January 29, 2026 • 49 mins
Episode 86 marks the long‑awaited return of the She Said It First Podcast after a much‑needed hiatus, with Jerrilyn and Lynee’ diving immediately back into their signature blend of humor, honesty, and cultural commentary. The two open by catching up on life, reflecting on mental and physical health, and laughing about the level of restraint it takes not to say everything on your mind. From there, they shift into a fiery discussion on recent political and social issues—especially the impact of ICE, the failures of elected officials, and the emotional exhaustion of watching injustice unfold. Their chemistry is undeniable, and listeners can feel how much they missed each other as they bounce between venting, affirming, and cracking each other up.
The conversation then pivots to pop culture, with the hosts giving their unfiltered thoughts on Kanye West’s public apology, accountability, and how mental health is often weaponized instead of genuinely addressed. They weave in commentary on relationships, gender expectations, and personal growth—sharing both comedic takes and deeply vulnerable insights. As always, their storytelling is raw, real, and laced with relatable tangents, from dog mom life to TV obsessions like Sinners and Sex and the City.
By the time they wrap up, the episode feels like a release—full of laughter, righteous frustration, and heartfelt reminders to protect your peace, choose your circle wisely, and value the people who truly support you. Episode 86 is a perfect comeback: grounded, chaotic in the best way, and packed with the kind of candid conversation only Jerrilyn and Lynee’ can deliver.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Am I coming in clear?
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Yeah, I don't even I don't even try to worry
about my crisus. Today I said, you know what, y'all
gonna get good. I'm proud of you. I see you,
I see you trying because okay, my god, I want
to day all right, what if everybody, it's your girl
(00:22):
indescribable aka Jarl and checking in with none other than
my bestige for the rest of the name. And you
are listening to that you said it first podcast trimone podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Yes, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Vent you Wu, honey, We vent you WU back like
we never left. I want y'all to know I have
missed my friend. We had to take us short high
atus due to some mental uh and some physical health concerns.
I was, in fact, uh sick of these niggas, was
(01:01):
diagnosed and great spirits Now guys, and we're back to
give you the content that you so rightfully deserved.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
But we can't.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
We can't start this episode without because I mean, it's
been a minute, friends, so I know.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
You got some stuff racked up. Come on, bringing girl,
what irritated you this week?
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Friend girl, I just feel as though I don't get
enough appreciation for how I don't tell people how I
really feel about them.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
They're not enough.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Thank you so much for not allowing us to endure
yours of trauma and insecurities based on something you could
have said that could have.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Ruined you know what I'm saying. Thank you for sparing me.
I don't understand.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
I don't get Why am I not getting the things
that I deserve?
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Where are my flowers? Okay? Because I really could.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Have ruined I could and the restraint, the level of
restraint that it takes to hit the road.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Okay, you know I'm proud.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
I'm proud of you, friend, because I know I know
where it can go. I too, I too have been
a victim of the name on name if you if
you have been, if you have been a victim, please
call two eight one friend zero zero.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
You make me in title of a compensation.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Girl, okay, because I can take it below hell and
I say, you know what.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
I'm not going to I'm not going to do that now.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
And then I need to lead you on your way
to go traumatize someone else.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
And I hope they digging your ass because I do so.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
I'm sorry during what to me is why I'm not
getting appreciated enough.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Your friend, and I'm proud of you.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
I'm I'm really proud of the work that you have
done to not to not get off in nobody's ass,
because sometimes the ass got to get dug in.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
You know what I'm saying. No polls need it. Every
time you got through.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Sometimes I appreciate that though, well you know, I'm I'm
glad to see your growth.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Me however, I think I'm divolving friend, I don't.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I don't know if I'm doing this right, because you
know what irritated me this week? I said, I'm not
talking about the weather. I need y'all to know because
I speak a little bit about it on my platform.
But I just want to make sure I double down.
Let you guys know that what you're doing is absolutely ridiculous.
(03:45):
And this is why I don't even restrict myself anymore.
I just tell people to go on and go to
hell because what you won't do, you're not gonna stress
me out.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
A lot of people that's gonna be stressed out. It's
not gonna be me to go to hell.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
And and whatever you do after that between you and Satan,
because kiss my, don't do it.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Don't do it, friend, don't do it. Don't do it together,
but they deserve.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Got to get myself. Oh I got it worked up. Okay,
let me let me really make in because I forget
I'm doing a podcast. But yeah, that's what irritated me
this week. On top of the fact that they're not
just targeting immigrants. At this point, ICE is killing American
citizens and uh, I can't not talk about it. I
(04:34):
have to say something about it because it's absolutely ridiculous.
And the people in charge, the powers that be Congress
and the House of Representatives, they're sitting there acting like
they can't do a single thing to stop this.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
And Democrats, where where's your backbone?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
And some of you, some of you Republicans that may
have a rain drop of empathy, where is your backbone?
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Is what I want to say.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
And I will be continuing to call my constituous because
IVE been on the phone. They say that, they say
that if we call them and tell them what we
won't then, especially because we have mid term elections coming up,
and now, y'all, we have midterm elections coming up, Like
cannot stress it enough. We have mid term elections coming up, Like,
don't you dare miss I'm not I'm really not playing
(05:18):
because you really don't know the damage you're about to do.
It's already damaging. What else like, And the thing is
this is like y'all genuinely believe that it will never
affect you. This is going to come down the pipeline
and every single last person will be affected.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Mid term elections is coming up. Absolutely makes it.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Make sure you That's all I need you to do
is make sure you're aware of who's running for what
and the people that aren't doing their job. Get them
up out of there, Okay, expeditiously get them seats up
out of there, because we have we we pay our
tax dollars for these people to take care of us
and do things that are in our best interests, and
they have The Department of Homeland Security is funding Ice
(05:56):
to terrorize American citizens and it's not okay, it's not right.
I just want to make sure that we put that
out there that I really want to say something, but
I'll probably get fired, so I'm gonna save that for
my personal platform because my views are not those of
the Urban one podcast company or Radio one. But I
will tell you on Instagram exactly how I fail hello,
(06:19):
but you know, there's a lot of foolish that's going on,
and friend, I would be remiss if we didn't discuss it.
So we gotta get back. We got to get back
down the business. And I appreciate you bringing it up.
If ain't nobody else, donna bring it up. My friend
gonna bring it up every time, Okay, and remind Joab
was right and was wrong because a lot of people
don't use their platforms for that. You know, I appreciate
you for stepping out and using your platform to speak out,
(06:40):
you know, speak up and speak out because it's not
right and it's super unfair. And I also feel like
we are letting people in charge get away with murder.
It's really time for us to really stand up, unite together,
and do something about.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
It if they won't. Because the thing is.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
It's power in numbers. There is more of us than
it is them.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
We gotta remember that, and we gotta stand together and
make a change. If somebody else can't do it, you
know what I'm saying, then be the person who will
advocate or either do something about it. So I appreciate
you saying something. If you wanna be somebody you wanna
know somewhere gotta awake nothing. No, seriously, nothing, seriously, we
(07:25):
pay attention. There are things you can do. So now
that we've made sure we made our stance clear about that,
uh friend, you got to ask.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Me, girl, girl, what happened? Who should?
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I couldn't wait to get this off my chairs. I
wasn't gonna say nothing.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
What is it? Girl? I wasn't gonna say nothing.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
But Koye West has come out. He took out an
ad in the Wall Street Journal to apologize to black
people in the Jewish Jewish community for some of his
recent comments and the swastika t shirts that he was
selling in the past. He said that he was suffering
from mental illness. He has bipolar type one diagnosis, and
(08:10):
he said he don't want us to forgive him. He
just wants, you know, a little patience to understand it
why he tries to find his way back home. And
I'm so glad that he doesn't want forgiveness because you
won't get.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
It from me.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Kanye, the nerve of you get from it and apologize
to us when we knew that apology was specifically for you.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
How dare you get.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
A personal apology to yourself and invite me in. And
you don't gonna write patience in the hospital. It's exactly
what you need, that type of patience. Go there and
get help, expeditiously, absolutist, because I know you lying all
the stuff. We knew it was mental, okay, we knew
that it was medical what you were doing. We knew
(08:50):
this needs to be prescribed. We were not blondsided by
this information. Only you seem to be shocked by this
sirt the nerve of you.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Like the way he was acting. Absolutely absolutely, girl. I'm
still a.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Fan of late registration and college drop out Kanye.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
And even and even even my beautiful.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Dark twist the fan to see Kanye. And that's when
it started getting a little.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
We want to say, but that one, I'm kind of whatever.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
They had some diss on that, but still it was
just you could tell his energy in that music wasn't right.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
It was it was shifting. It was beginning to shift.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
And I just think that, I mean, I'm not going
to give you an apology, but if I mean, I'm
not gonna give you forgiveness, but I think the best
way to you know, work toward forgiveness is to maybe
uh donate some funds. Since you're a billionaire, donate some
funds to a lot of these causes that are trying
(09:46):
to fight against ice and that are trying to fight
against the Trump administration. Use your platform instead of spending
hundreds of thousands of dollars to take out an ad
at the Wall Street Journal that apologize the people who
really don't care, take that money and give it to
these some of these grassroots organizations that are trying to
counteract fascism.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
That would be great.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
And then uh, save save like a half of meal
to just drop in my account personally and get because
I take.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
The avan instead of using that money.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
To buy some ran rap for your wife or girlfriend
or whomever she is to walk around with.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Girl, that girl, what happened here?
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Why did you do that to that woman?
Speaker 1 (10:33):
I know she was crazing, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
You can definitely do and you're already okay, so you
definitely can use your money to do better in the community.
You want it specifically to apologize to the black community. Well,
one way we take you know, apologies is through compensation. Yeah, donate, donate, donate, Okay,
And I have a question because if Kanye was the
(10:59):
one with the mental health issue. What was Beyonca doing?
M because you let that man zip tie you and
that man knew that stuff. So now I'm questioning your
mental stability and.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Mental health. Gotta get that money.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Made love, Okay, it's all about money.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
She just want to be there for the money. She
want to be seeing. She wants to fame.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
He probably tear up behind closed lords check on beyond.
