December 5, 2025 • 8 mins
Their connection started on one of “the apps,” though Connor can’t even remember which one anymore. What he does remember is Valerie, gorgeous, quick-witted, and steady in a way that pulled him in. They talked food, terrible twenties roommates, and their mutual love for true crime. Everything flowed and then… silence. Connor wants answers.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Star one on one three. It's Marcus, good morning. We
were about to get into second date updates. So let
me just real quick. If you've never heard it, if
you're new to the show, this is our dating segment.
And if you go on a date and you get
ghosted and it just stings and you want to know why,
we will call your date for you with you on
the phone listening so you can hear it from them.
Sometimes we get second dates out of it, because sometimes
(00:20):
it's a misunderstanding. So let's see what happens. Let's bring
Connor on. Good morning, Connor morning, how you guys doing
good man? How are you?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
I'm pretty, I'm great, you know, aside from this saying
all thanks considered, you're doing all right? Yeah right, yeah, yeah,
I mean I'm excited that you're having me on and
then hopefully we'll get to the bottom of this.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Yeah, dude, let's let's talk about Valerie. So how did
you guys meet? Run me through the date? How did
she look when she showed up? How were you dressed up?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Hot? Amazing?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
You were hurt?
Speaker 2 (00:49):
I got excited?
Speaker 3 (00:50):
No her?
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Hell come on please?
Speaker 1 (00:51):
How'd you guys meet?
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Well?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
So, yeah, I mean we met on the apps. You know,
to be totally honest, I don't remember which one. You know,
there's so many and you don't even think about it. Swipeswipe, whatever. Sure,
she was like better than the pictures. She was super sharp,
and she just like you don't meet those people with
that like confidence that's like it's not overstated, but it's
(01:13):
just like this, I don't know, it's like this calm
confidence or something that she was a catch all right.
So on the on the date itself, you know, we
we were like, you know, really connecting about restaurants, We
loved terrible roommates we used to have, you know, we
both love true crime documentaries. And it was just like
one of those dates where like the conversation never stopped
(01:35):
till I said goodbye at the end of the night.
And you know, there was no kiss or anything like that.
But you know, I'm a gentleman, so like I didn't
want to overstep, but everything was natural and she seemed
like a really good fit, and so I kind of
stopped swiping for a bit. I was wondering, you know,
I thought this might.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Be compliment by the way I stopped swiping. Yeah, makes
you oh right, She was hot enough, I stopped swiping
for a bit. Anyway.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Oh yeah, I mean, you know, like she hasn't responded, so.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Now you know, yeah, you gotta start swiping again.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
But like that's the thing. I thought, like this could
be a real potential thing. Why I jump back into
the pool. I want to. I want to see if
we can make something happen.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
All right, well, let's call her. Let's try to figure
this out. Because I would love to get you a
second date, as I mentioned at the beginning, but i'd
love to get you some answers too. So why don't
you hang out for a song and then we'll give
Valerie a call? Casey, what's up?
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Cool? Thank you?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Doing second date update. I've got my guy Connor on
the phone. He has been waiting patiently because we need
to call his date Valerie and try to figure out
why she ghosted on him. Connor, now you've had more
time to think about this date. Nothing weird happened.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I mean maybe I mentioned a restaurant that she didn't like,
but right, I don't know, I feel like it was
really good.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Okay, let's give her a shout. Go ahead and go
ahead and go back on you here we go. Okay, Hello, Hi,
I'm looking for Valerie.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Please, yes, this is she.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Hi Valerie, It's Marcus from Star one on one three.
Good morning.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Oh my god?
Speaker 1 (03:12):
What's all? Do you listen to the show? I'm assuming I.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Love your show.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
You I'm a big fan. But yeah, wow?
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Who?
Speaker 3 (03:22):
I'm sorry to what do I owe this call?
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (03:26):
I don't want to talk about it?
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Second date update anything?
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Yes, I don't want to talk about it though. Is
he on the line?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I mean yeah? Does that make her? Does that make
it weird?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Fine, this is crazy.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Consider yourself the star of the show.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
I'm just beyond I can't. We need to help Connor.
