May 26, 2026 • 57 mins
We are talking with Registered Nurse Janice about Respite Care on The Bev Johnson Show on WDIA Radio.
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And welcome in to w d I A the Bev
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Back in the house with us, it's miss Janice Williams,
registered and faith community nurse from JOW Consulting. She's coaching
care Coordinator and long tear Care.
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We'll be talking with are registered in faith community of
nurse Miss Janis Williams with me next right here on.
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W d I.
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A welcome back to wd I. A good morning, good morning.
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It is a beautiful yeah, Tuesday morning in Memphis, Tennessee,
on this May twenty sixth, twenty twenty six. Enjoy this
fabulous day to day you geminize. We're about to wrap
up the month of May.
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Yeah.
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Well, back in the hand with us to give us
good information is our registered.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
And faith community nurse.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
She'll be so good celebrating thirty years in nursing and
fifteen years working with family care givers in her she
her business is JOW Consulting, Coaching, care coordination and long
term care planning. That's for our first time listeners, and
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once again, welcome back, miss Jannis Williams.
Speaker 7 (05:38):
How you doing, sustain doing outstanding? Thanks for having me.
I'm excited about today.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
I love it. I'm gonna have to use that outstanding.
I like that Janet outstanding. That's right, ma'am.
Speaker 5 (05:53):
I'm excited about today. I'm glad to have you back.
For our listeners who are just hearing Janets for the
first time. She is an author as a book book
Caring and Understanding Respite, Caregiving and Understanding Respite, and that
is so so good. So let's let's get started so
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we can get to talk about But before we get started,
do you want to say anything?
Speaker 3 (06:18):
No, I'm just I'm just grateful. I'm grateful.
Speaker 7 (06:23):
I can really say that, you know, when people share
say you've been a nurse for so many years, But
really it's the family caregiving part that really makes me excited.
I have met so many wonderful people and it has
really blessed my life. I feel like that is my
assignment in this world, and it just it's just a
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blessing to hear that, and it makes me reflect on
all the years. You know, I actually started in a
non profit caregivers respite, which I meant most people. And
I used to look at the pictures Miss Johnson on
the conferences that we used to have, and or either
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I would meet somebody in the street and they say, well,
you know I came to this conference, and I said, yeah,
you came to the conference in twenty fourteen when we.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Were at X y Z place.
Speaker 7 (07:26):
And so I never really forget many people unless they've
changed their hair color or something like that. But I
have met so many wonderful people and got a chance
to be with them in a very crucial part of
their lives.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
And for that, I'm grateful. I'm grateful. Good for you. Well,
I'm glad I have you back.
Speaker 5 (07:47):
Well, let's start to talk about some things that I
know you want to talk about things. And first of all,
let's talk about before we get to that first care.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
What is respite care?
Speaker 8 (08:00):
People?
Speaker 3 (08:00):
You know, we hear that word a lot, respite.
Speaker 7 (08:03):
Yes, And so first of all, I would say, what
the definition of respite is. Respite is a break, It's
a delay, it's a reprieve. And so any time that
you need a break, you hear people say, well I
had to take a respite.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (08:22):
And so respite means really break. And for the family
caregiver it may mean a little bit more. It may
mean break for them, break for their duties, break for
their assignment, break so they can do something for themselves
as they care for their loved one. And so respite
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care in a professional aspect, it means, actually, a provider
will come in and take care of your loved one
while you go get a break or you take care
of yourself. In other words, they're going to assume the
response stabilities of care that you give while you're somewhere else.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
And so respite means just that.
Speaker 7 (09:08):
And you're gonna hear the word respite in a whole
lot of different areas as far as businesses and organizations.
You may hear respite care in home health, you may
hear respite care in hospice. You may hear respite care
in a dull daycare. All of that means is just
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what I just said. The professional person is going to
assume the responsibility of caring for your loved one.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
While you go get a break. You just don't have
to go get a break. You might have to go
to work.
Speaker 5 (09:40):
And I'm glad you said, James before you continue this,
meam that when we hear about resp but also I
think people get respit and hospice confused.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
Oh yeah, okay, you know.
Speaker 6 (09:54):
A lot of it.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
And I've heard some people well respite is it in
hospit So those are two different.
Speaker 7 (10:00):
So hospice care is in the life care okay, And
so hospice all of what they do is geared towards
assisting a person who may not have a long time
to live, their prognosis is poor. Hospice also has palliative care,
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so palaticative well, they have into life care and then
they also have palliative care.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
And palliative care is a is care.
Speaker 7 (10:33):
Given to a person they might not have They might
have a disease process that really there's no cure for.
There might be different stages of it. And really they
might do palliative care for symptom management. They might come
in and manage your symptoms. So hospice agencies do palliative
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care in the life care, but.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
They still use respite.
Speaker 7 (11:00):
They still do respit care and all that absolutely, and
in that instance, they may come in and.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
They may use a facility.
Speaker 7 (11:11):
Okay, they might arrange a person to go to a
facility for so many days while their caregiver gets a break,
while their caregiver goes on.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Vacation.
Speaker 7 (11:24):
So a lot of businesses, health care organizations may do
respite care respit care. Basically, if you're a family caregiver,
you gotta write this down. You gotta know what respit means,
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because you know, miss Johnson, you'd be surprised how many
people that I meet that are actively caring for the
loved one who've never.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Heard of the term respite. And that's really why I
wrote the book.
Speaker 7 (11:58):
The book is called Caregiving and unders Standing respite and
respite it does mean they break and I and I
want to be clear, there's two different signs to respit.
Respite is just what I just said professionally, that professional
caregivers will come in and take care of your loved one.
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But I really came from respite as far as what
respites does for a family caregiver, because they know they
I need to let them know that they need a
break and if they get a break, they can make it.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
If they don't get a break, they can't make it.
But they must have respite. And I wrote it.
Speaker 7 (12:42):
I wrote the book from a caregiving a family caregiving perspective,
because I didn't want you to think that, oh, you
had to be you had to go on a cruise
for respite. No, you just need to get a break,
and whatever their break looks like for you, you have
to get it so you can reset at your mind,
recharge your thoughts, get a little rest, and come back
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in that same situation. Because we can't take you out
of your caregiving situation. But if you get a break,
if you get their rest, but you can make it.
Speaker 5 (13:13):
Because a lot of times we have janus that a
lot of people are taking care of loved ones and
then and I've heard I know this has happened, and
I'm sure you they end up getting sick and.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
Some of them have died. Right there is Somhow is
it and so important that you get some rest?
Speaker 9 (13:38):
It?
Speaker 6 (13:40):
You know what I know?
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Let me just go back a little bit.
Speaker 7 (13:42):
Yeah, please, I do want people to understand that our
family caregivers are the unspoken workforce in this country. They
share enough for jobs and they don't get paid, they
don't get the training, they don't get time off. And
and let me tell you, if that family caregiver.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
Was not there, then.
Speaker 7 (14:07):
This word will fall apart because they're the ones that
do all the navigating. They're the ones that are first responders.
They're the ones that are doing.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
I just talked to a lady the other day. She's
making so many phone calls.
Speaker 7 (14:26):
In the care for her loved one is just unmissionable
information services.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
This change, that change, that appointment.
Speaker 7 (14:37):
Some figure out why this was denied, why they don't
have this where the medicine is what the changes are.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
Who can come stay with him?
Speaker 7 (14:48):
You know, it's just really that workforce that does not
get paid. We could not make it without. In fact,
I always share this story.
Speaker 5 (14:58):
I may have shared it before and that's okay, but
someone's listening, this man who's probably listening to you.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
For the first time, you know, share it well.
Speaker 7 (15:06):
I had been a nurse for I know, over ten
years before I even heard what the word respite was.
I was working one night and I saw a hospice
agency come in the hospital and they said. The young
lady said, yeah, that's gonna be my patient because I'm
they're here for respite.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
And I was like, what is that word?
Speaker 7 (15:26):
And I was a nurse a long time before I
heard that, and then things started happening after then I
went to another patient's room and I came in and
that loved one was sitting down on the couch and
then I was trying to give her husband some medication.
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And when I was trying to give it to him,
he wouldn't take it. And so she got up and
showed me. She said, if you put the peel right
here and put the water right here and tilt his
head a little bit like this, then he'll take the medicine.
And he did it just like she said. And so
for the remainder of the shift she was there. And
so I got off work and I went home.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
Then when I came back, she was still there. Wow.
So it is a job that you.
Speaker 7 (16:19):
Choose to show up for a family caregiver, and without that,
you know where would we be. And I want to
just say, listen, if you got somebody in your family
that's caring for somebody, show up for them. You might
not want to care for the loved one or you
might not know even how, but show up for their
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family caregiver, bring them something to eat, see if they
want you to just sit down with their person while
you while they.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
Go in the back and get a nap, or maybe
if they run to the store or so.
Speaker 7 (16:54):
What you put inside, what you put and do for
them is strategy, you know, it make it decreases all
the statistics to say that they will suffer burnout. You know,
stress that's unchecked turns into burnout, yes, And so when
you do that, then you are really decreasing their risks
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for burnout. You're decreasing their risk for other things and
as well as anything that has to do with mortality,
because you know, many people are gonna quit their jobs
and do other things, cut their hours, and might not
go to the doctor themselves. And so shout out, you know,
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to all the family caregivers. I actually just had a
brother that was sick and he just passed. But let
me send a shout out to Brenda.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
She took care of that man, and so.
Speaker 7 (17:58):
You know, and I look at her and she might
not have wanted to leave so much, but she needed
a break, yea. And for that I would say that
even if you are caring for someone, If you are
hearing me and you're caring for someone, no, you don't
want a break. You don't want to leave that person.
