January 13, 2026 • 46 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well, God only knows what's gonna come out of my
mouth today. I'm going on three hours of sleep. I'm
gonna pray for you guys. I'm gonna yeah, dude. I
think it's a combination of teething and like a sleep regression.
But I don't know how to explain it. The feeling
(00:21):
of like the screams are so loud and now she's
just standing in the crib, holding onto the edge of
the crib and just like and she will not if
I ask her straight up, like Hi Daisy, say mama,
she'll go. But when she is in distress, that is
(00:44):
the only time she says mama, and it's straight distress.
But then, you know, I sleep train, which people don't.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Like, but which is what again, Like it's like a.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Kind of I don't go in there right away. You know,
She's gonna get a little bit of time to cry
and yell like that and see if she can figure
it out, especially when I know that she's okay, you know.
But during that time period, it's not like I'm sleeping,
you know what I mean, Because I can hear the screams.
(01:15):
I turn off the monitor, but it doesn't matter. I
can hear the screams. Anyways, long story short, I was
pretty much up with her from twelve thirty to three
and then my alarm went off. Yeah, three thirty, Yeah,
I know it hasn't I listen. I got a knock
on wood and consider myself lucky. She's been doing really
well and she sleeps well. But the past week or
(01:39):
so has been just it's a nightmare. If we didn't
have it was the weekend, I would be with whatever.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
But did she go on the boom? Is that what
she's crying for?
Speaker 1 (01:48):
So one of she's just crying to be held. That's
how I know there's nothing going on. I don't sleep.
I pick her up and I put her head on
my shoulder and immediately knocked out.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Not me.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I'm not asleeping at rocking chair. I ain't sleeping there
a couple. I mean I went in there multiple times,
but one of the times she was on the boom.
But it's like like she's asleep, like a couple of
SIPs and then she's like yeah, yeah, a couple of
little drawls and she's gone. So it's just it's hard
to function like this.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
But we saw a couple at the dinner the other
night with four kids that were super young too, and
we were talking and then like we remember what this
was like yeah, and it's like tough because like we're
at the point now where we can go out to
dinner without the kids, or if the kids are there,
it's completely fine. Like when you tell these stories, I
think back to all these moments and like you never
feel like you're gonna get to the point where it's like,
oh my god, I'm sleeping in and this is awesome.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Yeah, No, I am at the in the era of
like when we go out, I feel like I'm head
on a swivel constantly being like I'm sorry because something
you know, But yeah, I'm very this is like that's
the story that the thing that happened to me in Duxbury.
I'm very cognizant of. Like when I take them out,
what time where you know you have to be they're
(03:05):
just too little, Like they're they're still figuring out. Leila's
gotten so much better, like night and day, but she
was being absolute terrorists last night too, and and the
fireman's in the middle of a forty eight. I don't
have time for this. I don't have time, you know
why she she lost it on me last night because
I paused Frozen. This is what's stupid about kids. Like
(03:26):
you didn't even know Frozen existed three four days ago,
so until I told you. But now, and there's nothing
else out there. But it's like a it's like them.
It's like the Jim Carrey Grinch, my one of my
favorites of all time. I watched it at nausey in
the month of December. I don't want to see it
again now it's frozen. I paused Frozen to have a
(03:48):
conversation with her, lost her mind. So then then guess
what happened? What Arundelle's dead. I turned Frozen off, so
we're not. You can't be playing these games because.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
That's the problem. Most parents would have turned it back on,
like no, you about my sister there, she's a soft parent.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Gentle. No, it's called gentle. It's wrong, that's what it's called.
I'm not gentle.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
My niece one time wanted a coke because my kids
were drinking coke, so they put a She wanted a bottle.
She had it in like a cup, so they gave
her a cup of coke. She was flipping out. She
said no, she took the cup dumped it over like
the table. My sister didn't went outside to talk about
their emotions together. I'm like, yo, yo, I said to
(04:30):
my mother. I got that's not right.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
We're leaving and had straight tea time.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Outs and this was in the dr so you could
have spanked and it was okay, good, good, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Thank god that can Instead they were mad that she
didn't get spent again, to each their own when it
comes to that, But like, you're not going to flip
out like that because I paused Elsa in the midst
of a song that you heard sixty times. I need
to speak to you. So then the tea he went off,
and then you know, that was the whole thing. It's just,
you know, it's tiring trying to like make good little people.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Yeah. The sleeping thing, that's something that's.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Like, I know, that's like I try so hard to
get in bed and get asleep early, but the only
straight hours I got last night, we're probably nine to twelve.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
And what makes it more challenging is the hours to
our jobs. We'll get up in the middle of the
night and we have to work and it's like a
really big thing.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
But I know what people are thinking, and I also
know it's true. I'm gonna miss these days because they
go so fast.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
You're not going to miss the middle of the night stuff.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
No, no, you're not going.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
To be.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
I don't. Oh my gosh, it really does go by
so fast, these little terrorist kids.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
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Speaker 1 (05:58):
Vive Tuesday Jam thirteen and round two up next for
the Pats people, and we now know who they will
be taking on, Texans. All right, Texans.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
I don't know too much about them, but clearly they're
solid team if they made it this far.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
I watched a little bit of sports that this morning.
I saw, you know, some of the Aaron Rodgers stuff.
He seemed depressed. They didn't really talk much about the Texans.
It was more so about that storyline. Yeah, but you
know what three o'clock kick.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Oh, that's the best part about it.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Yeah, Foxborough three o'clock kick. Now, remember there's only two
games on Sunday, so it would have been like a
three or a six thirty type of thing. But I'll
take a three any time of the day.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
Yeah, is anybody going to the game? I went to
a playoff game years ago and it was fun. The
only down part about it it was raining getting out
And a fun fact about that game, you know who
kind a touchdown age they needed the money?
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Yeah, well yeah, yeah he went to venue your room
and God only knows. No. I listen. I went to
a Patriots game against the Browns once and it was
obviously not a play but it rained the whole time. Miserable.
I can't do it. I would much rather watch it
(07:18):
in the confines of my own home.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
I know the rain. There's people out there who like
love that stuff, love the rain, love the snow.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Listen, I guess I've seen pictures of people that go
to games and it's snowing, and you know, it looks cool,
but Sunday it does. Right now, it's only Tuesday. I
have a mix of rain and stow.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Oh really, it'll change. It's very real, but still it
sounds wet.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
It's exciting times though.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Even my dad called me yesterday and he goes, Buddy,
I would I would do anything for the heartbeat and
he means that wholeheartedly, Like he is so jealous that
we live here and we get to watch these games
and you go to the bar, you go to a party,
and you have a heartbeat because you want your team
to win.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Did he pick aside yet? Is he betting?
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Even if he bets the Patriots, he won't be like
rooting for them to win the Super Bowl. But he'll
he you know, he'll he'll root for his bet all right. However,
his girlfriend is a Steelers fan, so sucks for her.
All right, Will Smith, we know he's going through a
little bit of legal drama. Do you remember we talked
(08:26):
about this was like last week or the violin the
violinist Brian King Joseph, who says that Will fired him
as retaliation, claiming he was fired after reporting a sexual
harassment incident that allegedly occurred during a stop in Vegas
in November of twenty twenty four. You know what we
talked about this the first time. I did not know
that there were Hollywood rumors that Will Yeah likes men.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
I did not know that there's a story. I forget
what the guy did for Will he was he worked
with him when he was an assistant or something like
that said he walked in on Will, the guy the
doing something. The man was making love to Will.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Oh wow, okay, aggressive got it all right? Well, I
don't think we need that really interesting and Will obviously denies.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Will denies, But you know what the interesting part about
is that Will didn't sue back or counter sew or
anything like that. The story just kind of went away.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Well with this one, Will got caught up by like
TMZ and they asked him about this and he just
laughed it off. He didn't say anything. He just did
the and then kept it moving.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Oh so you know what's crazy.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Wasn't like I didn't do that. He just laughed.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
And there was a guy who worked here back in
the day. And this was before like the rumor started
with like the Jada stuff like I'm talking in the
early two thousands, will open marriage type of stuff. I've
heard these rooms for so long. I did, and then
it came out. I'm like, oh my god, they must
have been like bactual.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
But when I heard like I heard, Will was a
player with women like back in the day. Yeah, he
wasn't trying to settle down. He was Will was a
commodity Will was like big Benny, honey, he was. But
at the same time, Jada said that.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
These these scenarios, and I think that's the keyword there
have always been in the air. This was before the
times of like TMZ and everything.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
That so interesting. I mean, it's interesting either way. Will's
attorney is calling the claims false, baseless, and reckless. But
we find Yeah, that's like the first time we've heard
from Will about it, and it's like, you don't hear anything.
He just laughs it off. Yeah, so all right, did
you get a email or a message or anything from
Instagram over the last couple of days to change your password?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Not the last couple of days.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Did you see this quote massive breach. They thought that
happened to Instagram. Millions of people received a reset email
saying like, hey, you have to rechange your password, you
need to steff identification, all the things. Well, they were
saying that it Instagram got hacked. Now there's a company
called malware Bites and they reported that seventeen point five
(10:58):
million ig account users had their data leak.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
My wife actually got this the other day. That's what
I was thinking. This sounds familiar. A two factor authentication.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
On Yeah, and that's pretty much what Instagram has said
to it. They said they're denying any breach, and they
said the past with recent emails are like an external
party reassuring users of their account safety and to do
two step verification.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
What would you do if your account got hacked and
they stole it?
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Oh, this happens, It does not even and then they
don't get their account, which is nuts, Like how do
you not get your account back from some stranger that
stole it?
Speaker 2 (11:36):
People do sometimes as they overtake the account and they
change a handle, so then all of a sudden they
have your followers and the handle's gone and you can't
track down where it is and things.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
It's just it's so constant with the hacking. I mean you, guys,
I'm not even kidding you. Last week on Friday, Billy
Costa comes up to Santi and I and he's like, hey, guys,
you guys are better at this than I am. Like
is this fake? Is this am? I? Are these people
trying to hack me? And I was like, oh my god,
it reminded me, do not click that link?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Yir off.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
He was getting hacked bad. He was thinking of paying yea,
the person you could like hack yeah, and the fact
that the email was from one two three four five
six seven nine seven five four five five five at
email chain. I never heard of dot com. I'm like, Billy,
but this is what happens. Like people see a thing
(12:29):
they don't know if it because it was coming from
a fake Apple account. You know things come from fake
Instagram account. You just you really have to triple check
before you're here.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Link saying if you're listening to the show from overseas
and you want to hack somebody, it's Billy. If you
want an account in this building, at the building.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
This man was about to pay six four five seven
five to two at apples picking dot com. All right,
this thing even know for Tuesday Jam thirteen. Make sure
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Speaker 3 (13:12):
Good Morning.
