February 12, 2026 • 48 mins
Episode 87 of She Said It First is peak Jerrilyn and Lynee’—equal parts chaos, comedy, and “girl, let me tell you what happened.” The ladies kick things off with a petty Olympics update: Jerrilyn’s irritated with everything (including her house making paranormal noises), and Lynee’s dragging Corey Holcomb, Aries Spears, and every “same text, different font” comedian who insists on talking slick about Black women while looking like hypertension personified. Between swollen eye canals (a new medical term?) and DMs full of mucus-sounding voice notes, the two roast these men so thoroughly they could file it under community service.
From there, the episode pivots into Valentine’s Day—its messy Roman fertility-festival origins, overblown modern expectations, and the universal heartbreak of receiving absolutely nothing from someone who claims to love you. The ladies keep it hilariously honest: if your partner only performs romance on February 14th, that’s not love, that’s emotional DoorDash. And yet, in the spirit of the episode title, both hosts reflect on the joy of gifting themselves, loving themselves, and choosing partners who show up the other 364 days of the year.
Because it’s Black History Month, the duo highlight Black brilliance—from Gladys West (GPS queen!) to the Super Soaker creator Lonnie Johnson—while celebrating the magic, versatility, and sheer audacity of Black womanhood. They wrap with a real talk moment about mental health in the middle of political chaos, reminding listeners that laughter is medicine, protecting your peace is essential, and sometimes the most revolutionary thing you can do is choose joy… and maybe “whoop they ass” when necessary. Classic She Said It First: funny, real, righteous, and wrapped in unapologetic Black girl energy.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Was it everybody in her Girl Indescribable aka Herolyn Lake,
I'm checking in with none other than my best before
the rest of the and you all listening to that,
she said the first podcast and Urber one podcast on
the podcast Bad Baby, That's how school was on Living Single,
I'm bet after you.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Left my girl friend and bad Part.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Girl, this is such a wonderful time to have this
episode because so many amazing things are happening. We're a
right smack dab in the middle of Black History Month,
Vale were black. So many things happening and we're gonna
touch on all of that today. But friend, before we
(00:47):
do that, then, mm hmm, I got to ask you
what what irritated you this week?
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Girl? Everything everything, always everything me. But Girl, I didn't
really get noticed.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
I got sleep, but I was kind of woken up
out of my number.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
If you will, you know what.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I'm saying, Because I feel like every time I'm trying
to settle down, why do the house feel like it
needs to start settling his will?
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Like what is all that snap Crocker.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
When you start going to see don't you think all
these like random noises throughout the house? That one that
one empty bott of water that you put in the
trash six hours together, or you just thought decided wanted
to expand it, like now I gotta go downstairs with
(01:38):
the thing. Hello, hellocause that's not.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Be nobody up in here, child.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
But oh my gosh, I can definitely understand that needing sleep,
needing rest, and as soon as you get ready to
get some something happens.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
There's that. But what irritated you, then chill? Corey Holk
come and girl, because.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Like she I know her well enough to know she's
gonna break that up, girl, And I want you to
know I got a segment just for y'all.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Girl.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Why.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
First of all, Corey.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Holcom on on his Little Raggedy podcast, and we've we've
talked about him before. He and Airy Spears have both
that's why. That's okay. Let me just to tell the story.
So Corey Holcomb has said that he's lost out on
gigs and it's TMZ's fault because they released the footage
of him assaulting a woman, walked up on her in
(02:37):
her personal space and punched her in the face. One
hundred and one things wrong with this, right, But for
you to get for you to get your pre diabetic
self on my timeline and tell us that TMZ is
the the problem. Yeah, And so I was, you know,
(03:00):
I was basically talking about that part, and I recognized
that a lot of people probably thought that he was
Airy Spears because for a long time there was no
you know, we didn't have a whole lot of men
that looked like that that were in comedy space.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
You saw that you elaborate on that. Can you give
me a little bit more explanation for fase on love
Bruce Bruce?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
You know see that it's like the same text, different
fund I see, absolutely absolutely, And not to mention, these
two specifically have built their careers making jokes about black women,
degrading black women. Corey Hoko even has a joke about
not punching his girl but open hands slapping her and
things like that.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
So that's what I say.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
And Airy Spears with Timmany Haddison, that skit that they
did that was so in very poor taste. So I
made the video which I'm standing ten toes on what
I said.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
I don't take anything back.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
And so Airy speirusly to my DMS and he sent
me a voice note that sounded like it was riddled
with phlegm and mukid, but that could just be the
pre diabetes.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
So he was like, why would you think Corey holcom
is ARII spears first of all, sir, talking about yourself
and a third person. A little crazy. Okay, that's a
little crazy, but to like do what I do when
I see why something block me and go on about
your day now. Also to be fair, if you feel
like I'm attacking you and you want to defend yourself
and you want to respond, absolutely go right ahead.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
But Will said his name for a milli leader of
a second girl. He wants attention.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
You're not going to use me to try to get intentions,
because that's where I said, and then moved on.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
To something else, like he wasn't the focus of the video.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
That's what the problem was. You not the focus of
the video. But now you're sitting here, well, how could
you think? First of all, me and everybody else in
new comments was on the same page, and how could
you not breathe.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Tell me how I'm proposed to woodnow?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
And because why are you sitting and blowing houses down
and not already? They don't take long the type stuff
you're so lazy already had of breath, already out of bro,
you started behind the cube ball.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
I can't believe you. Famous time already said no, I'm
just gonna. I'm just gonna.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
And you know, I I looked at it when I
saw it. First of all, I'm not following him because
I'm not a fan U I. I liked him on
Mad TV years and years ago, and I thought it
was funny when he played Wizard Kelly on the Proud
Family for years. But I don't consider myself a fan
of his, So I was not following him. His message
(05:46):
was in my message request, and so so when you
look at the video, you can see that I added
it to my primary mailbox because I just saw a
verified blue Jack and I thought that that was funny
because sir, first of all, go to hell. Let's start here,
Let's start by going to hell. And I just felt
(06:10):
like it was so unnecessary to do like And apparently,
unbeknownst to me when I made the video, apparently he
and Corey Holkam have beef from years ago. Apparently he
came on Corey's I don't know, because I genuinely don't
keep both care. I don't care I do not care.
You don't got beef with nothing in that fserator. You're
worried about the wrong beef. Hello, Hello, calm down, I
(06:33):
don't look. When I seen it, I felt like I
can see exactly what you meant. I make a lot
of senselike and they.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Both make terrible decisions. They both make terrible decisions.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
So twins, y'all do the same thing, y'all them, Okay, Like,
come on now, I just like sir, it's not that
far fetched, it's not.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
I just hate the fact that he couldn't see it.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
You know, his eyes really, you know what I'm saying,
falling swollen and put together, so you can what she
was talking about.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
But I've seen it.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I love joy like the John justice in the build
up around the eye canal if that's a word.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
That did I make that up? Yep?
Speaker 1 (07:14):
He doesn't sprinkle Luve Timbrick right there before we go
to sleep, compass yay, do my day.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
You know?
Speaker 1 (07:22):
And it's always moving on from him specifically, there's always
a man that looks like that that has something to say,
because I remember vividly them both making jokes about women's appearances.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Neither of you is the first pick for me. You couldn't.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
You could literally put them in a lineup of sixteen
other ugly men. I can get ninety nine percent of
the time, every other person is going to pick one
of those other ugly men. Absolutely, you're not even first
of the last. So even talking about you know.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
That attention you have.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
It.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
You're welcome to us for giving you the I of
you because it could have because he.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Could have just said nothing, and I you know, I
respect you wanted to say something. But I think he
thought I was gonna respond to him in my DMS
and no, you you wanted it.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
So here we are.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
But girl, aside from that, how many other things are
happening and well you're not friends?
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Girl? What happened? Oh my god, I'm so glad that
you asked me.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Girl. First of all, I just want to let you
know that you will be my Gallantine this year.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Friend. I love you too, and you stand bro.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
So just for the fans watching, I don't know how
interested they'll be in this, but I got a little fiction,
not fiction.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
I got a little fun for you guys. It's very
much not fiction. Surprising fact. Valentine's they started as a
Roman fertility festival. Okay, they had nothing to do with romance.
It involved the matchmaking rituals and can well basically chaos.
So Saint Valentine, you know, there were multiple Valentine's and
(09:19):
historians aren't really even sure which won the holiday honors.
But it didn't become a romantic holiday until the Middle Ages,
when poets like Chaucer linked February with birds mating season.
So somehow that turned into a holiday where Americans now
spend twenty five billion dollars a year chocolate and diamond
companies heavily shaped, you know, modern expectations through the marketing
(09:40):
in the nineteen hundreds. Of course, capitalism built this algorithm
brick by brick. So question, it's Valentine's They really about love?
Or is it about a pressure to perform the act
of romance? I think a little bit of both, because
you know, when romans come a little love on the
back end. You know what I'm saying, won't your little Okay, yes,
(10:07):
I feel like it's a little bit of bone.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
I think.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
I definitely think I have mixed feelings about Valentine's Day,
right because I feel like, if your partner is showing
up for you every day, right, and like it's not
something that you're going to be like gun hold on.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
You won't bet your relationship on it.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
If that person feels like they bring you some flowers
instead of doing this real elaborate thing, you know, with
the hotels and the roses and the balloons and the candles,
and you know what I'm saying, the serendies, the violinists
and all of that stuff. Right, you won't go crazy
because if your person is showing appreciation for you every day,
you won't be looking forward to that. But when person
is not showing up for you every day or even
(10:47):
every other day, and you ain't really sure what you
know what I'm saying, like it's a little you want
to feel appreciated. You look forward to that day. You
look forward for them putting forth to adia. And just
because they don't I don't know how to whatever, Just
because they don't don't mean they don't love you.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
It might be like.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
They're not a romantic and so you're looking for that
day for them to kind of pull out all the stops,
all the tricks, all the you know, the bells and whistles,
because that's not something that's like usually a part of
your relationship, and so I feel like it really depends
on where you are in your relationship, on whether or
not it is something that you feel like doing too
much or you're looking like, oh my god, this is
so sweet.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
I'm just happy that we spending time together.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
I think to me, like, if I've never got treated
any kind of way, and then on Valentine's Day you
do something, I don't know if it would make a difference,
because yes, you're just performing something that.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
You know what I mean, Like, I don't know if
this is.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Something that you're using to keep me here with you,
or I mean, maybe you just want to shut me
up for a couple of weeks. I'm not really sure,
but I know that the best relationships are the ones where.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Valentine's Day is not that big of a deal. Not
that we don't do.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Anything to show our love for each other, or maybe
we don't plan anything because you know, everybody don't want
to do stuff on Valentine's Day, and I understand that.