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But let me just tell you you have to take
a break because it is a job and we're depending
on you like never before.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
As you see.
Speaker 7 (18:34):
The United States, different cuts on different things, and it's
so many things that affect health care. But if you
are a family caregiver, figure out how you can get
a break. And let me tell you, it is not
always your family's job. I mean they might not just
come up to you and say, hey, so and so
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needs a break. This person needs a break.
Speaker 5 (19:01):
Because a lot of times janis some family members they
don't want to be bothered to do.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
That will and it's bad because they don't just tell
it too.
Speaker 5 (19:10):
They don't want to help their sister or their brother
who's taking care of mother or father or auntie. You
have those kinds of people who don't want to do it,
but they don't understand that caregiver.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
They can get burned out.
Speaker 7 (19:26):
And you know what, I I on purpose really don't
get hung up with that. Okay, why and because the
family caregiver can't get hung up with that. They will
lose too much time, okay, in navigation and sleep and
worry and fret, in fear and anxiety if they focus
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on what they don't have. And I'm here to tear you,
I want you. You know, things are what they are.
And here's the thing, Ms. Johnson, what you just mentioned,
not all the time can you figure out. So you
have to redirect and focus on what that family caregiver needs.
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And more than often, it doesn't always have to come
from family, but it has to come from somewhere. And
that's reason why I want people not only to get
a break, but to get strategy and to get understanding.
One thing is that you are actually working a job.
And if you don't understand all the logistics, just talk
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to someone who had been making a whole lot of
phone calls. If you don't understand the right words to say,
it's important. If you don't understand where you can get help,
that's important. So really all of your energy has to
be focused on how you're going to do this successfully.
And so you're right, circumstances come up. But if I
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would say anything, let's redirect your focus because now you
have to take care of their low one and take
care of you.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
And you absolutely correct, You are absolutely correct.
Speaker 5 (21:09):
If you've just tuned in this morning, we are talking
with our registered nurse and faith and community nurse, Miss
Janice Williams.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
She is also a coach to help.
Speaker 5 (21:22):
You on that care coordination and long term care planning
and talking about respite and caregiving.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
If you have a question for Miss Williams.
Speaker 5 (21:34):
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Speaker 3 (23:01):
Welcome back to w D I A.
Speaker 5 (23:04):
We are talking with our registered and faith community nurse
Janice Williams. She's also a coach in caregiving and long
term care and respite care.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
Jannis. We're going to our phone lines to talk to
some of our listeners. Thank y'all for waiting. Hi, Renee
har Renee Hi, Renee. You there, Okay, maybe I lost Renee.
Speaker 9 (23:31):
We'll go down next one, will I, William, Hey, that
beautiful Belle. Good to talk to you.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
Good talking to you too, William. How are you this day?
Speaker 9 (23:42):
Doing great on a rainy day? And so that's good,
great on a rainy day, right, And your guest, she's
very important for the health of the whole community because
one person affects another. What I wanted to ask her was,
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so you know they the psychology of the person after
one of their loved one of their the one they
were caring for, passes. So if they you don't have
spent years, almost every day caring for a person and
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then that person moves on, Uh, what's the psychology of
that person? Do they let the hair down or do
they go into depression?
Speaker 5 (24:34):
You know?
Speaker 9 (24:34):
What what happens with those people who have spent so
much time and effort and love, uh in caring for others.
Speaker 3 (24:46):
That's a great question.
Speaker 7 (24:47):
And uh, mister William, if I would say this from
from the standpoint of somebody who has facilitated a support
group for many years, many sessions, I know this. At
one point, you don't stop caring overnight. In fact, many
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people I've seen over the years would come to like
events about caregivings poor group, but they don't stop coming.
They they're really looking for a soft place to land.
So you don't stop caring overnight. And as well as
you know, with grief, you gonna have, you know, all
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the symptoms, you know, depression, denial, anger, and so you
might not even see that all at once and all
in one month and all in one year, but they're
gonna go through it.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
So it really takes time. And for people who.
Speaker 7 (25:53):
See or on the outside looking in at that family caregiver,
you just have to continue to give them a soft
place land, So you just don't stop caring overnight.
Speaker 3 (26:03):
And it takes time.
Speaker 9 (26:06):
Well, thank you, and God bless you and your family.
Speaker 3 (26:09):
Thank you sir. And also it's okay to get some
professional help.
Speaker 5 (26:14):
Yeah, you know that you're gonna need it, William, because
a lot of people and you, right, Jennis, they they
they they've taken care of these loved ones and then
they didn't have a life. And and and it's okay
to seek out some kind of counseling to get yourself
back together, so to get you going again.
Speaker 9 (26:35):
Absolutely absolutely okay, all right, well, I thank you and
I love y'all.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
Thank you, Thank you William. We appreciate you. Hi Reneehi, Renee.
Speaker 11 (26:50):
I had the phone on.
Speaker 12 (26:51):
I heard you, but I'm like, now you lose me, Okay.
Speaker 5 (26:56):
Renee, I'm glad I have you back. Yes, you have
a question for miss Williams.
Speaker 8 (27:03):
Yes, I do.
Speaker 12 (27:05):
I have a mother that's been down for eight years,
and she had five girls, and I was the POA
for the first four years, and I did a lot
of the caregiving myself until I had to go in
for back surgery and quit my job. And now we're
looking for help. One of my sisters quit and I
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hear what the woman was saying about how some of
your siblings just they gonna stop caring a night.
Speaker 6 (27:35):
They just need you know.
Speaker 12 (27:38):
I don't know if there's too much frustration and chaos
going on, Okay, and comes to it because people are
working and trying to get that skinuy in and take
care of mothers. So I've been looking for help for
the last five years, and so I just want to
know some information on how to get help. Get help
because I live in well, she lived in Tempton County, Nellington, Okay,
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and I just want to know how can I get
some help for her outside her daughters, and she'd be
accepting to it because the mother is stubborn, the mother
get on her daughters.
Speaker 5 (28:13):
Yeah yeah, yeah, Well you know, let me say this, Renee,
and I let Janis answer you that she can have
her daughters and help as well. You understand what I'm
saying because I'm mist thinking. I'm going back to my
auntie who was sick and she was bedridden, but my cousin,
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her daughter worked, but she and she took care of
my auntie, but she also had some people that would
come in also to help her out. Because you're gonna
need that. And Jennie, you know, I don't know the information.
Tell miss Renee, you know where can she get information
and things?
Speaker 7 (28:56):
So Miss Renee, first of all, I'm gonna talk, but
I do want you to email me your information if
you go to Jannis dash Williams dot com and just
you know, put your information in and I want to
maybe get you on my e email list, give you
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more information that way, maybe you come to the boot camp.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
But but going back to your question, because it's kind
of open ended. You know, as a.
Speaker 7 (29:25):
Professional person, I would ask what kind, well, what kind
of care does she need? And and that's the most
important part because a level of care changes over the years,
and so you would really need to.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
Know what type of care she needs.
Speaker 7 (29:42):
And then we started out by talking about respite care
and if I would finish kind of that and then
pivot into what you're what you're actually saying, and so
respee care, respite care. Actually I told you what it meant,
but sometimes we don't have access to respite And what
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I mean by that is that all the professional people
that will come and give you a break, unless you've
got the right kind of payer source, then you might
not have access to the respite or the care. So
first of all, we're gonna find out what kind of
level of care your mother needs. Then we're gonna see
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what you have access to. Then we're gonna try to
find out what you don't have access to and what
we can actually create because understanding just those key, because
you know, I really couldn't just answer you point blank,
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but that is the system that I would go through.
And because I don't know what you've tried, I don't
know what you have, I don't know what you need,
and all of those are important to answer the question.
But now, so that's what I would do. I would
find out what kind of level of care your mother has.
I mean is I would find out what she has
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access to and then find out what we can actually
tap in to to to create a safe environment that
she can thrive in and get the things that she
needs so she can keep living safely at home.
Speaker 5 (31:24):
Yes, se Renee, and keep listening and we will give
out Jenesis email again.
Speaker 3 (31:29):
Did you get it? We'll get it. We'll just say
it again so you'll have it.
Speaker 11 (31:33):
And Janet dash William dot com.
Speaker 3 (31:35):
That's it, sir, that's it.
Speaker 7 (31:37):
You got you and miss Renee, Miss Renee, I want
to thank you for everything you have done for your
mother because, as I mentioned before, you're the unspoken workforce.
If you weren't in the situation, your your family or
whoever is caring for her now is not in the situation, where.
Speaker 3 (31:55):
Would your mother be. So thank you for the for
the for the maid of mine right to show up
to work every day.
Speaker 7 (32:04):
You know, sometimes we don't want to go to work,
and sometimes we don't want to go into what we faced,
and that's how we have that's why we have to
celebrate the people who are showing up in this aspect.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Because they're really doing big things. And thank you, miss Renee.
Speaker 12 (32:20):
I thank you, and I can be and my sister
because I had to stop and just do one day.
But they studied working and coming there, but I'm just
doing one day. And they were seven days a week.
You know, we're there from five in even to seventh
the next day. So we stayed nice with her.
Speaker 11 (32:41):
Everything.
Speaker 12 (32:42):
So yeah, we just like you said, we just need
a break. We need somebody to come from eight to five.
But like you said, you need to know all the
preliminaries of the finances and.
Speaker 6 (32:53):
What she actually needs. But she really do need.
Speaker 12 (32:57):
Control care, he needs.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Yes, ma'am.
Speaker 12 (33:01):
Okay, thank you, Renee, thank you, Dan.
Speaker 5 (33:05):
You welcome, thank you. Bye bye, w d I A
let me get these callers. Hold on, y'all, hold on,
hold on hi.
