June 3, 2025 • 10 mins
Rach has realised her weekends are not weekends anymore; she is an Uber driver for pretty much all of it! And why do the kids decide they're the days when they'll carry on the bad behaviour into the evening too?!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Apod Shape Production. Welcome back to another episode.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
About I a Bad Mom podcast, the podcast that continually
gives and gives and gives and a bit isn't us.
It's other people sharing their stories of parenting fails and
I guess just the ups and downs of a day
in the life of a parent.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Yeah, we love getting memes and stuff like that on Instagram. Actually,
I saw one of our friends, Karina, put something.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
On because she's in toddler phase.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Though.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Yeah, she's in a completely different phase. It's so different,
but it took me right back there.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
It was like one minute your sterilizing bottles and then
the next minute you are reasoning with your toddler about
wearing gum boots.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Oh yeah, ape bed, Yeah yeah, that is really where
she's at right now, poor thing.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Talk about where people are at.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Though. One of our friends, Christy, she makes me lol.
She's got two boys and a daughter. Her daughter is
obviously the same age as Gracie. The interactions of mum
with a teenage boy in comparison.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
To what we get because obviously you're two girls. I
got two girls.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
It's just so funny, Katie, Like, I feel like, so
she's screenshots what she chats to him about. It's almost
like that age old Sorry, sir, I didn't do my
homework because the dog ate it. That's what she gets
every day about him needing another five dollars on his
Spriggy card to buy a pie at school.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Every day.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Every day, Katie, there's a new excuse as to why
he knew nothing copied. I don't even know if he's
chat gyputeing it. It's like there is a new excuse
every single day as to why he needs the five
dollars for the same outcome, which is a pie at
the tuck shop.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
My girls do this after school as well, Like they're
always asking me for extra money, and I'm like, pack more.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Lunch, yeah, more food, yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
But every day, like there was one in there the
other day that was exactly like the dog ate my homework.
Didn't though, because if you just did what I asked,
which was pack your fucking lunchbox this morning.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
The thing that I loved, though, is that there's a
different excuse for every day, so instead of just I'm hungry,
can I have five.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Dollars for a pie?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
You would believe it. I was walking across the school
playground and a bird came out of the sky and
it took my lunchbox.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
It is like that, Katie, but every day she hits
a new one that's creative, that's very creative, creative. Am
I a bad mum for feeling like I was never
going to reach the finish line? A forty eight hour
(03:10):
bender was what I had last weekend. And I'm talking
a fun parenting bender, not anything fun. Actually would have
been longer than forty eight hours because it was Friday
through to Monday. There was so much going on in
the weekend that was so we had the normal routine
(03:30):
on the Saturday morning of like the rush between netball
from there to dropping one to the Cairo because she
had the worst headache in the world, went back to
dance pickup. Rush from dance pickup, I took them to
see that Leela and Stitch but the new movie because
I thought I was being a nice mom. Plus I
was like, I just need to sit still and just
(03:51):
decompress for a little bit.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
But then that night, Katie, on.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
A Saturday night, after a really lovely afternoon, they just
blow up at each other.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
It's like seven.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Forty five, right, I'd watched Behavior, It wasn't like me
flying off the handle.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Because one thing happened.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Elsie went over to do something near Gracie, and I
watched Gracey elbow Elsie so that she slid off the table,
you know, like when you're leaning someone and someone knocks
your arm and then you So I watched that, and
then Elsie turned around.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
She was quite teary.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Now it takes a bit to get there for else,
but she was quite teary over that. So I just
looked and went, pull your head in, Grace. Everything is
calm and nice right now, like everything had been done, dinner,
all the rest.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
It was calm. And then I turned around. Then Elsie's
at it anyway. It was like three strikes Katie.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
And then after the third strike, I was like, still
calm and preserved. I say that now, I said, you
know what, the three strikes, You're gone.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Go to your room. I don't want to hear anyone's story.
I don't need anything.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Go to your room, be quiet, read a book, decompressed,
go away from me and each other. And that's how
I stayed right centered, like no yelling, just really firm. Now,
one thing that I suck at at parent is following
through with the disciplinary part of it. Once they've apologized
or can see the light to it.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Yeah, I'm the same.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
I'm exactly the same.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
I'll throw out a punishment because I'm really angry about
something they've done something wrong, and then the minute there.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Yeah, and they're on board, reasonable and nice again.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Yeah, I'll go, Oh, that's okay, Yes, you can sit
and watch some TV with me. This particular night, I
was like, no, Rachel, it's obviously not working, so I
was like, no, go to your rooms. Plus, it was
quarter to eight. You both didn't need to behave like that.