Speaker 5 (13:13):
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Speaker 1 (13:18):
Hi, everybody, good morning. Oh man, everybody's stretched out. What's
what I'm doing? We're just stretching. We're up, we're moving
it six forty on a Tuesday. Only a few more
hours till seven pm and I can.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Go to sleep.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
We're very cool, thine, all right. I love that you
guys get invested in like the stories that we tell,
because that's the whole point, right, Like we come here
and we tell you about our lives, you tell us
about your life during the check in. It's kind of
like this exchange. Was this before we left for Christmas,
(14:00):
that I was telling everybody about my friend? Okay, well
we got this talk back this morning. Actually, we need
an update on the leash cutting of your friend's dog
because you said she's gonna put out a camera and
I need to know what happened. So update. And I
wish I had something juicier for you guys, but if
you did not hear the original story, one of my
(14:22):
besties has a dog. She puts the dog outside on
a lead outside of her house in like a shared yard,
and somebody was cutting the lead, Like when she would
take the dog off and go inside, somebody was cutting it.
So she put out signs they kept cutting. Finally I
(14:43):
said to her, you need to take my ring camera,
like we need to find out who's doing this because
this is crazy. At one point, somebody called like animal
control on her, and the guy came over and checked
everything out, was like, what you're doing is legal. You know,
if the dog's barking, it could be a disturbance to people.
But the dog bug is not barking. I have been
at her house when the dog is out in the lead,
he just lays there. He's a Bernese Mountain dog, but
(15:05):
he loves to be outside in the snow, in the
cold weather. I told her, I thought maybe the person
thought she was being like negligent and would put the
dog outside and maybe like go to target. Maybe that
person didn't know that she works from home, or if
she's on like a business caller on a sales callar
(15:25):
out of the someone's watching her dog.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
If I guess it's somebody that doesn't like dogs and
or is afraid.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Of dogs, right, that's kind of yeah. Anyways, we put
the ring camera out, we put signage. But I think
the most important part to the story is she ended
up ordering a metal lead.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Oh so they can't cut it.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
They can't cut it anymore. They would have to go
out of their way to get like a hacksaw exactly.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
But if you're that dedicated to keep cutting it, I
feel like I would take those extra steps and just
prove a point.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
You might, but I don't think this person that has
it in them to go that far. They haven't cut
it since.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Then, where did you guys put the camera?
Speaker 1 (16:05):
We put it right in the windows of her of
her condo, so you could clearly see, okay that there
was a camera. You can, it's clear as day.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
I feel like it's almost more effective if you hit
the camera that way you can catch the person. So
is there a way that you guys can switch it,
because I feel like at this point we should try.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
To catch the purp Yeah, or is the camera what's
probably pushing, which I means it's working.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
True, they're seeing the camera and they're like, oh damn.
Like true, this girl's trying to.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
But I would fear that person in the sense of
like they're gonna stay patient till they can get her
back or something like that.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
They cut five different leads. That's like, that's no, that's dedicated.
So once she switched it over to the metal, we
have the ring camera out there. I wanted to catch
this person. So because we were trying to place bets
guy or girl. My body was saying.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Girl, yeah, absolute reveal.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Yeah, but then also anything go.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Once you catch him where you guys have a conversation
with her.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Uh, we were not because I live in Marshfield and
this is quin. But I'm in yet everybody in my
life is invested. My mother's hitting her up, being like,
have you heard anything? Have you seen anything?
Speaker 2 (17:15):
It?
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Guys, it's low right now, we got nothing going on.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
You could have solved this entire thing just by having
a conversation with Hey, I don't like dog. Is there
a way we can find figure right schedule?
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Hey, I'm gonna be honest with you. The dog is big,
looks like a bear, and it scares me. Now, mind you,
And I told you guys, that's when I told a story.
You don't need to cut through that way like there's
nothing there, there's no access points to anything like. So
this person I feel like, looks out their window and
sees a dog and that is enough.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Does a dog go to the bathom back there too?
Speaker 1 (17:47):
No, only on walks while he go. So it's not
like I and I'm with him that nothing as a
dog owner upsets me more than when you just see
like pe moment pee, but poop everywhere and people aren't picking.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
It up, especially from those it's like bear poop.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Yeah, the dog is massive.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Yeah, but there are people in this world who just
like could get bothered by stuff that has nothing to
do with them and just can't let things go like that.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
We've talked about this. There are people who just wake
up and they want to be mad, absolutely like they
need something, and we have people in this building like, yeah,
like they have to have something to be upset about.
I had a woman write me a message the other
day so mad because I said, like, oh, January is
just like a boring month, and she was like, my
(18:30):
birthday is in January, Like how dare how basically like
to how dare I disrespect her because her birthday is
in January. I'm sorry, hey, sorry that your birth month
is January, because it is a trash month to have
a birthday. And I don't care what you say. I'm
happy for your birth actually hers, I'm not. Because but
(18:53):
but in general, I got people who my dad's birthday
is in two days on the fifteenth, Awesome. Good. It's
not a great month.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Yeah, it's really not.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Just the winter time it's not like the holiday type
of winter. It's just the winter.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
And also she can still celebrate it like that.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
She just again, that's just an example, like you want
to be mad for absolutely no reason. I wasn't talking
about you, but.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
To your point, there are people who walk around here
just pissed off all the time for no reason to like, Hey,
why don't you smile? Have a coc and a smile?
As they always say, what do they say, have a
coca and a smile?
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Oh, have a coke. I've never heard that in my life.
You haven't have a coke?
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Probably from the nineties.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Yeah, like a cola?
Speaker 2 (19:34):
A cola in your case, you're like bump in the
smile guys, or bump a gilo and smile for weeks.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
It would make me smile though.
Speaker 5 (19:47):
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Speaker 1 (19:56):
She haven't any more vives all right, Babes Shoesday jan
thirteen and round two up next for the Pats, and
we now know who they're gonna be taking on. Their
opponent will be the Texans. It's gonna happen Sunday in
Foxborow at three p m. We can't take this stuff
for granted, said this last hour. I was on the
phone with my dad last night. We're going back and
(20:18):
forth and he's like, gosh, I'm just so jealous that
you live in New England and every Sunday as of
right now you get a heartbeat, like you don't know
how good you have it. And it's true. You know,
you go outside, you walk around, everybody's in their Patriots gear.
People are excited, everybody is looking forward to Sunday. Not
everybody get that gets that luxury Browns fans, but.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
It's easy to forget what the last two seasons were
because they only won like four games. I know, I know, yeah,
but this is exciting, it's fun.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
We got brought back down to reality for a little bit.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Yeah, but now we have a good team we have.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
It's exciting and a QB that like we really all
are rooting for young kid who's out here just shining.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Well that's the best part. He's twenty three.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
We could have this next like I know, it's so exciting.
So there you have it. A three pm kick, which
is nice. Sunday Pats will take on the Texans. All right,
Mattel has expanded. They're barbies. I know you guys know
this by now, but Mattel has every sort of barbie
you can imagine. For Christmas. The fireman had one duty
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and that was to get a barbie because the camper
van didn't come with a barbie. Crazy Mattel slap yourself, yeah,
just slap yourselves. And he picked the broken arm barbie,
Like Mattel just wants everybody to feel seen Like you
got a broken arm, don't worry. We have a barbie
for that. I can't understand the other one with the
(21:45):
broken arm one.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
I just don't cooky land.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Yeah, and the cast comes off, so she could have
a broken arm or she might not it it's whatever
you want.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
Did they say how she fell?
Speaker 1 (21:53):
They didn't. But Laila has really leaned in. That barbie
has eighty five band aids on it. Now it's just
like the broke barbie, like she's just hurt. But anyways,
they have introduced a new autistic barbie. Uh. The barbie
is essentially designed to reflect the experiences of children with
autism and promote inclusivity, and essentially the doll will avoid
(22:18):
eye contacted.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
How it's a doll.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
That's really It's like it's like salvage. I think this
is a nice thing. It's just what they can't avoid.
I kind of just turned the Barbie doll.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
That's like they should have left that part off because
that part doesn't make any sense. It's not at the
end of the day, it's a dog.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
I can make it look at me. And that's the thing.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
Like you're putting it in the description, so like, why
even put.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
It in this?
Speaker 1 (22:45):
I can't it will avoid direct eye contact, stimming, and
the use of communication aids. They basically collaborated with the
Autistic Self Advocacy Network to make sure that the dog
was the dog the doll the dog I meant tall obviously,
(23:07):
Oh I didn't sap last night, guys, but anyways, to
ensure that it was authentic.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
I feel like they mess up on this one. The
other ones I can get behind, but like, I think
that one little line and it doesn't make it make
any sense.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
They this is what they do do they adams all
for I'm not kidding. Last year they featured the.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
Diabetic Barbie. What how are you need to make a
Barbie diabetic? So have a pump type one serious listen.
I respect them for having like everybody be seen and
everything like that.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
So I really too because I because it's I think
it's nice for every little girl or whoever wants a
Barbie to be like, oh, this one's like me cool.
I get it. But the avoiding icon tact, I don't
get it. You just could turn the Barbie doll.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
To not look I just eyeballs.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Yeah, I don't. Yeah, but anyways, very nice of Mattel,
all right. And then lastly, Mary J. Blige is heading
to Evagis. They're giving them that everybody.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
I'm not flying to vegast. Now, she has classic hits,
but I'm.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
Not paying crazy talented. But like, if I'm going to
Vegas for a residency, it's probably like Celine Dion or Adele.
But here she is making the announcement, Well, I'm here
to announce my first ever Las Vegas residence.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
Come on, come on, MGM, Dolbie lies, that's gonna be.
That's major for me.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
Yeah, kicks off in May. I think it's major for her.
I mean, this is a huge accomplishment. Not everybody gets this.
