March 5, 2026 • 37 mins
The girls came in hot this week, tag‑teaming life’s chaos like two cousins who’ve had enough and are ready to square up with the universe. Jerrilyn and Lynee’ kick things off by fighting for their lives against Mercury being “in microbraids,” malfunctioning technology, and all-around bad vibes. But the real mess? The world is literally on fire, the government is cutting up like it’s auditioning for a reality show, and somehow the U.S. is beefing with half the globe. Between missile shortages, tragic attacks overseas, and everybody online spiraling, the ladies admit they’re one headline away from pressing “unsubscribe from Earth.” Their coping mechanism? Humor, delusion, and refusing to be serious anywhere outside of therapy and the Lord’s presence.
From there, they roll straight into the good stuff: why everyone is losing their minds on social media, how mental health is hanging on by a bobby pin, and why sometimes the only sane response to global madness is telling people to “go to hell”—respectfully. They also dive into celebrity drama, including Keke Palmer’s NAACP Image Awards jokes and the predictable Barb chaos that followed, plus a hilarious takedown of parasocial celebrity worship. And because no She Said It First episode is complete without relationship foolishness, the hosts unpack delusional love stories, women asking for $50K dating allowances, men who think paying for nails means coochie coupons, and a bride texting her ex “goodbye” the night before her wedding (and being surprised when her fiancé said, “bet”). Through it all, Jerrilyn and Lynee’ keep it real: life is ghetto, relationships are lessons, and sometimes the greatest gift an ex can give you is getting out of your way.
By the end, it’s equal parts comedy, chaos, and church. The girls remind listeners that choosing yourself is always an option, disassociation is valid self-care, and the grass is greener—especially once the clownery clears. Tune in for the laughs, stay for the gems, and prepare to tell someone to “go anywhere that’s not heaven” before the week is over.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Well already I am go please wool Child, Oh, what's up, everybody,
it's your girl. In describing a Cherylyn make chaking in
with none other than my best siece for the rest
of the name one and you are listening to that,
she said, the first podcast and everyone Podcast and Everyone's
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podcast network. Wool Child. Now, I'm just glad to see you, friend,
I'm glad to see you. It's it's nice to see
a familiar face. Okay, you faced was bagmus Oh friend,
(00:53):
you got a friend in me's By the way, this
I think now. I heard my mercury was in micro braids,
and so I know around that time communication and technology
will fail, is what they were telling me. And so
it absolutely did all of that, this this past couple
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of weeks, and I don't even know how I survived.
I don't even know. So that's why today you see
me on hair, I don't have a lash on my hair.
Probably sure my hair looked like mister Harold, is it
just but I don't even try. The last the last
three to four days of my life have been a
(01:35):
fight to the death, and so I've been losing. I've
been had not and I've been fighting I've been losing.
I ain't say it was a fighting back, you know what,
I've been losing. The weapon, the weapons that were formed,
they've been prospered a little bit. They come over the
(01:57):
head with that for you, Yes, then I you to
grab somebody by the neck and just me, me, me, me,
just a couple of them, because I can't wait to
tell you what irritated me this week.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
That mother freaking makes sour sex think, body, bad built,
nahing neck, dirted, ear ball headed, long lip, fat, jaw, musted,
black ducas, streak of a.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
President, leg analgic. Why are we in the middle of
a war with I reckon? Why are we in the
middle of why? And And that's that I don't even
(02:49):
know how to I don't even know how to expound
because there's so much. I just want to say that
I'm irritated by that and us having to basically figure
out what life is about to look like on the
other side of this, because I know people are people
are taking it lightly. But I don't know if y'all.
(03:11):
I don't know if y'all understand that we are running
out of the missiles that we use to counteract the
missile attacks, which means sooner or later we will just
be getting attacked. God, God, oh my god, this is scary.
This is actually scary. Guys like this is like this
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extremely about it. It's extremely scary. And so I guess
I'll just jump right into the the first segment of
this show. We mean, if girl, what else happened? Because
it's not just one thing? What else? There have been
a litany of things that the president has Oh, he
(03:55):
initially said he wanted to be awarded a Nobel Priest prize.
The lot of take the tests determined that that was
a lie. A definitely said he wasn't going to take
us into war. The lot of tech determined the test
determined that was a lie. We're we're now in military
conflict with Iran as well as Israel. On the last
(04:16):
thing of Black History, Monk Jesus while Niggas was still nigging,
what's she saying? Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus. On
today are us and US and Israel? Launch coordinated attexts
on the people of Iran blew up a school for girls.
(04:36):
I saw the kill. Soul is well over one hundred
and fifty people. I I don't know. He's bombed eight
countries this year. It's only fucking March. It's only March.
It's only March, and so now we are in I
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just I'm I mean, if you have been on social
media for two seconds, you know what's going on. And
so I think, instead of belaboring the point of talking
about what is going on, let's talk about how we
feel about it. Let's talk about what we plan to
do to protect our mental health. Because this is overwhelming
and I hate to be ignorant. Friend, It's like, you
(05:22):
almost got to come off of social media. Yeah, you
can't stay on there for hours and hours upon hours.
It's you need to know what's going on. But when
you start absorbing it all day long, I genuinely feel
like it makes you feel hopeless. It makes you feel like,
you know, like you should be scared and you cannot
live in fear. He don't give a fuck, he said,
(05:49):
If Donald Trump don't give a damn, I don't give it.
I oh, my goodness, were in the middle of having
a serious adult conversation, so he could be cool for
the next thirty minutes. Because I don't care. I've been
pushing him down for the last ten minutes of the comportation.
You don't care, but like I said, step off off
(06:12):
of social media. You have to come off for a
minute because it's really gonna drive you insane. And the
next thing you know, you're gonna be barricaded in the
basement of your house, not living because you are feelfual, fearful,
and you cannot live in fear. This is is I
hate it so bad, you know what I'm saying, And
especially about the girls school, I just feel like, how
like neglectful? Do you have to beat the bomb a
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school period? Like why are kids even involved? Why why
was that even an accident that was made if it
even was an accident, Like I don't I don't even
stand how you do something to children who are absolutely innocent.
I don't care what nationality they are doesn't matter. It's
the fact that it was done. And it just, oh
my god, Jerlne, this is so heavy. This is very heavy.
(06:53):
I don't know, it's making me sadr like I hate it. Yeah,
I mean it's it's it's quite a bit to process.
And we were literally on the brink of coming to
an agreement about the use of nuclear weapons, and so
I don't know why. I feel like there's a hair
on my nose and they keep kickling me. What is
this today? I think, Okay, so let's let's talk about this.
(07:16):
I honestly do feel like I have disassociated with my
life at this point, and like talking about you know
what I mean, Like talking about the reality of things
is just too much. It's too much. And that's why
I refuse to be serious. I have to. There's too
(07:38):
much else in my life that's too sick. I can't
afford to be unseerious anywhere else. So when I come
on here and I talk to my friend, a homegirl,
and we're just catching up, like I feel like I
need this to be This has got to be a
safe unserious I'm serious, And it doesn't mean we don't
take it seriously. It's just like everything is so serious, guys,
we just don't feel like it, Like we just don't
(07:58):
want to. I don't want to. I don't want to.
I'm unsubscribed. I am unsubscribing tago here. I don't want
to receive any more todays. I know, I know, because
it's like you wake up and and then like the
craziest part is this is the first time in my
life that I felt like everything has a line. I
feel great physically, I feel great emotionally, mentally, I feel
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I love my friends, I love my family like I
feel good about myself. And the world is on no,
the world is literally on fire. Like damn, I can't
catch a break now. It's like everything allowed me, but
the world. I just decided. I just decided to get
(08:43):
my shit together two business days ago. Because you was adulcent.
