October 29, 2025 • 9 mins
Monica and Thomas from OKC had a date set up for Halloween. But when Monica said she didn't have a costume, Thomas had an answer that may have scared her away. So is there going to be another date? We find out with the 2nd Date Update
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is tj Amanda and j Rod's second Date update
on kJ one three. Hi Thomas MS.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Hello, Hey, welcome to the second date update. I want
to get you another date with Monica, which you said
you have the second date planned for this week?
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Right?
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (00:16):
I do?
Speaker 4 (00:17):
Or I hope?
Speaker 1 (00:18):
So okay, what's the story.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
And so we had our second date planned Friday night,
and then last weekend, Monica text me that our date
would be on Halloween, which I thought, okay, great, I
love Halloween. Why not let's throw in a costume and
hit some bars. It could be fun. Turns out that
she didn't like that idea, so I text back, no problem,
let's go out the next night, and no reply at
all to my texts. And I send her another text
(00:45):
on Monday, and again no reply.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
So I'm trying to figure out.
Speaker 4 (00:50):
If I have a date coming up this week forever
to press.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Yeah, of course. And also I'm.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Wondering if she used Halloween as an excuse to not
go out Friday, and when you gave her an altar,
if she's like a I just have to ghost.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
I don't know what to say exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Okay, well you know how this works. We'll get her
on the phone and we'll just maybe clear this up
for you.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Okay, Okay, cool things.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
This is TJ Amanda and j Rod's second date update
on kJ one oh three. Monica in here for the
second date update, Hi Monica. Thomas told us a long
story about how you guys had planned a date for
this week, but when you realize it was Halloween and
he wanted to wear costumes, You're like, ah, let's do
it another night. But then you ghosted him afterwards.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
So all right, so you tell me if something is
creepy here, Okay, Okay, So we scheduled our second date,
and then when I went out, it's on Halloween. Thomas
was like, great, let's wear costumes.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
And I don't have a costume.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I don't really want to go out.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
And costume, Like I don't really like Halloween, okay, And
Thomas was like, oh, but I have plenty of costumes.
Got princesses, I've got nurse, I've got witch.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
So why does a single guy have a bunch of costumes?
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Poor girls?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
That's what I was wondering. Okay.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
So like I've watched enough True Crime to no one
to run.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Okay, what sounds like a party to me, I'm like,
this guy sounds great. Of course it was. Yeah, well
let's ask Thomas.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Thomas, you said you were into Halloween, but you have
princesses and nurses costumes.
Speaker 4 (02:32):
I don't see what's the big problem here?
Speaker 5 (02:34):
Just okay, well, why are you collecting princess and nurse costumes?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
It's weird? Yeah? Why do you have nurses costumes?
Speaker 6 (02:43):
Like?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Why?
Speaker 4 (02:43):
First of all, it's not nurses plural, It's just one
nurse costume.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Okay, just listen to me.
Speaker 5 (02:50):
Why do you have women's Halloween costumes like singular or plural?
Speaker 4 (02:54):
Why? Well, I don't know. You picked them up here
and there. If you're in the store and you see something,
you know, you.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Grab it just in case. Amanda, You're like, this is reasonable.
I have men heres.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
I mean, does that make me weird if I have
men's Halloween cousture?
Speaker 7 (03:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
That's costume room though, don't you?
Speaker 5 (03:12):
I mean, I don't I think a guy getting girl
costumes like it's just like sounds like fetish stuff to me.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Okay, okay, so let.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Me just see if I get this straight, because I
know how Amanda collects her man costumes. Is there two bucks.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
At Walmart a day after Halloween, or you're.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
At a garage sale you see a nurse uniform. Oh
I might need that someday for a costume or.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Something like that.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Right, yeah, exactly a couple of bucks.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Who cares?
Speaker 4 (03:39):
And and I thought it was I thought I was
being nice offering her a costume when she's when she
told me she didn't really have costumes. It wasn't her.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Thing like Monica. It sounds reasonable. He has some extra costumes.
It's not a.
Speaker 7 (03:51):
Man like.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I'm not trying to be mean like you do you.
