The Fear Of Flying

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Episode Transcript

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And the gam In Morning Show withDJ fourn It saw a tapid morning.
Gostin's number one for hip hop jamin ninety four or five. Hi,
everybody, good morning. You guyshave been no stranger to the fact that
I've had a lot of loss inthe last couple months of my life.

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It's so crazy because I was saying, you know, I had heard that,
saying before, like death's come inthree I hear people say that,
but I'd never experienced that. ButI knew that that was a thing.
Obviously, my dog Drake passed andthat was it wasn't well there. And

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then I got the news that oneof my friends who played at Northeastern had
died. And I've really really reallystruggled. Of all of them, I've
really struggled and like wrestled with hersbecause you know, my grandmother passing,
it was none as time and Isaid this all week. None was eighty
six years old. Nana lived likethe most beautiful life. Nona was well

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traveled. Nna had four boys whowent on to have kids, and their
kids had kids. Nona had fifteengreat grandchildren and she met every single one,
and there are photos of her withevery single one. It was her
time, and I think that's digestibleto me and my brain. I can,
however, sad at maybe I canunderstand that my friend Melissa, I

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just I won't. I like itangers me. I don't get it.
I don't understand how something so badcan happen to somebody so good. She's
a young mom with four kids.The two youngest probably won't even remember her,
and that keeps me up at nightbecause she loved nothing more than being

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their mom and it was the mostbeautiful thing. And like, I'm just
like looking back through our text messagesand just like reading her reaching out to
me after Drake had died, andI just can't, like computed, I
can't make sense of it in myhead. And I say this all to
say that this weekend is her services. And I know I told you guys,
I won't be able to go toNuna's after next weekend. I'm I'm

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unable to travel on a plane becauseI'm so close to you know, my
due date, and you know thereI'll be going to Charlotte for the services.
There's services on Saturday and Sunday,and I will be with all my
teammates and it's like as horrible asof a reason for us to be together,
at least we have each other.Yeah, but it's just like it

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makes me mad and I still itjust makes me feel like it's not real.
I think this is going to bethe reality of it for me because
right now I'm like fighting it.I've experiened the same thing when one of
my team mates dieding. Going tothe funeral definitely makes it real, but
it definitely helps having your team therethough, I will give you that.
Yeah, for sure, there's abunch of us going. And to make
little light of a heavy situation,one of my best friends and college teammates,

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it's Lindsey is my travel companion forthe weekend, and she has one
great fear in life, well otherthan men, because she's she's been a
lesbian all her life. Her secondgreatest fear other than that is flying and
we gotta fly and we gotta fly, and she doesn't do well with flying.

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Like I almost I checked this inthis morning and I almost wanted to
switch our seats because I don't wantto sit next to her, but then
that'll give her a panic attack ifshe's not sitting next to her here's what
you should do. I found thesolution. You should text her right now
and covid. I had a dreamthat it was tomorrow on this Saturday.
How do you know that? Yesit is. We are flying America.

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But yeah, no, it's sheis just she's so unwell about it.
And I'm trying to tell her,like you just need to sit there and
relax, just take a deep breath. That fear is so real. It's
cripple. I got to ask,but what does it come from? A
bad experienon She's mainly anxious about likethe lead, the build up to it.
Once we're off and we're like goingand we're up in the sky,

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she'll settle in. I've flown withher a few times and she'll settle in.
But it's the thought of it's leadingup. It's the build up to
us getting turbulence. That's what itis. When most people has this.
My wife's fear for flying is gettinga lot worse. The flight we just
took, the turbulence was bad onlanding. No, sorry that there was
turbulence on land There were a couplebumps. It was not bad, she

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screamed at one of the bumps.I turned around. I was like,
you can't do this to everybody,but it's getting worse. If it's a
little bumpy heart, she grabs thearm mass she's Icanic. There was one
time we were on the way upright, I think again, minor bumps.
She started crying. She goes,I don't want to die. I
don't. You can't say that,and I'm like, joined look at the

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altitude we're still going on. Shekeeps doing it. She keeps getting on
airplanes instead of being so pulled ofbeing like everything. He's like, you're
embarrassing. I don't say nothing.I'm streaming. I've tried telling her it's
gonna be fine. I've tried showingher videos about like turribulence and how safe
it is some some narcotics. Well, this next flight we're taking is really

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long. So we did agree thatshe's gonna take some xan X. I
think yes, And because we haveI can't do this for ten hours.
I can't. I want Linds todo that as well, because I like,
I want her to be drooling onmy shoulder. I don't want to
be the knockout. Yes, goto sleep. Do you think Lindsay's listening
right now, don't Santy because she'snot listening. Yesterday I literally had a

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dream that you were on the flightplummeted