Worst Advice You've Gotten!

Fred asks what's the worst advice you've ever gotten!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Wait, so does someone give you specifically bad advice?

Speaker 2 (00:02):
Kiki?

Speaker 1 (00:02):
When you asked the question, what is the worst advice
someone's given you?

Speaker 3 (00:06):
No, I just wanted to know what what like from
you guys, what was the worst advice you've gotten?

Speaker 1 (00:11):
Because I'm curious, like where did this come from? Because
you wrote today you wrote on our little thing. Yes,
you wrote, just curious, what is the worst advice that
somebody has given you? So I'm wondering where where did
this come from?

Speaker 2 (00:19):
Oh? I was just literally just curious.

Speaker 1 (00:21):
Oh you were just curious. Yeah, so someone didn't say, hey,
you know you, you know you should do you should?
You should go work at the Polkar station. You should
you be great over there.

Speaker 3 (00:30):
People give me wild advice all the time, but I don't.
I don't take it serious, you know, Like I don't
even take good advice serious. Actually, that's my biggest problem
in life.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
I'll just be doing stuff.

Speaker 3 (00:41):
You know, Cayla told me a year ago to get
my student loans in order, and here we are. You know,
Jason has told me to give my parking passes together,
renew my sticker on my car. So people give me
great advice. I don't even take that serious. But I
was curious just to know what bad advice have you gotten?

Speaker 2 (00:57):
And did you try it?

Speaker 1 (00:58):
Oh? Because I was hoping if somebody had given you advice,
we could make fun of them, if you could tell
me who it was and we could just we could
cloud on them. Right now, can you guys, think off
the top of your head of any bad advice you've
been given?

Speaker 2 (01:08):
No, follow your dreams, that one and your heart. You
know what I'm saying, follow.

Speaker 1 (01:13):
Your heart, your heart, and pay the bills.

Speaker 2 (01:17):
Unfortunately, neither do your dreams.

Speaker 1 (01:19):
Because I was hoping that you were going to tell
me something that really bad that we could do we
could make fun of, but you were just well no,
I mean, I just I don't know where that comes on.
I don't know how that just comes to your mind.

Speaker 2 (01:30):
Man, I just put on that sheet, like come on,
Like I'm just driving.

Speaker 1 (01:33):
Down the road. I'm like, man, I wonder what the
worst advice anybody has ever given? Fred is? Man? I wonder, Oh, yes,
maybe it was maybe was taking this job. I don't
know what was the worst. Was the worst advice anyone's
ever given? That's a random thing to think about. If
you didn't weren't given bad advice.

Speaker 3 (01:49):
You know, because I'm at this stage in my life
where I have to make decisions that are going to
determine the rest of my life. At this point, like
I gotta get serious. I gotta stop playing around. So
I'm like, you know, who can I go to for
good advice? Because when you go to someone for advice,
you're looking at their life. You're like, mmm, I could
go to you, but then I'm looking at some of
the decisions you have made.

Speaker 2 (02:10):
Maybe not the right person.

Speaker 3 (02:11):
So it just made me start thinking about, like, I know,
people give advice all the time, whether it's solicitor or not.

Speaker 2 (02:17):
Have you gotten bad advice?

Speaker 1 (02:18):
You should probably ask a person for advice who's in
the position that you want to be a come on,
that's the one, you know.

Speaker 3 (02:25):
But then you sometimes you do that and people they
are worried about you being in a position they don't
want to give you a real advice.

Speaker 2 (02:31):
And that's real.

Speaker 3 (02:32):
And a lot of people don't want to be transparent about.

Speaker 2 (02:34):
What they did to get where they are.

Speaker 1 (02:35):
That's messed up, that's just that's bad karma. Yes, I'll
tell you what I did, not much. I just showed
up for some reason. They thought I should stay. No,
that's if you're gatekeeping advice on how you got to
where you are because you're afraid you're going to get replaced.
And that's because I don't think it has anything to
do with that. Like I could tell you all the

(02:56):
steps that, you know, whatever. In my case, I could
tell you all the steps I took to get here,
and then it's a lot of hard work and some
luck and so there you go. And you could do
that too, and then you wind up. I don't think
it necessarily means you're gonna wind up sitting right here.

Speaker 3 (03:11):
Yeah, I mean, And to be honest, this all came
really came when I think about it now, it came
from my trip to Hawaii. I was with an aunt
who was giving out a lot of relationship advice to
the single girls who were on the trip.

Speaker 2 (03:24):
And I don't know if it was some of the best.

Speaker 3 (03:28):
You know, you also have people who would give advice,
but they're speaking from their own experience, which may be
a place of hurt or you know, bitterness, or you know,
different places.

Speaker 4 (03:39):
So I'm just like, do you think married people should
be able if they've been married for a long time,
should be able to give advice on dating like nowadays. See,
it's no, it's so different, yeah, because I feel like
people who have been married for twenty years are like, well,
here's what you gotta do, and I'm like, how.