I'm that's surprised if if if something comes out that
he was slightly abusive, I'm not gonna be surprised. I
know that mental illness is nothing to joke about, so
please don't mistake and what we're doing as making light
of the situation. But he you know, he said that
his wife was the one that made him realize he
had an issue, And I'm like, girl, you couldn't before.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
The earlier alert the others a little earlier. Yeah, but you.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
Know, yeah, as long as he took heed to it,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
She probably got sick at him, and I girl, because
I want to say something so bad for him, but
you say it, say it, say it too.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
I'm exhausted.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
It would be nice if people took better care.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Of themselves all, yeah, well, a lot of us are
in therapy because others won't go.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
So I I there's.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
That a lot of us are in therapy because others
won't go, and I refuse once I learned, you know.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
We have to understand personal accountability.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
You can't say, oh my mom wasn't in my life,
and oh my dad abandoned us, and oh my boyfriend.
At some point you have to be an adult and say,
you know what, this is what happened in the past,
This happened to me, And I'm gonna take what I
learned from this my experience. I'm gonna go get some healing.
Because if you're old enough to research sex positions and
how to get an eighth from.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
The crack dealer, hello, Hello, or how to be.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
A black woman and didn't get on a podcast, tell
me all about it.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Now.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
If you know every single thing there is to know
about every single car ever created back from the sixties,
it all up. Hello.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Surely you can google and how to stop look.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Surely you can google some type of medication to stop
hallucinations and whatever else that you possibly could be dealing with.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
So, I mean, I get.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
It that people are suffering and they need help, but
like you can't, you can't be out here doing all
this other crazy stuff. And then, because I'm gonna be
honest how I feel about this Kanye situation.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
I feel like people.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Do one of two things when they know that they
done really fed up. Yeah, they scream mental health or
they go to God. And we've seen Kanye do both,
is all I'm saying. Yeah, what was Sunday service is wrong?
I think something is very wrong.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
Something wrong. It all.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
This man has proven that one side of the brain
is not working. You know what I'm saying. It hasn't
been for a while. I'm sorry, you.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Know what, We're just gonna move along.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Because calling this man a half brain, this half brain
kan Kanye.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
You know again, our views are not those of Urban One.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Exactly, and we employ you to do your own investigative
research as we will do at you know what, I'm
just go ahead and do. I would like to take
the time now to take accountability for what we just said,
and I apologize to those who it affected or offended.
I'm gonna do the I'm gonna do the inner work,
you know, to change my thought process about mental health
(14:42):
and things like that. Yes, and.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
I just feel like Kanye need to go to hell.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Like I don't think he needed to express any of
that to us, honestly, all those aside, Kanye, go to
hell because the amount of damage that you've inflicted in
the Black community and to Jewish people, like.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Bro, please go hell.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Please, Like I don't even know how the apology came about.
I just want you to work on it and do better,
like behind closed doors, like go off into a retreat
and figure it out, like do something, get on medication,
get better, and did just come back as a better
person like the way you went on us for years.
It we endured so much trauma and pain from you.
It was hard to watch.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
This was too much.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Because no, Kanye literally went from George Bush doesn't care
about Black people when all the Katrina and stuff was
going on, to slavery was a choice to printing up
T shirts that had swastikas on them. So we cannot
sit here and act like Kanye has not done his
fair share of damage within the community. What I'm suggesting
is maybe let's not take out an ad in the
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Wall Street Journal if you really can, because now it
seems attention seeking. To me, this is my personal opinion.
I'm not speaking for anyone else. It seems attention seeking
to me. You could have just went on Instagram Live
and said, y'all, I got a diagnosis, my fault or
whatever you wanted to do, drop another album and talk
about it in your album. But you know, like do
what everybody else does, you know, just put it, get
(16:04):
in the booth.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
Well, I don't say I would want to be straggling
with that, you know what I mean. There's a lot
of people, and.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
Once again want to reiterate, we are not making fun
of bipolar any type of mental health.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
What we're saying is Kanye, specifically him.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Him, he had the opportunity, right, He has the opportunity
to shift this and do something about it, you know
what I mean.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
Those who are.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Struggling with mental health don't always have the resources to
take care of whatever they're diagnosed with.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
For Get on medication, it's expensivele don't have insurance.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
So we know that what we're saying is this person
could have done something a long time ago, and.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
Now we just don't want to hear about it. We
just want him to take action.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
And people have to realize, like words only mean something
when you put action behind them. Outside of that, we
just shooting and talking about whatever until you actually do
something about it. He could have came back and been like, y'all,
I've been on medication, I went to therapy, I've seen
a psychiatrist. I'm doing better, said my music. Check it
out cool, I'll buy the album. I'll look at you whatever.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Because I was coming, I was gonna listen to the album.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
Of Gardeners exactly.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
I'm gonna give it one strongly, you know exactly. But
that behind it, that.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
Push of I am trying to tell you guys about
mental health and how I overcame, it would have made
people want to listen even more. You know what I'm
saying something quick, But this whole apology, I'm good on that.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
I just don't care. I don't care. That's how I feel. Toto.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Come on, bro, you see me working, don't don't. Don't
get embarrassed in front of your auntie. Come on now,
go to that.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
You don't wander. He liked to get into stuff, and
that just he caught my eye.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
He thought I wasn't pay attention because I was working,
and that's exactly how kids be. I'm tired of Toto too.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Don't let her talk to you like.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
That because you know you're right here, come on right
up under your foot. That's why IMA's baby. You know people,
people have been fallen in love with talking.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
You got something you want to say? All that Melani
and popping, you gotta say you and Shay don't get
off my face? Then then gazed eyes. But you know
what's funny. I want to talk about this because Tana
has built like a little following on social media. Really
people love him.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
He had a video that did like twenty million views
and so hold on, oh my god, you aren't so famous.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
You do not care at all.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
The only thing he cared about is when are you
opening that snack bag like you said?
Speaker 1 (18:31):
And where is my dinner? Because the way he gets
then he gets so aggressive. Baby.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
But I saw I saw a post the other day
that all right, don't get your head whoop.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Now.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
I saw a post the other day that said, I
want you to know that people who have dogs are
not the same as people who have children. And I said, well,
why he looked like me then, friend? Because because who
don't have no children? It's him looking on so stoy
because who don't have no turn out.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
How do the many told her like, girl, please please
get me out to the family.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
But no, I think people that do that, like why
are you attacking phones?
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Like let people guess my child is my my dog? Yes,
he is my.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Son because I carried him for nine months and I
don't need to hear nothing else you got to say
about it.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Period. That's your baby.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
Mine say any mothers, but let's talk about Let's talk
about another mom.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
We need a shame because.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Sinners is nominated for sixteen sixteens during this this season.
Shout out to Ryan Coogler the whole cast. Lord want
me in? Soacho want me? Won me most? I think
it's how I pronounce her name. I could be pronouncing
it totally wrong. But del Roy Lindo and a bunch
of these amazing people who made this happen. But uh,
(19:59):
I wanna talk about I want to talk about your girl, Grace,
the Asian couple.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Uh who let the who let the ripe house in?
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Because girl, the way I would have shoved her all
out there, you were so pressed to go get that man.
And I understand she was concerned about her child going
out there and died with him going out there, why
would you bring them up in here.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
With the rest of us. Sinners was so good. Good.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
That was good from beginning to end, you know what
I mean. You got to see, although Michael B. Jordan
is already amazing, but you got to see him play
two completely different characters, which was so intriguing, you know
what I mean. You got to see like you connected
with like the vampires and like you know, them needing
to come in the house and people turning, and then
(20:47):
the church of course, and then you know, ostracized all
for your talents, and it was just so many symbolisms
in it, and I just it's a good watch. It's
a really good watch. I feel like that it's something
that we could watch years and years and years, you know,
sometimes like you see a movie like I never watched
that again, but that's something that I feel like would
do longevity. For a while, I've been watching it every
(21:10):
time I've taken probably three or four flights Senate since
it came out. In every flight I'm on, I watched Sinners,
or I watched like Bridesmaids with h Yeah, I would
watch something like that, but baby, the way I be
watching Centers, I will if I get bored here at
the house and I want to watch something instead of
bench watching sex in the City, which I'm finna get
into that as well.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
But I've been watching Centers Girl the way.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
I'm pissed because Carry Bradshaw, Girl, please stand up, but
please stand up. Carry Bradshaw is the main character. And now,
mind you, twenty years ago, I didn't have HBO.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
I was at the house.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
You know, I was maybe doing arts and crafts at church,
choir rehearsal, you know, maybe running track.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
And I ain't have no access to none of this.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
And if I did, my folks was not Finna, let
me watch four white women have sex all over Manhattan
and so beautiful, amazing, empowering woman though, I mean, I
had so many different stories they but it's real life, though, friend,
because we deal with our own realm. I know that
fits me off, though I strength okay, because I have
(22:17):
I don't know. I was mad because the only person
I really truly respected until she started being a little
goofy was Samantha.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
Now, Samantha was a whole, straight up, Samantha was.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
A whole, and she she she had way too much
we we throughout that series, however, Samantha was unapologetic about
what she wanted, and she was the I feel like
she was the most successful one after group. Now we
have Miranda who was just bitter, Betty who was miserable
all the time. But Carrie and Charlotte was They were
like two different ends of the spectrum of naives. Like
(22:49):
Carrie was so concerned with what Big was doing. Girl,
I watched them so like I watched them tall where
she invited him to her new man's cabin out in
the woods.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Maybe neither one of y'all would have came back home.
I would have disappeared at y'all. Girl, Carry pissed me.
We're gonna talk about this online because I can feel
myself getting up sad.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Okay, I watch that, Like, Okay, yeah, I know Carry,
I know some Maan Thus, Charlotte, all of the girls,
I know all of them, but I haven't been like
I haven't watched it.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
Watch it. And also, like when I watched it, I really.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
Didn't understand everything that was kind of like taking place. Right.
You gotta watch it as an adult to really get
a lot of what's going on, because otherwise when you're
a kid, it's just oh, they having sex. You don't, right,
you don't really see the relationship part and the struggles
that people have with things like co parenting and if
your career moves you across the country or if.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
You get pregnant, and y'all was done with.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
Each other, like all of these different types of relationship aspects.
But I just all the whole time I'm watching it,
I'm just thinking, these women are so annoying because y'all
are in your mid thirties, y'all have money.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
Now.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
Everybody but carry Carrey had the money. She were broke,
she would to be as Bond's shoes. But everybody else
had a significant amount of money, whether they got it
from a spouse or their career.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
And you sent up here complaining about these men.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
Yeah, but that kind of just lets you know where
society is, you know what I'm saying, where you can
have all of these things. And honestly, I just dug
into my mother's ass the other day about what I'm sorry, mam,
but I got to say, man, father, I.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Have to, I have to.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
I said, I am so successful. I'm not at my peak,
but I am very successful. I hate that I have
accomplished all of these things, and you still ask me
about a man. That really gets me tight, Like the
fact that society has conditioned us to believe that we
are not as successful as we actually are unless we
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have the man and we are married and we have
the family, and it's this picket fence and it's all
of this, Like, I think times have changed, and I
think people have to come up to the time. Like
a lot of people don't want a man, A lot
of people don't want to be married, just like a
lot of people don't want kids, and so it looks
different for every single person. So my accomplishments and I
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never think my mother is like my mother is so
proud of me, Like I know she loves me, and
outside of all of that and still being proud of me,
still ask me about a man. Really, I'm gonna tell
you now, that's jerl I know.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
But that's the generation though.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
That's I had to have this conversation with my parents.
