May 20, 2026 • 25 mins
On the Monsters Attorney "Friendly" Ray Traendly of TK Law discusses the concept of "marriage premium."
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So Hammer, did you show Angel that?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
No, No, I haven't showed him yet.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
Remember I get left out of a bunch of I'm trying.
You just want to hear yelling this.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
So some foot fetish website got got photos of her
this morning when she popped her feet up on the
air and put them on our YouTube channel, and now
her her feet are going viral from some foot fetish website.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
I'm gonna put up on my phone and put it
in front of the camera.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
What does it say? Read it?
Speaker 2 (00:30):
What is feet Amber?
Speaker 4 (00:32):
It's beautiful feet of Instagram is the page.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
And they say, wait a minute, that's somebody that was.
Speaker 4 (00:39):
Amber is way too kind to us, Amber and her
feet always looks so beautiful. Glad to see you back
on the show. So they are monster fans beautiful feet
of Instagram and they screenshot at me because I'm worried.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
I can't believe you posted that.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Because I'm wearing high heels today so I can easily
slip my high heels off. It's comfortable, so don't think
I'm a weirdo and like took my socks off.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Okay, it was just some heels.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
National High Heel Day, by the way, and you're a weirdo.
It really is.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
So trying to find it. There's so many feet. One
your algorithm is gonna be.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Beautiful underscore feet underscore, of they're gonna go crazy.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
I'm doing this underscore.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Instead of what's really gonna happen is Oh.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
But I think there's another one called beautiful feet pages.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
It's okay, I'm under Rush's search and it's gonna get bombarded.
Speaker 5 (01:27):
Yeah, oh my god, you're all over this foot fetish website.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Like there's like a lot of photos.
Speaker 4 (01:33):
Just a picture of me on the hood of my car.
It's before everyone thinks I'm some feet girl.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
That's just a normal yeah, but your feet.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Normal modeling photos of me where I happen to dangling.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Look, you're in their.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Story brand new photo shoot.
Speaker 5 (01:49):
Is this your is this is not get there's.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Too much feet.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
Yeah, I'm just in my garage, just like changing the oil.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
But I'm bare Like that's just normal feeling.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Like someone would stream as soon as we put it
out there.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
But like a normal modeling photos of me where I
happen to be barefoot.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
He did that this morning then already grabbed it and
put it up on the Yeah, that's how I mean that.
But foot, by the way, what are you talking about?
I'm looking at the feet. What are you talking about? Ryan? Anyway?
And then witch to Ray Trendy, Good to see you.
How are you doing today?
Speaker 6 (02:27):
I feel like I could be making a lot more
money if I selling feet pictures.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeah, I got a buddy of mine.
Speaker 7 (02:33):
I got a buddy of mine who is like actively
going back and forth. He swear like, I haven't seen
this week. I don't know, and I'm not gonna put
him on blast, but he's like legitimately contemplating doing this
because of the of these kinds of stories. So I
know he's listening right now and this is going to
push him over the edge and he's going to start
that page.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Is this your buddy who's Knicks fan? No?
Speaker 6 (02:55):
No, nobody wants to see Pagro's. So you weren't with
this last I was not in court. I had a
family thing. I had to take care of everything. Good,
everything turned out to be. I guess, okay, yeah. You know,
anytime you go to the hospital, I wasn't there, by
the way, uh my mom. But anytime you go to
the hospital, you're never quite sure if they've actually figured
(03:17):
out the problem right if that occurred to anybody else,
But they were very nice and it was just it
was a stressful week last week. But man, the show
last Wednesday was probably I don't want to say, like
you rested, your shows are bad, but that show last Wednesday,
I'd me rolling laughing, I was dying. I was listening
on the iHeartRadio app Amy the Council. Oh yeah, she
(03:39):
was so good.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
She was really good, and I think she nailed everybody,
and we're gonna have her come tomorrow because she's going
to she's going to evaluate Daisy del Toro.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
I'm afraid you might break her.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
And then we're gonna bring her next Tuesday for Angelique
and then I want to see when you get her
to come back.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
And Amber Air.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Should be a studio.
Speaker 7 (04:02):
She'll sit in here with you, and I just want
to urge everybody, like Ray was saying, go back in
the podcast or even the YouTube. And it's during the
kod segment that we first get to meet her, and
she starts with Ryan Russ keeps her on for a
second segment and then she ends up analyzing all of
us and we're all kind of dumbfounded, and uh, that's
what kicked them all off. So if you can get
an idea of her personality, I absolutely recommend it.
Speaker 6 (04:23):
I mean, I listen to you guys a lot anyway
when I'm driving around and doing all the lawyer business stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
But when I was in the hospital room, I'm just
like hanging out. It's just like, yeah, I was just
I was.
Speaker 6 (04:34):
Laughing out loud, which is not a place where you
normally laugh out loud.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
That's not a good place. This is this crazy guy.
It was.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
It was a great segment. How do you think she's
gonna do with with Amber?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Who? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (04:50):
I do like Amber, so I want to be nice.
Excuse me, I think, Uh, I don't think Amber. Is
that hard to read?
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Yeah, I don't need it.
Speaker 6 (04:59):
I think I think think it's a two page book,
but it's okay.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Yeah, and it's written in pray on, but it's more
of a pamphlet, really, more of a pamphlet. Little Daisy
will be the challenge, I.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
Think, Daker Daisy my breaker Ray when Yeah, I mean,
you do you do divorces? You know, you try to
get people back together a batter their business, but you
do divorces. Can is the counselor ever, like part of
the divorce, Like yeah, is it?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
So? Like how does that work?
Speaker 5 (05:31):
Because like when you we normally talk to a therapist
unless you're like planning on murdering somebody. Right, there's like
a patient client privileged kind of thing. But does the
same apply in a couple's counseling.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (05:44):
Uh, it applies to the couple as opposed to the individual.
But I'll tell you a case I've got going on
right now. There's a really large element of course of
control that's going on in the relationship. The wife is
say what that is for dumb people like me? Oh,
let me, hich I dumb it down?
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Coercive coercive control? What does that make?
