Watch Out For The Toxic Mom Groups

Ashlee finds out what she is in store for as her kids get older. 

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Tie everybody Thursday. I think I've.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
I've officially hit a low point when it comes to
shows that I'm watching in my life first and foremost.
I think most people know what I mean when I say, like,
when you're when you're in the thick of it with kids,
the ages that I have, you are maybe watching one
episode a day if you're if you're really lucky, by
the way, that's because I won't watch my shows in

(00:29):
front of them, you know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (00:30):
I don't want to.

Speaker 2 (00:31):
Just put my shows on and just sit there and
then they're God only knows on the TV and I
you know, so I don't watch TV until both of
them are down, which is around seven ish, and we're
lucky if I can stay awake at.

Speaker 1 (00:45):
That point for twenty minutes. And I'm you know, I'm nothing.
I watched this trash show called Emily in Paris. Ye okay, yeah,
it's it is a horrible show.

Speaker 2 (00:56):
She's an idiot, she makes like the worst decisions constantly.

Speaker 1 (01:02):
But it's like mindless TV, right, It's it's nothingness. It's
the same thing.

Speaker 2 (01:05):
So it's a nice little show to put on at
the end of the night. I can when I call
a show mindless. It means like I can dual task.
I can be on my phone but also watch a
show at the same time.

Speaker 1 (01:14):
So it's watching Emily in Paris.

Speaker 2 (01:16):
That wraps up, and then Netflix does the oh, because
you watched ABC and D like, you should watch this show,
and they hit me with because you watched the Summer,
I term pretty and Emily in Paris and whatever, you.

Speaker 1 (01:30):
Should watch The Life of the Walter Boys. Wait, bro,
I my wife has watched that. It is yeah, been
talking about that, Yeah, that would make more sense. Okay, yes,
the Life of the Walter Boys. Now I am need
the in this show and it is just I thought

(01:53):
it was bad. I thought I was bad.

Speaker 2 (01:54):
With the Summer I term pretty where it was like corny,
but also like couldn't stop watching. This is next level,
Like I put it on now and I'm addicted.

Speaker 1 (02:03):
I want to slap myself. I can't stop.

Speaker 3 (02:07):
It's what do you think about teenage boys?

Speaker 1 (02:09):
Right?

Speaker 3 (02:09):
Teenage boys?

Speaker 1 (02:11):
Yes, I can't stop.

Speaker 2 (02:13):
And the premise is kind of the same where it's
like you got this girl who lost her family, so
now she has to live with this other family who
has like seven boys, and there are two specific boys
that have feelings for her. It's like I'm doing it
to myself again.

Speaker 3 (02:29):
Here we are, And now is that based on a book?
Because then I can see you like taking the next
step and buy a booth.

Speaker 2 (02:33):
No, I actually haven't looked that up. Oh god, now
I'm gonna have to. I haven't looked that up. But
I'll tell you this. A couple of times, the fireman
has come in the room, like like at nights, right
before I go to bed, and he hears a little.

Speaker 1 (02:43):
Bit of what what are you watching? Listen? It's in back.
I don't even. I don't know myself. So that's where
I'm at right.

Speaker 2 (02:50):
I've heard there's so many good shows out there, Like
people are talking about this plurbis show on Apple and everyone's.

Speaker 1 (02:55):
Like, oh this watch that. No I can't. No, I'm
with a bunch of sophomores in Colorado the Life of
the Walter Boys.

Speaker 3 (03:04):
And that's another thing. It's always weird when it's like
teenagers because they start doing like adult things, but you
know it's like really, you know, they aren't that as actors.
But then you take a step back and like, what
am I watching?

Speaker 1 (03:15):
Dude? The main one I'm not about to look I
need to look up.

Speaker 3 (03:19):
Do you have a favorite, Well.

Speaker 2 (03:20):
Yeah, I got a favorite Walter Boy. There's twelve of them,
and my favorite one is named Cole. Let's get an
age on this guy.

Speaker 3 (03:30):
Like the actor or the yeah, the character. Okay, good,
it's gonna be this twenties.

Speaker 1 (03:34):
Right, twenty seven?

Speaker 3 (03:35):
Okay, good, Ash, We're fine. I feel I.

Speaker 1 (03:39):
Feel a lot better. I was about to lie twenty seven,
so thank god because hey handsome.

Speaker 3 (03:44):
And he's playing like a sixteen year old.

Speaker 1 (03:47):
He's the sophomore. Yeah, what are we doing?

Speaker 2 (03:51):
Right?

Speaker 1 (03:51):
What are we doing? And I'm blaming Netflix for it
because it's like, oh, you should watch this another show.
It's mindless. It's just there. But I'm addicted. I want
to know now.

Speaker 3 (04:02):
I don't know who she's gonna pick. I don't know
what platform it's on. But my wife has this show
on in the background, saving exact thing. She puts it
on in the background while she's doing work. But it's
I think it's a sweetish show that's dubbed over and
it's about this rich family and this whole love story
between a poor girl and like all this stuff. It
is so stupid. But she's addicted to the storyline.

Speaker 1 (04:21):
I know. It's just it's sad and it's giving sadness.

Speaker 2 (04:25):
It's like, yo, don't you have if somebody walked into
the room with it on ash? Don't you have like
other important things you could be doing if you're like, yeah, yeah, yeah,
I do.

Speaker 3 (04:35):
But the algo is so on point if you think
about it, because it keeps feeding you the storylines. Right,
that's so sad.

Speaker 2 (04:44):
They're like, Hey, you finished your last sophomore drama. I
guess what we got for you? A brand new one
and some of these kids are freshmen. We know you're
gonna love it.

Speaker 4 (04:54):
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Speaker 5 (05:03):
Do you haven't any more?

Speaker 6 (05:04):
Five?

Speaker 3 (05:05):
All right?

Speaker 1 (05:06):
Guys?

Speaker 2 (05:06):
Thursday, January eighth, and late into the show yesterday, we
found out about an Uxbridge police officer that was struck
and killed by a tractor trailer on in the early
hours of Wednesday morning. At that time, we did not
know who the officer was. He wasn't identified. He has
since been identified as Officer Stephen Laporta, just forty three

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years old and like I said, he was aiding a
motorist outside of his vehicle on the northbound side of
one forty six when he was hit and killed almost
instantly by a tractor trailer.

Speaker 1 (05:40):
And now we do know this morning.

Speaker 2 (05:43):
You know, he had been with the department for two
years and has left behind a wife and a child.

Speaker 3 (05:49):
That's part of the stuff about this. You know, he
was a dad, teenage son.

Speaker 2 (05:53):
It's just and every interview you see with not only
the police department of Uxbridge, but people that live in
the town, it seems like a really small town type
of like everybody knows everybody and they are just and
have been hit so hard by this.

Speaker 1 (06:08):
I mean he was only forty three years old.

Speaker 3 (06:10):
Yeah, and that's another thing, man, that forty three that's
way too young. And these guys go out and put
their laws on the line like every day.

