If you've cleared the decks, simplified your life, and still have no clue what comes next - this episode is for you.
Most planning advice gets it wrong. It starts with "what do you want to DO?" - jobs, trips, projects, hobbies. But that's putting the cart before the horse.
The better question? How do you want to FEEL?
In this episode, Monique van Tulder walks you through the PLAN stage of the SPACE framework - the essential Winter work that most women skip in their rush to get to the good bit.
You'll discover:
- Why planning is an act of self-respect, not control
- How to identify the three feelings that will shape your next chapter
- Why one picture on your mirror is more powerful than a ten-step plan
- The Dolly Parton quote that will change, how you think about change
- How to write your own version of A Grown Up's Gap Year
Plus: the "Dear Blokes" segment - what to say to your partner when you're suddenly talking about "purpose" and "your next act."
This is Winter work. Foundation work. The kind that doesn't look flashy but makes everything else possible.
Additional Resources:
- Your SPACE Prescription - Anti Guilt Calculator
- Free Weekly Newsletter
- Dear Blokes Downloadable
- Setting Boundaries That Stick - checklist
- 52 Ideas for YOUR Version of A Grown Up's Gap Year
📚 Get your copy of A Grown Up’s Gap Year the book, from Amazon, moniquevantulder.com, bookshops and libraries, subscribe to the podcast, and take the first step toward your own A Grown Up’s Gap Year.
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