December 2, 2025 • 9 mins
A heated ethical debate started with the Question of the Day: a woman doctor tested her roommate’s boyfriend for an STI without telling her roommate about the results — should that doctor be faulted for violating trust, or was she right to protect privacy?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is the deal.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
You will show your twenty twenty five editions. A doctor.
She has a roommate, and she her roommate happens to
be her best friend. She tested her roommate's boyfriend for
an STD and didn't tell her friend. Since she have
told this, I mean, she's a doctor. Damn it, Jamal,
she's a doctor. Yep, well she's a doctor. I mean,
(00:21):
that's just what happens. She's a doctor. I mean, you're
lucky to have a roommate that's a doctor. Well, she's
a nurse, is she she's a doctor. I think that's
script sit in her. But if you lift the audience, yeah,
well all I know, she said, even as a nurse,
she couldn't tell nobody. If you wear a white uniform
of any type and you're not working at a cafeteria,
you can't tell nobody unless you got a white uniform
(00:45):
and you serving, you know, and you serving the green
beans at a school. If your uniform is white, well
you need to shut your ass up.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Is what needs to happen.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Let me tell you what I like. But I like
the fact that she was she held her her her
composure and she's like, what are you talking about well,
let me see, let me take a look. Now we
we know if she actually tested her. She knew what
the girl was talking about, and she had that blank
face like, look, what are you talking about? She said, well,
did you have a conversation with well, let me see.
You have the paperwork, let me take a look at it.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
But you know she needs to have that same conversation
in front of the medical board with the deposition that
she needs.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
You know, she didn't come to it. She just simply said,
I can't tell you anything because I will lose my job.
And she didn't care, so she didn't say anything like that.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
But what about what you're my roommate and what's twenty
years of friendship?
Speaker 2 (01:32):
She's like, girl, own, you know we're not going to
do it a friendship. Friendship, don't pay for this apartment.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Baby.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
You ain't gonna say, hey, I did my half, friendship
should get the other half. You ain't gonna say that
I had to do Doug half on the Netflix.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
I know that, But how dare the boyfriend put her
in that position?
Speaker 5 (01:47):
That's true too, I would have went to a totally
different doctor Lee cross Town.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I mean that I have a lot of experience in it.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
Well, because guess what if you're asking your friend.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Someone who has been to a free clinic, let me
tell you boy, well they might be now because all
the budget cousin, but I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Before so tell me about that trip in Mexico.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
You just no, no, no, I think I did in
Mexico was try to avoid Mama Zooma's avenging.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Right, is what I did. It is the deal.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
You will show your twenty twenty five editions. A doctor. Uh,
she has a roommate. Uh, and she her roommate happens
to be her best friend. She tested her roommate's boyfriend
for an s CD and didn't tell her friend.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
What do you think?
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Skip, No, you've heard that you see your doctor your
your daughter is a doctor, right.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah, yeah, all right, okay, she's a.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Yeah but yeah, you know that was a lot of
fumbling around. She's definitely a doctor, but she's not a medal.
She's a PhD in biological researcher. This is it's I
suggest you go somewhere. I can't write a sonic called
don't scratch.
Speaker 5 (02:52):
Yeah, but you know what, I also her best friend, godarala,
Why would you ask your best friend to put her
whole livelihood in jeopardy. You know, you, doctor, you got
to keep that man. You got to keep that only.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Re I noticed, sorry, because he's your boyfriend. It's all
was about to say.
Speaker 4 (03:05):
First of all, where's the heat for your boyfriend with
the commiteeat?
Speaker 1 (03:08):
He has the heat?
Speaker 5 (03:09):
Now what The roommate could have went home to her
roommate and say, hey, girl, I got this prescription you
need to take, and she'd have been like why. I
can't tell you why, you just need to take it.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Have you ever noticed you walk along in the biscuit falls? Listen, listen, listen,
Miss popping fresh, let me tell you something.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Living extra sample for here you want to try.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Hey, miss tangy tail, let's talk a little bit. It
is out of the deal. You can show your twenty
twenty five editions. Do you think she was wrong with
going to the phone?