Speaker 1 (06:17):
So we talked about this yesterday. The police deaths, like
a lot of them come from this get by cars
on the side and it's kye like it just it
scares you.

Speaker 2 (06:28):
And to think it was a tractor trailer as just
the driver by the way of the tractor trailer was
taken to a nearby hospital and traded for minor injuries,
and the motorists that was being assisted was also not injured.

Speaker 3 (06:40):
Just seems like an awful accident.

Speaker 1 (06:42):
It really does.

Speaker 2 (06:42):
It really does. So thoughts in prayers with you know,
wife and the child.

Speaker 1 (06:48):
I can't even imagine. All right, big news yesterday Daddy
Al is out.

Speaker 3 (06:53):
Yes, what happened?

Speaker 1 (06:56):
It can only be one thing?

Speaker 3 (06:57):
What that like? There's the inevitable that the person's guilty
and that there's no way out guilty.

Speaker 2 (07:02):
Have you have you heard what Daddy All had to
say after he said I can't be a lawyer.

Speaker 3 (07:07):
I think so, but I didn't. I didn't know if
that was from before.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
No, that was yesterday as he was leaving the case. Yes,
there's a lot of moving parts here to me.

Speaker 2 (07:16):
All right, So we know Alan Jackson has was the
attorney for Nick Reiner, who's been accused of killing his parents,
Rob and Michelle Reiner in her.

Speaker 1 (07:27):
In their sleep.

Speaker 2 (07:29):
You know, Daddy Al immediately took on this case, came
out right away Nick is innocent all of the things.
And then yesterday we find out that Daddy Al is
walking away as defense attorney for Nick Reiner and they
their whole team are going to be replaced by a
public defender. On his way out, Alan Jackson addresses the

(07:51):
media on his way out of saying, Hey, I can't
defend Nick Rener anymore for things out of my control.

Speaker 7 (07:57):
He says this, I'm legally and I'm at the prohibited
from explaining all the reasons why.

Speaker 3 (08:03):
I know that's a question on everybody's mind.

Speaker 7 (08:05):
Circumstances beyond our control, but more importantly, circumstances beyond Nick's
control have dictated that. Sadly, it's made it impossible for
us to continue our representation of this.

Speaker 1 (08:18):
That actually wasn't the clip I wanted.

Speaker 2 (08:19):
He says this, and then he goes on to literally
say Nick Reiner is innocent, and he keeps going print this.
If you're going to print anything, print this. But how
maybe Reiner is unequivably.

Speaker 3 (08:32):
Innocent, but he's not though they found him blood on
his hands. Maybe it's a situation where he's insane. And
that's the angle, the only.

Speaker 1 (08:39):
Thing I can think of now.

Speaker 2 (08:41):
There were rumors over the last couple of weeks TMZ
had put out like a little mini doc that essentially
he was schizophrenic and that he was on certain medications
and that leading up to the murder of his parents,
they switched his meds and.

Speaker 1 (08:55):
He didn't respond well to that.

Speaker 3 (08:56):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (08:58):
But my guess is if I had to guess that
this most likely has to deal with.

Speaker 1 (09:03):
Money, yeah, because there's no there's nothing else makes sense
to me.

Speaker 3 (09:07):
Well, the part that points to that is now he's
going with a public defender exactly like, Okay, so you
clear you can't you have no Ky.

Speaker 1 (09:13):
It's not like you're trading in one lawyer for the next.
I do.

Speaker 2 (09:17):
I don't think he has the funds. I don't think
he has the money, and I think Alan Jackson.

Speaker 3 (09:21):
Is like, listen, I work for free for two years.
I'm not doing it again.

Speaker 1 (09:24):
That's all. That's all I can think. You're not as pretty. Yeah,
I'm sorry. I can't do it for you.

Speaker 2 (09:29):
Nick Reiner's new arraignment is going to be February twenty third.

Speaker 1 (09:33):
I'll get that clip for you for the next hour.

Speaker 2 (09:35):
Ray j hospitalized in Vegas due to a severe case
of pneumonia and heart paints.

Speaker 3 (09:42):
He took too much shrugs listen.

Speaker 1 (09:45):
He was admitted on Tuesday night.

Speaker 2 (09:46):
He's undergoing tests, X rays, echio, cardiogram, and I did
not know this, but he had a previous incident in
twenty twenty one where he was hospitalized and diagnosed with
quote non covid no ammonia. This was during the pandemic,
and his body like didn't really respond well at all
to it, to the point where he was talking about how.

Speaker 1 (10:07):
He needs to change some things, like he had a
legit health scare and now he's back.

Speaker 3 (10:12):
In Maybe he's like has something that like his immune
system has weakened.

Speaker 1 (10:18):
He will who am I pneumonia and heart pains, and
the heart.

Speaker 3 (10:24):
Pain probably came from some sort of like partying or
maybe some anxiety, because there's a lot of people out
there who think they're having a heart attack but it
turns out to be.

Speaker 1 (10:31):
Maybe it was Brandy, Yeah, sister gave him heart palpitations.
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (10:34):
It just always seems like there's something with him like happening.

Speaker 1 (10:37):
I feel the same way.

Speaker 4 (10:38):
I know.

Speaker 2 (10:39):
I would never want anything bad to happen to his health,
but it does seem like this man's always got something
going on.

Speaker 3 (10:43):
And it's always in the news, right, like did he
go to the hospital and call TMZ.

Speaker 1 (10:47):
He's laying in a bed with no shirt on, and
the pictures everywhere.

Speaker 3 (10:50):
Okay, but like again, he's I just feel like he
finds a way to make.

Speaker 2 (10:54):
Yeah, and here I am he's the bait, the bait.
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Speaker 4 (11:12):
Coming sadly morning show, Good Morning Boston's number one for
hip hop Jammin ninety four or five.

Speaker 1 (11:22):
Hi, BAM's good morning. Oh my gosh, I'm so sick
of this congestion. I am just so sick of it.
Everybody has the flu.

Speaker 3 (11:29):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (11:30):
I even saw an article this morning on Boston dot
Com that says, like illness is going around the Patriots
locker room. I'm like, oh, they couldn't seen. You can't
escape it. It's like you just go outside and you're
catching it.

Speaker 3 (11:41):
But the timing of that is not good because they
have the game in a couple of days.

Speaker 5 (11:44):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (11:44):
I mean again, this is the time coming off the
holidays where people get sick just because they were all
everybody was together, and you're in large groups and all
of the things. The crazy part about this flu time
around for me is that it's I mean, I'm still
sounding like this and it's been.

Speaker 1 (11:59):
Over a week.

Speaker 2 (12:00):
Yeah, I kind of thought after seven days my I
wouldn't be as congested, And it's weird. I'm far more
congested in the morning and late at night than I
am in the middle of the day.

Speaker 3 (12:10):
But admit that this was probably better than the stomach bug, right, I.

Speaker 1 (12:14):
Would be congested for the rest of twenty twenty six?

Speaker 4 (12:18):
Like if.

