December 2, 2025 • 5 mins
One of Keke's friends is a marriage councelor and told Keke she should go to counceling incase there's any issues in the relationship that come up and they can resolve them, but Keke is skeptical!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:34):
Kiki yo, go all right, deer blog friends.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
I'm at this point in my marriage planning wedding planning
journey where you know, we're considering pre marital counseling. So
a friend of mine hit me up last night. Her
mom is a very well established relationship coach and counselor,
so she reached out. She's like, Hey, my mom would
love to give you guys some free sessions.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Just let me know, yeah, if you would like to
do it.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
And I was like, I don't know, I don't know
if I want to do it because I feel like
you can get into counseling and then some things can
come up, and you know, at this point, I paid
the deposit, the decorator is.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Booked, So what are we doing?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Yeah, now you know the wedding is happening, So I
don't know if we want to open up these can
can of worms or do I do it? And then
you know, we fight for our lives for the next
two years until it's.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Time to get married.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
I just don't know, And so I put it on
the she like did did Paulina do it? Did Shelley
do it? Would you guys do it if you were
getting married? Like do you think it's a good idea
at this point?
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Because I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, Paulina went to GPT, That's how she had.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
All I have to do, girl, use my account.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
Honestly, if I could go back and do a couple
of things differently, I would have done that. Yes, because
I'm trying to go to a couple's therapy now, like
we're one foot in, one foot out, like you know
what I mean. Me, I'm in, like, let's go, but
it's hard to get to go to that and it's
it's frustrating, but like I'm working on it, but I
wish we did that because everything becomes an issue when
you're married, and you'll you'll see and I hate that
(02:09):
whole you'll see thing, but no, you really will, Like.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
It's just not being done.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Like things hit.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
Different now, and we're pretty we're a pretty solid couple
and like we hold each other down, so like we
don't really have fights like that, but our fights, you
guys know me, like they're petty, they're goofy. And I'm
always wondering. I've always wondered, like if we want to
therapy before or at least talked about these issues, would
we be encountering them?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
What's his hesitation? Is it's cultural? Is it that he
just doesn't think you need it? Is it that he
doesn't he doesn't want to unearth anything? Like what do
you think his his reservation is.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
I think it's all the above.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
I mean, like, yeah, exactly, cultural, like he's Mexican, and
then culturally speaking, that's not really a thing that bothers me,
so I'm not a fan of that.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
And then also too, i think he's a big.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Believer of like you know, mentality and like you'll just
like fighting through things and stuff, and it's like, I
hear you, brother, I'm fighting through my life here every day.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
I'm finding every day here.
Speaker 4 (03:01):
But I do feel like having an outside perspective somebody
coming in to help us resolve issues that keep occurring
in our marriage would be really nice and beneficial.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
What is my sister is a OLM star Go ahead, no, no, no,
you go.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
My sister's a therapist, which is so that I preface
this by saying that she would subscribe to something like
this because it's what she does. But she and Colin
did go to a pre marital counseling in addition to
I think they were in counseling when they were dating,
and at first it was like WHOA, but I think
it was I think it was more sort of like
almost training and preventative, like to figure out how to
(03:35):
work through stuff to your point, Paulina, kind of before
it elevates into something that's really insurmountable and then you're married,
you know, learning communication styles and things like that. So
I mean, my sister would subscribe to that because it's
what she does. But the people I know who have
done it, I think you know have benefited from it. So, Kiki,
(03:56):
I think I think it's a good idea.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Okay, you know, I just I don't worry. I don't
want the man to come to his census. You know that.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
I wondered, like, you know, like lock him down first.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
I might do Paulina's method of like lock it down
first and then we can go to counsel.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I'm not you can't go anywhere.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
No, But it's like, I don't know, because before you know,
I would always be like, yes, you should do pre
marital counseling.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
I think absolutely, But now that it's me, I'm like.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
I don't know, and I might find out I'm the problem.
What is your experience with therapy? Have you ever done it?
Speaker 3 (04:28):
Yeahually child just dealing with grief of losing parents.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Yeah, and it was very successful, was it?
Speaker 4 (04:33):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Okay, very success.
Speaker 5 (04:34):
Because I've never heard it's an interesting fear of unearthing
new problem, Like I've never heard of couples deal with.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
That by going through therapy.
Speaker 5 (04:41):
I actually have a couple that I'm thinking of that's
married now.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
It is interesting.
Speaker 5 (04:46):
They had a hard time picking a man or a woman,
and they ended up going with a man, just because
she felt her husband would be more comfortable with that.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
And I thought that was interesting.
Speaker 5 (04:56):
Interesting, But I've never heard of new issues coming out
in therapy.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
You but right, I got Kiki, I got news for you.
If you think he didn't know the crazy by now, right,
you ain't fooling anybody, Okay, he knows exactly what he's
getting into. So I I think you're safe. I don't
think there'll be any surprises. You're right, you're right, unless
you got a secret kid like waiting by the phone
or whatever, and then we got DNA testing anthenia, that's all.
(05:22):
That's a whole different thing.
