Untangling Intimacy: Build Your Therapy Toolkit
Yes, we’re going there — join Dr. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi for candid, deep, and playful discussions of all things SEX! Untangling Intimacy is the podcast that helps therapists and coaches have fearless conversations about sex, intimacy, and relationships of every shape and style. We believe EVERY therapist should be prepared to work with sex issues — and we want to help you get there. (Not a therapist? Eavesdrop anyway — you’ll learn a lot, and have fun doing it.) To learn more about Skye and her work, visit her website. To learn more about Martha and her work, visit Institute for Relational Intimacy's website. Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith is a certified sex therapist who holds a doctoral degree in Human Sexuality. She provides coaching and consulting services to clients and therapists, specializing in relationships and sexuality concerns. Martha Kauppi is a certified sex therapist, supervisor, and speaker. She trains therapists all over the world to work more effectively with relational intimacy challenges and sex issues, and is the author of Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients).
Episodes
In this episode, Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi offer guidance to help therapists and couples navigate situations where partners want different things out of their sexual experiences. Whether its naming specific acts, using clear language, and asking what "sex" actually means to each person, each host offers practical advice that can make a real impact for clients. Get Martha Kauppi's free guide for couples experiencin...
In this episode, hosts Martha Kauppi and Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith discuss how therapists can effectively open—and ground—client conversations involving partners experiencing cases of mismatched desire, seemingly incompatible turn-ons, or other gaps posing challenges. Each host brings clinical expertise to the discussion, offering practical insights and effective interventions on how to navigate the opening of a hard conversation. G...
In this episode, hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi explain how therapists can support clients navigating loneliness, dating app fatigue, and modern relationship struggles. While it can seem daunting at first blush, today's most popular dating processes can be an opportunity for discernment, self-trust, and growth. Use code UNTANGLINGINTIMACY to unlock 10% off "Consensual Non-Monogamy Level 1: Clinical Skills and Inte...
Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi discuss how therapists can navigate kink and BDSM conversations in session with grace and confidence. Each offers practical insight and essential tools for therapists looking to provide support that is informed, ethical, and affirming. Get Martha Kauppi's free guide for couples experiencing sexual challenges. Use code UNTANGLINGINTIMACY to unlock 10% off "Consensual Non-Monogamy Level 1: ...
In this episode, Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi explore a listener-submitted question involving marital infidelity, disrupted desire, and a struggle to rekindle sexual connection. From potential repair pathways to available interventions, each host offers key insight on how to begin untangling a difficult knot of intimacy. Get Martha Kauppi's free guide to relationship repair. Use code UNTANGLINGINTIMACY to unlock 10%...
In this episode, Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi discuss how to ethically and effectively work with consensual non-monogamy (CNM), offering practical insights on communication strategies, and addressing bias in therapy. Throughout the conversation, they share their own lived experiences, and outline how you can build clinical competence—and gain confidence—when working with expanded relationship structures.
In this episode, hosts Martha Kauppi and Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith explain how they handle issues relating to initiation, desire discrepancy, and spontaneous and responsive desire. Whether it's a thoughtful intervention, or helping partners communicate to each other in respectful ways, there are a variety of positive solutions at clinicians' disposal. Use code UNTANGLINGINTIMACY to unlock 10% off "Consensual Non-Monogamy Level 1: Cl...
Hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi explore navigating boundaries when clients seek friendship—or more—with their therapist. Practical strategies, ethics guidance, and real-world scenarios all help illustrate how to compassionately handle a fraught circumstance.
Use code UNTANGLINGINTIMACY to unlock 10% off "Consensual Non-Monogamy Level 1: Clinical Skills and Interventions" and individual webinars: https://www.instit...
Hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi probe the complexity of sexual pain in a discussion that covers how simple questions can uncover serious medical or relational issues, and how to compassionately offer support to clients who are experiencing a pattern of unwanted sexual pain.
Use code UNTANGLINGINTIMACY to unlock 10% off "Consensual Non-Monogamy Level 1: Clinical Skills and Interventions" and individual webinars: h...
In this episode, hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi unpack what pleasure really means—the physiology of touch, the emotional and relational pieces, and so much more. Whether navigating common blocks, emphasizing embodiment, or underscoring the importance of small sensory moments, "Centering Pleasure: From Shame to Embodiment" offers insights on understanding, embracing, and effectively working with pleasure. Free trai...
In this special episode, hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi go over interventions that were—or could be—applied to a real-life client scenario involving a couple with differing perspectives on an instance involving permission, consent, and self-pleasure.
Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.co...
In this episode, hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi cover how effective communication can unlock meaningful, productive results.
Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/brief-assessment
Hosts Martha Kauppi and Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith discuss the importance of clear, controllable goals, and how they can improve relationships.
Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/brief-assessment Join the ATSIP waitlist here and be the first to know when the course opens for signups: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/atsip To work with ...
In our latest episode, hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi discuss how keeping agreements, opening repair conversations, and engaging in honest accountability can rebuild relational trust after that trust has been breached.
Get “Anatomy of an Intervention: Early Session Sex Issues Work,” a new free training series: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Anatomy-of-an-intervention-signup
Hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi discuss methods to sensitively deal with clients' belief systems around sex. Get “Anatomy of an Intervention: Early Session Sex Issues Work,” a new free training series: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Anatomy-of-an-intervention-signup
Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/brief-assessment...
Hosts Martha Kauppi and Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith explore the multifaceted nature of consent and differentiation, and their impact on relational issues.
Get the new free training series, “Anatomy of an Intervention: Early Session Sex Issues Work,” (and mark your calendar for a free webinar, January 23rd, 2026, 1 pm CST): https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Anatomy-of-an-intervention-signup
In this episode, hosts Dr K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi tackle a few listener-submitted questions involving clients' tendencies around applying—and responding to—sexual pressure.
Get the new free training series, “Anatomy of an Intervention: Early Session Sex Issues Work,” (and mark your calendar for a free webinar, January 23rd, 2026, 1 pm CST): https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Anatomy-of-an-intervention-sig...
From sex pain to sexual menus, hosts Dr K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi explore effective ways therapists can respond when a client brings up surprising, sensitive topics.
Get the new free training series, “Anatomy of an Intervention: Early Session Sex Issues Work,” (and mark your calendar for a free webinar, January 23rd, 2026, 1 pm CST): https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Anatomy-of-an-intervention-signup
In this episode, Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi discuss the paths that led them to their respective careers, strategies for introducing discussions about sex into your practice, and much more.
Get the new free training series, “Anatomy of an Intervention: Early Session Sex Issues Work,” (and mark your calendar for a free webinar, January 23rd, 2026, 1 pm CST): https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Anatomy-of-...
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