I feel like the people that are getting these fact
she Boys, new kids on the block, Selene dion Adele
like big names.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Did they say where hers is? Because that's important to law.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
The Dobey live at Park MGM. Okay, that's a good one. Yeah,
first show will be May second, six, eight, and nine.
The second leg begins in July and then they'll have
some additional shows. But tickets go on sale this week.
That's why it's it's important. It's a ten day date residency.
But yeah, I don't know if I know anyone in
my life. It's like Mary Jay getting on a plane.
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Speaker 2 (25:25):
Dashy in morning show.
Speaker 5 (25:27):
Good Morning Boston's number one for hip hop jam in
ninety four five.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Hi, everybody, good morning. Happy Tuesday. We're doing be on
the Swipes, so we're talking dating, love, relationships black thereof
it's a lot of times it's like event fest for
you guys, which I love about how it's not easy
out there, and trust me, I know, I got a
lot of single girlfriends and it's it's crazy six one
seven nine three one one nine four five six one
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seven nine three one one nine four five dating, love, relationships,
all the things. You went on a date, you want
to tell us about it. You're in a relationship. You
guys have something going on, you want to talk about it.
Lucky for you, guys were kicking off beyond the swipe
with Santi.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Yeah, well not with me personally. So we have a
friends of ours who are married. Technically, they are going
I don't want to say they're going through a divorce
because they're not technically divorced yet, but they are just
recently separated, still living in the same house. My wife
and I were out to dinner this weekend and we
saw the wife out with another guy. And listen, she
(26:35):
has the right to be out, that's shit, But it
was her reaction that kind of struck me. She was
definitely shocked that we were seeing her out, and she
was definitely like trying to hide the fact that she
was there with a guy, and it was clear as
day that it was a date. Now, these are friends
of ours, Like the couple is friends of ours.
Speaker 1 (26:51):
That's gonna say. So, how do you know for sure?
So they are getting a divorce?
Speaker 2 (26:55):
No, I don't know that. They are going through a
tough time. They are trying to work on things. They
are technically separated, but again still living in the same house,
just in different parts of the home.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Right, And we don't know if they've had the conversation
of hey, like we can date other people.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
I do know that they Okay, I don't know this
because I'm not in their bedroom. I don't know what
they talk about privately, but seemingly from the outside in
and from conversations we have had with them, they are
trying to work on things, and they are separated, taking
a break, but they are not solidifying the fact that
they want to get a divorce. I thought this to
be like kind of like.
Speaker 1 (27:29):
Were you did you feel like you caught her?
Speaker 2 (27:31):
And oh, absolutely not, just because it was more so
based on her reaction, That's what I was like, Oh
my god, we definitely caught them.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Did she say hi to you? Did she introduce you?
Speaker 2 (27:41):
It was she did not introduce No. I just thought
about that no introduction A quick high right into the restaurant.
It wasn't even like a thing because we were waiting
like out in the lobby.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
There were you in a town where like not people would.
We were in Burlington, Ah, and we love which is
how it's like thirty minutes Okay, it's she definitely thought she.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
It's not too far back.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
But though to think like I'm not going to run
into Santi and.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Joanne absolutely so, now we're in this really weird thing
when we've had conversations over the last couple of days
of like, do we need to at least tell him, Yeah,
it's not in our place too, but like again, we
have friends with them.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
When my friend was initially going through her separation divorce situation,
her ex husband was seen out with a woman and
she had to say to him, like, you're making me
look bad because we haven't really told anybody, and now
(28:36):
it just looks like you're out here having an affair, cheating,
whatever you want to call it. That must be like
a weird fine line. But for them specifically, they're saying
they want to try to work on it. They ain't
working on it. If she's out on dates.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
Yeah, and like I know more about the way that
he feels and she does. I know him that he
wants her back, he wants to make this work.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
I I don't know if you can say too much.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
No, I'm trying. I'm to put it as like lightly
as I can. I think she grew tired of his
non motivation. I'll just leave leave it at that.
Speaker 1 (29:07):
That's fine. That makes sense to me.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
She has a bigger career than he does.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
Is he starting to become motivated due from this? Okay,
I understand her, then let her eats.
Speaker 2 (29:18):
I understand her point, but I think, like the problem
I'm having is like it seems a little too quick
and clearly like you guys are on the same page
with it. Not that they put us in the middle,
but they communicate both these feelings to us. So in
a sense we're kind of involved in a way.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
Do you feel more of an allegiance to him or her?
Speaker 2 (29:35):
That's a good question. Uh, probably a little to her,
I would.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
Follow, because you haven't told him that you saw her.
Speaker 2 (29:41):
I haven't told them. But again, we're friends with them.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
But it can feel more allegiance to her than you
tell them.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
Yeah, you're probably right, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
And that's fine. I mean, that's not really your business.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Do we have a conversation with her though, Like hey, yeah,
like maybe slow things down or communicate with him, because
that's the other part. Like, again, if it wasn't for
the fact that she reacted like that to us, I'd
be like, ah, but she was definitely like taking a
back that we were out and that we saw her.
Nothing has been said since then.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
Yeah, I don't know. I don't think you really can
say anything. I don't think she owes you anything. Unfortunately,
you know, unless she's calling Joanne all hours of the night,
like looping her in, keeping her posted, all those things,
and then all of a sudden it's like, wait, you've
been updating me on everything.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
There's a sense of that because there have been communications
about all these things, about the way that she has felt,
in the way that they are trying to work on things,
and there's been all angles of that. I think this
the fact of like wait a second, now you're out
on a date, and again she has the right to
do whatever. Just like that's the part I'm like, whoa.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
But they still live together. Yeah, that's so crazy when
people do that. I don't know how because I would
I would just be so.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Nosy, Yeah, and then like you're going out, Oh who
are you going out with? Or maybe they don't have
those conversations, or she's.
Speaker 1 (30:52):
Like, I'm gonna grab dinner with the girls. I mean,
who knows what she's saying.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
We don't, we don't know.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
It was a do say it was not handsome again
your business? None of your dude could be listening to
the show right now. That's what's going on in the
dating land of Hollis, New Hampshire. What's that? What's up
with you? Six one seven nine three one one nine
four five six one seven nine three one one nine
(31:16):
four five. We're talking dating, love relationships with the lack
thereof Hi, everybody, Good morning, It's Ashley and the jam
In morning show. It is funny. I'm getting messages from
people being like, why is Santi always like a part
of the mess I can't speak to it. I'm always
but I like, I think we each individually have like
(31:36):
magnets to certain things. You with with the drama in
a town that's not Hollis, you always have some sort
of connection to it, you do.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
I think it's because I give off the area that
I don't judge and even though I do, which is
not what I'm really good at relating to. Sometimes they're
like issues, yeah, and I have.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
The magnet of people tell me things that's very true,
which I've seen, Yes, yeah, which I love.
Speaker 2 (32:02):
It's amazing.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Great Chevelle is in Boston. Uh, gonna Chevelle. You're gonna
help Santiaut with this one, even though trust me, he
wasn't taking anyone's advice because he does what he wants.
But she's gonna walk you through and walk you through
what she thinks you should be doing.
Speaker 4 (32:19):
Son Sky, Like, I think you should just stay like mutual,
like like they're going through something. They made that plane,
so they're going through something. So let them go through.
What you saw is what you saw, because at the
end of the day, when they get back together, if
they get back together, you're gonna be the bad guy.
You're going to be the guy that well the whole time,
(32:41):
you know, he ran back and told you every time
he saw me, so I have no words for him,
and to please her, he's going to be like, okay, okay,
So we'll cut this group of this couple out of
our life because obviously they didn't want us to get
better because every time I sneeze, he told.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
So.
Speaker 4 (32:57):
He sounds like it sounds like he's being a like
he needs to do about it, he said, he's not
really even trying to change. She wants more, she wants better.
And I think the only reason why they're still together
living in the same house because he's not. He can't
even afford to pack up and like go get a
room or something for a month or whatever. He has
to be there. He has to be there, so it's
(33:19):
a convenience for him. And if he Tappy is just
everyday saying thing over and over again, and she wants
to do better and do more, and he's just like
being a plug. It's kind of like annoying, and just
give them their space, let them go through, you know
what I mean. And if he's trying to make changes,
and she's gonna probably put the chop down anyway, So
I like to stay out of it.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
I agree. I think you say out of that one
thing that you said that really stands out to me,
and I feel like we've all been through this in
our time. They'll probably get back together. Yeah, And it's
like I deal with this with my girlfriend. Yep. They'll
tell me like the worst possible things about their exes,
like just horrific things where I'm like, oh, bye, I
hope we never see that man again. And then a
(34:01):
week later, Oh, what are you doing? Oh I'm getting
dinner with Mike?
Speaker 2 (34:06):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (34:06):
Are you?
Speaker 3 (34:08):
Are you doing? What?
Speaker 1 (34:09):
Like? You can't tell too much? You just really can't.
I like that advice. Thank you for the cloud. You
won't do it though, because you're invested in that.
Speaker 2 (34:16):
No, I'm still involving my existence in them. But I
do think they getting back again. They were just talking
about going on vacation next month together and I think
they were going to book it like this week. So
I think they are getting back together. And maybe this
is just something she needed to get over it.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
She was with a guy friend, Like, what if it
was like me and you went out to dinner, that wouldn't.
Speaker 2 (34:33):
Be weird on the Saturday night. I guess that wouldn't
be weird. But you and I are are like unique,
It's not like that happens like all the time. So
maybe it was somebody from work, but it was her
reaction that kind of like and then not to John
from work or a boy from work or something like that.
So yeah, weird. Maybe this is what she needs to
get it out of her system. Maybe she you know,
(34:54):
they met together a really long time, so you know.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
In like two months, you'll not and chalantly on air
throwing like, oh remember my friends, like they're back together.
Watch that's definitely gonna happen. All right, let's wrap that
up because I just got a hilarious DM about a
girl that went on a first date, which we'll talk
about next. Good morning, Hi, everybody, Good morning, It's Ashley
in the GM in Morning Show. Hope we're doing well.
We're doing beyond the swipe right now where we talk
(35:18):
about dating love relationships. I feel like you guys are
being shy to the phones today, but I'm getting a
lot of dms. Uh and six one seven nine three
one one nine four five six one seven nine three
one one nine four five. If you want to join
in the conversation, you have a date story to tell
your inner relationship and you want an e vent about something.
