April 16, 2026 • 21 mins
Aly is “asking for a friend”… What do you do when your parents are still friends with your ex? Is it harmless, or crossing a line?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I want to welcome to the B ninety three Morning Show.
(00:01):
What's your name? Away from Hi?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
This is Tianna Besser from.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Grand Aven, Michigan.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Tiana. What is your birthday? It's Siannaway.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
I'll right, Tiana. You are in as a finalist and
we've got you in the running for the grand prize
tomorrow morning at seven fifty five with The B Natty
three Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Awesome, Thank you guys so much.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
You're welcome, Fie. Since today is your final full day
to get in as a finalist, we're drawing names like
every ten fifteen minutes this morning, so lock in because
we got another one coming up and just a couple
of minutes here, Okay, So B Natty three Morning Show.
I'm Ali Mack and I'm Mike. This is a friend
of mine, kind of like a friend of a friend,
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but still. The situation is this, she's been dating this
guy for a while, right, and she's at the point
now where she's met the family and they're they're close,
and she's even friends on social media with some of
his family members and that includes his mom, and she
has noticed that his mom is still pretty close with
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his ex girlfriend. Interesting and his mom has been commenting
and liking and interacting with the ex.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
On socials, like in the comments, in the.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Comments, liking posts.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Okay, you know, all right, but she's.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
Also noticed that Mom is not interacting with her current
girlfriend in the same way on socials.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Are they friends on socials? Yeah? It's such a.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
Interesting thing because we never had to worry about those
type of things like in high school, college, right, dating,
that was not like that. Then you get out of there,
and now all of a sudden, we got out. Social
media is everywhere and and it becomes a thing because
it's public, right, everybody can see it.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Oh yeah, and everybody does.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
And now fast forward even now into our lives, like
you and I. Social is different than like an everyday
person's social because that's our our focus every day.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
So like yeah, so of course, like she's spiraling a
little bit about this, and she's like, okay, does the
mom not like me? Like, is she trying to keep
a line of communication open because she feels like this
ex is sort of like the one that got away
for him, and I'm just like, you know, keeping the
seat warm until this other girl like comes back around
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to be the ultimate like winner or whatever.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Did your parents ever befriend any of your exes?
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Yeah? Are they friends today? No?
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Okay, yeah, no they are they Are they friends with
them on social media or anything?
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Nope?
Speaker 1 (02:57):
I have my mom is.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
I don't know if she still is you know what,
I'll look it up right now. But I have an
ex from high school that she got really close. It
was like the first girlfriend she actually got close with.
And they were friends on Facebook I think for the
longest time. And even while I like dating my now wife, yeah,
married and had kids. She would at like family parties
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or whatever, just bring up details about what's going on
in that person's life.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
I felt like her updates.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
Yeah, and I'm like, mom, I have at the time
two kids and I am married a wife.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yeah. I do not care what that person's current job
position is.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Yeah, good for them. And that was one of my
questions too, like how far back is this an ex from?
Because I wouldn't be I wouldn't feel as weird about
it if it were like that type of situation, like, oh,
this was just like a girl that I like dated
in high school, but also like we went to school
together forever, so there may be some sort of family connection.
Or something like that, like that I don't feel like
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would bother me. But she said that this was his
like most recent ex before her, and I was like, oh, yeah,
that that changes.
Speaker 4 (04:05):
Things, absolutely does. My mom is not friends with her anymore.
Just an update, Okay, I just found.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
Out two points form this morning. But she's like, what
do I do?
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Oh, that's so tough, And.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I was like, you know what, I will ask because
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Would it upset you?
Speaker 3 (04:26):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I think it would.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
I don't know because I again, I'm trying to think
about it outside of what we do for a living,
because I you and I interacting on social media today
is different than than just like it was even in
college or high school.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Yeah, so I don't know it would bug me.
Speaker 4 (04:47):
I guess that the person wasn't interacting with me, But
I'm also not great about doing it myself, So like
does it matter that much?
Speaker 3 (04:58):
Like I think the fact that she's doing it, I
could I could see past it if she were also
interacting with the current girlfriend. Yeah, in the same way.
Like then it's just like, Oh, she's just a cute
mom who like loves to be like up on the
latest gossip on social media. Right, yeah, But because there's
like this disparity of the ex is getting a lot
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of social media attention from mom and the current girlfriend
is not. I do think raises a few red flags.
Speaker 4 (05:25):
But the other, okay, the other from the other perspective,
the other side of this, she probably interacts with a
new girlfriend a lot. If I see people every day,
I tend to not comment or pope because I see them,
I see them face to face.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
I say the things I need to say face to face.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Right, she doesn't see the ex every day, so that's
her only form of communication is that?
