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April 30, 2026 43 mins

Episode 97 of She Said It First starts exactly how it usually does—like a FaceTime call that accidentally turned into a podcast. Jerrilyn Lake (aka Indeskribeabull) and Lynee’ Monae kick things off swapping recommendations and irritation, from Netflix documentaries that ruin your peace to the general realization that watching one thing can spiral into questioning everybody involved. That warm‑up quickly gives way to the main event: the internet’s wild reaction to Megan Thee Stallion and Klay Thompson’s breakup. What should’ve been a simple “ah dang, that sucks” somehow turned into a case study on misogyny, projection, and why folks who don’t know Megan personally are the loudest in her comments. 

The ladies walk through just how much effort men can publicly put into a relationship—family holidays, boats named after you, big gifts—while still managing to embarrass women with ease. Jerrilyn breaks down why blaming women for being cheated on is tired, lazy, and historically incorrect (shoutout to every iconic woman who’s still been wronged). Lynee’ adds balance with insights on knowing when it's actually over, when to keep things offline, and why the moment you speak freely is usually the moment the door is fully closed. The title comes into focus when discussions of cheating journals, ego, and emotional immaturity reveal that sometimes men document foolishness with Broadway‑level confidence. 

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Hey girl, Hey, welcome back. My got on today. Well

(00:33):
you know it's your girl Jerlyn Lake aka Indescribable checking
like how you know we are okay from the top?
All right, Joseph? All right? No meaning no, all right?

(00:54):
What's everybody? It's your girl Indescribable aka Jarrelyn Lake checking
in with none other than my bestie for the rest
of Lene Monette and you all listening to that, she said,
the first podcast in an Urban one podcast and an
Urban one podcast network. We be yes, girl, We just

(01:17):
don't get to it because I already know something piece
you off or something pieced me out too. So you
want to start and you want me to star one girl.
Mind's a little lengthy, but I'll try to shorten it
if I can. Girl, get get on in there. We
got time, girl, have you seen Into the Fire The
Lost Daughter on Netflix? No, should I be watching this?
I got it, don't y'all. Y'all have to watch it,

(01:42):
That's all I'm gonna say. And tell me once you
watch your friend, who you're more mad at? The man
or the wife Okay, the huh or the wife who
pissed you off more when you watch this, y'all. And
I I want to tell y'all, but since my girl
going tune in, I can't really tell y'all. But that's
what pissed me off, and then you know, well we'll
talk about it one next episode. Wow, I because I'm

(02:03):
gonna do. I'm gonna do a review. You're talking like
it's some good juice stuff and some good juices friend,
I was supposed to do. But you know what you
can do review more than one person can watch something.
We're gonna do a review Forgretless, but y'all listen. Oh
my god, it is the most. It sends you on
so many ups and downs. Long story short, It's about
this adopted girl her mother gave her when she was fifteen, right,

(02:25):
and she gets a letter from like the place basically
saying like it was a Jane doe and they need
her blood whole time. Girl. She thought when she gave
her daughter up there she was in a loveing home.
She didn't know her daughter had went missing, like when
she turned fifteen or whatever. So when she got that message,
was like, wait, my daughter is not in a loving home.
So she sent her blood and to see if maybe,
like this was a match. Girl it wasn't, but that

(02:48):
was the start of her trying to figure out where
is my daughter at? And honey, you ain't gonna believe.
You ain't gonna believe. But somebody who want to get
their job back so bad. She was kind of quick
to give her up. Girl, like you know, I haven't
say the movie, I'm just giving my It wasn't that

(03:08):
she was young. She was like fourteen fifteen years old
and her mother was like, you're not taking care of
the baby. I think her mother was like, I'm not
taking care of the baby, and you don't know what
you're doing. You need to give her up for adoption.
She had her like for six months and I guess
she was doing terrible job. I said, I can't help you.
You're gonna have to help yourself. So she her God,
she gave her for adoption and my got on today.

(03:31):
It was that bad. It was bad. It was bad.
It was If you think it's bad, think ten times
worse than that. And that's how bad it is. Okay,
now you got me. I'm gonna I'm gonna watch it
after I'm gonna eat lunch first, and then yeah, I'm
gonna eat it while I'm watching and see what happens.
But yeah, that's that's crazy. You know. I love a
good underdog story, so I feel like somebody gonna win

(03:56):
in the end. But who was to say, so that's
what this iss you off? This week? Girl? Girl? What
irritated you? Friend? You don't kissed me off in the
meantime while you're trying to tell me it's always these niggas.

(04:17):
You're right, these niggas are irritating the hell out of
me because and I gotta I gotta parlay it into
the next segment. But the way these people have responded
to making the Stallion and Klay Thompson's breakup on social
media is absolutely beyond me. So friends, let's let's just
go ahead and get into it. You got that, do it? Girl?

