December 10, 2025 • 30 mins
This week on Tales Over Cocktails, Danielle is adjusting in post-move mode, Astra surprises us all with an actually amazing first date (!!), and Wendy shares the saga of once being victimized by her infamous paper towel–bandit ex.
All laughs aside, we discuss the red and green flags to look out for and why settling is never an option.
All laughs aside, we discuss the red and green flags to look out for and why settling is never an option.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Oh, get me cocktails. I'm Wendy, I'm Astra, and.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I'm Danielle and we are tails over cocktails. Yea. The
stories are real, the laughs are loud, and there's always
something to sip on.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Hey, how you doing.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
It's a weekly mix of absolute chaos, cocktails and way
too honest conversations. Hold up a chair and pour something.
It's about to get fun.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Whoa sounds like my grandmother with me right now?
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Me too?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Holding it in man.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
And we went from like the Balls podcast to the
we have to pee every five minutes?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Who's got a diaper?
Speaker 4 (00:51):
I got taper? Is on?
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Oh my goodness, Well we're back. It's another week.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
I think we skipped last week, but that's it's been
al was.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
A holiday, you know? We did do last week?
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Didn't know Thanksgiving was there?
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Thanksgiving less holiday?
Speaker 1 (01:05):
It was a holiday.
Speaker 4 (01:06):
I can't remember the days.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I can't either. I feel like everything when the holidays
come in, I can't remember anything because all I know
is it goes from Thanksgiving to Christmas, Hanuka to New Year's.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
To Yeah, it's like if my time just passes. You
buy so much faster than it used to.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Yes, the older we get the quicker it goes. And
I never believed my parents and they used to say that.
I was like it would always take forever for the
summer to read.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
I thought it was an eternity right, And.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Now it's like the summer already my winter coat. I
pulled out the winter coat the other day, but I've
been in.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Winter welltails in her winter coat now a reason.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I have the Canada Goose and I'm not gonna lie.
It does not keep me warm.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
What oh my god mine.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
I have two of them and I keep me so warm.
I wore it in my classroom last night. I was
freezing in my classroom and I was kept me warm.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
I might have the wrong version that I looked it
up and it says that it's like one of.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
The Canada Loose, not Canada.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
I can't. I can personally cannot do Canada Goose because
of the animal advocacy that I do. But I have
the viral orola from Amazon that everybody was talking about,
and it actually does keep me warm.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Really. Yes, I was told to go on Amazon and
get those jackets that heat up.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Really has one?
Speaker 3 (02:20):
It sounds like a fire hazard.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
No, no, no, you plug it in, you like charge it
charge your charge your jacket and then you wear it
and it's warm, and I feel like that's what I
need because I can't function in this weather.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
My sister word at the Thanksgiving Day parade and she
was I was freezing and she was.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
Fine, yeah, it was n You just charge it like
you charge your phone.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
But how long does it last? That's the question?
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Like all day? Five six hours with it?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
That's the name of this.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Yeah, we're gonna not sponsored, by the way, no, although.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
You know it is so funny. I had seen how
Kim Kardashian had posted that she's got a new Skims
like collab with north Face, I think it is, and
they have these like puffer jackets, ones that go all
the way down to your ankle and you look like
this big like marshmallow man. I'm like, that's what I
think I need.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
I think we are past the puffer stage and we're
onto the Parka stage. But he's in our winter here
in the Northeast, because we don't know where our listeners
are tuned in right right.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
It's horrible though. People are like, aren't you from New York.
I'm like born and raised and I'm still not used
to the cold. I'll never get used to this cold.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
You know.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
It's really odd people have been asking me if the
cold weather affects my condition?
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Does it? No? Really no, I.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Mean I think it's more like wet weather about to
come in that affects it more. But I was standing
outside waiting for the train the other day and I
was like, you know, I feel like rejuvenated in a way.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
I don't like being cold in the studio when I'm inside,
but if I'm expecting it to be cold outside, I
don't mind it so much as long as I'm wearing
the proper gear.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
What's the condition again, in case people are just tuning in? Sure,
So we've talked about.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
This before, and probably more so on my podcast Life
Bites with Wendy Wild, which lately we've been simulcasting this.
Sorry about that, But it's called fibromyalgia, which is the
pain disease, and nobody really knows where it comes from.
It's one of those diseases that is diagnosed after they
rule out everything else, all of the autoimmune diseases, and
(04:07):
it's your pain receptor is just going crazy. They go
off the hook.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Is there anything you can take or do to help it.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Not really, there are some lifestyle changes. The funny thing
is is most doctors will prescribe walking and exercise, meaning
while you it's in my legs and I have a
lot of trouble with stairs, but I try. You know,
I still work out and I have good days, and
but I will say that, uh, there are some some
(04:35):
drugs that may help. We're going to discuss that. Actually
have a doctors appointment tomorrow, so we're gonna see how
that goes.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Oh, keep posting. But yeah, but the cold weather, like.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
I think I'm the only one that's kind of thriving
in it right now.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Oh, it does just keep me awake.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
All it does is make my bones freeze so much
that I wish that I could just, i don't know,
walk around with like a heated blanket. That's what I
always say. I'm like, I need either a heated blanket
or like a heavy man to put over me that
I could just like, well, you hold on in a second.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
That is such a good transition, because I got some
I got some breaking news.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Well I won't call it. I don't want to jinxxid.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Well, we can just like keep the expect expectations low
and see all right, all right, I finally have dipped
my toe back into the dating pool.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Finally. I've been single for seven years and I know
and I'm like, you know, what is I've been trying
to date, but like COVID had come along, couldn't really
date during that time. And then when I did date
somebody at that point, I went out with this guy
and come to find out he was married, and I
was like, okay, why didn't you tell me on the
first date. He waits for the second date to tell me, right,
So then I was like, well, I'm not gonna hang
(05:41):
out these guys anymore. Then I went out with like
another one or two guys, but it's always a one
and done because I'm never fully interested.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
Do you get the ick? Do you go on a
date and somebody does something small that just gives me
like they have like a like a boogie in their nose,
or you don't like the way they pick up their fork,
or if there's.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Crook it like I'm all about like aesthetically pleasing and
if you're you know, if your teeth are crooked, and
I mean listen, I don't want somebody to be like
oh my god, my teeth are cooked. Well, you can
go fix them. It's not like it's not fixable. Things
that are fixable you can fix, you know. So it's
like those things are just not a turn on from
dirty fingernails apps. So I always look at the fingernails
if there's any like blackness under there, I'm like, no way, if.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
You're not putting the care into taking care of yourself,
especially before, I.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Don't want to know from the waist down, then if
your nails are grown. So I heard I met this guy.
Technically we kind of like we kind of connected like
last year on social media. But I was just like, oh,
I don't think this guy is real. I don't know why.