My friend is a grown woman child who I'm telling you,
she been stepping into the adulthood like it's nothing too
a baby. You've been doing your biggest one. I love
you for that, because I could be I could be
a little childish ful, I could be a little child
of got bad. I'm figured, right, what do you have
(09:04):
to lose? Like literally, like do everything you want to do,
say whatever you want to say. Okay, Like now that's
a message I can stand behind, you know, because the
way I love telling people to go to hell. And
I think I think this is a great way for
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us to release that negative energy. Because I think I
think that we we want to do and say some
things sometimes and it's just not kosher. You know, like
you can't really say that about the president. You can't
really do that to your friend or your feeling with it.
I understand, but I feel like we should all just
start telling people go to Hell. Number one. I don't
even believe in hell, but I do believe people should
(09:47):
be there. I think you should go anywhere that's not
having about the concept the concept of hell that you
subscribe to. I think you should be there because whatever
is going on in the government, and I think this
is going on so long, it's it's it's gotten so
far because everybody's in on it. I just feel like
(10:09):
we're the butt of a joke. We are the butt
of some cruel joke. And every day I wake up
there is something else, unprecedented happening, and I don't have time.
I follow some I followed some County creators, and I've
seen some things. Unfortunately, there have been some very corrupt
things going on in the Iranian government, and those people
do want to be free from that regime. But I
(10:32):
don't think this is going on for decades. Yeah, centuries Americans, colonialism, capitalism,
and just being at other people's business, Like a lot
of stuff just ain't got nothing to do with you.
If y'all y'all over here having sex with child trep
girl China just put something out. Say you get the
(10:54):
death felgi. I love. That's them kids, I said, trying
to be what they own it. I love you may
be on it with it. Give them the chair and
make it electric. Lookie, woogie woogie. Hey you, that's what
it's an electric baby. Put them right in that chair.
But I tend to agree. So I think I don't
(11:15):
even know where where we go from here because it's
it's like this associate immediately, that's where you go from here.
Control Jerland. And yes, we can speak up. I say,
say what you want to say, we should speak, but truthfully,
I much rather disassociate. I'm not gonna forever around like
(11:37):
I feel like my life is pretty smart, prosperous, you know,
if it had to end, I'm not made at where
I mean you because that's how you feel like that.
I'm in the place I've accepted it. I'm like, Lord,
you know what I've done, all the things I want
to do I think I wanted to do, and then
I got rid of this last little thing I needed
to check off my checklist, tie that up in the
(11:59):
boat all the way relief. I feel like, you know
what all is? Well, I'm good. That's how I feel.
I've made my peace with it, and I you know,
like I think, I think like stupid stuff. I'll be like,
oh my god, what's gonna happen to Soto? Take him?
(12:19):
To take him too? Because the way man, the way
man thought that would be kicking at wherever we're gonna
end up, because I don't even know. I don't know
if I'm going to heaven. Okay, I might be in
a waiting room as many people as I have said, Tom,
I might be in the waiting room somewhere, So just
let's please. I don't want to explain nothing on that list.
Of the stuff that I did, I was provokeing and
(12:39):
some of it wasn't me. That's all I'm gonna say.
Some of it I can't do any of that. I
did that ship, and I don't I'm not even here.
I'm not even finna sit here and play with God
like he didn't know my heart at the time I did.
I did that ship. I hope there's grace and forgiveness
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and because I did that ship, and I'm not a person. Girl.
I think that I'm not a person that does stuff.
I feel like you when you say I was provoked.
I think that's enough. I understand because you literally have
to back me into a corner for me to attack
anybody too. Same same, But then, okay, it ain't no
(13:20):
fun when the rabbit got the gun. That's what people okay,
Because when you see me in a fight with a
bath whole time he in prison for sex assaults. Brazy lord.
(13:44):
Everything we know, everything we have ever known, is a lie.
And this is the realization that I'm coming to. This
is why my mind is imploding on a regular basis.
We don't actually know ship the government has been lying
to us. Nothing is gonna die. Money is made up,
social classes are made up, race is made up. Religious
(14:05):
made up. None of this truth. And when you leave
this earth only thing that the only thing you will
have when you leave this earth. It's maybe a funeral,
maybe maybe okay if you set it up that way
with some life insurance, your family, not penny pension trying
to get you together or cremate you. Caause like if
that you got to do that fish fry got God
(14:29):
got a fish God, sell them plates to put that
body in the ground, or I just I just want
to be cremated. Go ahead and put me on four hundred,
even if you know fried on both sides. Flip me
over a halfway in between, and just go ahead and
send me. Send me on, because do you know how
expensive funerals are. I can't afford to that girl. I
(14:51):
don't care have a funeral because I'm really thinking about
having that set it off. Then we talked about the
set it off my name. Please please don't, please don't
we're doing. Don't put me in charge of nothing, because
I'm gonna snatch soon as baseball I played it and
I'm gonna unhooked the DJ.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
But you need to come up to me and say
I need that money.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
I please, Oh my god, jump suits, the wigs and
the mask. I want everybody I lead a little vibe.
I want a love vibe. Yeah, a braided one too.
I just I'm gonna come in there and as soon
as everybody I'm on, as soon as the song started playing,
I'm gonna have everybody stand up, and I'm gonna ask
(15:43):
one question. What's the procedure. What's the procedure when you
got a gun to your head because and then we
can't play this was gonna play back that DX, Well,
(16:07):
I think you better do it because now you're in charge,
you know exactly what I want and I'm not playing
with you. Harry on the name my night taking over
for the nine nine Hour Day Magie, come on, because
you now, first of all juvenile. Hey hey, hey, you
(16:29):
can't see it, but it's moving baby. Oh my god.
I'm so sorry, y'all. Did this is the This is
the house of us being completely stressed, y'all. But I
think this is a perfect segue because in times of
immense stress and tragedy and trauma, what do black people do?
(16:53):
We cracked jokes? And I think that that's what the
cole was doing as he hosted the na A c
P Image Awards the other night. He made some jokes
about Nick Minaja. She made some jokes about a lot
of things that had been happening in the media. And
the funniest thing to me personally was when we said, Lord,
if there are any you know, he made everybody to
(17:13):
touch a the green and we started praying. He said, Lord,
there are any white man in here with Trett's police,
Let them be able to read the wound, and I thought,
and I thought that was genius. Me personally, I cracking
up and you could hear the room erupt into laughter
and the cameraman, that man deserves a raise because he
panned to every single white person in that audience, every
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white person that I could see, that girl cracking up,
cracking up, and Don Don Lemon was just inconsolable. Honey.
I just thought there was the funniest thing ever. But
now he woke up, and you know, people are going
off on them. The barbs attacked him, girl, and they was,
you know, sitting a death threass talking crazy about his mama. Uh,
you know, obviously racial slurs and stuff like that. So
(18:00):
this is the This is the price you pay for
being famous, right, This is the price you pay for
having eyes on you. And I don't think it's fair,
But you know how we handle trolls. They be ignoring them,
but I screenshot them and I put them on blast
on me and all my followers can disgust it in
the comedy. I ignore them because I just don't d
know how I am. We're so different when it comes
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I'm bad at everything, especially group messages. I'm so bad
at everything, emails, group messages. I just drilling. No, I
can't keep up all the things. Okay, girl, I am
just But Jolene will find you and hunt you down, honey.