Speaker 6 (03:49):
I say that maybe even doctors shouldn't have took him
as a patient, knowing that she was best friends with
the woman he was sleeping with, and she wouldn't have
been in that situation. But the other thing is definitely wrong.
Because she's a doctor. You want her to lose her
livelihood and all that school as she did.
Speaker 7 (04:09):
So they both was wrong.
Speaker 8 (04:11):
Well, I think the doctor was one hundredercent right in
her principal and the law. She's a doctor. There's a
project act between the patient and the doctor. You cannot
reveal personal information about the patient.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
That's the law.
Speaker 8 (04:24):
She's not allowed to. Her friendship is her friendship. But
it was not her responsibility to tell her girlfriend that
her boyfriend got touched with STD or he had anything.
It's his responsibility to tell her.
Speaker 9 (04:36):
I have to say that the doctor was absolutely correct.
She is not throwing away of friendship. She's try her
friend is trying to make her throw away her profession.
And it is her boyfriend's responsibility to tell her that
he has chamythia, not the doctor. Come on, friend of
the doctor, come on, get it right, says Blame it
(04:57):
on your boyfriend, not your friend.
Speaker 10 (04:59):
First of all, do not listen to jet that she's grown.
Speaker 11 (05:04):
If you tell, you gonna get bied.
Speaker 12 (05:07):
And you will not get to get another job.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
The friend old.
Speaker 13 (05:10):
Will old Will's lutly do not think that the friend
was wrong for saying that she should have told her.
That's your man like you and your may have that relationship.
So if you're cheating, if he's cheating on you, then
he should come to you. And she said tell you, hey,
you need to go and get tested. If she's going
to lose her license, I don't. I don't think that
(05:30):
she should have told her anything. That's not her responsibility.
It's not right. They're both grown, all three of them
are grown, like I'm not going to lose my friendship
or a man that, like DL said, I'm not guaranteed
to marry, I'm not guaranteed to be with. How long
have they been together? No, it's not No, it's not
her friend's responsibility to t her anything. We're talking about
federal laws, guidelines, tip of violations, all of that. No,
(05:52):
she's not responsible and she's not wrong.
Speaker 7 (05:54):
Her friend ain't supposed to be on penis patrol. She
works at her job. Her job is you know you
you can't tell everybody's bisness. So her friend needs to
make sure that she monitor your your boyfriends stuff coming
and going because it ain't your friends biousness. So girlfriend,
you stay on penis patrol.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Amen, here's the question that we're asking. I need to
talk to you. Why is it something you want to
and I saw that she was exactive. Sess, did you
have a cosation?
Speaker 11 (06:23):
I didn't have a conversation.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
I have to take the work right here.
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Yes, take a technically.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Now you were supposed to tell me has my roommate
and friends?
Speaker 6 (06:31):
And I know that I'm your roommate, I'm your friend
life my license tech.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
It doesn't matter about your license. You're about to lose your.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Friendship of.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
My license, all right, So do you think she is wrong?
We gonna writ to the phones.
Speaker 14 (06:46):
I feel like the doctor friend did the right thing
because she is born to the hypocratic oath and she
is not to reach the patient doctor relationship. And the
friend has to realize, like what kind of doctores the
friend have? The roommate, like if it was your job
on the line, which you have said anything and gave
it to some guy.
Speaker 13 (07:03):
It's not your.
Speaker 14 (07:03):
Husband, some digit dat and you should figure out that
he got you to So you know she did the
right thing. You got to take your job.
Speaker 10 (07:12):
Hey, I agree with the doctor man. I agree with
her a thousand per cents. So you want me to
put my job on the line, my career on the
line over your cheating boyfriend. So you want me to potential.
Like she said, it's a fellow of crime, as a
violation of Hippoa that she come to tell you about
her patient. She can get in trouble, she can lose
her job, she can lose a license. She's out of
work over your cheating boyfriend. So I agree with the
(07:33):
doctor because at the end of the day, you're gonna
find out sooner lated anyway. So whether she tell you
or not, you're gonna find out. So if he has
it on some disease and you here, you'll find out
stoner lator. So but I agree with the doctor. I
would have told you anything. I would have not risked
my career, in my life over your cheam boyfriend.