I thought maybe that it was like a bot page,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Any fair, He is very handsome and has a blue
check mark, so right off the bat, I would have
thought he was about to right because I was just like, well.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
It shows that he's like into acting and like sports
and all this stuff, like he's like in kickboxing, and
I'm just like, this guy seems like too good to be.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
True, perfect right, exactly perfect, He.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Doesn't he does it. His eyes are so beautiful, but anyway,
so we finally made time to meet up, and he
was such a gentleman. He was so nice, he was
so sweet, and I was just like wow, Like I
was kind of shy and scared because and you know me,
I'm usually not but I'm like, my gosh, this guy's
really cool. And then you wanted to hang out again,
(07:20):
and I was like, oh, okay. So then we hung
out again, and I.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Was a fact is I mean, you were telling me
about how it went and all the green flags for instance,
like really showing interest in wanting to see you again,
but not just saying it vaguely, saying what are you
doing on this particular day? That shows interest and having
a plan in mind, having a plan in mind. Also,
he you know, most guys, they will say, are usually
pretty turned off by women and their presence on social media.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
And that's kind of your job, right, But it's also
kind of his shop, which is great, where he was like,
let me find the right writing for me to take
a picture of you. How about this? I asked him
to help me with a TikTok for my friend's brand
because she's promoting you know, her skincare line. Big shout
to tea Bozzie my grandma. Oh, And I had said
to him, I go, would you mind? And I hated
asking him because, like the second time we're hanging out,
(08:09):
would you mind helping me make a TikTok video? It's
like a tanking that that's going to be such a
turn off. He's like, you had no problem turn this way,
the lighting's better.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
I'm like this dream a guy that's in the industry,
which is maybe what you need not to like again,
not to put too much pressure on it, but this
is like the type of guy that like understands.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
The biz right. So, like I said, I don't want
to jinx it because you never know what may or
may not happen. I have to see, like how it goes.
Everything's always great in the beginning.
Speaker 4 (08:36):
Always you need.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
A nickname for do we need a nickname? Or you
want to go on one more date?
Speaker 1 (08:42):
I think you need maybe yeah, because right now I
feel like, right now my nickname for him is mister
movie phone.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
No no, if you know the name of the movie.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
I like to call him like blue eyes. His eyes
are gorgeous, they're these blue Frankie. But no, because he's also.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
French, exactly frenchie.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Now about friend Francois.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
All right, we'll wait on the nickname. I'm still like,
I'm still waiting. I hate to say this, but like
I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop, I'm waiting
for some sort of ick to happen, like this is
a sex in the City episode.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
Guys, that's so funny. Oh my god, Francois, But onto you, Danyell,
you and your move.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
Oh my gosh, I have to tell you. I am
so happy in my new apartment.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
I have never slept so well in my entire life.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
See that, and you were so Oh my god. I'm
gonna miss my pleas on the beach. I'm gonna miss
my balcony.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
What's it like without the beach though?
Speaker 4 (09:53):
Do you know? It is a weird, weird. I don't
go outside as much like every morning I would go
out on my balcony.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Are you looking out the window though? I am.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
You know in the in the warmer months, you're gonna
have a rooftop.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Yes, So that's when I'll start my ddy on the rooftop.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Do they have barbecues up there?
Speaker 4 (10:08):
They have barbecues, they have fire pits everything.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Oh, we're coming over.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
And in the courtyard they have the same thing, and
then they have like a life sized chess board, so
that the they're.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Like shuffle board.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
No, like chess.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Oh, so it's they're actually your size, Wendy.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Oh, I've seen those before, life size. They have those
whenever you travel, like I remember when I was like
in Jamaica.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
We say you are you like the pawn or the.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Pieces are the size of you. So you physically picked
them up like a human and you walk them.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
It sounds like too much work.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
I'll show you a picture, but yeah, I actually moved
with piece of cake, which you told me all about.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
I had the best experience with them.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
I had so much fun with them. So first there
was four guys that came and then they called the
fifth guy.
Speaker 4 (10:53):
They're like this broad's got so many pairs of shoes.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Carry Bradshaw. Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
I had two guys, three guys. I think that four
is a lot five five, five guys.
Speaker 4 (11:06):
And good guys, I know.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
And then at the end I surprise them with a
cake and I cut them all a piece of cake
and they were.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Piece of cake.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
A piece of cake.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Yeah, they said, never has anyone done that, so I
feel kind of special and.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Now everybody's gonna follow in your footsteps, right, maybe I
still I have a question about the pink bins though.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Yes, they give you Like when I moved, I just
used round boxes. They give you these pink bins to borrow, but.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
They give you a week.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
I think to right, that gives you a timeframe you
have to unpack your stuff. Guess what I did, unpacked
all your stuff.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
I unpacked everything that night. What I unpacked all fifty bins?
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Fifty that night.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
How shoes do you have?
Speaker 3 (11:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:49):
You girls, are you gonna donate some of these?
Speaker 4 (11:53):
Come on, I've been going through.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Them, Yes, and I have I have a lot. But yes,
not only wore my shoes in there, it was everything else.
But my best friends came over. They're like, we're gonna
help you all right, great, because I'm like, I'm so
not an organizer.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Unpacked.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
So we unpacked like twenty eight bins together and I
unpacked the rest. After they left, I was up until
two in the morning, and then the next day I
had to go do an event. So then they came
on Monday and picked up the bins.
Speaker 4 (12:25):
They were like shocked. Maxwell's probably still unpacking his He's.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Gonna have to pay a fee for keeping the.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
I have a question because I remember this specifically. When
I moved last year, I had a full on panic
attack because the kitchen was so disorganized. I couldn't find
It was my spaghetti strainer that sent me over the edge.
What was the one item that you couldn't find right
off the bat that kind of gave you a little Oddjita, Oh,
that's a great question.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Probably a hairdryer for her. She probably pack that in
like her, yet she carried that. She's like safe keeping,
it's not gonna lose this one.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
No, so we we Actually, my friends and I organized
the entire kitchen when they were over. I just did
my bathroom the other day, so I had to do
those two. But it's funny because I was looking for
my bras right and I was like I need nowadays,
(13:21):
I know, but I like a little push up, you know.
So I'm like looking for my bras and I was like,
where the hell did I put on? I'm like, oh
my god, where are they?
Speaker 4 (13:31):
I forgot.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
I unpacked my bras at that night, like at one
o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
I totally forgot so here, I am like going crazy them.
Oh my god, oh my crazy.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
That's what happens when you unpacked when you're half asleep.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
Yeah, I was half asleep.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Was that kind of nice? Though, you've now officially gone
through it and you're more organized, You've gotten you probably
got rid of a lot of stuff, and I need Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
I just put a whole big box together of clothes
last night, so I have let's see, I have six
bags of clothes nice and three bags of shoes so
far that I'm going to donate good.
Speaker 4 (14:07):
And then I donated ten Oh yeah, me too.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Drive I did, I did three.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
I have I think four or five. I have a
bag sitting in my kitchen right now, will like my
my dining room area where I'm like, every time I
walk out in the morning, I forget to grab it.
Don't forget to grab it over soon.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
I'm gonna do it tomorrow. We have a coat drive
happening here and ship with Keeafood right which is amazing.
And you know what, I donated two of my winter coats,
but I also had this one coat from yeah, doctor Nebraska,
sorry mister Nebraska.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Just to be cabby.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
Let's yeah, let's let's downgrade. I honestly only kept it
because I liked the way it looked. I loved that
androgynoust look. But I thought it was time.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
I said to her, I'm like, you gotta get that
negative energy.
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Yes, I don't need any of his ship.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
That's why I moved. I got a new car. I
was like, all negative energy out.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Anything from the past has got to go going into
twenty twenty seve It's got to be fresh, like you.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
Yeah, yeah, only good vibes, good vibes only.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Oh yeah, no negativity. Yeah, keep that ship in twenty
twenty five.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
I know, twenty twenty five was such a weird year,
by the way, And I don't know if you saw a.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Good year for me, well kind of sort of it.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Look it's weird.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
I'm happy.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
Yeah, you had enough and down, up and down.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
But I feel true because you've got you got the
morning show here with Hollywood Hamilton and the KT Morning
twenty twenty four.