(35:39):
You want to just talk about how hard it is
to be single, anything you want that involves dating love relationships.
So it was a long DM, but I'm gonna give
you a quick synopsis. Basically, girl goes on first date
with guy met him on hinge. In his photos, this
part is important. It looked like he was like out
and about with people, like not that he was a partier,
(36:00):
but that he went to social functions and things like that.
So they go out to a bar. They sit down,
bartender comes over. Do you guys want to drink? He says, yes,
I'll take a beer. She gets a beer, then too
kind of tries to match the energy. He takes the
first step of his beer and says, I've been sober
for three years, but I'm starting to drink again.
Speaker 2 (36:21):
Oh geez, that's like wow. I was not expecting that.
Speaker 1 (36:25):
So she's like, it's a first date. I didn't know
if I should like delve into it, so I didn't
say anything else. I was just like okay, And she
said he went on to have three beers. But now
she said she feels like a bad person if she
doesn't follow up, for like, because she said other than
that she had a good time.
Speaker 2 (36:41):
Yeah. I think if I were her, I would definitely
follow up with him and be very specific and then
maybe he's like falling off the wagon, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
I don't want to be the reason someone fell off.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
Yeah, but I don't think she would be the reason.
Clearly he must think and this must happen. And I
don't know what this struggle is like. But maybe they
try to reintroduce alcohol back and they lives and realize
that a problem again. But I think like she should
try to stay at him, back on the right path,
because clearly he had an issue before that he was
that he kind of fixed.
Speaker 1 (37:07):
And if somebody says to you the words like, oh,
I was sober for three years, but I'm trying drinking again,
I feel like they're they're like cracking open the door
for you to say something.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
I think so too. But then again, for somebody who's
not familiar with that world, I'm sure she didn't know
what to say, because I really wouldn't, you know what.
Speaker 1 (37:23):
I also thought to myself, this sounds crazy. Maybe he
was kidding. Yeah, maybe he was trying to be funny.
She doesn't know him. Maybe she missed, Yes, she maybe
could have missed. That's what I told her. I said,
maybe you're misreading the situation. I mean, kind of a
dud of a joke, Like I don't like you know,
but was this.
Speaker 2 (37:43):
The only thing with the date that she kind of
thought was off. Yes, then maybe just asked because it
could have been a joke and he might be like, oh,
I was just kidding.
Speaker 1 (37:49):
I was just kidding because again in his photos he
was in like social setting, so she's like, I just.
Speaker 2 (37:55):
This is why it's hard to joke when you're first
dating and your jokes aren't good because you can't distinguished
between a joke and reality.
Speaker 1 (38:01):
And that's why a lot of people say you have
to go on a second date because everybody has like
first date jitters, where like he thought he was Kevin
Hart and he maybe wasn't. To be honest, it's two options.
He thinks he's a comedian he's not, or he literally
started drinking again, like he got he fell off the wagon.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
I mean, either way, you should like for response, you
gotta follow up, like, hey, it's everything, okay. I want
to make sure that you you know, you mentioned something
the other night.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
Yeah, it was kind of like and by the way,
he only had three beers, not thirty, So I think
there is more of a chance that because if he's
a true alcoholic, he took that one sip and he
was like work, it's go time, baby.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (38:37):
I trust my dad's one. I know how this works.
Speaker 2 (38:40):
Yeah, I think it was a joke, Like stop the comedy. Yeah, seriously, Like, honestly,
that was a funny.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
Give it a rest, uh six one seven nine three
one one nine four five six one seven nine three
one one nine four five. We're talking dating, love, relationships
and everything in the end between. It's beyond the swipe
punch jam. Hi, everybody, Good morning. It's Ashley and the
I'm in Morning Show. We're talking dating, love, relationships and
all the things in the in between. Jasmine is in
(39:07):
Lynn Hi, Jasmine, good morning, Good morning.
Speaker 3 (39:11):
How are you so?
Speaker 1 (39:12):
Aj told me that you have a very complex history
with kids and dating and all the things, and you're
kind of going through it right now. So walk me
through the life of Jasmine.
Speaker 3 (39:26):
So, as a teenager, I had kids and I wasn't
really prepared to be a mom.
Speaker 4 (39:33):
So I gave my kids up for adoption.
Speaker 3 (39:36):
And part of that was just I was predisposed to, like,
I use substances, Okay, So I went through a long
time of like where I used drugs and it took
me a while to recover, and I didn't want to
put my kids through that. And so once I felt
(39:56):
good about myself and I felt like I had a
good stable foundation, I like reached out to someone that
I had known for three years. I knew that, like
he's older than me and that he had kids, and
I was just like really enamored with him, and so
I asked him if he wanted to like rent a
(40:17):
room with me. It was just like a room in
someone's house. And I was like, just to see, like
if we're compatible at all, and it was working out. Yeah,
it was working out so well.
Speaker 1 (40:27):
And you don't think that that you that so you
hadn't like spent sleepovers with him before. You were like,
let's just rent this room and see if it works
out for us.
Speaker 3 (40:41):
Well, we have been seeing each other on and off
for three years, so I knew him fairly. Well, Yes,
I have him, yes, So yeah, I just asked him
if you wanted to rent a room with me.
Speaker 4 (40:55):
It wasn't very expensive.
Speaker 3 (40:56):
We were paying we were paying four hundred dollars a month,
and I was like, we're not really investing much in this.
If it doesn't work out, neither of us are losing anything.
And it just ended up being something that we both
felt good and We went from there to actually renting
an apartment, and about two years later, I ended up
pregnant with my daughter. And he's like the one that
(41:18):
ends up telling me, like.
Speaker 4 (41:19):
I think you're pregnant because I thought I had the flu.
Speaker 3 (41:23):
And so all while I'm fine, we have my daughter.
We moved from that apartment into something bigger. We discuss
counting my son. Recently, in May, I actually found my
two adult children. So while I was finding my two
adult children, he was very distracted because he came to
me in September and told me that there was a
(41:46):
twenty nine year old woman that was pregnant and.
Speaker 1 (41:48):
He was leaving.
Speaker 3 (41:50):
And for that week, I proceeded to continue to play
make a deal with this guy because I'm like terrified
of being alone with my kids and failing them and
just you know, it's just it's really complex, and I
just really thought that I had to pick the right person.
Speaker 1 (42:09):
Yeah for this. Now you mentioned, you mentioned that she's
you mentioned that she's twenty nine. How old is he?
Speaker 3 (42:18):
He is fifty five?
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Now fifty five and you are how old?
Speaker 3 (42:23):
I'm thirty nine?
Speaker 1 (42:25):
Okay, Wow, listen, there's a lot happened. This is uh
Aj was right with things being complex.
Speaker 3 (42:34):
So then so then once he told me, I proceeded
to play make a deal with him to try to
convince him to say. There was nothing that I could
say throughout that whole week that was changing his mind.
So then Friday comes around and he said he was
going to go visit his brother to take some time
(42:55):
to thing things out. He did not go visit his brother.
He had caught the bag. He dropped off my kids
at school. He did not tell my kids that they
would not see him when they came home from school.
All through that weekend, a friend of mine that has
snapchat figured out that he was in a hotel in
a neighboring city. I drove with my kids there late
(43:19):
at night, and the hotel wouldn't tell me, of course,
what room he was in, So we drove back early
in the morning and his car wasn't there. By the
end of the weekend. On Monday, he decided that he
was going to call me and that he was coming
back because this woman that he says this was her
first pregnancy and she's only twenty nine. He said that
(43:40):
supposedly she had a miscarriage. But I'm telling him, if
I had a mischage, my first misscharge. I would have
been on the phone with him, like listen, this is happening.
I would have expected him to be in the hospital
for me with me.
Speaker 4 (43:54):
I would have expected him to.
Speaker 3 (43:55):
Be drying my tears. I said, if that didn't happen,
she didn't have a miscarriage, she chose to have an abortion.
He also gave me an STD, So that doesn't mean
that you got it from her.
Speaker 1 (44:07):
Who knows if he shoul I pretend to drop the call.
I'm not really sure what we should do here.
Speaker 2 (44:19):
I think we should say by her.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
It's been so loyal and he was so much everything that,
like you know when you say that someone's your other half,
I'm Latin, I'm Latin. So we say that in a
form of like an orange, you know, like he's the
other half of my orange. I would say, I'm the
peel I want you throw away. You're everything that's good
about us, You're the only thing that's worth he did,
(44:46):
and he did that to me. And on top of that,
like I'm I'm a submissive, so like he had complete
and so submissive, so like so like he's my dog,
like yeah, yeah, no, no, no, So so whatever. But like,
but like, I feel like I just sacrificed so much
(45:08):
and I invested so much and someone that like really
didn't care about me.
Speaker 1 (45:13):
Wow, that's what I gather from that whole situation. Now,
you know what you should do. Concentrate on those kids,
concentrate on recreating that relationship with your adult kids, and
just mom at out, honey. Because he's also also.
Speaker 3 (45:27):
Said he said that he cheated on me because he
suspected that I was always cheating on him. And I
was like, then, why did you say, Like what would
you want to say? Exactly? Yeah, I know. And and
on top of that, this year, I took the whole
year off since January to go to school, and I'm like, finally,
(45:50):
almost forty years old, I'm putting myself through school, I'm
finding my adult children, I'm closing all these chapters in
my life. He like, pss like just to destroyed my life.
Speaker 1 (46:00):
Yeah, don't don't ever let him back in. That's my
advice to you with him. Do not ever let him
back in. You will find another orange to peel. Okay,
thank you all right, babe, thank you so much.
Speaker 4 (46:14):
What in the.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
Actual hell, Like this is what I'm saying what there's
so many levers of that, even like giveing an advice
on way to start. I think what you said was
the best advice.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
Like I can't, I can't.
Speaker 2 (46:25):
Yeah, So that.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
Orange I am. The peel refers to the viral orange
peel theory, a social media transuggestion that a partner's willingness
to perform small, seemingly insignificant acts like peeling an orange
for you when you ask, signifies deep care, attentiveness, and
desire to ease your burdens. So you have it. Go
home today, ask your ask your husband or wife to
peel an orange for you. If they don't do it,
(46:49):
leave That's what I just talked to you.