And I'm not play about that girl. She is not
(18:41):
one of them. Way sending me information, there was like
that one guy that calls you the N word. I
found his place of employment where he stay at and
his mama lived. I was like, thank you for this information. Right,
neither be john Wick or you from taking a set
(19:02):
of skills. Yeah, I will mind you, okay, and I
will kill it. Put a strainer order on somebody who's
not even in the same state as her. She don't
even know them. He didn't know me either when he
was in my DM talking crazy. But that's what their
messages spots amediate, y'all. I do not play with people,
(19:23):
and I love threatening people with the police. Because here's
the thing. If you cared about not going to jail,
you wouldn't be over here cutting up, okay, because people
that don't want to go to jail, they don't do crimes.
So the wig you over here harassing me, No, you
got to go to now, but you might go to
jail first, but you might go to jail first. It's crazy,
(19:45):
but facts talk about a vacation. But anyway, so I think,
you know, I think it's obviously a little bit too
far for people to be sitting him death threats. Whatever.
I thought it was funny. I ain't think it was
that serious. But you know, whatever you want and get
too far because people are easily offended but won't stand
up for anything. And that's just lets me know how
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much of a like bird brain you are. You taking
up for somebody, and I'm gonna specifically talk about Nicki Minaj.
You're taking up for someone who has shown you time
and tell me that she does not care about She
does not like y'all. She don't care about y'all. She
doesn't care and you, you know, as a pea brain
would still think that she does. Bozo be here like,
(20:32):
somebody's honestly telling you they don't care about you, like what,
you don't even care about her career? Girl. The way
I do it out of nowhere for Donald Trump is crazy,
gol like, and that man don't care about her. He's
using her as a pawn. That's it, and y'all can
see it. Like and don't care because you have nothing else.
Your whole identity is in someone else who doesn't know you.
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A celebrity, you are idolizing someone who you believe is God.
You have made her your God. So now you feel
as though you need to take out for her in
that way. But I promise you, not only does she
not know you, she would never do it for you.
So do your biggest one, your one, because I think
if she give you her ask the kids, you're gonna
have to do it. Oh and y'all puck her up.
(21:13):
Y'all puck her up every time. And I think my
my biggest issue with her is she built her career
off of catering to the gays and the queers and
the all the girls, the barbs. Like now, all of
a sudden, you at these turning point rally is talking
about be a boy or be a girl? Now, Nikki, now, Nikki,
come on now, girl. At this point you it's it's
(21:36):
clear what she's doing. And I feel like anybody who
still supports her, you know, I I would say, I'm
gonna pray for you, but I don't really want to
tie up to the line. We've got a lot of
stuff going on right now. We have so much time
to stop to brown. They're just so many other things. Yeah,
and the rest of luck, girl, don't even do that.
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I got, I need all the luck I can't no luck,
I don't wish your done like a Nikki has been
crazy for years and we just let it rock for
years and we let it rock. And I need you
(22:17):
all to understand that this is not this is not
normal behavior. But you know, she she getting what she
thinks she needs and she's allowing herself to be pimped out.
But let me tell you something. Tokens get spent. Iran
Candice Owens. But anyway, speaking of delusion, speaking of being delusional,
(22:39):
what girl former NYC bottle girl lord and influencer I
U did Is went on to Earn Your Leisure podcast.
She basically they asked her a question about how much
money a man has to give her while they're dating,
which is insane. She said forty five to fifty K
a month. The Internet told her the pieces. But a
little background on his story. She fell in love with
a guy who they went on a trip and while
(23:00):
they were out of the country, he took her passport
and she decided that that was love. Wait what, I'm lost?
Hold on, I missed a few chapters. You you should
be lost? What a middle part of that? I'm confused.
How do we jump taking passport to I'm in love?
What that's that was the whole story. Actually taking the
(23:22):
passport was the prerequisite for the falling in of the love.
And so I think me personally, I think the girl,
you know, somebody being wrong with it because I'm not
falling in love with somebody to the kidnap me. That's
Stockholm syndrome. That's that's a mental health disorder. That's part
of PTSD. Yeah, it is, because I still am confused
(23:42):
as the house somebody taking my belongings while I'm out
of the country or state or whatever, and I can't
get back. And I'm like, I love them though, and
I can't get back hoege People be thinking that that's
that's part of that toxic relationship. Like people don't know
a lot of times they think I want I worked
with a girl who said, I pick arguments with my
(24:02):
man because if he argue with me, that's how I
know he loved me. I knew right then. I knew
right then she was gonna have multiple Babby daddies. I
knew it. I can see it in her future because
esus you can't. You can't feel like that. But I
mean too. I guess it's an interesting question. If you
dang somebody, do you need an allowance? Yes, I take
(24:23):
all forms of compensation. But Joan, who you talking to?
Who you gonna call hit out of mouth saying I'm
gonna take that money? Yes, yes, but it's not a requirement.
Like I'm joking. No, I'm not. I like money, But
at the same moment, I'm not right. I'm not with
nobody because I need your money. I have a blacker
(24:45):
of my own. However, if you offered to give me money, yeah,
I'm gonna take it. I'm not one of them people
who was like, no, I don't need it, No, keep
your allowance. No I won't. I never say that. That
was the first time I ever said those words o
allow because they don't even live in my vocab, Like
that was my very first time speaking that. So like,
I don't say that, not me me personally, I just
(25:07):
try to. I feel like, if if I can't do
it for myself, I'm not going to ask that somebody
else do it. No, exacinitely when that happens, people that
comes with strings, and people like to tell you what
you will and won't do, and very true. That's why
I said I have my own And so you know,
we get into these conversations about who run what and
wearing pants. Let me just stop you right there, big dog, Okay,
(25:28):
let me stop you right there. Take this, Take this
seventy five dollars and a pop ey stick and coupon back,
and we can wrap this conversation up immediately. Yeah. I
don't want Toby to take care of me in that way,
but I also even though I can meet my own needs,
I don't mind somebody coming in and helping me meet
my own needs either, like let me help you with this,
(25:48):
let me help you with that. I'm not somebody who
just adds, oh, I'll need my rent, dude. I never
understood the whole my rent dude whatever whatever whatever, like
that whole big and big and big and thing like
I'm not a bigger you know what I mean. I mean,
but if any person wants to step in and volunteer
and help me, the thing you need to know is
that it's gonna get done regardless. Like I'm capable of.
(26:09):
I know that's right. It's gonna get done regardless. So
I'm not a dire need, but I am in dire
need of everything. Okay, my, my. My whole perspective is
if the thing about me that you have to understand
is if you want to pay my rent, my cash
chep is also my Instagram handle exactly, because I don't
(26:33):
know what is talking about right now. You want to
say this, but I'm not begging. I'm not begging. That's
the first thing. The first thing is can you pay this?
Can you give me this? Can you I'm not begging.
I can't be but you know that's that's I've been seeing.
I saw a post recently and apparently women are trying
to find creative ways to ask men for money. And
(26:53):
I shared it with my dude and we had a
good chuckle because the one thing that I'm learning is
first of it was like just reframing it. Instead of saying, Oh,
I need to get my nails done, or can you
give me money to get my nails done, you would
say something like, oh, babe, I would love to spoil
myself this week and I would really feel pampered if
you could help you know, help do that. And my
(27:14):
thing is, do you understand you're gonna have to pop
that cooochie for a real nick because a lot of
girls like and I know, I know it's unfair. I
know it shouldn't be transactional. I know that it's this
is literally prostitution. But this is the this is the
patriarchal system that we are in. If a man is
doing something for you, it is not because he thinks
(27:34):
that you have a very nice book collection in your den. Okay,
it's not because he likes your shoes. He's not a
fan of your makeup. Okay. That man wants to have sex.