(04:39):
What happened? Oh my god? On today? Making the Stallion
is single again. Chi, I know I'm single, looking girl.
My girl is back outside high Girls, sammerbody, yadda YadA

(05:00):
and all the things. You know. I have a lot
of dad that I sometimes like when artists go through
breakups because the music just be. I don't like this
one if it was if it was Mary J. Bligher
Ky Michelle, Yes, okay, I see where you're going with that.
I see where you're going with that. Yeah. I even

(05:23):
Cardi B. Even Cardi B would give it to you too.
I'll be liking when she goes through breakups, sep and
I would like a Cardier mad record. I just I
need one more. If y'all can squeeze another one out,
I'll be appreciative. Is there no there? Let's let's go
ahead and see because your brother is going through it.
And I think the thing that bothered me the most
about the breakup is that people were like, well, she

(05:44):
should have known better. He's a known cheater. Baby. He
brought her around his family for Thanksgiving. She cooked the
whole meal. He named his boat after her. He gifted
her like a Bentley or something, and they was gonna
buy a house together if they hadn't already bought one, Like,
at what point do we haul me in accountable for
being absolutely manipulative and vindictive and deceitful. When when do
we do that? Because the conversation continues to be well,

(06:06):
she should have known better. She markets herself as this
kind of way on social media, so she like, and
what when do you when do we find value in women?
Because it doesn't matter what y'all do, It doesn't matter
what we do. You're gonna say that there's a reason
why she got cheated on because if she's you know,
we always see her shaking ass on TV. That's the reason.
But Kelly Barry got cheated on, Nia Long got cheated on,

(06:29):
Beyonce got cheated on, Oh my God, cheated on. Like,
there's a long lot of powerful women that get cheated on.
And I have my own hypothesis. What is it what
I think that these men be cheating because they know
they they know they just don't live up to who
the woman is in the relationship and they need a
little ego. Bos I don't know, know somebody who's never

(06:50):
someone on the same caliber. I will tell you that,
Like when you do see the person that they cheated with.
It's always somebody who probably was a fan or somebody
who like this in the crowd looking at the performance.
You know what I'm saying, Like, usually those are the
ones that they go after. And I feel like, you know,
all in all, you can teach somebody how to treat you.

(07:13):
You know, I do say that based on us women,
we can leave the first time we realize that there're
already flags. I have been a victim of this, and
I'm sure a lot of women have been a victim
of that. Or there were signs in the beginning, and
she has come forth to say that he wasn't all
that great, and I hate that too. It's like when
a relationship is over, we always come forward and always
say like, girl, you ain't gonna believe what happened. And

(07:34):
this this, this, this happened, you know what I mean?
And I think the way that we teach people how
to treat treat us is to leave the first time.
Like that said, you just leave the first time. You
just respected me. I don't like how you treating me.
I don't like this, you know what, I'm out of here.
I don't want to deal with that. I don't think
Megan deserved any of that. I think that people. I
think people are too hard on making. I don't know

(07:57):
why they treat her so bad. That's the one person
that no matter what they put out, no matter what
they say, people attack her immediately. And I just don't
understand why, Like this woman was shot in the foot
and there were just so many people like taking up
for Tory Lanez and I could not understand. I don't
understand why automatically everybody's always so against her and it

(08:18):
is pick me So is it because she's a little provocative?
But I know why. I know why why these men
hate women. Yeah, it's actually a lot be the allegation's
yard never gonna beat the allegations. It's a lot more
simple than we could have ever imagined. These men do

(08:40):
not like women. They like vagina, they like titties, they
like ass, but they do not like women. And we
see this with the way that they continuously support abuse
and a lot of women. Okay, there's a lot of
self hinting women out here too that continuously support abusers.
But all the free Tory stuff, and first of all,
Toy is in jail for an unauthorized firearm. Hello, let's

(09:02):
start there, Okay. And on top of all of this,
people coming out like last week Clay was a simp.
Now the nutsack riding talking about Hey, that's what she
getting all this sund And I'm like, that's crazy that
you're up like they want to humble us so badly,
And I think that is the issue. The issue is
they want us to deep down believe that they are

(09:23):
that we are no better than their ball headed mothers.
That's what they want us to believe. You ain't no
better than my ball headed mammy. Because because when you
look at the people that are doing all the chatter
and all the talking online, they don't know their daddy's either,
you know what I'm saying, Like, they don't have real
role models in their lives to tell them who is

(09:45):
and who isn't a good type of partner for them,
or help them read the signs. They just on the
internet dogging people all day long. So yeah, and they
spend a lot of times in the car. I can
always tell if somebody don't have nothing else better to do,
because I'm saying you under this post, and I'm saying
you had another post. I'm I'm seeing you. I'm just
seeing you go through and look for content to comment
on because you genuinely like, don't have nothing else better