Speaker 1 (05:48):
But does there need to be communication? I don't know, right,
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
I know, and I don't have like every single piece
of information again because this is like a friend of
a friend, But I am just like, has anyone ever
experienced this before in your relationship? Or maybe you are
a mom and this is something that you have like
a little bit of insight on. This is a friend
of a friend who has been dating a guy for
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a while and everything is going great except for one thing.
She is friends with his mom on social media, and
she noticed that his mom is very active with the ex,
likes comments, all of it, but with her nothing crickets
And now she's spiraling a little bit wondering like is
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this something? Am I reading into this way too much?
How what should I do here? Like do I say something?
Do I not say something? It's definitely like get into
her a little bit, but so far she hasn't said anything.
Speaker 4 (06:51):
My go to initial response is, uh, is if you
feel some kind of way, you always say something, like
you always you have to otherwise it's going to eat
at you forever.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
And then it.
Speaker 4 (07:05):
Becomes then something will set it off and it becomes
a way bigger thing because you let it build up
rather than say something.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
But I'm I'm a talker, so I have to talk
through almost everything.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Or anybody's parents still friends with their exes on social media,
Like is this like a pretty normal thing? Because my parents,
like my dad was on pretty good terms with one
of my exes, and like after we broke up, they
would still like text every once in a while, and
I had to like shut that down and be like, Okay,
we're it onne yeah, because I don't want my ex
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to think that like this is leaving a door open.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Text.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
As a family, we enjoyed our time. Now we're walking away.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
Texting is way more personal, way more personal in my
in my opinion than commenting on Facebook.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
It really it goes.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
It depends on how much value you put in as
well to like comments on Facebook on social media, because
I don't know, maybe we interact differently with social media.
But like, I'm not great about commenting and liking other
people's stuff.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
I need to get better. I've worked.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
I'm working on it, right, even my own wife's stuff, like,
because I see her all the time. Yeah, so like
if I like something, I go, hey, I really like
that and then forget.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
To do anything with it.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
But if she held value into that, like I would
make sure I do that all the time.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Yeah, I see where you're coming from. Now. It's it's
my opinion that the boyfriend needs to step in here
and say, Mom, knock it off.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Does the boyfriend know he knows? Okay, he knows.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
She has brought this up with him and just said like, hey,
do you know that your mom is like still friends
with your ex. And this isn't like an X from
high school, This isn't like an X from ten years ago.
This is like the most recent ex. So she's like,
does the mom not like me, like, is this like
her kind of quiet way of saying like you're not
as good as the ex? And I'm like, girl, I
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don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Do you take it that way?
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I don't know. I don't know the mom. I don't
know if this is just like a cutie mom who's like, oh,
I just like keep in touch with everybody.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
I don't know. It depends part of it.
Speaker 4 (09:06):
I could see both sides because part of me goes, ooh,
she clearly wants to communicate with that person more. But again,
the way I handle social media, if I talk to
you every day, which she probably talks to the girlfriend
every day, I don't need to comment on yourself. I
just saw it thirty seconds ago. I was with you
when you took the picture. But the ex who you
don't need to talk to, right, I understand that part
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of it. The only communication is there is on that
Facebook post is on that is liking that or whatever.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
It's not like texting or talking to every day.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Good morning d natty three. Who's this and where you're from?
Speaker 5 (09:39):
My name is Heather.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
I'm from playing Well and she needs to run. I
have one.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
My mother in law is.
Speaker 5 (09:46):
Best friends with my husband's act up twenty years ago
when we got together. She too family functions. Oh she
what yeah, you.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Yes, And then she couldn't have my husband, so she
went for my husband's uncle.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
What so now she's like at all the family functions,
Uh huh, we are not.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
No, I can't imagine that's a very comfortable situation.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
So she needs to voice her opinion as soon as possible,
because I did not, and it's been a holy.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Nightmare ever since.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Holy no.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
Okay, yeah I will, I'll pass that along.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
I think a quick message would hurt.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
Thanks for the.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Call, yep.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Night.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
See. This is why I think that the boyfriend needs
to step in, and not not in a way that
like puts the new girlfriend in the spotlight. Like I
don't think he even mentions that she has a problem
with it. I think that he just brings it to
mom and says, hey, now that I'm in a new relationship,
I understand you guys were close, but I'm asking you
as your son knock at all.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (11:02):
Yeah, I mean I've had conversations with family members and
been like that person has gone okay, because then I.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Think you learn really quick a little bit more about
the situation, Like if her son comes to her and
he says, hey, I want you to stop, Like I'm
in a new relationship now and I'm asking you, like
for my sake, like just you know, cool it off.