And while while we can be with people who love
us for other things, yeah, how long you think somebody's
gonna be with you? What I haven't say, Friend, I disagree,
and let me tell you why. Let me say, then
(27:55):
you're dating a trick who has an unlimited amount of
funds and it's not about you. It's about their ego
maybe something. But I do say this, and I've said
this before in a video where if somebody asks me
if I want something to eat, I'm not somebody who's
gonna be like no, even if I just ate I
don't care, like, yes, I want the fillet me'all and
the spinish it. You know what I'm saying, Like I'm
(28:15):
going to you know whatever. But I also feel like
people who believe that. Sometimes it's like people who have
a hard time saying that right, Like if somebody wants
something from you or wants your body, or it feels
like because they brought you something that you have to
give up your lady bits, then it feels like you
don't know how to set boundaries and tell them not
(28:37):
like if you're not comfortable with it, you should be
able to say, no, I'm not comfortable with that. You
know what I'm saying. That's not the same thing as
you you accepting something that someone offered. It's not the
same thing as you going to them with your hand
out and saying I need this, not okay, I get
what you said, I need this and I need this
and you say you as well, okay. And this is
(29:00):
why I've had this conversation girl so many times. But
I one thousand percent agree with what you're saying when
it comes to something like that. If someone is doing
something for you and they started making it feel like
you owe them something, yeah, you need you need to
be enough in yourself to cut that off. But if
you just My thing is a lot of these women
they step in this game and they don't understand what
they signing up for. Like you cannot tell a man
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what he is and ain't gonna do and then think
you ain't gonna reciprocate some kind of way. Now, if
the man that's want to do stuff for you, and
I listen, I'm telling y'all, I'm telling y'all because I
found out. She found out, y'all. I found I found
out the best way possible. The one that won't to, well,
(29:42):
you ain't gotta ask them because if he wanted to,
he would. You ain't gotta ask him. They gonna they
gonna call you and be like, hey, I saw this,
and I thought of you. I thought you might need this.
I know you had this problem, and I wanted to
show you what I've been working on to help fix
that problem. Ones that want to they will everybody else
would make an excuse or just not show up. They
(30:05):
will give you empty promises, tell you all the things
they gonna do, and never show up. So did you
get stay on five thread? Yep? Now now am I
giving him coochie nobody because you have to. You have
to preface it, you know, like a there's a there's
(30:27):
a delicate balance in relationships and mama and dad. I'm
sorry because I know y'all be do you, Jess. But
here's the thing though, and I'm doing a segment on
this too, it's establishing yourself as an adult from the
perspective of your parents. Like these people know okay, yeah,
they've they've been around me for thirty six years. They
(30:47):
know exactly who I am, and they know exactly who
I am. Okay, So with me saying that, I'm saying
it to preface. Like, at the end of the day,
they all want sex, Okay, You're job as a woman
is to vent which ones actually deserve it. What you've
been doing for the beginning of time is having sex
with the wrong ones, giving up babies, marriage, and they
(31:10):
given the right ones a hard time, giving sex to
all the exact ones, and then given the right ones
the hardest time ever. Like, what is that we need
to be reprogrammed because I don't understand. That's why I'm
doing the series. I said all the stuff that I
have learned about dating, especially how to like be single
because being single health helped me out a lot, just
not dealing with nobody that helped me out a lot,
(31:33):
because I realized how I wanted to be treated by
how I treated myself, how my friends treated me, and
what I would and wouldn't accept, And so when I
when I started dating again, I was like, oh, I
don't like this, and then I could easily walk away
from it instead of being strung along for two years
and then getting accidentally pregnant and now he don't want
(31:53):
to buy no diapers and I ain't heard from him
in three days. I don't have time for all of that.
And so I think there's there needs to be a
tricter vedding process and we need to like, once you
see what you need to see, then you can make
whatever decision you need to make. But we be making
rush decisions and totally all down aisle and stuff like
why Jesus we learned about the relationship the again married,
(32:16):
now she's pregnant. It's like, oh my god, how did
this happen so fast? With twins? Twins? But okay, so
to to the since we're in the vein of relationships
and stuff, I think it's This is an even better
segue because we talked about craziness in relationships girl while
(32:37):
we was on social media, and this girl said, I
text my ex the night before my wedding goodbye. I
didn't say anything else. It wasn't no follow up, it
was just goodbye. Why my husband? Basically, I think did
he did he break it off with them? I think
I think it doesn't say here on the Runner show
(32:59):
that that he broke it off or not. But I
feel like I saw this post and he basically said
he didn't want to go through with the wedding, And
so my question is good for him? Good for him?
I know you weren't gonna let me finish it. I knew, like, Jel,
why are you over there doing that girl over there?
You don't want to be with him. You was trying
(33:21):
to see if you had one last who roh and
you to see if you wanna respond back like, don't
do it. I still want you, I still love you.
You still fully connected to somebody else. And what you're
not gonna do is walk down the aisle and play
in my face. You're not gonna play in my face
the whole time, having regrets, just thinking like what if
I would have stayed with my ex? What if you
really all of that you're gonna find out right now?
(33:42):
How about I do you one better times right there, like, oh,
bab you ain't got the wonder. You can go ahead
on over there now, Okay, you can figure it out today.
You can stay it in person, stop by, see what's
going on, because I haven't got all over there, all
over there, yeah, because I'll be goddamn you playing my
face like that, because as a woman, I would do
(34:03):
the same thing as I was getting married, and I
went through my man phone and I seen he said goodbye,
said his axe. I'll do your child waking you up.
We can all say good bye bye bye, hello, Julie Road.
(34:23):
You have to get up out of them. And I
think if if I feel like I need to go
through somebody phone, we're gonna wrap this up anyway. I
learned my lesson with this. Every time you go through
somebody the phone, you're gonna find it whatever. It don't
even matter what you're looking for. The crazy part is
that you're gonna go in there looking for one thing
and you're gonna find something. You're gonna fell so much
of this girl was flying down the wall, hold in
(34:43):
my chaft one nighty tour up. You know how hard
it is a crowd quietly and Tom, it's my girl,
you know how? You know it's even harder when he
got three baby mamas and all the kids in the
house with you and I and on that note, and
(35:07):
it hurts so bad that still hurt me. It's still
hurt me, not because not because I actually was hurt
by the man that I wanted to be with. Like, girl,
why was you over there allowing that foolish shame? I
allow this. I would never, okay who we're voting for you,
(35:29):
we're rooting for you, and I set up and acting
like that girl the way I would never. I would never.
But sometimes you have to go through stuff like that
to realize what it is that you don't want. And
if I, if I can say anything, I'm pretty sure
my ex husband is not watching this podcast. But if
by something that, if by something happened, happenstance he comes
(35:51):
across this information, I want him to know, thank you
for getting the hell out the way. Thank you for
getting the hell out the way. You made it so
easy for me to determine my work based on what
I think is valuable and to not accept it moving forward.
And that wasn't rocky at first. It was rocky, but
(36:11):
I got there. I learned a lesson. You know, I'm
a slow learner, but I learned so so thank you
for the friend. Got to throw the hearts up for
that one man. That's facts, big facts. So sometimes that's
what Sometimes that's all the relationship is. It's a lesson.
It was an expensive one, you know, it wasn't inexpensive one,
but so true, so true. And if y'all you know
(36:34):
what I'm saying, hope y'all take this information because we
talked a lot about relationships today, like, oh my god,
I just hope it helps somebody. You know what I'm saying.
I really do hope some of this information helped somebody.