I'm gonna move on. Okay, this is not your thing.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
I just think you'd being paranoid for no reason.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
It's just it's just extra costumes.
Speaker 5 (04:02):
It seems like weirdo stuff, like like Spidey sense is
up like like not it.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Okay, hey listen, I'm not going to question your Spidey sense.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
Thanks weird No.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
No, we got we got it. Okay, thanks for coming
on the second eight update.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
I'm not a good luck Okay, so I guess I'm
not going on a date with her.
Speaker 6 (04:23):
You are not going to do am to find a
new date for Halloween, brok.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
And but you got costumes, find someone else got costumes
for days bro oh Man.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Okay, so I guess I'm pretty bummed out here. I
guess I had some costumes that I had a costume
for her. I didn't see the big deal, but.
Speaker 7 (04:39):
I know I'm with you.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
And also, dude, if you want to use those costumes forever.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Things other things to their own.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I said, you're asking for an invite over to Well,
I'm not at all.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Thanks, man, I gotta snail. You can wear your boy.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
Thank you guys for trying.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Thanks a lot. Yeah, have you Halloween have fun in
your costumes this week? All right? I feel bad. I
feel bad for him. I don't think someone someone explained me.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Yeah, why it's okay for Amanda to have a classt
full of costumes, including a bunch of man costumes. But me,
if I'm a single male, can't have princesses and nurses
because you're creepy.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
But you laugh, you laugh.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
I don't know you why, but there seems to be
people think there's a difference. Obviously, seems ridiculous to you, Amanda,
and to the woman on the second date update that
a man having some female costumes in his closet, he
seemed really freaked out for emergency purposes like this, so
she could have a okay four or five, four, six,
one and two seven and someone.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Can explain this. I need explained for me.
Speaker 6 (05:44):
Okay, all right, I feel like we have this type
of conversation every time Alloween comes up. What do you
remember the guy that had like, okay, remember back I
don't know, last year or something along that line, when
(06:04):
the guy invited a girl to costume or costume uh party, and.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
He has.
Speaker 7 (06:13):
He had different things for the like to wear, like a.
Speaker 6 (06:15):
Full blow pool of female costumes.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Maybe this happens more than we know about. Wait, was
this the same guy?
Speaker 2 (06:26):
He's still I remember I kind of remember some guy
having a French maide costume?
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Was that good? Okay? I don't know, I don't even
know if.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
I don't even know if that was a Halloween thing.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
I think he just had. He says, perfect, it's it's okay.
So let me say this.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
If it's not Halloween, isn't weird?
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I mean, yes, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Well, I'm so torn on those I really don't know,
like to a different level.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
That's so specific. What about nurse go ahead, drive through?
Speaker 7 (06:58):
Guy? What are you saying, it's like once a year
you have this conversation with a couple that calls in
and he's got female costumes.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
You know what, people be crazy. It's more than we think.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
So, so Amanda obviously giggles at the fact she was
frightened by it. Apparently it's happened before. I've never did
any dude with lady costumes when I come up and
visit my house with some tea. So I don't have
anything in my closet, okay, have some skeletons maybe that
(07:35):
do have men's costumes in my closet.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Why why do I have it?
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Why?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Why is it different? Try to why.
Speaker 6 (07:46):
Because I mean, I don't know. I don't want to
get into this because you're gonna put it on the air.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Well, it's already on the air, so.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Yeah, I mean, I know you can see if if
a man, If a man has female costumes, it seems
like it's some sort.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Of fetish thing. But it's not a fetish thing.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
If a woman has male costumes, don't come advertising.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
Question hung out.
Speaker 6 (08:16):
I'm about to answer that. So when you walk in
the house, if you have a dress shirt and your
wife wears it, does not look better on her than you.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Yeah, it really does.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
Okay, then point proven.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Wait, so are you assuming that that that led that
if I have female costumes, some day my wife's gonna
come home from work and I'm gonna be like, hey,
look what I got on?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
What do you think your nurse husband today? Or look
at me like Krouela Deville, I.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
Feel like, what do you.
Speaker 7 (08:48):
Broke?