That's the generation that they come from. Girl Like women
didn't have much value outside of being moms and wives
and their success. Their survival was pretty much predicated on
whichever man they re tied to. And if you were
in your sixties and you believe this for your entire life.
(25:51):
I understand the friction, but I had to explain to them, like,
that's not on my radar being I've been there, done
that being married. Don't care if I ever do it again.
My right now is to be the best version of myself,
to be happy, healthy, and successful as I deem.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
My success to be.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
And if I want somebody to enjoy that with me,
then they can.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
Enjoy that with me.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
But I'm not putting pressure on it, like I'm really
enjoying where I'm at in my life and I don't
need Like I'm imagine if I guarantee you if you
was married with kids, there's a lot of things you
would not be doing. First of all, your content would
look way different if you easily branched off to do
this full time.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Yeah. Absolutely, because that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (26:37):
A lot of this don't provide civility like a nine
to five would hello hello.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
And then just miserable. So now I'm stuck behind it.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
That's knowing that I'm so talented, I'm so creative, I'm
able to do more, but I can't because I have
other obligations. And of course that comes first, But I
just it's like we have to and it's like I'm
not forcing them to come up with the times. You
know what I'm saying, I'm not forcing that on them
because that's just where they are.
Speaker 1 (27:04):
But don't try to put that on me.
Speaker 2 (27:05):
That's all I'm saying is if that's where you are
and that's what you want for yourself, I just believe
in order to have a conversation with me, then we
want to have to educate ourselves and understand that things
are changing and I am changing.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
I am changing with the.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Times, right, And you know, it's not customary or acceptable
a lot of times for women to uh not desire
marriage the way they want us to.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
And I think, you know.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
There's all these conversations about, well, if you're not married,
it's because don't nobody want you, And I'm like child,
we as women, we know.
Speaker 1 (27:37):
That that's never the case.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
But I think people are trying to bully us or
shame us. And now the person accepting the bare minimum,
because I know that a lot of men reduce marriage
to having someone just at the house to cook, and
you reduced it down.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
To a slave. Really be rap believe marriage in certain instances.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
I know, I know, all right, girl, if you that
loud trying to defend the part and your husband, go talk.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
To that lady.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
God, please go talk to the lady, because stop talking
to me.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
I don't have okay, curious.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Any in the comments they just like, you know, but
if you are not reduced down to a slave, and
I am using your own words against y'all because if
you just listen to the podcast that men put out
and the things that they want a woman for, yep,
nothing substantial, nothing about who she is as a person,
nothing about her characteristics, nothing about her moral ethics, nothing.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
About this all about what do you clean?
Speaker 3 (28:42):
Can you take any kids?
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Can you wash clothes?
Speaker 2 (28:44):
Like? It's all about being a slave that is murdered
day slavery.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
If you pay attention to what they're asking.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
You, absolutely and and and a lot of these men,
I hate to say it, a lot of them just
want another mom. And until I find somebody who value
use who I am as a person because I talk
this is so funny.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
I'm gonna tell you this.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
The dude that I'm talking to, he might he be
watching our episodes, So yes, girl, he thanks me so.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Together talking about something y'all have really great, great chemistry.
How long y'all been been friends?
Speaker 2 (29:15):
I said, I said, well, actually, our moms are sisters.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
And I'm telling y'all I love it. We got to.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
Talking and uh, I said, listen, I'm gonna be honest
with you.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I don't I don't enjoy cooking. Uh.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
If I if I can hire a cleaning service, I will.
I'm not I'm not that girl. I'm not super girlly.
I'm not extra feminine like a lot of men like.
He looked me dead in the face and he said,
there are so many other things I like about you, though,
and he listed the things that he liked, and I
was like, wow, yeah, because the things that he liked
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the helped me had nothing to do with labor that
I could give him, or sex or like helping him
pay bills, and like, it was none of that. It
was it was all I like that you think this
way about this thing. I like that you're ambitious in
this way about your your talents and things like.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
That, and he's helpful.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
And so I think I think that's what matters in relationships.
I think is finding somebody you're equally yoked with because
and Le'm gonna be clear. This conversation could be different
in six months. Who knows. What I know is he's
hope you for the actual person you are and not
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all of these things that people feel like make you
who you are. He figured out like exactly you are
and not saying, oh, well, she get cooked, that makes
her a good person. She can clean, that makes her
a good pard. Do you know what I'm saying? He
looked inside of exactly who you are. That's all saying,
Like you know what girls look like? This is just dreamy, like.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Wow, what you're talking about? Because it is like to.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
Be valued in a way without it being connected to
all of these additional attachments.
Speaker 1 (31:06):
You know what I'm saying, Like any.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
Conditions, all these conditions I like. I just I want
somebody who wants to be with me for me. If
you don't like me, you don't have to be here.
It's very simple. I'm not gonna force you to do nothing.
I think we're at the age now where who I
am and who I'm gonna be. Who you are is who.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
You're gonna be. I'm not interested in changing you.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
I'm not gonna nag you for the next year and
a half to try to make you be something different.
Either you are the person that I want to be
with right now, or we don't have to do this.
And I think more people need to have those conversations
because they end up and stuff. That's how they end
up married with kids to somebody they don't even know
that part. Oh my god, then you had a baby,
and it's completely different, Like you have no clue who
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you're laying to. They don't like your body, they're talking
to you any kind of way, they don't want to
help you with the child.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Like it's just so many things after people have.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
Children come about and I just be like, I know
it could be the kids that bring it out, but
like where they're not size before.
Speaker 1 (32:02):
I guess that's the question I own.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
I'm telling you any problems you have in a relationship,
they will be magnified by marriage and a baby if
you and and don't please don't think y'all be having
these band.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Aid babies like, oh a, we just needed something to
bring us together.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
The first thing that baby gonna do is separate y'all,
because let me tell you something, every time sixt week
six weeks, you ain't getting no nookie all right, let's
start immediot separation, get out of here. So, you know,
people like to feel like there are ways to bring
You can't.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
You can't.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
You can't add more accountability to a relationship and think
it's gonna increase the intimacy. That's not how partnership works.
If it's not already there, it's gonna get worse. And
so you know, shout out to all the people that
know what they want and not settling because you ain't
got You're know how many people told me I would
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never be able to find nobody that didn't have kids.
Speaker 1 (32:59):
I'm that so many men at my age that don't
have children.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
Y'all are straight up lying to women to create this
scarcity mindset, as if there ain't enough men out here, baby.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Go to hell. I might have to be selling it
for a little while. Might you want to know why?
Speaker 2 (33:13):
You know, man, they tell you that because they can't
attract that, they can't attract that. And they also want
us to accept the bare minimum to They need us
to believe that there are no people available, so we
would just take anything.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
Yes, because take them. It's the one who told you
that is the one that would like to be taken
specifically Hell yeah, abso.
Speaker 2 (33:36):
By okay, it was.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
Like he's man, he got kids, and you're not settling,
and you.
Speaker 2 (33:46):
Gotta break you down or make you feel like you're
less than so that you'll, you know what I'm saying,
even though he can meet you now, you'll you'll have
the mentality of always taking less than what you deserve.
That's all that goes to break you. Please, you're not
gonna bring me, not just girl the way I You know,
one day I woke up and I decided that I
wasn't gonna be end to whatever people wanted from me.
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I'm gonna be exactly who I want to be, And
I think that everybody needs to do that, Like be yourself.
The people that are gonna be in your life will
naturally gravitate towards you, and they'll treat you the way
that you want to be treated.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
But you can't. You can't contort.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
Yourself to fit other people's expectations and think you still
gonna be happy or at peace like you're you're going
against everything that God designs you to be to appease
people who have conditional love and respect for you. Because
as long as you stop doing the things that they
love so much. Who with I love God without love God,
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baby out the window. And that's why I just good
to stay true to you, because the thing about it is,
as long as you are true to yourself, even those
people will fall by the wayside. They might even be
able to stay with you, they won't go where you're going.
Showing up as your authentic self every time will only
allow those who are in alignment with your purpose to
be around everything, absolutely absolutely, And that's all you can
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really desire, especially at at my age.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
I don't want to hear nothing nobody got to say.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
I said what I said, what I should, okay, and
it's and it's not going to change.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
Hell okay, so.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
My bad, okay, all right, So moving right along, I
want to talk about, you know, how we can't never
stay on task. I want to talk about what is
going on with the purchase of TikTok, how it is
now changed ownership, and there are these there are these
guidelines and things that we need to agree to in
(35:42):
order to continue using the platform. I had just I
just stopped going in the app because they keep trying
to force me to a grease on them.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
But what they and other companies are doing.
Speaker 2 (35:51):
Companies like Ring and Amazon and Hilton Hotels, they are
creating a channel for people to be targeted by ice.
And so with these TikTok, with these new TikTok agreements,
basically you're allowing them to use your name, location, sex, gender,
all of these different your orientation, all of these things,
(36:13):
m M, ethnicity and all these things to basically give
this information over so they can find you.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
What the and you mean I can't opt out of this?
That is crazy.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
I've been so y'all. I've been on a fans for
like five days. I've been on a fans for five days.
I haven't even been on social media. So some of
this stuff I will be here for the first time,
which is wild, Which absolutely wild.
Speaker 1 (36:42):
And that's that's.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
Scary to think that it's not an option to decline.
That's the scariest part is that you are trying to
take my rights completely away from me, Like, oh, that's
scarys just making you a target, Like why would you?
Speaker 1 (36:55):
It's already scary for people.
Speaker 2 (36:56):
And something that I had learned here recently was there
was an eleven year old girl who unlived herself because
her classmates were bullying her and told her that Ice
was gonna come for her family. Now we have to
as a as a country, we have to really sit
with this. We need to understand what's happening. We are
losing people left and right because of babies, though, because
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you know what I'm saying, just make sure you put
child in there, because I think people think losing.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
People, You think adults. No, we're talking about that's.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
A baby eleven years old.