(10:06):
to do. And it's like, y'all got it. First of all,
you can never get close to Megan for you to
even be common in on what she deserves or don't deserve.
And you not even in the lineup. You not even
the start in three, forget the five, you don't even
make the cut, the nerving you to have so much
to say about what that girl deserves and don't deserve.
And you can't even get a woman like period, Like

(10:26):
not even in your dreams, nigga, Like you trying to
count bitch is in your sleep because you you can't
get them in real life. Like just be for real,
you know what I'm saying. It's always been like that.
You look at them and you just be like you guys,
go for me, like what you got, beat them? It
be them though, I mean, I think it just boils

(10:49):
down to they hate women. Like we want to make
it be more than what it is. But at the
end of the day, it's very simple. These men hate women,
and they hate women because some girl told them they
a dukiehead in fifth grade, or because their mama was
supposed to be at the house helping them with their homework.
She was outworking, or maybe she was a stripper or
I don't know. All these people have all these different

(11:11):
parent issues and they're taking it out on not just
the women in their lives, but women in general. Yeah,
how hateful do you have to be to get on
the internet and just talk trash about a woman you
don't know unprovoked? Hello? Hello, if Clay Clay thought something
of her, you know what I'm saying, And let this

(11:32):
be a lesson. I want this to be to take
away from all of this. A man can buy you
a boat, he can let you meet his parents, he
can plan, he can make all types of plans. Verbally,
it literally means nothing. Unfortunately men have ruined that. Yeah,
what you bring means nothing. I will forever look at

(11:52):
you sideways and think, well, maybe I don't know, Like
I'm never gonna fully trust because these are the types
of examples that we have. So chasing a girl down
just to embarrassed girl, I could have left her alone.
You could have. And another thing he had an option
is leaving or not an option when you're not happy

(12:13):
in a relationship, it's leaving no longer an option. This
no longer serves you. You don't like her anymore, You're
not interested. Your eye is wandering somewhere else. What did
Levin stop becoming an option? I really must not, girl.
These dudes don't have no type of decorum because there's
I mean, you know me, I'm a lever, not a clever.
I let people know my longest relationship was two years,

(12:36):
and they don't never progress past that because the second
you play with me, I'm douces. I don't have time.
I don't want to waste my time in anything that
I like. I need that time, you know what I'm saying, Like,
I want my time back. I know too many people
that have been with somebody for twenty years. Tina Camp
let her face for decades and sure we go over

(12:59):
knew her vow. I said, well, pretty fair. To be fair,
that announcement came out before the announcement of the divorce.
To be fair, do you think that was fair? Do
you think her sister knew that that information was going
to come out eventually, like soon? I think she did,
But I think she can't help the timing of her

(13:19):
wedding anniversary This conversation, for me, is not about her
sister being insensitive. Her sister deserves to have her own life.
But let's not act like she didn't also get cheated on. Yeah,
because we saw them both have a conversation about infidelity
in both of their marriages, and so like this is
you know, a monkey see monkey do at this point, Yeah,

(13:41):
like she has encouraged her sister to stay in some
foolishness and now twenty years later, this man asking her
for a divorce. So like, I just feel like we
have to be on edge all the time when dating
because these men, they never know. They'll wake up in
year twenty and they really will be like, I don't
know if I could be monogamous? Girl? What and cheating journal?
You saw he had a cheating journal? Did you see this? No?

(14:04):
I know you lying, I know, I know you, I
know what do you mean a cheating journal? Had he
had a written ledger of encounters with certain women and
how he felt about it. And oh, this is such
a rush. And I don't know why I keep doing this,
but it feels great. From city to city, I'm in
Miami this week, Like Brandy ain't got nothing on him. Oh,

(14:32):
because girl, he was right in the hell out of
them journal entries. And I think it's to do that,
because do that this is what men do. Like we
we've seen these men have sixty two million busits to
this rape Academy online. Like I hate to I don't
want people to think that I'm man bashing, but I'm
literally stating facts. These are statistics. There is a group
of men who are particularly invested with harming women. And

(14:56):
it's way too many million, yeah, sixty two million, sixty
two million hits on that site. So I'm not saying
it's too many people out there for me to confidently say, well, yeah,
they're a great man out there. Sure, maybe allegedly that's
you know what I mean. I don't know. It's too

(15:17):
many options. And then when the thing that bothers me
the most about these conversations is that men will say
it's a rebobtal Well, women use men too, Yeah for money,
dumb ass, they're not getting murdered. Hello, Hello, hell dumb
I'm sorry, God, no listen, because God forbid it, God forbid.
I want to get a little a bill paid or
something before you take my life. Hello. Hello, Like, but friend,

(15:42):
why would you It's almost like committing a crime and
going live, right. What are them niggas? Right? They rob you,
They take all your money, your joy, and they ain't
go live with everything. It's like, why would you write
that down? I don't understand the evidence piece of this.
Why would you be in a relationship writing it down
so that she's narcissist? Narcissist because they want to relive it.

