May 13, 2026 • 28 mins
Jake Young is the grandson of the man who started Paul Young Funeral Home in Cincinnati. Young explains what people need to know about the complex and confusing decisions required when a loved one is facing the inevitable. Young shares the options people have, how to start the conversation, how to safely make plans, and how to avoid scammers. A free informational session is available May 19, 2026 by calling Paul Young Funeral Home.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome back to iHeart Cincy. I'm Sandy Collins and I
was always so curious as a young person. Maybe that's
why I got into journalism and asking people questions about
their lives and getting the answers from them that I
was always searching for. And that's why we're excited today
to talk about one of the uncomfortable things that happen
(00:24):
in life that we all need to deal with at
some point, and that is planning your final arrangements. What
are you going to have done? Are you going to
have a funeral, a viewing, You're going to have a
big lavish event, or do you want nothing at all?
What are your options and what should you watch out for.
My guest today is Jake Young of Paul Young Funeral Home.
(00:45):
He's here to share their expertise after several generations of
service here in Cincinnati, to give you some information on
what to ask, what you need to know, what things
to avoid, and what your rights are when considering these
final preparations. It's not something you should put off. Jake Young,
Welcome to iHeart Sinsey. So this is your family business.
(01:09):
Is that your father, Paul Young or is it your grandpa,
your grandfather. So you've got a family business there. Of
the funeral home where you located, we.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Have three locations, one in Fairfield, unhealthy in Oxford.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
You guys deal with grief every day. It's very difficult
to do what you do. I would imagine, just like
it is for nurses and doctors that have to deal
with end of life issues. How do you handle the emotion.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
When families are upset?
Speaker 2 (01:38):
It makes it a little difficult just being honest. Obviously,
anyone that's not the nice, Hi, thank you for helping me.
It's hard to deal with, but you got to remember
that they're going through the toughest part of their life
generally speaking, and to be honest again is just you're
thinking about you're genuinely helping them, and if you're not
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doing it, probably someone else is either going to take
advantage of the fact that they're so upset or they're
going to be.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Told wrong information. You're just thankful.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
And I've heard people growing up use this term, and
I mean it. It is an honor to have someone
pick you and for them to say, hey, I'd like
you to take care of my loved one. That's you know,
that means something. And we take it very seriously.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
It's interesting that you brought up incorrect information. You're also
warning of scammers too, that we'll take your money and run.
We've been hearing about that in many instances when it
comes to older folks and trying to get their affairs
in order. But what we want to do today, since
Paul's here, he works with this family funeral home, but
you have some ideas in an informational session that's coming
(02:47):
up very soon that will help people get started with
what they need to start thinking about now while they
are while they personally are healthy, whether they're in their
thirties or sixties or nineties, or if you've got a
loved one who is getting close and you need to
start thinking about these things. Because I'll tell you from
personal experience, I know myself it is a whirlwind, confusing,
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grief laden time, and unless you're prepared in advance, you
can make some some weird decisions. You can buy things
you don't want, you can forget to do things that
you should have done. So there's a lot to plan on.
So let's talk about this informational session, Jake.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
It's over the years, just through experience, I just saw
a lot of people running into the same headwind that
you're talking about.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
And we just thought a lot.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Of this can be avoided if people just had the information.
I tell a lot of families that are willing to
listen anyway. You buy a new car, you buy a
new refrigerator, you stay at a really nice resort on
vacation or something, and you have a good experience, that's
something you want to share. You want to tell your friends,
your neighbors, your family. Heck, you might even tell them
(04:03):
why the experience is going on.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Wow, you should see this hotel on that there.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Funerals aren't that And even if you have a good experience,
you're not going to go around.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
Man. I had an amazing funeral yesterday. Let me tell
you about it.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Like you just don't And so people don't learn, and
they don't learn the dues and don'ts. They don't learn
what to ask for, what to look for, and so
I kind of it's been the market's been saturated with
pre arranging, which means you pick everything out and pay
for your funeral ahead of time, and all they want
to do is to sell you stuff. And I wanted
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to get away from that. Our business model is not sales.
It's the opposite of that. Our business model is set
up solely just to help people. Hopefully that works because
to my knowledge, we're the only funeral home that honestly
back set up. Every funeral home says that, but we
back it up with the amount of free stuff we
give away and the things we do. So I thought, well,
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let's have a seminar or a talk that's just hey,
even before you get to the funeral planning side, what
are some of the things that you need to be
talking and discussing with your family, even though it's uncomfortable
that you really need to be asking yourself or your spouse, kids.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Or your parents. Are you or you're in your thirties,
so you need to start thinking about this stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
And with cremation rates going up and more people choosing
that the laws are stricter with cremations and you really
need to protect yourself, and you know, like in a
state a trust, they think if they have a will
that all that's taken care of, and that isn't always
the case. And then they come in here and they're like, well,
my attorney didn't go over any of this. I'm like,
because they're a CPA, or they're an attorney that's in
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a state planner and they're not thinking about funeral decisions.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
They're thinking about tax ramifications.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
You said that you don't say when you've had a
good funeral, but I certainly told everybody when I had
a bad experience with a funeral director who caused in enormous,
enormous pain at the funeral. Hearty, thank you. I appreciate it,
just by being very tone deaf and saying things to
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me that about the procedures that should not have been
shared with a family member. So I'm still dealing with that, Jake,
but I am going to get over it. But you
got to be careful about who you choose to help
you figure out these important things. I mean, you've got
to talk about the legalities of what do you actually
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required to do when someone dies. You be surprised that
that there are many options. I think from what I've
been reading, you know, you don't necessarily have to do
a lot of the things that we traditionally think we
need to do, Like it doesn't need a burial, it
doesn't need to be a you don't even need to
buy a casket. You know, you know you can you
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can make these other these other options you've got to
talk about, you know, how to talk to your family
about that. How do you do that? So let's let's
start with that, Jake, And how do you suggest family members.