Whatever you're going through, just know you you have a
right to leave, you can't and you could choose better
for yourself at any time. You choose, okay, And it's
always better on the other side. Remember that. Believe it.
(36:56):
That's good green. We might need to put that on
a shirt. It's always been on the other side, it's
always been on us. I like it. That's a good
stopping point. I like it. Yes, good stuff, y'all. Man.
This was up first of all for I miss you
so much. I cannot wait to go to so excited.
(37:17):
Like h y'all, y'all missed it. We'll be having more
trips though, so make sure y'all tune into both of
our pages to see where we're gonna go next. But
we'll be in Talent and that is so excited. I
can't wait to see you. But in the meantime, in
between times, y'all can catch us. Yeah, every Thursday. If
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time your girls. Oh peace, babe,
Well already I am go please wool Child, Oh, what's up, everybody,
it's your girl. In describing a Cherylyn make chaking in
with none other than my best siece for the rest
of the name one and you are listening to that,
she said, the first podcast and everyone Podcast and Everyone's
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podcast network. Wool Child. Now, I'm just glad to see you, friend,
I'm glad to see you. It's it's nice to see
a familiar face. Okay, you faced was bagmus Oh friend,
(00:53):
you got a friend in me's By the way, this
I think now. I heard my mercury was in micro braids,
and so I know around that time communication and technology
will fail, is what they were telling me. And so
it absolutely did all of that, this this past couple
(01:14):
of weeks, and I don't even know how I survived.
I don't even know. So that's why today you see
me on hair, I don't have a lash on my hair.
Probably sure my hair looked like mister Harold, is it
just but I don't even try. The last the last
three to four days of my life have been a
(01:35):
fight to the death, and so I've been losing. I've
been had not and I've been fighting I've been losing.
I ain't say it was a fighting back, you know what,
I've been losing. The weapon, the weapons that were formed,
they've been prospered a little bit. They come over the
(01:57):
head with that for you, Yes, then I you to
grab somebody by the neck and just me, me, me, me,
just a couple of them, because I can't wait to
tell you what irritated me this week.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
That mother freaking makes sour sex think, body, bad built,
nahing neck, dirted, ear ball headed, long lip, fat, jaw, musted,
black ducas, streak of a.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
President, leg analgic. Why are we in the middle of
a war with I reckon? Why are we in the
middle of why? And And that's that I don't even
(02:49):
know how to I don't even know how to expound
because there's so much. I just want to say that
I'm irritated by that and us having to basically figure
out what life is about to look like on the
other side of this, because I know people are people
are taking it lightly. But I don't know if y'all.
(03:11):
I don't know if y'all understand that we are running
out of the missiles that we use to counteract the
missile attacks, which means sooner or later we will just
be getting attacked. God, God, oh my god, this is scary.
This is actually scary. Guys like this is like this
(03:31):
extremely about it. It's extremely scary. And so I guess
I'll just jump right into the the first segment of
this show. We mean, if girl, what else happened? Because
it's not just one thing? What else? There have been
a litany of things that the president has Oh, he
(03:55):
initially said he wanted to be awarded a Nobel Priest prize.
The lot of take the tests determined that that was
a lie. A definitely said he wasn't going to take
us into war. The lot of tech determined the test
determined that was a lie. We're we're now in military
conflict with Iran as well as Israel. On the last
(04:16):
thing of Black History, Monk Jesus while Niggas was still nigging,
what's she saying? Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus. On
today are us and US and Israel? Launch coordinated attexts
on the people of Iran blew up a school for girls.
(04:36):
I saw the kill. Soul is well over one hundred
and fifty people. I I don't know. He's bombed eight
countries this year. It's only fucking March. It's only March.
It's only March, and so now we are in I
(04:58):
just I'm I mean, if you have been on social
media for two seconds, you know what's going on. And
so I think, instead of belaboring the point of talking
about what is going on, let's talk about how we
feel about it. Let's talk about what we plan to
do to protect our mental health. Because this is overwhelming
and I hate to be ignorant. Friend, It's like, you
(05:22):
almost got to come off of social media. Yeah, you
can't stay on there for hours and hours upon hours.
It's you need to know what's going on. But when
you start absorbing it all day long, I genuinely feel
like it makes you feel hopeless. It makes you feel like,
you know, like you should be scared and you cannot
live in fear. He don't give a fuck, he said,
(05:49):
If Donald Trump don't give a damn, I don't give it.
I oh, my goodness, were in the middle of having
a serious adult conversation, so he could be cool for
the next thirty minutes. Because I don't care. I've been
pushing him down for the last ten minutes of the comportation.
You don't care, but like I said, step off off
(06:12):
of social media. You have to come off for a
minute because it's really gonna drive you insane. And the
next thing you know, you're gonna be barricaded in the
basement of your house, not living because you are feelfual, fearful,
and you cannot live in fear. This is is I
hate it so bad, you know what I'm saying, And
especially about the girls school, I just feel like, how
like neglectful? Do you have to beat the bomb a
(06:33):
school period? Like why are kids even involved? Why why
was that even an accident that was made if it
even was an accident, Like I don't I don't even
stand how you do something to children who are absolutely innocent.
I don't care what nationality they are doesn't matter. It's
the fact that it was done. And it just, oh
my god, Jerlne, this is so heavy. This is very heavy.
(06:53):
I don't know, it's making me sadr like I hate it. Yeah,
I mean it's it's it's quite a bit to process.
And we were literally on the brink of coming to
an agreement about the use of nuclear weapons, and so
I don't know why. I feel like there's a hair
on my nose and they keep kickling me. What is
this today? I think, Okay, so let's let's talk about this.
(07:16):
I honestly do feel like I have disassociated with my
life at this point, and like talking about you know
what I mean, Like talking about the reality of things
is just too much. It's too much. And that's why
I refuse to be serious. I have to. There's too
(07:38):
much else in my life that's too sick. I can't
afford to be unseerious anywhere else. So when I come
on here and I talk to my friend, a homegirl,
and we're just catching up, like I feel like I
need this to be This has got to be a
safe unserious I'm serious, And it doesn't mean we don't
take it seriously. It's just like everything is so serious, guys,
we just don't feel like it, Like we just don't
(07:58):
want to. I don't want to. I don't want to.
I'm unsubscribed. I am unsubscribing tago here. I don't want
to receive any more todays. I know, I know, because
it's like you wake up and and then like the
craziest part is this is the first time in my
life that I felt like everything has a line. I
feel great physically, I feel great emotionally, mentally, I feel
(08:23):
I love my friends, I love my family like I
feel good about myself. And the world is on no,
the world is literally on fire. Like damn, I can't
catch a break now. It's like everything allowed me, but
the world. I just decided. I just decided to get
(08:43):
my shit together two business days ago. Because you was adulcent.
My friend is a grown woman child who I'm telling you,
she been stepping into the adulthood like it's nothing too
a baby. You've been doing your biggest one. I love
you for that, because I could be I could be
a little childish ful, I could be a little child
of got bad. I'm figured, right, what do you have
(09:04):
to lose? Like literally, like do everything you want to do,
say whatever you want to say. Okay, Like now that's
a message I can stand behind, you know, because the
way I love telling people to go to hell. And
I think I think this is a great way for
(09:25):
us to release that negative energy. Because I think I
think that we we want to do and say some
things sometimes and it's just not kosher. You know, like
you can't really say that about the president. You can't
really do that to your friend or your feeling with it.
