December 4, 2025 • 6 mins
Riley wants answers. He met Jenna online, finally took things offline for a Berkeley coffee date, and loved her vibe: funny, thoughtful, and apparently a walking library of book recs. They talked art, jobs, sandwiches… everything but why she vanished afterward. Let’s find out.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
For variety from the two thousand, it's the nineties and
(00:01):
today it's Star one on one three hits Marcus back
with second Date update if you've never heard it, if
you're brand new. So what happens is you go on
a first date you get ghosted on. We will call
your date on your behalf the service we provide, try
to figure out if you did something wrong, or if
they're just been busy, or what the deal is, and
ultimately try to get you a second date. That's how
we do it. So let's say good morning to Riley.
(00:23):
I'm here, good morning, excellent. So I want to talk
about your date with Jenna. I want to talk about
like a how you guys met, and then let's just
run through. Typically what we do is I have you
run through what you did on the first date, and
then we'll try to figure it all out because I
understand she's ghosted, but what can you tell me?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Well, we met online and after you know, a couple
of weeks of back and forth messaging, we decided that
we were going to grab coffee and like walk around Berkeley, Okay,
And I mean she was funny, thoughtful, she had book
recommendations for just about every topic I could think of,
Like we talked about street art, we talked about our
(00:57):
worst jobs, we talked about local sandwich spot, like you know,
like just I was gonna say the hard hitting journalism.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Yeah, and then like you know, we went out for copy.
We had a great time.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
And then she hasn't called me here, texted me back,
And I'm just kind of getting.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Ghosted here, And I don't know why. How many times
have you replayed the date in your head? Be honest,
a handful something. I can't think of anything. You're not
as obsessive as I am. Then I get it, all right,
I'll tell you what. I'm gonna call her. We're gonna
try to figure this out. I've got my guy Riley
on the phone. This feels pretty cut and dry. It
feels pretty simple. So you and Jenna just went.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
For coffee, went for coffee and then walked around Berkley
and it felt right like that, it felt great.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
The weirdness. No, Okay, let's call her. Then go ahead
and meet your phone. I'm gonna give her a shout
and see if we can't salvage this, get you a
second date. Okay, here we go, good day.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
This is Jenna.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Well, good day. I have never had anybody answer the phone.
Good day, Sorry, Jenna, It's Marcus calling from Star one
one three. Good morning, good day.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
Hello. How are you from the radio?
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Yes, from from Star one on one three from the
morning show. Do you listen? Yeah? I do, excellent, welcome.
Do you have a moment to be on the show
with me?
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Depends on what you're calling for.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
So it's second date update time?
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Oh no am I? Okay?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
All right, okay, okay, we doing this.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
To second date update. I did not think I was
going to end up on it, but here we are.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Why don't you be the star?
Speaker 3 (02:42):
So?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Okay, have you been on a date recently that you
may or may not have ghosted on?
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Yeah? Okay, I think so.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
I mean yeah, so we've got Riley on the phone.
I figured, yeah, Riley, are you there? I'm here? Okay, So, Jenna,
he said he had a great time. He liked you
a lot, I wrote down, funny, thoughtful, enjoyed your conversation.
So if you ghosted, can you tell us why did
he do something?
Speaker 3 (03:09):
It wasn't really something he did. I mean, I think
he's nice. I think he's a nice person, but he
was intense in the strangest way I've ever encountered, and
it made me really uncomfortable. I didn't really know what
to do with it.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Okay, I got to ask the question, did you feel unsafe?
Speaker 3 (03:25):
No, No, it wasn't like that. I just like, I've
never really encountered a person like this. Like he kept
pausing while we were walking around to write things down
in this tiny, like pocket sized notebook, and it wasn't discreet.
It wasn't like, oh, every once in a while he'd like,
I mean, I don't even know how you would discreetly
drott in a notebook, but like he was so weird
(03:48):
and obvious about it. He'd like pause walking for a
sec and write something down. It was like like like
therapy note taking, you know what I mean. I felt
like I was being scrutinized me. What was I don't know.