Let's say let's talk from the child's standpoint and they're
trying to talk to their parents. How would you suggest
people start beginning these conversations with their parents and grandparents.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Sympathy if you reverse it.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
I know you wanted to do the child to the parent,
but more common as the parent of the child, and
they say, well, what do you want, because really it's
for the child. Whatever you want, mom, whatever you want dad,
and they're not really getting an answer. But if you
go with the scenario you just said, you have to
have sympathy and you have to say, hey, I want
to honor you and the way you wish. At the
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same time, this is for me, it's for the funerals
are for the living.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
And so you know you want to combine the two.
But at the same time you've got to figure out
how to get around that roadblock. And that is part
of what the seminars about, is how do you talk
to your family and get the answers and truthful answers.
It's kind of like I always use the analogy of
you know, you asked, dad, what do you want for
his birthday?
Speaker 3 (08:01):
I have everything, I'm good. What do you want for Christmas?
Speaker 2 (08:04):
I don't need anything. Well, you got to get them something.
So you got to figure out what will you do? Well,
you talk to his friends, you talk to his buddies,
you talk to his spouse. You know, there are things
you do to get around that roadblock to really find
out what their wishes are so that everyone isn't trying
to appease everyone. You really want to get down to
the root of what their wishes are.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
But you do that with sympathy.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Yeah, and for those who have a sudden death, it's compounded,
no doubt.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
So it's good to talk about it, even when everybody's
healthy and everyone's young, to try to start figuring things out,
like the legal stuff, like what do you need to do?
You need these certificates, and you need to figure out
who's going to pay for it. Is your kid's going
to pay for your funeral or are you going to
pay for your funeral? Are you going to prepay or
you're just going to put the money off to the side,
what about the blended families, and what about everybody else's wishes?
(08:56):
So these are some of the questions that you're going
to answer in your free session.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
Yeah, yes, and people like medicaid spin down.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
People don't understand the things that this social worker comes
up and says, Hey, you got until this date to
get this.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
Money spent, and now you're scrambling.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
And the only reason you're typically doing a medicaid spin
down is because somebody's health isn't doing so well and
they're usually having to go to a facility of some
kind of There are exceptions to that, but in general,
so you've got mom who's not doing well and you
really don't want to be running around doing things, but
now you have to go to a funeral and or
a funeral home and you have to figure out, you know,
what she wants and what she does. In a lot
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of times, she's not good enough health to even answer it,
and she's not doing well, so the last thing you
want to do is.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Go talk to her about this sort of stuff. So
you've got the double whammy of it.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
So this is things Medicaid spend downs right at disposition
the blended families you just mentioned. A lot of people
don't understand mom gets remarried. You might be a full
grown man that's forty five years old with grandkids. They
don't have a rite anymore. It's the new or the
new husband that gets to pick MYDA. Might be fine,
(10:05):
but there might be a situation where you prefer your
children to be in charge of your funeral, have no idea.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
We'll talk more about that here in just a moment.
I'm talking with Jake Young. He is with Paul Young
Funeral Home, three locations here in Cincinnati, about those end
of life arrangements everybody's going to have to make. This
is iHeart Cincy. We're back on Sandy Collins with iHeart
Cincy today. My guest is Jake Young. He is the
grandson of Paul Young Funeral Home, the proprietor who started
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here in Cincinnati. They have three locations their family owned,
and he's got a free informational session coming up very
soon this month to answer questions for people, absolutely free,
no sales pitches. I just want to give people information
about what it is that you have to think about
towards the end of someone's life, Whether it's yours or
your parents or grandparents. The things need to avoid and
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just other questions that you would never have even thought
of asking. So let's get back to the conversation we
were talking about. Who has the right to make your
decisions after you're gone. Is it your adult kids or
your new wife or husband. They have to designate that beforehand.
They have to say, even though I'm married, I want
my son or my daughter to be in charge. And
(11:23):
if that's not explicit, it just goes through that legal
process of next of kin.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Right, Okay, that's correct, And it really becomes a problem
when you have children that don't all get along and
you're doing cremation. At least in the state of Ohio,
the state majority rules legally, but they advise funeral homes
to kind of get all the kids to agree. And
let's say you have a kid you and talk to
for fifteen years.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Yes, you got a problem, been there and done that.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
So now you've got issues where if you would have
just done the right of disposition and wantn't even be
a thought.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
It's just an easy right.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
So so to kind of bring this around, You've got
a brother and a sister. The brother is estranged. The
sister is dealing with mom's death. She wants to cremate
her mother and the funeral director says, are you the
only child? And they say no, My brother lives in Florida,
but I haven't talked to him for fifteen years. And
what do you say, Jacob, We got to try and
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get a hold of him. That person has to give
you permission as well.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
Correct, you can wait seventy two hours, but you have
to prove that you've made every effort to actually try
and get a hold of him to let him know
that mom has passed away. And if he doesn't reach him, yeah,
and he says no, now.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
You've got to go to probate.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
And that can make it very, very ugly. And that's
another one of those small things that you don't even
think would be an issue until it becomes an issue.
And that's where you can find out more about all
these issues. At this free public information session going to
be held by Paul Young Funeral Homes here in Cincinnati.
Jake Young is talking with us right now. It's such
a stressful time. How do people know exactly what is
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required of them? Because I think the big issue Jake
and funeral homes. As you probably know, people are afraid
to say no to services because they feel like it
makes them look bad whether they don't want to pay
the money or they don't want to take the time,
whatever the issue is. And so then there's this huge
guilt that goes on it. And with that guilt comes
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a price tag. So what do you do when you
have people that are in your funeral home and they're
trying to make decisions? How do you handle the decisions
that they have to make, the decisions that are options,
and how do you address that guilt?
Speaker 2 (13:40):
Well, it actually works both ways too. Some people come
in and they want to buy. I see it more
with husbands, but they want to buy their wife a
nice casket, and their kids are looking at them, going
you want to spend how much on that casket?
Speaker 3 (13:54):
So it works both ways.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
They feel guilty for spending a lot of money and
they feel guilty for spending not a lot of money.