(16:03):
They want to I'm telling you, these nigroes are intoxicated
with a false sense of power. Jesus and Couchie and money.
Gonna give it to them every time, every time girl,
like clockwork, Like clockwork girl. But you know what, I
applaud her for coming to the internet. Everybody's like, Oh,
she don't need to come to the internet and tell everybody.
Why not? Because when it's over, it's really over. I

(16:24):
need you know. I'm not playing when I come. If
I decide to come to the Internet with anything, usually
if I'm really quiet about it and I haven't put
out anything or I ain't dropping no hints or nothing
like that, I might be considering going back. I don't
want everybody to know what's going on. I'm still trying
to save face. For me and that person. But when
I start talking freely and putting out consenting and saying
stuff or posting certain stuff, it's over, Like it's literally over.

(16:48):
Like I don't care of the content. I don't care
about the conspuits. I don't care how you feel. I
don't care what you see. I don't care what happens next.
Like it's really uppressed like that, like I want you
to know that I actually hate you. I'm sorry, man,
this is no longer about you. I'm sorry. And you
know what, if I see you on the streets, I'm
gonna bite you. I'm gonna get that Catholic absolutely okay,
I remember that here up yup, and Dan, I actually

(17:13):
hate you, so you must know this. And I also
want everyone to know that I hate you, like I
don't want anyone to be between like does she No,
I want to be very clear that I strongly dislike you.
I think it's also it's also it was important for
me to only talk about things when I was comfortable
talking about them. I don't mind. I don't mind Megan

(17:34):
sharing her story because it's her story and it happened
to her. But I don't want her to be having
a knee jerk reaction and just posting stuff when she's
clearly not healed from it, because that can offer a
lot of backlash. And you know it I unsolicited, because
you know, everybody got something to say now because you
done told us, you told her your business, and now
we've got to tell you what we think. Girl. So

(17:55):
I think that, you know, hopefully she's able to heal,
and me personally, I hope that we get some some
dope music from it, which a couple of I need
some clams. I need a lotto collab. I need a
party collab. I don't want to glow collab anymore. I
think I'm good on one Gorilla because she got on
the internet, and you know I love Glurilla girl. She
got on the internet. Shocking. She got on the internet

(18:17):
and she posted a laughing in mog after Meg came
out said she got cheated on. I ain't like that, friend,
and I don't know what you was talking about, Lorella,
but I ain't liked it. Are you sure it was
for Meg? I don't know if that was for Meg.
Well it was, it was very cooincidana. She has since
deleted it, so if it wasn't about me, told her
at the time, And wait, wasn't right. Please tell me

(18:40):
that that's not you. She can't be a mean girl,
not glow. I can't believe glow around on the churnch
is to be a mean girl. She a mean girl. Girl.
I can see that. I can see that she got
her teeth and her titties, dune girl. It became a
mean girl. Okay, because I'm gonna say before and after
the surgery, because before the can't be no mean girl.
It was mean already. All happen to mean. It was

(19:01):
gonna be mean or ugly. You can be both mean
or ugly, you can both. But I mean, I love Glorilla,
and I just I hate to think that that was
you know, I think, but I mean, speaking of fabricated situations,
there was apparently a shooting at the White House correspondence dinner. Uh,
and they're calling it an assassination attempt. Again, I don't

(19:26):
understand why we keep getting dragged into this girl be
over there fat make it up stories. Ain't none of
that real? I think what where we are in this
administration is everything you do is a lie. Nothing nothing
you do holds any value. So when I see stuff
like this, I'd be like, oh, shooting at the correspondence
dinner girl, What am I gonna eat for dinner? Precisely

(19:48):
because he been wanting to go home and take a nap.
He keep falling asleep. This was all the publicity for
him to get some press. Oh. I know sometime, I
know when somebody tired. When I see it, right, he's trying.
I mean, I just feel like it don't ever be
the led. I think it's just him. He's trying to
position himself so badly as this savior or someone who
cannot be stopped, and I I'm just not buying it.

(20:11):
I think you are constantly putting strangers, random people, innocent
people in harm's way, and at some point Congress has
to step in and stop this. Y'all are literally the
only ones that can stop this nigga, and y'all just
be letting him run amok and won't. It's like, what
do he got on y'all? It's like, what have y'all been?
You know what he got? You know what I'm saying,
because they got the same thing on him that they

(20:32):
do on them, So y'all all up in the files.
I'm sure of it, but like, I'm sorry, but I
think is just interrupting a dinner like that when this
is supposed to be First of all, this is a
political event, right, people are here to talk business and
mingle and network and all of this stuff. Hopefully somebody

(20:53):
was in that room trying to come to a solution
for how we get out of this mess. No, instand
this nigga and he got damn g I Joe. No,
he's a laughing He's just a laughing stock. That is
somebody who I look at and just see clown like
clown welcome to the circuit. This is varnum bab bring