But if if we're solid three hundred and sixty four
other days of the year, then watch it matter A
card and some flowers. Okay, thanks, but I know you've
been coming home to me every night, You've been provided
(12:12):
for me, you've been.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Making me feel safe and secure.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
So I don't think it's that big of a deal,
but I think the definitely needs to be some kind
of balance because there are people that are looking for
diamond rings and range rovers and all these other crazy
things things and it's banking and the birth part is
like it's all based on a relationship. Like, if you
don't do it now, consider yourself broken up with you
know what I'm saying, consider yourself single if you don't
(12:37):
go through with all the elaborated things that they expect
during Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
And what I will say is that sometimes people are different.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Right where I happen to be a gift giver, but
maybe the person I'm with or was talking to wasn't.
They don't really get into that, they're not into gift
giving or whatever, and so sometimes I don't think it's
like that they don't want to or something like that.
I think it's more so about, like, I know this
is something that's important to you, and I think it's
important to know who you're with and be.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
Like because I know this is important to you. And
this is not really my chemical makeup and how I'm designed.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
I still know how much gifts mean to you that
I'm still going to show up for you in this way.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
Because it matters. And I think that that could be
a thing too, you know.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Although when bank my whole relationship on anything, you know,
or I don't think anyone should. I don't think anyone
should bank their relationship on Valentine's Day. I think you
should see how they treat you, like you said, all
year round, it's not just this one day. But I
do think sometimes you shouldn't be so selffiicient relationships. If
you know that your person likes certain things, you should
still show up for them.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Showing up in different ways for your person. It's super important,
you know.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Yeah, I just think that I think it just I
think this is all relationship based. But I want to
reiterate again that I don't think this is the time
to throw away your relationship.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
I think it's a time to pay attention throughout the year,
like have you been treated well? You know?
Speaker 1 (13:55):
And if you haven't, then this is why you're putting
so much emphasis on this day, right, Yeah, I think
that's a great way to look at it. So, what's like,
what's the worst Valentine's that gif you ever received? Uh?
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Nothing, that was the worst one.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
Absolutely nothing, no acknowledgement, no gift, no nothing.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
Just nothing. That was the worst one. I'm gonna go
with that as well.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
About Alex, how are you in a relationship with me
and you don't want to.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Get me nothing? Nothing? Like?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Oh yeah, yeah, I woulda I would have took a car.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
I don't know, Frank, I think I kind of feel
the same way.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
It's like, good, I'm glad you didn't give me nothing,
because now I know exactly.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Where you stand there.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Sometimes you need to know, you need to Oh, I
would have took the car, or I would have sit.
I would No, you not doing anything or not getting
me anything, let me know exactly what I needed to know.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
That's the blind sign. That's what I wasn't paying attention to. Yeah, no,
that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
It's crazy for you to be in a relationship and
Valentine's they just is not on.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Your radar at all.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
But it like if if you feel like that though,
like it might be time to let that go.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
So I definitely understand it.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
I would say that's the worst, worst that's the worst
gift I've ever gotten, just to feel not considered, you
know not.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
I wasn't even thought about. That was not even a
thought nothing, Because.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
How you do flowers the flowers and publics is ten dollars.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
You ain't even got to get me no fancy roses.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
You can legitimately go get me three single roses from
publics for ten dollars and they will already be in
the base with the water in them, in the refrigerator.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Ask me how I know I've done it. She she
just puts you out on so lazy.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
To get flowers from, don't know how to set it up,
don't got the creative with whatever you want to call it.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
She's just what you want to.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
That's that's literally the bare minimum too. So I mean
you ain't got to get me no range rover and
pay my rent or nothing. But I mean a small
token of appreciation with the you know, we'll be grateful,
it would be nice. But the best Valentine's gift you
ever got. That girl, I'm gonna be unser your friends,
(16:13):
what I'll be bowed up like that. I have had
so many Valentine's Days come and go, and this will
be the second year in a row that I spend
it with my parents.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I'm actually I.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Love that and I'm actually I'm actually talking to someone
this year. But it's just you know what I mean,
like we've already done that because I'm out. I booked
a trip out of town. Yeah, and I told you,
I said, I'm not changing. I'm not giving up Spain
for you. I will be in Barcelona for Valentine's Day
so you can.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
You can come if you want.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
But you know, I felt like earth keate when I
told him that, because the way that lady said, I
fell alone with myself and if somebody wants to share
that with me, I love.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Yes, you know That's where I'm at with it.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
But I think all the best gifts I've ever received
have comfort myself, honestly so, and not that I'm not
looking forward to stuff, but you know, I'm I know
you're a gift giver and I'm just not. So typically
I don't expect gifts from people. If I want something,
I get it for myself.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
And so I think maybe I'm the problem, right because
if they can't treat you better than yourself, friend, and
what are you doing? And why are you here. That's
the biggest thing.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Okay, And I can see the video you put up today,
especially when it comes to your friends.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
When you surrounded by friends.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Who love you, who show up for you, who just
do things for you, you will easily see where.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
The problem lies. Yeah, that's all I'm gonna say it.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Surround yourself with people who love you, who will still
gift you, who will go out with you, who will
talk to you, who will be available for you, and
you will see.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Where the problem lies. It will be so clear as day,
Like if you know that person.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
If I'm if there's a woman that treats me better
than you and I'm not giving her kuchie, that's crazy, Hello,
like razy, Yeah, maybe it's time to stop giving these
me and coochie.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
I'm glad I was able to work that in there. Hell.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
But you know, as we fall in love and out
of love, maybe and we learn things that we do
and don't need to know about people. There's one other
thing we got to talk about, because February is Black
History Months. Yes, yes, shout out to us for being
you know, discriminated against having all these racial protocols put
(18:35):
in place, laws literally to segregate us and demean us
and still rising to the occasion out doing everyone upstaging,
you know, hundred circles around people shout out to us, doing.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
That to us and fringing.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
You have some inventions, I know, we got to know
some one talk about because a lot of people don't
know these things. So black people have contributed greatly to
not just our society, but technology and medicine and transportation
and all the things.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
So what you got for his friend? Okay, suck you guys? Well,
first of all, do you remember math quest girl?
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Why would you traumatize me having a print out that
big assie paper and flap it open on the dashboard
Like I'm not good at any I don't have no
sens a dollar your friend.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
Like, I'm going somewhere a bunch of times, right, But
now what you do?
Speaker 1 (19:27):
You just use your getting that GPS on Hello, And
we could thank Gladys West for that.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Okay, She'm on, Gladys. I'm on Gladys. Was it night?
I don't know?
Speaker 1 (19:36):
West?
Speaker 2 (19:36):
It went? West was what it was?
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Gladdest was the one who Gladdest West was the one
who invented or helped invent the GPS, Like she had
a huge hand in that. And this was a woman
of age, so like, I just like how she was thinking.
I remember pulling out.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Math quests or having a print out on math Quest, and.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
Like feeling gray loss all the time because I don't
understand the street names. How girl, all right, But when
the GPS came out it changed my.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Life for ever.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Them your girl getting bigger, extra lazy. Now now I
don't try to I don't try to remember, no diferen
right exactly, so like I don't care how many times
I've been there, GPS at my mama house. Hello, same,
just to make sure I don't get lost or rounded.
You feel shut out to Gladys West. Do you remember
(20:24):
the super Soca?
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Yes? Yes, so Lonnie John Sam was the one who
invented the super so Goodney.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Baby, I love that they have these black ass names.
Lannie come on, like, so Lonnie was the one who
invented the super soaker, and we can thank him for
all the backyard barbecues, the cook outs, playing with your friends,
having a good time. I mean, when you think of
a super Soca, you just think nineties, baby, You just
thinking good time outside, playing with your friends. You know
(20:55):
what I'm saying, it's just a vibe. So thank you,
Lonnie reaching out to you. And then, last but certainly
not least, Gared Morgan. He was the one who invited
the three light traffic signals. Okay, so thank you, Garrett.
And you know it should have came with directions because
I want to go on. The women say yellow means
go through.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
How do y'all stop it?
Speaker 3 (21:15):
It?
Speaker 2 (21:15):
Do mean? Speed up? Just a little bit up?
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Okay, I don't want to hear nothing about it. All
that stopping when you see a yellow light, speed through,
yellow means And I'm gonna need y'all to follow on
poorly because what you're Morgan didn't invent it for no reason.
He trying to get us what we need to go. Okay,
I know that's right. So what we have here is
three people, well, two people specifically making sure we are
(21:41):
headed in the right direction.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Hello, is what it seems to.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
Me, and another one ensures that we have joy along
the way. Come on, I got a little aim with
that direction.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Good on that only God can do it. Only God
can do oh God?
Speaker 1 (22:04):
You know, and that's also very black, because why do
we need to break out and worship for no reason.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Out of getting right in the character.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
God.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
I love being black. Though. If you if you could.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
Reincarnate me as anything, I'm not gonna hold you, it'd
be a black woman.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Every what else.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Do you want to be a black woman? I don't
want to be blacker, as black as I can be.
And I know this, this phenomena, you know, has just
started to come about because we was in in school
and that was calling them kids.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
African booty scratch I forget that. I remember.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I don't forget y'all called us roaches and monkeys and
African booty scratches. And it didn't even matter. It didn't
matter what kind of black we were. We were African
booty scratches. Now within our community there was a little colorism. Yeah,
we must talk about that as well. But if I
were to come back as anything, it definitely be another
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black woman.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Absolutely just want to be here.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
The nails, the make up, the body type, the features
like if I.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Come back, I want to come back as a herbalist, like.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Girl, you're about to see me, okay, to see me
with my head tied up, dreads like I want to bang,
like I just go. I want to come back as
an urbalist, like, you know what's crazy?
Speaker 2 (23:31):
You can do that tomorrow. I can't. I think I'm
gonna do it today. Actually, you can get you something
you want, like your hair up. I think it will
be killed with sister locks. Friends. That's a lot of
work because who gonna regrets that would have? Girl?
