Dirty Little Secret: “I'm Addicted To Flirting With Married Men”

“I Flirt With Married Men Just to See If They'll Risk Everything”

One listener confesses to a secret she's never shared publicly: she's addicted to flirting with married men just to see if they'll take the bait. She insists she's never kissed, dated, or hooked up with any of them but the excitement comes from knowing they're willing to risk everything for her attention.

As the conversation unfolds, she opens up about her struggles with validation, abandonment issues, and the realization that this unhealthy habit may be keeping her from finding a meaningful relationship of her own. The confession sparks a surprisingly deep discussion about self-worth, attention, and the emotional games people sometimes play without fully understanding why

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Dirty Little Secrets.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
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Speaker 3 (00:15):
That's a secret on the back of his head video.

Speaker 2 (00:18):
Yeah, I know, it's. The whole studio smells like baby
oil and a cheap candle. Yeah, because in a cheap
cand wheel a misfortune I lost. I had to massage
the back of Poo's head and that was top three
grossest things I've ever had to do. It's not a
cheap candle. What is it, Poo, It's it's two blind brothers. Dude,
this is pretty expensive. Wait what too blind? That's the brand?

(00:39):
That's your candle? Yeah, you brought that in for this.
I've no I've had it in the other studio, you
know how. I'm a candle freak. So yeah, Candas doesn't
like those candles toxic. Everything's tossic? Are they cannis? Are
those really toxic candles?

Speaker 1 (00:57):
Some of them are?

Speaker 3 (00:58):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (00:58):
Is that why you don't burn candles?

Speaker 3 (00:59):
Are yeh?

Speaker 2 (01:00):
Candice is so wow, Everything's top. Now do you smell
this baby oil? Discuss is it? Yeah, everything's all right.
If you got a secret eight three to three seven
eight seven one o two nine, go ahead, now you
have one. So what's up?

Speaker 3 (01:19):
And I know that this makes me sound like a
terrible person, but I am addicted to flirting with married men,
and before everyone breaks out, only the one jumping down
my throat on this one. But let me just say
I have never ever hooked up with a single one
of them, not even a kiss. That's where I draw
a line.

Speaker 2 (01:37):
Never.

Speaker 3 (01:37):
But right, But that being said, I do know what
I'm doing is messed up.

Speaker 2 (01:44):
So okay, very unique situation here. Why why married men?

Speaker 3 (01:51):
I mean, I've just gotten this weird rush from seeing
if I could get a married man to take the bait,
and I've been doing it for years now. I'll start,
you know, with just an innocent conversation and be a
little extra friendly, maybe throw out a compliment or two
and just wait. And you know, the second he starts

(02:11):
crossing the line or you know, trying to chase me,
it's over. I ghost him completely, I disappear, so dad.

Speaker 2 (02:18):
So as soon as he takes the bait and he
goes and you know, okay, I got him on, I
got him locked down. That's when you're like, bye, the
thrill is over.

Speaker 3 (02:27):
The thrill is over, like it never ever, you know, happened.
Because I'm like I said, I'm not trying to break
up anybody's marriage, but I don't know. There's just something,
you know that there's a particular rush from getting a
married man to do it. I have tried doing the
same thing with single guys, but it just doesn't give
me the same feeling. And I don't know exactly why.

(02:48):
There is just something about proving to myself that a
married man would risk it all just for the attention.

Speaker 2 (02:54):
You know.

Speaker 3 (02:55):
It's like some kind of sick game that I play
in my head. And I really hate admitting that, but
you know it's my dirty little secret.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
No, I appreciate you being honest with us. I do,
even though it's sometimes hard to hear because I know
if anyone's married, like Cannas is married, You're.

Speaker 1 (03:08):
Like you, no, this is absolutely cringe. It's given me
like right, like but.

Speaker 2 (03:12):
I almost feel like you can't control it.

Speaker 1 (03:14):
Well, I mean I can.

Speaker 3 (03:15):
I am kind of trying to get to the bottom
of that I actually am in therapy because I know
this isn't normal, but plus it's you know, everyone could
use an impartial party to talk to. But my therapist
says it's about validation and control. And while she's probably right,
I I just, you know, I feel like I just

(03:36):
need to. I don't know, is this so crazy because
I don't even enjoy hurting people, and I know that,
like the risk of hurting people doing this is like
really high. I just get addicted to that moment when
you know they choose to chase me.

Speaker 2 (03:49):
Yeah. So, and you probably don't care about hurting a
married man who's gonna, you know, be unfaithful. You're like,
who cares about his feelings, So as long as you're
not cheating, you don't feel like you're hurting the woman
in that marriage, right, Okay.

Speaker 3 (04:03):
Yeah, I don't know. Just I just think that beyond
it being weird and kind of unexplainable and kind of
something that I do, at this point feel like I
don't really have control over, I do think that I've
ruined my own chances of having a healthy relationship because
of this. Wow, everyone else is I mean, if I'm

(04:24):
out here just busy playing this stupid game you know
that never ends, instead of you know, looking for someone
real and something real. You know, I feel like I'm really,
you know, risking my chances of ever having a healthy relationship,
which I do honestly want so well.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
I mean, I think the good news is you know
that it's a problem, You're going to therapy for it,
right there is, I guess.

Speaker 3 (04:48):
Yeah, the first, you know, way of overcoming the problem
is admitting that you have one.

Speaker 2 (04:51):
Like if I'm a psychologist, the first question I'm asking
is did a married man hurt you? Like in the past,
did a married man hurt you or lead you you
on or anything anything like that that can you could
think of that goes This is why I.

Speaker 3 (05:03):
Do this, I like, not romantically. I mean, I guess
you could say I have some abandonment issues. I am
a product of divorce, but you know, I don't think
that's enough to a lot of people get divorced out there,
you know, not everyone's out here trying to gain like
married men into you know, doing something on tooward outside

(05:24):
of their marriage and then leaving them, you know, so
you never know.

Speaker 1 (05:27):
Yeah, that need for validation comes from somewhere.

Speaker 2 (05:30):
That's what I would think definitely does.

Speaker 1 (05:32):
It's like people who scroll and scroll on the internet
and never socialize because they're getting like some kind of
brain trigger of validation when they see something exciting online.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
Well, I guess, good, good, that you're getting help, because
I do think at the end of the day, you
want to be happy, and if this is not making you,
it's hurting your chances of being in a real relationship,
then nobody.

Speaker 1 (05:51):
Wants that because you're distracted by this.

Speaker 3 (05:53):
Right right.

Speaker 2 (05:54):
I think everybody can relate. Everybody can relate I think
a little bit to the desire of wanting to get
chased or pursued. Yeah, so I get that part. I
just don't understand the married man part, right because I.

Speaker 1 (06:07):
Wouldn't be putting myself in a situation where I'm around
married men, you know, to be able to execute this
thing that it is.

Speaker 2 (06:14):
But I think that's the part where it's like, oh,
not only is this a man, this guy has a
whole life, but he wants me yeah, you know, and
he's willing to risk it all. So hey, it's a
non judgment zone. Thank you so much for your confession,
though it means a lot that you called us and
let us know what happens, and hopefully you can stop this.

Speaker 3 (06:32):
Absolutely, thank you so much for having me on. You're welcome.

Speaker 2 (06:36):
Listen. You want something you can't have, Yeah, and some
people get an absolute rush out of that right, whether
it's right or wrong. And yeah, she does, and I
don't like it.