Speaker 12 (07:50):
As a professional, as a doctor, you can't refuse to
treat that man, and you can't tell her about it.
I'm not risking my two one thousand dollars education because
of a friend. He's a woman protect herself. Why you
see what this man unprotected? This is a boyfriend, this
kid her husband. Again, I don't believe in girl cod
want to come to my life, the little lobbyhood and
(08:10):
my education and my money because I can't get another job,
I lose my license, I'm a nurse, and I'm not
gonna violate hippo just because a friend. If you see
the story of the nurse that posted her baby Dady
other baby Mama bus online, they took her life and
she had a license for a month and lost it.
Now you got a foot long bets and no license
to work. Nobody's worth my lobblihood well r.
Speaker 10 (08:31):
I think she raped by God. I think she right
for not to tell her. She don't want to lose
her job. Matter of fact, the same thing happened to me.
Speaker 9 (08:37):
My girlfriend didn't.
Speaker 10 (08:39):
My girlfriend didn't know because her friend tested me because
I gave her the same thing. So I think she
rightful not to tell her since you won't lose a license.
Speaker 15 (08:46):
Yeah, adopts like she can't beat She can't say anything
to her roommate because she could lose her license. I
worked in the medical field, and that girl on the show,
she needed to shut it up because she can get
that girl losing her license.
Speaker 11 (09:00):
All the way around, her friend didn't tell her, and
she's not supposed to.
Speaker 9 (09:05):
As a friend.
Speaker 11 (09:05):
You shouldn't even ask, but put her down because if
y'all get into an argument or a span of whatever,
you will blurt out.
Speaker 13 (09:12):
Or I'm gonna call your job and.
Speaker 11 (09:14):
Say so and so and so you told me so
and so and so.
Speaker 9 (09:17):
Or he can go down and found papers and say no.
Speaker 13 (09:20):
She said, pry by not telling her.
Speaker 11 (09:21):
You stay out and you do your job. You leave
your work and at work, and when you come home,
you come home.
Speaker 9 (09:27):
That's how you do that.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
We got more to deal you can We shall come
in
It is the deal.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
You will show your twenty twenty five editions. A doctor.
She has a roommate, and she her roommate happens to
be her best friend. She tested her roommate's boyfriend for
an STD and didn't tell her friend. Since she have
told this, I mean, she's a doctor. Damn it, Jamal,
she's a doctor. Yep, well she's a doctor. I mean,
(00:21):
that's just what happens. She's a doctor. I mean, you're
lucky to have a roommate that's a doctor. Well, she's
a nurse, is she she's a doctor. I think that's
script sit in her. But if you lift the audience, yeah,
well all I know, she said, even as a nurse,
she couldn't tell nobody. If you wear a white uniform
of any type and you're not working at a cafeteria,
you can't tell nobody unless you got a white uniform
(00:45):
and you serving, you know, and you serving the green
beans at a school. If your uniform is white, well
you need to shut your ass up.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Is what needs to happen.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Let me tell you what I like. But I like
the fact that she was she held her her her
composure and she's like, what are you talking about well,
let me see, let me take a look. Now we
we know if she actually tested her. She knew what
the girl was talking about, and she had that blank
face like, look, what are you talking about? She said, well,
did you have a conversation with well, let me see.
You have the paperwork, let me take a look at it.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
But you know she needs to have that same conversation
in front of the medical board with the deposition that
she needs.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
You know, she didn't come to it. She just simply said,
I can't tell you anything because I will lose my job.
And she didn't care, so she didn't say anything like that.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
But what about what you're my roommate and what's twenty
years of friendship?
Speaker 2 (01:32):
She's like, girl, own, you know we're not going to
do it a friendship. Friendship, don't pay for this apartment.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Baby.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
You ain't gonna say, hey, I did my half, friendship
should get the other half. You ain't gonna say that
I had to do Doug half on the Netflix.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
I know that, But how dare the boyfriend put her
in that position?