Speaker 2 (37:30):
She took her own life because she was afraid that
Ice would come and target her family, if because she
was in existence, Like, I don't know if people are
understanding the ramifications of what is happening.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
We are at war right.
Speaker 2 (37:43):
Now, and I'm trying to figure out how long it's
gonna take for other countries to step in because I
feel like Donald Trump has put us all in harm's way.
Speaker 1 (37:52):
That's what I was about to say.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
And it's not even concerned about people's welfare, like he doesn't.
He's going to send hundreds of thousands of military personnel
to her deaths. He's going to get hundreds of thousands
of American citizens unlive at what at what extent?
Speaker 1 (38:08):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (38:09):
Yeah, agree that that is so sad that she couldn't.
She was taking on the wait for her whole family,
you know what I mean, Like she was literally taken
on the weight of her whole family. And it's also
super sad that kids are cruel, you know what I mean,
Kids are so cruel to tease her that much every
single day that she felt like, well, I'll put it
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into it. She felt like she could put it into that,
you know what I mean. And I mean condolences to
the family more than anything. I'm so sorry that that
baby felt like the way that the world was on
her shoulder.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
She did not deserve to be treated like that.
Speaker 2 (38:43):
And I do feel like when things like this happen,
I definitely think the kids should be held accountable.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
And I know y'all gonna be madly.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
I might have said, I know y'all gonna be mad
at me, but it's just like that parent who has
sick of seale and she was walking her kids home
and those kids beat her up and all of her
children up, and so they rallied outside of the schools.
Speaker 1 (39:04):
They were trying to figure out what was going on,
and those kids got locked up, as they should.
Speaker 2 (39:09):
I do think that there should be because your kids better.
Speaker 1 (39:14):
You know, school locked them up to because where did
they learn this? Thank you?
Speaker 2 (39:19):
Why did they think that that was okay? Like I
just I don't, I don't, I know only but so.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
Much can be done.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
But like you said, if the kids can get locked
up whatever, then they get released. But the parents should
have to be taking some type of accountability for this
as well.
Speaker 3 (39:32):
I hate that because I was bullied.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
I was bullied as a kid, so I know what
it's like to be on the opposite side of that
where you're not in crowd, you're not the out crowd.
People don't like you, you know what I'm saying. They
following you home after school, you know, they talking to
you while every single.
Speaker 3 (39:47):
Day, and it's not easy.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
It's just not an easy thing to deal with all
the time. Like as a child, you only can take
but so much.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
And your world is only this big. You haven't experienced life.
Speaker 2 (39:59):
You don't have enough things to pull on to know,
like you just don't have enough experience and like to
know that this is a temporary thing and that eventually
there's two shell pass. But kid, your world is this
big and so getting bully getting talk about you know,
your friends turning on you. It feels like everything is
crashing down on you. You know what I'm saying. You feel
like that is your world. Everything is crashing down on you.
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And so if you don't know how to come and
talk to your family about it, or your family doesn't
really know what to do, like they're telling you everything
gonna be okay, but it doesn't feel like that, then
it's like, how do you support you know, how do
you support those kids that's being talked about and bullied
every day? And then how do you discipline the ones
who are causing the pain?
Speaker 1 (40:39):
What do you do? Because bullying is something that's really
not taking care of one of them. It's one of
them reasons why I don't want.
Speaker 2 (40:46):
To have kids, because now I got to dress up like.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
A sixth grader? Who your ass on the store? I'm
so sorry. I'm not gonna play with y'all.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
And they and the way these people be sending their
kids to school to terrorize other people like you. You
a pos. I'm trying to keep it light on the
cuss of the day, Jackie, but you know you a pos,
your kids a pos, and you're breeding a little people.
What Kanye say, hater niggas had married hater bitches and
have hater kids. Kanye said that that might be one
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of the realest things Kanye see so so.
Speaker 1 (41:18):
Shout out to Oh yay for that. But I just
I can't.
Speaker 2 (41:23):
I can't see myself going to the principal's office and
trying to have a decent, civilized conversation because one of
your man's nothing you can do that part. What do
you mean is nothing that has always been a thing.
It's nothing we can do about it. It's nothing we
can do about it. Like, I just hate the fact
that there's never nothing done. Or you go to like
peer mediation, which is like you having a meeting with
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this person you're gonna like and y'all trying to come
to a common ground.
Speaker 3 (41:47):
But that still doesn't work, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (41:49):
That's still not it.
Speaker 2 (41:50):
I just and nothing happens until physical harm is done
and then people get expelled and suspended or I have
to go to different schools or it's too late like
this situation, that's the.
Speaker 1 (41:59):
Only things are done. And I just hate that it
takes that long.
Speaker 2 (42:04):
You just gotta teach people need to go back to fighting.
And hear me out yes, hear me out. People need
to go back to squaring up at seven am. I'm
talking about puffy bubble coat with the fire around the
hood and the ponytail that's this long.
Speaker 1 (42:18):
We need to go back to rock them sock them robot.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
Because these kids is getting out of hand nowadays. They
like to go grab something, you know, to put with
more power behind it. But we need to go back
to the days where you just got your ass whooped
at eight o'clock in the morning and you went on
to iss or if you got suspended for three days whatever,
and we keep it moving.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
But now you know, things live forever on the internet.
Speaker 2 (42:38):
So you can't even do that, Like you can't even
take your al and keep it moving like it's it's
everywhere now. So I don't even know what we're gonna
we're gonna do before in boxing and taekwondo and they
gonna beat the brakes off your kids. I'm not don't
come over there with that. I'm gonna tell you from
one I'm gonna be I'm gonna teach my baby out
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because the minute you come over here after stupid bro
the way I the way, I I ain't even got
I'm gonna teach my kids some stuff if well, I'm
talking like, this is why I don't want to have kids,
because I'll be up in prison and not even jail,
not even jail. I'm going to strap the prison because
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the stuff I'm thinking about trying to do and retaliation.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
Ain't nowhere near gonna be legal at all. Kids, if
they touched mind, That's what I'm saying. Now, I gotta
go tell them, Yeah, got to. I don't know, it's
too for me.
Speaker 2 (43:33):
Thinking about having that level of composure is hard because
the kids look like us. Girl, them kids McDonald's, I
don't know, okay, but they all look like us. They
got I can tell you. I can tell you what
they about to eat. I can tell you what they about.
Speaker 1 (43:50):
To eat, the.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
Knuckle sandwich because don't come over here playing. But that
that is to your point, that is true. These kids now,
it's it's the hormones and the chicken in the in
the beef. What's for dinner? Like they they little thing
around here because looks wrong. And I feel like I
should be able to fight somebody of this. If you,
if you're almost two hundred pounds, I should be able
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to fight you as a king, I should I still fight.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
I agree. I don't see what the problem is. To
be honest with you, I don't.
Speaker 2 (44:22):
So here at the she said the first podcast, we
are in favor of child.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
Abuse, and.
Speaker 2 (44:32):
I do support sport time taxing that ass.
Speaker 1 (44:36):
Yeah I do.
Speaker 2 (44:37):
I'm just somebody else for somebody else who's not gonna
do nothing. Look the minute you're lying we got because
it's gonna say already is I'm not playing. I'm dead serious.
It's going to be a problem if you do something
to my child, or my child did something in reference
to something that you said, or was bullying them consistently,
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and now I don't have yeah, oh yeah, offense are
off because now I gotta go be with my baby.
Speaker 1 (45:07):
Now I got to see my baby. I got to
see my baby. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:11):
I would literally there are people in my life that
I would literally die for. So I know having a
baby is out the question for me. I don't even
I've seen size of myself. I don't even want to
see no more. I just because you can bark it.
If I take total outside right now and a pit
bull bark too loud, you're gonna start barking down. First
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of all, not just that, not just that I'm fist
fighting the owner. Now I got your head going back
in the middle.
Speaker 1 (45:41):
Of the street. Just that part that get off my baby,
Get up off my baby. Oh my god. This was
a hell of a way to start back the after
the hiatus. Child.
Speaker 2 (45:53):
Can you tell we haven't talked to each other in
a while? I miss my friend, yuy, But last I'm
so glad we was able to reconnect this week and
get all of this off our chant because you know,
things have been things have been very heavy, and I
just want to encourage everybody listening. You know, if you
have I thank God for you, friend, because I know
(46:13):
everybody don't have people in their life that they could
just call and either key key with or vent to
or get you know, good advice, solid advice, good advice.
I want y'all real quick, friend, put a pin in
and hold on, because we got we got to send
them all over right here for a second.
Speaker 1 (46:28):
Oh wait, wait, wait wait good advice.
Speaker 2 (46:34):
Okay, Okay, I want y'all to examine the person's life
that's giving you the advice before you take it, because
always consider the source. Consider this source, check the car facts. Okay, okay,
go'd need for you to look at the person that's
telling you to do whatever it is and see are
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they excelling in that part.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
Of their life?
Speaker 2 (46:58):
Should they be giving you any type of advice at
all on this particular topic right, because it might be
other areas they're good at.
Speaker 3 (47:06):
You know, you see something you're like, I might need
to ask you.
Speaker 2 (47:09):
But when they start drifting over okay, when they okay,
they not sticking to the rivers in the lakes that
they used to. You understand what I'm saying, you will
have to push them.
Speaker 1 (47:18):
Back into their lane.
Speaker 2 (47:20):
Hey, yeah, Yount trying to territory.
Speaker 1 (47:22):
You don't know what to do over here?
Speaker 2 (47:24):
Okay, that's I just watched people be so critical and
just so opinionated about everything, and then you look at
them and you say.
Speaker 1 (47:33):
But you you're.
Speaker 2 (47:35):
Not doing not only are you not doing none of this,
but you're not excelling in any of these areas you
are telling me what to do or being so opinionated about.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Girl, you're actually operating in a deficit.
Speaker 2 (47:48):
Okay, you can't teach me how to do as.
Speaker 1 (47:56):
What is wrong with you? Okay? All happening here? You
know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (48:02):
I just want to you know, I just want to
put a pin in that because I know y'all appreciate
y'all friends. I know y'all appreciate your significant others. I
know y'all appreciate certain people in your life. But you
got you got to look and who is coming from?
Speaker 1 (48:15):
Right? Proceed? What's caught.
Speaker 3 (48:19):
That?
Speaker 1 (48:20):
Right there is a sermon. I'm gonna go ahead and
pass the quit.
Speaker 2 (48:24):
If you got we appreciate the contact jingles, but we
really loves kind their phones. All right, that's all I'm
gonna say. That's all I got to say.