Speaker 2 (12:20):
Yes, yes, then neurovirus versus stuffiness. I would take the
stuffiness for the rest of the year. They're like, Ashley
was stuffy all of twenty twenty six. Yeah, she had
a choice, she had to make it.

Speaker 3 (12:29):
Because you're you though, right, But I would take I
would take the neurovirus for like a day or two. What, Yeah, absolutely,
you would be versus being stuffy.

Speaker 1 (12:40):
For a year puking and you know what it is
than just.

Speaker 3 (12:44):
Yes, absolutely, a couple of days of that good and
then I'm like pretting clear for the rest of the year.
Any time, I've never.

Speaker 1 (12:54):
Been humbled in a way that I was with the
neurovirus and that I know.

Speaker 2 (12:57):
So that's why I just feel like I would take
the like stuffy here and.

Speaker 3 (13:01):
There, but then you're doing that like every day. Then
you're probably like and it's annoying.

Speaker 1 (13:04):
It's annoying, I trust me, and you know the constant
of like oh yeah, nose, it's like I am but
I like it's fine. No not I Why are guys
just the way they are? Do you have any answer
to that?

Speaker 3 (13:20):
Does anybody?

Speaker 1 (13:21):
Does anybody have an answer? Because I just.

Speaker 2 (13:26):
I get frustrated because if somebody were to say to me,
if I was noticeably irritated, okay, and somebody says to me, hey,
like what's wrong, like did something happen?

Speaker 1 (13:38):
Are you okay? Like you seem off? What's wrong? I
would communicate that actually, yeah, I am a little bit
annoyed because this happened, or I hate. I might do
the like I'm good, but then I would explain like
I'm fine. But you know, I feel like when you
ask a guy that when they're noticeably irritated or annoyed, Hey,

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like did I do something? Or you are you bothered
by something? Is anything going on? No? I'm fine?

Speaker 2 (14:05):
Yeah, Like what let's communicate, Like, is that too grilly
to communicate?

Speaker 1 (14:11):
Is that why we're I don't want to be a
feelings person.

Speaker 3 (14:13):
I would have to think back to my younger days
because I don't do that like anymore, because I've realized that,
like the time I spent holding a grudge, we lost
valuable days. And I would hold a grudge for days
and do that exact thing for such a long time.
Then when it came to you would talk about this
thing and realize it was so stupid. Right back in
the day, I would hold a grudge just because I
didn't want to tap into those emotions at that moment.

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Now that was just me and I didn't want to
like admit that I could have been wrong, or I
wanted to win the argument. Like all these things.

Speaker 2 (14:41):
I just feel like we all know that to feel
better when you're on edge or something, there's probably gonna
have to be some sort of conversation or you're like
getting it off your chest, or you're gonna a that
that or b you're gonna have to hold on to
it for so long until it eventually just like dissolves
inside of your body and you're not frustrated by it.

Speaker 1 (14:59):
Anymore, and it's like, wouldn't rather just cut to that absolutely?

Speaker 3 (15:01):
Now as an adult, I'm like, let's talk about it
even when I'm wrong. I'm like, I saw that in
a different way, and I apologize.

Speaker 1 (15:08):
I think the average guy does that.

Speaker 3 (15:10):
I don't think he's either. I think this came with
years of therapy, but and then realizing that after twenty
years of marriage, it's really stupid to do this, right.

Speaker 1 (15:17):
I think the average guy just hold it in and they're.

Speaker 3 (15:19):
Like, no, I'm good, but they're not, and then adventure
they'll get.

Speaker 1 (15:22):
It and eventually they get over it.

Speaker 2 (15:23):
Just like again, the best thing I can think of
was like it's inside of you and you feel this
thing and that it just eventually dissolves or lessons and
then you don't.

Speaker 1 (15:30):
Talk about it anymore.

Speaker 3 (15:31):
But this isn't really a consistent thing, right, this is.

Speaker 2 (15:33):
Like no, I just he does this sometimes and it
strusts me out because I'm like, if in the opposite,
if that's me. Like two weeks ago, I noticed that
there was a knife consistently on the calendar with.

Speaker 1 (15:49):
Peanut butter on it.

Speaker 2 (15:52):
And I kept seeing the knife with peanut butter and
I and I would put it back in the saying,
g I'd put it in the dishwasher. It is this
dirty knife on the So i'd say that was two
weeks ago. A week ago. I see the knife again
and I pick up the knife and I hold it
in the air, and I say to him, have you
been seeing this?

Speaker 1 (16:11):
Like, I don't know what's going on?

Speaker 3 (16:12):
There's it with its obviously him, though.

Speaker 1 (16:16):
I wasn't thinking that, like, I don't know. I was
thinking maybe Leila was helping make a peanut butter. I
don't know, I want, But you know.

Speaker 2 (16:22):
What, I wasn't thinking that my husband was trying to
teach my forty year old self a lesson.

Speaker 3 (16:27):
Oh wait, wait, wait, hold on, this whole thing just
turned a different thing. So he was trying to teach
you a lesson.

Speaker 1 (16:32):
Yes, So he didn't like the way I was putting
knives in the dishwasher. They weren't clean enough for the dishwasher.
So instead of saying to me, like, hey, you can't
put the knife in the dishwasher, like as he was
taking out anything that I would put in the dishwasher
and putting it passive aggressively on the countertop.

Speaker 3 (16:53):
That's the yes.

Speaker 1 (16:54):
When I tell you, I picked up that knife and
threw it as hard as I possibly could when I
realized that I was getting taught a lesson, like we
teach our four year old a lesson. But this is
my point. Ye build up for two weeks and it
started putting dishes on the counter instead of being like, ash,
if this isn't gonna get clean the dishwasher, if there's
too much peanut butter on it, or but this is

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what he does.

Speaker 3 (17:17):
And the whole time he was probably super annoyed, where
it just counicated from the beginning, you would have understood
the point that he was trying to make, right, Oh
my god, yeah.

Speaker 1 (17:25):
Yeah, And it's like, okay, if you want to play
this game, there's a million things in the house that
I could do, and I could build up, or I
could like I could take every single sweatshirt out of
your closet, every.

Speaker 2 (17:36):
Single shoe and just add it to the pile of
the stuff that you've already left around.

Speaker 1 (17:40):
The house, and then and then what it's a landmine
would be playing Frogger of your clothes. But I don't
do that. He was trying to teach me a lesson,
like I was a baby.

Speaker 3 (17:48):
And then you're confused because you're like, there's a ghost in.

Speaker 1 (17:50):
This house, right, there's a ghost in this house.

Speaker 2 (17:52):
And he's putting this butter knife with a little peanut
butter on the edge of it on the catshop.

Speaker 1 (17:56):
Where is this coming from?

Speaker 3 (17:57):
He seems like a very quiet man. That's I don't
know if the word is stoic, right, he just kind
of I would give him back, Yes, fine, But I
think in this situation, if you guys would have communicated
that point, it would have been so effective to like
figuring out what the issue is.

Speaker 2 (18:09):
Just like there's a way to do it, hey, honey,
Like I just ran the dishwasher and the.