Speaker 4 (15:24):
But you had the whole year.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
To really expand upon the show and really build build
it up and build up the brand. But I think
for most people, and I saw this in the prep yesterday,
it still might be there. I don't know, but I
saw that most people would not give this an A
plus rating.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Really yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (15:41):
Mean I read that too.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Listen every year, I would never give an A plus rating.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
How about a B plus?
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I would probably give it a B plus because you know,
I've had a couple of like not going to say
bad things, but just non incredible things, you know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Yeah, because every year has its ups and downs. It's
like how you look at things.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Wow, I know I was just looking at that. I
know she's talking about jingle.
Speaker 4 (16:07):
Ball for Chris, Yeah, Darren, Chris is going to be there.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
Look at this channel looking love.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
So for everybody just listening. Yeah, I keeped Fox five
on because I watch all my Fox five pe Mike
loves Yeah, like Rosanna, everybody that we watch. But no,
it's funny because Emily Curl, who's part of our iHeart family,
is on there right now. And it's funny because I'm
the only one facing the TV as we're doing this podcast,
and they see my face like look at it.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
They turn.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
I'm like, sorry, guys, I didn't mean to distress.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
Three eighthd girls step into her room. Actually two and
a half maybe, who's the helf.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
You.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Oh my god, oh my goodness. Wait, what's been going
on with you, Wendy.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
I mean, besides the hell thing, you know, I've been
doing a lot of stuff around the house. It's like
a never ending thing. I've been taking care of a
lot of cats outside.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
You're such a cat, lad, You're a cat.
Speaker 4 (16:59):
You know.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
I'm proud.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
I'm owning that. I'm owning that. I actually had one
of my stray cats had a wound on his side.
It looked like he got into a little now.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
Did I tell you this?
Speaker 3 (17:10):
He got ange a fight. He got a big bite mark,
giant bite mark, and it was a jump scare this
little boy. So remember, I can't handle and pick up
a lot of these cats. They're wild animals. But you know,
I called all my resources. There's John Dibacker, who is
one of the biggest rescuers out on Long Island. He
was obviously wair for Thanksgiving. I reached out a bunch
(17:32):
of people, all my vet friends, and eventually I got
my hands on this antibiotic meant for cats, and I
was like, well, I'm gonna get my.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Face mauled off. Watch this.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
I can't even touch this cat. I'm going to apply
medication to a deep wound. Okay, and you know what
I did it? He allowed, It gets better. He's now
a lot better. He's doing much better. It healed, and then.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
I'll get to apply it more than once.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
I only did it the one time, but my vet friend,
my vet friend thought it was on its way to
healing anyway. But wait, the other day, I wake up
and now there's a dead bird.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
They bring her thank you gifts, I think.
Speaker 3 (18:10):
And then just this morning, he shows up at the
back door and heat. Do you know when cats do
a slow blink at you, that's how they say they
love you.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Oh, I didn't know.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
It's like it's their version of a kiss. So we
like to kiss our animals, but cats they do this,
they like kind of slowly.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Blink a little squinty blink a.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Squint in the open and close. And he shows up
on my back door just to do that. So I
was like, you're you're welcome, but I'm good with you.
Don't have to send birds, but like, I'm good, I
don't need birds or snakes. They like to do snakes
in the summer. I know it disgusting. So how many
cats do we have now in the backyard. Well, I'm
a two regular girls that I look out for. I
have a little like I built a little house for them. Oh,
(18:47):
I had someone help me with that.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
She's so much straws got cat house.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
This is important. Straw is for strays. Hay is for
horses because straw is actually insulating, so it helps keep
them warm. Something to remember if you're gonna be building
community houses for cats. And I have my two girls,
and then the two kittens showed up over the summer,
so I look out for them too. And now there's
like an a random straggler that shows up, but mostly
just four.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
They're calling, They're calling the whole team in the neighborhood.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
I know.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
They're like, we know, we know a woman, come join them.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Yeah, And it's funny because you know the stray woman.
They really look very healthy for stray cats.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
So do you think that they might be indoor outdoor
cats or are they straight?
Speaker 3 (19:27):
You know, Eric from down the hall told me he's like,
how many cats you got in your house? He's trying
to make sure I stay a non crazy cat lady. Oh,
do you only have your one day and my one baby?
He is kind of an only child situation. There is
one that is so friendly that I would consider it
down the road. But we'll see how that goes. Like, okay,
next door, I can see in twenty twenty six, she's
(19:49):
gonna be like.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
I have three cats in my house now.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
I think it's my obligation to watch out for people
and mostly animals. I have this like attraction to them,
to protec animals that need my help. I love that cats, dogs,
any any animal.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
That's also a big green flag for me. When somebody
loves animals, yea, and to go back to him he's
a big animal lover. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
I also want to say this because I was talking
to you about a couple of things before you went
on your date, or maybe it was after. So how
someone treats strangers, you watch out for that. You also
see if they are interested in you. Are they asking
you questions and they are listening to you too? Are
they listening to you? After the whole doctor Nebraska fiasco
a couple months later, I had gone on one date
(20:38):
and this guy he only wanted to talk about his
special interests. He had no interest in asking me any questions.
But I don't know why I was like, let me
give him another chance. And then what happened. He texts me,
and I think he was a thoughtful gesture. It was
like the Jewish holiday of Yom kipor. Now I'm not
particularly religious, but he writes to me happy Yom kippor
(21:00):
oh Gosh, which if you're not Jewish, if I.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Not know, Henry, I think I did that two to
you once and then you did but politely I said
it to you. I said it yes, or you know
you asked first, you said what how do I wish you?
Speaker 3 (21:13):
Uh, how do you recognize it? And Henry p d
I know is listening right now, and he will. He's
probably cringing so hard on this. So I wasn't gonna
let it go. And I said, you know what, what
if he says this is somebody else, like his boss
or something, I mean, that's embarrassing because it's like it's
a very solemn holiday for most people who observe this.
I wouldn't say celebrate, I would say observe. So I said, hey,
(21:34):
I'm like, that's such a kind, thoughtful gesture. I just
wanted to quick correction. It's kind of a solemn holiday.
So traditionally you say, I hope you have a meaningful
holiday is probably more appropriate.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
And he doubles down and he goes, well, I have a.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
Friend who's Jewish who jokes around about it and says,
that's okay. And that was it. I said, by Felicia,
by Felicia and block because somebody who's gonna fight back guy, Yeah,
and especially.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
On something that you're not really knowledgeable on.
Speaker 4 (22:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
And I was like, okay, if it's something, and this
was like a small thing. I guess he just wanted
to be right, and that was such a red flag
that I was like at that point, I said, you
know what, do I really need to be dating? Do I? Am?
Speaker 1 (22:18):
I desperate to find somebody. See, it's these little things
that turn you off. And like people don't understand. This
is why I've taken off so much time from dating,
because the little things that turn me off just turn
me off. And I'm not trying to say that it
won't give me the opportunity to give somebody else a chance,
but it's like it takes you down to like re start.
Speaker 3 (22:36):
It was the meme you sent me. We are providing
all of the things that we need for ourselves right,
So if you don't have anything to bring to the table,
I don't need you.
Speaker 5 (22:46):
I don't need you to fight me over my holidays.
Tell me that no, it's okay to say happy yom
can poor because it's not. And that was the point
for me that said, I'm going to take a step back.