Speaker 1 (48:36):
For that's it. That's all I want to say. Friend.
Speaker 2 (48:38):
You can could think you know that, but gret that's
You're gonna wrap the episode up with the boat bay
we're out here.
Speaker 1 (48:43):
That's that's right, y'all. But look on that note. Make
sure y'all's son in every Thursday. Okay.
Speaker 2 (48:50):
If you want to see the visuals, we're gonna be
on YouTube, but audio we're gonna be wherever you listen
to your podcast. Just make sure you like, comment and subscribe.
Speaker 1 (48:58):
We gonna catch y'all fans. This fine
Am I coming in clear?
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Yeah, I don't even I don't even try to worry
about my crisus. Today I said, you know what, y'all
gonna get good. I'm proud of you. I see you,
I see you trying because okay, my god, I want
to day all right, what if everybody, it's your girl
(00:22):
indescribable aka Jarl and checking in with none other than
my bestige for the rest of the name. And you
are listening to that you said it first podcast trimone podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Yes, ma'am.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Vent you Wu, honey, We vent you WU back like
we never left. I want y'all to know I have
missed my friend. We had to take us short high
atus due to some mental uh and some physical health concerns.
I was, in fact, uh sick of these niggas, was
(01:01):
diagnosed and great spirits Now guys, and we're back to
give you the content that you so rightfully deserved.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
But we can't.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
We can't start this episode without because I mean, it's
been a minute, friends, so I know.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
You got some stuff racked up. Come on, bringing girl,
what irritated you this week?
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Friend girl, I just feel as though I don't get
enough appreciation for how I don't tell people how I
really feel about them.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
They're not enough.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Thank you so much for not allowing us to endure
yours of trauma and insecurities based on something you could
have said that could have.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Ruined you know what I'm saying. Thank you for sparing me.
I don't understand.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
I don't get Why am I not getting the things
that I deserve?
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Where are my flowers? Okay? Because I really could.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Have ruined I could and the restraint, the level of
restraint that it takes to hit the road.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Okay, you know I'm proud.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
I'm proud of you, friend, because I know I know
where it can go. I too, I too have been
a victim of the name on name if you if
you have been, if you have been a victim, please
call two eight one friend zero zero.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
You make me in title of a compensation.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Girl, okay, because I can take it below hell and
I say, you know what.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
I'm not going to I'm not going to do that now.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
And then I need to lead you on your way
to go traumatize someone else.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
And I hope they digging your ass because I do so.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
I'm sorry during what to me is why I'm not
getting appreciated enough.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Your friend, and I'm proud of you.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
I'm I'm really proud of the work that you have
done to not to not get off in nobody's ass,
because sometimes the ass got to get dug in.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
You know what I'm saying. No polls need it. Every
time you got through.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Sometimes I appreciate that though, well you know, I'm I'm
glad to see your growth.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Me however, I think I'm divolving friend, I don't.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I don't know if I'm doing this right, because you
know what irritated me this week? I said, I'm not
talking about the weather. I need y'all to know because
I speak a little bit about it on my platform.
But I just want to make sure I double down.
Let you guys know that what you're doing is absolutely ridiculous.
(03:45):
And this is why I don't even restrict myself anymore.
I just tell people to go on and go to
hell because what you won't do, you're not gonna stress
me out.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
A lot of people that's gonna be stressed out. It's
not gonna be me to go to hell.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
And and whatever you do after that between you and Satan,
because kiss my, don't do it.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Don't do it, friend, don't do it. Don't do it together,
but they deserve.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Got to get myself. Oh I got it worked up. Okay,
let me let me really make in because I forget
I'm doing a podcast. But yeah, that's what irritated me
this week. On top of the fact that they're not
just targeting immigrants. At this point, ICE is killing American
citizens and uh, I can't not talk about it. I
(04:34):
have to say something about it because it's absolutely ridiculous.
And the people in charge, the powers that be Congress
and the House of Representatives, they're sitting there acting like
they can't do a single thing to stop this.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
And Democrats, where where's your backbone?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
And some of you, some of you Republicans that may
have a rain drop of empathy, where is your backbone?
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Is what I want to say.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
And I will be continuing to call my constituous because
IVE been on the phone. They say that, they say
that if we call them and tell them what we
won't then, especially because we have mid term elections coming up,
and now, y'all, we have midterm elections coming up, Like
cannot stress it enough. We have mid term elections coming up, Like,
don't you dare miss I'm not I'm really not playing
(05:18):
because you really don't know the damage you're about to do.
It's already damaging. What else like, And the thing is
this is like y'all genuinely believe that it will never
affect you. This is going to come down the pipeline
and every single last person will be affected.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Mid term elections is coming up. Absolutely makes it.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Make sure you That's all I need you to do
is make sure you're aware of who's running for what
and the people that aren't doing their job. Get them
up out of there, Okay, expeditiously get them seats up
out of there, because we have we we pay our
tax dollars for these people to take care of us
and do things that are in our best interests, and
they have The Department of Homeland Security is funding Ice
(05:56):
to terrorize American citizens and it's not okay, it's not right.
I just want to make sure that we put that
out there that I really want to say something, but
I'll probably get fired, so I'm gonna save that for
my personal platform because my views are not those of
the Urban one podcast company or Radio one. But I
will tell you on Instagram exactly how I fail hello,
(06:19):
but you know, there's a lot of foolish that's going on,
and friend, I would be remiss if we didn't discuss it.
So we gotta get back. We got to get back
down the business. And I appreciate you bringing it up.
If ain't nobody else, donna bring it up. My friend
gonna bring it up every time, Okay, and remind Joab
was right and was wrong because a lot of people
don't use their platforms for that. You know, I appreciate
you for stepping out and using your platform to speak out,
(06:40):
you know, speak up and speak out because it's not
right and it's super unfair. And I also feel like
we are letting people in charge get away with murder.
It's really time for us to really stand up, unite together,
and do something about.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
It if they won't. Because the thing is.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
It's power in numbers. There is more of us than
it is them.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
We gotta remember that, and we gotta stand together and
make a change. If somebody else can't do it, you
know what I'm saying, then be the person who will
advocate or either do something about it. So I appreciate
you saying something. If you wanna be somebody you wanna
know somewhere gotta awake nothing. No, seriously, nothing, seriously, we
(07:25):
pay attention. There are things you can do. So now
that we've made sure we made our stance clear about that,
uh friend, you got to ask.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Me, girl, girl, what happened? Who should?
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I couldn't wait to get this off my chairs. I
wasn't gonna say nothing.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
What is it? Girl? I wasn't gonna say nothing.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
But Koye West has come out. He took out an
ad in the Wall Street Journal to apologize to black
people in the Jewish Jewish community for some of his
recent comments and the swastika t shirts that he was
selling in the past. He said that he was suffering
from mental illness. He has bipolar type one diagnosis, and
(08:10):
he said he don't want us to forgive him. He
just wants, you know, a little patience to understand it
why he tries to find his way back home. And
I'm so glad that he doesn't want forgiveness because you
won't get.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
It from me.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Kanye, the nerve of you get from it and apologize
to us when we knew that apology was specifically for you.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
How dare you get.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
A personal apology to yourself and invite me in. And
you don't gonna write patience in the hospital. It's exactly
what you need, that type of patience. Go there and
get help, expeditiously, absolutist, because I know you lying all
the stuff. We knew it was mental, okay, we knew
that it was medical what you were doing. We knew
(08:50):
this needs to be prescribed. We were not blondsided by
this information. Only you seem to be shocked by this
sirt the nerve of you.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Like the way he was acting. Absolutely absolutely, girl. I'm
still a.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Fan of late registration and college drop out Kanye.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
And even and even even my beautiful.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Dark twist the fan to see Kanye. And that's when
it started getting a little.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
We want to say, but that one, I'm kind of whatever.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
They had some diss on that, but still it was
just you could tell his energy in that music wasn't right.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
It was it was shifting. It was beginning to shift.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
And I just think that, I mean, I'm not going
to give you an apology, but if I mean, I'm
not gonna give you forgiveness, but I think the best
way to you know, work toward forgiveness is to maybe
uh donate some funds. Since you're a billionaire, donate some
funds to a lot of these causes that are trying
(09:46):
to fight against ice and that are trying to fight
against the Trump administration. Use your platform instead of spending
hundreds of thousands of dollars to take out an ad
at the Wall Street Journal that apologize the people who
really don't care, take that money and give it to
these some of these grassroots organizations that are trying to
counteract fascism.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
That would be great.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
And then uh, save save like a half of meal
to just drop in my account personally and get because
I take.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
The avan instead of using that money.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
To buy some ran rap for your wife or girlfriend
or whomever she is to walk around with.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Girl, that girl, what happened here?
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Why did you do that to that woman?
Speaker 1 (10:33):
I know she was crazing, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
You can definitely do and you're already okay, so you
definitely can use your money to do better in the community.
You want it specifically to apologize to the black community. Well,
one way we take you know, apologies is through compensation. Yeah, donate, donate, donate, Okay,
And I have a question because if Kanye was the
(10:59):
one with the mental health issue. What was Beyonca doing?
M because you let that man zip tie you and
that man knew that stuff. So now I'm questioning your
mental stability and.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Mental health. Gotta get that money.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Made love, Okay, it's all about money.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
She just want to be there for the money. She
want to be seeing. She wants to fame.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
He probably tear up behind closed lords check on beyond.
I'm that's surprised if if if something comes out that
he was slightly abusive, I'm not gonna be surprised. I
know that mental illness is nothing to joke about, so
please don't mistake and what we're doing as making light
of the situation. But he you know, he said that
his wife was the one that made him realize he
had an issue, And I'm like, girl, you couldn't before.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
The earlier alert the others a little earlier. Yeah, but you.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
Know, yeah, as long as he took heed to it,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
She probably got sick at him, and I girl, because
I want to say something so bad for him, but
you say it, say it, say it too.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
I'm exhausted.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
It would be nice if people took better care.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Of themselves all, yeah, well, a lot of us are
in therapy because others won't go.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
So I I there's.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
That a lot of us are in therapy because others
won't go, and I refuse once I learned, you know.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
We have to understand personal accountability.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
You can't say, oh my mom wasn't in my life,
and oh my dad abandoned us, and oh my boyfriend.
At some point you have to be an adult and say,
you know what, this is what happened in the past,
This happened to me, And I'm gonna take what I
learned from this my experience. I'm gonna go get some healing.