I understand, but I feel like we should all just
start telling people go to Hell. Number one. I don't
even believe in hell, but I do believe people should
(09:47):
be there. I think you should go anywhere that's not
having about the concept the concept of hell that you
subscribe to. I think you should be there because whatever
is going on in the government, and I think this
is going on so long, it's it's it's gotten so
far because everybody's in on it. I just feel like
(10:09):
we're the butt of a joke. We are the butt
of some cruel joke. And every day I wake up
there is something else, unprecedented happening, and I don't have time.
I follow some I followed some County creators, and I've
seen some things. Unfortunately, there have been some very corrupt
things going on in the Iranian government, and those people
do want to be free from that regime. But I
(10:32):
don't think this is going on for decades. Yeah, centuries Americans, colonialism, capitalism,
and just being at other people's business, Like a lot
of stuff just ain't got nothing to do with you.
If y'all y'all over here having sex with child trep
girl China just put something out. Say you get the
(10:54):
death felgi. I love. That's them kids, I said, trying
to be what they own it. I love you may
be on it with it. Give them the chair and
make it electric. Lookie, woogie woogie. Hey you, that's what
it's an electric baby. Put them right in that chair.
But I tend to agree. So I think I don't
(11:15):
even know where where we go from here because it's
it's like this associate immediately, that's where you go from here.
Control Jerland. And yes, we can speak up. I say,
say what you want to say, we should speak, but truthfully,
I much rather disassociate. I'm not gonna forever around like
(11:37):
I feel like my life is pretty smart, prosperous, you know,
if it had to end, I'm not made at where
I mean you because that's how you feel like that.
I'm in the place I've accepted it. I'm like, Lord,
you know what I've done, all the things I want
to do I think I wanted to do, and then
I got rid of this last little thing I needed
to check off my checklist, tie that up in the
(11:59):
boat all the way relief. I feel like, you know
what all is? Well, I'm good. That's how I feel.
I've made my peace with it, and I you know,
like I think, I think like stupid stuff. I'll be like,
oh my god, what's gonna happen to Soto? Take him?
(12:19):
To take him too? Because the way man, the way
man thought that would be kicking at wherever we're gonna
end up, because I don't even know. I don't know
if I'm going to heaven. Okay, I might be in
a waiting room as many people as I have said, Tom,
I might be in the waiting room somewhere, So just
let's please. I don't want to explain nothing on that list.
Of the stuff that I did, I was provokeing and
(12:39):
some of it wasn't me. That's all I'm gonna say.
Some of it I can't do any of that. I
did that ship, and I don't I'm not even here.
I'm not even finna sit here and play with God
like he didn't know my heart at the time I did.
I did that ship. I hope there's grace and forgiveness
(13:00):
and because I did that ship, and I'm not a person. Girl.
I think that I'm not a person that does stuff.
I feel like you when you say I was provoked.
I think that's enough. I understand because you literally have
to back me into a corner for me to attack
anybody too. Same same, But then, okay, it ain't no
(13:20):
fun when the rabbit got the gun. That's what people okay,
Because when you see me in a fight with a
bath whole time he in prison for sex assaults. Brazy lord.
(13:44):
Everything we know, everything we have ever known, is a lie.
And this is the realization that I'm coming to. This
is why my mind is imploding on a regular basis.
We don't actually know ship the government has been lying
to us. Nothing is gonna die. Money is made up,
social classes are made up, race is made up. Religious
(14:05):
made up. None of this truth. And when you leave
this earth only thing that the only thing you will
have when you leave this earth. It's maybe a funeral,
maybe maybe okay if you set it up that way
with some life insurance, your family, not penny pension trying
to get you together or cremate you. Caause like if
that you got to do that fish fry got God
(14:29):
got a fish God, sell them plates to put that
body in the ground, or I just I just want
to be cremated. Go ahead and put me on four hundred,
even if you know fried on both sides. Flip me
over a halfway in between, and just go ahead and
send me. Send me on, because do you know how
expensive funerals are. I can't afford to that girl. I
(14:51):
don't care have a funeral because I'm really thinking about
having that set it off. Then we talked about the
set it off my name. Please please don't, please don't
we're doing. Don't put me in charge of nothing, because
I'm gonna snatch soon as baseball I played it and
I'm gonna unhooked the DJ.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
But you need to come up to me and say
I need that money.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
I please, Oh my god, jump suits, the wigs and
the mask. I want everybody I lead a little vibe.
I want a love vibe. Yeah, a braided one too.
I just I'm gonna come in there and as soon
as everybody I'm on, as soon as the song started playing,
I'm gonna have everybody stand up, and I'm gonna ask
(15:43):
one question. What's the procedure. What's the procedure when you
got a gun to your head because and then we
can't play this was gonna play back that DX, Well,
(16:07):
I think you better do it because now you're in charge,
you know exactly what I want and I'm not playing
with you. Harry on the name my night taking over
for the nine nine Hour Day Magie, come on, because
you now, first of all juvenile. Hey hey, hey, you
(16:29):
can't see it, but it's moving baby. Oh my god.
I'm so sorry, y'all. Did this is the This is
the house of us being completely stressed, y'all. But I
think this is a perfect segue because in times of
immense stress and tragedy and trauma, what do black people do?
(16:53):
We cracked jokes? And I think that that's what the
cole was doing as he hosted the na A c
P Image Awards the other night. He made some jokes
about Nick Minaja. She made some jokes about a lot
of things that had been happening in the media. And
the funniest thing to me personally was when we said, Lord,
if there are any you know, he made everybody to
(17:13):
touch a the green and we started praying. He said, Lord,
there are any white man in here with Trett's police,
Let them be able to read the wound, and I thought,
and I thought that was genius. Me personally, I cracking
up and you could hear the room erupt into laughter
and the cameraman, that man deserves a raise because he
panned to every single white person in that audience, every
(17:38):
white person that I could see, that girl cracking up,
cracking up, and Don Don Lemon was just inconsolable. Honey.
I just thought there was the funniest thing ever. But
now he woke up, and you know, people are going
off on them. The barbs attacked him, girl, and they was,
you know, sitting a death threass talking crazy about his mama. Uh,
you know, obviously racial slurs and stuff like that. So
(18:00):
this is the This is the price you pay for
being famous, right, This is the price you pay for
having eyes on you. And I don't think it's fair,
But you know how we handle trolls. They be ignoring them,
but I screenshot them and I put them on blast
on me and all my followers can disgust it in
the comedy. I ignore them because I just don't d
know how I am. We're so different when it comes
(18:21):
I'm bad at everything, especially group messages. I'm so bad
at everything, emails, group messages. I just drilling. No, I
can't keep up all the things. Okay, girl, I am
just But Jolene will find you and hunt you down, honey.
And I'm not play about that girl. She is not
(18:41):
one of them. Way sending me information, there was like
that one guy that calls you the N word. I
found his place of employment where he stay at and
his mama lived. I was like, thank you for this information. Right,
neither be john Wick or you from taking a set
(19:02):
of skills. Yeah, I will mind you, okay, and I
will kill it. Put a strainer order on somebody who's
not even in the same state as her. She don't
even know them. He didn't know me either when he
was in my DM talking crazy. But that's what their
messages spots amediate, y'all. I do not play with people,
(19:23):
and I love threatening people with the police. Because here's
the thing. If you cared about not going to jail,
you wouldn't be over here cutting up, okay, because people
that don't want to go to jail, they don't do crimes.
So the wig you over here harassing me, No, you
got to go to now, but you might go to
jail first, but you might go to jail first. It's crazy,
(19:45):
but facts talk about a vacation. But anyway, so I think,
you know, I think it's obviously a little bit too
far for people to be sitting him death threats. Whatever.