I'm going to turn off any kind of apps because
I don't need it in my life. And actually, after
a couple of weeks, I felt so much better. I
felt a weight come off my shoulders because we we
(23:07):
don't need it.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
If you want it, that's you know, that's something else.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
This is why to me, I feel like everyone's a
learning experience because you do start to see the things
that you like and don't like in a person. So
then for the next person, I almost feel bad in
a way too, because then the next person gets the
brunt of what you dealt with in the past, because
now you know the things you don't want to deal with.
So now it's like I feel like I'm interrogating a
new person to make sure they don't have these qualities.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
That's interrogating. But you can just turn it off as
soon as you see something you don't like. Everybody loved
doctor Nebraska. He was a nice guy to the outside world, Yes,
but then you know, I would see some cracks. But
I would constantly make excuses because he was.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
We all do good enough, right, because that's a settle
and we've all been there.
Speaker 3 (23:48):
But I'd watch him be very immature with how to
handle conflict, like not so much with me, but he'd
come home from work and be completely bent out of
shape over something, and I had to emotionally regulate him,
like that's not my responsibility.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I know you were telling me a story that you
wanted to share about paper towels.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Oh my god, I've been wanting to talk.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
We talked about it before we go.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
Yes, and I'm sorry if I'm monopolizing the whole podcast.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Oh you're not at all.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Okay, this is really for everyone, But I will say this,
This is such a telling sign that things are not
right in your situation. And this goes back to the
financials of it all. Technically speaking, he could have handled
a lot more of the financial burden. But like I,
as a man, should because I really think it matters.
Like I know, but I'm still very old school, and
I really do feel that you should have not let
(24:35):
a man feel that he can take advantage like move
in with you and then only handle a very small
person exactly of the cost of everything else, which you know,
I had felt bad. I was like, he has student loans,
he's got this, can't make it. It was my apartment first,
I was handling it on my own before he came alone.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Like, again, he has to come in and bring what
you've already been able to provide for yourself.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
This should have been fifty to fifty a man supposed
to be the provider. I'm just saying that not only
was there just a percentage happening, I also handled all
of the supplies for the household.
Speaker 4 (25:07):
Are you a bounty or a I'm a bounty girl.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
I do bounty too. I like select size.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
I've tried Brownie. They're okay.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
I certainly even done like the no name like no no,
no algorythe which is so crappy, but like that's if
I'm on. Like that was when I was like struggling
a little bit, but like, yeah, I do the bounty.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
Yeah. And I had noticed his paper towel habits were
really crazy. Now listen, I know that he had four cats,
but again I'm paying for paper towels. And I asked
Alexa recently, I was like, how much am I paying
on average for paper towels versus how much I was
paying back in twenty twenty two, And it was like,
Alexa does your spreadsheets? I mean, I get most of
myself on Amazon, so I pay half. I am paying half.
(25:49):
Now I would see him do things like just purposely
be wasteful with so, like doing what he had to
have this very fancy coffee subscription which I paid for.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
No, what did he want?
Speaker 3 (26:00):
He should have paid for it, I know. And it
was like one hundred dollars a month for this car.
Speaker 5 (26:03):
One hundred dollars a month, and yells, miss coffee.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
Oh my god, this is a judgment free zone. Like
it's harder to see the stuff when you're in it,
I know. So he would ground his coffee and then
he would fill these little like reusable k cups. But
when he would empty them, now he would drink so
much coffee. He would have four of these and he
would bring he would have twoly.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Taking advantage of that subscription.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
If you're gonna empty these reusable cups, wouldn't you just
take it over to the garbage and just take a
spoon and go whack whack. Yeah, oh my soul.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Take a paper towel.
Speaker 3 (26:35):
He would take four hundred paper towels, line them on
the counter and then he would whack them into the
paper towels and yeah, like the word whack. And then
he would take and then he would take like a
big but he would just ball up the paper towels.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
It looks like the size of like like not even
a basketball.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
And then he would walk the one or two steps
to the garbage candy away.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
To drop the big ball paper towel when he could
have just.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Walked them over one at a time to whack them
straight into the garbage.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Because I think, when and this is.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
The lesson here, when someone else is covering the costs
of these things, you.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
Don't think about it or you don't care.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
You don't care.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Yeah, whenever you're the one paying for something, it feels
like people do take advantage because they're like, I'm not
paying for this, I could just do whatever I want. No,
absolutely not right.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
Well, guess what I'm getting you for hanukkah paper towel.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Paper down.
Speaker 3 (27:24):
Would be honestly, that's a Greek gift.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
She would be so happy with that. Let's get hurt.
You know what, we should get her the but the
industrial size.
Speaker 3 (27:32):
I like the triple size of the select, the SELECTI side,
little squares that come off, Yeah, I like those those.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Yes, yes, yes, you know it's so funny. I do
love paper towels. And every time I use a paper
towel now, I always think of you, because when you
told me that story, I'm like, I was like, am
I just using it too much?
Speaker 3 (27:47):
Now?
Speaker 5 (27:48):
Especially when I get to the last piece, I'm like,
oh my god, I finished the role?
Speaker 1 (27:52):
How long did that role?
Speaker 3 (27:53):
Last day?
Speaker 2 (27:54):
Have?
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Approved? Like, it's not how much you use, because you're
being You're probably being being mindful full of what you're doing, and.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
If you need to wipe your hands, you can use
a hand towel. It's just it's just funny how other
people treat.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
Sometimes I just use my legs, depends on what pants,
you know, I.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
Just wipe them on the side.
Speaker 4 (28:11):
Oh my god, But there was.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
No need to do two hundred paper towels to whack
four things when you could have just done it. Strange,
So things like that.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
You know what now I feel like doing buying a
whole thing of paper towels just to wrap him up
like a damn mummy and toss him somewhere. We gave
a little extra today. I'm like, I used up all
the Wasn't that you at all? We had a lot
to talk about?
Speaker 2 (28:32):
D D.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
Do you have anything else to add before we go?
Speaker 4 (28:34):
Nah?
Speaker 1 (28:35):
Anything on your mind? You have a busy weekend ahead.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
Yes, I have jingle Ball and Powa sessions and then uh,
I fly out to DC next Tuesday for jingle.
Speaker 4 (28:44):
Ball there, come home Wednesday.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
I come back here on Thursday, and then Friday, me
and my girlfriends that I grew up with, we're staying
in the city and we're going to go to all
the holiday.
Speaker 4 (28:57):
Happenings in Manhattan.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
No horse in your own city.
Speaker 4 (29:01):
Yeah, I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And for me this weekend it's my sister's engagement party.
Picture to Arissa and Anthony. I'm so excited for them, gratulation.
I'm happy, and I'm just like, Wow, my baby sister's
getting married.
Speaker 4 (29:13):
What so crazy?
Speaker 1 (29:15):
Wild? Like I don't even know what to say or think.
Maybe it'll be a meet cute at the wedding. She's
so much younger than me. That talk about you know,
thank you. I don't want to do any of her friends.
They're too young. But then again, nowadays, what anything goes?
Speaker 4 (29:29):
Right?
Speaker 2 (29:29):
I know?
Speaker 3 (29:30):
Yeah? Really I look at Kim control right, Oh my god. Yeah,
why don't we keep talking about sex and the city.
Speaker 1 (29:36):
I don't know. But on that note, all right, we
are gonna go, guys, We're gonna go. I'll catch you
again as soon as we can, possibly next.
Speaker 4 (29:43):
Week, hopefully next week.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
Yeah, I'll be there with my bounty. So on social media,
I'm Astra on the air, I'm Wendy Wild Radio.