We talked about a lot of different things, which initially
I really liked that he seemed able to talk about
a lot of different stuff, but then he'd like hyper
(04:10):
fixate on these weird things like Okay, like at one
point I was talking to him about my plants and
how I feel like I'm a plant killer because I
can't keep anything alive. Sure, And he started like interrogating
me about the soil. He was like asking me where
I sourced the soil for my plants, insane that it
(04:31):
might be a pH balance thing. And he launches into
this like five minute lecture talking at me about the
pH balance of my soil. And he's like, Oh, if
it's too acidic, that could be causing the leaves to
turn yellow. And he was like, you know, oh, do
you think it could be root raw that's too much moisture.
Otherwise it could be a too acidic of a soil.
And I'm just like, I don't know. It didn't feel
(04:52):
like I was having a conversation with him. I felt
like I was being mansplained at, like it's not that
serious and that, you know, I probably would have been
interested if he had talked to me about it differently,
but I felt like he was lecturing me.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Got it.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
I like to write things down because I like to
make sure that I remember them. And I mean, I
wasn't trying to make you feel like you're being lectured
or man's plained or anything like that, Like I was
genuinely like trying to help. I was like Oh, this
is the thing I know about, and you're having in
trouble with these plans, and so here are ways that
I know that I can help.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
Sure, Okay, but I think it's really important for you
to read the social cues, especially when you're in a
really early stages thing with somebody like this was our
first date, and I felt like I was being interviewed
for a scholarship. I felt like, you know, I felt
like I was sitting across a desk from somebody. And
that's not the experience I'm trying to have when I'm
on a date.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
That wasn't the intention.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I was trying to make sure that you knew that
I was listening to what you were saying, and I
was trying to show you that I was being attentive
and helpful.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
I wasn't trying to talk at you.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Okay, well, even right now, I feel like you're kind
of talking at me. You're not saying, wow, I'm sorry,
thank you all. Take the feedback you're explaining and over
explaining and lecturing me about what your intentions were, as
opposed to taking the feedback that I'm giving you that
you brought me on the radio to give you you guys.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I don't know if this is going to work out. Jenna,
No second date on.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
This right, No thank you, thanks, but no sure all right?
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Hang on, I don't even know where to go from here.
Second date update. Obviously it doesn't always work out.
For variety from the two thousand, it's the nineties and
(00:01):
today it's Star one on one three hits Marcus back
with second Date update if you've never heard it, if
you're brand new. So what happens is you go on
a first date you get ghosted on. We will call
your date on your behalf the service we provide, try
to figure out if you did something wrong, or if
they're just been busy, or what the deal is, and
ultimately try to get you a second date. That's how
we do it. So let's say good morning to Riley.
(00:23):
I'm here, good morning, excellent. So I want to talk
about your date with Jenna. I want to talk about
like a how you guys met, and then let's just
run through. Typically what we do is I have you
run through what you did on the first date, and
then we'll try to figure it all out because I
understand she's ghosted, but what can you tell me?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Well, we met online and after you know, a couple
of weeks of back and forth messaging, we decided that
we were going to grab coffee and like walk around Berkeley, Okay,
And I mean she was funny, thoughtful, she had book
recommendations for just about every topic I could think of,
Like we talked about street art, we talked about our
(00:57):
worst jobs, we talked about local sandwich spot, like you know,
like just I was gonna say the hard hitting journalism.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Yeah, and then like you know, we went out for copy.
We had a great time.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
And then she hasn't called me here, texted me back,
And I'm just kind of getting.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Ghosted here, And I don't know why. How many times
have you replayed the date in your head? Be honest,
a handful something. I can't think of anything. You're not
as obsessive as I am. Then I get it, all right,
I'll tell you what. I'm gonna call her. We're gonna
try to figure this out. I've got my guy Riley
on the phone. This feels pretty cut and dry. It
feels pretty simple. So you and Jenna just went.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
For coffee, went for coffee and then walked around Berkley
and it felt right like that, it felt great.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
The weirdness. No, Okay, let's call her. Then go ahead
and meet your phone. I'm gonna give her a shout
and see if we can't salvage this, get you a
second date. Okay, here we go, good day.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
This is Jenna.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Well, good day. I have never had anybody answer the phone.
