Waiting by the Phone: Saving This From Our First Date!

Christina is confused why her date Alex won't call her back after a fun night out... Find out why she got ghosted!

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All thanks to Live. Nation's ever been left waiting by
the phone. It's the Fread Show. Hi Christina, good morning.
How are you? Hey? Good morning?

Speaker 2 (00:36):
You know I'm doing okay, just you know, just a
little confused in my dating life, I.

Speaker 1 (00:41):
Guess right right, Okay, Well that's what we're here for.
Why don't you tell us about this guy, Alex? How
did you meet? I want to hear about any dates
that you've been on and then you know what's happening
right now.

Speaker 2 (00:51):
So I'm at the sky Alex on Hinge and you know,
after we matched, we did talk for a few days
until he finally asked me out, you know, for drinks,
and that actually turned into dinner, which was you know,
which was nice.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
You know.

Speaker 2 (01:04):
For some reason though, Alex kind of stopped responding to me,
and I don't really know if I have any more
energy for any more first dates. So I guess I'm
calling because I you know, i'd like you to figure
out what's going on with this one. I really don't know.

Speaker 1 (01:19):
Okay, So you really thought everything went really well? And
I always ask these questions, but you know, you look
back on the date. The conversation was good, you thought
there was chemistry, you felt like, you know, the back
and forth was going on, and the whole thing nothing awkward, nothing,
nothing weird.

Speaker 2 (01:33):
Yeah, I mean I really thought back to the entire
like date night. The conversations were easy and breezy. You know,
we laughed a little bit here and there, food and
drinks were good, and you know, overall, I just felt
like we enjoyed each other's company. So that's why I'm
kind of sitting over here, like, well, why are you
leaving me on read? You know what I mean?

Speaker 1 (01:51):
Yeah? Yeah, And look, I say this all the time
about the dating apps because I've been on and off
them forever. When you meet someone and you feel a
certain kind of way, you know, and they and they
it feels different from the other matches and there's actual chemistry,
because that's something you can't gauge on the dating apps, right,
is if there's going to be in person chemistry. So
when you go out with someone and then you sense that,
then you know you you were hoping that goes someplace exactly.

Speaker 2 (02:13):
Yeah, you know, this entire dating world on the apps
has really just turned a lot of us off to
the concept of even dating and being in a relationship.

Speaker 1 (02:22):
Yeah, well, let's call this guy Alex. You're gonna be
on the phone at the same time. We're going to
ask these questions for you if we can get a
hold of him. And you know, the hope is always
is that we can figure out what's up, straightened out,
set you guys up on another date, and then we'll
pay for that. As Christina, Yeah, okay, let's call Alex.
You guys met on one of the dating apps. You
went in a date, you felt like the chemistry was good,

(02:45):
back and forth was good, You were attracted to him,
you got the vibe he was into you. The problem
is you haven't heard from this guy since that date,
and it's bugging you. You've been thinking a lot about it,
and you want to know what happened? What was going on?

Speaker 2 (02:58):
Yeah, exactly, I just don't like the last Okay.

Speaker 1 (03:02):
Let's call him now, good luck. Hello. Hi is this Alex?

Speaker 3 (03:14):
Yeah, this is Alex Alex.

Speaker 1 (03:16):
Hi, good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling from
the Fred's Show, the morning radio Show. I have to
tell you that we are on the radio right now.
I would need your permission to Yeah, I need your
permission to continue with the call. Is that cool food
chat for just a second?

Speaker 3 (03:27):
Oh yeah, that's cool.

Speaker 1 (03:28):
Okay, Well, thank you. We're calling on behalf of a
woman who reached out to us. Her name is Christina,
and I guess you recently went on a date after
matching on one of the apps. Do you remember her?

Speaker 3 (03:36):
Oh yeah, I remember?

Speaker 1 (03:37):
Okay, good, So what happened? Because she just got done
telling us that she liked you and was attracted to
you and thought the date went well and all these things,
but says she hasn't heard from you since then. You
haven't called her, texted it or responded or anything like that.
So what happened? What's why?

Speaker 3 (03:52):
Not? Nothing too much? The day was just pretty good
and then, like I don't know, she did something that
made me feel a kind of weird. So basically, like
throughout the whole date, she was like at first there
was something like a napkin, she'd stick it in her purse,
and then like she was like a spoon she's stuck
it in her purse, a menu she's stuck in her perth,
and like I didn't know she was like a kleptomaniac

(04:14):
or something. But eventually I finally brought up to her
and then she's like, Oh, I'm just saving a bunch
of stuff from our first date in case we end
up getting married someday. I'm not ready to think about
marriage at all. Yeah, so.

Speaker 1 (04:29):
You she stole them any in case you guys got married,
and somehow, I don't know, she could like give it
to your children that you're gonna have.

Speaker 3 (04:35):
Yeah, yes, you know, so they could know what the
soup special was, you know, on a first date. Like
I don't know. It just kind of spooped me like
it wasn't a big deal. But yeah, I was just
like it seemed like she was pretty eager to, you know,
jump into marriage or something.

Speaker 1 (04:48):
So like I've heard of got people doing this, by
the way, I've heard about people keeping like that, you know,
the concert ticket stub or the some sort of momento.
But they do it quietly. They're not that obvious about
it because it's like one of the those things were
Later then you give it to them and it's like,
oh my gosh, that was so sweet that you collected
all this stuff. But then if it doesn't work out,
they never know you did it. But this woman is

(05:09):
just doing it right in front of you. So someday,
if you get married, she can give you back the
spoon that she ate from.