Maybe maybe you don't have to unfront her. But like
the liking and the commenting is just like a little
bit too much. If the mom is like, okay, no problem,
Like my son asked me to do something for him,
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I'll do whatever he wants me to do. But if
she fights him on it, I think that that maybe
tells us a little bit more.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Oh yeah, one hundred percent. I you know what I
just thought about.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
I've been on the other end of this where I
there was an ex still involved with the girl, but
there was there was nothing I could do. She had
a dog that was named after her ex, Like they
got they got a dog together, yes, and and she
was like a family pet. And I've said something and
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it never went well.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
See that was a major green flag. When Yimmy and
I started dating his ex, they lived together, they had
a dog together, and they did like a shared custody
situation after they had broken up. So like she got
a couple of weeks, he got a couple weeks.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
That's sweet.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
It was super sweet. So like that was a green flag.
But then when we started dating, he was like, I know,
this is really sad, and he knows I'm a big
dog person, and he was like, I hope you don't
judge me for this, but I am going to just
like offer that she keep the dog permanently because I
just like this situation of the back and forth. I
just don't want there to be any sort of communication
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between her and I now that I'm like focused on us. Yeah,
And I was like, oh, that's like super sad that
you have to say goodbye to your pup.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
Yeah, but like as the incoming girlfriend, green flag dude,
like that was that was cool.
Speaker 4 (12:55):
I was a young guy, so I was just like, hey,
can you do you think you could because it was
his name, like that was the name of the dog.
And I was like, do you think you could just
change I didn't know you you just change his name
or something. And she's like, no, we can't just change
the dog's name.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Oh man.
Speaker 4 (13:09):
And it was just a thing. They never got rid
of the dog. I would never ask them to, but
it was what do you do at that point? It's
a constant reminder.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
What do you do if your current partner's parents are
still in touch with their ex on social media? Good morning,
be natty free. Who's this and where are you from?
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Ryan?
Speaker 3 (13:26):
I'm from Holland. All right, Ryan, what you got?
Speaker 5 (13:29):
My sister talked to all three of my exes, my
first wife, second wife, and my ex fiancee.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
And are you currently in a relationship? I am not? Okay,
So how do you feel about this?
Speaker 2 (13:45):
I don't well, I don't like it. I don't like
it at all.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
And have you brought this up with her?
Speaker 5 (13:51):
I have, but she don't care.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
And she's like, no, we're really friends now, oh.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Yeah, oh yeah, definitely with my Yeah, I don't like it,
but I can't do anything about it.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
And she's just like, I'm a girl's girl. We were friends. Like,
I'm still gonna talk to them. If you get a
new girlfriend, I'm gonna be friends with them.
Speaker 5 (14:12):
Too, pretty much.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Wow, they try to find out what's all bad about me, and.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
It's a it's a full circle. Dang, that's crazy.
Speaker 4 (14:23):
Yeah, they chose they chose them over you.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
Choking the probably probably did.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
Yeah, all right, Ryan, keep us posted with that.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
Yeah, good luck, man, all right, I appreciate you guys.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
Bye bye, same energy, right yeah, yeah, like I think unfortunately, Ryan,
I'm so sorry that you've asked your sister like, hey,
knock it off, and your sister was like, no, that
over you.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Yeah. Well, and then he's on number four now.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
But what I think works in his sister's favor there
is that she's not friends with like just one, she's
friends with all of.
Speaker 4 (15:00):
Them building a starting lineup for an MBA team. Like
at this point, they're just like, we don't know if
they're coming to stand, so we're just gonna be friends.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
We're just gonna have a good time while we can.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
You can either join this riot or sorry.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Bud, your current partner's mom or dad is still in
touch with your ex on social media or texting or whatever.
What do you do? You just you're in a new relationship,
it's going well, and this has now become a little
bit of an issue. I also think we have an
ex who still keeps in touch with the parents. I
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think we've got their perspective. Well, I love that now. Well,
I would also like a mom perspective, like a mom
who still keeps in touch with an ex.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
I was gonna have my mom call in. I thought
she was still friends with my ex from high school.
We don't talk about her at all anymore, but we
did early in my relationship with my wife, and I
had to put a like kebash to it.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
But she's not friends with her anymore, so it must
have stuck.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
Yeah, okay, the exes perspective on the way. Let's put
somebody else on the clock for Can't Wait Till Summer.
We need another potential finalists who we got.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
Let's go with.
Speaker 4 (16:15):
Riba Cole from Wyomingriba Cole, Wyoming, it is eight twelve.
Speaker 3 (16:22):
Reeba from Wyoming has until eight twenty two to call
us back and get in as a finalist for Can't
Wait Till Summer? All right, if you are involved in
one of these situations, I really just can't believe how
common it is based on the calls. Mostly the calls
that we've received though, are like the new girlfriend who's
in this relationship says, yep, my exes parents are still
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in touch. And then you know, we talked to Ryan
who said, like, I'm the boyfriend in this situation, and
my sister is still in touch with all my exes
now he wasn't in a new relationship, So I think
that that's a little bit different. But six ones two
four to two ninety three, ninety three, good morning, b
ninety three? Who's this? And where are you from?