Speaker 6 (33:12):
Daryl, Yes, hello, Hi, How are you? I'm good? How
you doing?
Speaker 5 (33:19):
I'm doing wonderful. What do you say you have a
question for Miss Williams?
Speaker 1 (33:26):
Yes, well, yes, good morning, Miss Williams. This morning I
was out on the golf course, to be honest, and
one of my ex coworkers crossed my mind, and so
I called her. I knew she had she's a younger,
younger lady. She she has taken a new position as
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a supervisor, but she has a mother that's ill and
I was calling to check on her, and I was
calling to check on her mother, and she told me
that her mother was not doing very well well, and
so we went to talking about, you know, different things
because I had been a caretaker in the past for
my father, my grandmother, and my stepmother, and I noticed
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a lot of responsibilities that it comes with that, and a.
Speaker 6 (34:16):
Lot of times it kind of falls on on one
family member. And I was asking her, you know who
was kind of I know she has brothers and sisters,
but she said that most of the stuff was following
on her. So it was really kind of refreshing when
I turned on the radio this morning and heard what
your topic was. So I tried to call her and
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ask her to listen to the radio, but she was
unable to listen to the radio because she's a new
supervisor and she's in the process of doing evaluations that
need to be completed in a couple of days. So
she told me to get the information and I'm just
I took some notes and I just wanted to make
sure that I had the contact information as Janet dash
(35:01):
Williams dot com.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
That's correct, Darryl.
Speaker 5 (35:04):
And also be listening because miss Williams is going to
be telling you about a boot camp that she gives
this information. She does this once a month and she's
gonna be telling you about that that's coming up June
fourth at the Great Hall in Germantown.
Speaker 3 (35:19):
From nine to one. And what I understand that people
have been there.
Speaker 5 (35:23):
Miss Williams gets some good information for people to have
good questions. So keep listening and we're going to give
you more information. But you do have the correct her
correct email.
Speaker 6 (35:33):
All right, thank you, thank you so much, Thank you.
Speaker 3 (35:36):
Sir, Darryl. I appreciate you. W D I a high caller.
I'm doing I'm doing well, and you.
Speaker 9 (35:48):
All right, this is.
Speaker 3 (35:50):
Hey, Norma, good hearing from you, Norma.
Speaker 11 (35:55):
You know what this was a yes, bless to day.
I told you and I started. I listened to get
that cost all day long in one o one. But uh,
I don't caregiving for my daughter. I don't know if
you heard the story, but I told her say that
she had for to stay for Tom cast about I
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guess you's went over a month now the radio. I
was sharing it with the listeners.
Speaker 12 (36:20):
Uh huh.
Speaker 11 (36:20):
I didn't know if you listened her thirty or not.
But our her caregiver is a twenty four seventh job,
and I was just gonna try to put a little
into it on what I was going through, what I'm
going through because she lives with and it's it's really
no problem. I'm doing it because I have to do it,
and she's my daughter and I love her, but I
don't have that extra help that she was talking about
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that I do have family to come to give me
a break. And she's not dead or anything, but she
is very sick. She has a trick and she has
a feeding too, but she's getting At first, I had
to do everything, and they tried to make me a nurse.
I was going to the nurse in a week in
seven days when we was over, and I told all
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that that is crappy. Didn't need to they learn over
the years. I said, I can't do it, but I did.
But I can do it, and I'm doing what I
can do. But it's it's it's a job.
Speaker 5 (37:17):
It's a challenge, Okay, well, God bless you Normal and
take care of yourself.
Speaker 3 (37:23):
Okay, you want to say anything to.
Speaker 8 (37:25):
You, will I do?
Speaker 11 (37:29):
They have that you often job? What she's talking about
that where you can get a break, people come in or.
Speaker 3 (37:36):
You know, any places in Arkansas, Miss Williams.
Speaker 7 (37:42):
There again, Miss Normal, if you would, I just need
to probably talk to you to get a little bit
more specific. But first of all, I'm gonna thank you
too for taking care of your baby like you doing.
Speaker 3 (37:56):
And I really appreciate that. It's ma'am.
Speaker 11 (37:59):
I'm glad I'm able to do it.
Speaker 3 (38:01):
Absolutely.
Speaker 11 (38:01):
I'm seventy time and she's fifty things. Yeah, but I mean,
I mean do health to seventy time, thank God.
Speaker 8 (38:07):
And she is true.
Speaker 11 (38:09):
She just turned pitture past few days ago and she's
doing a lot of stuff for us left now. But
like I said, they tried to make me a nurse
in seven day. They was crabbingrself so fast till dad,
I said, I ain't mad in the school, right, And
you don't want to just take on being with a
trade and a feed me to me, you don't know
what you're doing. I've never done it before. And they
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were just crabbing in crabbing it into me. But now
it's coming more simple to it because I'm around it.
But I was just I've cried over there some nights
because I just wasn't sure that I was gonna be
able to do it, and that was doing the right thing.
But God, he's seen, you see me good, and she's
gonna be fine.
Speaker 3 (38:48):
Absolutely, And I thank you for taking a call.
Speaker 7 (38:51):
You welcome norma, thank you, thank anybody I could say something,
it's normal. You got it going on, because that what
you just describe happens more than you know. What you're experiencing,
miss normal. Is what you're doing for your daughter is
not only caregiving, but it's called complex care.
Speaker 3 (39:14):
Complex care is really.
Speaker 7 (39:15):
The kind of care that we would expect a nurse
to do, or a nursing agency or somebody coming out
to the house to do, but now the family caregiver
is doing that. And so complex care, by definition, is
a complex care provide specialized, coordinated, person centered support to
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an individual with significant health needs, including multiple chronic illnesses, disabilities,
or high risk conditions. And that's what you're doing when
you have a trait that's a high risk condition, that's
a chronic condition, that's a complex care situation. Everybody needs
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to be trained on. If they're taking care of a
person with a track, they have to be trained on that.
If you have a pig tube, that is a chronic condition,
a complex care need, and and that's what a person does, you.
Speaker 3 (40:12):
Have to get trained on that.
Speaker 7 (40:13):
So I really understand what you meant when you said
they trying to make you a nurse, and in the
way you are, you're her nurse because you're meeting the
complex care needs, the high the high intensity need of
your daughter. And I'm kind of smiling when you said,
(40:38):
at first I couldn't get it, but now I'm getting it.
And I said, yes, yes, because it always feels like
that because you don't realize, we don't even realize that
we would even have to do stuff like that. But
that's why I'm saying, and that's why I'm really doing
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the whole spill of helping people understand what care looks like,
what they may have to face, and also how to
pay for care.
Speaker 3 (41:09):
You know, miss miss Johnson, you reading.
Speaker 7 (41:12):
My bio and say I do long term care planning
will That's because for me, I was working with just
family caregivers who were going through things and when when
you do that, we're doing it out of reaction because
this came up and that came up. But now I say, yes,
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we're gonna deal with that, but now we can be
more proactive. Now I need for you to look at,
Miss Normal, what kind of insurance you got, so so
we don't repeat a certain cycle to getting you the
things that you may need if you should need it.
And I'm not saying anybody's gonna get sick. We weren't
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expecting you know, your daughter to get sick. We don't expect.
I didn't expect this person gets sick and that person
gets sick. But understanding care is where we need to
be at. And we can do it reactive, yes, but
we can also do it proactive because we have to
have the things that we need to keep our loved
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one safe, to keep you safe, to keep.
Speaker 3 (42:22):
To keep this thing going. So we can we can,
in a.
Speaker 7 (42:25):
Nutshell, have the things that we need proactively. I know
I'm rambling, but I got so excited when she explained
it just like that, because that is what happens. That's
what happens and for her, you know, Miss Normal, I
wish you would email me and maybe we can talk
a little bit more. Yes, that's the thing. People may
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not have access to respit. They might not have access
to this or to that. Now I'm just gonna tell
everybody and everybody's state. There is some type of respite
coalition in every state except for a few states, but
even in Tennessee, and I would have to get you
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the information is normal about Arkansas. But in Tennessee there
is the They used to be called the Tennessee Recipe Coalition. Okay,
now they're called the Tennessee Caregiver Coalition, So shout out
to you all in Nashville.
Speaker 3 (43:22):
But they do respit vouchers, okay.
Speaker 7 (43:26):
And so if you're in Tennessee, you can maybe qualify
for a respit voucher up to six six hundred dollars.
Speaker 3 (43:32):
So here's the thing with that.
Speaker 7 (43:34):
So that's what I'm kind of saying. You know, if
you don't have access on this end, maybe you can
get some type of respite voucher. And I did say
the name of the organization, but they're in every state.
You just have to figure out the name, and that
will help you in a little one a little bit.
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It may not solve everything, but it may get you
a six hour break or a week break or something
like that, but you, as the family caregiver, has to
be intentional about getting a break.
Speaker 3 (44:08):
And I heard you mention that your family helps, and
that's good.
Speaker 7 (44:13):
Be gone for a couple hours, train them, make sure
they understand what she needs. Yes, make sure they understand
everything about the trait, just like you do. But yeah,
intentionally go away for some hours, get or go in
your bedroom for a few hours, get a break. And
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I'm just trying to let you know that if you
don't have access, and if you don't have this, and
if this is not in place, let's created.
Speaker 3 (44:46):
We're giving people the understanding.
Speaker 7 (44:48):
And even mister Daryl, my hat's off to you for
being very concerned about your coworker. And that's what it's
gonna take because many, it's many, it is so many
working family caregivers. It don't even make any sense that
they they might not have access to. What they don't
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have access is to be off the job for eight hours.
Speaker 6 (45:16):
We know that.