(21:14):
the brothers late like it. Don't got no soul up
in it. But I can't stand him. Every time I
see him, I turner channel anytime I see him proper
on my feet, I said, I do not like this.
Not interested in this type of content. I don't like him.
I don't want to know what he's doing, what he's
up to, or what he's not doing for lack thereof like,

(21:34):
I just don't. Well, he's been doing some stuff, man,
He's been doing some foolishness. And I've been trying to
not trying to he's not trying to do the right thing.
He's not ever trying to do the right thing. And
that's all I want to see, is you do the
right thing. Get us out of this bs that you
put us in, instead of always pointing the finger at
somebody else or like you said, trying to be the
saver or something he calls literally something you did you

(21:56):
try to swoop in and be like and it was
because of me. Now we're gonna stop like you just
just he do too much. I mean, it's a typical man, right,
this is what they do. They ruin the world and
then everybody has to pay the price. So said all
that to say, never beating the allegations and never beating

(22:23):
them allegations boogie. I just think the only issue I
have with this is that you know, obviously this person
was put in a position of power and he's not qualified.
He ran his businesses into the ground. He's had so
many bankruptcies on his resume, and why would he be
able to run a country if he can't run a business.
And to that point, why is Pinky Cole now on

(22:47):
is it Housewives? I think she's I think she's either
on Housewives or Love and hip hop. One of them shows, Housewives.
She's on Housewives, and I don't like her attitude on there.
So when she be crying about going bankrupt and stuff,
I give give me her like her attitude or how
she like her and she's been like her and Fadri

(23:09):
have been going back and forth. I just I don't
keep up with it. I just saw one interaction and
she was making fun of Fadrio's wigs, talking about how
her wigs look crazy. If fad was like a dirty
tennis ball, could never and I said, and this is
why I don't be in fair. I don't want none
no black women on these reality TV shows because they
just get on here and talk about each other. The
aera of the business out and we need to see

(23:30):
each other differently. I'm tired of seeing us as dirty
tennis balls. I don't. I don't like it. She can,
I don't like it. This ball was dirty. You got
is somebody who you actually don't want to go to
exactly like and if we forget to spare you right,
she forget, Like anytime you say something about her, she's

(23:54):
not gonna take the high road. She's not gonna say
you know what, I'm gonna let you have that one.
I think that's probably the one who will go toe
to toe with you every single time. So maybe leave
a baby, just yeah, and worry about this bankruptcy because
she's she's on the internet crying or on the CV
show crying and saying she didn't you know her husband
was like, I'll give you the money. She was like, well,
I didn't want to do that because you know, you

(24:15):
got your business and stuff. And I'm like, girl, you
don't let that man. If that's your husband that my
hand is out, it might be it might be different
from me if this is just a guy that I'm seeing.
But if you are my man, my man, my man, baby,
come here. I got a problem. Can you help me
fix it so quick? I don't care man that I'm saying,

(24:36):
man on the side, man around the way, man next door.
I don't get my damn you said hand? What out?
When they you tear your ass up in these comments
they've been I wish I cared enough. I'm so tired

(25:01):
of dealing with broke people. Never have a penny from
another person. I can never like, you know what, I'm
not mad at you by thank you because you know
I have been through so much when it comes to
the broken begging that now I got to reach out

(25:23):
in my purse to pay your way, and your homeboy's way,
and sometimes your cousin cousin's way. They don't never have
to pay. I don't like that. I'm over. I feel
I'm my community service hours. I'm off that. Yeah, anybody
is in favor of you getting what you deserve from
a relationship. This guy right here, I love you, this

(25:44):
guy right here, because I listen. We are in a
space right now where we headline after headline of black
women being murdered by their spouse, black women being uh,
you know, come up missing last person they was seeing
with their fiance. Like there is an all out war
on women right now, from policy being created to keep

(26:06):
us from having health care rights, to the amount of
food we're able to feed our children, to how much
money we can make in the workplace, to literally just
existing and not having them be murdered at the hands
of somebody we claim to love and be intimate with.
So I don't want to hear nothing about pick better men.
I don't because because if you really knew how to

(26:30):
keep a man, you need to give us the playbook, sir,
since you know, since you know so much and got
your degree, please let us know how do you men?
Men only Okay, they're the only ones. They have opinions,
men only, the only one. Let us know how you
keep a man? Okay, list it down and I want
you to write in the comments this is how you

(26:51):
keep a man. I'm very I know all the details. Okay.
I don't have to help them craft response because they
don't actually have they They say general things like, well,
you just gonna watch what they do and be search
cut up because man is with the man who literally
laid out of relationship for her that looked like there

(27:13):
was a future, and he did it publicly. That's why
I say men don't care about embarrassing you. I feel
like they live to embarrass you. So if I haven't cried, yes,
I got my hand out for that. Yeah. Absolutely. If
somebody is offering to pay something for me, I'm smart
enough to have discernment to know if you want someone
else in return. But I'm gonna tell you that I'm
no longer band super nice about it. But I'm gonna