Speaker 5 (01:47):
That's true too, I would have went to a totally
different doctor Lee cross Town.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I mean that I have a lot of experience in it.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
Well, because guess what if you're asking your friend.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Someone who has been to a free clinic, let me
tell you boy, well they might be now because all
the budget cousin, but I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Before so tell me about that trip in Mexico.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
You just no, no, no, I think I did in
Mexico was try to avoid Mama Zooma's avenging.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Right, is what I did. It is the deal.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
You will show your twenty twenty five editions. A doctor. Uh,
she has a roommate. Uh, and she her roommate happens
to be her best friend. She tested her roommate's boyfriend
for an s CD and didn't tell her friend.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
What do you think?
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Skip, No, you've heard that you see your doctor your
your daughter is a doctor, right.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah, yeah, all right, okay, she's a.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Yeah but yeah, you know that was a lot of
fumbling around. She's definitely a doctor, but she's not a medal.
She's a PhD in biological researcher. This is it's I
suggest you go somewhere. I can't write a sonic called
don't scratch.
Speaker 5 (02:52):
Yeah, but you know what, I also her best friend, godarala,
Why would you ask your best friend to put her
whole livelihood in jeopardy. You know, you, doctor, you got
to keep that man. You got to keep that only.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Re I noticed, sorry, because he's your boyfriend. It's all
was about to say.
Speaker 4 (03:05):
First of all, where's the heat for your boyfriend with
the commiteeat?
Speaker 1 (03:08):
He has the heat?
Speaker 5 (03:09):
Now what The roommate could have went home to her
roommate and say, hey, girl, I got this prescription you
need to take, and she'd have been like why. I
can't tell you why, you just need to take it.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Have you ever noticed you walk along in the biscuit falls? Listen, listen, listen,
Miss popping fresh, let me tell you something.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Living extra sample for here you want to try.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Hey, miss tangy tail, let's talk a little bit. It
is out of the deal. You can show your twenty
twenty five editions. Do you think she was wrong with
going to the phone?
Speaker 6 (03:49):
I say that maybe even doctors shouldn't have took him
as a patient, knowing that she was best friends with
the woman he was sleeping with, and she wouldn't have
been in that situation. But the other thing is definitely wrong.
Because she's a doctor. You want her to lose her
livelihood and all that school as she did.
Speaker 7 (04:09):
So they both was wrong.
Speaker 8 (04:11):
Well, I think the doctor was one hundredercent right in
her principal and the law. She's a doctor. There's a
project act between the patient and the doctor. You cannot
reveal personal information about the patient.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
That's the law.
Speaker 8 (04:24):
She's not allowed to. Her friendship is her friendship. But
it was not her responsibility to tell her girlfriend that
her boyfriend got touched with STD or he had anything.
It's his responsibility to tell her.
Speaker 9 (04:36):
I have to say that the doctor was absolutely correct.
She is not throwing away of friendship. She's try her
friend is trying to make her throw away her profession.
And it is her boyfriend's responsibility to tell her that
he has chamythia, not the doctor. Come on, friend of
the doctor, come on, get it right, says Blame it
(04:57):
on your boyfriend, not your friend.
Speaker 10 (04:59):
First of all, do not listen to jet that she's grown.
Speaker 11 (05:04):
If you tell, you gonna get bied.
Speaker 12 (05:07):
And you will not get to get another job.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
The friend old.
Speaker 13 (05:10):
Will old Will's lutly do not think that the friend
was wrong for saying that she should have told her.
That's your man like you and your may have that relationship.
So if you're cheating, if he's cheating on you, then
he should come to you. And she said tell you, hey,
you need to go and get tested. If she's going
to lose her license, I don't. I don't think that
(05:30):
she should have told her anything. That's not her responsibility.
It's not right. They're both grown, all three of them
are grown, like I'm not going to lose my friendship
or a man that, like DL said, I'm not guaranteed
to marry, I'm not guaranteed to be with. How long
have they been together? No, it's not No, it's not
her friend's responsibility to t her anything. We're talking about
federal laws, guidelines, tip of violations, all of that. No,
(05:52):
she's not responsible and she's not wrong.