Speaker 1 (18:16):
Knife was in there. It's hard to do it because
it's like a peanut butter knife and really like, hey,
just rint it often.

Speaker 2 (18:21):
But there's a way to communicate it and not do
it like like like you are treating me like I
am a literal child.

Speaker 3 (18:28):
Had you spoken to you about this before, about the
peanut butter knife.

Speaker 2 (18:32):
He has said to me before that he doesn't like
how much like he doesn't think I rinsed the dishes
off enough to then go into the dishwasher.

Speaker 3 (18:39):
Now, another thing I think we should address is that
you don't usually like to be wrong and like lose,
lose a disagreement and person, yes you are. Now would
you have reacted like, hey, you know what, You're probably right.
I need to be better with a peanut butter knife.

Speaker 1 (18:53):
I want to say, yeah, I want to say that
I would, But listen the reaction of hey, hey, look
at this peanut butter knie, It's not gonna get clean
the dishwasher would have been better than him putting the
dishes on the countertop. Like again, I am my toddler
and we're teaching me a lesson.

Speaker 3 (19:10):
Yeah, you know what I'm.

Speaker 1 (19:11):
Thinking, Oh my god, we got a peanut butter ghost
in here.

Speaker 3 (19:14):
Yeah, you're thirty nine and to a lesson.

Speaker 1 (19:16):
Yes, this is like, this is you know what? This is?
What the something's going on in Marshall.

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Speaker 2 (19:34):
Thursday, January eighth, and towards the end of the show yesterday,
we found out that an Uxbridge police officer was struck
and killed by a tractor trailer losing his life. It
happened in the early hours of Wednesday. At that time,
we did not know who the police officer was. We're
now learning more. He's been identified as Officer Stephen Laporte,
just forty three years old. He was aiding a motorist

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outside of his vehicle on the northbound side of one
forty six when again he was by a tractor tractor trailer.
He was ultimately pronounced dead at the scene. And this happens.

Speaker 1 (20:07):
More times than you would think, because you know, people
are pulling over and then police officers are getting behind them,
other people are driving they can't see, and a lot
of police officers have lost their life because of this.

Speaker 3 (20:19):
I think it was two or three years ago on
ninety three northbound we lost a trooper too. She was
parked on the side of the road helping somebody else
out and she have a hit by a car.

Speaker 2 (20:28):
It is so sad watching the news this morning, because
you're hearing from the town of Uxbridge and other police
officers and people who had a relationship with him, and
you know he had been on the department for just
two years. But he's leaving behind both a wife and
a child. And that is always the toughest part. Forty
three is just far too young. So thoughts and prayers

(20:49):
continue to be with utterly the department with the wife
and the teen child. Big news yesterday for daddy al
Alan Jackson has decided to step away from defending Nick Ryder.
We know Nick has been accused of killing his mom
and dad, Rob and Michelle Ryder in their sleep.

Speaker 1 (21:10):
And when Daddy out took the case, I was like,
excuse me, what, because yeah, but Daddy all has decide
to step down. To me, there's only one reason that
he did that, and it's because of money. Why else?
I mean, because after he told the judge I gotta

(21:32):
step down, he said he's being replaced by a public defender.

Speaker 3 (21:37):
It means that they have no cash. You have the
part of the money. They wouldn't make sense if he
said he was too busy because he's still dealing with
Karen's case, and like all the.

Speaker 2 (21:46):
Legal he wouldn't give an answer. So I played this
first last hour. He was unable to give an actual
reason as to why he stepped away.

Speaker 7 (21:56):
I'm legally and I'm ethically prohibited from explaining all the
reasons why.

Speaker 3 (22:00):
I know that's a question on everybody's mind.

Speaker 7 (22:02):
Circumstances beyond our control, but more importantly, circumstances beyond Nick's
control have dictated that. Sadly, it's made it impossible for
us to continue our representation of Nick.

Speaker 1 (22:15):
Circumstances beyond Nick's controlled. Nick has no dollars. The money's
not right, Yeah, the green ain't greeting, and naddie all
is like I did that for a little bit, like
now I need to make money, I'm not doing it.

Speaker 2 (22:27):
And the fact that he's replaced by a public defender,
not like another lawyer in LA.

Speaker 3 (22:31):
When you hear that word, right, you think that their
law skills aren't as good like public defender, Like, oh god.

Speaker 1 (22:39):
I know you do think that, which might not necessarily
be the case.

Speaker 3 (22:42):
Money did not, But then you envision somebody who has
good legal skills to work for a big law firm too.

Speaker 1 (22:47):
Right.

Speaker 2 (22:48):
The craziest part about the whole thing to me is
Alan Jackson walks away from this. He can't do it.
He can't give a reasoning. It's most likely money, whatever
it is. But before he leaves the podium, he addressed
the media as soon as he said, Hey, I can't
do this. He walks out of the courtroom, addresses the
media but makes it very clear, no, Hey, I'm not

(23:09):
working this case anymore. But if there's one thing you're
going to report about it, it's this, Nick.

Speaker 3 (23:14):
Ryder is not guilty of murder.

Speaker 7 (23:18):
Print that print, that.

Speaker 1 (23:20):
Print that the man says.

Speaker 3 (23:22):
I mean, yes he is, But I don't know how
you're going to spin it. Is he legally insane?

Speaker 1 (23:28):
Insanity?

Speaker 3 (23:29):
For sure?

Speaker 2 (23:30):
There are a bunch of rumors that he was showing
signs of being schizophrenic and that he was on medication
that was working for him, and then about a week
before his parents died, they changed his medication and maybe
that then had something to do with But yeah, I
hope he means insanity because the man was found bloodied
in a hotel room.

Speaker 3 (23:48):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (23:49):
Anyways, his new arraignment is going to beat February twenty
third guilty all right. And lastly, I love me some dunks.
I'm at Dunks pretty much every weekend, getting me some
munchkins and a coffee.

Speaker 1 (24:01):
And this is something I can get behind. Starting now,
go get it. Duncan's adding protein milk to the menu.
Stop it. Protein refreshers protein lattes. And guess who they
got to tell us all about the campaign Snoop Megan

(24:23):
thee stallion.

Speaker 4 (24:25):
Be honest, your girl making a stagia aka protein a aka.

Speaker 1 (24:27):
And a high girl. How are you're gonna tell you
about my favorite duncan refresher? Because it's my duncan refresher.
This is Mega's mango protein refresher.

Speaker 8 (24:35):
Make us.

Speaker 4 (24:37):
A protein Hotti's runtod protein only.

Speaker 1 (24:39):
A dunk, Hotti's runneld protein. Listen, No, I do not
add a little protein to your coffee. I don't hate it,
So the new go ahead. Sorry, let me just go
through the menu. See how upset you are. Then the
mango protein refresher, I'm good. Strawberry protein refresher, Caramel chocolate
iced protein latte, that's probably delicious.

Speaker 2 (24:59):
Almond iced protein Macha late and iced protein latte with
sugar free vanilla.

Speaker 1 (25:04):
That's probably the one I'll go.