Speaker 7 (45:17):
But they may not have access to really come to
certain events like I'm doing or but you do need
to get connected some type of way.
Speaker 3 (45:27):
So mister Darrow, thank you for looking out for her.
Speaker 7 (45:30):
But here's what I would say even to you, you know,
and it might not be for this coworker, but if
there's somebody in your family who is caring take care
of their family caregiver, go see what they need, Go
see if you could just do something for two hours.
Speaker 3 (45:46):
Two hours is huge sometime, you know.
Speaker 7 (45:50):
I don't know if everybody, anybody has been sleep deprived
and they say, well, I was up all night. If
I just get two hours sleep, I feel better, I'm
able to function. And that's what people who say about
night caregiving may may do. Their sleep is interrupted it
sometimes and I apologize for getting.
Speaker 3 (46:09):
So that's worked up. Let me get these other phone calls.
Speaker 8 (46:14):
W D.
Speaker 3 (46:15):
I ain't common man, Hey common man.
Speaker 10 (46:20):
How are you.
Speaker 4 (46:23):
I'm good, everything's good.
Speaker 3 (46:24):
Yes, Williams doing outstanding?
Speaker 7 (46:26):
How are you, sir?
Speaker 4 (46:28):
I'm doing well.
Speaker 6 (46:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (46:30):
I heard you earlier in just a moment ago as well,
when you spoke out and saying, you know, if you
know a caregiver, you know, reach out and you know,
get that caregiver break. I highly agree with that, with
that coming you made because Bill, you know, as I
told y'all before, I cared for my mother for a
short amount of time before she passed, for about a month,
and I learned a lot during their time period. But
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you know, I think I think that people think, well,
somebody's there with that person, somebody's caring for that person,
and everything is okay, and in a lot of cases
everything is probably gets as good as it could be,
but they don't realize the stress and you know, the
tension and everything that's on their caregiver. You know, it's
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very very stressful and like draining, you know, and but
you just have to sustain and you can't you can't
give up, you know, as we always say, and we
know you got to have a lot of patience. But
I would definitely advise anybody, whether you're a relative, a
neighbor of freeing or whatever, if you know somebody's giving
care to somebody, reach out to them and even if
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it's just sitting down talking with them for a litt bit,
or let them take a break or get her nap
or go do something they need to do, like you said,
Miss Williams, because it's very stressful in draining.
Speaker 3 (47:45):
A job here, yeah, absolutely, I'm.
Speaker 4 (47:49):
Yeah, I want to close this here for ms normal,
Miss Williams. If you can correct me if I'm wrong.
Maybe she could reach out to her daughter's insurance company
if she had insurance, and they should be able to
guide her in the direction in terms of getting like
a CNA maybe to come in to assist her or
help her with her daughter.
Speaker 3 (48:08):
Absolutely right, thank you, comming man.
Speaker 4 (48:12):
All right, all right, I appreciate y'all.
Speaker 3 (48:13):
All right, this naicet call w D I A hey caller.
Speaker 8 (48:19):
Hey, good afternoon, ball.
Speaker 3 (48:22):
Hey, good afternoon, Beverly. How are you.
Speaker 8 (48:25):
I'm doing well, and good afternoon to you missus Janis Williams.
Speaker 3 (48:31):
Hey, how are you doing?
Speaker 7 (48:32):
Ma'am?
Speaker 8 (48:34):
I'm doing fine. I will set your last boot camp.
This is Nurse Beverly. I would set your last boot
camp that you had, Yes, ma'am. Look hey, and I thoroughly,
thoroughly enjoyed it. And I would advise anybody if you're
a caregiver or not. It's a wealth of information that
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you can receive, you know, at your boot camp. Here
you have it one on June to fourth, And if
I wasn't gonna have some other things scheduled, I would
come back again because you can never get too much information.
And first of all before I forget miss normal, Miss normal, Lord,
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I kind of know what you're going through because as
a nurse, I took care of patients with traits and
feeding tubes and catheters and all those complicated things that
was required to sustain a person. And I feel for you, Dollar,
(49:37):
and I feel for you, and I'm gonna pray hard
for you. And that's one of the things that's happening too.
I tell you, our healthcare system is so broken, and
people who really need care. If you don't have the
right pal sources or you got some cash or whatever.
Speaker 6 (49:57):
You up the creek.
Speaker 8 (49:58):
Because when you get when these hot hospitals, these insurance companies,
they're not gonna lie on patients to stay in the
hospital law like they used to. They gonna bring family
members in and they gonna train you and they expect
you to go home and perform as a nurse.
Speaker 6 (50:17):
And it maybe some.
Speaker 8 (50:18):
Instances of doctor. It is so unfair. It is so unfair.
And I just hope and pray that you know you're
getting the help outside help that you need is know
in one of the things, missus James Williams, A lot
of times people don't know what resources are available to them.
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They just don't know. And many times there is help
out there, but people do not know about it or
they don't know how to access it. And that's one
of the things I enjoyed about your boot camp. You
had a lot of vendors there who had information on
the deal from resources that are available, you know, even people.
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You had a young lady there. I can't remember what
her agency was, but I think she mainly worked with
ten care patients on providing in home care in home
care visits, and I mean, she was so passionate about
what she does and how she helps people navigate the system,
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because that's a hard thing for people to navigate, this
complicated health care system. And I tell you it's just
not enough. It's out there, but people just don't know,
they don't know how to access.
Speaker 6 (51:41):
Though.
Speaker 8 (51:42):
I give hats off to you, Miss Williams, and I
would advise anybody and everybody, even if you caregiver are
not I'm not a caregiver anymore. I was one, but
you know, I might end up needing care and hopefully
I'll be able to direct whoever is taking care of me.
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I'll be able to have information, you know that I
can pass on and pass on to other people now
who I know are struggling with taking care of loved
ones and it's hard and it's a job and all
the job. That's an advertac that you all have on
your station where caregivers can be paid for taking care
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of loved ones, and in it it says if you
have ten care and some kind of card or something else.
And I was going to ask you, miss Williams, are
you familiar with that program where there's a payment that's
made to caregivers and what the qualifications are?
Speaker 3 (52:45):
Yes, ma'am, boy, yes, ma'am.
Speaker 7 (52:48):
So that was actually one of my topics today. You know,
can a can a loved one get paid to take
care of their you know car recipient? Can a family
member get paid to take care of their mother?
Speaker 3 (53:02):
Yes? And I don't know. I kind of want to
make sure that I don't have the have the right.
Speaker 5 (53:12):
So maybe when you come back the next time, Janets,
you'll have all that information.
Speaker 3 (53:16):
Beverly.
Speaker 8 (53:17):
Yeah, thank you, Beverly, because that would be something good,
some additional income coming in because insurance don't cover a
lot of things, and if they do, you may have
limitary quantities of it. For a limited number of times,
and you know it's just a mess. This healthcare system
needs an overhaul. So I'm gonna get off the phone
(53:39):
because I.
Speaker 11 (53:40):
Can go on.
Speaker 3 (53:41):
I know you are, thank you, Beverly. How many minutes
do I have miss? Just a few?
Speaker 7 (53:48):
Okay, I want to be clear. I everybody that I
talk to today, I need you to come to this
boot camp on June the fourth. It's going to be
at the Great hot It's nine to one and we
will be getting to work. I just need to respond
to see. See. The thing is, it depends on what
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you have access to, and you really cannot lead anybody
on what they need or what they can.
Speaker 3 (54:20):
Get unless you see what they've already done.
Speaker 7 (54:23):
Caregiving paying for care is just as individualized as anything.
And that was one of my topics today. But I'm
not gonna start it because I need to be clear
when I talk about it. But if you have yes, ma'am,
I'm sorry, and I was.
Speaker 5 (54:39):
Gonna say, when you come back next month, then we'll
focus on that, yes, madam, okay, absolutely so.
Speaker 3 (54:46):
Yeah, that would be good.
Speaker 5 (54:47):
So give our listeners against the boot camp where it's
gonna be on your website.
Speaker 7 (54:53):
Absolutely so, I am Janis Williams. You can re to
me at Jane's Dash Williams dot com. That's j A
N I C E dash W I L L I
A M s dot com. If you leave the dash out,
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it's gonna go to somebody else.
Speaker 3 (55:15):
Now.
Speaker 7 (55:16):
The boot camp is long term care planning boot camp.
And so if you're caring for somebody good and if
you're not caring for somebody good, Miss Beverly mentioned the
boot camp. That's the reason why we having it again
and again again, because a conversation is so big and
the conversation changes.
Speaker 3 (55:35):
So the boot camp will be.
Speaker 7 (55:36):
On June fourth, twenty I'm sorry, June fourth, from nine
am to one pm at the Great Hall.
Speaker 3 (55:47):
Nine hundred South Germantown.
Speaker 7 (55:49):
Nineteen nineteen hundred South Germantown Parkway. You neither register or
let me know that you're coming.
Speaker 5 (55:55):
All right, good information today, Miss Jennis william We appreciate you.
Speaker 3 (56:00):
We look forward to next month so you have that.
Speaker 5 (56:03):
Our topic we're going to be talking about about how
how can families get paid?
Speaker 3 (56:09):
Absolutely, I can't wait. I can't wait.
Speaker 5 (56:12):
Miss Janis Williams are registered and faith community nurse and
who's a care coach giver on Rispit and long term Care.
Thank you, Miss Williams.
Speaker 3 (56:25):
I appreciate you.
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Back in the house with us, it's miss Janice Williams,
registered and faith community nurse from JOW Consulting. She's coaching
care Coordinator and long tear Care.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
Plan term long term care Planner. I'll see it like that.
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You better, you better. When we come back, well, yeah.
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We'll be talking with are registered in faith community of
nurse Miss Janis Williams with me next right here on.