Speaker 1 (23:42):
If you don't go into the box every time. That's
like twelve hours sitting there with them.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
Little teen ting ting ting. It's not it's not brain
polocks what they do. I love my.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
I'm gonna wear these when I die. Put the braids
in the CASTI with me. Hello, okay, make sure make
sure it's laid in the cake.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
You know I got your the way. They don't protect
the styles. That's one thing. Another thing we can celebrate
as far as black. Let's talk about it. A braid,
I love a wig, I love a butt down. I
love leave out, I love I love it natural, natural afro.
I love a boy out. I love yes, I love hair.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Y'all know that's if you know me, then you know
hair is my thing. So like knowing that black women
have the ability to transform into anything that they feel
that day.
Speaker 2 (24:37):
You know what I mean, whatever it is, if my
mood says I want to.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Wear a bob Okay, My mood says, I'm in the
mood for braids, okay, if I want to wear my
natural hair out and do a twist out afro okay.
I love that we have the ability to beat chameleons
but still stay true to ourselves at the end of
the day. Like it's so important and a lot of
people don't. Why ya always change your eye own? Why
y'all always do this? So why y'all all do that?
Because hair means so much more in the Black community
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than any other bricks, like outside of you know, I
know they grow their hair long, you know, in certain
cultures and things like that, but when it comes to
Black women, it's literally a part of our outfit. Our
hair is our outfit. It goes with everything that we
have on. We're very intentional about how it looks, and
we take time and even for people who don't like
to do their hair, they still find things that work
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for them, even if it's a ponytail every day.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
That's what worked for her.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
She got a lot of hairdsh don't feel like dealing
with it, but she still gets slicking back and ponytail
and still looks fire like beautiful face, bone structure and
all of that. We come in so many different shades
and we can wear because of that, We're able to.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
Wear a blonde and red and black and brown and
all burn you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Like our skin tone and complexion will bring out our
hair depending on the color of.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
It, and it's just beautiful. Like I just think that we.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
Are so blessed to be able to transition and do
different things all the time when it comes to our hair,
and like, that's just how I'm feeling. You kind of
tell how a girls feeling, like how her hair is, Like, oh, absolutely,
and I love that. It was something that they tried
to weabinize against us and we were able to because
you know, certain hairstyles are not professional. You know, they're
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not being professional. And the way black people were like,
I'm gonna show you, thank you, because because black women
are doing everything, whether it's a braid, a buzz down,
a bob upon.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
The sail, a twist out, or so it it does
not matter.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
We take up space in every field, every industry, and
we look better than y'all doing it.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
Hello.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
Hello, And then people as well, what's your real hair,
look like, why are you always wearing wigs? At? Why
you always got this is my real hair. I paid
real money for it.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
I just hello, come on, let's talk about hello. What
was said? What was said that?
Speaker 1 (26:47):
But you know, across the real piece of coin, and
I just people wouldn't get so hung up on that
because it doesn't matter. Like I just went down the
list of why we change our hair. Why is it
for you being impressed about my real hair? It's for
your own personal usage? And then what and then okay.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
You see my end depth. Do I get a cookie?
But I get a smile, a thank you, and just be.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Like overly involved in other people's comfortability. I'm comfortable with
how I wear my hair and the many ways that
I wear it.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
I love how I wear my hair, you know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
So people trying to make other people comfortable when I'm
already comfortable in my own skin.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
It's crazy. I don't see the point of that. Yeah,
and as a black woman, you should never.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
You know, I'm the main one who be I'd be like, listen,
I don't care what they tell you to do. Do
the opposite, do the all right, Because these people don't
know us like we know us. Y'all don't know what
we need. Y'all don't know what's important to us and
what we value. So you can't tell me how to
exist as a black woman.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
You don't know, you don't want to deal with. You
don't know what needs to work for me and what
I truly have to.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Have in order to feel good about myself. So my
your business. Hello, And I just want to.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
Go on the record. I was doing so good. I
just going and that those blonde wigs you see us
wear not Caucasian hair. Just you know that it is
not It's not Caucasian hair. Girl the way people.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
I love all the discourse around this, because if y'all
think that the hair care industry is a billion dollar
industry and anybody is wearing one hundred percent human hair,
it a look crazy to me. It's a look crazy
to me. We're not all no, okay, it ain't enough
hair in the world. It got to growl. We're not
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doing that, y'all. It got the all these ways they
do that people inside and outside of our community attack women,
regardless of what their hair looks like, as a way
to distance themselves and make themselves seem better than somebody else.
Y'all are all wearing the same bundles, the same wig,
same But now unless what.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
What, unless you got it from Party City, it's not
the same. Yeah, that's not the same, but not the
same bundles.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
That's not the same bundles. Now they are high end
and low and there are some of thousand fan to hundred.
So depending on the decity, you know, you're gonna get.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Paid for it. That's all I'm gonna say. But that's
the point. You're gonna get what you paid for. That's it. Okay,
I know that's right. That's because getting you get get
out of Party City. You don't have to be in
part of city.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
No, no time should you be in Party City before
October the first.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Don't be in Party City.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
But it is crazy cause you imagine the less for
a kid or play or something.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
I don't want to see it. But uh, well, I mean,
you know, you know what, never mind.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
You know, don't put up, do not get set up
my camera breaking up? Don't Okay, guys, I'm sorry. Well anyway,
so moving on a little bit. I know we've got
a lot to not a whole lot to cover, but
I do want want to just take a minute to
(30:01):
check in with your friend just about your mental health
because I know that every time we get on the
internet there's something new, unprecedented that is happening, whether it's
our president or the administration as a whole.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
Uh, you know Ice and what's.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Going on in Minnesota and just the way people are
being treated right now and.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
The lack of humanity. How are you feelable? Heavy? Very
very very heavy.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
I think that, Uh, this is oh Jesus heavy.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Yeah, you know people.
Speaker 1 (30:35):
And the thing is people don't ask you how you
feeling a lot, so sometimes you got to reach for that.
I can't lie to you, you know, not what all
that's going on.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
You can't I'm good. It ain't no way I can say,
oh I'm good, Like it just don't mean that.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
It's very heavy and disheartening, and it it makes you
feel like am I dreaming?
Speaker 2 (30:53):
You know what I'm saying? From this nightmare? People are
being treated.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
So unfair, unjust, and you kind of want to take
a stint and you want to do something about it.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
But like you like, where do I start?
Speaker 1 (31:04):
You know what I'm saying, Just like start really, but
it's like where do I start, there's so much going
on in the world, and it's so much you're being
exposed to by just being online.
Speaker 2 (31:13):
You know, we have to be online all.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
The time, and so sometimes that could turn into just
scrolling and now you are like overloaded with just crazy
amounts of information that I don't even think our brains
are supposed to.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
Take in that much. Absolutely dit Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
What I'm saying, Like we are absorbing so much from
Instagram to TikTok, to YouTube to Facebook.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
I mean, it's just.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
NonStop, and you know, it can really make you feel
like I'm not doing enough, like I need to speak out,
I need to say something, use your platform for good.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
Just I don't know.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Friends, just feels heavy, How do you feel same, It's
very heavy, and I think sometimes people we're in a
place now where people.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
Are either obsessing or we are checking out.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
And I think I'm closer to the checking out part,
which is a little concerning, not because I don't care
or I don't want to be informed, but because I
do have to protect my mental health.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
I think that there needs to.
Speaker 1 (32:08):
Be a beautiful balance of staying informed and also not
driving yourself crazy, because at the end of the day.
Even with all of this information, there is nothing that you,
one person can do right now in this moment. Yeah,
we can vote, and we can protest, and we can
bring awareness to it on our platforms, and we can
do all these things. We can call Congress, our representatives,
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we can do all of these things. Right but at
the end of the day, the people who have the
power are sitting back and doing nothing.
Speaker 3 (32:36):
Yeah, So why would I lose my mind when I know,
as an American citizen, I have done I've accomplished my
civic duty.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
I've taken care of my responsibility of voting and educating
people and making sure other people are registered to vote. Like,
I've done that, And so I think now I'm just like,
there are people who have made a platform off of
covering the Epstein files and everything that Trump is doing,
and the people on the Epstein list.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
I don't want to do that. I'm going to give
you something lighthearted in the middle of.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
This, because it is a dookie storm and I don't
know if I want to Like at this point, the
thing that's pissing me off about the Democrats is Okay,
he can't do that.
Speaker 2 (33:25):
It's illegal. We know you said that for two years.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
Now, what are y'all doing, because he's already basically making
sure that Ice and potentially the National Guard will be
at polling locations to intimidate people voters.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
What y'all gonna do? What's your plan?
Speaker 1 (33:44):
I need you to stop pointing and saying that's not right,
because we all know that a friend, and I guess
it's hard for me to hear you saying because I
know you're such a huge advocate, you.
Speaker 2 (33:57):
Know what I mean, like, and you're right, only can
do like one person.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
It's just not enough of us coming together to like
do something about it.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
And so as one person always having the voice, always
you know.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
Putting forth the energy to talk about it, because you're
gonna talk about it, Gerline. If it was one thing
Gerlae was gonna do is talk again exactly like She's gonna.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
Be very informant to him, and she's gonna let you
know what's going on, you know.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
And I hate that, like you have to numb yourself
to it, or you feel like you have to numb
yourself to it.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
But I will tell you that I appreciate your comedy.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
Always appreciate your comedy, and I do think in the
midst of storms, laughter is always a good healer, Like
even though it's a lot going on, people.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Still need people to make them laugh.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
Need video that's gonna bring light, you know what I mean,
to the situation, even though it's nothing light about it,
still bring light.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
To a situation. Still can last, still can have, you know,
a sense of humor. And so we don't want.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
To lose our laughter because after that then right once
we lose our.
Speaker 2 (34:58):
Laughter, we don't know where to go from that.
Speaker 1 (35:00):
I still content, I appreciate that, and I think the
solution is before I say it, this might get me canceled, fired,
or I don't know, but what I'm about to say
is in no way indicative of the thoughts and opinions
and beliefs of Urban one podcast or Radio one.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
We got to start whooping, they ass.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
Yeah, okay, yeah, when white people start acting. White people
don't fear us because they know historically we have been
a semi peaceful people, at least towards them, because we
were afraid. We feared what would happened. We didn't want
to get hung or shot or murdered or beat up
or raped or killed, you know, all these things that
they did to inflict pain and to torture multiple communities,
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not just black people.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
I think we need to be the monsters they think
we are.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
I have to agree with you, friand I think it's
definitely time to hit back.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
And and the worst part I just.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
Posted some about this too, with this palm colored woman
decide she was on hit this man in the store
and he when oops.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
Sigh her hands so fast.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
Okay, exactly what we need, yes about time. This is
how you start black history. Mobuck was a bang.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
This is lily. More of that I'll need to see.