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Jack?
Speaker 5 (17:06):
From Grand Haven?
Speaker 3 (17:07):
What you got Jack?
Speaker 4 (17:08):
All right?
Speaker 5 (17:08):
First, I think she needs to grow up. She needs
to tell him when.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
You say when you say she, you mean the new girlfriend.
Speaker 5 (17:17):
Yes, the new girlfriend. Okay, she needs to talk to
the mom. Don't put the boyfriend in the middle. And
if it's the mom or dad have a relationship with
the previous why would the daughter or the new girlfriend
want to stop that or have the right to stop that. Sorry, Yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
Mean I think that there is an element of like,
she would be okay with the mom keeping in contact,
but the mom is like liking and commenting on posts
on the ex's Facebook, but like she's not liking or
commenting any of the girlfriend's stuff on Facebook. So it
just seems like there's an imbalance.
Speaker 5 (17:59):
And I agree, But then she needs to work on
that relationship set.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Oh okay, Oh I like that too.
Speaker 4 (18:07):
That's that's a great point because maybe she doesn't feel
comfortable enough to comment on the new girlfriends stuff because
maybe she thinks she doesn't like her.
Speaker 5 (18:14):
Yeah, oh all right.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
All right, an opposite perspective. I like that, Jack, Thanks
for the call. Sure bye, thank you, Good morning. B
ninety three. Who's this Ian? Where are you from?
Speaker 2 (18:28):
I'm from Grand led Brooklyn. What you got the exit perspective? Potentially?
Speaker 5 (18:34):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (18:34):
She was mentioning this on TikTok Live, Ali mac on
air on air mic that she does have this perspective.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Let's hear it.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
I think it's largely dependent on the level of respect
and maturity that the X have. I am not intentionally really,
I just didn't delete them off Facebook or anything. And
exit's friends with moms on Facebook. But in my case,
they were long term relationships and viewed me as like
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another daughter, if you will. They watched me grow up,
they were a support for me. And when I am
interacting with them, it has nothing to do with the ex.
It's them and my relationship with them.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Okay. So let me ask you this, Brooklyn. Are you
in a relationship a new relationship now? Yeah? Okay? And
how does your current partner feel about this? Do they know?
Speaker 2 (19:24):
I don't know if he knows that. He's never asked
about it, But it's also never caused a problem. Sure,
and again, I'm not friends with the exes on any
social media. There's no interaction with the excess period. There's
no interaction with the ex's parents about the ex It's
just the relationship I had with the parent.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
And is your ex in a new relationship?
Speaker 2 (19:46):
Yeah, they're both married, Okay, all right for like a
couple of years now.
Speaker 4 (19:50):
Well, you don't think in the back of the mom's
head there's somewhere hoping there's a little bit of hope
still there that someday, like maybe you're the one that
got away, and that someday he'll come to his senses
and go running back to you.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Yeah, I hope not.
Speaker 3 (20:03):
That'd be awful because he's married.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
I agree.
Speaker 4 (20:06):
But then why I don't know, why keep her in
the life then or in her life?
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I don't know. I guess that's an important point of
view too, is the mom. But Jane was just I mean,
they watched me grow up. Sometimes it's football post or
it's one of them collected these little uh figurines that
sometimes pop up on Facebook, and I'll send them to
her because she's the only person I know that collects them.
Speaker 3 (20:29):
See I think you get the green flag here because
this isn't causing anybody harm or issues, like nobody cares.
Like everybody's cool with it.
Speaker 5 (20:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
And I think in your friend's case, part of that
might be indicative of the relationship she has with her
boyfriend's mom. And I think that's maybe a sign that
she needs to work on that relationship.
Speaker 4 (20:49):
Yeah, you guys are very mature. I think it leaves
the door open for possibilities.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
All Right, Brooklyn, I appreciate it. That was very brave
of you to call.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
Oh well, I'll talk to you later. Bye bye. Not
me texting, yimmy. Do you still keep in touch with
your ex's parents?
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Yimmy?
Speaker 3 (21:08):
She got me when she said, my current partner has
never asked, so he doesn't really know what.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
Why would it come up? I wouldn't think to do
it until just now. I mean, I know because I've
dealt with it with my wife, but we've been married
a while.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
I mean, I know what the answer is gonna be. Yes,
absolutely every day. I'm just kidding, no dice, no dice.
I know what the answer is gonna be. But I'm
not mean texting him. So another name coming up and
can't wait till summer On B Natty three,
I want to welcome to the B ninety three Morning Show.