Speaker 4 (29:50):
And I'm Daniellegether.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
We are tails over Cottess. And with that said, ladies,
great now for real, yes, for real, cheer us
Oh, get me cocktails. I'm Wendy, I'm Astra, and.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I'm Danielle and we are tails over cocktails. Yea. The
stories are real, the laughs are loud, and there's always
something to sip on.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Hey, how you doing.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
It's a weekly mix of absolute chaos, cocktails and way
too honest conversations. Hold up a chair and pour something.
It's about to get fun.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Whoa sounds like my grandmother with me right now?
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Me too?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Holding it in man.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
And we went from like the Balls podcast to the
we have to pee every five minutes?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Who's got a diaper?
Speaker 4 (00:51):
I got taper? Is on?
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Oh my goodness, Well we're back. It's another week.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
I think we skipped last week, but that's it's been
al was.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
A holiday, you know? We did do last week?
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Didn't know Thanksgiving was there?
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Thanksgiving less holiday?
Speaker 1 (01:05):
It was a holiday.
Speaker 4 (01:06):
I can't remember the days.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I can't either. I feel like everything when the holidays
come in, I can't remember anything because all I know
is it goes from Thanksgiving to Christmas, Hanuka to New Year's.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
To Yeah, it's like if my time just passes. You
buy so much faster than it used to.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Yes, the older we get the quicker it goes. And
I never believed my parents and they used to say that.
I was like it would always take forever for the
summer to read.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
I thought it was an eternity right, And.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Now it's like the summer already my winter coat. I
pulled out the winter coat the other day, but I've
been in.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Winter welltails in her winter coat now a reason.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I have the Canada Goose and I'm not gonna lie.
It does not keep me warm.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
What oh my god mine.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
I have two of them and I keep me so warm.
I wore it in my classroom last night. I was
freezing in my classroom and I was kept me warm.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
I might have the wrong version that I looked it
up and it says that it's like one of.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
The Canada Loose, not Canada.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
I can't. I can personally cannot do Canada Goose because
of the animal advocacy that I do. But I have
the viral orola from Amazon that everybody was talking about,
and it actually does keep me warm.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Really. Yes, I was told to go on Amazon and
get those jackets that heat up.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Really has one?
Speaker 3 (02:20):
It sounds like a fire hazard.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
No, no, no, you plug it in, you like charge it
charge your charge your jacket and then you wear it
and it's warm, and I feel like that's what I
need because I can't function in this weather.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
My sister word at the Thanksgiving Day parade and she
was I was freezing and she was.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
Fine, yeah, it was n You just charge it like
you charge your phone.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
But how long does it last? That's the question?
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Like all day? Five six hours with it?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
That's the name of this.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Yeah, we're gonna not sponsored, by the way, no, although.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
You know it is so funny. I had seen how
Kim Kardashian had posted that she's got a new Skims
like collab with north Face, I think it is, and
they have these like puffer jackets, ones that go all
the way down to your ankle and you look like
this big like marshmallow man. I'm like, that's what I
think I need.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
I think we are past the puffer stage and we're
onto the Parka stage. But he's in our winter here
in the Northeast, because we don't know where our listeners
are tuned in right right.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
It's horrible though. People are like, aren't you from New York.
I'm like born and raised and I'm still not used
to the cold. I'll never get used to this cold.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
You know.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
It's really odd people have been asking me if the
cold weather affects my condition?
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Does it? No? Really no, I.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Mean I think it's more like wet weather about to
come in that affects it more. But I was standing
outside waiting for the train the other day and I
was like, you know, I feel like rejuvenated in a way.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
I don't like being cold in the studio when I'm inside,
but if I'm expecting it to be cold outside, I
don't mind it so much as long as I'm wearing
the proper gear.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
What's the condition again, in case people are just tuning in? Sure,
So we've talked about.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
This before, and probably more so on my podcast Life
Bites with Wendy Wild, which lately we've been simulcasting this.
Sorry about that, But it's called fibromyalgia, which is the
pain disease, and nobody really knows where it comes from.
It's one of those diseases that is diagnosed after they
rule out everything else, all of the autoimmune diseases, and
(04:07):
it's your pain receptor is just going crazy. They go
off the hook.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Is there anything you can take or do to help it.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Not really, there are some lifestyle changes. The funny thing
is is most doctors will prescribe walking and exercise, meaning
while you it's in my legs and I have a
lot of trouble with stairs, but I try. You know,
I still work out and I have good days, and
but I will say that, uh, there are some some
(04:35):
drugs that may help. We're going to discuss that. Actually
have a doctors appointment tomorrow, so we're gonna see how
that goes.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Oh, keep posting. But yeah, but the cold weather, like.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
I think I'm the only one that's kind of thriving
in it right now.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Oh, it does just keep me awake.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
All it does is make my bones freeze so much
that I wish that I could just, i don't know,
walk around with like a heated blanket. That's what I
always say. I'm like, I need either a heated blanket
or like a heavy man to put over me that
I could just like, well, you hold on in a second.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
That is such a good transition, because I got some
I got some breaking news.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Well I won't call it. I don't want to jinxxid.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Well, we can just like keep the expect expectations low
and see all right, all right, I finally have dipped
my toe back into the dating pool.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Finally. I've been single for seven years and I know
and I'm like, you know, what is I've been trying
to date, but like COVID had come along, couldn't really
date during that time. And then when I did date
somebody at that point, I went out with this guy
and come to find out he was married, and I
was like, okay, why didn't you tell me on the
first date. He waits for the second date to tell me, right,
So then I was like, well, I'm not gonna hang
(05:41):
out these guys anymore. Then I went out with like
another one or two guys, but it's always a one
and done because I'm never fully interested.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
Do you get the ick? Do you go on a
date and somebody does something small that just gives me
like they have like a like a boogie in their nose,
or you don't like the way they pick up their fork,
or if there's.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Crook it like I'm all about like aesthetically pleasing and
if you're you know, if your teeth are crooked, and
I mean listen, I don't want somebody to be like
oh my god, my teeth are cooked. Well, you can
go fix them. It's not like it's not fixable. Things
that are fixable you can fix, you know. So it's
like those things are just not a turn on from
dirty fingernails apps. So I always look at the fingernails
if there's any like blackness under there, I'm like, no way, if.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
You're not putting the care into taking care of yourself,
especially before, I.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Don't want to know from the waist down, then if
your nails are grown. So I heard I met this guy.
Technically we kind of like we kind of connected like
last year on social media. But I was just like, oh,
I don't think this guy is real. I don't know why.