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Okay, costumes look better than men's costumes, so there's something
more behind the fetish is Okay, I don't know a
woman is.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Okay, Well, you're right.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
You shouldn't have gotten into this okay by drive through
guy
This is tj Amanda and j Rod's second Date update
on kJ one three. Hi Thomas MS.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Hello, Hey, welcome to the second date update. I want
to get you another date with Monica, which you said
you have the second date planned for this week?
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Right?
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (00:16):
I do?
Speaker 4 (00:17):
Or I hope?
Speaker 1 (00:18):
So okay, what's the story.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
And so we had our second date planned Friday night,
and then last weekend, Monica text me that our date
would be on Halloween, which I thought, okay, great, I
love Halloween. Why not let's throw in a costume and
hit some bars. It could be fun. Turns out that
she didn't like that idea, so I text back, no problem,
let's go out the next night, and no reply at
all to my texts. And I send her another text
(00:45):
on Monday, and again no reply.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
So I'm trying to figure out.
Speaker 4 (00:50):
If I have a date coming up this week forever
to press.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Yeah, of course. And also I'm.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Wondering if she used Halloween as an excuse to not
go out Friday, and when you gave her an altar,
if she's like a I just have to ghost.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
I don't know what to say exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Okay, well you know how this works. We'll get her
on the phone and we'll just maybe clear this up
for you.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Okay, Okay, cool things.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
This is TJ Amanda and j Rod's second date update
on kJ one oh three. Monica in here for the
second date update, Hi Monica. Thomas told us a long
story about how you guys had planned a date for
this week, but when you realize it was Halloween and
he wanted to wear costumes, You're like, ah, let's do
it another night. But then you ghosted him afterwards.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
So all right, so you tell me if something is
creepy here, Okay, Okay, So we scheduled our second date,
and then when I went out, it's on Halloween. Thomas
was like, great, let's wear costumes.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
And I don't have a costume.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I don't really want to go out.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
And costume, Like I don't really like Halloween, okay, And
Thomas was like, oh, but I have plenty of costumes.
Got princesses, I've got nurse, I've got witch.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
So why does a single guy have a bunch of costumes?
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Poor girls?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
That's what I was wondering. Okay.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
So like I've watched enough True Crime to no one
to run.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Okay, what sounds like a party to me, I'm like,
this guy sounds great. Of course it was. Yeah, well
let's ask Thomas.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Thomas, you said you were into Halloween, but you have
princesses and nurses costumes.
Speaker 4 (02:32):
I don't see what's the big problem here?
Speaker 5 (02:34):
Just okay, well, why are you collecting princess and nurse costumes?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
It's weird? Yeah? Why do you have nurses costumes?
Speaker 6 (02:43):
Like?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Why?
Speaker 4 (02:43):
First of all, it's not nurses plural, It's just one
nurse costume.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Okay, just listen to me.
Speaker 5 (02:50):
Why do you have women's Halloween costumes like singular or plural?
Speaker 4 (02:54):
Why? Well, I don't know. You picked them up here
and there. If you're in the store and you see something,
you know, you.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Grab it just in case. Amanda, You're like, this is reasonable.
I have men heres.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
I mean, does that make me weird if I have
men's Halloween cousture?
Speaker 7 (03:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
That's costume room though, don't you?
Speaker 5 (03:12):
I mean, I don't I think a guy getting girl
costumes like it's just like sounds like fetish stuff to me.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Okay, okay, so let.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Me just see if I get this straight, because I
know how Amanda collects her man costumes. Is there two bucks.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
At Walmart a day after Halloween, or you're.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
At a garage sale you see a nurse uniform. Oh
I might need that someday for a costume or.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Something like that.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Right, yeah, exactly a couple of bucks.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Who cares?
Speaker 4 (03:39):
And and I thought it was I thought I was
being nice offering her a costume when she's when she
told me she didn't really have costumes. It wasn't her.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Thing like Monica. It sounds reasonable. He has some extra costumes.
It's not a.
Speaker 7 (03:51):
Man like.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I'm not trying to be mean like you do you.
I'm gonna move on. Okay, this is not your thing.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
I just think you'd being paranoid for no reason.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
It's just it's just extra costumes.