And I tell every family, everyone that works here sits
there and explains to them that they are okay to
buy whatever they want. This is a personal decision and
you need to do what you value. You can look
at different cultures all through history and what they've done
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for the dead. It's all different all over the map.
It's different, and you need to decide what's right for you.
There is no right or wrong, and you just need
to have a decision for yourself to go this is what.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
I want and this is why.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
But then you also need to explain to them the
pros and cons to everything. And I explain as much
as I can at these events the differences, and it's
hard to make decisions without having all the information. It's
you've got to get people the information so that they
can make an honest choice.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
But you got to almost tell them it's okay to
make a choice.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
It's okay you can purchase the least expensive item or
the most expensive.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
We don't care as long as it's what you want.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
But that's where this comes in and differentiates us business
model from you know, these other places. The other places
are on commissions. Sometimes the funeral directors have quotas they're
on commission, so how do you even know what they're
telling you. It's basically funeral homes for car deals and
it's like that, I don't we want nothing to do
with them.
Speaker 3 (15:15):
We want people to walk in the door and know.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
That all the information that they are getting is accurate
and that they can honestly make a decision one way
or another.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
When you're talking about pre planning and pre paying, those
are two very different areas, correct. So pre planning means
you go to the funeral home and you tell them
what you want and you just kind of plan it out.
But to prepay for it is an option and it's different.
Can you explain the difference between those two things? And
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what you really encourage people to do.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Pre Planning is picking out your items, picking out your wishes,
you know, giving.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
Your desires on paper. Basically, it could even be family
history people.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
I can't tell you how many times families come in
here and they don't know mother's made name or where
dad was born because he was born in the sticks.
And you got to have that for death certificate information.
So it's nice to have all that down, especially if
you've been up all night, you were at the hospital,
you're at the nursing home, mom passed away at four am.
Speaker 3 (16:14):
You're coming in the next day to make.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Arrangements, and you're trying to remember information that you haven't
talked about for thirty years. It can be difficult. It's
nice if it's all done. Pre paying means you are
paying for your funeral before you need it. But most
of the funeral homes talk about the financial advantages for
pre paying, and I just I don't go there.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
I just think that that's it can be better to
financially prepay. But I can also make the argument that
it's not.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
It's just a sales tactic to get people to spend
their money to prepay.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
For their funeral.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
You take that twelve grand, you put it in high
savings yield account. Odds are, I could be wrong, but
odds are you're going to get a bigger return than
you would have if you would have just paid for
your pre funeral. Because their point is you pre pay
for your funeral, it'll keep up with inflation. You're walking
in today's prices, and whatever it.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Goes up to, it's whatever.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Well, okay, Well you can put in the stock market
and just put in an index fund and you probably
would have got a bigger return there too.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
Now I'm not saying don't pay for your funeral ahead
of time.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
I'm just saying don't do it just because you think
it's financially going to be in your best interest. It
might be, but it might not be the reason you
prepay for your funerals because you don't want to leave
that worry and cost to your kids. You want to
do it because you want your kids to just come in,
sign some paperwork and they're done.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
They don't have to worry about any of it.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
That's why you would do it. But that's not for everybody. So,
you know, pre planning your funeral I think is probably smart.
Pre paying I think it's on the individual. Sometimes it's
a good idea, sometimes it's not necessary.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
What are the legal things that are required when someone
passes away? And what is optional? Meaning, for example, do
you have to have a funeral? Do you have to
have a casket? Do you have to have embalming? These
are the questions that are all over the internet right now,
people that are in the mortician society explaining what your
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rights are, and it's a little eye opening. So what
is it that people actually have to do that the
state requires?
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Well, the big one is you have to have a funeral.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
That's the big one, and it doesn't happen often, but
I do get people calling.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
They're like, well, can I just take, for instance, a
body donation.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
It's kind of getting more common where people want to
give their body up the science or to the university,
like well.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
I'll just drive mom down there.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
No, you have to have a legal license in order
to do things like that. As for a casket, there
are no laws that say you have to have a casket. However,
if you're going to use a cemetery, the cemetery will
have their own policies that you have to follow for that. Embalming,
there are no laws that say you have to embalm. However,
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funeral homes do have certain policies in place for obvious
reasons that if you're going to have a viewing, you
need to embalm. There are religious exceptions to this, but
usually you then have to have burials within a certain
amount of time for obvious reasons as well. But the
problem is there are so many salesy dishonest funeral homes.
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They take advantage of that, and so there's even a
form that families have to sign that say, you know,
you don't have to embalm with you're creamating because so
many creative funeral homes, so oh, no embalming, you just
have to Well, people don't know at four o'clock in
the morning that they don't have to embalm, and they
just think.
Speaker 3 (19:34):
That that's normal.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Right.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Oh okay, well then that there goes your money out
the window. That was totally unnecessary.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
So if you've got these questions and you want answers
to a lot of these questions, Jake Young from Paul
Young Funeral Homes is going to do a free public
information session. Tell us about that. That's coming up.
Speaker 3 (19:54):
It's exactly what we've been talking about.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
It's just we run into so many families with all
these questions or they're have just been having troubles, and
so we just thought, I.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Don't want to do the sales thing.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
I want to just.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
Give people information, whether they want to use us or not.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
I want people to be able to make smart decisions
and be able to.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
Do what's best for them and their families. And you
can only do that if you have all the information
to make those choices.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
So that's coming up on Tuesday, May the nineteenth, Is
that right, yes, ma'am. One in the afternoon. Where is
that going to be?
Speaker 2 (20:27):
The one in Cincinnati, So then we have one in Cincinnati,
the one in Fairfield and Hamilton and then the one
in Oxford will be at the one in Cincinnati right
near Ronald Reagan Highway.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Gotcha? Okay? Is there anything else you want people to know,
Jake about this procedure, these processes, these very difficult times
in people's lives.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Just as you said, picking a funeral home is a
big decision, and it's it's so hard to do that
because I mean, you're googling, you're asking a friend, you're asking,
especially if you've never had an experience before. I would
just say the best advice I could give was try
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to find a true mom and pop place that their
values aligned with yours.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
That's exactly some of the news that's come out over
the last ten or fifteen years is how you may
think that your local funeral home is still locally owned,
but they've been purchased by a bigger entity and that
changes the way that they do their business and you
may not be aware of it. So how do you check?
