
kids to because I mean, look, I was part of
a situation where where I was, I had step brothers,
and I guess I have stepsisters. Now I don't know,
(11:56):
you'd have to ask somebody else. But there's always an
ever to make everybody feel equal. But then in this
particular case, you're talking about something that wasn't intended for everybody, right,
So this should be a conversation that never should have
taken place. The kids should never have known about this,
because the kids are not This isn't having to do
(12:17):
with them, you know what I mean. So the kids,
I feel bad for the step son who now feels
less than and who maybe isn't old enough to understand
how this all worked right and how it does work
and how this isn't personal. But hey, your dad should
have been doing your that's you guys should have been
handling this. Hey Taylor, heay, what's up? Hey, good morning?
This happened to you.
Speaker 7 (12:37):
Two, Yeah, it happened to me.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Yeah, sure explain please all right?
Speaker 7 (12:43):
So, uh, stepdad and my mom got together. Me and
my stepmother were the same age, and so I was
a really good academically loved school just like you know,
three point nine GPA in high school. I had a
bunch of had a bunch of college offers. My mom
properly planned, step that did not properly plan, which is
(13:03):
totally fine, it happens. And my step father wanted to
go to college, but he didn't have any money, and
so I forfeited my my bible.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
With a five ole one she planned whatever that is.
Speaker 7 (13:14):
I forfeited my plan to him, and then I end
up getting scholarships, and so you know, it all kind
of worked out. And eventually, honestly, whenever I need some
cash and go for whatever reason right invest in stuff,
He's always there for me.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
So it really kind of worked out.
Speaker 7 (13:31):
Even though our parents are no longer together, we're very
close and as a family, you make things work. So
there's definitely a solution here, whether it's hey, we'll forfit
the first semester, see how you do. If you do
well in college, then we'll continue to kind of figure
that out and have a lot of scholarships and a
line up in place. But there's over millions of dollars
of scholarships, you know what any of these students can get.
(13:53):
So I'll always say, see how the first semester goes.
If they excel in college, they can excel getting a scholarship,
you don't forfeit all the money.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
And Taylor, I'm glad it works out for you. But
in this case, you know you were able to earn
your tuition to be paid for such that the money.
You didn't need the money. But had you needed the money,
I think it probably should have been yours to take first,
and there should have been no obligation that it'd be
given to anyone else. Now, I think it would have
been one thing if you got a full ride scholarship
and then you kept the cash and prevented someone else's blessing.
(14:24):
But you didn't do that, so it worked out. But
in this case, let's assume there is no scholarship money.
That's kind of not on her.
Speaker 7 (14:30):
Yeah, no, it kind of is. Though as a parent,
as a parent, you want to do well for your children,
even though you're a step mom or a stepdad. The
biggest thing you can do is provide your children with
a good setup for their future. And when it comes
to these kind of plans, it isn't about just like again,
you can say, hey, look we're not giving up half
(14:52):
the money for whatever reason. You can send someone to
college for a semester for a year and see how
it goes, and you could earn scholarships along the way.
This isn't a know, a make one decision and it's
all said, are done, And so as the parents, what
I was suggesting to do is say, hey, look again,
we're not gonna I'm not gonna give you half of it.
But what I will do is see how your child
does or our child, our child does as a first
(15:14):
semester or that first year, right, and then from there
you can get scholars leaders. There are a thousand ways
to get paid to the student. When once you're in.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
The door, why isn't Dad were on that? Dad should
be focused on that? Dad should be Why doesn't Dad
take out the loan? Then? Like why, I guess I
just don't know why this why we're focused in on
the money that's in hand, when when I don't necessarily
think anyone's entitled to that or entitled to have to
give it away except for the people who saved it
(15:42):
and who it's and who it's supposed to before you know,
I mean, like Dad needs to take some responsibility here.
I didn't save so now I'm gonna have to take
the hit on this, and and she did prepare and
I don't know where I was for this, but like
maybe that's a separate conversation. Is Hey, if we have
future goals in this relationship and we're splitting things and
we need to be more aligned with you know, contributing
equally to that, not oh wait, I forgot give me
(16:04):
half of someone else's.
Speaker 7 (16:07):
Yeah, I guess the difference is now. And now we're
talking about who owns what in a relationship, and it's
a marriage, obviously I assume yes, So you know, now
it's like, all right, well is a dad or who's
funding you, who's pankling mortgage to the house, who's panking
the car notes, who's taking care of the camps?
Speaker 4 (16:21):
All this stuff kind.
Speaker 7 (16:22):
Of comes an equation and the dad is taking care
of a lot of that and saying, hey, well, look,
you know I'm paying for this, so therefore I would
like something for that. That's totally okay in a relationship,
but it should not be all or nothing. There are
other solutions that are non binary. And for people to
talk about divorced on this crap, they're not they haven't
been married, they don't know what a relationship takes and
obviously how the effect that has some kids, or we're
(16:43):
talking about kids future. I will do whatever it takes.
I will cross any road for any kid that I
have in my possession.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Dad, look at you. Good for you, Taylor. I appreciate you.
Speaker 7 (16:52):
Man.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
Have a good day.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Look a look at tailor.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
He made some really good points.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
It is a good point. If the dude is paying
for everything and all she's been doing is saving for college.
If one dred percent of her salary is going to
college tuition and he's paying for one hundred percent of
everything else, then maybe in that case you could say, well,
at least some of that probably should be split, maybe
not all of it, but for the last seven years,
you haven't paid one single bill and so now I
(17:21):
need your help with this. That's one thing. But if everything,
I gotta think everything is separate. Otherwise he'd know about
this account. He would have known about it before.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Well. I don't know if everything is separate, but I
do think that they She should hold some responsibility to
her steps on's future as well. That comes with parenting.
So you may not give him your daughter's money, but
you probably will be signing alone with your husband to
help him get through college as well.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
So yeah, and I think just one more. This is
the kind of stuff that has to be discussed. Oh yeah,
in relationships, right, Like you got to sit down from
the very beginning so that the expectations are set, you know,
for this. If this was something that he didn't even
know about, and it appears, it's like, oh, look, pile
of money over here, half of that's mine. Not how
that works. So the fact that you didn't even know
(18:06):
is a little bit strength.
Speaker 7 (18:07):
It's fun.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Learn so much, guys, for when we moved to Mars,
because you may need to soon because I don't know,
you know, this world is crazy Earth, Earth is crazy.
It might it might be time to take that one
way flight and just head that way. Sunsets on Mars
appear blue. They have blue sunsets on Mars because the
(18:34):
planet's dusty atmosphere scatters sunlight differently than Earth's, concentrating blue
light around the setting sun.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
That's really cool.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
So, and I don't know how many we have pictures
of this. I guess I'm not sure how we know
this all right? How do we know that Aliens already
told us? I don't know that they gave us the
heads up. Elon Musk already told us because he was like,
from my planet where I'm from, the sunsets are blue.
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