Speaker 6 (06:04):
So when we're in relationships, we all develop these dynamics,
and one of those dynamics that can sometimes happen is
one person has more power, more influence, more money, and
they use that to get the other person to do
what they want them to do. Oh my wife does that. Yeah,
obviously it's not working because you shaved your head. She
likes it, that's what she said. That's a thing interesting, Uh,
(06:30):
coming out like a baby.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (06:35):
So, So the idea of course of control is that
people use that power influence control over the person and
over time they lose like their will to fight back.
And so it's a it's a really it's a cycle. Right,
So it's a pervasive problem.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
So the therapist comes in and be like, hey, I've
been in the counseling with both of them, and this
is a thing.
Speaker 6 (06:55):
So so for this one in particular, I've asked the
person to if I could talk to their actual counselor
it's her individual counselor, because that's how she realized that
she was in this controlling relationship. She was seventeen, he
was twenty four. Like there's an age difference that you know,
she basically left her parents' house into.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
This guy's house.
Speaker 6 (07:13):
Yeah, And so in this case, I'm working with the
therapist to build a plan so that she has not
just a fall you know, fallback plan of like where
to go, how to survive, how to take care of herself,
but also an emotional plan of like she's got to
rebuild her identity after this relationship because you know, for
(07:33):
the last x years she's been with this person.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
It's also used in domestic violence cases, right.
Speaker 6 (07:37):
Oh yeah, I mean it's there's a lot of overlap
between those two concepts. Doesn't necessarily mean somebody who's using
course of control is always gonna be violent, but a
lot of it's like emotional manipulation, you know, controlling your feelings,
your fears. You know, you can't live without me. I've
got the money, like you think you could survive without me,
stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Right as a lawyer of do you take it more
personal when you have case like that?
Speaker 6 (08:01):
Oh yeah, yeah, so uh so you guys were talking
about trauma and fears and kind of opened up some
trauma on fear for me when I was driving. Good
time to have those reflection reflections have trauma.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Yeah, for sure, for sure, that's where it all comes from.
Speaker 6 (08:18):
And so like for me, like my biggest fear is
like letting the people I care about down. And I
take my job incredibly seriously and very personal, and so
like some people are like, oh, you know, leave you know,
leave it home. We don't think about it. Like that's
not me. Like I'm like, I'm like Batman in a way,
Like he's thinking about the guys that murder his parents
and then he just beats a bunch of people up.
(08:38):
That's kind of what I do in the courtroom, Like
I take all my life trauma and all my anger
and I'm like, this guy's going down.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
That's that's cathartic for you, one hundred percent.
Speaker 6 (08:48):
And so sometimes I have to like and I've got
people in my office who will be like, oh right,
you're going a little too far, and so they'll check
me a little bit.
Speaker 5 (08:56):
But what is it like coming off a trial where
you won? Because is it? Is it like when I
do a stand upset hero it's really good? Like yeah,
I'm like high for like two days, so that it
works the same way for lawyers one hundred percent, And
there's a huge down afterwards, and you're like, I gotta
get another one of these.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (09:13):
So it's definitely there's definitely a really significant high.
Speaker 5 (09:17):
Which do you think is harder for your family to
deal with? Like when you're coming up, when you're when
you're high and you're coming or like you took the loss.
I mean, which version of ray is easier do you
think for your wife and children to do with?
Speaker 1 (09:27):
My wife has never seen me lose.
Speaker 6 (09:32):
Uh Here's what I'll say, I think because of coping mechanisms,
when I lose I'm very grumpy, but I have like
a way of like dealing with it that I think
is fairly healthy. Uh, my office will know because it's
usually like the drive back to the office. I'll call
the office and the big house how things going, And
like they'll they'll be able to read between the lines
and they're like, all right, well, like let's have cake
(09:53):
in the office for Ray when he comes back.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
But hey, I have a cake. This might be a
silly question, but have you ever lost one?
Speaker 3 (10:03):
You're like, well, I was supposed to lose that one,
like yeah, like like my client was really wrong and
I did my best, but early they were supposed to lose,
and I wouldn't feel bad about that one.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
So it's just about mitigating, right, It's about like losing
as little as you can.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
My last big criminal case, because my last criminal case
was like a simple salt case and it was easy.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
It was a trial.
Speaker 6 (10:22):
But my last my last big criminal case was one
where to this day and it's now been like thirteen
or fourteen years, I don't know if my client was
actually innocent, right, And so we lost on one of
the many counts. But it was like looking at life
in prison and they got six months in jail.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Oh wow. And so like the one the one count we.
Speaker 6 (10:47):
Lost on it was like, uh, well, we know this
person's not a good person, so like we're gonna punish
them somehow. And to this day, like I know, I
probably shouldn't have won that trial at all. But and
actually the other attorney, the state attorney who was prosecuting,
and I became strangely friends to this really messed up trial.
(11:08):
But I don't really feel bad about it because I
I don't know, I don't know. And so but I
stopped doing criminal law because of it. I was just
kind of, uh, changed my perspective. I had kids at
the time, and I was like, yeah, I don't know
if these are the best decisions I've been making. So
I've got a very good friend of mine who does
criminal defense work, and good for.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Him, but it's just those over to him. I passed
those over to him. For those who don't know, Ray
Tranly does family law so you know, you know, get
in your estate together, all that kind of stuff and divorce.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
That's kind of your your your your main thing, right.
Speaker 6 (11:38):
I just here's why when people ask me like what
I do, Like I want to be a problem solver
in the courtroom or out of the courtroom. So most
of what we do is family law, state planning, you know,
business planning, things like that. But if you're like, hey,
I've got this issue with my neighbor, how do I
solve it? Like, I want to help you solve that problem.
That that feeds my min insecurity of like not being needed,
(11:58):
Like that feeds me to help you.
Speaker 7 (12:00):
Just to give you, guys an idea. Ray was very
helpful in a family friend be able to get his
car back. Yeah, and kind of we never really talked
about it, but I reached out to him. I put
Ray in contact with the family friend and was able
to know he had an awesome convertible forget it, but
a classic car car. Yeah, it was being held in
(12:21):
a garage in Sanford and right through Ray's help through
that he was able to get the car back.