Speaker 3 (05:17):
Yeah, I mean you'd have to ask her her train
of thought on that, but.

Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yeah, all right, well good, hey, good news because I
can Christina is here. I forgot Yeah, I forgot to
mention that part. I'm sorry. I'm very I'm often very
forgetful with these things. Christina, is this what happened? You
were saving things from the date so that you could
I don't know, like as a as a momento.

Speaker 2 (05:37):
I mean, honestly, I didn't really think about that as
like a red flag on my end. Eventually, you know,
one of the first day will say little things just
in case, you know.

Speaker 1 (05:49):
I mean, for what purpose exactly, Like so like remember
the menu here it is from years ago when we met.
I mean, is that a scrap book? Yeah? Right? Are
you keeping a scrap book or you keep is it
like for evidence purposes? Like what are we doing?

Speaker 2 (06:04):
No, it's just like, you know, the relationship will move
forward eventually, someday, you know, we could be husband and wife,
and it would just be nice to have to see
a little mementos from our first date where you know,
things got you know, our relationship started essentially.

Speaker 1 (06:18):
Okay, No, because I really have heard about this. I've
heard about guys who keep little things early on and
then later they're like, hey, look, and then they give
it to the person in some form of yeah, like
a scrap book or something, and and usually comes off
sweet if you're really into the person. But again, if
if it winds up going you know, falling flat, then
you throw the stuff away. It's like it never happened.

(06:41):
I have heard this. I've heard of guys doing it
for girls. I haven't heard it the other way around.
But you're saying, Alex that this was at first You're like,
I think she's a thief, which we've had that before.
By the way, I'm waiting by the phone where people
are stealing like the ketchup and the salt and pepper
shakers for I guess their personal use or something. But
you're saying it just kind of freaks you out because
she ten steps ahead of you.

Speaker 4 (07:01):
Yeah, at the end of the day, like it's not
necessarily about you know, taking this stuff. It's just like,
you know, we've really just met and like somehow on
our first date, you know, the conversation gets turned to
talking about marriage.

Speaker 3 (07:13):
Like that's just on any first date. I don't think
you should use the M word at all.

Speaker 1 (07:18):
I would think that's probably pretty safe. Yeah, I mean, Christina,
can you see how this might have looked to somebody
who's just getting to know you, might be a little
easily spooked about the commitment thing, doesn't even know your
you know last name.

Speaker 2 (07:30):
I mean not, no.

Speaker 3 (07:32):
Not really.

Speaker 2 (07:33):
I honestly I do this on every first day I
have just in case, and honestly, I like, you really
shouldn't feel so special about that. You're not the first guy.
I do that too.

Speaker 1 (07:43):
How many how many second dates do you get?

Speaker 2 (07:45):
I mean, depending on the guy, I you know, you
a little bit here and there. I wouldn't say, like
my rate is one hundred percent overall.

Speaker 1 (07:53):
But who is how many menus do you have at
the pass? I mean, do you even have to look up?
You know, like, what's there anymore? I'm just caring. I'm
just wondering.

Speaker 2 (08:02):
So no, I mean again, I would say I just
date the normal amount. And I really don't think it's
a huge deal that I like the things from you know,
things that could potentially matter to me down in the future.
And yeah, I went out on second dates and honestly,
this is the first time that anyone has actually said

(08:23):
anything to me about, you know, taking the mentos from
our first game. So Alex, you're you're starting to feel
like you're really special here.

Speaker 1 (08:33):
But one I know, yeah, I don't know that we
need to necessarily diss the man. I mean, you know,
this is what you chose to do, and and you
announced it, and the guy spooked, and he has a
right to that. I mean, that's not uncommon early on
in relationships that people if you're already indicating a level
of seriousness, that that person isn't necessarily prepared to, you know,

(08:57):
accept because they don't know you that well. So I
don't know if it's the taking of the menu per se.
I think it's the fact that you're like, well we
might get married some days walking, I mean we're halfway
through the date. I don't I don't know.

Speaker 2 (09:07):
There's so many restaurants out there though, that are like missing, right.

Speaker 1 (09:12):
Right, yeah, a lot of places. Wonder where there's spoons
in silver?

Speaker 3 (09:17):
Were went?

Speaker 1 (09:17):
But I'm this economy. Yeah, okay, look, so I'll ask
the question, Alex. I think I know the answer, but
I'm required to ask you. Would you like to go
out with Christina again if she leaves all of the
restaurant's items at the restaurant?

Speaker 3 (09:32):
No, like, after this awkwardness and like, I think it's
just the best. You know, we go our separate way.
Thank you.

Speaker 2 (09:38):
Dude, Seriously, you are not special, so you have to stop.

Speaker 1 (09:42):
We you know, we we were clear he was special
when we did all this other stuff, but then about
halfway through the call, he became unspecial, right, Yeah, I was.

Speaker 3 (09:50):
Special enough to steal a spoon for come on, she
does that for everyone.

Speaker 1 (09:54):
Okay, yeah, no, and it's it's petty that's petty theft
or something that's a miss to meet her at least
Okay that she may not be a.

Speaker 3 (10:02):
Superman, but I'm spoonman.

Speaker 1 (10:04):
Baby anyway, Yeah, I don't know. I don't know spoon Man.
I'm not sure about that one, but Christina get back
on the app. Spoon Man's taken. I guess I don't know.
That was weird, all right. Anyway, good luck to both
of you guys. Thank you for your time.