May 8, 2026 • 9 mins
Melissa is confused why her date Noah won't call her back after a great first date... Find out why she got ghosted!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show.
Hey Melissa, good morning, welcome to the program. How are you.
I'm good, How are you doing great? What's going on
with this guy Noah? We need to know on waiting metaphone?
How you met, about any dates you've been on, and
why you think you are being ghosted?
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Okay, So I had a really great time with this
guy Noah. We met on a dating app and he
really stood out to me because like he really listened
to everything I was saying. And I know that sounds
like simple, but it's not as easy as you.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Think to find about this man. We listened to you
tell me more about this. So you spoke and he
was paying attention. Wow, this is something that most of
us could work on. But yeah, all right, so congratulations.
Sounds like a keeper. You should marry him. What's the problem,
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
And basically he planned something other than just like basic drinks.
Like he remembered that I love animals and especially kittens.
So when we met up, we went to this like
shelter to play with puppies and kittens and some other
animals up for adoption.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Yeah, that he took you to an animal rescue place
for a day. Wow, these dudes doing the most I know.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
I thought it was so creative and like another like
amazing way to break the ice, you know, because like
dating on apps, it's not the greatest. So I'm like,
basically I'm smitten for him, and I'm like, I don't
really understand. After that, we went to grab drinks, we
had appetizers, and I just felt like he put in
(01:37):
so much effort and then why ghost me?
Speaker 1 (01:41):
You know, I really don't understand.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I thought we had an amazing date, he went through
all this effort, and then now he's just not really
responding to.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Me, right right, So that makes sense. I mean, you're
frustrated because you like the guy and again, you know,
very thoughtful. First date, really was listening and paying attention,
and yet you have not heard from him since then.
And I assume that you've reached out and he's not responding.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Yeah, yeah, literally nothing. I'm like, hey, how's it going.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
No response? Yeah, okay, Well, let's play a song. We'll
come back in a couple of minutes. We're gonna call Noah.
You'll be on the phone at the same time. We'll
ask some questions on your behalf. At some point you're
welcome to jumping on the call. And the hope is
always is that we can straighten this out and set
you guys up on another date and pay for that.
Oh okay, that would be great. Hey, Melissa, Hi, let's
call this guy Noah. You met out one of the apps.
(02:26):
You went on this date that you think was super thoughtful,
and it was. I think we all agree. You had
said that you like animals and rescue animals, so he
set up this date where you went to a rescue.
And I mean, honestly, like everyone I feel like on
the dating apps has very low investment early on, it
doesn't try that hard. I'm guilty of this too. It's
like do you want to drink? You know, like, do
(02:47):
you drink? Let's go there and do that and see
how this goes kind of thing. But this guy really tried,
except you have not heard from him since his date
that you thought went really well, and you want to
know why. Yeah, okay, let's call no One out. Good luck, Philip. Hi.
(03:08):
This is Noah, Yeah, Noah, good morning. My name is Fred.
I'm calling for the Fred's Show, the Morning radio Show,
and i do have to tell you that we are
on the radio right now and I would need your
permission to continue with the call. Can we chat for
just a second? Would you mind? You can hang up anytime?
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Yeah, I mean, I guess that's fine.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Okay, good, thank you. We're calling on behalf of a
woman named Melissa, who I guess you met on a
dating app recently and you guys went out on a date.
Do you remember her? See?
Speaker 3 (03:35):
I remember Melissa?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
So what happened? Noah? Because we just talked to her
and she told us that she liked you and that
you planned a great date, a very thoughtful date, that
she felt like you were listening to her. And yet
she says she's reached out to plan a second date
thinking that would happen, and you haven't responded to her
at all, and she wants to know why she's confused.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
I mean, yeah, I think I just don't think things
are really gonna I'm not really what she's looking for.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
What does that mean? Because I don't know. I mean,
I think maybe you are, because she's calling us and saying, hey,
I like this guy. It was a great first date.