Speaker 2 (21:39):
If you go to the website a lot of times,
if you go to the bottom and the fine print,
you'll see that there's a conglomerate and associated with it.
You can also be about us page. If they don't
say hey, we're still family owned and operated.
Speaker 3 (21:54):
You can pretty much guarantee. There's very few of us left,
very few.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
And even the few that are left, they operate like
an conglomerate because they want to keep their doors open too.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
And let's just be honest, it is so much.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Easier to operate as a corporation than it is just
the old fashioned handshake. Trust people that they're going to pay.
I mean, all these funerals, find me a funeral home
other than ours that requires payment before your service that
you got to pay. Now, well, you're twenty one years
old and you come home, you found the mom had
a heart attack, You're supposed to just come up with
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twelve thousand dollars plus cemetery fees? Like, where are you
going to do that? We understand that. So we're going
to try and work with you. But do we get burned?
Speaker 3 (22:37):
Sure you do. But to me, that's the price of helping.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
People, and I just it's a necessity in the industry
and there's just very few of us left.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
Well, that's good to hear that you guys are still
family owned, Jake, So you brought up an idea here
in my head, is that what do you do when
someone dies at home, when you've got a family member
who either dies expectedly or un expectedly, what.
Speaker 4 (23:02):
Do you need to do?
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Do you have to call the police?
Speaker 3 (23:04):
Do you call the police? Do if there's not hospice.
If hospice is there, they'll take care of it.
Speaker 2 (23:08):
But if it's unexpected, if they were just home and
you know they died of natural causes or they slipped
and fell or a heart attack, if hospice isn't there,
you call the police and they'll come and then they'll
do everything for you.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
They'll call the corner.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
The corner will decide whether they'll come and investigate or not.
And if they don't, then they'll say, Okay, which funeral
home would.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
You like to use?
Speaker 1 (23:30):
And let's stop there. So the corner will decide whether
or not they're going to do an autopsy, because if
it looks like it could possibly be suspicious, or if
they weren't sick, if it was sudden, all those different things, right.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Not even just an autopsy. They don't do autopsies every time,
but they might not even.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
Take the case.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
So if someone's had a history of diabetes and they've
been in and now the hospital recently, they might say no,
we don't want the case, just go ahead and call
a funeral home. Other times they might say, yeah, that
looks a little suspicious, we want to take the case,
and they might do an autopsy, they might not, but
the police officer will take care of all that.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Another thing, Jake, you got my mind just racing right now.
We see the death reports from the Hamilton County Coroner's
Office when they send them out, and I am still
after all these years, shocked at the number of people
who take their own lives in this town.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
It's extremely unfortunate, and you would be surprised that even
it's not one of those things that just the tax,
low income, no families. This is something that is a
problem clear across the board. And it's very sad to
see when you have husbands and wives with the young children,
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or even parents coming in and their child that it's
I don't know how people get over it.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
It's a very very sad thing.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
Certainly wouldn't get over it. You just learned to deal with.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
The pain, right, You've learned a cope.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
Right, So if you unfortunately have that sort of a
suchu a in your life where you weren't even thinking
about end of life issues, call the police, and then
have a funeral home in mind. Now we had a
family funeral home, and that was kind of like a
badge of honor. It was like, well, this is what
our family does, and it's this place and always go there.
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And that's changing over the years, but it doesn't hurt
to think ahead of where you want to go and
how who you want to trust to hold your hand
during this very very difficult time that everybody's going to face.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
And that's not it's not a matter if it's when,
but your point right there is exactly how these conglomerates
are making their money. If that's the funeral home you've
always used, you don't know that they've been bought out.
You're just going to go back to the one you've
always used, and so you have no clue that now
think of it like Bob Evans.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
Hopefully they don't get mad at me for this, but.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
I mean everyone knows Bob Evans isn't, you know, as
good as it once was, and it's because they've.
Speaker 3 (25:56):
Sold you know, their banana bread was my favorite and
now I won't even need it, don't know, because there
are a big conglomerates a travesty man. Yes, yes, and
it's true.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
Clear across the board, you just see things aren't the
same once big guy comes in and.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
Purchases right, because they're taking their eyes off of the
little details. They're taking their eyes off of all that.
So well, Jake Young, I appreciate you being on the show.
Here the informational session, it's free. You do want people though,
to let you know that they want to come because
you've got limited seating. How do we do that?
Speaker 3 (26:27):
Just call the funeral home.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
You can call any of the funeral homes and just
tell them that you'd like to attend. It doesn't cost
you anything. We're not going to mail you anything. We're
not going to sell you anything. We just need to
make sure we have room.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
So that's the Pall Young Funeral Home here in the
Tri State. There are three locations. You can call your
local one or you can call the Cincinnati one where
the informational session is going to be held May nineteenth.
It's a Tuesday, it's one in the afternoon, and it
is absolutely free to help you figure out where you
have to begin in looking at the begin of the end.
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Is that pretty profound?
Speaker 2 (27:03):
Yeah? And if anyone can't make the meeting. We'll sit
with anyone whether they want to use us or not.
If you're not local and you just have questions and
you want to make sure somebody locally most of it,
it's like that you don't even know questions to ask, right,
so I hear the things to look for. I can't
tell you how many people email us contracts and I
review the contracts for them. They're not going to use me,
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but that's not the point. I don't want to see
them getting nosed, so we'll help them.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
Paul Young Funeral Home three locations here in Cincinnati, and
Jake Young, who wants to help you deal with those issues.