Because if you're old enough to research sex positions and
how to get an eighth from.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
The crack dealer, hello, Hello, or how to be.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
A black woman and didn't get on a podcast, tell
me all about it.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Now.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
If you know every single thing there is to know
about every single car ever created back from the sixties,
it all up. Hello.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Surely you can google and how to stop look.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Surely you can google some type of medication to stop
hallucinations and whatever else that you possibly could be dealing with.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
So, I mean, I get.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
It that people are suffering and they need help, but
like you can't, you can't be out here doing all
this other crazy stuff. And then, because I'm gonna be
honest how I feel about this Kanye situation.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
I feel like people.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Do one of two things when they know that they
done really fed up. Yeah, they scream mental health or
they go to God. And we've seen Kanye do both,
is all I'm saying. Yeah, what was Sunday service is wrong?
I think something is very wrong.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
Something wrong. It all.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
This man has proven that one side of the brain
is not working. You know what I'm saying. It hasn't
been for a while. I'm sorry, you.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Know what, We're just gonna move along.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Because calling this man a half brain, this half brain
kan Kanye.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
You know again, our views are not those of Urban One.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Exactly, and we employ you to do your own investigative
research as we will do at you know what, I'm
just go ahead and do. I would like to take
the time now to take accountability for what we just said,
and I apologize to those who it affected or offended.
I'm gonna do the I'm gonna do the inner work,
you know, to change my thought process about mental health
(14:42):
and things like that. Yes, and.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
I just feel like Kanye need to go to hell.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Like I don't think he needed to express any of
that to us, honestly, all those aside, Kanye, go to
hell because the amount of damage that you've inflicted in
the Black community and to Jewish people, like.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Bro, please go hell.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Please, Like I don't even know how the apology came about.
I just want you to work on it and do better,
like behind closed doors, like go off into a retreat
and figure it out, like do something, get on medication,
get better, and did just come back as a better
person like the way you went on us for years.
It we endured so much trauma and pain from you.
It was hard to watch.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
This was too much.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Because no, Kanye literally went from George Bush doesn't care
about Black people when all the Katrina and stuff was
going on, to slavery was a choice to printing up
T shirts that had swastikas on them. So we cannot
sit here and act like Kanye has not done his
fair share of damage within the community. What I'm suggesting
is maybe let's not take out an ad in the
(15:44):
Wall Street Journal if you really can, because now it
seems attention seeking. To me, this is my personal opinion.
I'm not speaking for anyone else. It seems attention seeking
to me. You could have just went on Instagram Live
and said, y'all, I got a diagnosis, my fault or
whatever you wanted to do, drop another album and talk
about it in your album. But you know, like do
what everybody else does, you know, just put it, get
(16:04):
in the booth.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
Well, I don't say I would want to be straggling
with that, you know what I mean. There's a lot
of people, and.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
Once again want to reiterate, we are not making fun
of bipolar any type of mental health.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
What we're saying is Kanye, specifically him.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Him, he had the opportunity, right, He has the opportunity
to shift this and do something about it, you know
what I mean.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
Those who are.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Struggling with mental health don't always have the resources to
take care of whatever they're diagnosed with.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
For Get on medication, it's expensivele don't have insurance.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
So we know that what we're saying is this person
could have done something a long time ago, and.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
Now we just don't want to hear about it. We
just want him to take action.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
And people have to realize, like words only mean something
when you put action behind them. Outside of that, we
just shooting and talking about whatever until you actually do
something about it. He could have came back and been like, y'all,
I've been on medication, I went to therapy, I've seen
a psychiatrist. I'm doing better, said my music. Check it
out cool, I'll buy the album. I'll look at you whatever.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Because I was coming, I was gonna listen to the album.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
Of Gardeners exactly.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
I'm gonna give it one strongly, you know exactly. But
that behind it, that.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
Push of I am trying to tell you guys about
mental health and how I overcame, it would have made
people want to listen even more. You know what I'm
saying something quick, But this whole apology, I'm good on that.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
I just don't care. I don't care. That's how I feel. Toto.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Come on, bro, you see me working, don't don't. Don't
get embarrassed in front of your auntie. Come on now,
go to that.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
You don't wander. He liked to get into stuff, and
that just he caught my eye.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
He thought I wasn't pay attention because I was working,
and that's exactly how kids be. I'm tired of Toto too.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Don't let her talk to you like.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
That because you know you're right here, come on right
up under your foot. That's why IMA's baby. You know people,
people have been fallen in love with talking.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
You got something you want to say? All that Melani
and popping, you gotta say you and Shay don't get
off my face? Then then gazed eyes. But you know
what's funny. I want to talk about this because Tana
has built like a little following on social media. Really
people love him.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
He had a video that did like twenty million views
and so hold on, oh my god, you aren't so famous.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
You do not care at all.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
The only thing he cared about is when are you
opening that snack bag like you said?
Speaker 1 (18:31):
And where is my dinner? Because the way he gets
then he gets so aggressive. Baby.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
But I saw I saw a post the other day
that all right, don't get your head whoop.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Now.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
I saw a post the other day that said, I
want you to know that people who have dogs are
not the same as people who have children. And I said, well,
why he looked like me then, friend? Because because who
don't have no children? It's him looking on so stoy
because who don't have no turn out.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
How do the many told her like, girl, please please
get me out to the family.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
But no, I think people that do that, like why
are you attacking phones?
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Like let people guess my child is my my dog? Yes,
he is my.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Son because I carried him for nine months and I
don't need to hear nothing else you got to say
about it.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Period. That's your baby.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
Mine say any mothers, but let's talk about Let's talk
about another mom.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
We need a shame because.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Sinners is nominated for sixteen sixteens during this this season.
Shout out to Ryan Coogler the whole cast. Lord want
me in? Soacho want me? Won me most? I think
it's how I pronounce her name. I could be pronouncing
it totally wrong. But del Roy Lindo and a bunch
of these amazing people who made this happen. But uh,
(19:59):
I wanna talk about I want to talk about your girl, Grace,
the Asian couple.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Uh who let the who let the ripe house in?
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Because girl, the way I would have shoved her all
out there, you were so pressed to go get that man.
And I understand she was concerned about her child going
out there and died with him going out there, why
would you bring them up in here.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
With the rest of us. Sinners was so good. Good.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
That was good from beginning to end, you know what
I mean. You got to see, although Michael B. Jordan
is already amazing, but you got to see him play
two completely different characters, which was so intriguing, you know
what I mean. You got to see like you connected
with like the vampires and like you know, them needing
to come in the house and people turning, and then
(20:47):
the church of course, and then you know, ostracized all
for your talents, and it was just so many symbolisms
in it, and I just it's a good watch. It's
a really good watch. I feel like that it's something
that we could watch years and years and years, you know,
sometimes like you see a movie like I never watched
that again, but that's something that I feel like would
do longevity. For a while, I've been watching it every
(21:10):
time I've taken probably three or four flights Senate since
it came out. In every flight I'm on, I watched Sinners,
or I watched like Bridesmaids with h Yeah, I would
watch something like that, but baby, the way I be
watching Centers, I will if I get bored here at
the house and I want to watch something instead of
bench watching sex in the City, which I'm finna get
into that as well.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
But I've been watching Centers Girl the way.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
I'm pissed because Carry Bradshaw, Girl, please stand up, but
please stand up. Carry Bradshaw is the main character. And now,
mind you, twenty years ago, I didn't have HBO.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
I was at the house.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
You know, I was maybe doing arts and crafts at church,
choir rehearsal, you know, maybe running track.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
And I ain't have no access to none of this.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
And if I did, my folks was not Finna, let
me watch four white women have sex all over Manhattan
and so beautiful, amazing, empowering woman though, I mean, I
had so many different stories they but it's real life, though, friend,
because we deal with our own realm. I know that
fits me off, though I strength okay, because I have
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I don't know. I was mad because the only person
I really truly respected until she started being a little
goofy was Samantha.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
Now, Samantha was a whole, straight up, Samantha was.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
A whole, and she she she had way too much
we we throughout that series, however, Samantha was unapologetic about
what she wanted, and she was the I feel like
she was the most successful one after group. Now we
have Miranda who was just bitter, Betty who was miserable
all the time. But Carrie and Charlotte was They were
like two different ends of the spectrum of naives. Like
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Carrie was so concerned with what Big was doing. Girl,
I watched them so like I watched them tall where
she invited him to her new man's cabin out in
the woods.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Maybe neither one of y'all would have came back home.
I would have disappeared at y'all. Girl, Carry pissed me.
We're gonna talk about this online because I can feel
myself getting up sad.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Okay, I watch that, Like, Okay, yeah, I know Carry,
I know some Maan Thus, Charlotte, all of the girls,
I know all of them, but I haven't been like
I haven't watched it.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
Watch it. And also, like when I watched it, I really.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
Didn't understand everything that was kind of like taking place. Right.
You gotta watch it as an adult to really get
a lot of what's going on, because otherwise when you're
a kid, it's just oh, they having sex. You don't, right,
you don't really see the relationship part and the struggles
that people have with things like co parenting and if
your career moves you across the country or if.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
You get pregnant, and y'all was done with.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
Each other, like all of these different types of relationship aspects.
But I just all the whole time I'm watching it,
I'm just thinking, these women are so annoying because y'all
are in your mid thirties, y'all have money.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
Now.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
Everybody but carry Carrey had the money. She were broke,
she would to be as Bond's shoes. But everybody else
had a significant amount of money, whether they got it
from a spouse or their career.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
And you sent up here complaining about these men.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
Yeah, but that kind of just lets you know where
society is, you know what I'm saying, where you can
have all of these things. And honestly, I just dug
into my mother's ass the other day about what I'm sorry, mam,
but I got to say, man, father, I.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Have to, I have to.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
I said, I am so successful. I'm not at my peak,
but I am very successful. I hate that I have
accomplished all of these things, and you still ask me
about a man. That really gets me tight, Like the
fact that society has conditioned us to believe that we
are not as successful as we actually are unless we
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have the man and we are married and we have
the family, and it's this picket fence and it's all
of this, Like, I think times have changed, and I
think people have to come up to the time. Like
a lot of people don't want a man, A lot
of people don't want to be married, just like a
lot of people don't want kids, and so it looks
different for every single person. So my accomplishments and I
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never think my mother is like my mother is so
proud of me, Like I know she loves me, and
outside of all of that and still being proud of me,
still ask me about a man. Really, I'm gonna tell
you now, that's jerl I know.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
But that's the generation though.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
That's I had to have this conversation with my parents.