Speaker 3 (25:05):
Does it have a couple more grams of protein? Sure? Fine,
But it's also laced in sugar, so it's like really
so if you're trying to go for the health thing,
it's not really working because you're going to dunks.

Speaker 2 (25:14):
I would say the best way to do it would
probably be like if you want to order like a
black coffee and then say, hey, can you add some
protein to the top, because I'm assuming it's a protein milk.

Speaker 3 (25:24):
True, but if you're ordering the coffee black and you
probably don't want the milk, why not just get the protein?
So it was the whole thing. But since fine, fine.

Speaker 1 (25:33):
Trying to figure ahead, Dunks, Yeah, go off, Dunks. Give
me a protein munchkin while you're at it, because I'm
meaning about three of those on the weekend.

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Speaker 1 (26:06):
Toxic mom groups. That's the that's the chatter online right now.

Speaker 3 (26:13):
Now.

Speaker 2 (26:14):
I know Ashley Tisdale to the name, Like, when I
see her photo, I'm like, oh, I recognize her.

Speaker 1 (26:19):
I don't know what she's from. I think a.

Speaker 3 (26:21):
Disney High school musical Sweet Life of Zach and Cody.

Speaker 1 (26:25):
Okay, I never watched either thing. Shockingly though they sound
up my ass Yeah, perfectly, sound right up my alley.
But anyway, she's older now she has a kid. She
wrote an essay for The Cut, detailing quote mom group
drama that unfolded for her after joining a group following
her birth of her first child in twenty twenty one.

Speaker 2 (26:45):
She said initially she felt a sense of belonging, recalling
how energizing it was to be in a group of
career minded women who were also mothers. However, she said
things eventually started to change. In the article, she said, quote,
I remember being left out of a couple of group hangs,
and I knew about them because Instagram made sure to
feed them to me and every single photo and every

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single Instagram story a different time. At one of the
mom's dinner parties, I realized where I sat with her,
which was at the end of the table, far from
the rest of the group. I was starting to feel
frozen out of the group, noticing every way that they
seemed to exclude me.

Speaker 3 (27:20):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (27:21):
After the alleged behavior went on, Ashley eventually decided to
confront the group setting in Texas, said this is too
high school for me, and I don't want.

Speaker 1 (27:27):
To take part in it anymore. While she didn't name names,
the Internet has recalled that she previously was part of
a big mom group that included other celebrities like Hillary Duff,
Mandy Moore, Meghan Trainer, and some of those moms she
has unfollowed on the gram.

Speaker 3 (27:43):
Here's what I say about this. First, let me start
by saying that my wife is a part of many
of these groups, different sports, seems, different towns. So there's
not one specific here that I'm about to talk about,
but there is one specific that like, yeah, dude, it
gets really bad. And what happens You start excluding like
a mom at an event and they see the post
and they feel that type of way, and then they

(28:04):
come back trying to get back inside.

Speaker 2 (28:07):
It is a weird world now with social media.

Speaker 1 (28:10):
One of my mom friends was telling me that she
saw that one of her son's good friends had a
party and her son wasn't invited and she goes ash.
I immediately felt weird. I immediately was like, did I
do something like what is this?

Speaker 2 (28:24):
If she asked her son she didn't bring the party
up but she said to her son, heying, is everything
okay with.

Speaker 1 (28:28):
You and ex? And he was like, yeah, we're great,
everything's fines.

Speaker 2 (28:31):
Of course, now she's internalizing as they don't want me
at the party or whatever, and it's like that, you
know you would feel bad.

Speaker 3 (28:38):
For that, But I will say that if you're feeling
this way, there's probably truth behind it. They don't want
you there, and like, you also have to think about
this too.

Speaker 1 (28:47):
Says they can only buy a certain.

Speaker 3 (28:48):
People maybe, but you have to think of it. This
isn't your core group of friends from your childhood. These
are people that you came in touch with later on
in life. I know life and you guys might not
be on the same page with many things, but that
should be okay. But a lot of people get personal
with all this stuff. I have seen my wife's mom
group or different groups exclude certain people just because person's crazy.

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They're tough to deal with.

Speaker 2 (29:10):
They X y Z think about the book because I
am the crazy one, so that they might be like, oh,
we don't want her there, but she's nuts.

Speaker 3 (29:17):
And I don't think you've reached this point yet because
I saw that it started with the sports teams when
the kids were like at a younger age, and then
it's evolved into high school and then it's certain groups here,
then it's middle school.

Speaker 1 (29:28):
I think the party thing would be at my like
for me right now, you.

Speaker 2 (29:34):
Know, but she doesn't have a ton of friends, and
so the little friends that she does have, if I
saw that one had a party and we didn't get invited,
I'd be like, yeah, oh that's weird. And you know,
you think to your head, like did your kid do
something or is it you?

Speaker 3 (29:48):
Yeah, well, now they try to control that by if
you have a party for younger kids and they're in school,
some schools will make you invite everybody in the class
so nobody feels excluded. But you can't.

Speaker 1 (29:57):
You can't control that out.

Speaker 3 (29:59):
CA try too. But now picture this now, what if
you have a mom group that you're tight with, then
all of a sudden you see them out and you
are the only one that's not there. A group of
friends that you've hung out with for the past year.

Speaker 1 (30:11):
One hundred percent would fill a type of way.

Speaker 3 (30:13):
But would you say something.

Speaker 2 (30:15):
I don't know, I don't want I don't think I would,
because then it would like they would know it bothered
me and I wouldn't want them to know it bothered me.
But you know, the friend group that I have with
kids or that are the same age, were very close
to the point of like like we complained about the
same things because we have kids at the same each.
If I saw like the three of them, like say
there's four of us, the three of them go out

(30:37):
for like a drink without me and they posted about
it and stuff. First off, they would post it knowing
that I would see it. Yeah, that's number one and
number two, Yeah, like it would it would hurt my feelings.

Speaker 1 (30:46):
Damn, that's what people are doing out here.

Speaker 3 (30:48):
Yeah, it's really bad. It's like I've seen people cut
people because they don't pay for then. I've seen people
cut people because one got to flirting with a husband.
I've seen them cut a person because the one person
person is always trying to put their kids in situations
with a popular with popular people, and they like, yo,
she can't come out to dinner like it's.

Speaker 1 (31:07):
Any more even like a mom thing too. It's like
you're right, and now that the girls just in general.

Speaker 3 (31:12):
It is a mom thing because I will say it's
never the guys. Guys, I'm saying girls. Okay, yes, yes, yes.

Speaker 1 (31:17):
Females, because I have had it where like my one
friend will be like, oh, I'm driving by your.

Speaker 2 (31:21):
House, like let's grab a drink. The two of us
go and grab a drink. We post a third or
fourth friend is.

Speaker 1 (31:27):
Like, wait, where are you guys? Why didn't you guys
say that you And it was like.

Speaker 2 (31:31):
A quick little blip drink or whatever. But yeah, it
might just be like a female thing.

Speaker 3 (31:37):
The dads don't feel the exclusion. We don't get hurt
when we don't get advice.