We don't have enough examples of that.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
We see a lot of walking away trying to be
the bigger person, not like we see a lot of
those videos, but we don't see a lot of videos.
Speaker 2 (36:27):
Will you say that wrong things right? Qua into reality
real quick? Who are you talking to? That's all people
need is a reminder?
Speaker 1 (36:38):
Yeah, because you forgot I know, in your in your
frenzy to to be racist.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
You were so gung ho.
Speaker 1 (36:47):
To say something so discriminatory, and people love to say
violence is not the answer. I disagree. I disagree. For
white people, violence has always been the answer.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
What we need to be trying to figure out what
the question was. Hello, Hello, because violence said my.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Book always to answer, and don't get me started on
on white woman's tears. Girl, the way I've just seen
a lady in the airport.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
I'm gonna post the video.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
I'm gonna do a reaction to it because I just
saw a lady in the airport crying because she wanted
she needed something at Southwest Airlines and they wouldn't allow
her to do it.
Speaker 2 (37:17):
Of course, the gate, the ticket lady was a black woman.
All these tears.
Speaker 1 (37:21):
I need to do this, I need to do this,
I need to do that. The lady said no, They
said they were gonna call the police. Next words out
of her mouth in front of her two kids and her.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
Dog were inn word A word, B word what.
Speaker 1 (37:37):
And then went right back to crying and talking about
how she needed to get on her plane. I said, ma'am,
I know you and she better than me, because they
want to be my last day employet in Southwest Girl,
because I need you to understand, it's not that the world,
it's here's I think a lot of them use white
people be using the N word like a draw for
in Una. They know that it upsets us, and they
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want to see us get flushed.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
I'm no longer flustered. I'm about to start getting in
that ass. Yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 1 (38:07):
Have to agree with you because you think that we're
scared of you, and I think it's time for them,
because our ancestors did peacefully protest, and they did, you know,
escape slavery and all these things. And it's not that
we're so different than our ancestors. I think that what
we're dealing with now is going to require a difference.
It needs to be met with a different level. Of course,
these people don't care about us. They have shown us
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they don't care about our protests. They don't care about
our votes. They'll literally rig an election.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
Break hello and intimidate you to not go vote. So
that's no longer an issue. They don't care about. Okay,
what else? Yeah, so what do they care about? Money?
And violence? We need to stop supporting their businesses.
Speaker 1 (38:46):
Get off Amazon Prime, get off of all these big names,
these targets and these Walmarts and these targets and like.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Truget is crazy.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
I stopped one day and here, let me be honest,
I wasn't a target shopper for real, anyway. I would
go to a target if it was in the area
and there was no other place to go.
Speaker 2 (39:09):
I'm a walk guard. I had no idea.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
When I found out that they all donate money to
the Trump campaign. I said, I got to start growing
my own food. Exactly, girl, farmers market. Go to a
farmer's market if I need something, if I need some
pos or something. I try my best not to do
fast fashion. But I mean it's only if the event
(39:38):
is tomorrow and fashion over, we can get it here
by three.
Speaker 2 (39:40):
I don't you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
So I think we people always say, well, we got
to find our own things. We got to make our
own things. We did that with Black Wall Street. Yeah,
we did that in Tosa, Oklahoma. They tried that in Birmingham.
They literally bombed our things, They flooded our towns, they
murdered our people.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
So we do.
Speaker 1 (40:01):
Have enough solidarity in community to create these spaces.
Speaker 2 (40:06):
We need them to just leave us alone.
Speaker 1 (40:08):
Yeah, that party, and I have to say something. I'm
not trying to play Devil's advocate. Dumb friends, don't beat
me up. I hope y'all don't get mad either. But
there are so many different black people coming out with
so much stuff. We're still inventing, we're still creating. We
still can't support the business. I know, I know of
y'all be in comments like the price is the price,
but y'all the price do trying to price be a
(40:31):
little crazy. I'm not paying you sixty dollars for a
fish plate.
Speaker 2 (40:35):
Go to hell? Like black a business or not, you
can go hell, but the price slam. You're not the
target audience, but I am no.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
And I understand they don't have access to larger manufacturers.
Can they can mass produce things? So I do get it.
They need to increase their price point. But you also
have to understand, like okay, then then you have to target,
you have to market to you know, some other people,
and you can't be upset at like now, it's just
really enough the time to be asking people for more money,
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you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (41:11):
Like it's taint everybody that part in this economy.
Speaker 1 (41:14):
I be wanting to do all black owned everything. I
want everything around me to be black home. But sometimes
I can't justify paying that amount of money. And then
you see it someone else and like you said, mass production,
I get it, manufacturers.
Speaker 2 (41:29):
I understand.
Speaker 1 (41:30):
I just want I don't know how we can figure
it out to just lower the price a little bit
so that we can all get more involved and and
not feel like I can only buy one thing a month,
like I need other things.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
You can have. You can have toilet paper, but you
cannot have home. You can't have right Like I.
Speaker 1 (41:50):
Want to support. I want to say it a thousand times.
I want to support.
Speaker 2 (41:53):
I want us to figure out how we can get
savvy and.
Speaker 1 (41:56):
Then figure out how to drop that price just a
little bit so that we can be support it. It's
not that I don't want to I'm saying that there
is a glitch in the system. How can we fix it?
Speaker 2 (42:05):
Yeah? I think we have to.
Speaker 1 (42:08):
We have to be in those places like white people
will have all these big companies with a bunch of
white people on their boards and all their CEOs and
CFOs and the head of marketing all of this stuff.
And how many black people do you know their owner
bank where we can go and get a loan to
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perhaps mass produce something. How many black people do you
know that are CEOs of fortune five hundred companies, not
just CEOs but also founders. How many black people do
you know, not that you can google, but that you
can call right now and say, hey, man, I need
a little I need a little help on this.
Speaker 2 (42:46):
We don't have that position and not switched up on
us like that part. You know what I'm saying. Who
haven't actually gotten those chairs right there? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (42:57):
Because the thing is is, y'all start doing it for
the community, and we see y'all and of course the
black people are the ones that push you.
Speaker 2 (43:03):
There were voting for you. You want, we want this
for you.
Speaker 1 (43:06):
And then you'll get in the room and you start
making the money and you start having the conversations and
now your whole you somebody completely. You never reject the
community that got you in that seat in the first place.
Speaker 2 (43:16):
So you know how many of those are there?
Speaker 1 (43:19):
Mmm?
Speaker 2 (43:20):
My friend, you're talking a little heavy. I'm not trying
to get get heavy. I like you know, I like
arguing with people.
Speaker 1 (43:28):
So I like you to have a conversation because because
what we said was what we said, and you know,
sometimes you have to.
Speaker 2 (43:35):
We just gotta be a little more reasonable with what
we're doing.
Speaker 1 (43:37):
I'm not giving you three hundred holls for a silk persons.
I ain't got but two table spoons of hair. We're
not we're not doing this especially possible. Go to hell.
I'll put girl the way, I'll slick this down and
going about my business.
Speaker 2 (43:54):
I'm not right. Want okay, get a little curlb with
that finger, girl.
Speaker 1 (44:01):
Yeah, I just want us to like because okay, let
me tell y'all something real quick about marketing. Right, If
you are making something, and like I said, still try
to figure out how you can make it affordable, because
I think that's important. However, if you are making something
and I do think that you should invest in it,
but I don't think you should use your last What
I do think is that you should probably sell it.
That's maybe a little less right. So you're not gonna
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see a return that year. Unfortunately, you might not see
a return that year or on the first six months.
But if you have an amazing product and you're giving
it to people, or you're allowing people to get it
at a cheaper price and it's something that they will need,
then if you do hack the prices up later, you
can still get a return on your investment later. The
thing is, y'all want to make something, and then y'all
want to return as soon as you put it out,
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and that's not always how business work.
Speaker 2 (44:46):
You're gonna have to take a hit sometimes.
Speaker 1 (44:48):
And if you are willing to take the hit and
people fall in love with what you're doing, you'll have
so many customers because people was able.
Speaker 2 (44:54):
To get it at an affordable price.
Speaker 1 (44:56):
So when you raise the price, it'll make sense because
I believe in the product. All allow me to believe
in what you're doing, and then I already want it.
Speaker 2 (45:04):
But when I don't know and I'm on a fence
and it's a thousand dollars, I'm good. I'm not doing that.
I can promise you.
Speaker 1 (45:10):
If it's a thousand dollars, I'm not on that fence,
You're gonna have to go to hell. I'm nowhere know that, Okay.
Speaker 2 (45:20):
I ain't. So it is. It's a lot of competition
out here.
Speaker 1 (45:28):
But like you said, if you have a valuable product
that people want and people are going to need over time,
and and before chant GPT takes all the water on
the planet, go ahead and get them to pull you
together a business plan, because.
Speaker 2 (45:44):
You know, just because that's the thing too.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
Like I feel like every time I realize what's happening, Girl,
we ain't got long on this folk rock.
Speaker 2 (45:54):
We we ain't got long.
Speaker 1 (45:56):
So that's why I'd be like, Lord, I don't know
what is happening, but every day I'm gonna get up
and I'm gonna do exactly what I want to do
and whatever makes me happy, because tomorrow we could be
in concentration camps. That girl building they're building one in
Social Circle, in a warehouse maybe forty five.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
Minutes an hour outside of Atlanta, I believe.
Speaker 1 (46:17):
I think, my god, they're building one and it's an
ice detention center for a Department.
Speaker 2 (46:22):
Of Human Services yep.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
And they think that we are willingly but and let
me be clear, Atlanta and Georgia is not the same thing.
I just want to do that out there because the
lot of people think that they building the Continent Special
camp in Atlanta, and that is not how that's going
to go down. We heard, maybe we heard them folks
was coming to Atlanta. I said, I don't think them
niggas was outside the dh IS office. They were outside
(46:48):
the Ice office the same day that the announcement came out,
protesting with signs. I said, Atlanta not the ones to
play with now, Minnesota. Really, they really showed us how
to do it. They really showed us how to do it,
and I appreciated that. Me personally, I'm black, so I'm
not doing that. I think that the people who can
(47:10):
risk that, which is usually wealthy white people and a
lot of white women who don't mind using those tears
for good instead of evil.