Speaker 6 (12:27):
And also one of my favorite couples. I just they're
really great people. They're really awesome.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
Here's the texting service check in and said, hey, monsters,
could you ask Ray if there's a way to directly
get hold of him and contact him because my dad
wants to do some estate planning.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
How do they get directly in contact with you? Not
like you know.
Speaker 6 (12:44):
So if you call my office and you asked to
speak with Ange, she's my assistant. So that's for zero
seven eight three four four seven, or maybe Ryan can
post it in YouTube. But my emails are trendly at
One Firm Forlife dot com, so that those are the
two way is to get directly with me. But if
you go to my website and you submit a free
(13:04):
case evaluation and you say, hey, I was talking to
Ray on the radio today, they'll, I mean with my
intake team every single day, so they'll get you straight
to me.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
It's One Firm Forlife dot com. That's One Firm Forlife
dot com. All right, we have some divorce stuff to
talk about. Talk about it when we come back. Don't
go anywhere. You're listening to the mantras in the morning.
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You gotta cook. This is the last week of it,
so good luck. We'd love to see you win one
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too oh two more today today. Get out there, yeah,
I'd like that.
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(14:00):
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Speaker 3 (14:55):
You know what, I can get you some monster whiskey,
all right, Well, just you know sometimes we go to
these events. Monster whiskeys helps. I know, yeah, yeah, yeah,
you know what I did. I haven't talked to that
guy in a long time, and I haven't invited him yet,
to be honest with you, So I mean, well, if not,
you know, but I can get you something. Yeah, and
I know that Daisy will be out there with her tequila,
(15:16):
uh tequila, so they might bring some of the whiskey.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Ban cool.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
But so okay, so I saw here you sent me
some some of the stories that you want to chat about,
and there were one thing called, uh, the marriage premium
is real?
Speaker 6 (15:31):
What is that? What is the marriage and the premium?
So this is this is my, I think, my favorite
piece of research. Okay, so Russ, I don't know if
you've ever thought this before, but you might be the
smartest person in this room.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
Well okay, two rooms. I think that all the time.
But yeah, you've heard you've thought that before.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Tell him.
Speaker 6 (15:51):
So they've done a study and it's actually a compilation
of three studies, so they're combining all the data. So
when you do that, you don't necessarily always get the
most best causation, but the facts from the study, the
underlying information is so interesting. So when men are married,
(16:14):
they make more money, they're happier, they live longer, and
they've got less mental health issues.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
I can believe that because they need a woman to
take care of them.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Women not the same significance.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
That's what you mean? Then I'm really doing great?
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Sure, yes, you're doing fantastic.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Amber you meant like being single, Yeah that's not married?
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Yeah, yeah, for sure, you're doing great.
Speaker 6 (16:42):
But h So there's this U So they did this
research and comes it comes back that for men that
are married that they are happier, they live longer, they
make more money, and and you know, so there's there's
the emotional connection part of it, you know, which Amber is.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
So astute too. I think he's kidding you. But they
make on average almost fifteen percent more than single men.
Speaker 7 (17:14):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (17:15):
Some people reported up to like twenty five percent more.
Uh they have they spend less money. Surprisingly, they spend
less money being married. So men spend less money when
they're married. Yeap, Yeah, I believe that. Yeah, because they're
not taking girls on dates.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I guess maybe. I don't know. Rh Yeah, I got
the cow for free, got the milk for free. You
don't get the cow for the cow. You get the
milk for free. Sorry. By the way, whys hate it
when you make that analogy?
Speaker 4 (17:42):
Right?
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Yeah, it doesn't go because there's the cow in that situation.
But they get used to it. Uh.
Speaker 3 (17:49):
They live on average, uh two and a half years longer.
So it's better for men to be married than it
is for women. Yeah, yeah, one hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
That's incredibly sad, and it's probably because we're super annoying, right,
I don't know if that's the case so much.
Speaker 6 (18:07):
But I think we are a species that requires community
and that we need to have somebody to share experiences.
Speaker 3 (18:16):
Think about this, when you're a single guy, right, you're
you're a single You're on the hunt. You're going out
with your guys look for a girl. While we're going
to the bar. We're gonna find a girl. What are
you gonna do. We're gonna find women anyway, And you're
always concerned about trying to find a woman, right, it's
it's your it's what happens. And then when you have
a girl, you don't think about that. You're thinking about, Okay,
let's let's be happy together, let's do this. You feel
more calm, at least at least I do. I'll speak
(18:37):
for myself. Uh So, I think that has a lot
to do with it. As men, you're always on the
hunt women, I don't think. I don't think Amber's on
the hunt?
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Are you? I don't know.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Oh, she's smiling, okay, Right, So when you're single, your thought,
your every thought.
Speaker 6 (18:56):
Is that I need a guy, right, I don't know
why she looked at me and started laughing when she said.
Speaker 4 (19:00):
I don't that's the thing. I don't need a guy.
So if I choose a guy, I choose you.
Speaker 2 (19:05):
I don't need you.
Speaker 4 (19:07):
I take care of myself and pay my own bills.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
That's not the question.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
The question is when you're single, are you thinking about
I want to Do.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
I want a guy?
Speaker 1 (19:18):
I do?
Speaker 4 (19:19):
Go out to cowboys and I go dancing with friends.
Am I going out to bars dancing with my friends
looking for a guy? No?
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Do I eventually yes? Want a guy? Yes?
Speaker 1 (19:27):
But do you drink more and dance more when you're
single than you are when you're with a person.
Speaker 4 (19:32):
If I'm happy and I'm in love, I'm probably drinking
more when I'm happy and I'm she's dying early. I'm
dying early because I'm happy and I'm in love, while
he's living longer.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
No, So the marriage premium basically means that that you're
men more than benefits women. Huh but hell yeah, but
men don't get enough stuff. Men don't get enough stuff.
Why why do they have benefits men more?
Speaker 1 (20:00):
Ryan?
Speaker 5 (20:01):
Well, Hey, you're exactly right. I pay way less for
my wife now that she's married, which is nice. Yeah,
and then she keeps me alive like I got a
colon Oscarby appointment. That's only because she right. Yeah, I
had to reschedule it, so now it's in two weeks.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
But Ryan digs him so much, he's doing a month.
