February 5, 2026 • 44 mins
Join Dr. Lewis in a conversation with Urmi Hossain. Urmi is a self-published author, speaker, podcast host, and finance professional based in Canada. She works in the financial services industry while actively advocating for women’s empowerment, identity, and self-leadership. Her book, "Discovering Your Identity: A Rebirth from Interracial Struggle", explores her journey as a third-culture woman navigating belonging, culture, and self-worth. Email: urmi.hassain1923@gmail.com
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Did you know women represent just three percent of Fortune
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I'm doctor Mattlanann lewis, President and CEO of the Executive
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zero one six nine three three two eight four let
us get you on the fast track to success. Well, Hello,
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and welcome to the Success for Women's Show, where you
can view us on Talk for TV and listen to
us on the Women for Women Network. I am doctor
Madeline Ann Lewis your host, and my mission is to
help women accelerate the path to success. Well, today's topic
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is choose Yourself, Identity, Power and Purpose and my guest
is Miss You're me Jssin and I tell you what.
I am honored to have her here because she is
coming to us from Canada to day. But before I
bring her on, let me just give you a little
bit about her. Ermi is a self published author, speaker,
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podcast host, and finance professional based in Canada. She holds
the Chartered Financial Analyst and Chartered Alternative Investment Analyst designations,
and she works in financial in the financial services industry
while using her platform to advocate for women's empowerment, identify identity,
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and self leadership. Her book, Discovering Your Identity, A Rebirth
from Interracial Struggle explores her journey as a third culture
woman navigating belonging, culture and self worth. Ermi also hosts
Stories Beyond Borders, which is a podcast that amplifies diverse
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voices on identity, migration, language, and the meaning of home.
It is such a pleasure to bring to the Successful
Women's show, Ermi Hassan Hi Hi, it is such a
pleasure to have you on the show. Thank you. I
know your schedule is probably really busy. Our goal to
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just be glad to hear some of your journey and
also talk about your book a little bit. So tell
me something you you know from your bio. I can
tell that you wear Mani hats, finance, professional, author, speaker,
podcast hosts. So how do you personally define success at
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this stage in your life?
Speaker 5 (04:50):
I define success with one word, which is alignment. It's
something that took me and why to understand. I think
as a society, we think the success it's about career, reputation,
financial status, your perception that people have about you in
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the society. But it realized for me it's about doing
the things that make me happy and doing the things
that I am most I feel most fulfilled, and for me,
it's really about finding things that are online with my
goals and values.
Speaker 4 (05:31):
Now, your book discovering your identity, Now I can tell
that it's deeply personal. What moment or realization inspired you
to finally tell your story.
Speaker 5 (05:46):
It was basically a couple of years ago when I
was invited to different podcasts and every single time they
would everyone was so fascinated about my story of being
at our culture key, and I saw this as an
opportunity to basically write my book. I didn't think it
was going to come at that moment in my life.
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I didn't think it was going to come that soon.
I knew that I was going to write a book eventually,
but it came literally like four years ago, and so
I saw this as an opportunity to make those conversations
into a more concrete thing by writing my book, and
I so published it.
Speaker 6 (06:27):
Mm hmm wow.
Speaker 4 (06:29):
And you know what, like I said, it seems like
it's very personal to you because as a third world
or as a third culture woman, you've navigated, i know,
questions of belonging and self work. When did you begin
to see your identity not as a struggle but more
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is strength.
Speaker 5 (06:54):
And even that it happened a couple of years ago,
I think I had to do a couple of internal
work and a lot of reflection, and a lot of
understanding of myself and my identity and how I wanted
to be portrayed in the world and what kind of
cultures I wanted to represent. And so after having a
lot of conversations, open dialogues, finding community of people similar
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to me, I finally came to the realization with me
exposure to multiple cultures, it's it's an asset. It is
more like a strength, something that I can use as
my storytelling. And so me having exposure to, you know,
two cultures to begin with the Bengali Titanian one, it's
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it's an asset. It's quite powerful, powerful, and it means
you know that I can speak to languages. It means
that I have exposure to two cultures. It means that
I have exposure to to different transitions to different cuisines,
and so that it was in that moment that I
saw this more like a like an asset and not
a weakness.