Speaker 2 (47:17):
I think you need to be out protesting. I agreed.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk. I agree.
And on that note, friend, we might as well go
ahead and wrap this up. What about you feel me?
That's all I had today for it. That's all I
had as well. You want to hear from y'all in
these comments. We asked a lot of posing questions in
this episode.
Speaker 1 (47:37):
We want to hear about you for Black History mind,
we want to hear about you with these politics.
Speaker 2 (47:41):
We want to hear about you for Valentine's Day. As
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Speaker 1 (47:45):
Just make sure you start spamming the comments because we
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Speaker 2 (47:49):
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Speaker 2 (47:57):
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so you'll know every time you Okay, please bye MHM.
Was it everybody in her Girl Indescribable aka Herolyn Lake,
I'm checking in with none other than my best before
the rest of the and you all listening to that,
she said the first podcast and Urber one podcast on
the podcast Bad Baby, That's how school was on Living Single,
I'm bet after you.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Left my girl friend and bad Part.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Girl, this is such a wonderful time to have this
episode because so many amazing things are happening. We're a
right smack dab in the middle of Black History Month,
Vale were black. So many things happening and we're gonna
touch on all of that today. But friend, before we
(00:47):
do that, then, mm hmm, I got to ask you
what what irritated you this week?
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Girl? Everything everything, always everything me. But Girl, I didn't
really get noticed.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
I got sleep, but I was kind of woken up
out of my number.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
If you will, you know what.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I'm saying, Because I feel like every time I'm trying
to settle down, why do the house feel like it
needs to start settling his will?
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Like what is all that snap Crocker.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
When you start going to see don't you think all
these like random noises throughout the house? That one that
one empty bott of water that you put in the
trash six hours together, or you just thought decided wanted
to expand it, like now I gotta go downstairs with
(01:38):
the thing. Hello, hellocause that's not.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Be nobody up in here, child.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
But oh my gosh, I can definitely understand that needing sleep,
needing rest, and as soon as you get ready to
get some something happens.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
There's that. But what irritated you, then chill? Corey Holk
come and girl, because.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Like she I know her well enough to know she's
gonna break that up, girl, And I want you to
know I got a segment just for y'all.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Girl.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Why.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
First of all, Corey.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Holcom on on his Little Raggedy podcast, and we've we've
talked about him before. He and Airy Spears have both
that's why. That's okay. Let me just to tell the story.
So Corey Holcomb has said that he's lost out on
gigs and it's TMZ's fault because they released the footage
of him assaulting a woman, walked up on her in
(02:37):
her personal space and punched her in the face. One
hundred and one things wrong with this, right, But for
you to get for you to get your pre diabetic
self on my timeline and tell us that TMZ is
the the problem. Yeah, And so I was, you know,
(03:00):
I was basically talking about that part, and I recognized
that a lot of people probably thought that he was
Airy Spears because for a long time there was no
you know, we didn't have a whole lot of men
that looked like that that were in comedy space.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
You saw that you elaborate on that. Can you give
me a little bit more explanation for fase on love
Bruce Bruce?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
You know see that it's like the same text, different
fund I see, absolutely absolutely, And not to mention, these
two specifically have built their careers making jokes about black women,
degrading black women. Corey Hoko even has a joke about
not punching his girl but open hands slapping her and
things like that.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
So that's what I say.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
And Airy Spears with Timmany Haddison, that skit that they
did that was so in very poor taste. So I
made the video which I'm standing ten toes on what
I said.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
I don't take anything back.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
And so Airy speirusly to my DMS and he sent
me a voice note that sounded like it was riddled
with phlegm and mukid, but that could just be the
pre diabetes.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
So he was like, why would you think Corey holcom
is ARII spears first of all, sir, talking about yourself
and a third person. A little crazy. Okay, that's a
little crazy, but to like do what I do when
I see why something block me and go on about
your day now. Also to be fair, if you feel
like I'm attacking you and you want to defend yourself
and you want to respond, absolutely go right ahead.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
But Will said his name for a milli leader of
a second girl. He wants attention.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
You're not going to use me to try to get intentions,
because that's where I said, and then moved on.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
To something else, like he wasn't the focus of the video.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
That's what the problem was. You not the focus of
the video. But now you're sitting here, well, how could
you think? First of all, me and everybody else in
new comments was on the same page, and how could
you not breathe.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Tell me how I'm proposed to woodnow?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
And because why are you sitting and blowing houses down
and not already? They don't take long the type stuff
you're so lazy already had of breath, already out of bro,
you started behind the cube ball.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
I can't believe you. Famous time already said no, I'm
just gonna. I'm just gonna.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
And you know, I I looked at it when I
saw it. First of all, I'm not following him because
I'm not a fan U I. I liked him on
Mad TV years and years ago, and I thought it
was funny when he played Wizard Kelly on the Proud
Family for years. But I don't consider myself a fan
of his, So I was not following him. His message
(05:46):
was in my message request, and so so when you
look at the video, you can see that I added
it to my primary mailbox because I just saw a
verified blue Jack and I thought that that was funny
because sir, first of all, go to hell. Let's start here,
Let's start by going to hell. And I just felt
(06:10):
like it was so unnecessary to do like And apparently,
unbeknownst to me when I made the video, apparently he
and Corey Holkam have beef from years ago. Apparently he
came on Corey's I don't know, because I genuinely don't
keep both care. I don't care I do not care.
You don't got beef with nothing in that fserator. You're
worried about the wrong beef. Hello, Hello, calm down, I
(06:33):
don't look. When I seen it, I felt like I
can see exactly what you meant. I make a lot
of senselike and they.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Both make terrible decisions. They both make terrible decisions.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
So twins, y'all do the same thing, y'all them, Okay, Like,
come on now, I just like sir, it's not that
far fetched, it's not.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
I just hate the fact that he couldn't see it.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
You know, his eyes really, you know what I'm saying,
falling swollen and put together, so you can what she
was talking about.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
But I've seen it.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I love joy like the John justice in the build
up around the eye canal if that's a word.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
That did I make that up? Yep?
Speaker 1 (07:14):
He doesn't sprinkle Luve Timbrick right there before we go
to sleep, compass yay, do my day.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
You know?
Speaker 1 (07:22):
And it's always moving on from him specifically, there's always
a man that looks like that that has something to say,
because I remember vividly them both making jokes about women's appearances.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Neither of you is the first pick for me. You couldn't.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
You could literally put them in a lineup of sixteen
other ugly men. I can get ninety nine percent of
the time, every other person is going to pick one
of those other ugly men. Absolutely, you're not even first
of the last. So even talking about you know.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
That attention you have.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
It.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
You're welcome to us for giving you the I of
you because it could have because he.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Could have just said nothing, and I you know, I
respect you wanted to say something. But I think he
thought I was gonna respond to him in my DMS
and no, you you wanted it.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
So here we are.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
But girl, aside from that, how many other things are
happening and well you're not friends?
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Girl? What happened? Oh my god, I'm so glad that
you asked me.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Girl. First of all, I just want to let you
know that you will be my Gallantine this year.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Friend. I love you too, and you stand bro.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
So just for the fans watching, I don't know how
interested they'll be in this, but I got a little fiction,
not fiction.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
I got a little fun for you guys. It's very
much not fiction. Surprising fact. Valentine's they started as a
Roman fertility festival. Okay, they had nothing to do with romance.
It involved the matchmaking rituals and can well basically chaos.
So Saint Valentine, you know, there were multiple Valentine's and
(09:19):
historians aren't really even sure which won the holiday honors.
But it didn't become a romantic holiday until the Middle Ages,
when poets like Chaucer linked February with birds mating season.
So somehow that turned into a holiday where Americans now
spend twenty five billion dollars a year chocolate and diamond
companies heavily shaped, you know, modern expectations through the marketing
(09:40):
in the nineteen hundreds. Of course, capitalism built this algorithm
brick by brick. So question, it's Valentine's They really about love?
Or is it about a pressure to perform the act
of romance? I think a little bit of both, because
you know, when romans come a little love on the
back end. You know what I'm saying, won't your little Okay, yes,
(10:07):
I feel like it's a little bit of bone.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
I think.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
I definitely think I have mixed feelings about Valentine's Day,
right because I feel like, if your partner is showing
up for you every day, right, and like it's not
something that you're going to be like gun hold on.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
You won't bet your relationship on it.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
If that person feels like they bring you some flowers
instead of doing this real elaborate thing, you know, with
the hotels and the roses and the balloons and the candles,
and you know what I'm saying, the serendies, the violinists
and all of that stuff. Right, you won't go crazy
because if your person is showing appreciation for you every day,
you won't be looking forward to that. But when person
is not showing up for you every day or even
(10:47):
every other day, and you ain't really sure what you
know what I'm saying, like it's a little you want
to feel appreciated. You look forward to that day. You
look forward for them putting forth to adia. And just
because they don't I don't know how to whatever, Just
because they don't don't mean they don't love you.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
It might be like.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
They're not a romantic and so you're looking for that
day for them to kind of pull out all the stops,
all the tricks, all the you know, the bells and whistles,
because that's not something that's like usually a part of
your relationship, and so I feel like it really depends
on where you are in your relationship, on whether or
not it is something that you feel like doing too
much or you're looking like, oh my god, this is
so sweet.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
I'm just happy that we spending time together.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
I think to me, like, if I've never got treated
any kind of way, and then on Valentine's Day you
do something, I don't know if it would make a difference,
because yes, you're just performing something that.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
You know what I mean, Like, I don't know if
this is.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Something that you're using to keep me here with you,
or I mean, maybe you just want to shut me
up for a couple of weeks. I'm not really sure,
but I know that the best relationships are the ones where.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Valentine's Day is not that big of a deal. Not
that we don't do.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Anything to show our love for each other, or maybe
we don't plan anything because you know, everybody don't want
to do stuff on Valentine's Day, and I understand that.
But if if we're solid three hundred and sixty four
other days of the year, then watch it matter A
card and some flowers. Okay, thanks, but I know you've
been coming home to me every night, You've been provided
(12:12):
for me, you've been.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Making me feel safe and secure.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
So I don't think it's that big of a deal,
but I think the definitely needs to be some kind
of balance because there are people that are looking for
diamond rings and range rovers and all these other crazy
things things and it's banking and the birth part is
like it's all based on a relationship. Like, if you
don't do it now, consider yourself broken up with you
know what I'm saying, consider yourself single if you don't
(12:37):
go through with all the elaborated things that they expect
during Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
And what I will say is that sometimes people are different.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Right where I happen to be a gift giver, but
maybe the person I'm with or was talking to wasn't.