Speaker 5 (20:19):
I love I just love them so fun. That juice
is delicious. But like all of that stuff, like I
because of my wife, I go to the dentist and
I'm getting Colonoscarby's done.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
So it's keeping me alive long and as.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
Far as work and stuff, like, I feel much better
like when I when I'm married and happy and everything
is good at home, I can come in and do
the show and have fun. But when I'm not and
I'm thinking about, oh oh god, I got I got
nothing to do that, I gotta go go. I gotta
find a date. I gotta go. Like I'm not thinking
about the show. I'm not thinking about my work. I'm
thinking about I'm single. I hate being single. I gotta
go find somebody. Oh you know, it's interesting. I just
(20:51):
I just connected some doubts here. Do you think that
you focus on your wife so much and then your
compulsions go down, like you're like less compulsive to like
I have to clean after organize, I have to get
the show ready because like, I'm happy. I don't have
to worry about this. My wife does most of them.
I made her retire because I needed sandwiches and clean.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Is that why you made her retire?
Speaker 3 (21:07):
No, she was, she was She was struggling with how
much work she had to do, and it was it
was hard.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
Real question.
Speaker 5 (21:14):
Now, when when somebody retires, what is the effect on
a relationship? Does it raise or lower your risk of divorce? Oh?
Speaker 1 (21:24):
I think again.
Speaker 3 (21:26):
My world is skewed right, so like people generally come
talk to me when their relationships are not great. That's
why Christina and I always are on the phone. I
thought you guys were talking about Love Island. We were
talking about Love Island, how she wants to be there.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (21:44):
I think retirement is hard because it's a transition. And
anytime there's a transition, whether it's like going from children
in the house, the children out of the house, or retirement,
it requires both parties to make adjustments.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
And sometimes one person wants to go left and the
other person wants to go right. And sometimes the solution
is simple, right, go get a hobby, get out of
the house.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (22:08):
I've had a family, extended family where the man, the
man of the household, retires, comes home and is around,
and within a year or two there were they were divorced.
And it was because, like what you just said, it
completely changed the dynamic of it. And uh, they weren't
like communicating well in a sense of like he's like, well,
I'm home now, I just get to sit around and
(22:30):
not do anything. And she's like, oh, wait a minute, no,
this is this you know, this is our home.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
This is our home.
Speaker 7 (22:35):
This has been a machine, this has been going and everything,
and so like sometimes they don't acclimate with each other.
Speaker 6 (22:41):
For me, like when I'm home like multiple days in
a row, like when I had COVID, but like I
didn't have like the symptoms of COVID. I just had
it and I couldn't go to work. I had like
one hundred projects I try to start around the house.
So I was like, I'm gonna clean the garage, I'm
gonna like read through the bathroom. And I know that
we're tired. Ray would drive my wife crazy, and so
(23:05):
we've already discussed it. And I'm nowhere close to a
retirement age, but we've already discussed I'm not allowed to
retire and stay home because my wife would murder me.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
It would just happen.
Speaker 3 (23:15):
And I probably should clarify when when I said I
had Mary Ellen retire, retire from being a paramedic, because
because she actually has already gotten an offer to teach
out at Valencia and she might do that. Yeah, but
as far as being a paramedic getting up at six
in the morning, you got to carry that that big
bag around the convention center all day.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Her hips bothering her.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
Now, I mean she's got a problem, but some other
injuries that have happened from being a paramedic, the PTSD,
Like she's retired from being a paramedic.
Speaker 1 (23:43):
If she wants to do something else, she's you know,
like make sandwiches. I had a sandwich for me waiting
when I got home yesterday. That's amazing.
Speaker 3 (23:50):
She's making like because she's like, I'm not working, so
she feels like she has to make me these great
dinners and this. So I aid your loving retirement.
Speaker 5 (23:59):
Yeah, yeah, I'm afraid to retire, Like I know this
about me, and it's it's kind of to what Angel's
point was, like, I'm great in short bursts and the
the in a lot of different ways, right, but like
in the way that mine and my wife's schedule lines up.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
We're actually not around each other that much.
Speaker 5 (24:20):
Like it's only really for like two hours at the
end of the day and then like Saturdays and Sundays,
but even Saturdays I work, so mostly just Sunday. And
I have this fear that like an of me would
become a lot if I if I, if I quit.
And I bet that happens to a lot of people
where they realize like something their partner's either super boring.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Or they suck.
Speaker 3 (24:41):
Well, at least you're aware, Yeah, at least therapy yesterday, guys,
I'm feeling good.
Speaker 6 (24:47):
I'm with you there though on that short bursts make
me a good time. It's the longer, deeper relationships that
I UH struggle with.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
So if people want to get hold of you once again,
directly hold of you for there. It is family law
to get you know, to get their all their stuff
together for retirement or whatever it is. How do they
get hold of you? One firm for life dot com.
Go on into our website. You can submit a free
KSE evaluation or you a Please call our office at
four zero seven eight three four four eight four seven.
Speaker 6 (25:17):
And then you'll be with us on June fifth. I
will be with you on June fifth. I don't know
exactly what I'll be doing. I will not be bringing
any footline, but yeah, we'll figure something out.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Just you know, just like talking to people. They can
take photos with selfies. Selfie say hey, you know, and
you're part of the monster universe. I love it.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
I appreciate you guys, including me of course.
Speaker 5 (25:34):
Man.
Speaker 3 (25:34):
Yeah, yeah, that once again. That's June fifth. You can
get your tickets by going to real Radiomonsters dot com.
That's real radiomasters dot com. Stay tuned. You're listening to
the Monsters in the morning.
So Hammer, did you show Angel that?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
No, No, I haven't showed him yet.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
Remember I get left out of a bunch of I'm trying.
You just want to hear yelling this.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
So some foot fetish website got got photos of her
this morning when she popped her feet up on the
air and put them on our YouTube channel, and now
her her feet are going viral from some foot fetish website.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
I'm gonna put up on my phone and put it
in front of the camera.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
What does it say? Read it?
Speaker 2 (00:30):
What is feet Amber?
Speaker 4 (00:32):
It's beautiful feet of Instagram is the page.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
And they say, wait a minute, that's somebody that was.