It was unlike other dates I've been on. I want
to see him again. So what what is your take? Yeah,
I mean I mean.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Is that she's a lesbian and that she's not in
the guys, And so I don't know why she called
you guys.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
That's your take or that's like she did she say
that to you? Like she did? She talk about the
WNBA a lot, Like I mean, what you know, I
guess I don't understand, Like, what what is it that
set you off? No?
Speaker 3 (04:32):
I mean like we were we were sitting and talking,
I mean, like you know, and it was a good
time at first, like you know, we were you know,
we met on an app and we went and got
drinks and we were hanging out. And then she was
talking about how like she's bisexual and stuff, and I mean,
you know, okay, pretty common knowledge that being bisexual isn't real,
Like it's just what people say when they're not ready
(04:54):
to like fully come out.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Well well, and therein lies the problem. Is it common
knowledge that that's not real?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
I mean, because you can't really like like both a
genders equally, like you definitely one way for the other.
Like and you know, she made it very obvious that
she leans more towards women.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Did she now okay, because I think you can. I
think people do like both, and I think that's something
that happens regularly. Let me bring Melissa in. I forgot
to mention that, Melissa. So you brought up on the
date that you like men and women, and he's now
he now believes that you favor women even though you
were on a date with a man.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Oh my god, I cannot believe this is why you
ghosted me.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Are you serious?
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Like most guys think it's hot, So I don't.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
I don't really like No, I don't. I don't think
that's the way to think of it either. But so, okay,
so you told him that you you date both genders
on this date.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Yeah, I swim pickens out here.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
I told you. Oh wait, that's why you're bisexual. Right,
So so i'm you're just low on choice.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
So you decided to be closeted.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Well, I don't think she's closeted because she's rather vocal
about it. Yeah, I mean I have there are a
lot of problems here. I have a lot of issues.
One whether or not you believe in this at all,
Two that whether she said it, Three why it is?
I mean, according to you, it's like lack of lack
(06:26):
of inventory is, but I think it's a little more
than whatever. Okay does engaged. Why why, Melissa is he's
getting the impression that you favor one, Like, why is
his takeaway that you like women more than men, but
yet you're obviously interested in seeing him again. Yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
I am by means you like both genders.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
You're open, Okay, all right, so she's open, and so
she's in this case very open once to be open
to year.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Well, that's lack of commitment to me, and she has
told me that, like, she's just low on choices, and
so I'm not here to either be cheated on later
down the road for a women or to even feel
like I'm just like your backup short. I'm just a
duty feta on the street where you're like, oh my god,
finally I found.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
One, Like I don't want to be good one.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Okay, I have five standards, That's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
I'm so confused. There are so many problems here. She
liked him though, so she likes bart Let's just get
for the benefit of the doubt for one second and
assume that she just likes everybody, and so she liked you,
So what difference does it make if she also I mean, look, Noah,
you probably have an ex girlfriend. Does she look like denty?
Called to Melissa. I mean, again, these aren't the same thing.
But I just mean everyone likes what they like, and
(07:44):
and I may like one thing in one person and
one thing in another person. So I mean, in this case,
she's interested in both men and women, she says, And
you happen to be a man and she's interested in you.
So why do you automatically assume that she would leave
you for a woman, Because when you don't, you don't
have a reason. You just you're just a little close
minded about this.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
No, no, no, it's not that I'm closed minded, And it's that,
you know, it's just something that people say when they're
not ready to like fully come out of it, come
out as being a lesbian or being gad.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
That's true. I think there are people who like both.
But you, okay, look, I'm not going to change this
guy's mine. So Noah, you don't want to go out
with her again? No, okay, Melissa, I don't. I don't
know that I fully understand your position either. However, this guy,
this guy doesn't believe in what you do. You just
say I made the best man or woman win her heart.
I hope you win it. That's what I'm saying. But
(08:38):
it's supposed to be a little more than that, I think,
like real connection and investment. But I don't.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
I don't just giving up my men because I had
some bad ones and now you're just gonna try out women.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
No one doesn't believe in any of this. Melissa, just
trying things. I think maybe we all need to figure
some things out and then, you know, maybe get back
together at another time or maybe never. But look, melisten
to it. Thank you, Thank you both for this, whatever
this was, and I in yeah, and I wish you
both the best of love. Thank you,
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show.