(27:35):
tell you this in the comments. I promise you how
much you want bad. They're gonna name all the attributes
of a slave. They gonna tell you everything to keep
a man is everything that you would need in a slave.
It's not gonna be nothing about her and like who
she is and her accolades and you know, just her
being a care None of that isn't like you need

(27:55):
to wash, wash, wash the dishes, and do my clothing,
food the laundry, clean up, take care of the kids,
and get the milk and pour the syrup and like,
because I ain't doing all this shit at I got
to stop you right there, dyl And I don't mind
doing it, but I mind if I want to. I
want to only for myself. Like I'm not going out

(28:16):
my way from that nigga who don't do nothing for me. Literally,
you don't do anything. That's the difference right there. The
problem is they expect that kind of treatment and they
have not earned it. And so my thing is, if
you want to chase and you want to hunt and
you want to pursue that, come over here and act
like you've got some of that in your system. You
need to be about the business of pursuing me. Don't
come over here with your hand out asking me for stuff,

(28:37):
thinking that I owe you something because you want to
sniff my draws that I think that is the problem.
That's the problem. They want to be the princesses and
go to hell. Go right on here, the boys, friend,
don't be the boys, and you're trying to be the
girl who's gonna be the boys? I'm asking it anyway.

(28:58):
I stop arguing with them, niggas. I said the whole time,
whole time, there is a man at my house telling me,
please put the trash bag now. I will take it
out for you. Don't touch that door handle. Do you
need money for this? Are you hungry? Let me know
what kind of ice cream you want. I haven't sent
to your house. Whole time, whole time. There's a man
right here. So no, I'm not too masculine. You're just

(29:20):
a bitch, moving right along, moving right along, Mama. I
told you to log off. I told you I was
taking a hard turn in my content. So if you
sat here and you listen to me say that you
it's your fault. Get off anything. I told you, I'm
gonna say it for you. Friend. They said, I'm gonna
say it for you, so you don't get in trouble
because they need to be said because I need to

(29:42):
I'm almost forty, honey, I'm done missing my words with
any and everybody. I am a grown woman, and I
want to be allowed to be who is exactly who
I am, who I want to be, who's comfortable for me?
And I think this is what we're talking about is
part of that. How you date, it's part of that.
Who you allowing your space is part of that. Like

(30:03):
we are grown very way too wrong to be playing
the types of games that these grown men be wanting
to play. It's all I'm saying. So if you feel
like I'm too masculine, don't worry about it. Go get you.
Go get you a dainty little something that's helpless, and
that's gonna get on your nerves because she gonna ask
you every day, how do you turn on the thermistead?

(30:25):
I dropped the starbirds? Can you help me? That's what
you want? Go get that. But I wasn't raised like that,
you know what I'm saying, Like we over here we
are business women, right, so and like I said, once again,
get somebody that's in the audience. That's how it is,
right because they look at you, they like, Oh, she's
a powerhouse, she got you know what I'm saying, she

(30:46):
might get too much from me. Let me get somebody
in the audience. That's really what it is. It's like
you just don't want to see somebody who's elevated because
you can't get there or you're struggling to get there,
you know what I mean. The beautiful thing I will
tell you about being around women like us, it's either
you're gonna rise to the occasion or you're gonna crumble,
crumble at the bottom. That's it. When you come in
our presence, you even see us doing this and be like,

(31:09):
I need to you know what I'm saying, I gotta
get myself together, or you're just gonna fall to the
side and we rush your whole family and we have
a good time. You notice it or not. That's it.
That's all you know. That's see the one it really

(31:29):
it really is that so I mean, and I love
having pressions like that, and I my goal is to
not necessarily make a bunch of new friends, but my
goal is to only allow those types of interactions. I
don't need nobody around me that can only learn from
me same. I need some people that can teach me
something because I'm at a place now I don't. Hey,

(31:51):
you good at what you do, I'm good at what
I do. Let's trade resources, figure out how to get
to the next level together. But what people do is
they sit around and they get they get jealous, and
they they don't even know how to exist. This is
not just friendships. These are niggas. Like a man will
lay next to you every night plotting on how he
can embarrass you, because it means more if you be

(32:12):
thrown the one up here. Anybody can play with a
bird from round away. But if I if I make
me the Stallion crumble and cry on stage during Mulan
Rouge while she's on Baby Meg, the Stallion is on Broadway.
The way I would have blocked that nigga on all
platforms and went right on about my day. I would
have posted a picture in his daddy left the next

(32:33):
nom Ryan, because you got to do it, you got
to do it. And I would have came for the
Grandpa and what you and would use the ushers on
Daddy's hume. And now we're all uncomfortable. How about that? Now, everybody,
I'm sad and go right on about my life because
you like y'all play too much. Y'all play, and I'll

(32:54):
be playing. I be playing. I love Mucher, So okay,
that'd be my because I'm really gonna take it that
if I got to will. I mean, I feel like
it's the last laugh, last last last laugh, last last
laugh last he he who last laugh last last last
last laugh laugh last You get it? You get yo, exactly.