I thought maybe that it was like a bot page,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Any fair, He is very handsome and has a blue
check mark, so right off the bat, I would have
thought he was about to right because I was just like, well.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
It shows that he's like into acting and like sports
and all this stuff, like he's like in kickboxing, and
I'm just like, this guy seems like too good to be.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
True, perfect right, exactly perfect, He.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Doesn't he does it. His eyes are so beautiful, but anyway,
so we finally made time to meet up, and he
was such a gentleman. He was so nice, he was
so sweet, and I was just like wow, Like I
was kind of shy and scared because and you know me,
I'm usually not but I'm like, my gosh, this guy's
really cool. And then you wanted to hang out again,
(07:20):
and I was like, oh, okay. So then we hung
out again, and I.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Was a fact is I mean, you were telling me
about how it went and all the green flags for instance,
like really showing interest in wanting to see you again,
but not just saying it vaguely, saying what are you
doing on this particular day? That shows interest and having
a plan in mind, having a plan in mind. Also,
he you know, most guys, they will say, are usually
pretty turned off by women and their presence on social media.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
And that's kind of your job, right, But it's also
kind of his shop, which is great, where he was like,
let me find the right writing for me to take
a picture of you. How about this? I asked him
to help me with a TikTok for my friend's brand
because she's promoting you know, her skincare line. Big shout
to tea Bozzie my grandma. Oh, And I had said
to him, I go, would you mind? And I hated
asking him because, like the second time we're hanging out,
(08:09):
would you mind helping me make a TikTok video? It's
like a tanking that that's going to be such a
turn off. He's like, you had no problem turn this way,
the lighting's better.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
I'm like this dream a guy that's in the industry,
which is maybe what you need not to like again,
not to put too much pressure on it, but this
is like the type of guy that like understands.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
The biz right. So, like I said, I don't want
to jinx it because you never know what may or
may not happen. I have to see, like how it goes.
Everything's always great in the beginning.
Speaker 4 (08:36):
Always you need.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
A nickname for do we need a nickname? Or you
want to go on one more date?
Speaker 1 (08:42):
I think you need maybe yeah, because right now I
feel like, right now my nickname for him is mister
movie phone.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
No no, if you know the name of the movie.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
I like to call him like blue eyes. His eyes
are gorgeous, they're these blue Frankie. But no, because he's also.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
French, exactly frenchie.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Now about friend Francois.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
All right, we'll wait on the nickname. I'm still like,
I'm still waiting. I hate to say this, but like
I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop, I'm waiting
for some sort of ick to happen, like this is
a sex in the City episode.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
Guys, that's so funny. Oh my god, Francois, But onto you, Danyell,
you and your move.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
Oh my gosh, I have to tell you. I am
so happy in my new apartment.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
I have never slept so well in my entire life.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
See that, and you were so Oh my god. I'm
gonna miss my pleas on the beach. I'm gonna miss
my balcony.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
What's it like without the beach though?
Speaker 4 (09:53):
Do you know? It is a weird, weird. I don't
go outside as much like every morning I would go
out on my balcony.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Are you looking out the window though? I am.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
You know in the in the warmer months, you're gonna
have a rooftop.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Yes, So that's when I'll start my ddy on the rooftop.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Do they have barbecues up there?
Speaker 4 (10:08):
They have barbecues, they have fire pits everything.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Oh, we're coming over.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
And in the courtyard they have the same thing, and
then they have like a life sized chess board, so
that the they're.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Like shuffle board.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
No, like chess.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Oh, so it's they're actually your size, Wendy.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Oh, I've seen those before, life size. They have those
whenever you travel, like I remember when I was like
in Jamaica.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
We say you are you like the pawn or the.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Pieces are the size of you. So you physically picked
them up like a human and you walk them.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
It sounds like too much work.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
I'll show you a picture, but yeah, I actually moved
with piece of cake, which you told me all about.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
I had the best experience with them.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
I had so much fun with them. So first there
was four guys that came and then they called the
fifth guy.
Speaker 4 (10:53):
They're like this broad's got so many pairs of shoes.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Carry Bradshaw. Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
I had two guys, three guys. I think that four
is a lot five five, five guys.
Speaker 4 (11:06):
And good guys, I know.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
And then at the end I surprise them with a
cake and I cut them all a piece of cake
and they were.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Piece of cake.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
A piece of cake.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Yeah, they said, never has anyone done that, so I
feel kind of special and.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Now everybody's gonna follow in your footsteps, right, maybe I
still I have a question about the pink bins though.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Yes, they give you Like when I moved, I just
used round boxes. They give you these pink bins to borrow, but.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
They give you a week.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
I think to right, that gives you a timeframe you
have to unpack your stuff. Guess what I did, unpacked
all your stuff.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
I unpacked everything that night. What I unpacked all fifty bins?
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Fifty that night.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
How shoes do you have?
Speaker 3 (11:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:49):
You girls, are you gonna donate some of these?
Speaker 4 (11:53):
Come on, I've been going through.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Them, Yes, and I have I have a lot. But yes,
not only wore my shoes in there, it was everything else.
But my best friends came over. They're like, we're gonna
help you all right, great, because I'm like, I'm so
not an organizer.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Unpacked.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
So we unpacked like twenty eight bins together and I
unpacked the rest. After they left, I was up until
two in the morning, and then the next day I
had to go do an event. So then they came
on Monday and picked up the bins.
Speaker 4 (12:25):
They were like shocked. Maxwell's probably still unpacking his He's.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Gonna have to pay a fee for keeping the.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
I have a question because I remember this specifically. When
I moved last year, I had a full on panic
attack because the kitchen was so disorganized. I couldn't find
It was my spaghetti strainer that sent me over the edge.
What was the one item that you couldn't find right
off the bat that kind of gave you a little Oddjita, Oh,
that's a great question.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Probably a hairdryer for her. She probably pack that in
like her, yet she carried that. She's like safe keeping,
it's not gonna lose this one.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
No, so we we Actually, my friends and I organized
the entire kitchen when they were over. I just did
my bathroom the other day, so I had to do
those two. But it's funny because I was looking for
my bras right and I was like I need nowadays,
(13:21):
I know, but I like a little push up, you know.
So I'm like looking for my bras and I was like,
where the hell did I put on? I'm like, oh
my god, where are they?
Speaker 4 (13:31):
I forgot.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
I unpacked my bras at that night, like at one
o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
I totally forgot so here, I am like going crazy them.
Oh my god, oh my crazy.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
That's what happens when you unpacked when you're half asleep.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
Yeah, I was half asleep.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Was that kind of nice? Though, you've now officially gone
through it and you're more organized, You've gotten you probably
got rid of a lot of stuff, and I need Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
I just put a whole big box together of clothes
last night, so I have let's see, I have six
bags of clothes nice and three bags of shoes so
far that I'm going to donate good.
Speaker 4 (14:07):
And then I donated ten Oh yeah, me too.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Drive I did, I did three.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
I have I think four or five. I have a
bag sitting in my kitchen right now, will like my
my dining room area where I'm like, every time I
walk out in the morning, I forget to grab it.
Don't forget to grab it over soon.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
I'm gonna do it tomorrow. We have a coat drive
happening here and ship with Keeafood right which is amazing.
And you know what, I donated two of my winter coats,
but I also had this one coat from yeah, doctor Nebraska,
sorry mister Nebraska.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Just to be cabby.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
Let's yeah, let's let's downgrade. I honestly only kept it
because I liked the way it looked. I loved that
androgynoust look. But I thought it was time.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
I said to her, I'm like, you gotta get that
negative energy.
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Yes, I don't need any of his ship.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
That's why I moved. I got a new car. I
was like, all negative energy out.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Anything from the past has got to go going into
twenty twenty seve It's got to be fresh, like you.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
Yeah, yeah, only good vibes, good vibes only.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Oh yeah, no negativity. Yeah, keep that ship in twenty
twenty five.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
I know, twenty twenty five was such a weird year,
by the way, And I don't know if you saw a.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Good year for me, well kind of sort of it.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Look it's weird.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
I'm happy.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
Yeah, you had enough and down, up and down.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
But I feel true because you've got you got the
morning show here with Hollywood Hamilton and the KT Morning
twenty twenty four.