Speaker 7 (05:54):
Her friend ain't supposed to be on penis patrol. She
works at her job. Her job is you know you
you can't tell everybody's bisness. So her friend needs to
make sure that she monitor your your boyfriends stuff coming
and going because it ain't your friends biousness. So girlfriend,
you stay on penis patrol.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Amen, here's the question that we're asking. I need to
talk to you. Why is it something you want to
and I saw that she was exactive. Sess, did you
have a cosation?
Speaker 11 (06:23):
I didn't have a conversation.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
I have to take the work right here.
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Yes, take a technically.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Now you were supposed to tell me has my roommate
and friends?
Speaker 6 (06:31):
And I know that I'm your roommate, I'm your friend
life my license tech.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
It doesn't matter about your license. You're about to lose your.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Friendship of.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
My license, all right, So do you think she is wrong?
We gonna writ to the phones.
Speaker 14 (06:46):
I feel like the doctor friend did the right thing
because she is born to the hypocratic oath and she
is not to reach the patient doctor relationship. And the
friend has to realize, like what kind of doctores the
friend have? The roommate, like if it was your job
on the line, which you have said anything and gave
it to some guy.
Speaker 13 (07:03):
It's not your.
Speaker 14 (07:03):
Husband, some digit dat and you should figure out that
he got you to So you know she did the
right thing. You got to take your job.
Speaker 10 (07:12):
Hey, I agree with the doctor man. I agree with
her a thousand per cents. So you want me to
put my job on the line, my career on the
line over your cheating boyfriend. So you want me to potential.
Like she said, it's a fellow of crime, as a
violation of Hippoa that she come to tell you about
her patient. She can get in trouble, she can lose
her job, she can lose a license. She's out of
work over your cheating boyfriend. So I agree with the
(07:33):
doctor because at the end of the day, you're gonna
find out sooner lated anyway. So whether she tell you
or not, you're gonna find out. So if he has
it on some disease and you here, you'll find out
stoner lator. So but I agree with the doctor. I
would have told you anything. I would have not risked
my career, in my life over your cheam boyfriend.
Speaker 12 (07:50):
As a professional, as a doctor, you can't refuse to
treat that man, and you can't tell her about it.
I'm not risking my two one thousand dollars education because
of a friend. He's a woman protect herself. Why you
see what this man unprotected? This is a boyfriend, this
kid her husband. Again, I don't believe in girl cod
want to come to my life, the little lobbyhood and
(08:10):
my education and my money because I can't get another job,
I lose my license, I'm a nurse, and I'm not
gonna violate hippo just because a friend. If you see
the story of the nurse that posted her baby Dady
other baby Mama bus online, they took her life and
she had a license for a month and lost it.
Now you got a foot long bets and no license
to work. Nobody's worth my lobblihood well r.
Speaker 10 (08:31):
I think she raped by God. I think she right
for not to tell her. She don't want to lose
her job. Matter of fact, the same thing happened to me.
Speaker 9 (08:37):
My girlfriend didn't.
Speaker 10 (08:39):
My girlfriend didn't know because her friend tested me because
I gave her the same thing. So I think she
rightful not to tell her since you won't lose a license.
Speaker 15 (08:46):
Yeah, adopts like she can't beat She can't say anything
to her roommate because she could lose her license. I
worked in the medical field, and that girl on the show,
she needed to shut it up because she can get
that girl losing her license.
Speaker 11 (09:00):
All the way around, her friend didn't tell her, and
she's not supposed to.
Speaker 9 (09:05):
As a friend.
Speaker 11 (09:05):
You shouldn't even ask, but put her down because if
y'all get into an argument or a span of whatever,
you will blurt out.
Speaker 13 (09:12):
Or I'm gonna call your job and.
Speaker 11 (09:14):
Say so and so and so you told me so
and so and so.
Speaker 9 (09:17):
Or he can go down and found papers and say no.
Speaker 13 (09:20):
She said, pry by not telling her.
Speaker 11 (09:21):
You stay out and you do your job. You leave
your work and at work, and when you come home,
you come home.
Speaker 9 (09:27):
That's how you do that.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
We got more to deal you can We shall come
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