I'm no longer an AKA.

Friend, let me start off by saying we can do hard things.

The yoke is easy, His burdens are light. (Matthew 11:30 NKJV)

I’m already knowing what will come after this, but it’s okay because I’m free in Jesus Christ. My identity is in Him. If you want to stop reading, that’s fine. If not, I hope the Lord speaks to you through this.

So yeah friend, this is my open and public declaration that I, Bria Baker am no longer apart of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.

The Lord has been stripping me y’all of everything, and when I mean everything I mean everything. Unforgiveness, offense, fear, doubt, and much more.

Here we have something that I held my identity in. And friend, truth be told I probably would’ve been just fine without it. But when your naive, looking for how to make it in the world, looking for purpose, looking for identity we can get wrapped up in things God never meant for us to be in. But again, we have free will right?

Let’s get back to identity, because I believe that He’s telling me my identity and who I am is only found in Him, nothing else.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” — 2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV

Identity: the fact of being who or what a person or thing is.

What happens when your identity is rooted in the wrong thing? Your serving, but not God. Your winning awards and accolades, but not souls.

We cannot have anything before Him. And those who say that Greek life doesn’t come before God, I ask you to do a heart check. A real one.

Let’s pray.

Heavenly Father, we thank you that our identity is only found in you. You loved us so much that you knitted us in our mothers wombs, in a hidden place. Our births activated in order to aid in growing your kingdom. We come out of covenant with these idols that come before you. You tell us in your word that we should not put our trust in idols or making idols out of ourselves or others. You are the Lord, our God and everything you have planned for us is perfect. Your will is what’s best for us. We cannot walk with you and still agree to serve false gods. There’s a choice that has to be made and Lord we ask that you give us a sound mind, a sound heart, and wisdom to know how to act. We thank you that through it all, you continue to keep us. You never leave us or forsake us and for this we are glad.

In Jesus Name

Amen

Now back to it, essentially this was becoming an idol in my life. Now your story may look different from mine and that’s ok. Truth of the matter is my sister and I have never really had that “sister” relationship because we’re far apart in age. I’m in my late twenties and my sister is in her mid-forties now. Growing up it was very much giving only child, and she was giving second mom. So what did I do? I was looking for belonging, someone to talk to, to share about how I thought a boy was cute, or a bad grade. I didn’t have that growing up and now that’s a whole long story for another day. Truth is I looked to this because I felt like it could give me that, I felt like I could finally belong to something, be liked. But do we see how that can be detrimental?

Our God is a jealous God. And he has every right to be. He provides for us, quite literally tells us:

28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? — Matthew 6:28-30 NIV.

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