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What's your name? Away from Hi?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
This is Tianna Besser from.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Grand Aven, Michigan.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Tiana. What is your birthday? It's Siannaway.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
I'll right, Tiana. You are in as a finalist and
we've got you in the running for the grand prize
tomorrow morning at seven fifty five with The B Natty
three Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Awesome, Thank you guys so much.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
You're welcome, Fie. Since today is your final full day
to get in as a finalist, we're drawing names like
every ten fifteen minutes this morning, so lock in because
we got another one coming up and just a couple
of minutes here, Okay, So B Natty three Morning Show.
I'm Ali Mack and I'm Mike. This is a friend
of mine, kind of like a friend of a friend,
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but still. The situation is this, she's been dating this
guy for a while, right, and she's at the point
now where she's met the family and they're they're close,
and she's even friends on social media with some of
his family members and that includes his mom, and she
has noticed that his mom is still pretty close with
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his ex girlfriend. Interesting and his mom has been commenting
and liking and interacting with the ex.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
On socials, like in the comments, in the.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Comments, liking posts.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Okay, you know, all right, but she's.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
Also noticed that Mom is not interacting with her current
girlfriend in the same way on socials.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Are they friends on socials? Yeah? It's such a.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
Interesting thing because we never had to worry about those
type of things like in high school, college, right, dating,
that was not like that. Then you get out of there,
and now all of a sudden, we got out. Social
media is everywhere and and it becomes a thing because
it's public, right, everybody can see it.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Oh yeah, and everybody does.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
And now fast forward even now into our lives, like
you and I. Social is different than like an everyday
person's social because that's our our focus every day.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
So like yeah, so of course, like she's spiraling a
little bit about this, and she's like, okay, does the
mom not like me? Like, is she trying to keep
a line of communication open because she feels like this
ex is sort of like the one that got away
for him, and I'm just like, you know, keeping the
seat warm until this other girl like comes back around
(02:40):
to be the ultimate like winner or whatever.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Did your parents ever befriend any of your exes?
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Yeah? Are they friends today? No?
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Okay, yeah, no they are they Are they friends with
them on social media or anything?
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Nope?
Speaker 1 (02:57):
I have my mom is.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
I don't know if she still is you know what,
I'll look it up right now. But I have an
ex from high school that she got really close. It
was like the first girlfriend she actually got close with.
And they were friends on Facebook I think for the
longest time. And even while I like dating my now wife, yeah,
married and had kids. She would at like family parties
(03:20):
or whatever, just bring up details about what's going on
in that person's life.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
I felt like her updates.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
Yeah, and I'm like, mom, I have at the time
two kids and I am married a wife.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yeah. I do not care what that person's current job
position is.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Yeah, good for them. And that was one of my
questions too, like how far back is this an ex from?
Because I wouldn't be I wouldn't feel as weird about
it if it were like that type of situation, like, oh,
this was just like a girl that I like dated
in high school, but also like we went to school
together forever, so there may be some sort of family connection.
Or something like that, like that I don't feel like
(03:56):
would bother me. But she said that this was his
like most recent ex before her, and I was like, oh, yeah,
that that changes.
Speaker 4 (04:05):
Things, absolutely does. My mom is not friends with her anymore.
Just an update, Okay, I just found.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
Out two points form this morning. But she's like, what
do I do?
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Oh, that's so tough, And.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I was like, you know what, I will ask because
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Would it upset you?
Speaker 3 (04:26):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I think it would.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
I don't know because I again, I'm trying to think
about it outside of what we do for a living,
because I you and I interacting on social media today
is different than than just like it was even in
college or high school.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Yeah, so I don't know it would bug me.
Speaker 4 (04:47):
I guess that the person wasn't interacting with me, But
I'm also not great about doing it myself, So like
does it matter that much?
Speaker 3 (04:58):
Like I think the fact that she's doing it, I
could I could see past it if she were also
interacting with the current girlfriend. Yeah, in the same way.
Like then it's just like, Oh, she's just a cute
mom who like loves to be like up on the
latest gossip on social media. Right, yeah, But because there's
like this disparity of the ex is getting a lot
(05:19):
of social media attention from mom and the current girlfriend
is not. I do think raises a few red flags.
Speaker 4 (05:25):
But the other, okay, the other from the other perspective,
the other side of this, she probably interacts with a
new girlfriend a lot. If I see people every day,
I tend to not comment or pope because I see them,
I see them face to face.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
I say the things I need to say face to face.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Right, she doesn't see the ex every day, so that's
her only form of communication is that?