Speaker 1 (31:42):
Vironment would be happy at the exclusion. He'd be like,
I didn't want to go anyway.

Speaker 3 (31:45):
But I will say there are definitely dads in talent.
I do not like that. I'm like, there's one person
with him, like whenever, I avoid him at all costs
because I just don't want to hear his voice.

Speaker 2 (31:53):
I've also heard stories and instances of I mean, actually,
you're kind of loving this where the kids are really
close that all of a sudden, kids aren't close anymore,
whether it's because the sports or school, whatever.

Speaker 1 (32:02):
It is, but you're still cool with the parents.

Speaker 3 (32:04):
Absolutely, yes, absolutely, And it's also been situations where like
kids were close at one point, they don't hang out
anymore than the parents, like, oh, what's wrong with the kids,
And then they're getting involved in that. Yes, we're like,
I don't know, we don't control their lives.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
It is such a weird dynamic too, because you know,
I'll use the party example again, right, Like I find
out that Layla's best little buddy has a party, doesn't
invite Layla invites all of her other little buddies. I'm
so petrified what if Layla finds out and her feelings,
you know, get hur like that. You feel so bad
about it because you're so protective, you're just so mama bear.

Speaker 1 (32:39):
You know.

Speaker 3 (32:40):
I've experienced it with certain kids too, Like they didn't
invite it to something. They were definitely hurt, but then
you explained to them that sometimes this is what happens
and you can't take you can try not to take
us so personal, or if you're bothered this much as
ask them in a real like as much as uh
a communication way, did I do something? It's tough, man,

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what's your problem? You're the toxic You can do that, yeah,
but then it's.

Speaker 1 (33:04):
Like all somebody has asked you why their kid didn't
get invited.

Speaker 3 (33:08):
Or why are our kids don't hang on anymore?

Speaker 1 (33:10):
Too?

Speaker 3 (33:10):
Absolutely, and we just say listen, we don't control their lives.
They can make their own decisions. It's crazy what's going.

Speaker 1 (33:17):
On out there in the streets. Does anybody have examples
of this? Is this?

Speaker 2 (33:20):
Is this upcoming for me? Is this the life I'm
going to be living? Like calculating Facebook groups to make
sure that the parties are happening with this gel drink
six one seven.

Speaker 1 (33:31):
Five?

Speaker 2 (33:31):
How would you describe a toxic mom group? Hi, everybody
a morning, It's Ashley in the gym in Morning Show.
Everybody's algo is obviously different when it comes to ig
and what you're seeing. I have been seeing a lot
of high school boys that are actually adults that play
roles in shows.

Speaker 1 (33:46):
It's fine, but I also have been seeing a lot
about this toxic mom group. I actually sad to Santi
this morning and go have you read the article?

Speaker 2 (33:52):
Because I've been seeing so many people talking about this
article with the celebrities and the toxic mom group, and
I didn't know what it was. So we got to
talking and Sandi's like, ash this is a really real thing,
and I'm like, no, like this because again, I have
what how old are my kids?

Speaker 1 (34:08):
Four and one and a half. So I don't really
think I've gotten there yet. But you know, one of
my friends who has a kid this exact same age,
saw that her kid didn't get invited to a party
that should have or we thought would have gotten invited to,
and she immediately went down this dark path of like,
is it me?

Speaker 2 (34:27):
Do they not want me around? Like did he do
something that they're not telling? Like, definitely worried about it.
And listen, let's get this out. You can invite who
you want to invite to your party. It is your party,
and you should be able to do that. But yeah,
I can name a few kids that if they had
a birthday party and Layla didn't get invited, I'd like.

Speaker 1 (34:44):
Oh, damn, it's it's me.

Speaker 2 (34:45):
It's I had too many high noons last time I
was around them, or Layla did something and I would
want to correct it.

Speaker 3 (34:52):
Whatever, Well, that's you. I think what most people do
is they blame the other side. They don't realize that
sometimes their kids are bad.

Speaker 2 (34:59):
Oh no, yeah, I think that's where I would go immediately, yea,
And then if they were like, no, it's nothing, I'd
be like, Okay, so they.

Speaker 1 (35:04):
Just suck got it? That's it. Jess is in Worcester.

Speaker 2 (35:08):
Jess, you've actually experienced this, and you say that there's
nothing more toxic. Santi might agree than a sports mom group. Absolutely,
like why specifically with the sports because are some moms
thinking their kids are like Michael Jordan and they're not understanding?

Speaker 6 (35:27):
You're absolutely right. I mean I have four children stemming
in ages from twenty one down to eleven years old,
and you know, I had one that started off as
a cheerleader, now she cheer leads in college and now
a football player. So I've been involved in this for
the last about ten years and they're just they're too clique.
They think that their stuff don't stink, their kids are

(35:50):
above everybody else. And I think more stems down to
the parents. If the parents don't get along, they don't
want the children to get along.

Speaker 2 (35:57):
Yeah, which is like it's tough. I don't And I
think the important part about that is how would I
explain this. It's kind of hard to put in words. Girls, Jess,
I think you'll be able to kind of get what
I'm saying it. Girls, you know, most of our friends
that we have. They're from high school, or they're from college,
or they're from your kind of in your past as

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a female. Especially for me at the age of now thirty.

Speaker 1 (36:21):
Nine, meeting new females, I always have my like defense
up right, because you don't usually meet your best of
friends later in life. I guess that's that's the way
I want to say it. But when you have kids,
you don't have a choice, like.

Speaker 2 (36:33):
You're going to meet these people and either you're gonna
get along with them or you're not. And sometimes it
seems like, from what you guys are telling me, you
kind of have to suck it up because if the
kids get.

Speaker 1 (36:42):
Along, the kids get along, and then that's it. That's that.

Speaker 2 (36:46):
I just you know, I've I've I definitely have been
lucky later in life to meet some of my really
really good friends. But I don't think that's like the
usual script for people. I think though, the kids because
of the yes in your circles.

Speaker 6 (36:59):
I really do think it is wow.

Speaker 2 (37:01):
And because again I'm not before kids, like I had
my people a while, I don't need to make new friends.

Speaker 3 (37:07):
That's what you're going to.

Speaker 2 (37:09):
Be friends ever, Yeah, which is cool, but a whole
new like I guess chapter like thought process for me.
I mean, listen, I could name there's a couple of
females now Jess that I have from moving to Marshfield
from their kids, like you know, I have a Courtney
is a good example.

Speaker 1 (37:26):
One of my friends that lives up the street. She's
a kid the same age as me.

Speaker 2 (37:30):
Like, I could tell her anything, and I know that,
which doesn't happen a lot for females, Like we're.

Speaker 1 (37:34):
Weird, Like we don't.

Speaker 2 (37:36):
We're not just opening up the door being like, come
on in, let's tell you my secrets. But our kids
are friends, We've gotten close and now we kind of
confide in each other.

Speaker 1 (37:43):
I just think it's a weird kids as it is.