Speaker 4 (15:24):
But you had the whole year.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
To really expand upon the show and really build build
it up and build up the brand. But I think
for most people, and I saw this in the prep yesterday,
it still might be there. I don't know, but I
saw that most people would not give this an A
plus rating.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Really yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (15:41):
Mean I read that too.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Listen every year, I would never give an A plus rating.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
How about a B plus?
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I would probably give it a B plus because you know,
I've had a couple of like not going to say
bad things, but just non incredible things, you know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Yeah, because every year has its ups and downs. It's
like how you look at things.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Wow, I know I was just looking at that. I
know she's talking about jingle.
Speaker 4 (16:07):
Ball for Chris, Yeah, Darren, Chris is going to be there.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
Look at this channel looking love.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
So for everybody just listening. Yeah, I keeped Fox five
on because I watch all my Fox five pe Mike
loves Yeah, like Rosanna, everybody that we watch. But no,
it's funny because Emily Curl, who's part of our iHeart family,
is on there right now. And it's funny because I'm
the only one facing the TV as we're doing this podcast,
and they see my face like look at it.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
They turn.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
I'm like, sorry, guys, I didn't mean to distress.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
Three eighthd girls step into her room. Actually two and
a half maybe, who's the helf.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
You.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Oh my god, oh my goodness. Wait, what's been going
on with you, Wendy.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
I mean, besides the hell thing, you know, I've been
doing a lot of stuff around the house. It's like
a never ending thing. I've been taking care of a
lot of cats outside.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
You're such a cat, lad, You're a cat.
Speaker 4 (16:59):
You know.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
I'm proud.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
I'm owning that. I'm owning that. I actually had one
of my stray cats had a wound on his side.
It looked like he got into a little now.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
Did I tell you this?
Speaker 3 (17:10):
He got ange a fight. He got a big bite mark,
giant bite mark, and it was a jump scare this
little boy. So remember, I can't handle and pick up
a lot of these cats. They're wild animals. But you know,
I called all my resources. There's John Dibacker, who is
one of the biggest rescuers out on Long Island. He
was obviously wair for Thanksgiving. I reached out a bunch
(17:32):
of people, all my vet friends, and eventually I got
my hands on this antibiotic meant for cats, and I
was like, well, I'm gonna get my.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Face mauled off. Watch this.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
I can't even touch this cat. I'm going to apply
medication to a deep wound. Okay, and you know what
I did it? He allowed, It gets better. He's now
a lot better. He's doing much better. It healed, and then.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
I'll get to apply it more than once.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
I only did it the one time, but my vet friend,
my vet friend thought it was on its way to
healing anyway. But wait, the other day, I wake up
and now there's a dead bird.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
They bring her thank you gifts, I think.
Speaker 3 (18:10):
And then just this morning, he shows up at the
back door and heat. Do you know when cats do
a slow blink at you, that's how they say they
love you.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Oh, I didn't know.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
It's like it's their version of a kiss. So we
like to kiss our animals, but cats they do this,
they like kind of slowly.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Blink a little squinty blink a.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Squint in the open and close. And he shows up
on my back door just to do that. So I
was like, you're you're welcome, but I'm good with you.
Don't have to send birds, but like, I'm good, I
don't need birds or snakes. They like to do snakes
in the summer. I know it disgusting. So how many
cats do we have now in the backyard. Well, I'm
a two regular girls that I look out for. I
have a little like I built a little house for them. Oh,
(18:47):
I had someone help me with that.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
She's so much straws got cat house.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
This is important. Straw is for strays. Hay is for
horses because straw is actually insulating, so it helps keep
them warm. Something to remember if you're gonna be building
community houses for cats. And I have my two girls,
and then the two kittens showed up over the summer,
so I look out for them too. And now there's
like an a random straggler that shows up, but mostly
just four.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
They're calling, They're calling the whole team in the neighborhood.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
I know.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
They're like, we know, we know a woman, come join them.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Yeah, And it's funny because you know the stray woman.
They really look very healthy for stray cats.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
So do you think that they might be indoor outdoor
cats or are they straight?
Speaker 3 (19:27):
You know, Eric from down the hall told me he's like,
how many cats you got in your house? He's trying
to make sure I stay a non crazy cat lady. Oh,
do you only have your one day and my one baby?
He is kind of an only child situation. There is
one that is so friendly that I would consider it
down the road. But we'll see how that goes. Like, okay,
next door, I can see in twenty twenty six, she's
(19:49):
gonna be like.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
I have three cats in my house now.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
I think it's my obligation to watch out for people
and mostly animals. I have this like attraction to them,
to protec animals that need my help. I love that cats, dogs,
any any animal.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
That's also a big green flag for me. When somebody
loves animals, yea, and to go back to him he's
a big animal lover. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
I also want to say this because I was talking
to you about a couple of things before you went
on your date, or maybe it was after. So how
someone treats strangers, you watch out for that. You also
see if they are interested in you. Are they asking
you questions and they are listening to you too? Are
they listening to you? After the whole doctor Nebraska fiasco
a couple months later, I had gone on one date
(20:38):
and this guy he only wanted to talk about his
special interests. He had no interest in asking me any questions.
But I don't know why I was like, let me
give him another chance. And then what happened. He texts me,
and I think he was a thoughtful gesture. It was
like the Jewish holiday of Yom kipor. Now I'm not
particularly religious, but he writes to me happy Yom kippor
(21:00):
oh Gosh, which if you're not Jewish, if I.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Not know, Henry, I think I did that two to
you once and then you did but politely I said
it to you. I said it yes, or you know
you asked first, you said what how do I wish you?
Speaker 3 (21:13):
Uh, how do you recognize it? And Henry p d
I know is listening right now, and he will. He's
probably cringing so hard on this. So I wasn't gonna
let it go. And I said, you know what, what
if he says this is somebody else, like his boss
or something, I mean, that's embarrassing because it's like it's
a very solemn holiday for most people who observe this.
I wouldn't say celebrate, I would say observe. So I said, hey,
(21:34):
I'm like, that's such a kind, thoughtful gesture. I just
wanted to quick correction. It's kind of a solemn holiday.
So traditionally you say, I hope you have a meaningful
holiday is probably more appropriate.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
And he doubles down and he goes, well, I have a.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
Friend who's Jewish who jokes around about it and says,
that's okay. And that was it. I said, by Felicia,
by Felicia and block because somebody who's gonna fight back guy, Yeah,
and especially.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
On something that you're not really knowledgeable on.
Speaker 4 (22:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
And I was like, okay, if it's something, and this
was like a small thing. I guess he just wanted
to be right, and that was such a red flag
that I was like at that point, I said, you
know what, do I really need to be dating? Do I? Am?
Speaker 1 (22:18):
I desperate to find somebody. See, it's these little things
that turn you off. And like people don't understand. This
is why I've taken off so much time from dating,
because the little things that turn me off just turn
me off. And I'm not trying to say that it
won't give me the opportunity to give somebody else a chance,
but it's like it takes you down to like re start.
Speaker 3 (22:36):
It was the meme you sent me. We are providing
all of the things that we need for ourselves right,
So if you don't have anything to bring to the table,
I don't need you.
Speaker 5 (22:46):
I don't need you to fight me over my holidays.
Tell me that no, it's okay to say happy yom
can poor because it's not. And that was the point
for me that said, I'm going to take a step back.
I'm going to turn off any kind of apps because
I don't need it in my life. And actually, after
a couple of weeks, I felt so much better. I
felt a weight come off my shoulders because we we
(23:07):
don't need it.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
If you want it, that's you know, that's something else.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
This is why to me, I feel like everyone's a
learning experience because you do start to see the things
that you like and don't like in a person. So
then for the next person, I almost feel bad in
a way too, because then the next person gets the
brunt of what you dealt with in the past, because
now you know the things you don't want to deal with.