Speaker 4 (00:39):
Amber is way too kind to us, Amber and her
feet always looks so beautiful. Glad to see you back
on the show. So they are monster fans beautiful feet
of Instagram and they screenshot at me because I'm worried.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
I can't believe you posted that.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Because I'm wearing high heels today so I can easily
slip my high heels off. It's comfortable, so don't think
I'm a weirdo and like took my socks off.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Okay, it was just some heels.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
National High Heel Day, by the way, and you're a weirdo.
It really is.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
So trying to find it. There's so many feet. One
your algorithm is gonna be.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Beautiful underscore feet underscore, of they're gonna go crazy.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
I'm doing this underscore.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Instead of what's really gonna happen is Oh.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
But I think there's another one called beautiful feet pages.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
It's okay, I'm under Rush's search and it's gonna get bombarded.
Speaker 5 (01:27):
Yeah, oh my god, you're all over this foot fetish website.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Like there's like a lot of photos.
Speaker 4 (01:33):
Just a picture of me on the hood of my car.
It's before everyone thinks I'm some feet girl.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
That's just a normal yeah, but your feet.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Normal modeling photos of me where I happen to dangling.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Look, you're in their.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Story brand new photo shoot.
Speaker 5 (01:49):
Is this your is this is not get there's.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Too much feet.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
Yeah, I'm just in my garage, just like changing the oil.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
But I'm bare Like that's just normal feeling.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Like someone would stream as soon as we put it
out there.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
But like a normal modeling photos of me where I
happen to be barefoot.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
He did that this morning then already grabbed it and
put it up on the Yeah, that's how I mean that.
But foot, by the way, what are you talking about?
I'm looking at the feet. What are you talking about? Ryan? Anyway?
And then witch to Ray Trendy, Good to see you.
How are you doing today?
Speaker 6 (02:27):
I feel like I could be making a lot more
money if I selling feet pictures.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeah, I got a buddy of mine.
Speaker 7 (02:33):
I got a buddy of mine who is like actively
going back and forth. He swear like, I haven't seen
this week. I don't know, and I'm not gonna put
him on blast, but he's like legitimately contemplating doing this
because of the of these kinds of stories. So I
know he's listening right now and this is going to
push him over the edge and he's going to start
that page.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Is this your buddy who's Knicks fan? No?
Speaker 6 (02:55):
No, nobody wants to see Pagro's. So you weren't with
this last I was not in court. I had a
family thing. I had to take care of everything. Good,
everything turned out to be. I guess, okay, yeah. You know,
anytime you go to the hospital, I wasn't there, by
the way, uh my mom. But anytime you go to
the hospital, you're never quite sure if they've actually figured
(03:17):
out the problem right if that occurred to anybody else,
But they were very nice and it was just it
was a stressful week last week. But man, the show
last Wednesday was probably I don't want to say, like
you rested, your shows are bad, but that show last Wednesday,
I'd me rolling laughing, I was dying. I was listening
on the iHeartRadio app Amy the Council. Oh yeah, she
(03:39):
was so good.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
She was really good, and I think she nailed everybody,
and we're gonna have her come tomorrow because she's going
to she's going to evaluate Daisy del Toro.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
I'm afraid you might break her.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
And then we're gonna bring her next Tuesday for Angelique
and then I want to see when you get her
to come back.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
And Amber Air.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Should be a studio.
Speaker 7 (04:02):
She'll sit in here with you, and I just want
to urge everybody, like Ray was saying, go back in
the podcast or even the YouTube. And it's during the
kod segment that we first get to meet her, and
she starts with Ryan Russ keeps her on for a
second segment and then she ends up analyzing all of
us and we're all kind of dumbfounded, and uh, that's
what kicked them all off. So if you can get
an idea of her personality, I absolutely recommend it.
Speaker 6 (04:23):
I mean, I listen to you guys a lot anyway
when I'm driving around and doing all the lawyer business stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
But when I was in the hospital room, I'm just
like hanging out. It's just like, yeah, I was just
I was.
Speaker 6 (04:34):
Laughing out loud, which is not a place where you
normally laugh out loud.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
That's not a good place. This is this crazy guy.
It was.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
It was a great segment. How do you think she's
gonna do with with Amber?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Who? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (04:50):
I do like Amber, so I want to be nice.
Excuse me, I think, Uh, I don't think Amber. Is
that hard to read?
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Yeah, I don't need it.
Speaker 6 (04:59):
I think I think think it's a two page book,
but it's okay.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Yeah, and it's written in pray on, but it's more
of a pamphlet, really, more of a pamphlet. Little Daisy
will be the challenge, I.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
Think, Daker Daisy my breaker Ray when Yeah, I mean,
you do you do divorces? You know, you try to
get people back together a batter their business, but you
do divorces. Can is the counselor ever, like part of
the divorce, Like yeah, is it?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
So? Like how does that work?
Speaker 5 (05:31):
Because like when you we normally talk to a therapist
unless you're like planning on murdering somebody. Right, there's like
a patient client privileged kind of thing. But does the
same apply in a couple's counseling.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (05:44):
Uh, it applies to the couple as opposed to the individual.
But I'll tell you a case I've got going on
right now. There's a really large element of course of
control that's going on in the relationship. The wife is
say what that is for dumb people like me? Oh,
let me, hich I dumb it down?
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Coercive coercive control? What does that make?
Speaker 6 (06:04):
So when we're in relationships, we all develop these dynamics,
and one of those dynamics that can sometimes happen is
one person has more power, more influence, more money, and
they use that to get the other person to do
what they want them to do. Oh my wife does that. Yeah,
obviously it's not working because you shaved your head. She
likes it, that's what she said. That's a thing interesting, Uh,
(06:30):
coming out like a baby.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (06:35):
So, So the idea of course of control is that
people use that power influence control over the person and
over time they lose like their will to fight back.
And so it's a it's a really it's a cycle. Right,
So it's a pervasive problem.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
So the therapist comes in and be like, hey, I've
been in the counseling with both of them, and this
is a thing.
Speaker 6 (06:55):
So so for this one in particular, I've asked the
person to if I could talk to their actual counselor
it's her individual counselor, because that's how she realized that
she was in this controlling relationship. She was seventeen, he
was twenty four. Like there's an age difference that you know,
she basically left her parents' house into.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
This guy's house.