Good day, Sorry, Jenna, It's Marcus calling from Star one
one three. Good morning, good day.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
Hello. How are you from the radio?
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Yes, from from Star one on one three from the
morning show. Do you listen? Yeah? I do, excellent, welcome.
Do you have a moment to be on the show
with me?
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Depends on what you're calling for.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
So it's second date update time?
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Oh no am I? Okay?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
All right, okay, okay, we doing this.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
To second date update. I did not think I was
going to end up on it, but here we are.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Why don't you be the star?
Speaker 3 (02:42):
So?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Okay, have you been on a date recently that you
may or may not have ghosted on?
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Yeah? Okay, I think so.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
I mean yeah, so we've got Riley on the phone.
I figured, yeah, Riley, are you there? I'm here? Okay, So, Jenna,
he said he had a great time. He liked you
a lot, I wrote down, funny, thoughtful, enjoyed your conversation.
So if you ghosted, can you tell us why did
he do something?
Speaker 3 (03:09):
It wasn't really something he did. I mean, I think
he's nice. I think he's a nice person, but he
was intense in the strangest way I've ever encountered, and
it made me really uncomfortable. I didn't really know what
to do with it.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Okay, I got to ask the question, did you feel unsafe?
Speaker 3 (03:25):
No, No, it wasn't like that. I just like, I've
never really encountered a person like this. Like he kept
pausing while we were walking around to write things down
in this tiny, like pocket sized notebook, and it wasn't discreet.
It wasn't like, oh, every once in a while he'd like,
I mean, I don't even know how you would discreetly
drott in a notebook, but like he was so weird
(03:48):
and obvious about it. He'd like pause walking for a
sec and write something down. It was like like like
therapy note taking, you know what I mean. I felt
like I was being scrutinized me. What was I don't know.
We talked about a lot of different things, which initially
I really liked that he seemed able to talk about
a lot of different stuff, but then he'd like hyper
(04:10):
fixate on these weird things like Okay, like at one
point I was talking to him about my plants and
how I feel like I'm a plant killer because I
can't keep anything alive. Sure, And he started like interrogating
me about the soil. He was like asking me where
I sourced the soil for my plants, insane that it
(04:31):
might be a pH balance thing. And he launches into
this like five minute lecture talking at me about the
pH balance of my soil. And he's like, Oh, if
it's too acidic, that could be causing the leaves to
turn yellow. And he was like, you know, oh, do
you think it could be root raw that's too much moisture.
Otherwise it could be a too acidic of a soil.
And I'm just like, I don't know. It didn't feel
(04:52):
like I was having a conversation with him. I felt
like I was being mansplained at, like it's not that
serious and that, you know, I probably would have been
interested if he had talked to me about it differently,
but I felt like he was lecturing me.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Got it.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
I like to write things down because I like to
make sure that I remember them. And I mean, I
wasn't trying to make you feel like you're being lectured
or man's plained or anything like that, Like I was
genuinely like trying to help. I was like Oh, this
is the thing I know about, and you're having in
trouble with these plans, and so here are ways that
I know that I can help.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
Sure, Okay, but I think it's really important for you
to read the social cues, especially when you're in a
really early stages thing with somebody like this was our
first date, and I felt like I was being interviewed
for a scholarship. I felt like, you know, I felt
like I was sitting across a desk from somebody. And
that's not the experience I'm trying to have when I'm
on a date.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
That wasn't the intention.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I was trying to make sure that you knew that
I was listening to what you were saying, and I
was trying to show you that I was being attentive
and helpful.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
I wasn't trying to talk at you.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Okay, well, even right now, I feel like you're kind
of talking at me. You're not saying, wow, I'm sorry,
thank you all. Take the feedback you're explaining and over
explaining and lecturing me about what your intentions were, as
opposed to taking the feedback that I'm giving you that
you brought me on the radio to give you you guys.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I don't know if this is going to work out. Jenna,
No second date on.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
This right, No thank you, thanks, but no sure all right?
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Hang on, I don't even know where to go from here.
Second date update. Obviously it doesn't always work out.
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