Speaker 6 (37:46):
And I feel like as you get older and your
children get older, you there are more acquaintances than friends,
because I mean, you're already at that chapter in your life.
And you have to be cordial with your friend's parents
because again, I think it's them to if you don't
get along with the parents, then you don't want your
children together.

Speaker 1 (38:05):
Yeah.

Speaker 6 (38:05):
True, you're like the way you have to be cordial
and I mean it's hard, and I agree with what
you both are saying, I mean, I've gone to the
point where I've asked, you know, why is it that
our children don't hang out anymore? And then I'm also like,
I just think it's the way the world is now
and it's not like how it was when we were younger.

Speaker 2 (38:27):
Yeah, it's a different No, it is different times out there, Jess,
thank you for the call. Yeah there, I guess we
could take this conversation seven hundred thousand different ways. I
think Ashley pre kids, like I didn't need new girlfriends,
like I.

Speaker 1 (38:40):
Had my crew. I'm fine.

Speaker 2 (38:43):
I have kids now and I'm meeting new people and
I'm like, oh damn, Like I'm meeting.

Speaker 1 (38:47):
Great people that I that I love, that I would
that I would do anything for. But that's just like
a newer thing for me.

Speaker 3 (38:53):
It is. But sometimes it's really good because you're in
a point in your life where you know exactly who
you are as a person, and maybe you're more stable,
and it's becomes that friendship becomes more like, I don't know,
for longer term in your second part of your life. Yes,
and I'm realizing that now some of my best friends
are like older men who I've never ever known. Now
it's like we're in this point of our lives. It's
just awesome.

Speaker 1 (39:13):
And even moving, like moving, I've met different people and
I spend time now with like different people and it's great.

Speaker 3 (39:20):
You know, it's just happy.

Speaker 1 (39:22):
It's different. I'm happy for the circle. But I do
think as the kids get older, yeah, there is a
chance like the kids might grow apart and then what
you know? Do you do you ask? Why aren't the
kids friends anymore? Or do you not?

Speaker 2 (39:34):
Like it's a strange I don't ever ask. And does
that then make you the toxic mom because you ask? No, well, no,
it definitely doesn't. But it might though, depending on how
you ask. But we never ask me if it if
it dissolves it, that's just what happens. But we can
stay friends and that's okay.

Speaker 1 (39:49):
I don't want that. I don't want the title of
toxic mom. But if if I'm known as like the
drunk mom, I can handle that.

Speaker 3 (39:55):
Yeah, but you don't also want to hand that, But
I am. I've dealt with drunk moms too, and sometimes
it's not fun.

Speaker 1 (40:00):
Fine, I'm just a drunk. We could drop the mom.

Speaker 3 (40:03):
If you stay in the fund zone, then it's cool.
She's a fun hang. The minute you start a blackout.
The minute you.

Speaker 1 (40:09):
Start a blackout like that anymore, it's like, yes, once
every six months. Now you've gotten do when.

Speaker 3 (40:13):
You start going down that path, then like hey, you know, yeah,
if you can't be drunk at two am, like peeing
in the yard.

Speaker 1 (40:20):
All right, dude, what old thing I'm helping?

Speaker 2 (40:23):
Six one seven nine three one four five. The phones
are ringing six one seven nine three one one nine
four five. We're talking about toxic mom groups out there?
What's going mommies?

Speaker 1 (40:35):
What are we?

Speaker 2 (40:35):
What are we doing out here to each other? Hi, everybody,
good morning. It's Ashley in the jam of Morning Show.
This is like a layered convo because this quote toxic
mom group has been trending on Instagram and social media.

Speaker 1 (40:51):
And I do love that.

Speaker 2 (40:51):
I got a message from a girl and she's like, hey,
ash I'm hearing all these conversations. And not to say
that toxic mom groups don't exist, but there are really
awesome groups as well.

Speaker 1 (41:01):
We have each other's back, we.

Speaker 2 (41:02):
Talk bad about our kids, we convent we love them, but.

Speaker 1 (41:05):
It's like a safe space and I feel.

Speaker 2 (41:07):
Like, luckily the moms that I'm in hoot swith right now,
I have that like I feel that, you know, I
feel protected and not attacked. But I don't know what's
in store because it seems like the older the kids
get the harder.

Speaker 3 (41:22):
Yeah, I think you'll be fine because you're fun to
be around. You help people out when they need it.
I think the challenge that you'll have is that keep
very friendly. And I think, no, it's not the coke.
You're friendly, and I think some of the dads might
take that the wrong way. And then at home they'll
be talking about you pretty often, and like the wife

(41:43):
seems be like, oh my god, so you have a
crush on her because you talk about her like all
these times.

Speaker 1 (41:46):
This isn't fair. This reminds me.

Speaker 2 (41:47):
You guys, you know why he's bringing this up because no, no,
there's a dad. Yeah, there's a dad in Santi's parent
group and Joanne thinks he's so funny and Santi can't
handle it some I see, right, So the sounds funny
and they're like, oh, Ashley said whatever, like chill.

Speaker 3 (42:04):
She actually called him the funniest guy in the world,
and I got pissed. But he's not funny.

Speaker 1 (42:10):
His name, uh, Steph is in conquered. Steph. This makes
me feel good because.

Speaker 2 (42:16):
Here we are putting all the pressure on the toxic
quote mom groups and you have a dad story.

Speaker 8 (42:23):
I I do. I will say moms definitely we can
band together and and not friend.

Speaker 2 (42:28):
I'm good.

Speaker 8 (42:29):
But we had a situation with a dad. I don't
want to say names or anything, but youth sports and
we were involved with coaching and the whole team group stuff,
and we had a dad. Now, mind you, these kids
were seven years old, seven and we were involved with sports,
and we noticed that our son wasn't invited to his

(42:50):
birthday party, this child's birthday party, and he had before
years have gone by, we were involved with teams get
togethers at their house birthday parties. Well, my son wasn't invited.
He was upset, like that's weird. So we asked around
and it turns out this dad, his son and our
son were kind of up at the same for the
same position on their team. Oh my god, and the

(43:11):
dad made up some stories that we were racist and
made up things that our son said and that that
we were teaching him these racist ways which we are
like the furthest from that, and he bad mouths us
to everybody on the team and tried to get people
on the team to turn against us and created this

(43:32):
whole thing. And he ended up long story short, pulling
his son from the team and wouldn't let a son
like talk to our son.

Speaker 1 (43:39):
How how old age on these kids?

Speaker 8 (43:43):
Seven and eight?

Speaker 1 (43:44):
Oh? I was just about to say, this guy is
acting like he's ten, No, exactly, like he's seven or eight.

Speaker 9 (43:50):
Oh, that's so sad, seven or eight and he I
don't want to say too much just in case, but
he got the son to turn against the coaching staff
that we were involved.

Speaker 8 (44:01):
In, and it was it was bad. And so then
we had to go around doing like clean up with
people being like.

Speaker 1 (44:06):
We're not.

Speaker 9 (44:08):
So stories aren't true.

Speaker 8 (44:10):
Yeah it was, but it turned out okay because they're
not involved in our team anymore and and whatnot to
beach their own. But yeah, it's not always the moms.
But you're gonna watch it, you know.