(33:19):
And you know, speaking of people playing too much, honey,
did you see that Michael movie? I did not see
the Michael movie, but thanks to you, you let me
know already seen the Michael movie. You told me already
saw I don't need to see it. I said, I
already seen it before, so I mean I would see it.

(33:40):
Though it was great, it was amazing. For me. It
was like, you know, we'll never get another Michael Jackson.
So for me, it was like a concert. It was
nostalgic for me. I was dance saying in my seat,
I was smiling, I was happy. Like times, I got
a little teared up, like I don't think we understand
how transcending Michael Jackson and his music really was. I
don't know if we get it. And I you know,

(34:01):
I'm a music person, so it's different from me. So
when I see it and I hear it, and I'm like,
oh my god, this man was a genius and we
will never experience that again. I know. I would say,
go see the movie for that. Okay, I'm gonna take
my mama. I'm gonna go see it just because I
think I'll work. Your mama gonna love you. Okay, Yeah,

(34:21):
I'm gonna take my mom because I know she hain't
seen it yet. So we'll go do that sometime this
week and then our report back report. I have a time.
I think he and we don't have a whole lot
of legends. I think left because people are trying so
hard to mass produce things. People don't sit in the
studio for hours anymore and bring in a guitarist or
bring in a quartet or bring in a choir. They

(34:44):
don't do that. So we're not getting on AI. Friend,
they don't get me started on AI high. Now, you
don't get none of that. You don't even need the person,
imagine not even needing. You don't You don't need talent
at all. Actually, you can tell this app call I
think it's called SUNO. You can tell them that out
write me. You're gonna tell the app write me a

(35:07):
song about this, and I want the melody to sound
like this, and I want the background music to sound
like this, And in about thirty five seconds, it'll give
you a song that you can develop. You can take
that snippet, give it to an engineer and say, hey,
recreate this, and now you have a full song like
it is taking away the artistry of it. But the
reason why Michael Jackson did over two hundred million opening

(35:30):
weekend is because he's Michael Jackson. A I will never
accomplish that. Yeah, yes, And people miss real, authentic artists
and music like That's why Michael Jackson. Michael Jackson is
so good that he inspired little kids who don't even
know who he is. They never lived in his time,
never they see the song, they see the videos and
they start dancing like him and remembering the words. And

(35:52):
I'd be like, this is so crazy that little kids
love Michael Jackson. I don't know who that man is
at all. And we feel the same way, so much
older than them, and we feel the same exact way
as they do. The only person who made me feel
like that friend and and she's still not. She ain't
Michael Jackson. But I will tell you, friend, it tore
me up. Whitney, girl, Whitny ain't got no being to

(36:15):
being gone. Oh wit ain't got no business being gone.
I listened to Whinny for three months straight when she died.
I couldn't help I couldn't help but want to dance
with somebody like I couldn't help it, friend, I also
tears me up. And that the crazy part is that
one't even her song. Whitney Lord, Lord Lord, that song
that right there, And then I think that's what I

(36:38):
was feeling when I was watching Michael that, Like it
was like, oh my god, we're never gonna get to
see this ever again. Like it just it was very bittersweet.
You know. Obviously the music is phenomenal, but girl, if y'all,
oh my god, please give me a Michael Jackson Hologram concert,
I will go. I would go to that. Yeah, that's dope.

(36:58):
There's not many people that I would do that for,
because I know a I would have to be involved
in some kind of way maybe, but it's not very
many people I would do that for. I would for Michael,
for Prince, for Whitney. Who else do with God? You
already said Prince, that would be my next person would

(37:20):
have been Prince. Michael, Prince and Whitney are really just
my favor. Like I don't know that I feel the
way about other artists that I feel about it, you
know what I mean. Like we got artists like people,
people like Drake, people like Chris Brown people. But we
can Steve be whatever we want to go see you.
That is true. We can't see her whenever we want

(37:41):
to go see her. But for me, I think when
we talk about legends, I think she would probably and
then in our category, not Michael Jackson and Whitney. I'm sorry, y'all.
Y'all gonna be mad, but I don't care. It's not
that category. I'm talking about generation. I think she would
be like a legend for sure. Yeah, yeah, I mean
I think in a few years they would definitely be

(38:03):
doing Hologram concerts. I might go to one of those
because I'm not I just the concert tickets are ridiculous.
I'm not paying the money anyway, So especially especially when
I know my girl gonna buy the rights to it
and posted on some streets like girl, we know how
to Bey'll say, if right, she got all the money
in the world and I know what she about to
do with it, m m, and I'd rather just wait.
I'm not I seen Beyonce one time in Philly, the girl.