Well, God only knows what's gonna come out of my
mouth today. I'm going on three hours of sleep. I'm
gonna pray for you guys. I'm gonna yeah, dude. I
think it's a combination of teething and like a sleep regression.
But I don't know how to explain it. The feeling
(00:21):
of like the screams are so loud and now she's
just standing in the crib, holding onto the edge of
the crib and just like and she will not if
I ask her straight up, like Hi Daisy, say mama,
she'll go. But when she is in distress, that is
(00:44):
the only time she says mama, and it's straight distress.
But then, you know, I sleep train, which people don't.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Like, but which is what again, Like it's like a.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Kind of I don't go in there right away. You know,
She's gonna get a little bit of time to cry
and yell like that and see if she can figure
it out, especially when I know that she's okay, you know.
But during that time period, it's not like I'm sleeping,
you know what I mean, Because I can hear the screams.
(01:15):
I turn off the monitor, but it doesn't matter. I
can hear the screams. Anyways, long story short, I was
pretty much up with her from twelve thirty to three
and then my alarm went off. Yeah, three thirty, Yeah,
I know it hasn't I listen. I got a knock
on wood and consider myself lucky. She's been doing really
well and she sleeps well. But the past week or
(01:39):
so has been just it's a nightmare. If we didn't
have it was the weekend, I would be with whatever.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
But did she go on the boom? Is that what
she's crying for?
Speaker 1 (01:48):
So one of she's just crying to be held. That's
how I know there's nothing going on. I don't sleep.
I pick her up and I put her head on
my shoulder and immediately knocked out.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Not me.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I'm not asleeping at rocking chair. I ain't sleeping there
a couple. I mean I went in there multiple times,
but one of the times she was on the boom.
But it's like like she's asleep, like a couple of
SIPs and then she's like yeah, yeah, a couple of
little drawls and she's gone. So it's just it's hard
to function like this.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
But we saw a couple at the dinner the other
night with four kids that were super young too, and
we were talking and then like we remember what this
was like yeah, and it's like tough because like we're
at the point now where we can go out to
dinner without the kids, or if the kids are there,
it's completely fine. Like when you tell these stories, I
think back to all these moments and like you never
feel like you're gonna get to the point where it's like,
oh my god, I'm sleeping in and this is awesome.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Yeah, No, I am at the in the era of
like when we go out, I feel like I'm head
on a swivel constantly being like I'm sorry because something
you know, But yeah, I'm very this is like that's
the story that the thing that happened to me in Duxbury.
I'm very cognizant of. Like when I take them out,
what time where you know you have to be they're
(03:05):
just too little, Like they're they're still figuring out. Leila's
gotten so much better, like night and day, but she
was being absolute terrorists last night too, and and the
fireman's in the middle of a forty eight. I don't
have time for this. I don't have time, you know
why she she lost it on me last night because
I paused Frozen. This is what's stupid about kids. Like
(03:26):
you didn't even know Frozen existed three four days ago,
so until I told you. But now, and there's nothing
else out there. But it's like a it's like them.
It's like the Jim Carrey Grinch, my one of my
favorites of all time. I watched it at nausey in
the month of December. I don't want to see it
again now it's frozen. I paused Frozen to have a
(03:48):
conversation with her, lost her mind. So then then guess
what happened? What Arundelle's dead. I turned Frozen off, so
we're not. You can't be playing these games because.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
That's the problem. Most parents would have turned it back on,
like no, you about my sister there, she's a soft parent.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Gentle. No, it's called gentle. It's wrong, that's what it's called.
I'm not gentle.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
My niece one time wanted a coke because my kids
were drinking coke, so they put a She wanted a bottle.
She had it in like a cup, so they gave
her a cup of coke. She was flipping out. She
said no, she took the cup dumped it over like
the table. My sister didn't went outside to talk about
their emotions together. I'm like, yo, yo, I said to
(04:30):
my mother. I got that's not right.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
We're leaving and had straight tea time.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Outs and this was in the dr so you could
have spanked and it was okay, good, good, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Thank god that can Instead they were mad that she
didn't get spent again, to each their own when it
comes to that, But like, you're not going to flip
out like that because I paused Elsa in the midst
of a song that you heard sixty times. I need
to speak to you. So then the tea he went off,
and then you know, that was the whole thing. It's just,
you know, it's tiring trying to like make good little people.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Yeah. The sleeping thing, that's something that's.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Like, I know, that's like I try so hard to
get in bed and get asleep early, but the only
straight hours I got last night, we're probably nine to twelve.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
And what makes it more challenging is the hours to
our jobs. We'll get up in the middle of the
night and we have to work and it's like a
really big thing.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
But I know what people are thinking, and I also
know it's true. I'm gonna miss these days because they
go so fast.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
You're not going to miss the middle of the night stuff.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
No, no, you're not going.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
To be.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
I don't. Oh my gosh, it really does go by
so fast, these little terrorist kids.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
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Speaker 1 (05:58):
Vive Tuesday Jam thirteen and round two up next for
the Pats people, and we now know who they will
be taking on, Texans. All right, Texans.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
I don't know too much about them, but clearly they're
solid team if they made it this far.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
I watched a little bit of sports that this morning.
I saw, you know, some of the Aaron Rodgers stuff.
He seemed depressed. They didn't really talk much about the Texans.
It was more so about that storyline. Yeah, but you
know what three o'clock kick.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Oh, that's the best part about it.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Yeah, Foxborough three o'clock kick. Now, remember there's only two
games on Sunday, so it would have been like a
three or a six thirty type of thing. But I'll
take a three any time of the day.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
Yeah, is anybody going to the game? I went to
a playoff game years ago and it was fun. The
only down part about it it was raining getting out
And a fun fact about that game, you know who
kind a touchdown age they needed the money?
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Yeah, well yeah, yeah he went to venue your room
and God only knows. No. I listen. I went to
a Patriots game against the Browns once and it was
obviously not a play but it rained the whole time. Miserable.
I can't do it. I would much rather watch it
(07:18):
in the confines of my own home.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
I know the rain. There's people out there who like
love that stuff, love the rain, love the snow.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Listen, I guess I've seen pictures of people that go
to games and it's snowing, and you know, it looks cool,
but Sunday it does. Right now, it's only Tuesday. I
have a mix of rain and stow.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Oh really, it'll change. It's very real, but still it
sounds wet.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
It's exciting times though.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Even my dad called me yesterday and he goes, Buddy,
I would I would do anything for the heartbeat and
he means that wholeheartedly, Like he is so jealous that
we live here and we get to watch these games
and you go to the bar, you go to a party,
and you have a heartbeat because you want your team
to win.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Did he pick aside yet? Is he betting?
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Even if he bets the Patriots, he won't be like
rooting for them to win the Super Bowl. But he'll
he you know, he'll he'll root for his bet all right. However,
his girlfriend is a Steelers fan, so sucks for her.
All right, Will Smith, we know he's going through a
little bit of legal drama. Do you remember we talked
(08:26):
about this was like last week or the violin the
violinist Brian King Joseph, who says that Will fired him
as retaliation, claiming he was fired after reporting a sexual
harassment incident that allegedly occurred during a stop in Vegas
in November of twenty twenty four. You know what we
talked about this the first time. I did not know
that there were Hollywood rumors that Will Yeah likes men.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
I did not know that there's a story. I forget
what the guy did for Will he was he worked
with him when he was an assistant or something like
that said he walked in on Will, the guy the
doing something. The man was making love to Will.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Oh wow, okay, aggressive got it all right? Well, I
don't think we need that really interesting and Will obviously denies.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Will denies, But you know what the interesting part about
is that Will didn't sue back or counter sew or
anything like that. The story just kind of went away.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Well with this one, Will got caught up by like
TMZ and they asked him about this and he just
laughed it off. He didn't say anything. He just did
the and then kept it moving.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Oh so you know what's crazy.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Wasn't like I didn't do that. He just laughed.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
And there was a guy who worked here back in
the day. And this was before like the rumor started
with like the Jada stuff like I'm talking in the
early two thousands, will open marriage type of stuff. I've
heard these rooms for so long. I did, and then
it came out. I'm like, oh my god, they must
have been like bactual.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
But when I heard like I heard, Will was a
player with women like back in the day. Yeah, he
wasn't trying to settle down. He was Will was a
commodity Will was like big Benny, honey, he was. But
at the same time, Jada said that.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
These these scenarios, and I think that's the keyword there
have always been in the air. This was before the
times of like TMZ and everything.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
That so interesting. I mean, it's interesting either way. Will's
attorney is calling the claims false, baseless, and reckless. But
we find Yeah, that's like the first time we've heard
from Will about it, and it's like, you don't hear anything.
He just laughs it off. Yeah, so all right, did
you get a email or a message or anything from
Instagram over the last couple of days to change your password?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Not the last couple of days.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Did you see this quote massive breach. They thought that
happened to Instagram. Millions of people received a reset email
saying like, hey, you have to rechange your password, you
need to steff identification, all the things. Well, they were
saying that it Instagram got hacked. Now there's a company
called malware Bites and they reported that seventeen point five
(10:58):
million ig account users had their data leak.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
My wife actually got this the other day. That's what
I was thinking. This sounds familiar. A two factor authentication.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
On Yeah, and that's pretty much what Instagram has said
to it. They said they're denying any breach, and they
said the past with recent emails are like an external
party reassuring users of their account safety and to do
two step verification.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
What would you do if your account got hacked and
they stole it?
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Oh, this happens, It does not even and then they
don't get their account, which is nuts, Like how do
you not get your account back from some stranger that
stole it?
Speaker 2 (11:36):
People do sometimes as they overtake the account and they
change a handle, so then all of a sudden they
have your followers and the handle's gone and you can't
track down where it is and things.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
It's just it's so constant with the hacking. I mean you, guys,
I'm not even kidding you. Last week on Friday, Billy
Costa comes up to Santi and I and he's like, hey, guys,
you guys are better at this than I am. Like
is this fake? Is this am? I? Are these people
trying to hack me? And I was like, oh my god,
it reminded me, do not click that link?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Yir off.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
He was getting hacked bad. He was thinking of paying yea,
the person you could like hack yeah, and the fact
that the email was from one two three four five
six seven nine seven five four five five five at
email chain. I never heard of dot com. I'm like, Billy,
but this is what happens. Like people see a thing
(12:29):
they don't know if it because it was coming from
a fake Apple account. You know things come from fake
Instagram account. You just you really have to triple check
before you're here.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Link saying if you're listening to the show from overseas
and you want to hack somebody, it's Billy. If you
want an account in this building, at the building.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
This man was about to pay six four five seven
five to two at apples picking dot com. All right,
this thing even know for Tuesday Jam thirteen. Make sure
you catch up on the podcast. It's always there on
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Speaker 3 (13:12):
Good Morning.