Hey Melissa, good morning, welcome to the program. How are you.
I'm good, How are you doing great? What's going on
with this guy Noah? We need to know on waiting metaphone?
How you met, about any dates you've been on, and
why you think you are being ghosted?
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Okay, So I had a really great time with this
guy Noah. We met on a dating app and he
really stood out to me because like he really listened
to everything I was saying. And I know that sounds
like simple, but it's not as easy as you.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Think to find about this man. We listened to you
tell me more about this. So you spoke and he
was paying attention. Wow, this is something that most of
us could work on. But yeah, all right, so congratulations.
Sounds like a keeper. You should marry him. What's the problem,
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
And basically he planned something other than just like basic drinks.
Like he remembered that I love animals and especially kittens.
So when we met up, we went to this like
shelter to play with puppies and kittens and some other
animals up for adoption.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Yeah, that he took you to an animal rescue place
for a day. Wow, these dudes doing the most I know.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
I thought it was so creative and like another like
amazing way to break the ice, you know, because like
dating on apps, it's not the greatest. So I'm like,
basically I'm smitten for him, and I'm like, I don't
really understand. After that, we went to grab drinks, we
had appetizers, and I just felt like he put in
(01:37):
so much effort and then why ghost me?
Speaker 1 (01:41):
You know, I really don't understand.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I thought we had an amazing date, he went through
all this effort, and then now he's just not really
responding to.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Me, right right, So that makes sense. I mean, you're
frustrated because you like the guy and again, you know,
very thoughtful. First date, really was listening and paying attention,
and yet you have not heard from him since then.
And I assume that you've reached out and he's not responding.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Yeah, yeah, literally nothing. I'm like, hey, how's it going.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
No response? Yeah, okay, Well, let's play a song. We'll
come back in a couple of minutes. We're gonna call Noah.
You'll be on the phone at the same time. We'll
ask some questions on your behalf. At some point you're
welcome to jumping on the call. And the hope is
always is that we can straighten this out and set
you guys up on another date and pay for that.
Oh okay, that would be great. Hey, Melissa, Hi, let's
call this guy Noah. You met out one of the apps.
(02:26):
You went on this date that you think was super thoughtful,
and it was. I think we all agree. You had
said that you like animals and rescue animals, so he
set up this date where you went to a rescue.
And I mean, honestly, like everyone I feel like on
the dating apps has very low investment early on, it
doesn't try that hard. I'm guilty of this too. It's
like do you want to drink? You know, like, do
(02:47):
you drink? Let's go there and do that and see
how this goes kind of thing. But this guy really tried,
except you have not heard from him since his date
that you thought went really well, and you want to
know why. Yeah, okay, let's call no One out. Good luck, Philip. Hi.
(03:08):
This is Noah, Yeah, Noah, good morning. My name is Fred.
I'm calling for the Fred's Show, the Morning radio Show,
and i do have to tell you that we are
on the radio right now and I would need your
permission to continue with the call. Can we chat for
just a second? Would you mind? You can hang up anytime?
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Yeah, I mean, I guess that's fine.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Okay, good, thank you. We're calling on behalf of a
woman named Melissa, who I guess you met on a
dating app recently and you guys went out on a date.
Do you remember her? See?
Speaker 3 (03:35):
I remember Melissa?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
So what happened? Noah? Because we just talked to her
and she told us that she liked you and that
you planned a great date, a very thoughtful date, that
she felt like you were listening to her. And yet
she says she's reached out to plan a second date
thinking that would happen, and you haven't responded to her
at all, and she wants to know why she's confused.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
I mean, yeah, I think I just don't think things
are really gonna I'm not really what she's looking for.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
What does that mean? Because I don't know. I mean,
I think maybe you are, because she's calling us and saying, hey,
I like this guy. It was a great first date.
It was unlike other dates I've been on. I want
to see him again. So what what is your take? Yeah,
I mean I mean.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Is that she's a lesbian and that she's not in
the guys, And so I don't know why she called
you guys.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
That's your take or that's like she did she say
that to you? Like she did? She talk about the
WNBA a lot, Like I mean, what you know, I
guess I don't understand, Like, what what is it that
set you off? No?