Speaker 6 (04:06):
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It is a beautiful yeah, Tuesday morning in Memphis, Tennessee,
on this May twenty sixth, twenty twenty six. Enjoy this
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Speaker 3 (05:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:06):
Well, back in the hand with us to give us
good information is our registered.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
And faith community nurse.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
She'll be so good celebrating thirty years in nursing and
fifteen years working with family care givers in her she
her business is JOW Consulting, Coaching, care coordination and long
term care planning. That's for our first time listeners, and
(05:35):
once again, welcome back, miss Jannis Williams.
Speaker 7 (05:38):
How you doing, sustain doing outstanding? Thanks for having me.
I'm excited about today.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
I love it. I'm gonna have to use that outstanding.
I like that Janet outstanding. That's right, ma'am.
Speaker 5 (05:53):
I'm excited about today. I'm glad to have you back.
For our listeners who are just hearing Janets for the
first time. She is an author as a book book
Caring and Understanding Respite, Caregiving and Understanding Respite, and that
is so so good. So let's let's get started so
(06:14):
we can get to talk about But before we get started,
do you want to say anything?
Speaker 3 (06:18):
No, I'm just I'm just grateful. I'm grateful.
Speaker 7 (06:23):
I can really say that, you know, when people share
say you've been a nurse for so many years, But
really it's the family caregiving part that really makes me excited.
I have met so many wonderful people and it has
really blessed my life. I feel like that is my
assignment in this world, and it just it's just a
(06:51):
blessing to hear that, and it makes me reflect on
all the years. You know, I actually started in a
non profit caregivers respite, which I meant most people. And
I used to look at the pictures Miss Johnson on
the conferences that we used to have, and or either
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I would meet somebody in the street and they say, well,
you know I came to this conference, and I said, yeah,
you came to the conference in twenty fourteen when we.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Were at X y Z place.
Speaker 7 (07:26):
And so I never really forget many people unless they've
changed their hair color or something like that. But I
have met so many wonderful people and got a chance
to be with them in a very crucial part of
their lives.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
And for that, I'm grateful. I'm grateful. Good for you. Well,
I'm glad I have you back.
Speaker 5 (07:47):
Well, let's start to talk about some things that I
know you want to talk about things. And first of all,
let's talk about before we get to that first care.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
What is respite care?
Speaker 8 (08:00):
People?
Speaker 3 (08:00):
You know, we hear that word a lot, respite.
Speaker 7 (08:03):
Yes, And so first of all, I would say, what
the definition of respite is. Respite is a break, It's
a delay, it's a reprieve. And so any time that
you need a break, you hear people say, well I
had to take a respite.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (08:22):
And so respite means really break. And for the family
caregiver it may mean a little bit more. It may
mean break for them, break for their duties, break for
their assignment, break so they can do something for themselves
as they care for their loved one. And so respite
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care in a professional aspect, it means, actually, a provider
will come in and take care of your loved one
while you go get a break or you take care
of yourself. In other words, they're going to assume the
response stabilities of care that you give while you're somewhere else.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
And so respite means just that.
Speaker 7 (09:08):
And you're gonna hear the word respite in a whole
lot of different areas as far as businesses and organizations.
You may hear respite care in home health, you may
hear respite care in hospice. You may hear respite care
in a dull daycare. All of that means is just
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what I just said. The professional person is going to
assume the responsibility of caring for your loved one.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
While you go get a break. You just don't have
to go get a break. You might have to go
to work.
Speaker 5 (09:40):
And I'm glad you said, James before you continue this,
meam that when we hear about resp but also I
think people get respit and hospice confused.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
Oh yeah, okay, you know.
Speaker 6 (09:54):
A lot of it.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
And I've heard some people well respite is it in
hospit So those are two different.
Speaker 7 (10:00):
So hospice care is in the life care okay, And
so hospice all of what they do is geared towards
assisting a person who may not have a long time
to live, their prognosis is poor. Hospice also has palliative care,
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so palaticative well, they have into life care and then
they also have palliative care.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
And palliative care is a is care.
Speaker 7 (10:33):
Given to a person they might not have They might
have a disease process that really there's no cure for.
There might be different stages of it. And really they
might do palliative care for symptom management. They might come
in and manage your symptoms. So hospice agencies do palliative
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care in the life care, but.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
They still use respite.
Speaker 7 (11:00):
They still do respit care and all that absolutely, and
in that instance, they may come in and.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
They may use a facility.
Speaker 7 (11:11):
Okay, they might arrange a person to go to a
facility for so many days while their caregiver gets a break,
while their caregiver goes on.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Vacation.
Speaker 7 (11:24):
So a lot of businesses, health care organizations may do
respite care respit care. Basically, if you're a family caregiver,
you gotta write this down. You gotta know what respit means,
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because you know, miss Johnson, you'd be surprised how many
people that I meet that are actively caring for the
loved one who've never.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Heard of the term respite. And that's really why I
wrote the book.
Speaker 7 (11:58):
The book is called Caregiving and unders Standing respite and
respite it does mean they break and I and I
want to be clear, there's two different signs to respit.
Respite is just what I just said professionally, that professional
caregivers will come in and take care of your loved one.
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But I really came from respite as far as what
respites does for a family caregiver, because they know they
I need to let them know that they need a
break and if they get a break, they can make it.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
If they don't get a break, they can't make it.
But they must have respite. And I wrote it.
Speaker 7 (12:42):
I wrote the book from a caregiving a family caregiving perspective,
because I didn't want you to think that, oh, you
had to be you had to go on a cruise
for respite. No, you just need to get a break,
and whatever their break looks like for you, you have
to get it so you can reset at your mind,
recharge your thoughts, get a little rest, and come back
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in that same situation. Because we can't take you out
of your caregiving situation. But if you get a break,
if you get their rest, but you can make it.
Speaker 5 (13:13):
Because a lot of times we have janus that a
lot of people are taking care of loved ones and
then and I've heard I know this has happened, and
I'm sure you they end up getting sick and.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
Some of them have died. Right there is Somhow is
it and so important that you get some rest?
Speaker 9 (13:38):
It?
Speaker 6 (13:40):
You know what I know?
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Let me just go back a little bit.
Speaker 7 (13:42):
Yeah, please, I do want people to understand that our
family caregivers are the unspoken workforce in this country. They
share enough for jobs and they don't get paid, they
don't get the training, they don't get time off. And
and let me tell you, if that family caregiver.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
Was not there, then.
Speaker 7 (14:07):
This word will fall apart because they're the ones that
do all the navigating. They're the ones that are first responders.
They're the ones that are doing.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
I just talked to a lady the other day. She's
making so many phone calls.
Speaker 7 (14:26):
In the care for her loved one is just unmissionable
information services.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
This change, that change, that appointment.
Speaker 7 (14:37):
Some figure out why this was denied, why they don't
have this where the medicine is what the changes are.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
Who can come stay with him?
Speaker 7 (14:48):
You know, it's just really that workforce that does not
get paid. We could not make it without. In fact,
I always share this story.
Speaker 5 (14:58):
I may have shared it before and that's okay, but
someone's listening, this man who's probably listening to you.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
For the first time, you know, share it well.
Speaker 7 (15:06):
I had been a nurse for I know, over ten
years before I even heard what the word respite was.
I was working one night and I saw a hospice
agency come in the hospital and they said. The young
lady said, yeah, that's gonna be my patient because I'm
they're here for respite.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
And I was like, what is that word?
Speaker 7 (15:26):
And I was a nurse a long time before I
heard that, and then things started happening after then I
went to another patient's room and I came in and
that loved one was sitting down on the couch and
then I was trying to give her husband some medication.
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And when I was trying to give it to him,
he wouldn't take it. And so she got up and
showed me. She said, if you put the peel right
here and put the water right here and tilt his
head a little bit like this, then he'll take the medicine.
And he did it just like she said. And so
for the remainder of the shift she was there. And
so I got off work and I went home.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
Then when I came back, she was still there. Wow.
So it is a job that you.
Speaker 7 (16:19):
Choose to show up for a family caregiver, and without that,
you know where would we be. And I want to
just say, listen, if you got somebody in your family
that's caring for somebody, show up for them. You might
not want to care for the loved one or you
might not know even how, but show up for their
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family caregiver, bring them something to eat, see if they
want you to just sit down with their person while
you while they.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
Go in the back and get a nap, or maybe
if they run to the store or so.
Speaker 7 (16:54):
What you put inside, what you put and do for
them is strategy, you know, it make it decreases all
the statistics to say that they will suffer burnout. You know,
stress that's unchecked turns into burnout, yes, And so when
you do that, then you are really decreasing their risks
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for burnout. You're decreasing their risk for other things and
as well as anything that has to do with mortality,
because you know, many people are gonna quit their jobs
and do other things, cut their hours, and might not
go to the doctor themselves. And so shout out, you know,
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to all the family caregivers. I actually just had a
brother that was sick and he just passed. But let
me send a shout out to Brenda.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
She took care of that man, and so.
Speaker 7 (17:58):
You know, and I look at her and she might
not have wanted to leave so much, but she needed
a break, yea. And for that I would say that
even if you are caring for someone, If you are
hearing me and you're caring for someone, no, you don't
want a break. You don't want to leave that person.
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But let me just tell you you have to take
a break because it is a job and we're depending
on you like never before.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
As you see.
Speaker 7 (18:34):
The United States, different cuts on different things, and it's
so many things that affect health care. But if you
are a family caregiver, figure out how you can get
a break. And let me tell you, it is not
always your family's job. I mean they might not just
come up to you and say, hey, so and so
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needs a break. This person needs a break.