Connor needs all right, Connor needs some guys.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Honor, stop pretending like you're not there.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
So, hey, Connor, did you go?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yeah? I did?
Speaker 3 (04:01):
He did not deserve a reply.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Oh boy, what are you talking about?
Speaker 3 (04:06):
You don't show forty minutes late. You don't show up
forty minutes late to a first date and then come
in like nonchalant. That was a bad first impression. Let
me tell you never do that to another girl.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Okay, that was like, okay, traffic, you know crazy.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
You're handsome. I think you're handsome, you have potential, but
you cannot smack your food like you're it's it's disgusting,
Like that was the biggest turn off. You need to
close your mouth.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Hold on, I'm trying to keep up.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Oh, it's multiple things. I keep going if we're doing.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Okay, we're doing this, Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I've been called a passionate eater. You know it's it's uh,
my friends love it, they say. They think it's like
enthusiastic and it makes the food even more appetizing to
them when they see how much I love my food
and you didn't say anything about it during the day.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
That is a bizarro statement.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
By the way, I was very bizarre. Like you eat
like no one taught you how to eat, Like you
need to like have a little bit of etiquette.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
But what about I'm still hung up on forty minutes
late to a first date.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Blurp, No one.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
You live in the city, you know, traffic is nuts.
It's like there's like a grace period, you know, and
and it's like unspoken and it's just yeah, I didn't
realize it was forty minutes. I thought it was close
to the thirty. But still, like I didn't want to
text because I didn't want to be rude in case
you were still getting ready and you were late too.
You know, I thought I was being respectful by like
(05:36):
just not texting. I showed up and you were there,
and I was like, oh, you you must have just
gotten here too.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
I haven't even mentioned the fact that he didn't have
his wallet. He like hit his pockets, like he let
his other jacket, and I was like, at that point,
I was like, why the hell am I here?
Speaker 1 (05:54):
So wait, did you pay for everything? Valerie? Yes?
Speaker 3 (05:56):
I had to. It was so awkward.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Are you going to tell you so hard? Are you
going to tell them how? I venmoed you immediately once
I got home, And I even left you a funny
note that wasn't funny.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
You're kind of a tool. I'm going to a tool. Yeah,
you are kind of a tool.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah, but I did a tool emoji and everything, like,
come on, like that's the funny thing.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
I didn't say. You weren't funny. But you don't have
it together, buddy. You need to seure you sit out.
You're so good looking, Connor, but you are a man child.
You need to grow up or you're never going to
find someone you're like a man baby.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
You already said I'm good looking, and you said that
I'm funny. So why don't we go out again? No,
go have some drinks. You can be late this time,
and I won't.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
Say anything to raise a grown ass man. I am
not trying.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
To raise you. We just go out. We'll have a
good time.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
It's like almost a yes, but it's a no. Connor, Okay,
I thought I had all right.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Here's what I'm gonna do, Valerie. You guys want to
put you, just put you on hold for a second
to marin Aine, think about it. Maybe there's an outside
chance you have each other's number.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
I feel like coming back around.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Oh my god, it's gonna take a lot, Connor. Jewelry
is all I have to say.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
I can't you too fine Jewelry, I'm good for it.
I just I want to go out again, like you know,
hearing your voice, I'll.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Do whatever I mean, Valerie. They do need to be
trained sometimes I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
So I mean he is he is kind of cute.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
How about a second date?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
No, yes, fine, Tiffany, I will make it up to you.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
It's gonna be amazing.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Did this just happen. Hold On, hang on, I got
to ring the cow bell of destiny. I'm so excited.
Hang on, we have a second date.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
Oh you guys are the best.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Wow, Connor, you must be one charming anyway, all right,
you too, You're adorable. Hang on the line for me.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Okay, all right, thank you, thank you, Vali. I can't
wait to see you.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Hang on you love birds. My god, I can't. This
has made my whole week second date update right after
seven o'clock weekdays, so it'll be back on Monday. We'll
do it again at nine o'clock, all right, about nine
oh five or so. And of course, you got the podcast.