Thank you so much for what you do.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
You're welcome. Thanks talking to you.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
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Thanks for listening. I'm Sandy Collins. iHeart Sensi is a
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production of iHeartMedia, Cincinnati,
Welcome back to iHeart Cincy. I'm Sandy Collins and I
was always so curious as a young person. Maybe that's
why I got into journalism and asking people questions about
their lives and getting the answers from them that I
was always searching for. And that's why we're excited today
to talk about one of the uncomfortable things that happen
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in life that we all need to deal with at
some point, and that is planning your final arrangements. What
are you going to have done? Are you going to
have a funeral, a viewing, You're going to have a
big lavish event, or do you want nothing at all?
What are your options and what should you watch out for.
My guest today is Jake Young of Paul Young Funeral Home.
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He's here to share their expertise after several generations of
service here in Cincinnati, to give you some information on
what to ask, what you need to know, what things
to avoid, and what your rights are when considering these
final preparations. It's not something you should put off. Jake Young,
Welcome to iHeart Sinsey. So this is your family business.
(01:09):
Is that your father, Paul Young or is it your grandpa,
your grandfather. So you've got a family business there. Of
the funeral home where you located, we.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Have three locations, one in Fairfield, unhealthy in Oxford.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
You guys deal with grief every day. It's very difficult
to do what you do. I would imagine, just like
it is for nurses and doctors that have to deal
with end of life issues. How do you handle the emotion.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
When families are upset?
Speaker 2 (01:38):
It makes it a little difficult just being honest. Obviously,
anyone that's not the nice, Hi, thank you for helping me.
It's hard to deal with, but you got to remember
that they're going through the toughest part of their life
generally speaking, and to be honest again is just you're
thinking about you're genuinely helping them, and if you're not
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doing it, probably someone else is either going to take
advantage of the fact that they're so upset or they're
going to be.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Told wrong information. You're just thankful.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
And I've heard people growing up use this term, and
I mean it. It is an honor to have someone
pick you and for them to say, hey, I'd like
you to take care of my loved one. That's you know,
that means something. And we take it very seriously.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
It's interesting that you brought up incorrect information. You're also
warning of scammers too, that we'll take your money and run.
We've been hearing about that in many instances when it
comes to older folks and trying to get their affairs
in order. But what we want to do today, since
Paul's here, he works with this family funeral home, but
you have some ideas in an informational session that's coming
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up very soon that will help people get started with
what they need to start thinking about now while they
are while they personally are healthy, whether they're in their
thirties or sixties or nineties, or if you've got a
loved one who is getting close and you need to
start thinking about these things. Because I'll tell you from
personal experience, I know myself it is a whirlwind, confusing,
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grief laden time, and unless you're prepared in advance, you
can make some some weird decisions. You can buy things
you don't want, you can forget to do things that
you should have done. So there's a lot to plan on.
So let's talk about this informational session, Jake.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
It's over the years, just through experience, I just saw
a lot of people running into the same headwind that
you're talking about.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
And we just thought a lot.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Of this can be avoided if people just had the information.
I tell a lot of families that are willing to
listen anyway. You buy a new car, you buy a
new refrigerator, you stay at a really nice resort on
vacation or something, and you have a good experience, that's
something you want to share. You want to tell your friends,
your neighbors, your family. Heck, you might even tell them
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why the experience is going on.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Wow, you should see this hotel on that there.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Funerals aren't that And even if you have a good experience,
you're not going to go around.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
Man. I had an amazing funeral yesterday. Let me tell
you about it.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Like you just don't And so people don't learn, and
they don't learn the dues and don'ts. They don't learn
what to ask for, what to look for, and so
I kind of it's been the market's been saturated with
pre arranging, which means you pick everything out and pay
for your funeral ahead of time, and all they want
to do is to sell you stuff. And I wanted
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to get away from that. Our business model is not sales.
It's the opposite of that. Our business model is set
up solely just to help people. Hopefully that works because
to my knowledge, we're the only funeral home that honestly
back set up. Every funeral home says that, but we
back it up with the amount of free stuff we
give away and the things we do. So I thought, well,
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let's have a seminar or a talk that's just hey,
even before you get to the funeral planning side, what
are some of the things that you need to be
talking and discussing with your family, even though it's uncomfortable
that you really need to be asking yourself or your spouse, kids.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Or your parents. Are you or you're in your thirties,
so you need to start thinking about this stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
And with cremation rates going up and more people choosing
that the laws are stricter with cremations and you really
need to protect yourself, and you know, like in a
state a trust, they think if they have a will
that all that's taken care of, and that isn't always
the case. And then they come in here and they're like, well,
my attorney didn't go over any of this. I'm like,
because they're a CPA, or they're an attorney that's in
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a state planner and they're not thinking about funeral decisions.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
They're thinking about tax ramifications.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
You said that you don't say when you've had a
good funeral, but I certainly told everybody when I had
a bad experience with a funeral director who caused in enormous,
enormous pain at the funeral. Hearty, thank you. I appreciate it,
just by being very tone deaf and saying things to
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me that about the procedures that should not have been
shared with a family member. So I'm still dealing with that, Jake,
but I am going to get over it. But you
got to be careful about who you choose to help
you figure out these important things. I mean, you've got
to talk about the legalities of what do you actually
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required to do when someone dies. You be surprised that
that there are many options. I think from what I've
been reading, you know, you don't necessarily have to do
a lot of the things that we traditionally think we
need to do, Like it doesn't need a burial, it
doesn't need to be a you don't even need to
buy a casket. You know, you know you can you
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can make these other these other options you've got to
talk about, you know, how to talk to your family
about that. How do you do that? So let's let's
start with that, Jake, And how do you suggest family members.
Let's say let's talk from the child's standpoint and they're
trying to talk to their parents. How would you suggest
people start beginning these conversations with their parents and grandparents.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Sympathy if you reverse it.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
I know you wanted to do the child to the parent,
but more common as the parent of the child, and
they say, well, what do you want, because really it's
for the child. Whatever you want, mom, whatever you want dad,
and they're not really getting an answer. But if you
go with the scenario you just said, you have to
have sympathy and you have to say, hey, I want
to honor you and the way you wish. At the
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same time, this is for me, it's for the funerals
are for the living.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
And so you know you want to combine the two.