You're both actually unkind humans to each other right now,
and that's not what we're doing.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Do you think it's tiredness that makes them more like
that because they've had a big day.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I've had a big day as well, Like Gracie dances
for like three hours in the morning, Elsie's played netball.
It's a big day, and you're coming off the back
end of like a big week at school, and they
both like have so much going on on a Friday
afternoon at school, so there's so much going on. It
was just not needed, though, Like it was really nasty
shit to each other. Anyway, that happened, Gracie comes back out,
(06:11):
and she just stepped up to the plate and she
wanted to go for it.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
She wanted to fight. She wanted to like.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Tell me everything that was wrong with me, why she
should be allowed to come back out.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
She's apologized.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I'm talking.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
Everything you can think of was thrown at me in
a conversation, and I was like, calm, calm, calm, explode fireworks.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
I said, the more you keep coming back to try
and make me change my mind, I am not.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
This is the problem.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
It went on forever, and then even that in itself, Katie,
I can't see the finishing line. I just wanted to
get into my bedroom to go away from them for
a bit, like we'd been stuck like glue all day.
Like I was like, I just need ten minutes away
from you, and now it's made it even worse. Anyway,
positive news out of that didn't back down. They went
into the rooms. They read the books, and then I
(07:00):
said lights out eight thirty, like usually on a Saturday
we'll watch a movie and it might be nine oh.
And she said, I'm so sorry for ruining your night.
I said, you didn't ruin anything. If anything you ruined
your own night.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
I sometimes, and even now with the girls at the
age that they are at, I sometimes look back at
when they were like little four, yeah, six kind of age,
and I'm like, oh, wasn't that nice that you could
put them to bed?
Speaker 3 (07:28):
And I know not always like that.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
People, yeah up and all the rest of it. Only
need to drink water for half an hour. But the
ability to put them to bed.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Early, yeap. Yeah, have your own evening.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Yeah, even you like eight thirty nine, If that's when
they're going to bed, that's a big chunk of your night.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
It's gone. I find the same. I'm like, I'm the
same as you, though, Like it's gone.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I remember some days I used to change the clock
so they thought they were going to bed later, and
sometimes they would be lights out and in bed at
six thirty.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
No, my kids have never been I've never been that luck.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
But the thing is like, I just want time to
just decompress away. I need to like just you know,
move away, let me decompress, and then I'll probably come
back a little bit better. Now I'm sort of trying
to then get everything ready for Elsie's Network Carnival. The
girls had to be up at six, to leave at
six forty, for us to drive an Aaron a bit
(08:27):
to get to the Network Carnival for her to be
there by like seven forty seven point fifty. So we're
getting to Netball on the other side of the earth
at seven forty in the morning, and Gracie in tow
she was like.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
Oh God, what am I going to do all day?
I was like, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
But we've got two camp chairs and an umbrella and
food and water and everything that you need for a
whole Network Carnival. And you know when we were leaving,
when the sun was going down. The sun was going down. Katie,
We've been at this Network Carnival for talk about finish line.
I couldn't see the finish lines in my life.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
I was like, this is.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
A never ending day and it's a Sunday, and now
the sun is going down and I'm still on the
other side of the earth.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
With my one child.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
That is utterly exhausted. And then I've got Gracie, whom
I have to give accolades to. I thought she was
going to be twenty five thousand times worse. I thought
she would have made it to probably about ten thirty
in the morning and gone, I'm bored.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
I want to go home.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
I'm ah. From her side of things, I was really
proud of her, But yeah, dragging my ass out of
Neple Carnival watching the sun go down that even in itself, Katie,
You're like, I've still got to get home. I've got
to unpack, I've got to make dinner, I've got to
feed the animals things.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Because it's your weekend. However, it's not your weekend because
it's entirely about them.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
I have my eyes where they need to go and
what they need to do. Yeah, my life.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
No, oh invited you out on Sunday, I know, coming.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Out on the boat. Oh yeah, I did. I really
fancied it. And then I saw your fucking story. I
was like, it was a glorious stay on the water.