You can listen to all the episodes. It's on the
iHeartRadio Appset yourself a preset, all right,
Star one on one three. It's Marcus, good morning. We
were about to get into second date updates. So let
me just real quick. If you've never heard it, if
you're new to the show, this is our dating segment.
And if you go on a date and you get
ghosted and it just stings and you want to know why,
we will call your date for you with you on
the phone listening so you can hear it from them.
Sometimes we get second dates out of it, because sometimes
(00:20):
it's a misunderstanding. So let's see what happens. Let's bring
Connor on. Good morning, Connor morning, how you guys doing
good man? How are you?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
I'm pretty, I'm great, you know, aside from this saying
all thanks considered, you're doing all right? Yeah right, yeah, yeah,
I mean I'm excited that you're having me on and
then hopefully we'll get to the bottom of this.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Yeah, dude, let's let's talk about Valerie. So how did
you guys meet? Run me through the date? How did
she look when she showed up? How were you dressed up?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Hot? Amazing?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
You were hurt?
Speaker 2 (00:49):
I got excited?
Speaker 3 (00:50):
No her?
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Hell come on please?
Speaker 1 (00:51):
How'd you guys meet?
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Well?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
So, yeah, I mean we met on the apps. You know,
to be totally honest, I don't remember which one. You know,
there's so many and you don't even think about it. Swipeswipe, whatever. Sure,
she was like better than the pictures. She was super sharp,
and she just like you don't meet those people with
that like confidence that's like it's not overstated, but it's
(01:13):
just like this, I don't know, it's like this calm
confidence or something that she was a catch all right.
So on the on the date itself, you know, we
we were like, you know, really connecting about restaurants, We
loved terrible roommates we used to have, you know, we
both love true crime documentaries. And it was just like
one of those dates where like the conversation never stopped
(01:35):
till I said goodbye at the end of the night.
And you know, there was no kiss or anything like that.
But you know, I'm a gentleman, so like I didn't
want to overstep, but everything was natural and she seemed
like a really good fit, and so I kind of
stopped swiping for a bit. I was wondering, you know,
I thought this might.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Be compliment by the way I stopped swiping. Yeah, makes
you oh right, She was hot enough, I stopped swiping
for a bit. Anyway.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Oh yeah, I mean, you know, like she hasn't responded, so.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Now you know, yeah, you gotta start swiping again.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
But like that's the thing. I thought, like this could
be a real potential thing. Why I jump back into
the pool. I want to. I want to see if
we can make something happen.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
All right, well, let's call her. Let's try to figure
this out. Because I would love to get you a
second date, as I mentioned at the beginning, but i'd
love to get you some answers too. So why don't
you hang out for a song and then we'll give
Valerie a call? Casey, what's up?
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Cool? Thank you?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Doing second date update. I've got my guy Connor on
the phone. He has been waiting patiently because we need
to call his date Valerie and try to figure out
why she ghosted on him. Connor, now you've had more
time to think about this date. Nothing weird happened.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I mean maybe I mentioned a restaurant that she didn't like,
but right, I don't know, I feel like it was
really good.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Okay, let's give her a shout. Go ahead and go
ahead and go back on you here we go. Okay, Hello, Hi,
I'm looking for Valerie.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Please, yes, this is she.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Hi Valerie, It's Marcus from Star one on one three.
Good morning.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Oh my god?
Speaker 1 (03:12):
What's all? Do you listen to the show? I'm assuming I.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Love your show.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
You I'm a big fan. But yeah, wow?
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Who?
Speaker 3 (03:22):
I'm sorry to what do I owe this call?
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (03:26):
I don't want to talk about it?
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Second date update anything?
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Yes, I don't want to talk about it though. Is
he on the line?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I mean yeah? Does that make her? Does that make
it weird?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Fine, this is crazy.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Consider yourself the star of the show.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
I'm just beyond I can't. We need to help Connor.
Connor needs all right, Connor needs some guys.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Honor, stop pretending like you're not there.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
So, hey, Connor, did you go?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yeah? I did?