Speaker 5 (19:01):
Because a lot of times janis some family members they
don't want to be bothered to do.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
That will and it's bad because they don't just tell
it too.
Speaker 5 (19:10):
They don't want to help their sister or their brother
who's taking care of mother or father or auntie. You
have those kinds of people who don't want to do it,
but they don't understand that caregiver.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
They can get burned out.
Speaker 7 (19:26):
And you know what, I I on purpose really don't
get hung up with that. Okay, why and because the
family caregiver can't get hung up with that. They will
lose too much time, okay, in navigation and sleep and
worry and fret, in fear and anxiety if they focus
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on what they don't have. And I'm here to tear you,
I want you. You know, things are what they are.
And here's the thing, Ms. Johnson, what you just mentioned,
not all the time can you figure out. So you
have to redirect and focus on what that family caregiver needs.
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And more than often, it doesn't always have to come
from family, but it has to come from somewhere. And
that's reason why I want people not only to get
a break, but to get strategy and to get understanding.
One thing is that you are actually working a job.
And if you don't understand all the logistics, just talk
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to someone who had been making a whole lot of
phone calls. If you don't understand the right words to say,
it's important. If you don't understand where you can get help,
that's important. So really all of your energy has to
be focused on how you're going to do this successfully.
And so you're right, circumstances come up. But if I
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would say anything, let's redirect your focus because now you
have to take care of their low one and take
care of you.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
And you absolutely correct, You are absolutely correct.
Speaker 5 (21:09):
If you've just tuned in this morning, we are talking
with our registered nurse and faith and community nurse, Miss
Janice Williams.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
She is also a coach to help.
Speaker 5 (21:22):
You on that care coordination and long term care planning
and talking about respite and caregiving.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
If you have a question for Miss Williams.
Speaker 5 (21:34):
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Speaker 10 (22:17):
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Speaker 9 (22:37):
Your mind.
Speaker 7 (22:42):
I'm telling you to ask you.
Speaker 5 (22:48):
Where I appear enough, Miss Jovin shows.
Speaker 3 (23:01):
Welcome back to w D I A.
Speaker 5 (23:04):
We are talking with our registered and faith community nurse
Janice Williams. She's also a coach in caregiving and long
term care and respite care.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
Jannis. We're going to our phone lines to talk to
some of our listeners. Thank y'all for waiting. Hi, Renee
har Renee Hi, Renee. You there, Okay, maybe I lost Renee.
Speaker 9 (23:31):
We'll go down next one, will I, William, Hey, that
beautiful Belle. Good to talk to you.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
Good talking to you too, William. How are you this day?
Speaker 9 (23:42):
Doing great on a rainy day? And so that's good,
great on a rainy day, right, And your guest, she's
very important for the health of the whole community because
one person affects another. What I wanted to ask her was,
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so you know they the psychology of the person after
one of their loved one of their the one they
were caring for, passes. So if they you don't have
spent years, almost every day caring for a person and
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then that person moves on, Uh, what's the psychology of
that person? Do they let the hair down or do
they go into depression?
Speaker 5 (24:34):
You know?
Speaker 9 (24:34):
What what happens with those people who have spent so
much time and effort and love, uh in caring for others.
Speaker 3 (24:46):
That's a great question.
Speaker 7 (24:47):
And uh, mister William, if I would say this from
from the standpoint of somebody who has facilitated a support
group for many years, many sessions, I know this. At
one point, you don't stop caring overnight. In fact, many
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people I've seen over the years would come to like
events about caregivings poor group, but they don't stop coming.
They they're really looking for a soft place to land.
So you don't stop caring overnight. And as well as
you know, with grief, you gonna have, you know, all
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the symptoms, you know, depression, denial, anger, and so you
might not even see that all at once and all
in one month and all in one year, but they're
gonna go through it.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
So it really takes time. And for people who.
Speaker 7 (25:53):
See or on the outside looking in at that family caregiver,
you just have to continue to give them a soft
place land, So you just don't stop caring overnight.
Speaker 3 (26:03):
And it takes time.
Speaker 9 (26:06):
Well, thank you, and God bless you and your family.
Speaker 3 (26:09):
Thank you sir. And also it's okay to get some
professional help.
Speaker 5 (26:14):
Yeah, you know that you're gonna need it, William, because
a lot of people and you, right, Jennis, they they
they they've taken care of these loved ones and then
they didn't have a life. And and and it's okay
to seek out some kind of counseling to get yourself
back together, so to get you going again.
Speaker 9 (26:35):
Absolutely absolutely okay, all right, well, I thank you and
I love y'all.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
Thank you, Thank you William. We appreciate you. Hi Reneehi, Renee.
Speaker 11 (26:50):
I had the phone on.
Speaker 12 (26:51):
I heard you, but I'm like, now you lose me, Okay.
Speaker 5 (26:56):
Renee, I'm glad I have you back. Yes, you have
a question for miss Williams.
Speaker 8 (27:03):
Yes, I do.
Speaker 12 (27:05):
I have a mother that's been down for eight years,
and she had five girls, and I was the POA
for the first four years, and I did a lot
of the caregiving myself until I had to go in
for back surgery and quit my job. And now we're
looking for help. One of my sisters quit and I
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hear what the woman was saying about how some of
your siblings just they gonna stop caring a night.
Speaker 6 (27:35):
They just need you know.
Speaker 12 (27:38):
I don't know if there's too much frustration and chaos
going on, Okay, and comes to it because people are
working and trying to get that skinuy in and take
care of mothers. So I've been looking for help for
the last five years, and so I just want to
know some information on how to get help. Get help
because I live in well, she lived in Tempton County, Nellington, Okay,
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and I just want to know how can I get
some help for her outside her daughters, and she'd be
accepting to it because the mother is stubborn, the mother
get on her daughters.
Speaker 5 (28:13):
Yeah yeah, yeah, Well you know, let me say this, Renee,
and I let Janis answer you that she can have
her daughters and help as well. You understand what I'm
saying because I'm mist thinking. I'm going back to my
auntie who was sick and she was bedridden, but my cousin,
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her daughter worked, but she and she took care of
my auntie, but she also had some people that would
come in also to help her out. Because you're gonna
need that. And Jennie, you know, I don't know the information.
Tell miss Renee, you know where can she get information
and things?
Speaker 7 (28:56):
So Miss Renee, first of all, I'm gonna talk, but
I do want you to email me your information if
you go to Jannis dash Williams dot com and just
you know, put your information in and I want to
maybe get you on my e email list, give you
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more information that way, maybe you come to the boot camp.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
But but going back to your question, because it's kind
of open ended. You know, as a.
Speaker 7 (29:25):
Professional person, I would ask what kind, well, what kind
of care does she need? And and that's the most
important part because a level of care changes over the years,
and so you would really need to.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
Know what type of care she needs.
Speaker 7 (29:42):
And then we started out by talking about respite care
and if I would finish kind of that and then
pivot into what you're what you're actually saying, and so
respee care, respite care. Actually I told you what it meant,
but sometimes we don't have access to respite And what
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I mean by that is that all the professional people
that will come and give you a break, unless you've
got the right kind of payer source, then you might
not have access to the respite or the care. So
first of all, we're gonna find out what kind of
level of care your mother needs. Then we're gonna see
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what you have access to. Then we're gonna try to
find out what you don't have access to and what
we can actually create because understanding just those key, because
you know, I really couldn't just answer you point blank,
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but that is the system that I would go through.
And because I don't know what you've tried, I don't
know what you have, I don't know what you need,
and all of those are important to answer the question.
But now, so that's what I would do. I would
find out what kind of level of care your mother has.
I mean is I would find out what she has
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access to and then find out what we can actually
tap in to to to create a safe environment that
she can thrive in and get the things that she
needs so she can keep living safely at home.
Speaker 5 (31:24):
Yes, se Renee, and keep listening and we will give
out Jenesis email again.
Speaker 3 (31:29):
Did you get it? We'll get it. We'll just say
it again so you'll have it.
Speaker 11 (31:33):
And Janet dash William dot com.
Speaker 3 (31:35):
That's it, sir, that's it.
Speaker 7 (31:37):
You got you and miss Renee, Miss Renee, I want
to thank you for everything you have done for your
mother because, as I mentioned before, you're the unspoken workforce.
If you weren't in the situation, your your family or
whoever is caring for her now is not in the situation, where.
Speaker 3 (31:55):
Would your mother be. So thank you for the for
the for the maid of mine right to show up
to work every day.
Speaker 7 (32:04):
You know, sometimes we don't want to go to work,
and sometimes we don't want to go into what we faced,
and that's how we have that's why we have to
celebrate the people who are showing up in this aspect.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Because they're really doing big things. And thank you, miss Renee.
Speaker 12 (32:20):
I thank you, and I can be and my sister
because I had to stop and just do one day.
But they studied working and coming there, but I'm just
doing one day. And they were seven days a week.
You know, we're there from five in even to seventh
the next day. So we stayed nice with her.
Speaker 11 (32:41):
Everything.
Speaker 12 (32:42):
So yeah, we just like you said, we just need
a break. We need somebody to come from eight to five.
But like you said, you need to know all the
preliminaries of the finances and.
Speaker 6 (32:53):
What she actually needs. But she really do need.
Speaker 12 (32:57):
Control care, he needs.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Yes, ma'am.
Speaker 12 (33:01):
Okay, thank you, Renee, thank you, Dan.
Speaker 5 (33:05):
You welcome, thank you. Bye bye, w d I A
let me get these callers. Hold on, y'all, hold on,
hold on hi.
Speaker 6 (33:12):
Daryl, Yes, hello, Hi, How are you? I'm good? How
you doing?
Speaker 5 (33:19):
I'm doing wonderful. What do you say you have a
question for Miss Williams?