Speaker 1 (05:48):
But does there need to be communication? I don't know, right,
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
I know, and I don't have like every single piece
of information again because this is like a friend of
a friend, But I am just like, has anyone ever
experienced this before in your relationship? Or maybe you are
a mom and this is something that you have like
a little bit of insight on. This is a friend
of a friend who has been dating a guy for
(06:15):
a while and everything is going great except for one thing.
She is friends with his mom on social media, and
she noticed that his mom is very active with the ex,
likes comments, all of it, but with her nothing crickets
And now she's spiraling a little bit wondering like is
(06:37):
this something? Am I reading into this way too much?
How what should I do here? Like do I say something?
Do I not say something? It's definitely like get into
her a little bit, but so far she hasn't said anything.
Speaker 4 (06:51):
My go to initial response is, uh, is if you
feel some kind of way, you always say something, like
you always you have to otherwise it's going to eat
at you forever.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
And then it.
Speaker 4 (07:05):
Becomes then something will set it off and it becomes
a way bigger thing because you let it build up
rather than say something.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
But I'm I'm a talker, so I have to talk
through almost everything.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Or anybody's parents still friends with their exes on social media,
Like is this like a pretty normal thing? Because my parents,
like my dad was on pretty good terms with one
of my exes, and like after we broke up, they
would still like text every once in a while, and
I had to like shut that down and be like, Okay,
we're it onne yeah, because I don't want my ex
(07:36):
to think that like this is leaving a door open.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Text.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
As a family, we enjoyed our time. Now we're walking away.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
Texting is way more personal, way more personal in my
in my opinion than commenting on Facebook.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
It really it goes.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
It depends on how much value you put in as
well to like comments on Facebook on social media, because
I don't know, maybe we interact differently with social media.
But like, I'm not great about commenting and liking other
people's stuff.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
I need to get better. I've worked.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
I'm working on it, right, even my own wife's stuff, like,
because I see her all the time. Yeah, so like
if I like something, I go, hey, I really like
that and then forget.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
To do anything with it.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
But if she held value into that, like I would
make sure I do that all the time.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Yeah, I see where you're coming from. Now. It's it's
my opinion that the boyfriend needs to step in here
and say, Mom, knock it off.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Does the boyfriend know he knows? Okay, he knows.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
She has brought this up with him and just said like, hey,
do you know that your mom is like still friends
with your ex. And this isn't like an X from
high school, This isn't like an X from ten years ago.
This is like the most recent ex. So she's like,
does the mom not like me, like, is this like
her kind of quiet way of saying like you're not
as good as the ex? And I'm like, girl, I
(08:54):
don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Do you take it that way?
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I don't know. I don't know the mom. I don't
know if this is just like a cutie mom who's like, oh,
I just like keep in touch with everybody.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
I don't know. It depends part of it.
Speaker 4 (09:06):
I could see both sides because part of me goes, ooh,
she clearly wants to communicate with that person more. But again,
the way I handle social media, if I talk to
you every day, which she probably talks to the girlfriend
every day, I don't need to comment on yourself. I
just saw it thirty seconds ago. I was with you
when you took the picture. But the ex who you
don't need to talk to, right, I understand that part
(09:26):
of it. The only communication is there is on that
Facebook post is on that is liking that or whatever.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
It's not like texting or talking to every day.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Good morning d natty three. Who's this and where you're from?
Speaker 5 (09:39):
My name is Heather.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
I'm from playing Well and she needs to run. I
have one.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
My mother in law is.
Speaker 5 (09:46):
Best friends with my husband's act up twenty years ago
when we got together. She too family functions. Oh she
what yeah, you.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Yes, And then she couldn't have my husband, so she
went for my husband's uncle.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
What so now she's like at all the family functions,
Uh huh, we are not.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
No, I can't imagine that's a very comfortable situation.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
So she needs to voice her opinion as soon as possible,
because I did not, and it's been a holy.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Nightmare ever since.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Holy no.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
Okay, yeah I will, I'll pass that along.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
I think a quick message would hurt.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
Thanks for the.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Call, yep.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Night.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
See. This is why I think that the boyfriend needs
to step in, and not not in a way that
like puts the new girlfriend in the spotlight. Like I
don't think he even mentions that she has a problem
with it. I think that he just brings it to
mom and says, hey, now that I'm in a new relationship,
I understand you guys were close, but I'm asking you
as your son knock at all.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (11:02):
Yeah, I mean I've had conversations with family members and
been like that person has gone okay, because then I.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Think you learn really quick a little bit more about
the situation, Like if her son comes to her and
he says, hey, I want you to stop, Like I'm
in a new relationship now and I'm asking you, like
for my sake, like just you know, cool it off.