Speaker 6 (07:58):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
Now know we all know that many women they feel
pressure to kind of shrink back or maybe conformed to
fit into professional or cultural spaces. How did you learn
to choose yourself instead?
Speaker 5 (08:19):
I agree with what you just said. I feel like
we just shrink ourselves more often than not to fit
an ideology of what's considered to be the perfect daughter,
the perfect women, for women working for a company. But
for me, really, I came to a realization that I
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didn't want to like follow that, and I put myself
first by basically putting boundaries and protecting my energy, protecting my.
Speaker 7 (08:56):
Aura.
Speaker 5 (08:56):
And it was at that moment that I decided that,
you know it, it's okay to think differently. It's okay
to uh to follow the unconventional, It's okay to put
yourself first. It's okay to follow your own path because
at the end of the day, you you cannot always
make everyone happy, and so it's more important that you
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make yourself happy before making you know happy someone else.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
Absolutely, and that is definitely key and what you said
about you know, like I said, shrinking back, that's that's
something women tend to do a lot. And so I think,
you know, reading your book is would be a perfect
example to help them to move past and beyond that
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type of uh you know, behavior conforming too and just
realize that, hey, you have to do what's best for you.
Speaker 7 (09:52):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 4 (09:54):
So what does self leadership mean to you and why
is it especially important for women today?
Speaker 6 (10:03):
Do you think.
Speaker 7 (10:05):
So? For me?
Speaker 5 (10:06):
When I think about leadership, I truly think that it's
all about impact, influence, and it's about sustainability. I think
that women are typically leading in a way where they're
creating impact and inspiring other women to do the same.
It's no longer about titles. I think I used to
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have that notion that leadership is all about, you know,
climbing the corporate ladder and being the CEO of a company,
being the VP, the SVP of a company. And honestly,
that's how I used to think the success was going
to be that if I can become a manager of
a company, it means all of the successful women. But
I realized that I was developing those leadership skills even
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by being in a lower level positions and it wasn't
you know about my title. Well, it was about the
fact that I was part of a community, building a community,
giving back to the community. It was about inspiring other people.
And that's how I started to see leadership. It's about
leading by example and being an inspiration to other people
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and making sure that you are creating an impact. And
when I think about big names, most important leaders that
for me were true, true leaders, that's what they did.
You know, Like if I think about Gandhi, who is
someone dra I very much admire. I think he was
a true leader, very charismatic, he was giving back to
the community, he was helping people. And so for me,
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that's what it means when it comes to when it
comes to leadership.
Speaker 4 (11:39):
Absolutely and you're absolutely correct when you say, you know,
a lot of people look at leadership as having a
certain title and that gives them that, you know, I'm
the leader, But it's really not about titles. It's about
you and how you handle yourself, the way that you
like you said, impact you make, and how you're you know,
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the people that are looking at you, just what exactly
are they thinking of you as the person they want
to follow you know so, and and and all those things.
That plays a big part in in in leadership. And again,
like I said, a lot of people don't realize that
it's not about the title.
Speaker 6 (12:25):
That's it.
Speaker 7 (12:26):
That's it. For women.
Speaker 4 (12:31):
Who feel caught between cultures, expectations, are are certain roles.
What do you think is the first step toward reclaiming
their own authentic identity.
Speaker 5 (12:53):
I think it's about finding good allies, finding like partners
or trusted people. I call them partner meaning that I
always say, it's like any kind of like network that
you do. It's about partnership. And I think that finding allies,
finding mentors, finding finding people that advocate for yourself are
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the first step to reclaim yourself because I think sometimes
we're the we are our worst critiques. We don't believe
in ourselves, we don't we don't trust ourselves. And I
think sometimes if you have the right kind of people
around you who support your ideas and who encourage you,
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they will help you to find that power that it's
sitting there but it's waiting.