(38:24):
I barely seen her. I was so far back. I
was like, that wasn't a part of my friend. I
think that's beyondes. I think I seen her. You know
that you saw for lunch like Beyonce. It was somebody
dad friend. But I had seen I think Beyonce a
long time ago when Prince had died, and it was amazing,
you know what I'm saying. She put on a great show.

(38:46):
It just also was something where it was like it
was so expected, even those were expensive. It was like,
I just don't know if I can do it again.
I just I don't know. Is it me? Is it
gullible of me to feel like, when you've made as
much money as she has, do you still have to
charge your fans so much? Is that? Like glla? I mean,
I think what a lot of people don't want to

(39:06):
admit is that when you allow they gonna hate hate
me for this, but you have to price certain people out.
Oh everybody can't go you know what I'm saying, Wow,
that's fact. So could we go see Beyonce? Sure, I'm
not gonna do it, you know we definitely let's not

(39:29):
because I don't give a damn if they think we
could afford it or not. If Beyonce brought them ticket
sales down to thirty dollars a part number one, it
would be sold out so fast. Nobody would nobody, The
people that really really probably deserve to go wouldn't be
able to go. But you're gonna have any and everybody
in that concert. That is, and I'm talking about a

(39:49):
crackhead that scraped up enough to get it there. It's
gonna be right in the corner doing crack me. So like,
I get it, I get it. Wh do it? I
think it's a little fed up. But you know, oh damn,
that makes sense, you know what I'm saying. Now, I
get it. But that's still steep to me. It's still

(40:10):
very high, you know what I mean? Like, can we
price them to where they're not that high? I feel
like I got to put up my house a little bit. Yeah,
I mean, if I could get a So here's my thing.
I know me. My problem is I don't like concerts period.
So if I go to a concert, I want to
be in a in a box. I want to be
like right away from all of the Okay, Gerlan doesn't

(40:33):
like all that. I can't do the drin bron So
if I'm going to the concert, they're gonna ask I've
gotta pay a thousand dollars to you know what I'm saying.
And I don't want to pay that when I know
she's gonna put it on streaming services and I can
watch it for twenty nine to ninety nine a month.
That's facts. Dag, that's not true. Okay, I'm not saying
don't support her. I'm saying this is just this is
how I feel about it. Yeah, No, I like concerts.

(40:55):
I think I most recently realized that I do like concerts.
I'm still super picky about the price though, Like I
don't know why that's like something for me. It's just
like I have to wait. It's not one of those
things that I feel like I gotta be there yet.
It's just like I like going, but it's not like
a must. Well you know what we we could do? Friends?
What the hell is it? What do you want to say?

(41:16):
I think we should go to a concert in another
country because hear me out, tickets are going to be
a lot cheaper mmm, and we get the travel experience. Now,
one of my biggest reasons for anxiety having concerts around
here is the lack of security and the political climate
and the way people see black people in this country.

(41:38):
I don't be wanting to be around big, big crowds
in America because you never know who got what? Yeah,
that's true. Am I doing in Colombia? Oh, let's do that?
I can do that? Oh? I want to. I really
wanted to see Cardi b friend. I really wanted to
see her. And speaking of lack of security, girl, she
cuts everybody out in Atlanta. Girl, it's always Atlanta show.

(42:02):
I ain't seen her be that pissing a long time.
I said, dang, she ain't gonna go out. Thank god
she came out. I think she wasn't gonna come out
a girl. Whatever happened when that camera went off, they
pulled it together, sure enough did. But everybody in the
comments was saying that's how they are at that particular arena.
Like everybody was saying, like they're so mean, they's so rude, nasty.
I was like, Wow, really, Atlanta is just one of

(42:23):
them places where we see I mean, you've seen this
being around me sometimes when we go places there are
just celebrities everywhere. Yeah, like it. They're so common, they're
everywhere here, So these people don't really respect them the
same way as people who never gonna see them again,
you know what I mean. Like if I see Kirk
and his three ear rings at the gas station every Wednesday,

(42:46):
then you know what I'm saying, Like, just truthfully, these
people the they're not really just excited. So I think
I'm not excusing it. I'm just saying I think that
that may have something to do with it. But she's
not to each of Yeah, wow, is that At the
end of the episode? Fun it was girl, we had
a good mine? Sure up? Wow, that went by so fast, y'all.

(43:06):
I hope y'all truly. I think I forgot girl thought
he was on the phone for a second for y'all.
I'm saying, like it'd be like this sometimes it's great.
Forgot you was filming a whole podcast, Sun, I'm just
a talking talking, so I'm like, wait, it's no more topics. Okay,
Well listen, y'all. If you want the visuals to make
sure you sune in every Thursday on YouTube. If you

(43:28):
want to hear us audibly, okay, you can listen to
us wherever you listen to your podcast. Just make sure
you like, comment and subscribe and hit that notification bill
so you know every time your girls in town. All right,
y'all will Until next time, Bine
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