Speaker 2 (03:53):
Do you know?

Speaker 1 (03:54):
Right?

Speaker 3 (03:54):
You know, like your man didn't have an Instagram, right,
your man.

Speaker 2 (03:59):
Didn't have a great cell phone. It was yeah, yeah,
the snapchat. You know, Papa went out for work the
whole day. You don't know where he was at exactly,
and and you didn't need to know. Right now, I'm
checking locations. It is different out here.

Speaker 1 (04:12):
Well I've said this before too, but you also have
to remove emotion from advice because you know, if there
are people close to me who've given me career advice,
and that's based on the value that they perceive in me,
that's that's that's how much they care about me. But
they don't have any perspective as to the industry, right,
so they don't you know, again, my mom, if you
call my mom right now, get her out of bed
in Arizona, she would tell you that I should make

(04:33):
more than Ryan Seacrest. The company sadly disagrees with that.
And yeah, I try to use that in my current negotiations.
I was like, but my mom says that I should
make or you know, your friend is like, you're the
best part of that. I've said this before, but it's
you know, you're the best part of the show, or
you're this, or you're that you should do this or
you should do that, or you should hold out or whatever,
and it's like, yeah, but and that may be all

(04:54):
that may be based on what they feel about you
and your what you know, know your value. That's that
that's dangerous advice sometimes because yes, you should definitely advocate
for yourself and you should know what you're worth, but
that's also relative to what everyone else is worth too,
and like there are so many variables. So when it's like,
well I'm worth this, it's like, but where did you

(05:16):
come up with that? Like maybe, okay, well then I
guess maybe hopefully somebody will give you that, because that's
not necessarily what is available right now, So I guess
maybe that's it can be hard to take advice from
people who love you. Oh yes, because they want more
for they want they want everything for you, and of
course you want that too. But then if you go
on with that with no perspective as to like what's

(05:38):
really going on? Then you can wind up getting in
big trouble.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 3 (05:42):
For instance, the same aunt who I love to death,
she told me. I was like, you know, when I
get back to Chicago, like I got to go to
Latla and stuff, and she was like, well, they need
to send a driver.

Speaker 2 (05:51):
You don't have a driver.

Speaker 5 (05:52):
Oh yeah, it's me.

Speaker 2 (05:54):
Yeah for one, so so serious, Like what do you
like what? They don't get it? Yeah, they don't.

Speaker 1 (06:02):
Where are you coming up with that? Because you saw
like on TMZ that you know, I don't know Brad
Pitt has a driver because they don't think of us like.

Speaker 3 (06:08):
That, right, No, Like you should think of me like
that because you love me in your mine, right you know.

Speaker 1 (06:14):
Well, my best friend says this like oh all the
best friends. Oh your best friend? Cool?

Speaker 5 (06:19):
You know, like family, like your foreign family. Who thinks
I should have my own radio show all that? I'm like, first,
so I don't want that. And number two like I'm
very happy where I am, So like why are we
diminishing what I'm doing?

Speaker 2 (06:28):
You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 5 (06:29):
They think like I should be some star and lights
and I'm like that's not what I would want to know.
I'm working towards something bigger this and.

Speaker 1 (06:36):
If you want your own radio show, you should have
your own radio show. But it's like, you know, it
doesn't work like that. It's not like, well, I'm gonna
have my own radio show and then I'm instantly going
to be super wealthy.

Speaker 5 (06:44):
But it's not what everybody wants, you know either, when
you hit the nail on the head though, because like
it does feel like, okay, well, what's wrong with.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
Where I'm at? Like why are you offering.

Speaker 4 (06:52):
Different suggestions of where I should go or what you
want from me? When like I'm really proud that I
got here.

Speaker 2 (06:58):
Isn't that enough? I'm like no, but like I'm happy.

Speaker 1 (07:01):
I've seen this industry all the time. It's like I'm
gonna tell I'm gonna show them, And it's like, okay, well,
I mean show them, I guess, but show me.

Speaker 2 (07:13):
You better know how you're gonna show them, right.

Speaker 1 (07:18):
Right, Like what is that based on? Like if you do,
you do, you know it?

Speaker 3 (07:22):
Right?

Speaker 1 (07:23):
I mean, Okay, let's have a plan first, right, That's
what I mean. It's like I want I want everything
for everybody too, But yeah, maybe that's maybe that's the worst.
Some of the worst advice could be from the people
that are the closest to you. Look at this, I'm
just full of it. This morning, I was really hoping
you were gonna be like girl, somebody told me to
do this and it was a bad idea. Someone told

(07:45):
me to pour hot water on friend this morning because
it was a trend on tiktoks. Well it maybe depends
on the day, but yeah, okay, Well there you go.
There's there's your good advice today. Well two blogs next
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