Anything look calm, and you had no kids in Doe.
Of course I wanted to be on the boat with you.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
M
Apod Shape Production. Welcome back to another episode.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
About I a Bad Mom podcast, the podcast that continually
gives and gives and gives and a bit isn't us.
It's other people sharing their stories of parenting fails and
I guess just the ups and downs of a day
in the life of a parent.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Yeah, we love getting memes and stuff like that on Instagram. Actually,
I saw one of our friends, Karina, put something.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
On because she's in toddler phase.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Though.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Yeah, she's in a completely different phase. It's so different,
but it took me right back there.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
It was like one minute your sterilizing bottles and then
the next minute you are reasoning with your toddler about
wearing gum boots.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Oh yeah, ape bed, Yeah yeah, that is really where
she's at right now, poor thing.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Talk about where people are at.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Though. One of our friends, Christy, she makes me lol.
She's got two boys and a daughter. Her daughter is
obviously the same age as Gracie. The interactions of mum
with a teenage boy in comparison.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
To what we get because obviously you're two girls. I
got two girls.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
It's just so funny, Katie, Like, I feel like, so
she's screenshots what she chats to him about. It's almost
like that age old Sorry, sir, I didn't do my
homework because the dog ate it. That's what she gets
every day about him needing another five dollars on his
Spriggy card to buy a pie at school.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Every day.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Every day, Katie, there's a new excuse as to why
he knew nothing copied. I don't even know if he's
chat gyputeing it. It's like there is a new excuse
every single day as to why he needs the five
dollars for the same outcome, which is a pie at
the tuck shop.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
My girls do this after school as well, Like they're
always asking me for extra money, and I'm like, pack more.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Lunch, yeah, more food, yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
But every day, like there was one in there the
other day that was exactly like the dog ate my homework.
Didn't though, because if you just did what I asked,
which was pack your fucking lunchbox this morning.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
The thing that I loved, though, is that there's a
different excuse for every day, so instead of just I'm hungry,
can I have five.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Dollars for a pie?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
You would believe it. I was walking across the school
playground and a bird came out of the sky and
it took my lunchbox.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
It is like that, Katie, but every day she hits
a new one that's creative, that's very creative, creative. Am
I a bad mum for feeling like I was never
going to reach the finish line? A forty eight hour
(03:10):
bender was what I had last weekend. And I'm talking
a fun parenting bender, not anything fun. Actually would have
been longer than forty eight hours because it was Friday
through to Monday. There was so much going on in
the weekend that was so we had the normal routine
(03:30):
on the Saturday morning of like the rush between netball
from there to dropping one to the Cairo because she
had the worst headache in the world, went back to
dance pickup. Rush from dance pickup, I took them to
see that Leela and Stitch but the new movie because
I thought I was being a nice mom. Plus I
was like, I just need to sit still and just
(03:51):
decompress for a little bit.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
But then that night, Katie, on.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
A Saturday night, after a really lovely afternoon, they just
blow up at each other.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
It's like seven.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Forty five, right, I'd watched Behavior, It wasn't like me
flying off the handle.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Because one thing happened.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Elsie went over to do something near Gracie, and I
watched Gracey elbow Elsie so that she slid off the table,
you know, like when you're leaning someone and someone knocks
your arm and then you So I watched that, and
then Elsie turned around.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
She was quite teary.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Now it takes a bit to get there for else,
but she was quite teary over that. So I just
looked and went, pull your head in, Grace. Everything is
calm and nice right now, like everything had been done, dinner,
all the rest.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
It was calm. And then I turned around. Then Elsie's
at it anyway. It was like three strikes Katie.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
And then after the third strike, I was like, still
calm and preserved. I say that now, I said, you
know what, the three strikes, You're gone.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Go to your room. I don't want to hear anyone's story.
I don't need anything.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Go to your room, be quiet, read a book, decompressed,
go away from me and each other. And that's how
I stayed right centered, like no yelling, just really firm. Now,
one thing that I suck at at parent is following
through with the disciplinary part of it. Once they've apologized
or can see the light to it.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Yeah, I'm the same.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
I'm exactly the same.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
I'll throw out a punishment because I'm really angry about
something they've done something wrong, and then the minute there.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Yeah, and they're on board, reasonable and nice again.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Yeah, I'll go, Oh, that's okay, Yes, you can sit
and watch some TV with me. This particular night, I
was like, no, Rachel, it's obviously not working, so I
was like, no, go to your rooms. Plus, it was
quarter to eight. You both didn't need to behave like that.