Speaker 6 (07:13):
Yeah, And so in this case, I'm working with the
therapist to build a plan so that she has not
just a fall you know, fallback plan of like where
to go, how to survive, how to take care of herself,
but also an emotional plan of like she's got to
rebuild her identity after this relationship because you know, for
(07:33):
the last x years she's been with this person.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
It's also used in domestic violence cases, right.
Speaker 6 (07:37):
Oh yeah, I mean it's there's a lot of overlap
between those two concepts. Doesn't necessarily mean somebody who's using
course of control is always gonna be violent, but a
lot of it's like emotional manipulation, you know, controlling your feelings,
your fears. You know, you can't live without me. I've
got the money, like you think you could survive without me,
stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Right as a lawyer of do you take it more
personal when you have case like that?
Speaker 6 (08:01):
Oh yeah, yeah, so uh so you guys were talking
about trauma and fears and kind of opened up some
trauma on fear for me when I was driving. Good
time to have those reflection reflections have trauma.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Yeah, for sure, for sure, that's where it all comes from.
Speaker 6 (08:18):
And so like for me, like my biggest fear is
like letting the people I care about down. And I
take my job incredibly seriously and very personal, and so
like some people are like, oh, you know, leave you know,
leave it home. We don't think about it. Like that's
not me. Like I'm like, I'm like Batman in a way,
Like he's thinking about the guys that murder his parents
and then he just beats a bunch of people up.
(08:38):
That's kind of what I do in the courtroom, Like
I take all my life trauma and all my anger
and I'm like, this guy's going down.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
That's that's cathartic for you, one hundred percent.
Speaker 6 (08:48):
And so sometimes I have to like and I've got
people in my office who will be like, oh right,
you're going a little too far, and so they'll check
me a little bit.
Speaker 5 (08:56):
But what is it like coming off a trial where
you won? Because is it? Is it like when I
do a stand upset hero it's really good? Like yeah,
I'm like high for like two days, so that it
works the same way for lawyers one hundred percent, And
there's a huge down afterwards, and you're like, I gotta
get another one of these.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (09:13):
So it's definitely there's definitely a really significant high.
Speaker 5 (09:17):
Which do you think is harder for your family to
deal with? Like when you're coming up, when you're when
you're high and you're coming or like you took the loss.
I mean, which version of ray is easier do you
think for your wife and children to do with?
Speaker 1 (09:27):
My wife has never seen me lose.
Speaker 6 (09:32):
Uh Here's what I'll say, I think because of coping mechanisms,
when I lose I'm very grumpy, but I have like
a way of like dealing with it that I think
is fairly healthy. Uh, my office will know because it's
usually like the drive back to the office. I'll call
the office and the big house how things going, And
like they'll they'll be able to read between the lines
and they're like, all right, well, like let's have cake
(09:53):
in the office for Ray when he comes back.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
But hey, I have a cake. This might be a
silly question, but have you ever lost one?
Speaker 3 (10:03):
You're like, well, I was supposed to lose that one,
like yeah, like like my client was really wrong and
I did my best, but early they were supposed to lose,
and I wouldn't feel bad about that one.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
So it's just about mitigating, right, It's about like losing
as little as you can.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
My last big criminal case, because my last criminal case
was like a simple salt case and it was easy.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
It was a trial.
Speaker 6 (10:22):
But my last my last big criminal case was one
where to this day and it's now been like thirteen
or fourteen years, I don't know if my client was
actually innocent, right, And so we lost on one of
the many counts. But it was like looking at life
in prison and they got six months in jail.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Oh wow. And so like the one the one count we.
Speaker 6 (10:47):
Lost on it was like, uh, well, we know this
person's not a good person, so like we're gonna punish
them somehow. And to this day, like I know, I
probably shouldn't have won that trial at all. But and
actually the other attorney, the state attorney who was prosecuting,
and I became strangely friends to this really messed up trial.
(11:08):
But I don't really feel bad about it because I
I don't know, I don't know. And so but I
stopped doing criminal law because of it. I was just
kind of, uh, changed my perspective. I had kids at
the time, and I was like, yeah, I don't know
if these are the best decisions I've been making. So
I've got a very good friend of mine who does
criminal defense work, and good for.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Him, but it's just those over to him. I passed
those over to him. For those who don't know, Ray
Tranly does family law so you know, you know, get
in your estate together, all that kind of stuff and divorce.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
That's kind of your your your your main thing, right.
Speaker 6 (11:38):
I just here's why when people ask me like what
I do, Like I want to be a problem solver
in the courtroom or out of the courtroom. So most
of what we do is family law, state planning, you know,
business planning, things like that. But if you're like, hey,
I've got this issue with my neighbor, how do I
solve it? Like, I want to help you solve that problem.
That that feeds my min insecurity of like not being needed,
(11:58):
Like that feeds me to help you.
Speaker 7 (12:00):
Just to give you, guys an idea. Ray was very
helpful in a family friend be able to get his
car back. Yeah, and kind of we never really talked
about it, but I reached out to him. I put
Ray in contact with the family friend and was able
to know he had an awesome convertible forget it, but
a classic car car. Yeah, it was being held in
(12:21):
a garage in Sanford and right through Ray's help through
that he was able to get the car back.
Speaker 6 (12:27):
And also one of my favorite couples. I just they're
really great people. They're really awesome.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
Here's the texting service check in and said, hey, monsters,
could you ask Ray if there's a way to directly
get hold of him and contact him because my dad
wants to do some estate planning.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
How do they get directly in contact with you? Not
like you know.