Speaker 1 (33:26):
Yes, well, yes, good morning, Miss Williams. This morning I
was out on the golf course, to be honest, and
one of my ex coworkers crossed my mind, and so
I called her. I knew she had she's a younger,
younger lady. She she has taken a new position as
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a supervisor, but she has a mother that's ill and
I was calling to check on her, and I was
calling to check on her mother, and she told me
that her mother was not doing very well well, and
so we went to talking about, you know, different things
because I had been a caretaker in the past for
my father, my grandmother, and my stepmother, and I noticed
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a lot of responsibilities that it comes with that, and a.
Speaker 6 (34:16):
Lot of times it kind of falls on on one
family member. And I was asking her, you know who
was kind of I know she has brothers and sisters,
but she said that most of the stuff was following
on her. So it was really kind of refreshing when
I turned on the radio this morning and heard what
your topic was. So I tried to call her and
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ask her to listen to the radio, but she was
unable to listen to the radio because she's a new
supervisor and she's in the process of doing evaluations that
need to be completed in a couple of days. So
she told me to get the information and I'm just
I took some notes and I just wanted to make
sure that I had the contact information as Janet dash
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Williams dot com.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
That's correct, Darryl.
Speaker 5 (35:04):
And also be listening because miss Williams is going to
be telling you about a boot camp that she gives
this information. She does this once a month and she's
gonna be telling you about that that's coming up June
fourth at the Great Hall in Germantown.
Speaker 3 (35:19):
From nine to one. And what I understand that people
have been there.
Speaker 5 (35:23):
Miss Williams gets some good information for people to have
good questions. So keep listening and we're going to give
you more information. But you do have the correct her
correct email.
Speaker 6 (35:33):
All right, thank you, thank you so much, Thank you.
Speaker 3 (35:36):
Sir, Darryl. I appreciate you. W D I a high caller.
I'm doing I'm doing well, and you.
Speaker 9 (35:48):
All right, this is.
Speaker 3 (35:50):
Hey, Norma, good hearing from you, Norma.
Speaker 11 (35:55):
You know what this was a yes, bless to day.
I told you and I started. I listened to get
that cost all day long in one o one. But uh,
I don't caregiving for my daughter. I don't know if
you heard the story, but I told her say that
she had for to stay for Tom cast about I
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guess you's went over a month now the radio. I
was sharing it with the listeners.
Speaker 12 (36:20):
Uh huh.
Speaker 11 (36:20):
I didn't know if you listened her thirty or not.
But our her caregiver is a twenty four seventh job,
and I was just gonna try to put a little
into it on what I was going through, what I'm
going through because she lives with and it's it's really
no problem. I'm doing it because I have to do it,
and she's my daughter and I love her, but I
don't have that extra help that she was talking about
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that I do have family to come to give me
a break. And she's not dead or anything, but she
is very sick. She has a trick and she has
a feeding too, but she's getting At first, I had
to do everything, and they tried to make me a nurse.
I was going to the nurse in a week in
seven days when we was over, and I told all
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that that is crappy. Didn't need to they learn over
the years. I said, I can't do it, but I did.
But I can do it, and I'm doing what I
can do. But it's it's it's a job.
Speaker 5 (37:17):
It's a challenge, Okay, well, God bless you Normal and
take care of yourself.
Speaker 3 (37:23):
Okay, you want to say anything to.
Speaker 8 (37:25):
You, will I do?
Speaker 11 (37:29):
They have that you often job? What she's talking about
that where you can get a break, people come in or.
Speaker 3 (37:36):
You know, any places in Arkansas, Miss Williams.
Speaker 7 (37:42):
There again, Miss Normal, if you would, I just need
to probably talk to you to get a little bit
more specific. But first of all, I'm gonna thank you
too for taking care of your baby like you doing.
Speaker 3 (37:56):
And I really appreciate that. It's ma'am.
Speaker 11 (37:59):
I'm glad I'm able to do it.
Speaker 3 (38:01):
Absolutely.
Speaker 11 (38:01):
I'm seventy time and she's fifty things. Yeah, but I mean,
I mean do health to seventy time, thank God.
Speaker 8 (38:07):
And she is true.
Speaker 11 (38:09):
She just turned pitture past few days ago and she's
doing a lot of stuff for us left now. But
like I said, they tried to make me a nurse
in seven day. They was crabbingrself so fast till dad,
I said, I ain't mad in the school, right, And
you don't want to just take on being with a
trade and a feed me to me, you don't know
what you're doing. I've never done it before. And they
(38:31):
were just crabbing in crabbing it into me. But now
it's coming more simple to it because I'm around it.
But I was just I've cried over there some nights
because I just wasn't sure that I was gonna be
able to do it, and that was doing the right thing.
But God, he's seen, you see me good, and she's
gonna be fine.
Speaker 3 (38:48):
Absolutely, And I thank you for taking a call.
Speaker 7 (38:51):
You welcome norma, thank you, thank anybody I could say something,
it's normal. You got it going on, because that what
you just describe happens more than you know. What you're experiencing,
miss normal. Is what you're doing for your daughter is
not only caregiving, but it's called complex care.
Speaker 3 (39:14):
Complex care is really.
Speaker 7 (39:15):
The kind of care that we would expect a nurse
to do, or a nursing agency or somebody coming out
to the house to do, but now the family caregiver
is doing that. And so complex care, by definition, is
a complex care provide specialized, coordinated, person centered support to
(39:36):
an individual with significant health needs, including multiple chronic illnesses, disabilities,
or high risk conditions. And that's what you're doing when
you have a trait that's a high risk condition, that's
a chronic condition, that's a complex care situation. Everybody needs
(39:57):
to be trained on. If they're taking care of a
person with a track, they have to be trained on that.
If you have a pig tube, that is a chronic condition,
a complex care need, and and that's what a person does, you.
Speaker 3 (40:12):
Have to get trained on that.
Speaker 7 (40:13):
So I really understand what you meant when you said
they trying to make you a nurse, and in the
way you are, you're her nurse because you're meeting the
complex care needs, the high the high intensity need of
your daughter. And I'm kind of smiling when you said,
(40:38):
at first I couldn't get it, but now I'm getting it.
And I said, yes, yes, because it always feels like
that because you don't realize, we don't even realize that
we would even have to do stuff like that. But
that's why I'm saying, and that's why I'm really doing
(40:58):
the whole spill of helping people understand what care looks like,
what they may have to face, and also how to
pay for care.
Speaker 3 (41:09):
You know, miss miss Johnson, you reading.
Speaker 7 (41:12):
My bio and say I do long term care planning
will That's because for me, I was working with just
family caregivers who were going through things and when when
you do that, we're doing it out of reaction because
this came up and that came up. But now I say, yes,
(41:34):
we're gonna deal with that, but now we can be
more proactive. Now I need for you to look at,
Miss Normal, what kind of insurance you got, so so
we don't repeat a certain cycle to getting you the
things that you may need if you should need it.
And I'm not saying anybody's gonna get sick. We weren't
(41:57):
expecting you know, your daughter to get sick. We don't expect.
I didn't expect this person gets sick and that person
gets sick. But understanding care is where we need to
be at. And we can do it reactive, yes, but
we can also do it proactive because we have to
have the things that we need to keep our loved
(42:18):
one safe, to keep you safe, to keep.
Speaker 3 (42:22):
To keep this thing going. So we can we can,
in a.
Speaker 7 (42:25):
Nutshell, have the things that we need proactively. I know
I'm rambling, but I got so excited when she explained
it just like that, because that is what happens. That's
what happens and for her, you know, Miss Normal, I
wish you would email me and maybe we can talk
a little bit more. Yes, that's the thing. People may
(42:47):
not have access to respit. They might not have access
to this or to that. Now I'm just gonna tell
everybody and everybody's state. There is some type of respite
coalition in every state except for a few states, but
even in Tennessee, and I would have to get you
(43:07):
the information is normal about Arkansas. But in Tennessee there
is the They used to be called the Tennessee Recipe Coalition. Okay,
now they're called the Tennessee Caregiver Coalition, So shout out
to you all in Nashville.
Speaker 3 (43:22):
But they do respit vouchers, okay.
Speaker 7 (43:26):
And so if you're in Tennessee, you can maybe qualify
for a respit voucher up to six six hundred dollars.
Speaker 3 (43:32):
So here's the thing with that.
Speaker 7 (43:34):
So that's what I'm kind of saying. You know, if
you don't have access on this end, maybe you can
get some type of respite voucher. And I did say
the name of the organization, but they're in every state.
You just have to figure out the name, and that
will help you in a little one a little bit.
(43:55):
It may not solve everything, but it may get you
a six hour break or a week break or something
like that, but you, as the family caregiver, has to
be intentional about getting a break.
Speaker 3 (44:08):
And I heard you mention that your family helps, and
that's good.
Speaker 7 (44:13):
Be gone for a couple hours, train them, make sure
they understand what she needs. Yes, make sure they understand
everything about the trait, just like you do. But yeah,
intentionally go away for some hours, get or go in
your bedroom for a few hours, get a break. And
(44:37):
I'm just trying to let you know that if you
don't have access, and if you don't have this, and
if this is not in place, let's created.
Speaker 3 (44:46):
We're giving people the understanding.
Speaker 7 (44:48):
And even mister Daryl, my hat's off to you for
being very concerned about your coworker. And that's what it's
gonna take because many, it's many, it is so many
working family caregivers. It don't even make any sense that
they they might not have access to. What they don't
(45:12):
have access is to be off the job for eight hours.
Speaker 6 (45:16):
We know that.
Speaker 7 (45:17):
But they may not have access to really come to
certain events like I'm doing or but you do need
to get connected some type of way.