That's the generation that they come from. Girl Like women
didn't have much value outside of being moms and wives
and their success. Their survival was pretty much predicated on
whichever man they re tied to. And if you were
in your sixties and you believe this for your entire life.
(25:51):
I understand the friction, but I had to explain to them, like,
that's not on my radar being I've been there, done
that being married. Don't care if I ever do it again.
My right now is to be the best version of myself,
to be happy, healthy, and successful as I deem.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
My success to be.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
And if I want somebody to enjoy that with me,
then they can.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
Enjoy that with me.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
But I'm not putting pressure on it, like I'm really
enjoying where I'm at in my life and I don't
need Like I'm imagine if I guarantee you if you
was married with kids, there's a lot of things you
would not be doing. First of all, your content would
look way different if you easily branched off to do
this full time.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Yeah. Absolutely, because that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (26:37):
A lot of this don't provide civility like a nine
to five would hello hello.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
And then just miserable. So now I'm stuck behind it.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
That's knowing that I'm so talented, I'm so creative, I'm
able to do more, but I can't because I have
other obligations. And of course that comes first, But I
just it's like we have to and it's like I'm
not forcing them to come up with the times. You
know what I'm saying, I'm not forcing that on them
because that's just where they are.
Speaker 1 (27:04):
But don't try to put that on me.
Speaker 2 (27:05):
That's all I'm saying is if that's where you are
and that's what you want for yourself, I just believe
in order to have a conversation with me, then we
want to have to educate ourselves and understand that things
are changing and I am changing.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
I am changing with the.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Times, right, And you know, it's not customary or acceptable
a lot of times for women to uh not desire
marriage the way they want us to.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
And I think, you know.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
There's all these conversations about, well, if you're not married,
it's because don't nobody want you, And I'm like child,
we as women, we know.
Speaker 1 (27:37):
That that's never the case.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
But I think people are trying to bully us or
shame us. And now the person accepting the bare minimum,
because I know that a lot of men reduce marriage
to having someone just at the house to cook, and
you reduced it down.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
To a slave. Really be rap believe marriage in certain instances.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
I know, I know, all right, girl, if you that
loud trying to defend the part and your husband, go talk.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
To that lady.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
God, please go talk to the lady, because stop talking
to me.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
I don't have okay, curious.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Any in the comments they just like, you know, but
if you are not reduced down to a slave, and
I am using your own words against y'all because if
you just listen to the podcast that men put out
and the things that they want a woman for, yep,
nothing substantial, nothing about who she is as a person,
nothing about her characteristics, nothing about her moral ethics, nothing.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
About this all about what do you clean?
Speaker 3 (28:42):
Can you take any kids?
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Can you wash clothes?
Speaker 2 (28:44):
Like? It's all about being a slave that is murdered
day slavery.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
If you pay attention to what they're asking.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
You, absolutely and and and a lot of these men,
I hate to say it, a lot of them just
want another mom. And until I find somebody who value
use who I am as a person because I talk
this is so funny.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
I'm gonna tell you this.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
The dude that I'm talking to, he might he be
watching our episodes, So yes, girl, he thanks me so.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Together talking about something y'all have really great, great chemistry.
How long y'all been been friends?
Speaker 2 (29:15):
I said, I said, well, actually, our moms are sisters.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
And I'm telling y'all I love it. We got to.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
Talking and uh, I said, listen, I'm gonna be honest
with you.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I don't I don't enjoy cooking. Uh.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
If I if I can hire a cleaning service, I will.
I'm not I'm not that girl. I'm not super girlly.
I'm not extra feminine like a lot of men like.
He looked me dead in the face and he said,
there are so many other things I like about you, though,
and he listed the things that he liked, and I
was like, wow, yeah, because the things that he liked
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the helped me had nothing to do with labor that
I could give him, or sex or like helping him
pay bills, and like, it was none of that. It
was it was all I like that you think this
way about this thing. I like that you're ambitious in
this way about your your talents and things like.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
That, and he's helpful.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
And so I think I think that's what matters in relationships.
I think is finding somebody you're equally yoked with because
and Le'm gonna be clear. This conversation could be different
in six months. Who knows. What I know is he's
hope you for the actual person you are and not
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all of these things that people feel like make you
who you are. He figured out like exactly you are
and not saying, oh, well, she get cooked, that makes
her a good person. She can clean, that makes her
a good pard. Do you know what I'm saying? He
looked inside of exactly who you are. That's all saying,
Like you know what girls look like? This is just dreamy, like.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Wow, what you're talking about? Because it is like to.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
Be valued in a way without it being connected to
all of these additional attachments.
Speaker 1 (31:06):
You know what I'm saying, Like any.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
Conditions, all these conditions I like. I just I want
somebody who wants to be with me for me. If
you don't like me, you don't have to be here.
It's very simple. I'm not gonna force you to do nothing.
I think we're at the age now where who I
am and who I'm gonna be. Who you are is who.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
You're gonna be. I'm not interested in changing you.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
I'm not gonna nag you for the next year and
a half to try to make you be something different.
Either you are the person that I want to be
with right now, or we don't have to do this.
And I think more people need to have those conversations
because they end up and stuff. That's how they end
up married with kids to somebody they don't even know
that part. Oh my god, then you had a baby,
and it's completely different, Like you have no clue who
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you're laying to. They don't like your body, they're talking
to you any kind of way, they don't want to
help you with the child.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Like it's just so many things after people have.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
Children come about and I just be like, I know
it could be the kids that bring it out, but
like where they're not size before.
Speaker 1 (32:02):
I guess that's the question I own.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
I'm telling you any problems you have in a relationship,
they will be magnified by marriage and a baby if
you and and don't please don't think y'all be having
these band.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Aid babies like, oh a, we just needed something to
bring us together.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
The first thing that baby gonna do is separate y'all,
because let me tell you something, every time sixt week
six weeks, you ain't getting no nookie all right, let's
start immediot separation, get out of here. So, you know,
people like to feel like there are ways to bring
You can't.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
You can't.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
You can't add more accountability to a relationship and think
it's gonna increase the intimacy. That's not how partnership works.
If it's not already there, it's gonna get worse. And
so you know, shout out to all the people that
know what they want and not settling because you ain't
got You're know how many people told me I would
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never be able to find nobody that didn't have kids.
Speaker 1 (32:59):
I'm that so many men at my age that don't
have children.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
Y'all are straight up lying to women to create this
scarcity mindset, as if there ain't enough men out here, baby.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Go to hell. I might have to be selling it
for a little while. Might you want to know why?
Speaker 2 (33:13):
You know, man, they tell you that because they can't
attract that, they can't attract that. And they also want
us to accept the bare minimum to They need us
to believe that there are no people available, so we
would just take anything.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
Yes, because take them. It's the one who told you
that is the one that would like to be taken
specifically Hell yeah, abso.
Speaker 2 (33:36):
By okay, it was.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
Like he's man, he got kids, and you're not settling,
and you.
Speaker 2 (33:46):
Gotta break you down or make you feel like you're
less than so that you'll, you know what I'm saying,
even though he can meet you now, you'll you'll have
the mentality of always taking less than what you deserve.
That's all that goes to break you. Please, you're not
gonna bring me, not just girl the way I You know,
one day I woke up and I decided that I
wasn't gonna be end to whatever people wanted from me.
(34:06):
I'm gonna be exactly who I want to be, And
I think that everybody needs to do that, Like be yourself.
The people that are gonna be in your life will
naturally gravitate towards you, and they'll treat you the way
that you want to be treated.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
But you can't. You can't contort.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
Yourself to fit other people's expectations and think you still
gonna be happy or at peace like you're you're going
against everything that God designs you to be to appease
people who have conditional love and respect for you. Because
as long as you stop doing the things that they
love so much. Who with I love God without love God,
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baby out the window. And that's why I just good
to stay true to you, because the thing about it is,
as long as you are true to yourself, even those
people will fall by the wayside. They might even be
able to stay with you, they won't go where you're going.
Showing up as your authentic self every time will only
allow those who are in alignment with your purpose to
be around everything, absolutely absolutely, And that's all you can
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really desire, especially at at my age.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
I don't want to hear nothing nobody got to say.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
I said what I said, what I should, okay, and
it's and it's not going to change.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
Hell okay, so.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
My bad, okay, all right, So moving right along, I
want to talk about, you know, how we can't never
stay on task. I want to talk about what is
going on with the purchase of TikTok, how it is
now changed ownership, and there are these there are these
guidelines and things that we need to agree to in
(35:42):
order to continue using the platform. I had just I
just stopped going in the app because they keep trying
to force me to a grease on them.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
But what they and other companies are doing.
Speaker 2 (35:51):
Companies like Ring and Amazon and Hilton Hotels, they are
creating a channel for people to be targeted by ice.
And so with these TikTok, with these new TikTok agreements,
basically you're allowing them to use your name, location, sex, gender,
all of these different your orientation, all of these things,
(36:13):
m M, ethnicity and all these things to basically give
this information over so they can find you.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
What the and you mean I can't opt out of this?
That is crazy.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
I've been so y'all. I've been on a fans for
like five days. I've been on a fans for five days.
I haven't even been on social media. So some of
this stuff I will be here for the first time,
which is wild, Which absolutely wild.
Speaker 1 (36:42):
And that's that's.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
Scary to think that it's not an option to decline.
That's the scariest part is that you are trying to
take my rights completely away from me, Like, oh, that's
scarys just making you a target, Like why would you?
Speaker 1 (36:55):
It's already scary for people.
Speaker 2 (36:56):
And something that I had learned here recently was there
was an eleven year old girl who unlived herself because
her classmates were bullying her and told her that Ice
was gonna come for her family. Now we have to
as a as a country, we have to really sit
with this. We need to understand what's happening. We are
losing people left and right because of babies, though, because
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you know what I'm saying, just make sure you put
child in there, because I think people think losing.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
People, You think adults. No, we're talking about that's.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
A baby eleven years old.
Speaker 2 (37:30):
She took her own life because she was afraid that
Ice would come and target her family, if because she
was in existence, Like, I don't know if people are
understanding the ramifications of what is happening.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
We are at war right.
Speaker 2 (37:43):
Now, and I'm trying to figure out how long it's
gonna take for other countries to step in because I
feel like Donald Trump has put us all in harm's way.
Speaker 1 (37:52):
That's what I was about to say.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
And it's not even concerned about people's welfare, like he doesn't.
He's going to send hundreds of thousands of military personnel
to her deaths. He's going to get hundreds of thousands
of American citizens unlive at what at what extent?
Speaker 1 (38:08):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (38:09):
Yeah, agree that that is so sad that she couldn't.