Speaker 6 (12:44):
So if you call my office and you asked to
speak with Ange, she's my assistant. So that's for zero
seven eight three four four seven, or maybe Ryan can
post it in YouTube. But my emails are trendly at
One Firm Forlife dot com, so that those are the
two way is to get directly with me. But if
you go to my website and you submit a free
(13:04):
case evaluation and you say, hey, I was talking to
Ray on the radio today, they'll, I mean with my
intake team every single day, so they'll get you straight
to me.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
It's One Firm Forlife dot com. That's One Firm Forlife
dot com. All right, we have some divorce stuff to
talk about. Talk about it when we come back. Don't
go anywhere. You're listening to the mantras in the morning.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Welcome back. There you go. That's your keyword win w
I N. You plug that in over real Radio dot FM.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
You gotta cook. This is the last week of it,
so good luck. We'd love to see you win one
thousand dollars. We had two winners yesterday, so it is
too oh two more today today. Get out there, yeah,
I'd like that.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
By the way, when we remind you that on June
the fifth, it's Monsters Live at Night in Mouldra rated
Triple R. It's uncensored, it's it's sponsored by you know,
Mills Air. We appreciate that. Also, I want to remind
you that we have the house band is Bad Santa
and the Angry Elves. All of us are gonna be there,
and beforehand there's a big sealthie free party. You know,
(14:00):
when we did the tour with the bus tour, you know,
for the Monster brewbus, I realized people love taking selfies.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
Yeah, sure, and so.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
I thought, if we just get everybody that we can
think of that's in the Monster universe out there, they
could take selfies with you know, we got Miguel Cologne's
gonna be out there, Jeff Howll's going to be performing
on next the one, and Bernova and I invited to
Ray Trendley because people here ray with us every week.
So you're gonna come out and come out and you
don't mind if people take selfies with you.
Speaker 6 (14:25):
And I might be wearing flip flops and you guys
can take pictures of my feet.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
I don't know whatever you wanted to tell you. We
got a fingertoe game the Mouth of the South.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
Jimmy Hart's coming out, Christy Martin's gonna be there. Of
course Bo's gonna be out there with us. Uh, Tiffany
is gonna come out. We got a bunch of people
from the Monster Universe and some other surprise folks that
are going to show up. So get your tickets for
June fifth. They're on sale right now. If you go
to real radiomonsters dot com and just click on the
graphic you see, it'll take you right to the place where.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
You're gonna be a monster whiskey. Uh.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
You know what, I can get you some monster whiskey,
all right, Well, just you know sometimes we go to
these events. Monster whiskeys helps. I know, yeah, yeah, yeah,
you know what I did. I haven't talked to that
guy in a long time, and I haven't invited him yet,
to be honest with you, So I mean, well, if not,
you know, but I can get you something. Yeah, and
I know that Daisy will be out there with her tequila,
(15:16):
uh tequila, so they might bring some of the whiskey.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Ban cool.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
But so okay, so I saw here you sent me
some some of the stories that you want to chat about,
and there were one thing called, uh, the marriage premium
is real?
Speaker 6 (15:31):
What is that? What is the marriage and the premium?
So this is this is my, I think, my favorite
piece of research. Okay, so Russ, I don't know if
you've ever thought this before, but you might be the
smartest person in this room.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
Well okay, two rooms. I think that all the time.
But yeah, you've heard you've thought that before.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Tell him.
Speaker 6 (15:51):
So they've done a study and it's actually a compilation
of three studies, so they're combining all the data. So
when you do that, you don't necessarily always get the
most best causation, but the facts from the study, the
underlying information is so interesting. So when men are married,
(16:14):
they make more money, they're happier, they live longer, and
they've got less mental health issues.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
I can believe that because they need a woman to
take care of them.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Women not the same significance.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
That's what you mean? Then I'm really doing great?
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Sure, yes, you're doing fantastic.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Amber you meant like being single, Yeah that's not married?
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Yeah, yeah, for sure, you're doing great.
Speaker 6 (16:42):
But h So there's this U So they did this
research and comes it comes back that for men that
are married that they are happier, they live longer, they
make more money, and and you know, so there's there's
the emotional connection part of it, you know, which Amber is.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
So astute too. I think he's kidding you. But they
make on average almost fifteen percent more than single men.
Speaker 7 (17:14):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (17:15):
Some people reported up to like twenty five percent more.
Uh they have they spend less money. Surprisingly, they spend
less money being married. So men spend less money when
they're married. Yeap, Yeah, I believe that. Yeah, because they're
not taking girls on dates.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I guess maybe. I don't know. Rh Yeah, I got
the cow for free, got the milk for free. You
don't get the cow for the cow. You get the
milk for free. Sorry. By the way, whys hate it
when you make that analogy?
Speaker 4 (17:42):
Right?
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Yeah, it doesn't go because there's the cow in that situation.
But they get used to it. Uh.
Speaker 3 (17:49):
They live on average, uh two and a half years longer.
So it's better for men to be married than it
is for women. Yeah, yeah, one hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
That's incredibly sad, and it's probably because we're super annoying, right,
I don't know if that's the case so much.
Speaker 6 (18:07):
But I think we are a species that requires community
and that we need to have somebody to share experiences.
Speaker 3 (18:16):
Think about this, when you're a single guy, right, you're
you're a single You're on the hunt. You're going out
with your guys look for a girl. While we're going
to the bar. We're gonna find a girl. What are
you gonna do. We're gonna find women anyway, And you're
always concerned about trying to find a woman, right, it's
it's your it's what happens. And then when you have
a girl, you don't think about that. You're thinking about, Okay,
let's let's be happy together, let's do this. You feel
more calm, at least at least I do. I'll speak
(18:37):
for myself. Uh So, I think that has a lot
to do with it. As men, you're always on the
hunt women, I don't think. I don't think Amber's on
the hunt?
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Are you? I don't know.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Oh, she's smiling, okay, Right, So when you're single, your thought,
your every thought.
Speaker 6 (18:56):
Is that I need a guy, right, I don't know
why she looked at me and started laughing when she said.
Speaker 4 (19:00):
I don't that's the thing. I don't need a guy.
So if I choose a guy, I choose you.
Speaker 2 (19:05):
I don't need you.
Speaker 4 (19:07):
I take care of myself and pay my own bills.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
That's not the question.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
The question is when you're single, are you thinking about
I want to Do.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
I want a guy?
Speaker 1 (19:18):
I do?
Speaker 4 (19:19):
Go out to cowboys and I go dancing with friends.
Am I going out to bars dancing with my friends
looking for a guy? No?
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Do I eventually yes? Want a guy? Yes?
Speaker 1 (19:27):
But do you drink more and dance more when you're
single than you are when you're with a person.