This is the Fread Show. Dan is taking over in
Las Vegas this January for his seven night presidency Adobe
Live at Park MGM. And we've got a trip for
two to the January twenty fifth show to night Hotel
State at Park MGM January twenty fourth through the twenty
sixth and round trip airfare. Text direction to three seven
three three seven now for a chance to win. A
(00:20):
confirmation text will be said. Standard message of data rates
may apply. All thanks to Live Nation. They talk better
than excited. Tell me these are the radio blogs on
the Fred Show. She's like, we're running in our diaries,
except we say them aloud. We call them blogs.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Kiki yo, go all right, deer blog friends.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
I'm at this point in my marriage planning wedding planning
journey where you know, we're considering pre marital counseling. So
a friend of mine hit me up last night. Her
mom is a very well established relationship coach and counselor,
so she reached out. She's like, Hey, my mom would
love to give you guys some free sessions.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Just let me know, yeah, if you would like to
do it.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
And I was like, I don't know, I don't know
if I want to do it because I feel like
you can get into counseling and then some things can
come up, and you know, at this point, I paid
the deposit, the decorator is.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Booked, So what are we doing?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Yeah, now you know the wedding is happening, So I
don't know if we want to open up these can
can of worms or do I do it? And then
you know, we fight for our lives for the next
two years until it's.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Time to get married.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
I just don't know, And so I put it on
the she like did did Paulina do it? Did Shelley
do it? Would you guys do it if you were
getting married? Like do you think it's a good idea
at this point?
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Because I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, Paulina went to GPT, That's how she had.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
All I have to do, girl, use my account.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
Honestly, if I could go back and do a couple
of things differently, I would have done that. Yes, because
I'm trying to go to a couple's therapy now, like
we're one foot in, one foot out, like you know
what I mean. Me, I'm in, like, let's go, but
it's hard to get to go to that and it's
it's frustrating, but like I'm working on it, but I
wish we did that because everything becomes an issue when
you're married, and you'll you'll see and I hate that
(02:09):
whole you'll see thing, but no, you really will, Like.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
It's just not being done.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Like things hit.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
Different now, and we're pretty we're a pretty solid couple
and like we hold each other down, so like we
don't really have fights like that, but our fights, you
guys know me, like they're petty, they're goofy. And I'm
always wondering. I've always wondered, like if we want to
therapy before or at least talked about these issues, would
we be encountering them?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
What's his hesitation? Is it's cultural? Is it that he
just doesn't think you need it? Is it that he
doesn't he doesn't want to unearth anything? Like what do
you think his his reservation is.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
I think it's all the above.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
I mean, like, yeah, exactly, cultural, like he's Mexican, and
then culturally speaking, that's not really a thing that bothers me,
so I'm not a fan of that.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
And then also too, i think he's a big.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Believer of like you know, mentality and like you'll just
like fighting through things and stuff, and it's like, I
hear you, brother, I'm fighting through my life here every day.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
I'm finding every day here.
Speaker 4 (03:01):
But I do feel like having an outside perspective somebody
coming in to help us resolve issues that keep occurring
in our marriage would be really nice and beneficial.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
What is my sister is a OLM star Go ahead, no, no, no,
you go.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
My sister's a therapist, which is so that I preface
this by saying that she would subscribe to something like
this because it's what she does. But she and Colin
did go to a pre marital counseling in addition to
I think they were in counseling when they were dating,
and at first it was like WHOA, but I think
it was I think it was more sort of like
almost training and preventative, like to figure out how to
(03:35):
work through stuff to your point, Paulina, kind of before
it elevates into something that's really insurmountable and then you're married,
you know, learning communication styles and things like that. So
I mean, my sister would subscribe to that because it's
what she does. But the people I know who have
done it, I think you know have benefited from it. So, Kiki,
(03:56):
I think I think it's a good idea.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Okay, you know, I just I don't worry. I don't
want the man to come to his census. You know that.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
I wondered, like, you know, like lock him down first.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
I might do Paulina's method of like lock it down
first and then we can go to counsel.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I'm not you can't go anywhere.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
No, But it's like, I don't know, because before you know,
I would always be like, yes, you should do pre
marital counseling.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
I think absolutely, But now that it's me, I'm like.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
I don't know, and I might find out I'm the problem.
What is your experience with therapy? Have you ever done it?
Speaker 3 (04:28):
Yeahually child just dealing with grief of losing parents.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Yeah, and it was very successful, was it?
Speaker 4 (04:33):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Okay, very success.
Speaker 5 (04:34):
Because I've never heard it's an interesting fear of unearthing
new problem, Like I've never heard of couples deal with.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
That by going through therapy.
Speaker 5 (04:41):
I actually have a couple that I'm thinking of that's
married now.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
It is interesting.
Speaker 5 (04:46):
They had a hard time picking a man or a woman,
and they ended up going with a man, just because
she felt her husband would be more comfortable with that.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
And I thought that was interesting.
Speaker 5 (04:56):
Interesting, But I've never heard of new issues coming out
in therapy.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
You but right, I got Kiki, I got news for you.
If you think he didn't know the crazy by now, right,
you ain't fooling anybody, Okay, he knows exactly what he's
getting into. So I I think you're safe. I don't
think there'll be any surprises. You're right, you're right, unless
you got a secret kid like waiting by the phone
or whatever, and then we got DNA testing anthenia, that's all.
(05:22):
That's a whole different thing.
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