Speaker 7 (13:44):
To be used.
Speaker 5 (13:46):
And so for me, I think it's about finding the
right people around you mentors, allies, partners, people that advocate
for you. And I think it's also important to don't
just rely on your group of people. I think it's
okay to go out and find other kinds of people
that are like similar to you in terms of like
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values and who has your same interests. So, for instance,
like there are so many like local events that happen
in every single city that you have, conferences, you have
social events, networking events, you know, especially now with international
rooms and you have you have so many just go
ahead and participate to some of these events and network
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with like mine, like like like people. So that would
be my advice for for anyone who's like reclaiming, who's
looking to reclaim themselves.
Speaker 4 (14:40):
You know, I totally agree with that, because if you
stay in that same little box, then you know, where's
the stretch, Where's.
Speaker 6 (14:49):
How are you going to?
Speaker 4 (14:51):
You know know what how you should you know look
at In other words, have different perspectives too, because when
you meet different people from different places, like for example,
here I am, I'm here in Maryland and you're in Canada,
so we're kind of reached the cross here to network,
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and that's pretty much what it's all about. And you
have to and I think That's why I like to
bring guests on from different areas of you know, around
the country, different things like that, because.
Speaker 6 (15:27):
It's always a different perspective.
Speaker 4 (15:29):
You can always see, uh, what how they look at things,
even with leadership, even with success. You know, everybody have
their own definition of those things, how leadership should be,
how success You know how to define success. But if
you stay in the same little box, then you're gonna
keep that same opinion. You won't have a you know,
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you won't have that different perspective.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
That's it.
Speaker 5 (15:55):
I agree, and it's and I think that's how you
that's that's how you get like different ideas and different
interests when you get outside of that comfort zone and
you're willing to speak with someone that you would never
have spoken before.
Speaker 6 (16:09):
Yeah, exactly, exactly.
Speaker 4 (16:12):
Now, representation is a major theme in your work and
of that, So what do you believe telling our stories,
especially as women of color or immigrant women?
Speaker 6 (16:27):
Why is that so powerful?
Speaker 5 (16:32):
So for me, when I think about representation, it's about possibilities.
And I also think representation as leading by example and
being determined. So what I mean by that? And for me, representation,
like I said, it's very very important.
Speaker 7 (16:53):
But for me.
Speaker 5 (16:54):
Really, what it means is that I'm showing up for myself,
but I'm showing up for other people. If I do
not show up at all, I'm not making any kind
of changes. And I always make this example of what
happened to me. A couple of years ago, I went
to an interview and before going to this interview, I
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looked into the management team and I was like trying
to see if there was diversity, if there was a representation,
and of course there's none of that. And so I
pointed this out during the interview, and I asked the interviewer,
like what do you do in terms of that, Like
why don't you have women in your team? Why don't
you have women of color in your team? And he
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was quite honest with me, the interviewer, Like he was
really upfront about it, and he was like, you know,
it's not about us not wanting to have representation, it's
just that women do not apply. And let me tell
you this. I was a little bit turned off at
that moment, and I also didn't want to go to
that interview because I was like, there's no representation. What
am I going to do there? But I told myself
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that not you know what, I'm still going to go
to this interview. If I been today got the job,
my face will be on the website. And that's how
I'm going to make that change going forward. Anyway, I
did not the interview went well, just to like say,
very briefly went well, but I decided not to go
with that because it was not aligned with me. But
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for me, that's what it means representation, like making sure
that you are changing the story going forward by showing
up in places where representations is very much needed.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
Exactly because sometimes it just takes one to open that
door for the others to follow, you know, to be
able to go through the door. And as women, as
we've talked about the shrinking back, a lot of times,
we don't think we're qualified sometimes to go into those
places like you went. You know, you did the interview,
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but when you ask that question that could have deterred
you from even doing an interview.