Speaker 5 (04:02):
It seems like weirdo stuff, like like Spidey sense is
up like like not it.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Okay, hey listen, I'm not going to question your Spidey sense.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
Thanks weird No.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
No, we got we got it. Okay, thanks for coming
on the second eight update.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
I'm not a good luck Okay, so I guess I'm
not going on a date with her.
Speaker 6 (04:23):
You are not going to do am to find a
new date for Halloween, brok.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
And but you got costumes, find someone else got costumes
for days bro oh Man.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Okay, so I guess I'm pretty bummed out here. I
guess I had some costumes that I had a costume
for her. I didn't see the big deal, but.
Speaker 7 (04:39):
I know I'm with you.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
And also, dude, if you want to use those costumes forever.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Things other things to their own.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I said, you're asking for an invite over to Well,
I'm not at all.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Thanks, man, I gotta snail. You can wear your boy.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
Thank you guys for trying.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Thanks a lot. Yeah, have you Halloween have fun in
your costumes this week? All right? I feel bad. I
feel bad for him. I don't think someone someone explained me.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Yeah, why it's okay for Amanda to have a classt
full of costumes, including a bunch of man costumes. But me,
if I'm a single male, can't have princesses and nurses
because you're creepy.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
But you laugh, you laugh.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
I don't know you why, but there seems to be
people think there's a difference. Obviously, seems ridiculous to you, Amanda,
and to the woman on the second date update that
a man having some female costumes in his closet, he
seemed really freaked out for emergency purposes like this, so
she could have a okay four or five, four, six,
one and two seven and someone.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Can explain this. I need explained for me.
Speaker 6 (05:44):
Okay, all right, I feel like we have this type
of conversation every time Alloween comes up. What do you
remember the guy that had like, okay, remember back I
don't know, last year or something along that line, when
(06:04):
the guy invited a girl to costume or costume uh party, and.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
He has.
Speaker 7 (06:13):
He had different things for the like to wear, like a.
Speaker 6 (06:15):
Full blow pool of female costumes.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Maybe this happens more than we know about. Wait, was
this the same guy?
Speaker 2 (06:26):
He's still I remember I kind of remember some guy
having a French maide costume?
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Was that good? Okay? I don't know, I don't even
know if.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
I don't even know if that was a Halloween thing.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
I think he just had. He says, perfect, it's it's okay.
So let me say this.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
If it's not Halloween, isn't weird?
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I mean, yes, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Well, I'm so torn on those I really don't know,
like to a different level.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
That's so specific. What about nurse go ahead, drive through?
Speaker 7 (06:58):
Guy? What are you saying, it's like once a year
you have this conversation with a couple that calls in
and he's got female costumes.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
You know what, people be crazy. It's more than we think.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
So, so Amanda obviously giggles at the fact she was
frightened by it. Apparently it's happened before. I've never did
any dude with lady costumes when I come up and
visit my house with some tea. So I don't have
anything in my closet, okay, have some skeletons maybe that
(07:35):
do have men's costumes in my closet.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Why why do I have it?
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Why?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Why is it different? Try to why.
Speaker 6 (07:46):
Because I mean, I don't know. I don't want to
get into this because you're gonna put it on the air.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Well, it's already on the air, so.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Yeah, I mean, I know you can see if if
a man, If a man has female costumes, it seems
like it's some sort.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Of fetish thing. But it's not a fetish thing.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
If a woman has male costumes, don't come advertising.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
Question hung out.
Speaker 6 (08:16):
I'm about to answer that. So when you walk in
the house, if you have a dress shirt and your
wife wears it, does not look better on her than you.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Yeah, it really does.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
Okay, then point proven.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Wait, so are you assuming that that that led that
if I have female costumes, some day my wife's gonna
come home from work and I'm gonna be like, hey,
look what I got on?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
What do you think your nurse husband today? Or look
at me like Krouela Deville, I.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
Feel like, what do you.
Speaker 7 (08:48):
Broke?
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Okay, costumes look better than men's costumes, so there's something
more behind the fetish is Okay, I don't know a
woman is.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Okay, Well, you're right.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
You shouldn't have gotten into this okay by drive through
guy
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