So now it's like I feel like I'm interrogating a
new person to make sure they don't have these qualities.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
That's interrogating. But you can just turn it off as
soon as you see something you don't like. Everybody loved
doctor Nebraska. He was a nice guy to the outside world, Yes,
but then you know, I would see some cracks. But
I would constantly make excuses because he was.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
We all do good enough, right, because that's a settle
and we've all been there.
Speaker 3 (23:48):
But I'd watch him be very immature with how to
handle conflict, like not so much with me, but he'd
come home from work and be completely bent out of
shape over something, and I had to emotionally regulate him,
like that's not my responsibility.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I know you were telling me a story that you
wanted to share about paper towels.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Oh my god, I've been wanting to talk.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
We talked about it before we go.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
Yes, and I'm sorry if I'm monopolizing the whole podcast.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Oh you're not at all.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Okay, this is really for everyone, But I will say this,
This is such a telling sign that things are not
right in your situation. And this goes back to the
financials of it all. Technically speaking, he could have handled
a lot more of the financial burden. But like I,
as a man, should because I really think it matters.
Like I know, but I'm still very old school, and
I really do feel that you should have not let
(24:35):
a man feel that he can take advantage like move
in with you and then only handle a very small
person exactly of the cost of everything else, which you know,
I had felt bad. I was like, he has student loans,
he's got this, can't make it. It was my apartment first,
I was handling it on my own before he came alone.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Like, again, he has to come in and bring what
you've already been able to provide for yourself.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
This should have been fifty to fifty a man supposed
to be the provider. I'm just saying that not only
was there just a percentage happening, I also handled all
of the supplies for the household.
Speaker 4 (25:07):
Are you a bounty or a I'm a bounty girl.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
I do bounty too. I like select size.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
I've tried Brownie. They're okay.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
I certainly even done like the no name like no no,
no algorythe which is so crappy, but like that's if
I'm on. Like that was when I was like struggling
a little bit, but like, yeah, I do the bounty.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
Yeah. And I had noticed his paper towel habits were
really crazy. Now listen, I know that he had four cats,
but again I'm paying for paper towels. And I asked
Alexa recently, I was like, how much am I paying
on average for paper towels versus how much I was
paying back in twenty twenty two, And it was like,
Alexa does your spreadsheets? I mean, I get most of
myself on Amazon, so I pay half. I am paying half.
(25:49):
Now I would see him do things like just purposely
be wasteful with so, like doing what he had to
have this very fancy coffee subscription which I paid for.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
No, what did he want?
Speaker 3 (26:00):
He should have paid for it, I know. And it
was like one hundred dollars a month for this car.
Speaker 5 (26:03):
One hundred dollars a month, and yells, miss coffee.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
Oh my god, this is a judgment free zone. Like
it's harder to see the stuff when you're in it,
I know. So he would ground his coffee and then
he would fill these little like reusable k cups. But
when he would empty them, now he would drink so
much coffee. He would have four of these and he
would bring he would have twoly.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Taking advantage of that subscription.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
If you're gonna empty these reusable cups, wouldn't you just
take it over to the garbage and just take a
spoon and go whack whack. Yeah, oh my soul.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Take a paper towel.
Speaker 3 (26:35):
He would take four hundred paper towels, line them on
the counter and then he would whack them into the
paper towels and yeah, like the word whack. And then
he would take and then he would take like a
big but he would just ball up the paper towels.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
It looks like the size of like like not even
a basketball.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
And then he would walk the one or two steps
to the garbage candy away.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
To drop the big ball paper towel when he could
have just.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Walked them over one at a time to whack them
straight into the garbage.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Because I think, when and this is.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
The lesson here, when someone else is covering the costs
of these things, you.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
Don't think about it or you don't care.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
You don't care.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Yeah, whenever you're the one paying for something, it feels
like people do take advantage because they're like, I'm not
paying for this, I could just do whatever I want. No,
absolutely not right.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
Well, guess what I'm getting you for hanukkah paper towel.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Paper down.
Speaker 3 (27:24):
Would be honestly, that's a Greek gift.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
She would be so happy with that. Let's get hurt.
You know what, we should get her the but the
industrial size.
Speaker 3 (27:32):
I like the triple size of the select, the SELECTI side,
little squares that come off, Yeah, I like those those.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Yes, yes, yes, you know it's so funny. I do
love paper towels. And every time I use a paper
towel now, I always think of you, because when you
told me that story, I'm like, I was like, am
I just using it too much?
Speaker 3 (27:47):
Now?
Speaker 5 (27:48):
Especially when I get to the last piece, I'm like,
oh my god, I finished the role?
Speaker 1 (27:52):
How long did that role?
Speaker 3 (27:53):
Last day?
Speaker 2 (27:54):
Have?
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Approved? Like, it's not how much you use, because you're
being You're probably being being mindful full of what you're doing, and.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
If you need to wipe your hands, you can use
a hand towel. It's just it's just funny how other
people treat.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
Sometimes I just use my legs, depends on what pants,
you know, I.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
Just wipe them on the side.
Speaker 4 (28:11):
Oh my god, But there was.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
No need to do two hundred paper towels to whack
four things when you could have just done it. Strange,
So things like that.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
You know what now I feel like doing buying a
whole thing of paper towels just to wrap him up
like a damn mummy and toss him somewhere. We gave
a little extra today. I'm like, I used up all
the Wasn't that you at all? We had a lot
to talk about?
Speaker 2 (28:32):
D D.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
Do you have anything else to add before we go?
Speaker 4 (28:34):
Nah?
Speaker 1 (28:35):
Anything on your mind? You have a busy weekend ahead.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
Yes, I have jingle Ball and Powa sessions and then uh,
I fly out to DC next Tuesday for jingle.
Speaker 4 (28:44):
Ball there, come home Wednesday.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
I come back here on Thursday, and then Friday, me
and my girlfriends that I grew up with, we're staying
in the city and we're going to go to all
the holiday.
Speaker 4 (28:57):
Happenings in Manhattan.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
No horse in your own city.
Speaker 4 (29:01):
Yeah, I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And for me this weekend it's my sister's engagement party.
Picture to Arissa and Anthony. I'm so excited for them, gratulation.
I'm happy, and I'm just like, Wow, my baby sister's
getting married.
Speaker 4 (29:13):
What so crazy?
Speaker 1 (29:15):
Wild? Like I don't even know what to say or think.
Maybe it'll be a meet cute at the wedding. She's
so much younger than me. That talk about you know,
thank you. I don't want to do any of her friends.
They're too young. But then again, nowadays, what anything goes?
Speaker 4 (29:29):
Right?
Speaker 2 (29:29):
I know?
Speaker 3 (29:30):
Yeah? Really I look at Kim control right, Oh my god. Yeah,
why don't we keep talking about sex and the city.
Speaker 1 (29:36):
I don't know. But on that note, all right, we
are gonna go, guys, We're gonna go. I'll catch you
again as soon as we can, possibly next.
Speaker 4 (29:43):
Week, hopefully next week.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
Yeah, I'll be there with my bounty. So on social media,
I'm Astra on the air, I'm Wendy Wild Radio.
Speaker 4 (29:50):
And I'm Daniellegether.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
We are tails over Cottess. And with that said, ladies,
great now for real, yes, for real, cheer us
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