She was taking on the wait for her whole family,
you know what I mean, Like she was literally taken
on the weight of her whole family. And it's also
super sad that kids are cruel, you know what I mean,
Kids are so cruel to tease her that much every
single day that she felt like, well, I'll put it
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into it. She felt like she could put it into that,
you know what I mean. And I mean condolences to
the family more than anything. I'm so sorry that that
baby felt like the way that the world was on
her shoulder.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
She did not deserve to be treated like that.
Speaker 2 (38:43):
And I do feel like when things like this happen,
I definitely think the kids should be held accountable.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
And I know y'all gonna be madly.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
I might have said, I know y'all gonna be mad
at me, but it's just like that parent who has
sick of seale and she was walking her kids home
and those kids beat her up and all of her
children up, and so they rallied outside of the schools.
Speaker 1 (39:04):
They were trying to figure out what was going on,
and those kids got locked up, as they should.
Speaker 2 (39:09):
I do think that there should be because your kids better.
Speaker 1 (39:14):
You know, school locked them up to because where did
they learn this? Thank you?
Speaker 2 (39:19):
Why did they think that that was okay? Like I
just I don't, I don't, I know only but so.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
Much can be done.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
But like you said, if the kids can get locked
up whatever, then they get released. But the parents should
have to be taking some type of accountability for this
as well.
Speaker 3 (39:32):
I hate that because I was bullied.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
I was bullied as a kid, so I know what
it's like to be on the opposite side of that
where you're not in crowd, you're not the out crowd.
People don't like you, you know what I'm saying. They
following you home after school, you know, they talking to
you while every single.
Speaker 3 (39:47):
Day, and it's not easy.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
It's just not an easy thing to deal with all
the time. Like as a child, you only can take
but so much.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
And your world is only this big. You haven't experienced life.
Speaker 2 (39:59):
You don't have enough things to pull on to know,
like you just don't have enough experience and like to
know that this is a temporary thing and that eventually
there's two shell pass. But kid, your world is this
big and so getting bully getting talk about you know,
your friends turning on you. It feels like everything is
crashing down on you. You know what I'm saying. You feel
like that is your world. Everything is crashing down on you.
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And so if you don't know how to come and
talk to your family about it, or your family doesn't
really know what to do, like they're telling you everything
gonna be okay, but it doesn't feel like that, then
it's like, how do you support you know, how do
you support those kids that's being talked about and bullied
every day? And then how do you discipline the ones
who are causing the pain?
Speaker 1 (40:39):
What do you do? Because bullying is something that's really
not taking care of one of them. It's one of
them reasons why I don't want.
Speaker 2 (40:46):
To have kids, because now I got to dress up like.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
A sixth grader? Who your ass on the store? I'm
so sorry. I'm not gonna play with y'all.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
And they and the way these people be sending their
kids to school to terrorize other people like you. You
a pos. I'm trying to keep it light on the
cuss of the day, Jackie, but you know you a pos,
your kids a pos, and you're breeding a little people.
What Kanye say, hater niggas had married hater bitches and
have hater kids. Kanye said that that might be one
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of the realest things Kanye see so so.
Speaker 1 (41:18):
Shout out to Oh yay for that. But I just
I can't.
Speaker 2 (41:23):
I can't see myself going to the principal's office and
trying to have a decent, civilized conversation because one of
your man's nothing you can do that part. What do
you mean is nothing that has always been a thing.
It's nothing we can do about it. It's nothing we
can do about it. Like, I just hate the fact
that there's never nothing done. Or you go to like
peer mediation, which is like you having a meeting with
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this person you're gonna like and y'all trying to come
to a common ground.
Speaker 3 (41:47):
But that still doesn't work, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (41:49):
That's still not it.
Speaker 2 (41:50):
I just and nothing happens until physical harm is done
and then people get expelled and suspended or I have
to go to different schools or it's too late like
this situation, that's the.
Speaker 1 (41:59):
Only things are done. And I just hate that it
takes that long.
Speaker 2 (42:04):
You just gotta teach people need to go back to fighting.
And hear me out yes, hear me out. People need
to go back to squaring up at seven am. I'm
talking about puffy bubble coat with the fire around the
hood and the ponytail that's this long.
Speaker 1 (42:18):
We need to go back to rock them sock them robot.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
Because these kids is getting out of hand nowadays. They
like to go grab something, you know, to put with
more power behind it. But we need to go back
to the days where you just got your ass whooped
at eight o'clock in the morning and you went on
to iss or if you got suspended for three days whatever,
and we keep it moving.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
But now you know, things live forever on the internet.
Speaker 2 (42:38):
So you can't even do that, Like you can't even
take your al and keep it moving like it's it's
everywhere now. So I don't even know what we're gonna
we're gonna do before in boxing and taekwondo and they
gonna beat the brakes off your kids. I'm not don't
come over there with that. I'm gonna tell you from
one I'm gonna be I'm gonna teach my baby out
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because the minute you come over here after stupid bro
the way I the way, I I ain't even got
I'm gonna teach my kids some stuff if well, I'm
talking like, this is why I don't want to have kids,
because I'll be up in prison and not even jail,
not even jail. I'm going to strap the prison because
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the stuff I'm thinking about trying to do and retaliation.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
Ain't nowhere near gonna be legal at all. Kids, if
they touched mind, That's what I'm saying. Now, I gotta
go tell them, Yeah, got to. I don't know, it's
too for me.
Speaker 2 (43:33):
Thinking about having that level of composure is hard because
the kids look like us. Girl, them kids McDonald's, I
don't know, okay, but they all look like us. They
got I can tell you. I can tell you what
they about to eat. I can tell you what they about.
Speaker 1 (43:50):
To eat, the.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
Knuckle sandwich because don't come over here playing. But that
that is to your point, that is true. These kids now,
it's it's the hormones and the chicken in the in
the beef. What's for dinner? Like they they little thing
around here because looks wrong. And I feel like I
should be able to fight somebody of this. If you,
if you're almost two hundred pounds, I should be able
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to fight you as a king, I should I still fight.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
I agree. I don't see what the problem is. To
be honest with you, I don't.
Speaker 2 (44:22):
So here at the she said the first podcast, we
are in favor of child.
Speaker 1 (44:25):
Abuse, and.
Speaker 2 (44:32):
I do support sport time taxing that ass.
Speaker 1 (44:36):
Yeah I do.
Speaker 2 (44:37):
I'm just somebody else for somebody else who's not gonna
do nothing. Look the minute you're lying we got because
it's gonna say already is I'm not playing. I'm dead serious.
It's going to be a problem if you do something
to my child, or my child did something in reference
to something that you said, or was bullying them consistently,
(44:59):
and now I don't have yeah, oh yeah, offense are
off because now I gotta go be with my baby.
Speaker 1 (45:07):
Now I got to see my baby. I got to
see my baby. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:11):
I would literally there are people in my life that
I would literally die for. So I know having a
baby is out the question for me. I don't even
I've seen size of myself. I don't even want to
see no more. I just because you can bark it.
If I take total outside right now and a pit
bull bark too loud, you're gonna start barking down. First
(45:33):
of all, not just that, not just that I'm fist
fighting the owner. Now I got your head going back
in the middle.
Speaker 1 (45:41):
Of the street. Just that part that get off my baby,
Get up off my baby. Oh my god. This was
a hell of a way to start back the after
the hiatus. Child.
Speaker 2 (45:53):
Can you tell we haven't talked to each other in
a while? I miss my friend, yuy, But last I'm
so glad we was able to reconnect this week and
get all of this off our chant because you know,
things have been things have been very heavy, and I
just want to encourage everybody listening. You know, if you
have I thank God for you, friend, because I know
(46:13):
everybody don't have people in their life that they could
just call and either key key with or vent to
or get you know, good advice, solid advice, good advice.
I want y'all real quick, friend, put a pin in
and hold on, because we got we got to send
them all over right here for a second.
Speaker 1 (46:28):
Oh wait, wait, wait wait good advice.
Speaker 2 (46:34):
Okay, Okay, I want y'all to examine the person's life
that's giving you the advice before you take it, because
always consider the source. Consider this source, check the car facts. Okay, okay,
go'd need for you to look at the person that's
telling you to do whatever it is and see are
(46:55):
they excelling in that part.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
Of their life?
Speaker 2 (46:58):
Should they be giving you any type of advice at
all on this particular topic right, because it might be
other areas they're good at.
Speaker 3 (47:06):
You know, you see something you're like, I might need
to ask you.
Speaker 2 (47:09):
But when they start drifting over okay, when they okay,
they not sticking to the rivers in the lakes that
they used to. You understand what I'm saying, you will
have to push them.
Speaker 1 (47:18):
Back into their lane.
Speaker 2 (47:20):
Hey, yeah, Yount trying to territory.
Speaker 1 (47:22):
You don't know what to do over here?
Speaker 2 (47:24):
Okay, that's I just watched people be so critical and
just so opinionated about everything, and then you look at
them and you say.
Speaker 1 (47:33):
But you you're.
Speaker 2 (47:35):
Not doing not only are you not doing none of this,
but you're not excelling in any of these areas you
are telling me what to do or being so opinionated about.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Girl, you're actually operating in a deficit.
Speaker 2 (47:48):
Okay, you can't teach me how to do as.
Speaker 1 (47:56):
What is wrong with you? Okay? All happening here? You
know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (48:02):
I just want to you know, I just want to
put a pin in that because I know y'all appreciate
y'all friends. I know y'all appreciate your significant others. I
know y'all appreciate certain people in your life. But you
got you got to look and who is coming from?
Speaker 1 (48:15):
Right? Proceed? What's caught.
Speaker 3 (48:19):
That?
Speaker 1 (48:20):
Right there is a sermon. I'm gonna go ahead and
pass the quit.
Speaker 2 (48:24):
If you got we appreciate the contact jingles, but we
really loves kind their phones. All right, that's all I'm
gonna say. That's all I got to say.
Speaker 1 (48:36):
For that's it. That's all I want to say. Friend.
Speaker 2 (48:38):
You can could think you know that, but gret that's
You're gonna wrap the episode up with the boat bay
we're out here.
Speaker 1 (48:43):
That's that's right, y'all. But look on that note. Make
sure y'all's son in every Thursday. Okay.
Speaker 2 (48:50):
If you want to see the visuals, we're gonna be
on YouTube, but audio we're gonna be wherever you listen
to your podcast. Just make sure you like, comment and subscribe.
Speaker 1 (48:58):
We gonna catch y'all fans. This fine
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