Maybe maybe you don't have to unfront her. But like
the liking and the commenting is just like a little
bit too much. If the mom is like, okay, no problem,
Like my son asked me to do something for him,
(11:31):
I'll do whatever he wants me to do. But if
she fights him on it, I think that that maybe
tells us a little bit more.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Oh yeah, one hundred percent. I you know what I
just thought about.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
I've been on the other end of this where I
there was an ex still involved with the girl, but
there was there was nothing I could do. She had
a dog that was named after her ex, Like they
got they got a dog together, yes, and and she
was like a family pet. And I've said something and
(12:01):
it never went well.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
See that was a major green flag. When Yimmy and
I started dating his ex, they lived together, they had
a dog together, and they did like a shared custody
situation after they had broken up. So like she got
a couple of weeks, he got a couple weeks.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
That's sweet.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
It was super sweet. So like that was a green flag.
But then when we started dating, he was like, I know,
this is really sad, and he knows I'm a big
dog person, and he was like, I hope you don't
judge me for this, but I am going to just
like offer that she keep the dog permanently because I
just like this situation of the back and forth. I
just don't want there to be any sort of communication
(12:39):
between her and I now that I'm like focused on us. Yeah,
And I was like, oh, that's like super sad that
you have to say goodbye to your pup.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
Yeah, but like as the incoming girlfriend, green flag dude,
like that was that was cool.
Speaker 4 (12:55):
I was a young guy, so I was just like, hey,
can you do you think you could because it was
his name, like that was the name of the dog.
And I was like, do you think you could just
change I didn't know you you just change his name
or something. And she's like, no, we can't just change
the dog's name.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Oh man.
Speaker 4 (13:09):
And it was just a thing. They never got rid
of the dog. I would never ask them to, but
it was what do you do at that point? It's
a constant reminder.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
What do you do if your current partner's parents are
still in touch with their ex on social media? Good morning,
be natty free. Who's this and where are you from?
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Ryan?
Speaker 3 (13:26):
I'm from Holland. All right, Ryan, what you got?
Speaker 5 (13:29):
My sister talked to all three of my exes, my
first wife, second wife, and my ex fiancee.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
And are you currently in a relationship? I am not? Okay,
So how do you feel about this?
Speaker 2 (13:45):
I don't well, I don't like it. I don't like
it at all.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
And have you brought this up with her?
Speaker 5 (13:51):
I have, but she don't care.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
And she's like, no, we're really friends now, oh.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Yeah, oh yeah, definitely with my Yeah, I don't like it,
but I can't do anything about it.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
And she's just like, I'm a girl's girl. We were friends. Like,
I'm still gonna talk to them. If you get a
new girlfriend, I'm gonna be friends with them.
Speaker 5 (14:12):
Too, pretty much.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Wow, they try to find out what's all bad about me, and.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
It's a it's a full circle. Dang, that's crazy.
Speaker 4 (14:23):
Yeah, they chose they chose them over you.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
Choking the probably probably did.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
Yeah, all right, Ryan, keep us posted with that.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
Yeah, good luck, man, all right, I appreciate you guys.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
Bye bye, same energy, right yeah, yeah, like I think unfortunately, Ryan,
I'm so sorry that you've asked your sister like, hey,
knock it off, and your sister was like, no, that
over you.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Yeah. Well, and then he's on number four now.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
But what I think works in his sister's favor there
is that she's not friends with like just one, she's
friends with all of.
Speaker 4 (15:00):
Them building a starting lineup for an MBA team. Like
at this point, they're just like, we don't know if
they're coming to stand, so we're just gonna be friends.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
We're just gonna have a good time while we can.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
You can either join this riot or sorry.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Bud, your current partner's mom or dad is still in
touch with your ex on social media or texting or whatever.
What do you do? You just you're in a new relationship,
it's going well, and this has now become a little
bit of an issue. I also think we have an
ex who still keeps in touch with the parents. I
(15:35):
think we've got their perspective. Well, I love that now. Well,
I would also like a mom perspective, like a mom
who still keeps in touch with an ex.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
I was gonna have my mom call in. I thought
she was still friends with my ex from high school.
We don't talk about her at all anymore, but we
did early in my relationship with my wife, and I
had to put a like kebash to it.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
But she's not friends with her anymore, so it must
have stuck.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
Yeah, okay, the exes perspective on the way. Let's put
somebody else on the clock for Can't Wait Till Summer.
We need another potential finalists who we got.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
Let's go with.
Speaker 4 (16:15):
Riba Cole from Wyomingriba Cole, Wyoming, it is eight twelve.
Speaker 3 (16:22):
Reeba from Wyoming has until eight twenty two to call
us back and get in as a finalist for Can't
Wait Till Summer? All right, if you are involved in
one of these situations, I really just can't believe how
common it is based on the calls. Mostly the calls
that we've received though, are like the new girlfriend who's
in this relationship says, yep, my exes parents are still
(16:45):
in touch. And then you know, we talked to Ryan
who said, like, I'm the boyfriend in this situation, and
my sister is still in touch with all my exes
now he wasn't in a new relationship, So I think
that that's a little bit different. But six ones two
four to two ninety three, ninety three, good morning, b
ninety three? Who's this? And where are you from?