I thought it was funny. I ain't think it was
that serious. But you know, whatever you want and get
too far because people are easily offended but won't stand
up for anything. And that's just lets me know how
(20:06):
much of a like bird brain you are. You taking
up for somebody, and I'm gonna specifically talk about Nicki Minaj.
You're taking up for someone who has shown you time
and tell me that she does not care about She
does not like y'all. She don't care about y'all. She
doesn't care and you, you know, as a pea brain
would still think that she does. Bozo be here like,
(20:32):
somebody's honestly telling you they don't care about you, like what,
you don't even care about her career? Girl. The way
I do it out of nowhere for Donald Trump is crazy,
gol like, and that man don't care about her. He's
using her as a pawn. That's it, and y'all can
see it. Like and don't care because you have nothing else.
Your whole identity is in someone else who doesn't know you.
(20:53):
A celebrity, you are idolizing someone who you believe is God.
You have made her your God. So now you feel
as though you need to take out for her in
that way. But I promise you, not only does she
not know you, she would never do it for you.
So do your biggest one, your one, because I think
if she give you her ask the kids, you're gonna
have to do it. Oh and y'all puck her up.
(21:13):
Y'all puck her up every time. And I think my
my biggest issue with her is she built her career
off of catering to the gays and the queers and
the all the girls, the barbs. Like now, all of
a sudden, you at these turning point rally is talking
about be a boy or be a girl? Now, Nikki, now, Nikki,
come on now, girl. At this point you it's it's
(21:36):
clear what she's doing. And I feel like anybody who
still supports her, you know, I I would say, I'm
gonna pray for you, but I don't really want to
tie up to the line. We've got a lot of
stuff going on right now. We have so much time
to stop to brown. They're just so many other things. Yeah,
and the rest of luck, girl, don't even do that.
(21:56):
I got, I need all the luck I can't no luck,
I don't wish your done like a Nikki has been
crazy for years and we just let it rock for
years and we let it rock. And I need you
(22:17):
all to understand that this is not this is not
normal behavior. But you know, she she getting what she
thinks she needs and she's allowing herself to be pimped out.
But let me tell you something. Tokens get spent. Iran
Candice Owens. But anyway, speaking of delusion, speaking of being delusional,
(22:39):
what girl former NYC bottle girl lord and influencer I
U did Is went on to Earn Your Leisure podcast.
She basically they asked her a question about how much
money a man has to give her while they're dating,
which is insane. She said forty five to fifty K
a month. The Internet told her the pieces. But a
little background on his story. She fell in love with
a guy who they went on a trip and while
(23:00):
they were out of the country, he took her passport
and she decided that that was love. Wait what, I'm lost?
Hold on, I missed a few chapters. You you should
be lost? What a middle part of that? I'm confused.
How do we jump taking passport to I'm in love?
What that's that was the whole story. Actually taking the
(23:22):
passport was the prerequisite for the falling in of the love.
And so I think me personally, I think the girl,
you know, somebody being wrong with it because I'm not
falling in love with somebody to the kidnap me. That's
Stockholm syndrome. That's that's a mental health disorder. That's part
of PTSD. Yeah, it is, because I still am confused
(23:42):
as the house somebody taking my belongings while I'm out
of the country or state or whatever, and I can't
get back. And I'm like, I love them though, and
I can't get back hoege People be thinking that that's
that's part of that toxic relationship. Like people don't know
a lot of times they think I want I worked
with a girl who said, I pick arguments with my
(24:02):
man because if he argue with me, that's how I
know he loved me. I knew right then. I knew
right then she was gonna have multiple Babby daddies. I
knew it. I can see it in her future because
esus you can't. You can't feel like that. But I
mean too. I guess it's an interesting question. If you
dang somebody, do you need an allowance? Yes, I take
(24:23):
all forms of compensation. But Joan, who you talking to?
Who you gonna call hit out of mouth saying I'm
gonna take that money? Yes, yes, but it's not a requirement.
Like I'm joking. No, I'm not. I like money, But
at the same moment, I'm not right. I'm not with
nobody because I need your money. I have a blacker
(24:45):
of my own. However, if you offered to give me money, yeah,
I'm gonna take it. I'm not one of them people
who was like, no, I don't need it, No, keep
your allowance. No I won't. I never say that. That
was the first time I ever said those words o
allow because they don't even live in my vocab, Like
that was my very first time speaking that. So like,
I don't say that, not me me personally, I just
(25:07):
try to. I feel like, if if I can't do
it for myself, I'm not going to ask that somebody
else do it. No, exacinitely when that happens, people that
comes with strings, and people like to tell you what
you will and won't do, and very true. That's why
I said I have my own And so you know,
we get into these conversations about who run what and
wearing pants. Let me just stop you right there, big dog, Okay,
(25:28):
let me stop you right there. Take this, Take this
seventy five dollars and a pop ey stick and coupon back,
and we can wrap this conversation up immediately. Yeah. I
don't want Toby to take care of me in that way,
but I also even though I can meet my own needs,
I don't mind somebody coming in and helping me meet
my own needs either, like let me help you with this,
(25:48):
let me help you with that. I'm not somebody who
just adds, oh, I'll need my rent, dude. I never
understood the whole my rent dude whatever whatever whatever, like
that whole big and big and big and thing like
I'm not a bigger you know what I mean. I mean,
but if any person wants to step in and volunteer
and help me, the thing you need to know is
that it's gonna get done regardless. Like I'm capable of.
(26:09):
I know that's right. It's gonna get done regardless. So
I'm not a dire need, but I am in dire
need of everything. Okay, my, my. My whole perspective is
if the thing about me that you have to understand
is if you want to pay my rent, my cash
chep is also my Instagram handle exactly, because I don't
(26:33):
know what is talking about right now. You want to
say this, but I'm not begging. I'm not begging. That's
the first thing. The first thing is can you pay this?
Can you give me this? Can you I'm not begging.
I can't be but you know that's that's I've been seeing.
I saw a post recently and apparently women are trying
to find creative ways to ask men for money. And
(26:53):
I shared it with my dude and we had a
good chuckle because the one thing that I'm learning is
first of it was like just reframing it. Instead of saying, Oh,
I need to get my nails done, or can you
give me money to get my nails done, you would
say something like, oh, babe, I would love to spoil
myself this week and I would really feel pampered if
you could help you know, help do that. And my
(27:14):
thing is, do you understand you're gonna have to pop
that cooochie for a real nick because a lot of
girls like and I know, I know it's unfair. I
know it shouldn't be transactional. I know that it's this
is literally prostitution. But this is the this is the
patriarchal system that we are in. If a man is
doing something for you, it is not because he thinks
(27:34):
that you have a very nice book collection in your den. Okay,
it's not because he likes your shoes. He's not a
fan of your makeup. Okay. That man wants to have sex.