Speaker 3 (45:27):
So mister Darrow, thank you for looking out for her.
Speaker 7 (45:30):
But here's what I would say even to you, you know,
and it might not be for this coworker, but if
there's somebody in your family who is caring take care
of their family caregiver, go see what they need, Go
see if you could just do something for two hours.
Speaker 3 (45:46):
Two hours is huge sometime, you know.
Speaker 7 (45:50):
I don't know if everybody, anybody has been sleep deprived
and they say, well, I was up all night. If
I just get two hours sleep, I feel better, I'm
able to function. And that's what people who say about
night caregiving may may do. Their sleep is interrupted it
sometimes and I apologize for getting.
Speaker 3 (46:09):
So that's worked up. Let me get these other phone calls.
Speaker 8 (46:14):
W D.
Speaker 3 (46:15):
I ain't common man, Hey common man.
Speaker 10 (46:20):
How are you.
Speaker 4 (46:23):
I'm good, everything's good.
Speaker 3 (46:24):
Yes, Williams doing outstanding?
Speaker 7 (46:26):
How are you, sir?
Speaker 4 (46:28):
I'm doing well.
Speaker 6 (46:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (46:30):
I heard you earlier in just a moment ago as well,
when you spoke out and saying, you know, if you
know a caregiver, you know, reach out and you know,
get that caregiver break. I highly agree with that, with
that coming you made because Bill, you know, as I
told y'all before, I cared for my mother for a
short amount of time before she passed, for about a month,
and I learned a lot during their time period. But
(46:53):
you know, I think I think that people think, well,
somebody's there with that person, somebody's caring for that person,
and everything is okay, and in a lot of cases
everything is probably gets as good as it could be,
but they don't realize the stress and you know, the
tension and everything that's on their caregiver. You know, it's
(47:13):
very very stressful and like draining, you know, and but
you just have to sustain and you can't you can't
give up, you know, as we always say, and we
know you got to have a lot of patience. But
I would definitely advise anybody, whether you're a relative, a
neighbor of freeing or whatever, if you know somebody's giving
care to somebody, reach out to them and even if
(47:35):
it's just sitting down talking with them for a litt bit,
or let them take a break or get her nap
or go do something they need to do, like you said,
Miss Williams, because it's very stressful in draining.
Speaker 3 (47:45):
A job here, yeah, absolutely, I'm.
Speaker 4 (47:49):
Yeah, I want to close this here for ms normal,
Miss Williams. If you can correct me if I'm wrong.
Maybe she could reach out to her daughter's insurance company
if she had insurance, and they should be able to
guide her in the direction in terms of getting like
a CNA maybe to come in to assist her or
help her with her daughter.
Speaker 3 (48:08):
Absolutely right, thank you, comming man.
Speaker 4 (48:12):
All right, all right, I appreciate y'all.
Speaker 3 (48:13):
All right, this naicet call w D I A hey caller.
Speaker 8 (48:19):
Hey, good afternoon, ball.
Speaker 3 (48:22):
Hey, good afternoon, Beverly. How are you.
Speaker 8 (48:25):
I'm doing well, and good afternoon to you missus Janis Williams.
Speaker 3 (48:31):
Hey, how are you doing?
Speaker 7 (48:32):
Ma'am?
Speaker 8 (48:34):
I'm doing fine. I will set your last boot camp.
This is Nurse Beverly. I would set your last boot
camp that you had, Yes, ma'am. Look hey, and I thoroughly,
thoroughly enjoyed it. And I would advise anybody if you're
a caregiver or not. It's a wealth of information that
(48:56):
you can receive, you know, at your boot camp. Here
you have it one on June to fourth, And if
I wasn't gonna have some other things scheduled, I would
come back again because you can never get too much information.
And first of all before I forget miss normal, Miss normal, Lord,
(49:17):
I kind of know what you're going through because as
a nurse, I took care of patients with traits and
feeding tubes and catheters and all those complicated things that
was required to sustain a person. And I feel for you, Dollar,
(49:37):
and I feel for you, and I'm gonna pray hard
for you. And that's one of the things that's happening too.
I tell you, our healthcare system is so broken, and
people who really need care. If you don't have the
right pal sources or you got some cash or whatever.
Speaker 6 (49:57):
You up the creek.
Speaker 8 (49:58):
Because when you get when these hot hospitals, these insurance companies,
they're not gonna lie on patients to stay in the
hospital law like they used to. They gonna bring family
members in and they gonna train you and they expect
you to go home and perform as a nurse.
Speaker 6 (50:17):
And it maybe some.
Speaker 8 (50:18):
Instances of doctor. It is so unfair. It is so unfair.
And I just hope and pray that you know you're
getting the help outside help that you need is know
in one of the things, missus James Williams, A lot
of times people don't know what resources are available to them.
(50:41):
They just don't know. And many times there is help
out there, but people do not know about it or
they don't know how to access it. And that's one
of the things I enjoyed about your boot camp. You
had a lot of vendors there who had information on
the deal from resources that are available, you know, even people.
(51:04):
You had a young lady there. I can't remember what
her agency was, but I think she mainly worked with
ten care patients on providing in home care in home
care visits, and I mean, she was so passionate about
what she does and how she helps people navigate the system,
(51:25):
because that's a hard thing for people to navigate, this
complicated health care system. And I tell you it's just
not enough. It's out there, but people just don't know,
they don't know how to access.
Speaker 6 (51:41):
Though.
Speaker 8 (51:42):
I give hats off to you, Miss Williams, and I
would advise anybody and everybody, even if you caregiver are
not I'm not a caregiver anymore. I was one, but
you know, I might end up needing care and hopefully
I'll be able to direct whoever is taking care of me.
(52:02):
I'll be able to have information, you know that I
can pass on and pass on to other people now
who I know are struggling with taking care of loved
ones and it's hard and it's a job and all
the job. That's an advertac that you all have on
your station where caregivers can be paid for taking care
(52:27):
of loved ones, and in it it says if you
have ten care and some kind of card or something else.
And I was going to ask you, miss Williams, are
you familiar with that program where there's a payment that's
made to caregivers and what the qualifications are?
Speaker 3 (52:45):
Yes, ma'am, boy, yes, ma'am.
Speaker 7 (52:48):
So that was actually one of my topics today. You know,
can a can a loved one get paid to take
care of their you know car recipient? Can a family
member get paid to take care of their mother?
Speaker 3 (53:02):
Yes? And I don't know. I kind of want to
make sure that I don't have the have the right.
Speaker 5 (53:12):
So maybe when you come back the next time, Janets,
you'll have all that information.
Speaker 3 (53:16):
Beverly.
Speaker 8 (53:17):
Yeah, thank you, Beverly, because that would be something good,
some additional income coming in because insurance don't cover a
lot of things, and if they do, you may have
limitary quantities of it. For a limited number of times,
and you know it's just a mess. This healthcare system
needs an overhaul. So I'm gonna get off the phone
(53:39):
because I.
Speaker 11 (53:40):
Can go on.
Speaker 3 (53:41):
I know you are, thank you, Beverly. How many minutes
do I have miss? Just a few?
Speaker 7 (53:48):
Okay, I want to be clear. I everybody that I
talk to today, I need you to come to this
boot camp on June the fourth. It's going to be
at the Great hot It's nine to one and we
will be getting to work. I just need to respond
to see. See. The thing is, it depends on what
(54:12):
you have access to, and you really cannot lead anybody
on what they need or what they can.
Speaker 3 (54:20):
Get unless you see what they've already done.
Speaker 7 (54:23):
Caregiving paying for care is just as individualized as anything.
And that was one of my topics today. But I'm
not gonna start it because I need to be clear
when I talk about it. But if you have yes, ma'am,
I'm sorry, and I was.
Speaker 5 (54:39):
Gonna say, when you come back next month, then we'll
focus on that, yes, madam, okay, absolutely so.
Speaker 3 (54:46):
Yeah, that would be good.
Speaker 5 (54:47):
So give our listeners against the boot camp where it's
gonna be on your website.
Speaker 7 (54:53):
Absolutely so, I am Janis Williams. You can re to
me at Jane's Dash Williams dot com. That's j A
N I C E dash W I L L I
A M s dot com. If you leave the dash out,
(55:13):
it's gonna go to somebody else.
Speaker 3 (55:15):
Now.
Speaker 7 (55:16):
The boot camp is long term care planning boot camp.
And so if you're caring for somebody good and if
you're not caring for somebody good, Miss Beverly mentioned the
boot camp. That's the reason why we having it again
and again again, because a conversation is so big and
the conversation changes.
Speaker 3 (55:35):
So the boot camp will be.
Speaker 7 (55:36):
On June fourth, twenty I'm sorry, June fourth, from nine
am to one pm at the Great Hall.
Speaker 3 (55:47):
Nine hundred South Germantown.
Speaker 7 (55:49):
Nineteen nineteen hundred South Germantown Parkway. You neither register or
let me know that you're coming.
Speaker 5 (55:55):
All right, good information today, Miss Jennis william We appreciate you.
Speaker 3 (56:00):
We look forward to next month so you have that.
Speaker 5 (56:03):
Our topic we're going to be talking about about how
how can families get paid?
Speaker 3 (56:09):
Absolutely, I can't wait. I can't wait.
Speaker 5 (56:12):
Miss Janis Williams are registered and faith community nurse and
who's a care coach giver on Rispit and long term Care.
Thank you, Miss Williams.
Speaker 3 (56:25):
I appreciate you.
Speaker 5 (56:27):
Yeah, we're getting ready to go to the other side
of the Bev Johnson Show right here on double d
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Speaker 10 (56:43):
Whether you're in Arkansas, Tennessee, or Mississippi on Facebook, Twitter,
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