But at the same time you've got to figure out
how to get around that roadblock. And that is part
of what the seminars about, is how do you talk
to your family and get the answers and truthful answers.
It's kind of like I always use the analogy of
you know, you asked, dad, what do you want for
his birthday?
Speaker 3 (08:01):
I have everything, I'm good. What do you want for Christmas?
Speaker 2 (08:04):
I don't need anything. Well, you got to get them something.
So you got to figure out what will you do? Well,
you talk to his friends, you talk to his buddies,
you talk to his spouse. You know, there are things
you do to get around that roadblock to really find
out what their wishes are so that everyone isn't trying
to appease everyone. You really want to get down to
the root of what their wishes are.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
But you do that with sympathy.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Yeah, and for those who have a sudden death, it's compounded,
no doubt.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
So it's good to talk about it, even when everybody's
healthy and everyone's young, to try to start figuring things out,
like the legal stuff, like what do you need to do?
You need these certificates, and you need to figure out
who's going to pay for it. Is your kid's going
to pay for your funeral or are you going to
pay for your funeral? Are you going to prepay or
you're just going to put the money off to the side,
what about the blended families, and what about everybody else's wishes?
(08:56):
So these are some of the questions that you're going
to answer in your free session.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
Yeah, yes, and people like medicaid spin down.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
People don't understand the things that this social worker comes
up and says, Hey, you got until this date to
get this.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
Money spent, and now you're scrambling.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
And the only reason you're typically doing a medicaid spin
down is because somebody's health isn't doing so well and
they're usually having to go to a facility of some
kind of There are exceptions to that, but in general,
so you've got mom who's not doing well and you
really don't want to be running around doing things, but
now you have to go to a funeral and or
a funeral home and you have to figure out, you know,
what she wants and what she does. In a lot
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of times, she's not good enough health to even answer it,
and she's not doing well, so the last thing you
want to do is.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Go talk to her about this sort of stuff. So
you've got the double whammy of it.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
So this is things Medicaid spend downs right at disposition
the blended families you just mentioned. A lot of people
don't understand mom gets remarried. You might be a full
grown man that's forty five years old with grandkids. They
don't have a rite anymore. It's the new or the
new husband that gets to pick MYDA. Might be fine,
(10:05):
but there might be a situation where you prefer your
children to be in charge of your funeral, have no idea.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
We'll talk more about that here in just a moment.
I'm talking with Jake Young. He is with Paul Young
Funeral Home, three locations here in Cincinnati, about those end
of life arrangements everybody's going to have to make. This
is iHeart Cincy. We're back on Sandy Collins with iHeart
Cincy today. My guest is Jake Young. He is the
grandson of Paul Young Funeral Home, the proprietor who started
(10:37):
here in Cincinnati. They have three locations their family owned,
and he's got a free informational session coming up very
soon this month to answer questions for people, absolutely free,
no sales pitches. I just want to give people information
about what it is that you have to think about
towards the end of someone's life, Whether it's yours or
your parents or grandparents. The things need to avoid and
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just other questions that you would never have even thought
of asking. So let's get back to the conversation we
were talking about. Who has the right to make your
decisions after you're gone. Is it your adult kids or
your new wife or husband. They have to designate that beforehand.
They have to say, even though I'm married, I want
my son or my daughter to be in charge. And
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if that's not explicit, it just goes through that legal
process of next of kin.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Right, Okay, that's correct, And it really becomes a problem
when you have children that don't all get along and
you're doing cremation. At least in the state of Ohio,
the state majority rules legally, but they advise funeral homes
to kind of get all the kids to agree. And
let's say you have a kid you and talk to
for fifteen years.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Yes, you got a problem, been there and done that.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
So now you've got issues where if you would have
just done the right of disposition and wantn't even be
a thought.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
It's just an easy right.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
So so to kind of bring this around, You've got
a brother and a sister. The brother is estranged. The
sister is dealing with mom's death. She wants to cremate
her mother and the funeral director says, are you the
only child? And they say no, My brother lives in Florida,
but I haven't talked to him for fifteen years. And
what do you say, Jacob, We got to try and
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get a hold of him. That person has to give
you permission as well.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
Correct, you can wait seventy two hours, but you have
to prove that you've made every effort to actually try
and get a hold of him to let him know
that mom has passed away. And if he doesn't reach him, yeah,
and he says no, now.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
You've got to go to probate.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
And that can make it very, very ugly. And that's
another one of those small things that you don't even
think would be an issue until it becomes an issue.
And that's where you can find out more about all
these issues. At this free public information session going to
be held by Paul Young Funeral Homes here in Cincinnati.
Jake Young is talking with us right now. It's such
a stressful time. How do people know exactly what is
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required of them? Because I think the big issue Jake
and funeral homes. As you probably know, people are afraid
to say no to services because they feel like it
makes them look bad whether they don't want to pay
the money or they don't want to take the time,
whatever the issue is. And so then there's this huge
guilt that goes on it. And with that guilt comes
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a price tag. So what do you do when you
have people that are in your funeral home and they're
trying to make decisions? How do you handle the decisions
that they have to make, the decisions that are options,
and how do you address that guilt?
Speaker 2 (13:40):
Well, it actually works both ways too. Some people come
in and they want to buy. I see it more
with husbands, but they want to buy their wife a
nice casket, and their kids are looking at them, going
you want to spend how much on that casket?
Speaker 3 (13:54):
So it works both ways.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
They feel guilty for spending a lot of money and
they feel guilty for spending not a lot of money.
And I tell every family, everyone that works here sits
there and explains to them that they are okay to
buy whatever they want. This is a personal decision and
you need to do what you value. You can look
at different cultures all through history and what they've done
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for the dead. It's all different all over the map.
It's different, and you need to decide what's right for you.