Speaker 3 (04:01):
He did not deserve a reply.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Oh boy, what are you talking about?
Speaker 3 (04:06):
You don't show forty minutes late. You don't show up
forty minutes late to a first date and then come
in like nonchalant. That was a bad first impression. Let
me tell you never do that to another girl.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Okay, that was like, okay, traffic, you know crazy.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
You're handsome. I think you're handsome, you have potential, but
you cannot smack your food like you're it's it's disgusting,
Like that was the biggest turn off. You need to
close your mouth.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Hold on, I'm trying to keep up.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Oh, it's multiple things. I keep going if we're doing.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Okay, we're doing this, Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I've been called a passionate eater. You know it's it's uh,
my friends love it, they say. They think it's like
enthusiastic and it makes the food even more appetizing to
them when they see how much I love my food
and you didn't say anything about it during the day.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
That is a bizarro statement.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
By the way, I was very bizarre. Like you eat
like no one taught you how to eat, Like you
need to like have a little bit of etiquette.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
But what about I'm still hung up on forty minutes
late to a first date.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Blurp, No one.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
You live in the city, you know, traffic is nuts.
It's like there's like a grace period, you know, and
and it's like unspoken and it's just yeah, I didn't
realize it was forty minutes. I thought it was close
to the thirty. But still, like I didn't want to
text because I didn't want to be rude in case
you were still getting ready and you were late too.
You know, I thought I was being respectful by like
(05:36):
just not texting. I showed up and you were there,
and I was like, oh, you you must have just
gotten here too.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
I haven't even mentioned the fact that he didn't have
his wallet. He like hit his pockets, like he let
his other jacket, and I was like, at that point,
I was like, why the hell am I here?
Speaker 1 (05:54):
So wait, did you pay for everything? Valerie? Yes?
Speaker 3 (05:56):
I had to. It was so awkward.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Are you going to tell you so hard? Are you
going to tell them how? I venmoed you immediately once
I got home, And I even left you a funny
note that wasn't funny.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
You're kind of a tool. I'm going to a tool. Yeah,
you are kind of a tool.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah, but I did a tool emoji and everything, like,
come on, like that's the funny thing.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
I didn't say. You weren't funny. But you don't have
it together, buddy. You need to seure you sit out.
You're so good looking, Connor, but you are a man child.
You need to grow up or you're never going to
find someone you're like a man baby.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
You already said I'm good looking, and you said that
I'm funny. So why don't we go out again? No,
go have some drinks. You can be late this time,
and I won't.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
Say anything to raise a grown ass man. I am
not trying.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
To raise you. We just go out. We'll have a
good time.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
It's like almost a yes, but it's a no. Connor, Okay,
I thought I had all right.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Here's what I'm gonna do, Valerie. You guys want to
put you, just put you on hold for a second
to marin Aine, think about it. Maybe there's an outside
chance you have each other's number.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
I feel like coming back around.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Oh my god, it's gonna take a lot, Connor. Jewelry
is all I have to say.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
I can't you too fine Jewelry, I'm good for it.
I just I want to go out again, like you know,
hearing your voice, I'll.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Do whatever I mean, Valerie. They do need to be
trained sometimes I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
So I mean he is he is kind of cute.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
How about a second date?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
No, yes, fine, Tiffany, I will make it up to you.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
It's gonna be amazing.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Did this just happen. Hold On, hang on, I got
to ring the cow bell of destiny. I'm so excited.
Hang on, we have a second date.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
Oh you guys are the best.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Wow, Connor, you must be one charming anyway, all right,
you too, You're adorable. Hang on the line for me.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Okay, all right, thank you, thank you, Vali. I can't
wait to see you.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Hang on you love birds. My god, I can't. This
has made my whole week second date update right after
seven o'clock weekdays, so it'll be back on Monday. We'll
do it again at nine o'clock, all right, about nine
oh five or so. And of course, you got the podcast.
You can listen to all the episodes. It's on the
iHeartRadio Appset yourself a preset, all right,
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