You're both actually unkind humans to each other right now,
and that's not what we're doing.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Do you think it's tiredness that makes them more like
that because they've had a big day.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I've had a big day as well, Like Gracie dances
for like three hours in the morning, Elsie's played netball.
It's a big day, and you're coming off the back
end of like a big week at school, and they
both like have so much going on on a Friday
afternoon at school, so there's so much going on. It
was just not needed, though, Like it was really nasty
shit to each other. Anyway, that happened, Gracie comes back out,
(06:11):
and she just stepped up to the plate and she
wanted to go for it.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
She wanted to fight. She wanted to like.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Tell me everything that was wrong with me, why she
should be allowed to come back out.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
She's apologized.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I'm talking.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
Everything you can think of was thrown at me in
a conversation, and I was like, calm, calm, calm, explode fireworks.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
I said, the more you keep coming back to try
and make me change my mind, I am not.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
This is the problem.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
It went on forever, and then even that in itself, Katie,
I can't see the finishing line. I just wanted to
get into my bedroom to go away from them for
a bit, like we'd been stuck like glue all day.
Like I was like, I just need ten minutes away
from you, and now it's made it even worse. Anyway,
positive news out of that didn't back down. They went
into the rooms. They read the books, and then I
(07:00):
said lights out eight thirty, like usually on a Saturday
we'll watch a movie and it might be nine oh.
And she said, I'm so sorry for ruining your night.
I said, you didn't ruin anything. If anything you ruined
your own night.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
I sometimes, and even now with the girls at the
age that they are at, I sometimes look back at
when they were like little four, yeah, six kind of age,
and I'm like, oh, wasn't that nice that you could
put them to bed?
Speaker 3 (07:28):
And I know not always like that.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
People, yeah up and all the rest of it. Only
need to drink water for half an hour. But the
ability to put them to bed.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Early, yeap. Yeah, have your own evening.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Yeah, even you like eight thirty nine, If that's when
they're going to bed, that's a big chunk of your night.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
It's gone. I find the same. I'm like, I'm the
same as you, though, Like it's gone.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I remember some days I used to change the clock
so they thought they were going to bed later, and
sometimes they would be lights out and in bed at
six thirty.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
No, my kids have never been I've never been that luck.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
But the thing is like, I just want time to
just decompress away. I need to like just you know,
move away, let me decompress, and then I'll probably come
back a little bit better. Now I'm sort of trying
to then get everything ready for Elsie's Network Carnival. The
girls had to be up at six, to leave at
six forty, for us to drive an Aaron a bit
(08:27):
to get to the Network Carnival for her to be
there by like seven forty seven point fifty. So we're
getting to Netball on the other side of the earth
at seven forty in the morning, and Gracie in tow
she was like.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
Oh God, what am I going to do all day?
I was like, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
But we've got two camp chairs and an umbrella and
food and water and everything that you need for a
whole Network Carnival. And you know when we were leaving,
when the sun was going down. The sun was going down. Katie,
We've been at this Network Carnival for talk about finish line.
I couldn't see the finish lines in my life.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
I was like, this is.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
A never ending day and it's a Sunday, and now
the sun is going down and I'm still on the
other side of the earth.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
With my one child.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
That is utterly exhausted. And then I've got Gracie, whom
I have to give accolades to. I thought she was
going to be twenty five thousand times worse. I thought
she would have made it to probably about ten thirty
in the morning and gone, I'm bored.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
I want to go home.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
I'm ah. From her side of things, I was really
proud of her, But yeah, dragging my ass out of
Neple Carnival watching the sun go down that even in itself, Katie,
You're like, I've still got to get home. I've got
to unpack, I've got to make dinner, I've got to
feed the animals things.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Because it's your weekend. However, it's not your weekend because
it's entirely about them.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
I have my eyes where they need to go and
what they need to do. Yeah, my life.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
No, oh invited you out on Sunday, I know, coming.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Out on the boat. Oh yeah, I did. I really
fancied it. And then I saw your fucking story. I
was like, it was a glorious stay on the water.
Anything look calm, and you had no kids in Doe.
Of course I wanted to be on the boat with you.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
M
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