And while while we can be with people who love
us for other things, yeah, how long you think somebody's
gonna be with you? What I haven't say, Friend, I disagree,
and let me tell you why. Let me say, then
(27:55):
you're dating a trick who has an unlimited amount of
funds and it's not about you. It's about their ego
maybe something. But I do say this, and I've said
this before in a video where if somebody asks me
if I want something to eat, I'm not somebody who's
gonna be like no, even if I just ate I
don't care, like, yes, I want the fillet me'all and
the spinish it. You know what I'm saying, Like I'm
(28:15):
going to you know whatever. But I also feel like
people who believe that. Sometimes it's like people who have
a hard time saying that right, Like if somebody wants
something from you or wants your body, or it feels
like because they brought you something that you have to
give up your lady bits, then it feels like you
don't know how to set boundaries and tell them not
(28:37):
like if you're not comfortable with it, you should be
able to say, no, I'm not comfortable with that. You
know what I'm saying. That's not the same thing as
you you accepting something that someone offered. It's not the
same thing as you going to them with your hand
out and saying I need this, not okay, I get
what you said, I need this and I need this
and you say you as well, okay. And this is
(29:00):
why I've had this conversation girl so many times. But
I one thousand percent agree with what you're saying when
it comes to something like that. If someone is doing
something for you and they started making it feel like
you owe them something, yeah, you need you need to
be enough in yourself to cut that off. But if
you just My thing is a lot of these women
they step in this game and they don't understand what
they signing up for. Like you cannot tell a man
(29:21):
what he is and ain't gonna do and then think
you ain't gonna reciprocate some kind of way. Now, if
the man that's want to do stuff for you, and
I listen, I'm telling y'all, I'm telling y'all because I
found out. She found out, y'all. I found I found
out the best way possible. The one that won't to, well,
(29:42):
you ain't gotta ask them because if he wanted to,
he would. You ain't gotta ask him. They gonna they
gonna call you and be like, hey, I saw this,
and I thought of you. I thought you might need this.
I know you had this problem, and I wanted to
show you what I've been working on to help fix
that problem. Ones that want to they will everybody else
would make an excuse or just not show up. They
(30:05):
will give you empty promises, tell you all the things
they gonna do, and never show up. So did you
get stay on five thread? Yep? Now now am I
giving him coochie nobody because you have to. You have
to preface it, you know, like a there's a there's
(30:27):
a delicate balance in relationships and mama and dad. I'm
sorry because I know y'all be do you, Jess. But
here's the thing though, and I'm doing a segment on
this too, it's establishing yourself as an adult from the
perspective of your parents. Like these people know okay, yeah,
they've they've been around me for thirty six years. They
(30:47):
know exactly who I am, and they know exactly who
I am. Okay, So with me saying that, I'm saying
it to preface. Like, at the end of the day,
they all want sex, Okay, You're job as a woman
is to vent which ones actually deserve it. What you've
been doing for the beginning of time is having sex
with the wrong ones, giving up babies, marriage, and they
(31:10):
given the right ones a hard time, giving sex to
all the exact ones, and then given the right ones
the hardest time ever. Like, what is that we need
to be reprogrammed because I don't understand. That's why I'm
doing the series. I said all the stuff that I
have learned about dating, especially how to like be single
because being single health helped me out a lot, just
not dealing with nobody that helped me out a lot,
(31:33):
because I realized how I wanted to be treated by
how I treated myself, how my friends treated me, and
what I would and wouldn't accept, And so when I
when I started dating again, I was like, oh, I
don't like this, and then I could easily walk away
from it instead of being strung along for two years
and then getting accidentally pregnant and now he don't want
(31:53):
to buy no diapers and I ain't heard from him
in three days. I don't have time for all of that.
And so I think there's there needs to be a
tricter vedding process and we need to like, once you
see what you need to see, then you can make
whatever decision you need to make. But we be making
rush decisions and totally all down aisle and stuff like
why Jesus we learned about the relationship the again married,
(32:16):
now she's pregnant. It's like, oh my god, how did
this happen so fast? With twins? Twins? But okay, so
to to the since we're in the vein of relationships
and stuff, I think it's This is an even better
segue because we talked about craziness in relationships girl while
(32:37):
we was on social media, and this girl said, I
text my ex the night before my wedding goodbye. I
didn't say anything else. It wasn't no follow up, it
was just goodbye. Why my husband? Basically, I think did
he did he break it off with them? I think
I think it doesn't say here on the Runner show
(32:59):
that that he broke it off or not. But I
feel like I saw this post and he basically said
he didn't want to go through with the wedding, And
so my question is good for him? Good for him?
I know you weren't gonna let me finish it. I knew, like, Jel,
why are you over there doing that girl over there?
You don't want to be with him. You was trying
(33:21):
to see if you had one last who roh and
you to see if you wanna respond back like, don't
do it. I still want you, I still love you.
You still fully connected to somebody else. And what you're
not gonna do is walk down the aisle and play
in my face. You're not gonna play in my face
the whole time, having regrets, just thinking like what if
I would have stayed with my ex? What if you
really all of that you're gonna find out right now?
(33:42):
How about I do you one better times right there, like, oh,
bab you ain't got the wonder. You can go ahead
on over there now, Okay, you can figure it out today.
You can stay it in person, stop by, see what's
going on, because I haven't got all over there, all
over there, yeah, because I'll be goddamn you playing my
face like that, because as a woman, I would do
(34:03):
the same thing as I was getting married, and I
went through my man phone and I seen he said goodbye,
said his axe. I'll do your child waking you up.
We can all say good bye bye bye, hello, Julie Road.
(34:23):
You have to get up out of them. And I
think if if I feel like I need to go
through somebody phone, we're gonna wrap this up anyway. I
learned my lesson with this. Every time you go through
somebody the phone, you're gonna find it whatever. It don't
even matter what you're looking for. The crazy part is
that you're gonna go in there looking for one thing
and you're gonna find something. You're gonna fell so much
of this girl was flying down the wall, hold in
(34:43):
my chaft one nighty tour up. You know how hard
it is a crowd quietly and Tom, it's my girl,
you know how? You know it's even harder when he
got three baby mamas and all the kids in the
house with you and I and on that note, and
(35:07):
it hurts so bad that still hurt me. It's still
hurt me, not because not because I actually was hurt
by the man that I wanted to be with. Like, girl,
why was you over there allowing that foolish shame? I
allow this. I would never, okay who we're voting for you,
(35:29):
we're rooting for you, and I set up and acting
like that girl the way I would never. I would never.
But sometimes you have to go through stuff like that
to realize what it is that you don't want. And
if I, if I can say anything, I'm pretty sure
my ex husband is not watching this podcast. But if
by something that, if by something happened, happenstance he comes
(35:51):
across this information, I want him to know, thank you
for getting the hell out the way. Thank you for
getting the hell out the way. You made it so
easy for me to determine my work based on what
I think is valuable and to not accept it moving forward.
And that wasn't rocky at first. It was rocky, but
(36:11):
I got there. I learned a lesson. You know, I'm
a slow learner, but I learned so so thank you
for the friend. Got to throw the hearts up for
that one man. That's facts, big facts. So sometimes that's
what Sometimes that's all the relationship is. It's a lesson.
It was an expensive one, you know, it wasn't inexpensive one,
but so true, so true. And if y'all you know
(36:34):
what I'm saying, hope y'all take this information because we
talked a lot about relationships today, like, oh my god,
I just hope it helps somebody. You know what I'm saying.
I really do hope some of this information helped somebody.
Whatever you're going through, just know you you have a
right to leave, you can't and you could choose better
for yourself at any time. You choose, okay, And it's
always better on the other side. Remember that. Believe it.
(36:56):
That's good green. We might need to put that on
a shirt. It's always been on the other side, it's
always been on us. I like it. That's a good
stopping point. I like it. Yes, good stuff, y'all. Man.
This was up first of all for I miss you
so much. I cannot wait to go to so excited.
(37:17):
Like h y'all, y'all missed it. We'll be having more
trips though, so make sure y'all tune into both of
our pages to see where we're gonna go next. But
we'll be in Talent and that is so excited. I
can't wait to see you. But in the meantime, in
between times, y'all can catch us. Yeah, every Thursday. If
you're looking for the visuals on YouTube or wherever you
listen to your podcast, just make sure you like, comment
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and subscribe. Cant that notification will so you'll know every
time your girls. Oh peace, babe,
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