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May 26, 2025 14 mins

Niki Sterner shares her personal journey from feeling stuck and uncertain to finding true confidence through action rather than endless preparation. After years of playing small despite extensive training, she discovered that the key obstacle wasn't external factors but her mindset.

• Suffered from a health crisis caused by breast implants and mold exposure that created a limbic system injury
• Discovered Dynamic Neural Retraining System (DNRS) which helped rewire her brain from danger-scanning to joy-seeking
• Found clarity by identifying her true desires and developing a 20-year vision that she reverse-engineered
• Realized the power of shifting from victim mentality to creator mentality
• Learned that confidence comes after taking action, not before it
• Gained her voice through consistent practice, including comedy writing and performance
• Transformed her relationship with fear by reframing it as part of the creative process

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Niki Sterner (00:01):
Welcome to the Confidence Shortcut, the podcast
for ambitious creatives andentrepreneurs who are ready to
stop overthinking, take boldaction and finally step into the
life they've been dreamingabout.
I'm your host, Niki Sterner mom,actor, comedian and producer.
After years of playing smalland waiting to feel ready, I
went on a courage quest andfound a shortcut to confidence.

(00:21):
Each week, I'll bring you realstories, simple steps and
conversations with experts.
In mindset, courage andconfidence, plus heart-to-hearts
with fellow creatives who areturning their dreams into
reality.
It's time to get unstuck andstart showing up.
Let's dive in.
Welcome to the ConfidenceShortcut Podcast.
I'm Niki Sterner and I'm soexcited.

(00:43):
Today we are recording thefirst five foundational episodes
with my friend, my good friend,Micah Caldwell, who is a
talented voice actor, comedianshe's hilarious and a podcast
producer.
She's here as my friend, to bemy conversation partner today,
but she's also going to be aguest in season one, based on
what I know about her journey,which includes a significant

(01:05):
career transition frompracticing law in Washington DC
to relocating to Atlanta topursue a more creative career
path, more fun.
You're going to love her, justlike I do.
Every Tuesday, we're going todrop conversations with experts
and creatives, just like Micah,who are on a similar journey to
finding confidence, so I want towelcome my friend Micah

(01:27):
Caldwell.

Micah Caldwell (01:28):
I'm so glad to be here.
Thank you for asking me to dothis with you.
I'm excited, so the reason I'mhere today is so your listeners
can get to know you before youshare so much information from
all these other experts andresources about your journey and
how you came to create thispodcast and what you hope that
listeners will get out of it.
I'm really excited for them tolearn more about you and what

(01:49):
you're trying to do here and theamazing things that you're
going to bring to listeners thattune in.
So very excited to be helpinglet's get to know Nikki.
So, first and foremost, let'sstart with a quick snapshot.
Why don't you tell yourlisteners about who you are,
what you do with a quicksnapshot?
Why don't you tell yourlisteners about who you are,
what you do?

Niki Sterner (02:06):
and what you're passionate about.
So I'm a mom and a wife.
I have three kids.
They're teenagers.
I am super excited to be doingthis podcast because over the
past year, I have figured out away to actually take action on
what I've been wanting to do forthe past 25 years.
For a really long time I knew Iwanted to be performing on stage

(02:27):
, on screen, but I just wasn'tconfident in using my voice.
I took a bunch of classes.
For the past 11 years I've beenstudying, acting and just
gathering knowledge and I justdidn't have the confidence to
actually do what I wanted to do.
And a couple of years ago, twoand a half years ago, I took my
first standup comedy class.
I was just graduating atwo-year Meisner conservatory

(02:49):
program, which I took because Iwas like you know, this will
give me confidence for sure.
And I graduated there.
And then I did my standupcomedy and I just didn't feel
confident still, like nothingchanged for me.
Still like nothing changed forme.
And so I was so sad about that.
I was like is it me?
Like what is wrong with me?
I've done all the things.

(03:10):
Why am I still not feelingconfident?
Like I feel like I had checkedall the boxes, classes,
headshots, you know all the prep, but the one thing that I
hadn't changed was my mindset,and that was a huge piece for me
.
That was the first thing thathad to change on my path, and so
I wanted to share that today.

(03:31):
I got to a point where I feltreally low because of my
inability to take action.
I felt stuck.
I felt like I had created thisplace where I was not doing what
I said I was going to do.
I was embarrassed that I wasn'tfurther along in my career and
I had also had a health crisisalong the way.