They don't really get into that, they're not into gift
giving or whatever, and so sometimes I don't think it's
like that they don't want to or something like that.
I think it's more so about, like, I know this
is something that's important to you, and I think it's
important to know who you're with and be.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
Like because I know this is important to you. And
this is not really my chemical makeup and how I'm designed.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
I still know how much gifts mean to you that
I'm still going to show up for you in this way.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
Because it matters. And I think that that could be
a thing too, you know.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Although when bank my whole relationship on anything, you know,
or I don't think anyone should. I don't think anyone
should bank their relationship on Valentine's Day. I think you
should see how they treat you, like you said, all
year round, it's not just this one day. But I
do think sometimes you shouldn't be so selffiicient relationships. If
you know that your person likes certain things, you should
still show up for them.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Showing up in different ways for your person. It's super important,
you know.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Yeah, I just think that I think it just I
think this is all relationship based. But I want to
reiterate again that I don't think this is the time
to throw away your relationship.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
I think it's a time to pay attention throughout the year,
like have you been treated well? You know?
Speaker 1 (13:55):
And if you haven't, then this is why you're putting
so much emphasis on this day, right, Yeah, I think
that's a great way to look at it. So, what's like,
what's the worst Valentine's that gif you ever received? Uh?
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Nothing, that was the worst one.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
Absolutely nothing, no acknowledgement, no gift, no nothing.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
Just nothing. That was the worst one. I'm gonna go
with that as well.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
About Alex, how are you in a relationship with me
and you don't want to.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Get me nothing? Nothing? Like?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Oh yeah, yeah, I woulda I would have took a car.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
I don't know, Frank, I think I kind of feel
the same way.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
It's like, good, I'm glad you didn't give me nothing,
because now I know exactly.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Where you stand there.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Sometimes you need to know, you need to Oh, I
would have took the car, or I would have sit.
I would No, you not doing anything or not getting
me anything, let me know exactly what I needed to know.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
That's the blind sign. That's what I wasn't paying attention to. Yeah, no,
that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
It's crazy for you to be in a relationship and
Valentine's they just is not on.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Your radar at all.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
But it like if if you feel like that though,
like it might be time to let that go.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
So I definitely understand it.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
I would say that's the worst, worst that's the worst
gift I've ever gotten, just to feel not considered, you
know not.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
I wasn't even thought about. That was not even a
thought nothing, Because.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
How you do flowers the flowers and publics is ten dollars.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
You ain't even got to get me no fancy roses.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
You can legitimately go get me three single roses from
publics for ten dollars and they will already be in
the base with the water in them, in the refrigerator.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Ask me how I know I've done it. She she
just puts you out on so lazy.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
To get flowers from, don't know how to set it up,
don't got the creative with whatever you want to call it.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
She's just what you want to.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
That's that's literally the bare minimum too. So I mean
you ain't got to get me no range rover and
pay my rent or nothing. But I mean a small
token of appreciation with the you know, we'll be grateful,
it would be nice. But the best Valentine's gift you
ever got. That girl, I'm gonna be unser your friends,
(16:13):
what I'll be bowed up like that. I have had
so many Valentine's Days come and go, and this will
be the second year in a row that I spend
it with my parents.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I'm actually I.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Love that and I'm actually I'm actually talking to someone
this year. But it's just you know what I mean,
like we've already done that because I'm out. I booked
a trip out of town. Yeah, and I told you,
I said, I'm not changing. I'm not giving up Spain
for you. I will be in Barcelona for Valentine's Day
so you can.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
You can come if you want.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
But you know, I felt like earth keate when I
told him that, because the way that lady said, I
fell alone with myself and if somebody wants to share
that with me, I love.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Yes, you know That's where I'm at with it.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
But I think all the best gifts I've ever received
have comfort myself, honestly so, and not that I'm not
looking forward to stuff, but you know, I'm I know
you're a gift giver and I'm just not. So typically
I don't expect gifts from people. If I want something,
I get it for myself.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
And so I think maybe I'm the problem, right because
if they can't treat you better than yourself, friend, and
what are you doing? And why are you here. That's
the biggest thing.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Okay, And I can see the video you put up today,
especially when it comes to your friends.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
When you surrounded by friends.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Who love you, who show up for you, who just
do things for you, you will easily see where.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
The problem lies. Yeah, that's all I'm gonna say it.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Surround yourself with people who love you, who will still
gift you, who will go out with you, who will
talk to you, who will be available for you, and
you will see.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Where the problem lies. It will be so clear as day,
Like if you know that person.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
If I'm if there's a woman that treats me better
than you and I'm not giving her kuchie, that's crazy, Hello,
like razy, Yeah, maybe it's time to stop giving these
me and coochie.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
I'm glad I was able to work that in there. Hell.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
But you know, as we fall in love and out
of love, maybe and we learn things that we do
and don't need to know about people. There's one other
thing we got to talk about, because February is Black
History Months. Yes, yes, shout out to us for being
you know, discriminated against having all these racial protocols put
(18:35):
in place, laws literally to segregate us and demean us
and still rising to the occasion out doing everyone upstaging,
you know, hundred circles around people shout out to us, doing.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
That to us and fringing.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
You have some inventions, I know, we got to know
some one talk about because a lot of people don't
know these things. So black people have contributed greatly to
not just our society, but technology and medicine and transportation
and all the things.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
So what you got for his friend? Okay, suck you guys? Well,
first of all, do you remember math quest girl?
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Why would you traumatize me having a print out that
big assie paper and flap it open on the dashboard
Like I'm not good at any I don't have no
sens a dollar your friend.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
Like, I'm going somewhere a bunch of times, right, But
now what you do?
Speaker 1 (19:27):
You just use your getting that GPS on Hello, And
we could thank Gladys West for that.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Okay, She'm on, Gladys. I'm on Gladys. Was it night?
I don't know?
Speaker 1 (19:36):
West?
Speaker 2 (19:36):
It went? West was what it was?
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Gladdest was the one who Gladdest West was the one
who invented or helped invent the GPS, Like she had
a huge hand in that. And this was a woman
of age, so like, I just like how she was thinking.
I remember pulling out.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Math quests or having a print out on math Quest, and.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
Like feeling gray loss all the time because I don't
understand the street names. How girl, all right, But when
the GPS came out it changed my.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Life for ever.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Them your girl getting bigger, extra lazy. Now now I
don't try to I don't try to remember, no diferen
right exactly, so like I don't care how many times
I've been there, GPS at my mama house. Hello, same,
just to make sure I don't get lost or rounded.
You feel shut out to Gladys West. Do you remember
(20:24):
the super Soca?
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Yes? Yes, so Lonnie John Sam was the one who
invented the super so Goodney.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Baby, I love that they have these black ass names.
Lannie come on, like, so Lonnie was the one who
invented the super soaker, and we can thank him for
all the backyard barbecues, the cook outs, playing with your friends,
having a good time. I mean, when you think of
a super Soca, you just think nineties, baby, You just
thinking good time outside, playing with your friends. You know
(20:55):
what I'm saying, it's just a vibe. So thank you,
Lonnie reaching out to you. And then, last but certainly
not least, Gared Morgan. He was the one who invited
the three light traffic signals. Okay, so thank you, Garrett.
And you know it should have came with directions because
I want to go on. The women say yellow means
go through.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
How do y'all stop it?
Speaker 3 (21:15):
It?
Speaker 2 (21:15):
Do mean? Speed up? Just a little bit up?
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Okay, I don't want to hear nothing about it. All
that stopping when you see a yellow light, speed through,
yellow means And I'm gonna need y'all to follow on
poorly because what you're Morgan didn't invent it for no reason.
He trying to get us what we need to go. Okay,
I know that's right. So what we have here is
three people, well, two people specifically making sure we are
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headed in the right direction.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Hello, is what it seems to.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
Me, and another one ensures that we have joy along
the way. Come on, I got a little aim with
that direction.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Good on that only God can do it. Only God
can do oh God?
Speaker 1 (22:04):
You know, and that's also very black, because why do
we need to break out and worship for no reason.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Out of getting right in the character.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
God.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
I love being black. Though. If you if you could.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
Reincarnate me as anything, I'm not gonna hold you, it'd
be a black woman.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Every what else.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Do you want to be a black woman? I don't
want to be blacker, as black as I can be.
And I know this, this phenomena, you know, has just
started to come about because we was in in school
and that was calling them kids.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
African booty scratch I forget that. I remember.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I don't forget y'all called us roaches and monkeys and
African booty scratches. And it didn't even matter. It didn't
matter what kind of black we were. We were African
booty scratches. Now within our community there was a little colorism. Yeah,
we must talk about that as well. But if I
were to come back as anything, it definitely be another
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black woman.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Absolutely just want to be here.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
The nails, the make up, the body type, the features
like if I.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Come back, I want to come back as a herbalist, like.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Girl, you're about to see me, okay, to see me
with my head tied up, dreads like I want to bang,
like I just go. I want to come back as
an urbalist, like, you know what's crazy?
Speaker 2 (23:31):
You can do that tomorrow. I can't. I think I'm
gonna do it today. Actually, you can get you something
you want, like your hair up. I think it will
be killed with sister locks. Friends. That's a lot of
work because who gonna regrets that would have? Girl?
Speaker 1 (23:42):
If you don't go into the box every time. That's
like twelve hours sitting there with them.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
Little teen ting ting ting. It's not it's not brain
polocks what they do. I love my.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
I'm gonna wear these when I die. Put the braids
in the CASTI with me. Hello, okay, make sure make
sure it's laid in the cake.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
You know I got your the way. They don't protect
the styles. That's one thing. Another thing we can celebrate
as far as black. Let's talk about it. A braid,
I love a wig, I love a butt down. I
love leave out, I love I love it natural, natural afro.
I love a boy out. I love yes, I love hair.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Y'all know that's if you know me, then you know
hair is my thing. So like knowing that black women
have the ability to transform into anything that they feel
that day.
Speaker 2 (24:37):
You know what I mean, whatever it is, if my
mood says I want to.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Wear a bob Okay, My mood says, I'm in the
mood for braids, okay, if I want to wear my
natural hair out and do a twist out afro okay.
