What if the key to better sex wasn't about technique — it was about learning to feel your own body again? Taryn Toomey, founder of The Class, joined me live at Eudaimonia to break down how 13 years of somatic movement quietly rewired her relationship with pleasure, sound, and receiving — and why the two aren't as different as you'd think.
From faking orgasms in her 20s to purring her way through her "delicious" 40s, Taryn gets raw about her two-year stretch of only receiving oral sex, falling deeply in love after divorce, and what it really means to let someone in — body and soul.
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In this episode, you'll learn:
• Why the sounds you make in a workout and the sounds you make in bed come from the exact same place — and how unlocking one unlocks the other
• How Taryn's two-year "oral sex only" era taught her more about receiving, boundaries, and her own body than any relationship ever did
• The one breathwork tool that works both in The Class and during sex to get out of your head and back into your body — instantly
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• https://www.instagram.com/taryntoomey/
• https://www.taryntoomey.com/
• https://www.theclass.com/
• https://www.instagram.com/theclass/
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Chapters:
0:00 - Intro
0:20 - Meet Taran Tumi: Founder of The Class & the Embodiment Movement
1:37 - Why It's So Hard to Actually Be in Your Body
4:35 - The Connection Between Voice, Sound & Pleasure
7:41 - Dating After Divorce: What Intimacy Looks Like Now
9:00 - Why Men Struggle with Sound in the Class (And in the Bedroom)
13:28 - How the Class Actually Works: The Method Behind the Movement
17:06 - The Class Gave Her a Great Vagina (And Why That Makes Sense)
18:07 - Heartbreak, Beautiful Love & Learning to Receive
21:30 - The Orgasm Gap & Why Women Can't Receive Oral Sex
24:42 - Breathing, Co-Regulation & Getting Out of Your Head During Sex
28:51 - The Energy You Take Into Your Body: Sex, Attachment & Staying Mindful
32:09 - What Happens When You Stop Performing and Start Feeling
34:01 - Feeling More at Home in Your Body at 47 Than at 20
39:03 - Decades of Sex in a Few Words: Drunk, Formulaic, Delicious
43:45 - Dating as a Single Mom & What Her Daughters Reflect Back
47:01 - One Truth About Pleasure & One Practice to Start Tonight
48:35 - Audience Q&A: How to Ask for Oral Sex, Talking to Daughters About Sex
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