(03:52):
I had breast implants for like12 years and the chemicals in
those had created this thingcalled multiple chemical
sensitivity in my body, where ifI smell perfumes or colognes or
candles or anything like that,where if I smell perfumes or
colognes or candles or anythinglike that, it would set off a
headache and I would get verytired like chronic fatigue.
We also were living in a homethat was built on a crawl space

(04:13):
and it had some air ducts in thecrawl space that were
unattached.
We didn't know it, so we werebreathing in this crawl space
air that had a musty, moldything going on, and so the
combination of the chemicals inthe breast implants and the mold
exposure just tanked my health.
I didn't realize it at the time, but it was creating this
limbic system injury in my brain.

(04:34):
And so, fast forward, I got mybreast implants out.
We moved into a different place, fast forward a few years and I
still felt stuck and like Icouldn't overcome this multiple
chemical sensitivity.
I was going on acting sets.
I had graduated.
I was stuck in this fear likethat every time I would go on
set I would get sick, and I waslike I've spent eight years

(04:57):
studying classes, wasted allthis money and I'm not going to
be able to do this, and I gotreally depressed.
It was extremely sad and I toldmy acting coach I can't
continue on class with you andshe was shocked.
She was like what do you mean?
What's going on?
And so after class she asked meabout it and I explained the
health crisis and she said, ohmy gosh, have you prayed for a

(05:20):
miracle?
And I was like, seriously,that's what this is about.
But she was like, no, I had myown health crisis and whatever
she had gone through totallycleared up when she prayed for a
miracle and somehow she's likethis one in a million person who
they study her blood becauseit's so clear, and no one else

(05:41):
has had that happen.
And so I was like, okay, I'mdefinitely going to pray for my
miracle, which sounds crazy,like sure you're going to have a
miracle, right?
So I did, and nothing happened.
And then I got frustrated.
I went on set and I had anotherexposure and I came home that
night and I just went on mycomputer and I Google searched
how do you heal multiplechemical sensitivity and this

(06:03):
thing popped up on my screencalled DNRS and it's dynamic
neural retraining system, and Iwas like, what is this?
But it was basically retrainingmy brain to not look for danger
, but to look for joy and health.
My brain was so stuck in thedanger loop, just scanning my
environment, my surroundings,just to try to not get sick, but

(06:25):
that's all I was focusing on,and so I would just keep getting
sick, and so I would just keepgetting sick, and so I had to
retrain myself.
I had to expose myself todifferent things again and then
think different thoughts.
And so I was retraining mybrain to create different loops,
not sick loops anymore, buthealth loops, and that was the
first thing that changed.

(06:46):
Almost three years ago, I hadjust graduated from a two-year
Meisner Conservatory program,ready to get on stage, on screen
and make my dreams come true.
But as I started working ondifferent movie sets, I noticed
myself getting sick fromchemicals that were off-gassing
all around me.
The breast implants and moldexposure that caused my brain
injury were long gone, but fiveyears later my brain was still

(07:08):
stuck in limbic systemimpairment.
I was getting sicker quickerwith each new exposure.
I felt helpless, like I'dwasted all this time, energy and
money pursuing a career I mightnever be able to do.
One day my acting teacher askedif I'd prayed for a miracle, so
I did.
That's when the DNRS programshowed up, and it changed
everything.
Dnrs helped me rewire my brain,shifting from fight or flight

(07:31):
and constant danger alerts tocreative flow and joy.
If you feel stuck in anxiety,overwhelm or chronic symptoms,
this might be your breakthrough.
Click the link in the captionto learn more.
This could be your miracle too.
And then the second thing thatchanged was that I got clear on
what I actually wanted, becauseI was studying acting, but I

(07:52):
didn't know why.
Like I knew that I wanted to dothis and I felt called to it.
But I was like, what am Iactually wanting to say or do
with this?
And so I had to look back andsee like why am I doing this?
And I wrote down lists like astar list, like back in the day
when I was younger.
Who did I want to be like LikePaula Abdul and Julia Roberts,

(08:13):
and why did I want to have avoice?
And I realized it was because Ididn't have a voice for so long
.
I felt like I was in thispeople-pleasing thing where I
didn't know myself for a reallylong time.
And so figuring out who am I,what do I want, what do I value
most and why do I want to speakwas really how I gained an

(08:37):
honest clarity with myself.
And so I did a couple ofprograms, like Jodi Bentley had
the Actors Think Tank and thathad this thing where you wrote
out your 20-year vision and thenyou reverse engineered it and I
got clear on okay, if I want tobe a TV showrunner.
Then, looking at Quinta Brunson, what did she do in her past?