I love that we have the ability to beat chameleons
but still stay true to ourselves at the end of
the day. Like it's so important and a lot of
people don't. Why ya always change your eye own? Why
y'all always do this? So why y'all all do that?
Because hair means so much more in the Black community
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than any other bricks, like outside of you know, I
know they grow their hair long, you know, in certain
cultures and things like that, but when it comes to
Black women, it's literally a part of our outfit. Our
hair is our outfit. It goes with everything that we
have on. We're very intentional about how it looks, and
we take time and even for people who don't like
to do their hair, they still find things that work
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for them, even if it's a ponytail every day.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
That's what worked for her.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
She got a lot of hairdsh don't feel like dealing
with it, but she still gets slicking back and ponytail
and still looks fire like beautiful face, bone structure and
all of that. We come in so many different shades
and we can wear because of that, We're able to.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
Wear a blonde and red and black and brown and
all burn you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Like our skin tone and complexion will bring out our
hair depending on the color of.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
It, and it's just beautiful. Like I just think that we.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
Are so blessed to be able to transition and do
different things all the time when it comes to our hair,
and like, that's just how I'm feeling. You kind of
tell how a girls feeling, like how her hair is, Like, oh, absolutely,
and I love that. It was something that they tried
to weabinize against us and we were able to because
you know, certain hairstyles are not professional. You know, they're
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not being professional. And the way black people were like,
I'm gonna show you, thank you, because because black women
are doing everything, whether it's a braid, a buzz down,
a bob upon.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
The sail, a twist out, or so it it does
not matter.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
We take up space in every field, every industry, and
we look better than y'all doing it.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
Hello.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
Hello, And then people as well, what's your real hair,
look like, why are you always wearing wigs? At? Why
you always got this is my real hair. I paid
real money for it.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
I just hello, come on, let's talk about hello. What
was said? What was said that?
Speaker 1 (26:47):
But you know, across the real piece of coin, and
I just people wouldn't get so hung up on that
because it doesn't matter. Like I just went down the
list of why we change our hair. Why is it
for you being impressed about my real hair? It's for
your own personal usage? And then what and then okay.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
You see my end depth. Do I get a cookie?
But I get a smile, a thank you, and just be.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Like overly involved in other people's comfortability. I'm comfortable with
how I wear my hair and the many ways that
I wear it.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
I love how I wear my hair, you know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
So people trying to make other people comfortable when I'm
already comfortable in my own skin.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
It's crazy. I don't see the point of that. Yeah,
and as a black woman, you should never.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
You know, I'm the main one who be I'd be like, listen,
I don't care what they tell you to do. Do
the opposite, do the all right, Because these people don't
know us like we know us. Y'all don't know what
we need. Y'all don't know what's important to us and
what we value. So you can't tell me how to
exist as a black woman.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
You don't know, you don't want to deal with. You
don't know what needs to work for me and what
I truly have to.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Have in order to feel good about myself. So my
your business. Hello, And I just want to.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
Go on the record. I was doing so good. I
just going and that those blonde wigs you see us
wear not Caucasian hair. Just you know that it is
not It's not Caucasian hair. Girl the way people.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
I love all the discourse around this, because if y'all
think that the hair care industry is a billion dollar
industry and anybody is wearing one hundred percent human hair,
it a look crazy to me. It's a look crazy
to me. We're not all no, okay, it ain't enough
hair in the world. It got to growl. We're not
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doing that, y'all. It got the all these ways they
do that people inside and outside of our community attack women,
regardless of what their hair looks like, as a way
to distance themselves and make themselves seem better than somebody else.
Y'all are all wearing the same bundles, the same wig,
same But now unless what.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
What, unless you got it from Party City, it's not
the same. Yeah, that's not the same, but not the
same bundles.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
That's not the same bundles. Now they are high end
and low and there are some of thousand fan to hundred.
So depending on the decity, you know, you're gonna get.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Paid for it. That's all I'm gonna say. But that's
the point. You're gonna get what you paid for. That's it. Okay,
I know that's right. That's because getting you get get
out of Party City. You don't have to be in
part of city.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
No, no time should you be in Party City before
October the first.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Don't be in Party City.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
But it is crazy cause you imagine the less for
a kid or play or something.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
I don't want to see it. But uh, well, I mean,
you know, you know what, never mind.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
You know, don't put up, do not get set up
my camera breaking up? Don't Okay, guys, I'm sorry. Well anyway,
so moving on a little bit. I know we've got
a lot to not a whole lot to cover, but
I do want want to just take a minute to
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check in with your friend just about your mental health
because I know that every time we get on the
internet there's something new, unprecedented that is happening, whether it's
our president or the administration as a whole.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
Uh, you know Ice and what's.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Going on in Minnesota and just the way people are
being treated right now and.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
The lack of humanity. How are you feelable? Heavy? Very
very very heavy.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
I think that, Uh, this is oh Jesus heavy.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Yeah, you know people.
Speaker 1 (30:35):
And the thing is people don't ask you how you
feeling a lot, so sometimes you got to reach for that.
I can't lie to you, you know, not what all
that's going on.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
You can't I'm good. It ain't no way I can say,
oh I'm good, Like it just don't mean that.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
It's very heavy and disheartening, and it it makes you
feel like am I dreaming?
Speaker 2 (30:53):
You know what I'm saying? From this nightmare? People are
being treated.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
So unfair, unjust, and you kind of want to take
a stint and you want to do something about it.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
But like you like, where do I start?
Speaker 1 (31:04):
You know what I'm saying, Just like start really, but
it's like where do I start, there's so much going
on in the world, and it's so much you're being
exposed to by just being online.
Speaker 2 (31:13):
You know, we have to be online all.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
The time, and so sometimes that could turn into just
scrolling and now you are like overloaded with just crazy
amounts of information that I don't even think our brains
are supposed to.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
Take in that much. Absolutely dit Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
What I'm saying, Like we are absorbing so much from
Instagram to TikTok, to YouTube to Facebook.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
I mean, it's just.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
NonStop, and you know, it can really make you feel
like I'm not doing enough, like I need to speak out,
I need to say something, use your platform for good.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
Just I don't know.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Friends, just feels heavy, How do you feel same, It's
very heavy, and I think sometimes people we're in a
place now where people.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
Are either obsessing or we are checking out.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
And I think I'm closer to the checking out part,
which is a little concerning, not because I don't care
or I don't want to be informed, but because I
do have to protect my mental health.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
I think that there needs to.
Speaker 1 (32:08):
Be a beautiful balance of staying informed and also not
driving yourself crazy, because at the end of the day.
Even with all of this information, there is nothing that you,
one person can do right now in this moment. Yeah,
we can vote, and we can protest, and we can
bring awareness to it on our platforms, and we can
do all these things. We can call Congress, our representatives,
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we can do all of these things. Right but at
the end of the day, the people who have the
power are sitting back and doing nothing.
Speaker 3 (32:36):
Yeah, So why would I lose my mind when I know,
as an American citizen, I have done I've accomplished my
civic duty.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
I've taken care of my responsibility of voting and educating
people and making sure other people are registered to vote. Like,
I've done that, And so I think now I'm just like,
there are people who have made a platform off of
covering the Epstein files and everything that Trump is doing,
and the people on the Epstein list.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
I don't want to do that. I'm going to give
you something lighthearted in the middle of.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
This, because it is a dookie storm and I don't
know if I want to Like at this point, the
thing that's pissing me off about the Democrats is Okay,
he can't do that.
Speaker 2 (33:25):
It's illegal. We know you said that for two years.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
Now, what are y'all doing, because he's already basically making
sure that Ice and potentially the National Guard will be
at polling locations to intimidate people voters.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
What y'all gonna do? What's your plan?
Speaker 1 (33:44):
I need you to stop pointing and saying that's not right,
because we all know that a friend, and I guess
it's hard for me to hear you saying because I
know you're such a huge advocate, you.
Speaker 2 (33:57):
Know what I mean, like, and you're right, only can
do like one person.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
It's just not enough of us coming together to like
do something about it.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
And so as one person always having the voice, always
you know.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
Putting forth the energy to talk about it, because you're
gonna talk about it, Gerline. If it was one thing
Gerlae was gonna do is talk again exactly like She's gonna.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
Be very informant to him, and she's gonna let you
know what's going on, you know.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
And I hate that, like you have to numb yourself
to it, or you feel like you have to numb
yourself to it.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
But I will tell you that I appreciate your comedy.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
Always appreciate your comedy, and I do think in the
midst of storms, laughter is always a good healer, Like
even though it's a lot going on, people.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Still need people to make them laugh.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
Need video that's gonna bring light, you know what I mean,
to the situation, even though it's nothing light about it,
still bring light.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
To a situation. Still can last, still can have, you know,
a sense of humor. And so we don't want.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
To lose our laughter because after that then right once
we lose our.
Speaker 2 (34:58):
Laughter, we don't know where to go from that.
Speaker 1 (35:00):
I still content, I appreciate that, and I think the
solution is before I say it, this might get me canceled, fired,
or I don't know, but what I'm about to say
is in no way indicative of the thoughts and opinions
and beliefs of Urban one podcast or Radio one.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
We got to start whooping, they ass.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
Yeah, okay, yeah, when white people start acting. White people
don't fear us because they know historically we have been
a semi peaceful people, at least towards them, because we
were afraid. We feared what would happened. We didn't want
to get hung or shot or murdered or beat up
or raped or killed, you know, all these things that
they did to inflict pain and to torture multiple communities,
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not just black people.
Speaker 2 (35:46):
I think we need to be the monsters they think
we are.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
I have to agree with you, friand I think it's
definitely time to hit back.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
And and the worst part I just.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
Posted some about this too, with this palm colored woman
decide she was on hit this man in the store
and he when oops.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
Sigh her hands so fast.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
Okay, exactly what we need, yes about time. This is
how you start black history. Mobuck was a bang.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
This is lily. More of that I'll need to see.
We don't have enough examples of that.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
We see a lot of walking away trying to be
the bigger person, not like we see a lot of
those videos, but we don't see a lot of videos.
Speaker 2 (36:27):
Will you say that wrong things right? Qua into reality
real quick? Who are you talking to? That's all people
need is a reminder?
Speaker 1 (36:38):
Yeah, because you forgot I know, in your in your
frenzy to to be racist.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
You were so gung ho.
