Ever wonder if that old flame has really turned over a new leaf, or are they just the same person wrapped in a shiny holiday bow? Join us in this festive episode of Dating Daycare, where we explore the age-old question of whether people truly change and share some hilarious and heartfelt stories of holiday dating fiascos. Melissa and I get candid about our own encounters with past flames and the surprising (or not-so-surprising) outcomes. Grab your favorite holiday treat as we navigate the highs and lows of modern relationships, armed with laughter and a bit of holiday cheer.
As the holiday spirit fills the air, Melissa recounts her attempt at rekindling a romance with her children's father, only to find that some things remain unwrapped. Meanwhile, I admit to my own dating blunders, offering a cautionary tale of reconnecting with old flames. Through our tales of love, laughter, and lessons learned, we shed light on the importance of letting go of unrealistic expectations and embracing the joy of the season. Whether you’re sipping cocoa by the fire or swiping through dating apps, this episode is packed with insights that will leave you nodding along and maybe laughing out loud.
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Episode Transcript
happy holidays to all our ho ho ho's out there and
welcome to dating daycare ourchristmas episode yes, christmas
kwanzaa hanukkah.
What else is?
Out there, we gotta beinclusive we are here, inclusive
at Dating Daycare.
And Melissa, have you been niceor naughty this year?
(00:29):
Have you been a good girl or abad girl?
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Nice or naughty, I've been nice, I'm always nice.
See, that's what my ex wouldalways tell me he goes you look
one way, but you act a totaldifferent way.
So you know, I know I looknaughty, you do, but I'm nice,
I'm nice, I am, I was nice.
I didn't have time to benaughty, not really, but God
knows, we know you're let's talkabout you.
(00:57):
Yeah, I am.
If I had no kids and I was ondating apps, I'd be.
I'd be naughty.
I'd be a hot mess.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Yeah, I kind of committed some errors in terms
of dating.
I do as I say, not as I do.
Ladies, I have a, she runs theship.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
I'm always like and I'm doing 50 things and I'm
texting her back and I'm like,don't do it, yeah, don't do it,
but you don't listen to me, Idon't listen to reason.
And you did it?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
What did you do?
I reengaged with you know someguys from the past and you know,
not a good thing 90% of thetime.
It's not good unless they cometo you apologizing profusely for
their behavior in the past,profusely for their behavior in
(01:48):
the past, and coming to you witha plan on how they are going to
correct that behavior in thefuture, how things are going to
be differently.
You're just setting yourself upfor what, ladies?
Speaker 2 (01:55):
disappointment yeah, so so you were disappointed.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
I was, you know this particular same.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
The asshole that was from two years ago is the same
asshole today is that whatyou're telling us?
Speaker 1 (02:06):
they really don't uh change their spots.
These uh lions.
Wrong animal, but that's okayum, yeah, but it sounded good
yeah, like this particular guy,he knows how to take a girl out
for a good time, and we alwayshave a good time.
(02:27):
It's like, in between the goingout, the lack of communication,
the lack of consistency,sensitivity, same shit from yep,
and you know what.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
You know what we talked about.
This, I think, on anotherepisode, when I tried to get
back with my kid's dad the exthat the same and I thought I
could have sworn he changedright because he was dating a
girl that I didn't know aboutthis.
It was secretive.
But when I found out he wasdating a girl for like 18 months
(03:00):
, she was a therapist.
She had three kids, so it waslike, oh, this girl must have
her shit together.
You know what I mean.
Sounds like an altogetherperson, right.
Three kids.
You got to be pretty muchtogether, figured he had to have
changed, because why would shedate the old him?
Speaker 1 (03:16):
You know what I mean.
So he broke up with her, andthen you're like I'll give it
another shot.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Well, I didn't even know about her.
So I was like, let's try againfor our family.
And then he told me about her.
And then I was like, oh, thisis great, you know, he must have
changed.
And then he was like, well, hewas reluctant to try again with
me, but after going back andforth and blah, blah, blah, I
really did.
I want to try.
I was like this is great, thisis going to be easy, right,
(03:44):
right, we're going to start fromscratch, we're going to go at
it, we're going to let bygonesbe bygones and we'll start again
.
And and he's going to be great,right, because if he wasn't
great, why would this girl datehim?
And it was like a year, a yearand a half, two years after we
separated.
So plenty of time right tochange and make adjustment.
Let me tell you something.
That man was the same man.
(04:05):
He was from the day he left.
In fact, while trying to getback with him, he turned around
to me and I said why are youdoing some of these things?
Pick up a snowball.
He said, oh, I'm just trying.
I'm trying to see how pissedoff I can get you.
I'm trying to see how manybuttons I could push to get you
(04:25):
irate and angry so I could tellyou you're the same person you
were.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Oh, that's not narcissistic behavior at all, is
it?
Speaker 2 (04:32):
The same man that I was.
Like I'm done, like I don'tneed to go any further.
Oh, you're only going to tryfor three months, that's it.
Three months, you're cut off.
Uh, yeah, I don't need to betortured anymore.
Like, why would you do that tosomebody?
Like, if you can't let by thisis what I'm trying to say they
bring it back and they which iswhat we were talking about that
(04:54):
we wanted to tell everybody forthe new year.
Sometimes the scariest thing isthat they're going to treat
them better than they treatedyou.
You know what I'm saying?
Like now, that guy thatdisappointed you you probably
thought he learned, he grew andnow he's ready to treat you
better.
It's no, it's a no, ladies,don't you worry.
(05:18):
A year, two year, three year,four year, five year he's going
to treat her the same way he'streating you today.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
So, um Santa, I'll try to be a better girl for next
year.
Just listen to me.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
You don't even have to try to be better.
When I tell you don't go there,just say all right, I'm not
going to go it was like what mymy, like my dad?
Speaker 1 (05:38):
when my sister and I were little and we were being
naughty, he would pick up thephone and pretend to call Santa,
Like North Pole, yes, I'd liketo speak to Santa, please.
And we'd be begging him.
No, Daddy, no, don't call Santa.
We promise we'll be good.
I promise I'll be good, Melissafor 2025.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Call Santa, I'm Santa , okay, but yeah, other than
that I was good, like I haven'thad time and I haven't had my au
pair, which everybody like insix months.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
So that really doesn't give me the ability.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
It's not cost effective to go out on a date
with an asshole Yep yep and then, yeah, that's Christmas, but
Christmas should be good thisyear, right, we're going to do
the whole kid Santa thing.
That's what's going on at myhouse, just quiet quiet, quiet
by you, yeah, quiet yeah my extried to switch around our whole
(06:30):
Christmas narrative, soeverything's in uproar.
Any toxicity that he can startnear a holiday is right up his
alley.
Didn't want to bring any of myson's Christmas presents over
Three, so I had to go scramble.
Well, have fun today with that.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
I know you're busy, so guys, just let us know have
you been naughty?
Yes, have you been nice?
We want to hear.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Yeah, write to us Definitely and Happy New Year.
Yes, and we will see you in2025.
Ugh, I can't wait to see what2025 brings us with all you men.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
I can't freaking wait , can't wait ugh, and those
dating apps.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
I'm gonna have lots of stories for you guys, I can't
wait.
I can't wait for Allison'sstories yeah, I have a date
coming up this Saturday.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Okay.
So, we'll tell you about that.
All right, we'll be dick of theweek, maybe we don't know,
don't say that, all right, we'llsee.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
All right guys, all right Happy holidays, happy
holidays, merry Christmas.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
We'll see you soon.
Dating Daycare Bye, bye.
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