Speaker 5 (13:13):
Sustin's number one for hip hop jam in ninety four
or five.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Hi, everybody, good morning. Oh man, everybody's stretched out. What's
what I'm doing? We're just stretching. We're up, we're moving
it six forty on a Tuesday. Only a few more
hours till seven pm and I can.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Go to sleep.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
We're very cool, thine, all right. I love that you
guys get invested in like the stories that we tell,
because that's the whole point, right, Like we come here
and we tell you about our lives, you tell us
about your life during the check in. It's kind of
like this exchange. Was this before we left for Christmas,
(14:00):
that I was telling everybody about my friend? Okay, well
we got this talk back this morning. Actually, we need
an update on the leash cutting of your friend's dog
because you said she's gonna put out a camera and
I need to know what happened. So update. And I
wish I had something juicier for you guys, but if
you did not hear the original story, one of my
(14:22):
besties has a dog. She puts the dog outside on
a lead outside of her house in like a shared yard,
and somebody was cutting the lead, Like when she would
take the dog off and go inside, somebody was cutting it.
So she put out signs they kept cutting. Finally I
(14:43):
said to her, you need to take my ring camera,
like we need to find out who's doing this because
this is crazy. At one point, somebody called like animal
control on her, and the guy came over and checked
everything out, was like, what you're doing is legal. You know,
if the dog's barking, it could be a disturbance to people.
But the dog bug is not barking. I have been
at her house when the dog is out in the lead,
he just lays there. He's a Bernese Mountain dog, but
(15:05):
he loves to be outside in the snow, in the
cold weather. I told her, I thought maybe the person
thought she was being like negligent and would put the
dog outside and maybe like go to target. Maybe that
person didn't know that she works from home, or if
she's on like a business caller on a sales callar
(15:25):
out of the someone's watching her dog.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
If I guess it's somebody that doesn't like dogs and
or is afraid.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Of dogs, right, that's kind of yeah. Anyways, we put
the ring camera out, we put signage. But I think
the most important part to the story is she ended
up ordering a metal lead.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Oh so they can't cut it.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
They can't cut it anymore. They would have to go
out of their way to get like a hacksaw exactly.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
But if you're that dedicated to keep cutting it, I
feel like I would take those extra steps and just
prove a point.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
You might, but I don't think this person that has
it in them to go that far. They haven't cut
it since.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Then, where did you guys put the camera?
Speaker 1 (16:05):
We put it right in the windows of her of
her condo, so you could clearly see, okay that there
was a camera. You can, it's clear as day.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
I feel like it's almost more effective if you hit
the camera that way you can catch the person. So
is there a way that you guys can switch it,
because I feel like at this point we should try.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
To catch the purp Yeah, or is the camera what's
probably pushing, which I means it's working.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
True, they're seeing the camera and they're like, oh damn.
Like true, this girl's trying to.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
But I would fear that person in the sense of
like they're gonna stay patient till they can get her
back or something like that.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
They cut five different leads. That's like, that's no, that's dedicated.
So once she switched it over to the metal, we
have the ring camera out there. I wanted to catch
this person. So because we were trying to place bets
guy or girl. My body was saying.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Girl, yeah, absolute reveal.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Yeah, but then also anything go.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Once you catch him where you guys have a conversation
with her.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Uh, we were not because I live in Marshfield and
this is quin. But I'm in yet everybody in my
life is invested. My mother's hitting her up, being like,
have you heard anything? Have you seen anything?
Speaker 2 (17:15):
It?
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Guys, it's low right now, we got nothing going on.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
You could have solved this entire thing just by having
a conversation with Hey, I don't like dog. Is there
a way we can find figure right schedule?
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Hey, I'm gonna be honest with you. The dog is big,
looks like a bear, and it scares me. Now, mind you,
And I told you guys, that's when I told a story.
You don't need to cut through that way like there's
nothing there, there's no access points to anything like. So
this person I feel like, looks out their window and
sees a dog and that is enough.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Does a dog go to the bathom back there too?
Speaker 1 (17:47):
No, only on walks while he go. So it's not
like I and I'm with him that nothing as a
dog owner upsets me more than when you just see
like pe moment pee, but poop everywhere and people aren't picking.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
It up, especially from those it's like bear poop.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Yeah, the dog is massive.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Yeah, but there are people in this world who just
like could get bothered by stuff that has nothing to
do with them and just can't let things go like that.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
We've talked about this. There are people who just wake
up and they want to be mad, absolutely like they
need something, and we have people in this building like, yeah,
like they have to have something to be upset about.
I had a woman write me a message the other
day so mad because I said, like, oh, January is
just like a boring month, and she was like, my
(18:30):
birthday is in January, Like how dare how basically like
to how dare I disrespect her because her birthday is
in January. I'm sorry, hey, sorry that your birth month
is January, because it is a trash month to have
a birthday. And I don't care what you say. I'm
happy for your birth actually hers, I'm not. Because but
(18:53):
but in general, I got people who my dad's birthday
is in two days on the fifteenth, Awesome. Good. It's
not a great month.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Yeah, it's really not.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Just the winter time it's not like the holiday type
of winter. It's just the winter.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
And also she can still celebrate it like that.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
She just again, that's just an example, like you want
to be mad for absolutely no reason. I wasn't talking
about you, but.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
To your point, there are people who walk around here
just pissed off all the time for no reason to like, Hey,
why don't you smile? Have a coc and a smile?
As they always say, what do they say, have a
coca and a smile?
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Oh, have a coke. I've never heard that in my life.
You haven't have a coke?
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Probably from the nineties.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Yeah, like a cola?
Speaker 2 (19:34):
A cola in your case, you're like bump in the
smile guys, or bump a gilo and smile for weeks.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
It would make me smile though.
Speaker 5 (19:47):
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Speaker 1 (19:56):
She haven't any more vives all right, Babes Shoesday jan
thirteen and round two up next for the Pats, and
we now know who they're gonna be taking on. Their
opponent will be the Texans. It's gonna happen Sunday in
Foxborow at three p m. We can't take this stuff
for granted, said this last hour. I was on the
phone with my dad last night. We're going back and
(20:18):
forth and he's like, gosh, I'm just so jealous that
you live in New England and every Sunday as of
right now you get a heartbeat, like you don't know
how good you have it. And it's true. You know,
you go outside, you walk around, everybody's in their Patriots gear.
People are excited, everybody is looking forward to Sunday. Not
everybody get that gets that luxury Browns fans, but.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
It's easy to forget what the last two seasons were
because they only won like four games. I know, I know, yeah,
but this is exciting, it's fun.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
We got brought back down to reality for a little bit.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Yeah, but now we have a good team we have.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
It's exciting and a QB that like we really all
are rooting for young kid who's out here just shining.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Well that's the best part. He's twenty three.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
We could have this next like I know, it's so exciting.
So there you have it. A three pm kick, which
is nice. Sunday Pats will take on the Texans. All right,
Mattel has expanded. They're barbies. I know you guys know
this by now, but Mattel has every sort of barbie
you can imagine. For Christmas. The fireman had one duty
(21:24):
and that was to get a barbie because the camper
van didn't come with a barbie. Crazy Mattel slap yourself, yeah,
just slap yourselves. And he picked the broken arm barbie,
Like Mattel just wants everybody to feel seen Like you
got a broken arm, don't worry. We have a barbie
for that. I can't understand the other one with the
(21:45):
broken arm one.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
I just don't cooky land.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Yeah, and the cast comes off, so she could have
a broken arm or she might not it it's whatever
you want.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
Did they say how she fell?
Speaker 1 (21:53):
They didn't. But Laila has really leaned in. That barbie
has eighty five band aids on it. Now it's just
like the broke barbie, like she's just hurt. But anyways,
they have introduced a new autistic barbie. Uh. The barbie
is essentially designed to reflect the experiences of children with
autism and promote inclusivity, and essentially the doll will avoid
(22:18):
eye contacted.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
How it's a doll.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
That's really It's like it's like salvage. I think this
is a nice thing. It's just what they can't avoid.
I kind of just turned the Barbie doll.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
That's like they should have left that part off because
that part doesn't make any sense. It's not at the
end of the day, it's a dog.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
I can make it look at me. And that's the thing.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
Like you're putting it in the description, so like, why
even put.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
It in this?
Speaker 1 (22:45):
I can't it will avoid direct eye contact, stimming, and
the use of communication aids. They basically collaborated with the
Autistic Self Advocacy Network to make sure that the dog
was the dog the doll the dog I meant tall obviously,
(23:07):
Oh I didn't sap last night, guys, but anyways, to
ensure that it was authentic.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
I feel like they mess up on this one. The
other ones I can get behind, but like, I think
that one little line and it doesn't make it make
any sense.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
They this is what they do do they adams all
for I'm not kidding. Last year they featured the.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
Diabetic Barbie. What how are you need to make a
Barbie diabetic? So have a pump type one serious listen.
I respect them for having like everybody be seen and
everything like that.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
So I really too because I because it's I think
it's nice for every little girl or whoever wants a
Barbie to be like, oh, this one's like me cool.
I get it. But the avoiding icon tact, I don't
get it. You just could turn the Barbie doll.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
To not look I just eyeballs.
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Yeah, I don't. Yeah, but anyways, very nice of Mattel,
all right. And then lastly, Mary J. Blige is heading
to Evagis. They're giving them that everybody.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
I'm not flying to vegast. Now, she has classic hits,
but I'm.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
Not paying crazy talented. But like, if I'm going to
Vegas for a residency, it's probably like Celine Dion or Adele.
But here she is making the announcement, Well, I'm here
to announce my first ever Las Vegas residence.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
Come on, come on, MGM, Dolbie lies, that's gonna be.
That's major for me.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
Yeah, kicks off in May. I think it's major for her.
I mean, this is a huge accomplishment. Not everybody gets this.