There is no right or wrong, and you just need
to have a decision for yourself to go this is what.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
I want and this is why.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
But then you also need to explain to them the
pros and cons to everything. And I explain as much
as I can at these events the differences, and it's
hard to make decisions without having all the information. It's
you've got to get people the information so that they
can make an honest choice.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
But you got to almost tell them it's okay to
make a choice.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
It's okay you can purchase the least expensive item or
the most expensive.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
We don't care as long as it's what you want.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
But that's where this comes in and differentiates us business
model from you know, these other places. The other places
are on commissions. Sometimes the funeral directors have quotas they're
on commission, so how do you even know what they're
telling you. It's basically funeral homes for car deals and
it's like that, I don't we want nothing to do
with them.
Speaker 3 (15:15):
We want people to walk in the door and know.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
That all the information that they are getting is accurate
and that they can honestly make a decision one way
or another.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
When you're talking about pre planning and pre paying, those
are two very different areas, correct. So pre planning means
you go to the funeral home and you tell them
what you want and you just kind of plan it out.
But to prepay for it is an option and it's different.
Can you explain the difference between those two things? And
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what you really encourage people to do.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Pre Planning is picking out your items, picking out your wishes,
you know, giving.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
Your desires on paper. Basically, it could even be family
history people.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
I can't tell you how many times families come in
here and they don't know mother's made name or where
dad was born because he was born in the sticks.
And you got to have that for death certificate information.
So it's nice to have all that down, especially if
you've been up all night, you were at the hospital,
you're at the nursing home, mom passed away at four am.
Speaker 3 (16:14):
You're coming in the next day to make.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Arrangements, and you're trying to remember information that you haven't
talked about for thirty years. It can be difficult. It's
nice if it's all done. Pre paying means you are
paying for your funeral before you need it. But most
of the funeral homes talk about the financial advantages for
pre paying, and I just I don't go there.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
I just think that that's it can be better to
financially prepay. But I can also make the argument that
it's not.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
It's just a sales tactic to get people to spend
their money to prepay.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
For their funeral.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
You take that twelve grand, you put it in high
savings yield account. Odds are, I could be wrong, but
odds are you're going to get a bigger return than
you would have if you would have just paid for
your pre funeral. Because their point is you pre pay
for your funeral, it'll keep up with inflation. You're walking
in today's prices, and whatever it.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Goes up to, it's whatever.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Well, okay, Well you can put in the stock market
and just put in an index fund and you probably
would have got a bigger return there too.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
Now I'm not saying don't pay for your funeral ahead
of time.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
I'm just saying don't do it just because you think
it's financially going to be in your best interest. It
might be, but it might not be the reason you
prepay for your funerals because you don't want to leave
that worry and cost to your kids. You want to
do it because you want your kids to just come in,
sign some paperwork and they're done.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
They don't have to worry about any of it.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
That's why you would do it. But that's not for everybody. So,
you know, pre planning your funeral I think is probably smart.
Pre paying I think it's on the individual. Sometimes it's
a good idea, sometimes it's not necessary.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
What are the legal things that are required when someone
passes away? And what is optional? Meaning, for example, do
you have to have a funeral? Do you have to
have a casket? Do you have to have embalming? These
are the questions that are all over the internet right now,
people that are in the mortician society explaining what your
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rights are, and it's a little eye opening. So what
is it that people actually have to do that the
state requires?
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Well, the big one is you have to have a funeral.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
That's the big one, and it doesn't happen often, but
I do get people calling.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
They're like, well, can I just take, for instance, a
body donation.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
It's kind of getting more common where people want to
give their body up the science or to the university,
like well.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
I'll just drive mom down there.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
No, you have to have a legal license in order
to do things like that. As for a casket, there
are no laws that say you have to have a casket. However,
if you're going to use a cemetery, the cemetery will
have their own policies that you have to follow for that. Embalming,
there are no laws that say you have to embalm. However,
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funeral homes do have certain policies in place for obvious
reasons that if you're going to have a viewing, you
need to embalm. There are religious exceptions to this, but
usually you then have to have burials within a certain
amount of time for obvious reasons as well. But the
problem is there are so many salesy dishonest funeral homes.
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They take advantage of that, and so there's even a
form that families have to sign that say, you know,
you don't have to embalm with you're creamating because so
many creative funeral homes, so oh, no embalming, you just
have to Well, people don't know at four o'clock in
the morning that they don't have to embalm, and they
just think.
Speaker 3 (19:34):
That that's normal.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Right.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Oh okay, well then that there goes your money out
the window. That was totally unnecessary.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
So if you've got these questions and you want answers
to a lot of these questions, Jake Young from Paul
Young Funeral Homes is going to do a free public
information session. Tell us about that. That's coming up.
Speaker 3 (19:54):
It's exactly what we've been talking about.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
It's just we run into so many families with all
these questions or they're have just been having troubles, and
so we just thought, I.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Don't want to do the sales thing.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
I want to just.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
Give people information, whether they want to use us or not.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
I want people to be able to make smart decisions
and be able to.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
Do what's best for them and their families. And you
can only do that if you have all the information
to make those choices.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
So that's coming up on Tuesday, May the nineteenth, Is
that right, yes, ma'am. One in the afternoon. Where is
that going to be?
Speaker 2 (20:27):
The one in Cincinnati, So then we have one in Cincinnati,
the one in Fairfield and Hamilton and then the one
in Oxford will be at the one in Cincinnati right
near Ronald Reagan Highway.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Gotcha? Okay? Is there anything else you want people to know,
Jake about this procedure, these processes, these very difficult times
in people's lives.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Just as you said, picking a funeral home is a
big decision, and it's it's so hard to do that
because I mean, you're googling, you're asking a friend, you're asking,
especially if you've never had an experience before. I would
just say the best advice I could give was try
(21:11):
to find a true mom and pop place that their
values aligned with yours.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
That's exactly some of the news that's come out over
the last ten or fifteen years is how you may
think that your local funeral home is still locally owned,
but they've been purchased by a bigger entity and that
changes the way that they do their business and you
may not be aware of it. So how do you check?