Speaker 1 (44:18):
I did not think we'd hear one bad dad's story.
But Steph, thank you for this. That's so nuts.

Speaker 3 (44:24):
It is nuts, and the sports thing is crazy. And
usually it's a situation where there's like again, there's there's
something of a position and your son takes that role,
then all of a sudden they hate your kid. It's crazy,
and it's.

Speaker 1 (44:35):
This is again, this is totally unrelated.

Speaker 2 (44:37):
But I feel like, luckily for you and I, we
played sports, so we have the not like we have
eyeballs and we can see, hey, like, there's always room
to get better. But the kid might not be Michael Jordan,
you know. And that's but some parents they got the
blinders on. They can't see that. We got one in
this building.

Speaker 3 (44:56):
And it's absolutely and I got to tell you, the
club sports is the absolute worst. The AAU world is insane, insane.
I played it, I know, yeah, and the baseball one
is even worse. And there are some kids that, like, listen,
I'm just gonna say they are terrible, but their kids,
their parents think they should be playing, and that causes
a huge thing on the team.

Speaker 1 (45:16):
I am not prepared for either one of my kids
to suck at sports, and it might happen, might happen.
I'm not prepared. I'm gonna have to I might go
back to the drugs for that.

Speaker 2 (45:26):
Jade is in Clinton, Hijade, Hey, Hi, hi, babe, how
old are you?

Speaker 10 (45:34):
I am twenty nine?

Speaker 1 (45:35):
All right.

Speaker 2 (45:36):
I only asked that because it says in here young
single mom. So you're twenty nine years old, and you
feel like everybody that you are around mom wiser they're
a little bit older.

Speaker 10 (45:48):
So I recently moved to Clinton. Before I was living
in a different town. It was more suburban, Okay, and
it was. It was a couple of years ago, and
I volunteered for the PETO. I was trying to be involved.
And the rest of the moms that were part of

(46:08):
the mom the mom group, they were all older. I'm
talking late thirties, forties. They even had some moms who
were in their late forties, right, And they were all married,
and I was the very young single mom, and I
feel like I was definitely sort of pushed aside. Like

(46:31):
there would be husbands who would say hi to me,
and then they would stop saying hi to me because
they'd get the death there from their wives.

Speaker 1 (46:39):
I always want to I want to believe this stuff
isn't real. It it only happens, but it's real.

Speaker 8 (46:45):
It's real, it's real, it's real.

Speaker 10 (46:49):
I don't watch your husbands.

Speaker 9 (46:50):
I just wanted to volunteer.

Speaker 1 (46:52):
Yeah, you're like, I just want to be around and
say what up, Like Santi's mouthing, you're probably hot, so
that's good for you. So that's nice.

Speaker 3 (47:00):
Well, she's not her fault.

Speaker 1 (47:02):
She's like, it's not her fault though not like that's.

Speaker 3 (47:05):
Not her Sometimes the other moms and again the husbands
are talking about, oh my gosh, she's like really pretty
are They're talking to like too much? And then it
turns into a thing.

Speaker 2 (47:13):
You see that and I I will Jade, thank you
for the call. I will be in the kitchen and
I'll be like, oh, did you meet did you see
so and So's mom Like damn, Like she's hot.

Speaker 3 (47:21):
That's not the norm. You are not the norm at all.
Jade is smoking hot and that caused the problem. And
she's younger and she's single and John are talking about
her like all the time. Yeah, and that's another thing.
The dads know who the hot mom.

Speaker 1 (47:36):
Well, you are a part of the problem. You're you're jealous.
You're jealous as I'm jealous.

Speaker 3 (47:40):
None of the looks of the personality. Yeah, because yeah,
and it's.

Speaker 1 (47:44):
Tough for to whim because you know she you could
be it's a guy I am. It's not just one thing.

Speaker 3 (47:55):
Sleep at night six one.

Speaker 2 (47:57):
Seven nine three, one one nine four. I did not
know that the toxic mommies were out and about. Hi, everybody,
good morning. It's Ashley and the jam In Morning show
talking about the toxic mommy narrative that's getting pushed well
by the way, I guess there's also toxic daddy.

Speaker 1 (48:12):
Isn't even just to toxic parents and parenting.

Speaker 2 (48:14):
And the groups and the kids hang and they don't
hang and they're not friends anymore.

Speaker 1 (48:19):
I can still be cool with the parents this whole thing.
You hear me say this often. I try every day
to do something with the kids. So especially if the
fireman's working at twenty four and I'm home by myself.
I'm trying to book a play date, I'm trying to
go to gymnastics. I need to do something to get
out of the house, because they're worse if they're locked
in the house all day.

Speaker 2 (48:40):
So for me, if a random person that I maybe
met a couple of times hats me up, is like, hey,
you want to do a pla date, Like, I'll do
a play date. Like I'm down, you know, not for myself,
but for them, And I can suck it up and
chop it up.

Speaker 1 (48:52):
And just be fine for that hour. So the kids
play and like, we get that opposite of what this
listener does.

Speaker 5 (49:02):
Okay, So I'm the mom who doesn't want to make
other mom friends. I don't want the play dates. I
hate it. I hate it so much. So that's tough,
really tough for me. I just don't want to make
new friends. And I don't want to go to your
house and sit they're awkwardly while our kids play and
pretend to care or like you or whatever. I hope

(49:24):
I'm not the only one out there, but yeah, don't.
I don't like the play dates. I don't want to
be invited.

Speaker 1 (49:29):
I don't want to go hurd.

Speaker 2 (49:31):
I could do a playdate and I would say to her,
we'll let the kids play and we can sit in silence,
we can be on our phones. But I know there's
no way she's alone in that. I'm sure there are
a lot of moms like that too. I don't want
to new friends.

Speaker 3 (49:42):
Yeah, but can I just say I don't want to
invite her to the house.

Speaker 1 (49:44):
She sounds miserable, but she don't want to be invited.

Speaker 3 (49:46):
Yeah, Like I'm not inviting her. Yeah, don't invite Jason's mom,
Like listeners. She sounds like miss I.

Speaker 2 (49:54):
Honestly, I love the playdates that I have because ninety
percent of them are us getting to get our complaints
out about.

Speaker 1 (50:01):
The kids, the husbands, is, whatever it is. It's just
like a little it's an hour vent session.

Speaker 3 (50:06):
We move on, wait until your complaints make it around
their mom groups and all that, because that's that happens.
People like the gossip too, I know, and.

Speaker 2 (50:14):
I gotta be careful with that. It's so funny because
I have done playdates with this one mom.

Speaker 1 (50:18):
Who I love. She's awesome, the complete opposite of me,
like very buttoned up, very reserved, very quiet, And anytime
we did a play date, it's me doing most of
this talking. She's probably like this bitch, just crazy. We
ended up going out one night for drinks. Let's just
say she loosened up dab.

Speaker 2 (50:38):
Now, oh yeah, she said, you think I'm button up

Speaker 1 (50:41):
Mom, but a little girlfriend,