I feel like the people that are getting these fact
she Boys, new kids on the block, Selene dion Adele
like big names.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Did they say where hers is? Because that's important to law.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
The Dobey live at Park MGM. Okay, that's a good one. Yeah,
first show will be May second, six, eight, and nine.
The second leg begins in July and then they'll have
some additional shows. But tickets go on sale this week.
That's why it's it's important. It's a ten day date residency.
But yeah, I don't know if I know anyone in
my life. It's like Mary Jay getting on a plane.
(25:10):
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Speaker 2 (25:25):
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Speaker 5 (25:27):
Good Morning Boston's number one for hip hop jam in
ninety four five.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Hi, everybody, good morning. Happy Tuesday. We're doing be on
the Swipes, so we're talking dating, love, relationships black thereof
it's a lot of times it's like event fest for
you guys, which I love about how it's not easy
out there, and trust me, I know, I got a
lot of single girlfriends and it's it's crazy six one
seven nine three one one nine four five six one
(25:57):
seven nine three one one nine four five dating, love, relationships,
all the things. You went on a date, you want
to tell us about it. You're in a relationship. You
guys have something going on, you want to talk about it.
Lucky for you, guys were kicking off beyond the swipe
with Santi.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Yeah, well not with me personally. So we have a
friends of ours who are married. Technically, they are going
I don't want to say they're going through a divorce
because they're not technically divorced yet, but they are just
recently separated, still living in the same house. My wife
and I were out to dinner this weekend and we
saw the wife out with another guy. And listen, she
(26:35):
has the right to be out, that's shit, But it
was her reaction that kind of struck me. She was
definitely shocked that we were seeing her out, and she
was definitely like trying to hide the fact that she
was there with a guy, and it was clear as
day that it was a date. Now, these are friends
of ours, Like the couple is friends of ours.
Speaker 1 (26:51):
That's gonna say. So, how do you know for sure?
So they are getting a divorce?
Speaker 2 (26:55):
No, I don't know that. They are going through a
tough time. They are trying to work on things. They
are technically separated, but again still living in the same house,
just in different parts of the home.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Right, And we don't know if they've had the conversation
of hey, like we can date other people.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
I do know that they Okay, I don't know this
because I'm not in their bedroom. I don't know what
they talk about privately, but seemingly from the outside in
and from conversations we have had with them, they are
trying to work on things, and they are separated, taking
a break, but they are not solidifying the fact that
they want to get a divorce. I thought this to
be like kind of like.
Speaker 1 (27:29):
Were you did you feel like you caught her?
Speaker 2 (27:31):
And oh, absolutely not, just because it was more so
based on her reaction, That's what I was like, Oh
my god, we definitely caught them.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Did she say hi to you? Did she introduce you?
Speaker 2 (27:41):
It was she did not introduce No. I just thought
about that no introduction A quick high right into the restaurant.
It wasn't even like a thing because we were waiting
like out in the lobby.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
There were you in a town where like not people would.
We were in Burlington, Ah, and we love which is
how it's like thirty minutes Okay, it's she definitely thought she.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
It's not too far back.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
But though to think like I'm not going to run
into Santi and.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Joanne absolutely so, now we're in this really weird thing
when we've had conversations over the last couple of days
of like, do we need to at least tell him, Yeah,
it's not in our place too, but like again, we
have friends with them.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
When my friend was initially going through her separation divorce situation,
her ex husband was seen out with a woman and
she had to say to him, like, you're making me
look bad because we haven't really told anybody, and now
(28:36):
it just looks like you're out here having an affair, cheating,
whatever you want to call it. That must be like
a weird fine line. But for them specifically, they're saying
they want to try to work on it. They ain't
working on it. If she's out on dates.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
Yeah, and like I know more about the way that
he feels and she does. I know him that he
wants her back, he wants to make this work.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
I I don't know if you can say too much.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
No, I'm trying. I'm to put it as like lightly
as I can. I think she grew tired of his
non motivation. I'll just leave leave it at that.
Speaker 1 (29:07):
That's fine. That makes sense to me.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
She has a bigger career than he does.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
Is he starting to become motivated due from this? Okay,
I understand her, then let her eats.
Speaker 2 (29:18):
I understand her point, but I think, like the problem
I'm having is like it seems a little too quick
and clearly like you guys are on the same page
with it. Not that they put us in the middle,
but they communicate both these feelings to us. So in
a sense we're kind of involved in a way.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
Do you feel more of an allegiance to him or her?
Speaker 2 (29:35):
That's a good question. Uh, probably a little to her,
I would.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
Follow, because you haven't told him that you saw her.
Speaker 2 (29:41):
I haven't told them. But again, we're friends with them.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
But it can feel more allegiance to her than you
tell them.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
Yeah, you're probably right, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
And that's fine. I mean, that's not really your business.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Do we have a conversation with her though, Like hey, yeah,
like maybe slow things down or communicate with him, because
that's the other part. Like, again, if it wasn't for
the fact that she reacted like that to us, I'd
be like, ah, but she was definitely like taking a
back that we were out and that we saw her.
Nothing has been said since then.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
Yeah, I don't know. I don't think you really can
say anything. I don't think she owes you anything. Unfortunately,
you know, unless she's calling Joanne all hours of the night,
like looping her in, keeping her posted, all those things,
and then all of a sudden it's like, wait, you've
been updating me on everything.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
There's a sense of that because there have been communications
about all these things, about the way that she has felt,
in the way that they are trying to work on things,
and there's been all angles of that. I think this
the fact of like wait a second, now you're out
on a date, and again she has the right to
do whatever. Just like that's the part I'm like, whoa.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
But they still live together. Yeah, that's so crazy when
people do that. I don't know how because I would
I would just be so.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Nosy, Yeah, and then like you're going out, Oh who
are you going out with? Or maybe they don't have
those conversations, or she's.
Speaker 1 (30:52):
Like, I'm gonna grab dinner with the girls. I mean,
who knows what she's saying.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
We don't, we don't know.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
It was a do say it was not handsome again
your business? None of your dude could be listening to
the show right now. That's what's going on in the
dating land of Hollis, New Hampshire. What's that? What's up
with you? Six one seven nine three one one nine
four five six one seven nine three one one nine
(31:16):
four five. We're talking dating, love relationships with the lack
thereof Hi, everybody, Good morning, It's Ashley and the jam
In morning show. It is funny. I'm getting messages from
people being like, why is Santi always like a part
of the mess I can't speak to it. I'm always
but I like, I think we each individually have like
(31:36):
magnets to certain things. You with with the drama in
a town that's not Hollis, you always have some sort
of connection to it, you do.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
I think it's because I give off the area that
I don't judge and even though I do, which is
not what I'm really good at relating to. Sometimes they're
like issues, yeah, and I have.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
The magnet of people tell me things that's very true,
which I've seen, Yes, yeah, which I love.
Speaker 2 (32:02):
It's amazing.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Great Chevelle is in Boston. Uh, gonna Chevelle. You're gonna
help Santiaut with this one, even though trust me, he
wasn't taking anyone's advice because he does what he wants.
But she's gonna walk you through and walk you through
what she thinks you should be doing.
Speaker 4 (32:19):
Son Sky, Like, I think you should just stay like mutual,
like like they're going through something. They made that plane,
so they're going through something. So let them go through.
What you saw is what you saw, because at the
end of the day, when they get back together, if
they get back together, you're gonna be the bad guy.
You're going to be the guy that well the whole time,
(32:41):
you know, he ran back and told you every time
he saw me, so I have no words for him,
and to please her, he's going to be like, okay, okay,
So we'll cut this group of this couple out of
our life because obviously they didn't want us to get
better because every time I sneeze, he told.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
So.
Speaker 4 (32:57):
He sounds like it sounds like he's being a like
he needs to do about it, he said, he's not
really even trying to change. She wants more, she wants better.
And I think the only reason why they're still together
living in the same house because he's not. He can't
even afford to pack up and like go get a
room or something for a month or whatever. He has
to be there. He has to be there, so it's
(33:19):
a convenience for him. And if he Tappy is just
everyday saying thing over and over again, and she wants
to do better and do more, and he's just like
being a plug. It's kind of like annoying, and just
give them their space, let them go through, you know
what I mean. And if he's trying to make changes,
and she's gonna probably put the chop down anyway, So
I like to stay out of it.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
I agree. I think you say out of that one
thing that you said that really stands out to me,
and I feel like we've all been through this in
our time. They'll probably get back together. Yeah, And it's
like I deal with this with my girlfriend. Yep. They'll
tell me like the worst possible things about their exes,
like just horrific things where I'm like, oh, bye, I
hope we never see that man again. And then a
(34:01):
week later, Oh, what are you doing? Oh I'm getting
dinner with Mike?
Speaker 2 (34:06):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (34:06):
Are you?
Speaker 3 (34:08):
Are you doing? What?
Speaker 1 (34:09):
Like? You can't tell too much? You just really can't.
I like that advice. Thank you for the cloud. You
won't do it though, because you're invested in that.
Speaker 2 (34:16):
No, I'm still involving my existence in them. But I
do think they getting back again. They were just talking
about going on vacation next month together and I think
they were going to book it like this week. So
I think they are getting back together. And maybe this
is just something she needed to get over it.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
She was with a guy friend, Like, what if it
was like me and you went out to dinner, that wouldn't.
Speaker 2 (34:33):
Be weird on the Saturday night. I guess that wouldn't
be weird. But you and I are are like unique,
It's not like that happens like all the time. So
maybe it was somebody from work, but it was her
reaction that kind of like and then not to John
from work or a boy from work or something like that.
So yeah, weird. Maybe this is what she needs to
get it out of her system. Maybe she you know,
(34:54):
they met together a really long time, so you know.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
In like two months, you'll not and chalantly on air
throwing like, oh remember my friends, like they're back together.
Watch that's definitely gonna happen. All right, let's wrap that
up because I just got a hilarious DM about a
girl that went on a first date, which we'll talk
about next. Good morning, Hi, everybody, Good morning, It's Ashley
in the GM in Morning Show. Hope we're doing well.
We're doing beyond the swipe right now where we talk
(35:18):
about dating love relationships. I feel like you guys are
being shy to the phones today, but I'm getting a
lot of dms. Uh and six one seven nine three
one one nine four five six one seven nine three
one one nine four five. If you want to join
in the conversation, you have a date story to tell
your inner relationship and you want an e vent about something.