(09:02):
So she wrote for comedy showsand put out videos and created
her own kind of shows.
And then I just reverseengineered what would it take to
do that?
And then I started schedulingclasses and getting myself on a
microphone doing things liketrivia and writing comedy really
helped to clarify what I wantedto say and my point of view.

(09:24):
And I don't really considermyself a writer, but I think
just doing it over and overagain you become one.
So it's like throwing away mypast, what I thought I was, and
becoming the future version ofmyself now was a big shift for
me.

Micah Caldwell (09:43):
Right, and it was that one moment, that one
conversation you had with youracting coach that made that
possible.

Niki Sterner (09:52):
Yes, yes, exactly, because that was the moment
that she made me realize that Iam actually creating my life.
I can create what I want,instead of just be a victim.
I was in this victim mindset oflife just happens to me and I
just deal with what comes to me,you know, and that's such a

(10:13):
powerless feeling and also Ifelt like I had a lot more
resentment as a victim, blamingother people for your life, and
it just felt so helpless and Ithink that's why, a lot of the
time, I felt depressed.
I didn't know I had this powerin me to create my life.

Micah Caldwell (10:32):
So how long ago was that conversation with the
acting coach?

Niki Sterner (10:36):
That was two and a half years ago.
I had just graduated thetwo-year program and I was so
excited.
I was like I am ready, I'mgoing to go hit the ground
running, I'm going to get moreacting jobs, I'm going to do
this.
And then I just got sick and itwas like what am I going to do
if I can't do what I want to do?
Have you ever had that happen,micah, where you felt like you

(11:00):
knew what you wanted to do, butyet something was stopping you.
I created the ConfidenceKickstart morning routine
because I know what it's like tohave big dreams and still feel
stuck behind self-doubt, fear orthe pressure to get it right.
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(11:22):
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(11:42):
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Micah Caldwell (11:53):
Yes, I think a lot of creatives have
experienced that where,somewhere along the way, if it's
not themselves, there's anoutside or external source of
discouragement in their journeyand in their talent and in their
craft.
Unfortunately for me, I letthat prevail.
That was my narrative for over40 years, which was you can't do

(12:16):
that.
In fact, I lost touch with mydreams because that had become
such a prevalent part that hadtaken over completely, this idea
that you can't be, that youcan't be a performer, you can't
be a singer, you can't be famous, you can't be.
Not that I want to be famous,but when you're five years old,
your dreams are often very loftyand you know relatively quickly

(12:41):
.
After that, I was told orlearned or perceived that that
wasn't possible for me, so Ifollowed a completely different
path.
Oh my gosh.

Niki Sterner (12:52):
And that's what took you into being a lawyer.

Micah Caldwell (12:55):
Yes, yeah, I don't think I would have gone to
law school if it wasn'tsomething that my parents had
encouraged.

Niki Sterner (13:02):
I'm sure they encouraged you because they
thought this is a successfulpath for you and obviously you
did very well as a lawyer.
But something inside of you wassaying there's more.

Micah Caldwell (13:13):
Yes, but I was shutting that voice out
completely, like I hadcompletely drowned it out, until
it became inevitable, until itgot to a point where what I was
doing just wasn't workinganymore.
But, man, I kept up the goodfight for a long time, 20 years.

Niki Sterner (13:32):
Yeah, yeah 20 years Wow.

Micah Caldwell (13:35):
That's wild Anyway this is not about me,
this is about you.
We can get to that in myepisode.
Yes, I'm excited too.

Niki Sterner (13:43):
Thanks so much for listening to the Confident
Shortcut.
I hope today's episode wokesomething up in you, reminding
you that your dream matters andyou can start now.
If this sparked something,share it with a friend who needs
it too.
And don't forget to follow meon Instagram @ Niki Sterner and
join our Facebook community atThe Confidence Shortcut.
Ready to take the next step?
Check out my free guide, theConfidence Kickstart, linked in

(14:06):
the show notes.
Keep showing up, keep takingaction and remember the shortcut
to confidence is courage.
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