Speaker 4 (19:32):
If I'm happy and I'm in love, I'm probably drinking
more when I'm happy and I'm she's dying early. I'm
dying early because I'm happy and I'm in love, while
he's living longer.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
No, So the marriage premium basically means that that you're
men more than benefits women. Huh but hell yeah, but
men don't get enough stuff. Men don't get enough stuff.
Why why do they have benefits men more?
Speaker 1 (20:00):
Ryan?
Speaker 5 (20:01):
Well, Hey, you're exactly right. I pay way less for
my wife now that she's married, which is nice. Yeah,
and then she keeps me alive like I got a
colon Oscarby appointment. That's only because she right. Yeah, I
had to reschedule it, so now it's in two weeks.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
But Ryan digs him so much, he's doing a month.
Speaker 5 (20:19):
I love I just love them so fun. That juice
is delicious. But like all of that stuff, like I
because of my wife, I go to the dentist and
I'm getting Colonoscarby's done.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
So it's keeping me alive long and as.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
Far as work and stuff, like, I feel much better
like when I when I'm married and happy and everything
is good at home, I can come in and do
the show and have fun. But when I'm not and
I'm thinking about, oh oh god, I got I got
nothing to do that, I gotta go go. I gotta
find a date. I gotta go. Like I'm not thinking
about the show. I'm not thinking about my work. I'm
thinking about I'm single. I hate being single. I gotta
go find somebody. Oh you know, it's interesting. I just
(20:51):
I just connected some doubts here. Do you think that
you focus on your wife so much and then your
compulsions go down, like you're like less compulsive to like
I have to clean after organize, I have to get
the show ready because like, I'm happy. I don't have
to worry about this. My wife does most of them.
I made her retire because I needed sandwiches and clean.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Is that why you made her retire?
Speaker 3 (21:07):
No, she was, she was She was struggling with how
much work she had to do, and it was it
was hard.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
Real question.
Speaker 5 (21:14):
Now, when when somebody retires, what is the effect on
a relationship? Does it raise or lower your risk of divorce? Oh?
Speaker 1 (21:24):
I think again.
Speaker 3 (21:26):
My world is skewed right, so like people generally come
talk to me when their relationships are not great. That's
why Christina and I always are on the phone. I
thought you guys were talking about Love Island. We were
talking about Love Island, how she wants to be there.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (21:44):
I think retirement is hard because it's a transition. And
anytime there's a transition, whether it's like going from children
in the house, the children out of the house, or retirement,
it requires both parties to make adjustments.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
And sometimes one person wants to go left and the
other person wants to go right. And sometimes the solution
is simple, right, go get a hobby, get out of
the house.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (22:08):
I've had a family, extended family where the man, the
man of the household, retires, comes home and is around,
and within a year or two there were they were divorced.
And it was because, like what you just said, it
completely changed the dynamic of it. And uh, they weren't
like communicating well in a sense of like he's like, well,
I'm home now, I just get to sit around and
(22:30):
not do anything. And she's like, oh, wait a minute, no,
this is this you know, this is our home.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
This is our home.
Speaker 7 (22:35):
This has been a machine, this has been going and everything,
and so like sometimes they don't acclimate with each other.
Speaker 6 (22:41):
For me, like when I'm home like multiple days in
a row, like when I had COVID, but like I
didn't have like the symptoms of COVID. I just had
it and I couldn't go to work. I had like
one hundred projects I try to start around the house.
So I was like, I'm gonna clean the garage, I'm
gonna like read through the bathroom. And I know that
we're tired. Ray would drive my wife crazy, and so
(23:05):
we've already discussed it. And I'm nowhere close to a
retirement age, but we've already discussed I'm not allowed to
retire and stay home because my wife would murder me.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
It would just happen.
Speaker 3 (23:15):
And I probably should clarify when when I said I
had Mary Ellen retire, retire from being a paramedic, because
because she actually has already gotten an offer to teach
out at Valencia and she might do that. Yeah, but
as far as being a paramedic getting up at six
in the morning, you got to carry that that big
bag around the convention center all day.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Her hips bothering her.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
Now, I mean she's got a problem, but some other
injuries that have happened from being a paramedic, the PTSD,
Like she's retired from being a paramedic.
Speaker 1 (23:43):
If she wants to do something else, she's you know,
like make sandwiches. I had a sandwich for me waiting
when I got home yesterday. That's amazing.
Speaker 3 (23:50):
She's making like because she's like, I'm not working, so
she feels like she has to make me these great
dinners and this. So I aid your loving retirement.
Speaker 5 (23:59):
Yeah, yeah, I'm afraid to retire, Like I know this
about me, and it's it's kind of to what Angel's
point was, like, I'm great in short bursts and the
the in a lot of different ways, right, but like
in the way that mine and my wife's schedule lines up.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
We're actually not around each other that much.
Speaker 5 (24:20):
Like it's only really for like two hours at the
end of the day and then like Saturdays and Sundays,
but even Saturdays I work, so mostly just Sunday. And
I have this fear that like an of me would
become a lot if I if I, if I quit.
And I bet that happens to a lot of people
where they realize like something their partner's either super boring.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Or they suck.
Speaker 3 (24:41):
Well, at least you're aware, Yeah, at least therapy yesterday, guys,
I'm feeling good.
Speaker 6 (24:47):
I'm with you there though on that short bursts make
me a good time. It's the longer, deeper relationships that
I UH struggle with.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
So if people want to get hold of you once again,
directly hold of you for there. It is family law
to get you know, to get their all their stuff
together for retirement or whatever it is. How do they
get hold of you? One firm for life dot com.
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Speaker 6 (25:17):
And then you'll be with us on June fifth. I
will be with you on June fifth. I don't know
exactly what I'll be doing. I will not be bringing
any footline, but yeah, we'll figure something out.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Just you know, just like talking to people. They can
take photos with selfies. Selfie say hey, you know, and
you're part of the monster universe. I love it.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
I appreciate you guys, including me of course.
Speaker 5 (25:34):
Man.
Speaker 3 (25:34):
Yeah, yeah, that once again. That's June fifth. You can
get your tickets by going to real Radiomonsters dot com.
That's real radiomasters dot com. Stay tuned. You're listening to
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