(35:39):
You want to just talk about how hard it is
to be single, anything you want that involves dating love relationships.
So it was a long DM, but I'm gonna give
you a quick synopsis. Basically, girl goes on first date
with guy met him on hinge. In his photos, this
part is important. It looked like he was like out
and about with people, like not that he was a partier,
(36:00):
but that he went to social functions and things like that.
So they go out to a bar. They sit down,
bartender comes over. Do you guys want to drink? He says, yes,
I'll take a beer. She gets a beer, then too
kind of tries to match the energy. He takes the
first step of his beer and says, I've been sober
for three years, but I'm starting to drink again.
Speaker 2 (36:21):
Oh geez, that's like wow. I was not expecting that.
Speaker 1 (36:25):
So she's like, it's a first date. I didn't know
if I should like delve into it, so I didn't
say anything else. I was just like okay, And she
said he went on to have three beers. But now
she said she feels like a bad person if she
doesn't follow up, for like, because she said other than
that she had a good time.
Speaker 2 (36:41):
Yeah. I think if I were her, I would definitely
follow up with him and be very specific and then
maybe he's like falling off the wagon, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
I don't want to be the reason someone fell off.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
Yeah, but I don't think she would be the reason.
Clearly he must think and this must happen. And I
don't know what this struggle is like. But maybe they
try to reintroduce alcohol back and they lives and realize
that a problem again. But I think like she should
try to stay at him, back on the right path,
because clearly he had an issue before that he was
that he kind of fixed.
Speaker 1 (37:07):
And if somebody says to you the words like, oh,
I was sober for three years, but I'm trying drinking again,
I feel like they're they're like cracking open the door
for you to say something.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
I think so too. But then again, for somebody who's
not familiar with that world, I'm sure she didn't know
what to say, because I really wouldn't, you know what.
Speaker 1 (37:23):
I also thought to myself, this sounds crazy. Maybe he
was kidding. Yeah, maybe he was trying to be funny.
She doesn't know him. Maybe she missed, Yes, she maybe
could have missed. That's what I told her. I said,
maybe you're misreading the situation. I mean, kind of a
dud of a joke, Like I don't like you know,
but was this.
Speaker 2 (37:43):
The only thing with the date that she kind of
thought was off. Yes, then maybe just asked because it
could have been a joke and he might be like, oh,
I was just kidding.
Speaker 1 (37:49):
I was just kidding because again in his photos he
was in like social setting, so she's like, I just.
Speaker 2 (37:55):
This is why it's hard to joke when you're first
dating and your jokes aren't good because you can't distinguished
between a joke and reality.
Speaker 1 (38:01):
And that's why a lot of people say you have
to go on a second date because everybody has like
first date jitters, where like he thought he was Kevin
Hart and he maybe wasn't. To be honest, it's two options.
He thinks he's a comedian he's not, or he literally
started drinking again, like he got he fell off the wagon.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
I mean, either way, you should like for response, you
gotta follow up, like, hey, it's everything, okay. I want
to make sure that you you know, you mentioned something
the other night.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
Yeah, it was kind of like and by the way,
he only had three beers, not thirty, So I think
there is more of a chance that because if he's
a true alcoholic, he took that one sip and he
was like work, it's go time, baby.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (38:37):
I trust my dad's one. I know how this works.
Speaker 2 (38:40):
Yeah, I think it was a joke, Like stop the comedy. Yeah, seriously, Like, honestly,
that was a funny.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
Give it a rest, uh six one seven nine three
one one nine four five six one seven nine three
one one nine four five. We're talking dating, love, relationships
and everything in the end between. It's beyond the swipe
punch jam. Hi, everybody, Good morning. It's Ashley and the
I'm in Morning Show. We're talking dating, love, relationships and
all the things in the in between. Jasmine is in
(39:07):
Lynn Hi, Jasmine, good morning, Good morning.
Speaker 3 (39:11):
How are you so?
Speaker 1 (39:12):
Aj told me that you have a very complex history
with kids and dating and all the things, and you're
kind of going through it right now. So walk me
through the life of Jasmine.
Speaker 3 (39:26):
So, as a teenager, I had kids and I wasn't
really prepared to be a mom.
Speaker 4 (39:33):
So I gave my kids up for adoption.
Speaker 3 (39:36):
And part of that was just I was predisposed to, like,
I use substances, Okay, So I went through a long
time of like where I used drugs and it took
me a while to recover, and I didn't want to
put my kids through that. And so once I felt
(39:56):
good about myself and I felt like I had a
good stable foundation, I like reached out to someone that
I had known for three years. I knew that, like
he's older than me and that he had kids, and
I was just like really enamored with him, and so
I asked him if he wanted to like rent a
(40:17):
room with me. It was just like a room in
someone's house. And I was like, just to see, like
if we're compatible at all, and it was working out. Yeah,
it was working out so well.
Speaker 1 (40:27):
And you don't think that that you that so you
hadn't like spent sleepovers with him before. You were like,
let's just rent this room and see if it works
out for us.
Speaker 3 (40:41):
Well, we have been seeing each other on and off
for three years, so I knew him fairly. Well, Yes,
I have him, yes, So yeah, I just asked him
if you wanted to rent a room with me.
Speaker 4 (40:55):
It wasn't very expensive.
Speaker 3 (40:56):
We were paying we were paying four hundred dollars a month,
and I was like, we're not really investing much in this.
If it doesn't work out, neither of us are losing anything.
And it just ended up being something that we both
felt good and We went from there to actually renting
an apartment, and about two years later, I ended up
pregnant with my daughter. And he's like the one that
(41:18):
ends up telling me, like.
Speaker 4 (41:19):
I think you're pregnant because I thought I had the flu.
Speaker 3 (41:23):
And so all while I'm fine, we have my daughter.
We moved from that apartment into something bigger. We discuss
counting my son. Recently, in May, I actually found my
two adult children. So while I was finding my two
adult children, he was very distracted because he came to
me in September and told me that there was a
(41:46):
twenty nine year old woman that was pregnant and.
Speaker 1 (41:48):
He was leaving.
Speaker 3 (41:50):
And for that week, I proceeded to continue to play
make a deal with this guy because I'm like terrified
of being alone with my kids and failing them and
just you know, it's just it's really complex, and I
just really thought that I had to pick the right person.
Speaker 1 (42:09):
Yeah for this. Now you mentioned, you mentioned that she's
you mentioned that she's twenty nine. How old is he?
Speaker 3 (42:18):
He is fifty five?
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Now fifty five and you are how old?
Speaker 3 (42:23):
I'm thirty nine?
Speaker 1 (42:25):
Okay, Wow, listen, there's a lot happened. This is uh
Aj was right with things being complex.
Speaker 3 (42:34):
So then so then once he told me, I proceeded
to play make a deal with him to try to
convince him to say. There was nothing that I could
say throughout that whole week that was changing his mind.
So then Friday comes around and he said he was
going to go visit his brother to take some time
(42:55):
to thing things out. He did not go visit his brother.
He had caught the bag. He dropped off my kids
at school. He did not tell my kids that they
would not see him when they came home from school.
All through that weekend, a friend of mine that has
snapchat figured out that he was in a hotel in
a neighboring city. I drove with my kids there late
(43:19):
at night, and the hotel wouldn't tell me, of course,
what room he was in, So we drove back early
in the morning and his car wasn't there. By the
end of the weekend. On Monday, he decided that he
was going to call me and that he was coming
back because this woman that he says this was her
first pregnancy and she's only twenty nine. He said that
(43:40):
supposedly she had a miscarriage. But I'm telling him, if
I had a mischage, my first misscharge. I would have
been on the phone with him, like listen, this is happening.
I would have expected him to be in the hospital
for me with me.
Speaker 4 (43:54):
I would have expected him to.
Speaker 3 (43:55):
Be drying my tears. I said, if that didn't happen,
she didn't have a miscarriage, she chose to have an abortion.
He also gave me an STD, So that doesn't mean
that you got it from her.
Speaker 1 (44:07):
Who knows if he shoul I pretend to drop the call.
I'm not really sure what we should do here.
Speaker 2 (44:19):
I think we should say by her.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
It's been so loyal and he was so much everything that,
like you know when you say that someone's your other half,
I'm Latin, I'm Latin. So we say that in a
form of like an orange, you know, like he's the
other half of my orange. I would say, I'm the
peel I want you throw away. You're everything that's good
about us, You're the only thing that's worth he did,
(44:46):
and he did that to me. And on top of that,
like I'm I'm a submissive, so like he had complete
and so submissive, so like so like he's my dog,
like yeah, yeah, no, no, no, So so whatever. But like,
but like, I feel like I just sacrificed so much
(45:08):
and I invested so much and someone that like really
didn't care about me.
Speaker 1 (45:13):
Wow, that's what I gather from that whole situation. Now,
you know what you should do. Concentrate on those kids,
concentrate on recreating that relationship with your adult kids, and
just mom at out, honey. Because he's also also.
Speaker 3 (45:27):
Said he said that he cheated on me because he
suspected that I was always cheating on him. And I
was like, then, why did you say, Like what would
you want to say? Exactly? Yeah, I know. And and
on top of that, this year, I took the whole
year off since January to go to school, and I'm like, finally,
(45:50):
almost forty years old, I'm putting myself through school, I'm
finding my adult children, I'm closing all these chapters in
my life. He like, pss like just to destroyed my life.
Speaker 1 (46:00):
Yeah, don't don't ever let him back in. That's my
advice to you with him. Do not ever let him
back in. You will find another orange to peel. Okay,
thank you all right, babe, thank you so much.
Speaker 4 (46:14):
What in the.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
Actual hell, Like this is what I'm saying what there's
so many levers of that, even like giveing an advice
on way to start. I think what you said was
the best advice.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
Like I can't, I can't.
Speaker 2 (46:25):
Yeah, So that.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
Orange I am. The peel refers to the viral orange
peel theory, a social media transuggestion that a partner's willingness
to perform small, seemingly insignificant acts like peeling an orange
for you when you ask, signifies deep care, attentiveness, and
desire to ease your burdens. So you have it. Go
home today, ask your ask your husband or wife to
peel an orange for you. If they don't do it,
(46:49):
leave That's what I just talked to you.
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