Speaker 3 (04:32):
I mean like we were we were sitting and talking,
I mean, like you know, and it was a good
time at first, like you know, we were you know,
we met on an app and we went and got
drinks and we were hanging out. And then she was
talking about how like she's bisexual and stuff, and I mean,
you know, okay, pretty common knowledge that being bisexual isn't real,
Like it's just what people say when they're not ready
(04:54):
to like fully come out.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Well well, and therein lies the problem. Is it common
knowledge that that's not real?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
I mean, because you can't really like like both a
genders equally, like you definitely one way for the other.
Like and you know, she made it very obvious that
she leans more towards women.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Did she now okay, because I think you can. I
think people do like both, and I think that's something
that happens regularly. Let me bring Melissa in. I forgot
to mention that, Melissa. So you brought up on the
date that you like men and women, and he's now
he now believes that you favor women even though you
were on a date with a man.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Oh my god, I cannot believe this is why you
ghosted me.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Are you serious?
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Like most guys think it's hot, So I don't.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
I don't really like No, I don't. I don't think
that's the way to think of it either. But so, okay,
so you told him that you you date both genders
on this date.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Yeah, I swim pickens out here.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
I told you. Oh wait, that's why you're bisexual. Right,
So so i'm you're just low on choice.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
So you decided to be closeted.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Well, I don't think she's closeted because she's rather vocal
about it. Yeah, I mean I have there are a
lot of problems here. I have a lot of issues.
One whether or not you believe in this at all,
Two that whether she said it, Three why it is?
I mean, according to you, it's like lack of lack
(06:26):
of inventory is, but I think it's a little more
than whatever. Okay does engaged. Why why, Melissa is he's
getting the impression that you favor one, Like, why is
his takeaway that you like women more than men, but
yet you're obviously interested in seeing him again. Yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
I am by means you like both genders.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
You're open, Okay, all right, so she's open, and so
she's in this case very open once to be open
to year.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Well, that's lack of commitment to me, and she has
told me that, like, she's just low on choices, and
so I'm not here to either be cheated on later
down the road for a women or to even feel
like I'm just like your backup short. I'm just a
duty feta on the street where you're like, oh my god,
finally I found.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
One, Like I don't want to be good one.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Okay, I have five standards, That's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
I'm so confused. There are so many problems here. She
liked him though, so she likes bart Let's just get
for the benefit of the doubt for one second and
assume that she just likes everybody, and so she liked you,
So what difference does it make if she also I mean, look, Noah,
you probably have an ex girlfriend. Does she look like denty?
Called to Melissa. I mean, again, these aren't the same thing.
But I just mean everyone likes what they like, and
(07:44):
and I may like one thing in one person and
one thing in another person. So I mean, in this case,
she's interested in both men and women, she says, And
you happen to be a man and she's interested in you.
So why do you automatically assume that she would leave
you for a woman, Because when you don't, you don't
have a reason. You just you're just a little close
minded about this.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
No, no, no, it's not that I'm closed minded, And it's that,
you know, it's just something that people say when they're
not ready to like fully come out of it, come
out as being a lesbian or being gad.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
That's true. I think there are people who like both.
But you, okay, look, I'm not going to change this
guy's mine. So Noah, you don't want to go out
with her again? No, okay, Melissa, I don't. I don't
know that I fully understand your position either. However, this guy,
this guy doesn't believe in what you do. You just
say I made the best man or woman win her heart.
I hope you win it. That's what I'm saying. But
(08:38):
it's supposed to be a little more than that, I think,
like real connection and investment. But I don't.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
I don't just giving up my men because I had
some bad ones and now you're just gonna try out women.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
No one doesn't believe in any of this. Melissa, just
trying things. I think maybe we all need to figure
some things out and then, you know, maybe get back
together at another time or maybe never. But look, melisten
to it. Thank you, Thank you both for this, whatever
this was, and I in yeah, and I wish you
both the best of love. Thank you,
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