Speaker 2 (21:39):
If you go to the website a lot of times,
if you go to the bottom and the fine print,
you'll see that there's a conglomerate and associated with it.
You can also be about us page. If they don't
say hey, we're still family owned and operated.
Speaker 3 (21:54):
You can pretty much guarantee. There's very few of us left,
very few.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
And even the few that are left, they operate like
an conglomerate because they want to keep their doors open too.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
And let's just be honest, it is so much.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Easier to operate as a corporation than it is just
the old fashioned handshake. Trust people that they're going to pay.
I mean, all these funerals, find me a funeral home
other than ours that requires payment before your service that
you got to pay. Now, well, you're twenty one years
old and you come home, you found the mom had
a heart attack, You're supposed to just come up with
(22:30):
twelve thousand dollars plus cemetery fees? Like, where are you
going to do that? We understand that. So we're going
to try and work with you. But do we get burned?
Speaker 3 (22:37):
Sure you do. But to me, that's the price of helping.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
People, and I just it's a necessity in the industry
and there's just very few of us left.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
Well, that's good to hear that you guys are still
family owned, Jake, So you brought up an idea here
in my head, is that what do you do when
someone dies at home, when you've got a family member
who either dies expectedly or un expectedly, what.
Speaker 4 (23:02):
Do you need to do?
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Do you have to call the police?
Speaker 3 (23:04):
Do you call the police? Do if there's not hospice.
If hospice is there, they'll take care of it.
Speaker 2 (23:08):
But if it's unexpected, if they were just home and
you know they died of natural causes or they slipped
and fell or a heart attack, if hospice isn't there,
you call the police and they'll come and then they'll
do everything for you.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
They'll call the corner.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
The corner will decide whether they'll come and investigate or not.
And if they don't, then they'll say, Okay, which funeral
home would.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
You like to use?
Speaker 1 (23:30):
And let's stop there. So the corner will decide whether
or not they're going to do an autopsy, because if
it looks like it could possibly be suspicious, or if
they weren't sick, if it was sudden, all those different things, right.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Not even just an autopsy. They don't do autopsies every time,
but they might not even.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
Take the case.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
So if someone's had a history of diabetes and they've
been in and now the hospital recently, they might say no,
we don't want the case, just go ahead and call
a funeral home. Other times they might say, yeah, that
looks a little suspicious, we want to take the case,
and they might do an autopsy, they might not, but
the police officer will take care of all that.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Another thing, Jake, you got my mind just racing right now.
We see the death reports from the Hamilton County Coroner's
Office when they send them out, and I am still
after all these years, shocked at the number of people
who take their own lives in this town.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
It's extremely unfortunate, and you would be surprised that even
it's not one of those things that just the tax,
low income, no families. This is something that is a
problem clear across the board. And it's very sad to
see when you have husbands and wives with the young children,
(24:43):
or even parents coming in and their child that it's
I don't know how people get over it.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
It's a very very sad thing.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
Certainly wouldn't get over it. You just learned to deal with.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
The pain, right, You've learned a cope.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
Right, So if you unfortunately have that sort of a
suchu a in your life where you weren't even thinking
about end of life issues, call the police, and then
have a funeral home in mind. Now we had a
family funeral home, and that was kind of like a
badge of honor. It was like, well, this is what
our family does, and it's this place and always go there.
(25:17):
And that's changing over the years, but it doesn't hurt
to think ahead of where you want to go and
how who you want to trust to hold your hand
during this very very difficult time that everybody's going to face.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
And that's not it's not a matter if it's when,
but your point right there is exactly how these conglomerates
are making their money. If that's the funeral home you've
always used, you don't know that they've been bought out.
You're just going to go back to the one you've
always used, and so you have no clue that now
think of it like Bob Evans.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
Hopefully they don't get mad at me for this, but.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
I mean everyone knows Bob Evans isn't, you know, as
good as it once was, and it's because they've.
Speaker 3 (25:56):
Sold you know, their banana bread was my favorite and
now I won't even need it, don't know, because there
are a big conglomerates a travesty man. Yes, yes, and
it's true.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
Clear across the board, you just see things aren't the
same once big guy comes in and.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
Purchases right, because they're taking their eyes off of the
little details. They're taking their eyes off of all that.
So well, Jake Young, I appreciate you being on the show.
Here the informational session, it's free. You do want people though,
to let you know that they want to come because
you've got limited seating. How do we do that?
Speaker 3 (26:27):
Just call the funeral home.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
You can call any of the funeral homes and just
tell them that you'd like to attend. It doesn't cost
you anything. We're not going to mail you anything. We're
not going to sell you anything. We just need to
make sure we have room.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
So that's the Pall Young Funeral Home here in the
Tri State. There are three locations. You can call your
local one or you can call the Cincinnati one where
the informational session is going to be held May nineteenth.
It's a Tuesday, it's one in the afternoon, and it
is absolutely free to help you figure out where you
have to begin in looking at the begin of the end.
(27:01):
Is that pretty profound?
Speaker 2 (27:03):
Yeah? And if anyone can't make the meeting. We'll sit
with anyone whether they want to use us or not.
If you're not local and you just have questions and
you want to make sure somebody locally most of it,
it's like that you don't even know questions to ask, right,
so I hear the things to look for. I can't
tell you how many people email us contracts and I
review the contracts for them. They're not going to use me,
(27:25):
but that's not the point. I don't want to see
them getting nosed, so we'll help them.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
Paul Young Funeral Home three locations here in Cincinnati, and
Jake Young, who wants to help you deal with those issues.
Thank you so much for what you do.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
You're welcome. Thanks talking to you.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
If you missed any of this show, you can hear
it on the iHeartRadio app look under podcasts for iHeart Sinsey.
You got any suggestions on shows upcoming or questions, just
email me iHeart Sinsey at iHeartMedia dot com. iHeart Sincy
with an I at iHeartMedia dot com until next week.
Thanks for listening. I'm Sandy Collins. iHeart Sensi is a
(28:01):
production of iHeartMedia, Cincinnati,
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