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Jack?
Speaker 5 (17:06):
From Grand Haven?
Speaker 3 (17:07):
What you got Jack?
Speaker 4 (17:08):
All right?
Speaker 5 (17:08):
First, I think she needs to grow up. She needs
to tell him when.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
You say when you say she, you mean the new girlfriend.
Speaker 5 (17:17):
Yes, the new girlfriend. Okay, she needs to talk to
the mom. Don't put the boyfriend in the middle. And
if it's the mom or dad have a relationship with
the previous why would the daughter or the new girlfriend
want to stop that or have the right to stop that. Sorry, Yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
Mean I think that there is an element of like,
she would be okay with the mom keeping in contact,
but the mom is like liking and commenting on posts
on the ex's Facebook, but like she's not liking or
commenting any of the girlfriend's stuff on Facebook. So it
just seems like there's an imbalance.
Speaker 5 (17:59):
And I agree, But then she needs to work on
that relationship set.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Oh okay, Oh I like that too.
Speaker 4 (18:07):
That's that's a great point because maybe she doesn't feel
comfortable enough to comment on the new girlfriends stuff because
maybe she thinks she doesn't like her.
Speaker 5 (18:14):
Yeah, oh all right.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
All right, an opposite perspective. I like that, Jack, Thanks
for the call. Sure bye, thank you, Good morning. B
ninety three. Who's this Ian? Where are you from?
Speaker 2 (18:28):
I'm from Grand led Brooklyn. What you got the exit perspective? Potentially?
Speaker 5 (18:34):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (18:34):
She was mentioning this on TikTok Live, Ali mac on
air on air mic that she does have this perspective.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Let's hear it.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
I think it's largely dependent on the level of respect
and maturity that the X have. I am not intentionally really,
I just didn't delete them off Facebook or anything. And
exit's friends with moms on Facebook. But in my case,
they were long term relationships and viewed me as like
(19:02):
another daughter, if you will. They watched me grow up,
they were a support for me. And when I am
interacting with them, it has nothing to do with the ex.
It's them and my relationship with them.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Okay. So let me ask you this, Brooklyn. Are you
in a relationship a new relationship now? Yeah? Okay? And
how does your current partner feel about this? Do they know?
Speaker 2 (19:24):
I don't know if he knows that. He's never asked
about it, But it's also never caused a problem. Sure,
and again, I'm not friends with the exes on any
social media. There's no interaction with the excess period. There's
no interaction with the ex's parents about the ex It's
just the relationship I had with the parent.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
And is your ex in a new relationship?
Speaker 2 (19:46):
Yeah, they're both married, Okay, all right for like a
couple of years now.
Speaker 4 (19:50):
Well, you don't think in the back of the mom's
head there's somewhere hoping there's a little bit of hope
still there that someday, like maybe you're the one that
got away, and that someday he'll come to his senses
and go running back to you.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Yeah, I hope not.
Speaker 3 (20:03):
That'd be awful because he's married.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
I agree.
Speaker 4 (20:06):
But then why I don't know, why keep her in
the life then or in her life?
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I don't know. I guess that's an important point of
view too, is the mom. But Jane was just I mean,
they watched me grow up. Sometimes it's football post or
it's one of them collected these little uh figurines that
sometimes pop up on Facebook, and I'll send them to
her because she's the only person I know that collects them.
Speaker 3 (20:29):
See I think you get the green flag here because
this isn't causing anybody harm or issues, like nobody cares.
Like everybody's cool with it.
Speaker 5 (20:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
And I think in your friend's case, part of that
might be indicative of the relationship she has with her
boyfriend's mom. And I think that's maybe a sign that
she needs to work on that relationship.
Speaker 4 (20:49):
Yeah, you guys are very mature. I think it leaves
the door open for possibilities.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
All Right, Brooklyn, I appreciate it. That was very brave
of you to call.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
Oh well, I'll talk to you later. Bye bye. Not
me texting, yimmy. Do you still keep in touch with
your ex's parents?
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Yimmy?
Speaker 3 (21:08):
She got me when she said, my current partner has
never asked, so he doesn't really know what.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
Why would it come up? I wouldn't think to do
it until just now. I mean, I know because I've
dealt with it with my wife, but we've been married
a while.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
I mean, I know what the answer is gonna be. Yes,
absolutely every day. I'm just kidding, no dice, no dice.
I know what the answer is gonna be. But I'm
not mean texting him. So another name coming up and
can't wait till summer On B Natty three,
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