Speaker 1 (36:47):
To say something so discriminatory, and people love to say
violence is not the answer. I disagree. I disagree. For
white people, violence has always been the answer.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
What we need to be trying to figure out what
the question was. Hello, Hello, because violence said my.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Book always to answer, and don't get me started on
on white woman's tears. Girl, the way I've just seen
a lady in the airport.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
I'm gonna post the video.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
I'm gonna do a reaction to it because I just
saw a lady in the airport crying because she wanted
she needed something at Southwest Airlines and they wouldn't allow
her to do it.
Speaker 2 (37:17):
Of course, the gate, the ticket lady was a black woman.
All these tears.
Speaker 1 (37:21):
I need to do this, I need to do this,
I need to do that. The lady said no, They
said they were gonna call the police. Next words out
of her mouth in front of her two kids and her.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
Dog were inn word A word, B word what.
Speaker 1 (37:37):
And then went right back to crying and talking about
how she needed to get on her plane. I said, ma'am,
I know you and she better than me, because they
want to be my last day employet in Southwest Girl,
because I need you to understand, it's not that the world,
it's here's I think a lot of them use white
people be using the N word like a draw for
in Una. They know that it upsets us, and they
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want to see us get flushed.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
I'm no longer flustered. I'm about to start getting in
that ass. Yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 1 (38:07):
Have to agree with you because you think that we're
scared of you, and I think it's time for them,
because our ancestors did peacefully protest, and they did, you know,
escape slavery and all these things. And it's not that
we're so different than our ancestors. I think that what
we're dealing with now is going to require a difference.
It needs to be met with a different level. Of course,
these people don't care about us. They have shown us
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they don't care about our protests. They don't care about
our votes. They'll literally rig an election.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
Break hello and intimidate you to not go vote. So
that's no longer an issue. They don't care about. Okay,
what else? Yeah, so what do they care about? Money?
And violence? We need to stop supporting their businesses.
Speaker 1 (38:46):
Get off Amazon Prime, get off of all these big names,
these targets and these Walmarts and these targets and like.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Truget is crazy.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
I stopped one day and here, let me be honest,
I wasn't a target shopper for real, anyway. I would
go to a target if it was in the area
and there was no other place to go.
Speaker 2 (39:09):
I'm a walk guard. I had no idea.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
When I found out that they all donate money to
the Trump campaign. I said, I got to start growing
my own food. Exactly, girl, farmers market. Go to a
farmer's market if I need something, if I need some
pos or something. I try my best not to do
fast fashion. But I mean it's only if the event
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is tomorrow and fashion over, we can get it here
by three.
Speaker 2 (39:40):
I don't you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
So I think we people always say, well, we got
to find our own things. We got to make our
own things. We did that with Black Wall Street. Yeah,
we did that in Tosa, Oklahoma. They tried that in Birmingham.
They literally bombed our things, They flooded our towns, they
murdered our people.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
So we do.
Speaker 1 (40:01):
Have enough solidarity in community to create these spaces.
Speaker 2 (40:06):
We need them to just leave us alone.
Speaker 1 (40:08):
Yeah, that party, and I have to say something. I'm
not trying to play Devil's advocate. Dumb friends, don't beat
me up. I hope y'all don't get mad either. But
there are so many different black people coming out with
so much stuff. We're still inventing, we're still creating. We
still can't support the business. I know, I know of
y'all be in comments like the price is the price,
but y'all the price do trying to price be a
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little crazy. I'm not paying you sixty dollars for a
fish plate.
Speaker 2 (40:35):
Go to hell? Like black a business or not, you
can go hell, but the price slam. You're not the
target audience, but I am no.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
And I understand they don't have access to larger manufacturers.
Can they can mass produce things? So I do get it.
They need to increase their price point. But you also
have to understand, like okay, then then you have to target,
you have to market to you know, some other people,
and you can't be upset at like now, it's just
really enough the time to be asking people for more money,
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you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (41:11):
Like it's taint everybody that part in this economy.
Speaker 1 (41:14):
I be wanting to do all black owned everything. I
want everything around me to be black home. But sometimes
I can't justify paying that amount of money. And then
you see it someone else and like you said, mass production,
I get it, manufacturers.
Speaker 2 (41:29):
I understand.
Speaker 1 (41:30):
I just want I don't know how we can figure
it out to just lower the price a little bit
so that we can all get more involved and and
not feel like I can only buy one thing a month,
like I need other things.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
You can have. You can have toilet paper, but you
cannot have home. You can't have right Like I.
Speaker 1 (41:50):
Want to support. I want to say it a thousand times.
I want to support.
Speaker 2 (41:53):
I want us to figure out how we can get
savvy and.
Speaker 1 (41:56):
Then figure out how to drop that price just a
little bit so that we can be support it. It's
not that I don't want to I'm saying that there
is a glitch in the system. How can we fix it?
Speaker 2 (42:05):
Yeah? I think we have to.
Speaker 1 (42:08):
We have to be in those places like white people
will have all these big companies with a bunch of
white people on their boards and all their CEOs and
CFOs and the head of marketing all of this stuff.
And how many black people do you know their owner
bank where we can go and get a loan to
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perhaps mass produce something. How many black people do you
know that are CEOs of fortune five hundred companies, not
just CEOs but also founders. How many black people do
you know, not that you can google, but that you
can call right now and say, hey, man, I need
a little I need a little help on this.
Speaker 2 (42:46):
We don't have that position and not switched up on
us like that part. You know what I'm saying. Who
haven't actually gotten those chairs right there? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (42:57):
Because the thing is is, y'all start doing it for
the community, and we see y'all and of course the
black people are the ones that push you.
Speaker 2 (43:03):
There were voting for you. You want, we want this
for you.
Speaker 1 (43:06):
And then you'll get in the room and you start
making the money and you start having the conversations and
now your whole you somebody completely. You never reject the
community that got you in that seat in the first place.
Speaker 2 (43:16):
So you know how many of those are there?
Speaker 1 (43:19):
Mmm?
Speaker 2 (43:20):
My friend, you're talking a little heavy. I'm not trying
to get get heavy. I like you know, I like
arguing with people.
Speaker 1 (43:28):
So I like you to have a conversation because because
what we said was what we said, and you know,
sometimes you have to.
Speaker 2 (43:35):
We just gotta be a little more reasonable with what
we're doing.
Speaker 1 (43:37):
I'm not giving you three hundred holls for a silk persons.
I ain't got but two table spoons of hair. We're
not we're not doing this especially possible. Go to hell.
I'll put girl the way, I'll slick this down and
going about my business.
Speaker 2 (43:54):
I'm not right. Want okay, get a little curlb with
that finger, girl.
Speaker 1 (44:01):
Yeah, I just want us to like because okay, let
me tell y'all something real quick about marketing. Right, If
you are making something, and like I said, still try
to figure out how you can make it affordable, because
I think that's important. However, if you are making something
and I do think that you should invest in it,
but I don't think you should use your last What
I do think is that you should probably sell it.
That's maybe a little less right. So you're not gonna
(44:24):
see a return that year. Unfortunately, you might not see
a return that year or on the first six months.
But if you have an amazing product and you're giving
it to people, or you're allowing people to get it
at a cheaper price and it's something that they will need,
then if you do hack the prices up later, you
can still get a return on your investment later. The
thing is, y'all want to make something, and then y'all
want to return as soon as you put it out,
(44:44):
and that's not always how business work.
Speaker 2 (44:46):
You're gonna have to take a hit sometimes.
Speaker 1 (44:48):
And if you are willing to take the hit and
people fall in love with what you're doing, you'll have
so many customers because people was able.
Speaker 2 (44:54):
To get it at an affordable price.
Speaker 1 (44:56):
So when you raise the price, it'll make sense because
I believe in the product. All allow me to believe
in what you're doing, and then I already want it.
Speaker 2 (45:04):
But when I don't know and I'm on a fence
and it's a thousand dollars, I'm good. I'm not doing that.
I can promise you.
Speaker 1 (45:10):
If it's a thousand dollars, I'm not on that fence,
You're gonna have to go to hell. I'm nowhere know that, Okay.
Speaker 2 (45:20):
I ain't. So it is. It's a lot of competition
out here.
Speaker 1 (45:28):
But like you said, if you have a valuable product
that people want and people are going to need over time,
and and before chant GPT takes all the water on
the planet, go ahead and get them to pull you
together a business plan, because.
Speaker 2 (45:44):
You know, just because that's the thing too.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
Like I feel like every time I realize what's happening, Girl,
we ain't got long on this folk rock.
Speaker 2 (45:54):
We we ain't got long.
Speaker 1 (45:56):
So that's why I'd be like, Lord, I don't know
what is happening, but every day I'm gonna get up
and I'm gonna do exactly what I want to do
and whatever makes me happy, because tomorrow we could be
in concentration camps. That girl building they're building one in
Social Circle, in a warehouse maybe forty five.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
Minutes an hour outside of Atlanta, I believe.
Speaker 1 (46:17):
I think, my god, they're building one and it's an
ice detention center for a Department.
Speaker 2 (46:22):
Of Human Services yep.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
And they think that we are willingly but and let
me be clear, Atlanta and Georgia is not the same thing.
I just want to do that out there because the
lot of people think that they building the Continent Special
camp in Atlanta, and that is not how that's going
to go down. We heard, maybe we heard them folks
was coming to Atlanta. I said, I don't think them
niggas was outside the dh IS office. They were outside
(46:48):
the Ice office the same day that the announcement came out,
protesting with signs. I said, Atlanta not the ones to
play with now, Minnesota. Really, they really showed us how
to do it. They really showed us how to do it,
and I appreciated that. Me personally, I'm black, so I'm
not doing that. I think that the people who can
(47:10):
risk that, which is usually wealthy white people and a
lot of white women who don't mind using those tears
for good instead of evil.
Speaker 2 (47:17):
I think you need to be out protesting. I agreed.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk. I agree.
And on that note, friend, we might as well go
ahead and wrap this up. What about you feel me?
That's all I had today for it. That's all I
had as well. You want to hear from y'all in
these comments. We asked a lot of posing questions in
this episode.
Speaker 1 (47:37):
We want to hear about you for Black History mind,
we want to hear about you with these politics.
Speaker 2 (47:41):
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Speaker 1 (47:45):
Just make sure you start spamming the comments because we
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Speaker 2 (47:49):
We're gonna be here every Thursday.
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You can see the visuals on YouTube, or you can
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so you'll know every time you Okay, please bye MHM.
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