Speaker 6 (19:02):
Yeah, so that was.
Speaker 4 (19:05):
Good, you know that you you you definitely you went
on through it. Now your book, when you talk about
discovering your identity and different things like that, what made
you decide to write your story? What made you decide
to just put it in print.
Speaker 7 (19:24):
You know what, I like.
Speaker 5 (19:27):
I read another book prior to writing my book, and
when I was reading that book, I just felt the
person was telling my story like it was so relatable,
and I thought maybe maybe even my story could be
relatable to someone. So that's why I wanted to write it.
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And I was going to different shows, to different many podcasts,
podcast shows where they were asking my story of being
a tour culture kid, and they were all very interested
in knowing my experience growing up in Italy, and so
I was like, you know what, let me just let
me just write it, you know, really, just write it
and see where this could go. I just didn't think
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it was going to happen that that soon. And for me,
it was like journaling. It was digital journaling because I
was just typing it and I was talking about my childhood,
my teenage whose who was quite It was quite nice
as a process because I was relieving those moments as
if they happened yesterday, even like it's been twenty years,
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and so it was it was quite a nice process.
And it's easy when you are talking about yourself, so
it was quite effortless. I would just sit down every
day and write it. And then I saw the actual
concrete creation. I was like, oh my gosh, I did it.
You know, it's I can go and tell people.
Speaker 4 (20:48):
Now now based on all of that, have you, you know,
ever struggled with, say, imposter syndrome, particularly being in the
inn that you're in, And if you did, how did
you work through it? Because again, like we talk about
a lot of women, sometimes they don't feel qualified to
be in those areas, in those spaces. So was that
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something you ever struggled with?
Speaker 5 (21:16):
Okay, you know what, I was never familiar with this
word until I started to go to webinars and workshop
and they would like talk about imposter syndrome, and I
was like, what is that?
Speaker 7 (21:28):
What is that?
Speaker 5 (21:29):
But you know what, I think we're all a victim
of it. We just don't realize it. We just don't
realize it. And I think me too, like I always
tell myself, you know, I can do this, but then
I start second guessing myself. And that's when I realized that, Okay,
this is me, Like, you know, it's my imposter syndrome.
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And I think every single person suffers from it, and
women especially, and we're always always like second guessing ourselves
and so me one thing that I did because I
am guilty of it, I try to work on it.
I try to work on it by reframing some of
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the sentences, by writing like positive affirmations that I can
do it, by rewirying my brain to think otherwise. So
I use this little trick to make it like work.
And then the other thing that I am starting to
do is also like document a little bit of the
things that I accomplish, because sometimes I'm thinking, I don't
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think I'm good enough for something, But then I'm like, no,
but I did all of those things and.
Speaker 6 (22:35):
All of that exactly.
Speaker 4 (22:37):
So that's a good point, you know, because I started
doing the same thing a little while ago, because just
like you, you know, even though you do things, but
until sometimes until you put it down, you think, oh, wow,
I did do that. You know I can't do that,
And because we do second guess ourselves as women, and
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it's always well, what if I'm not good enough?
Speaker 6 (23:01):
Would if I fail?
Speaker 4 (23:02):
What if? What if?
Speaker 6 (23:04):
It's always you know, in the back of your.
Speaker 4 (23:06):
Head, what if? Or or you know, so you I
totally agree with you.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
I do that.
Speaker 4 (23:13):
I started doing the same thing, writing those accomplishments down
and believe it or not, at the end of the year.
I a few years, a couple of years ago, I
started making a video and I do the video at
the end of the year to put out there all
the things that I accomplished, my company account accomplished during
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the year. And I mean, it's always to me so amazing.
It's like, dang, I didn't know all you know, did
all that during the year. But that is such a
good thing to do, believe it or not, because again,
when you when that imposter syndrome hit, you just pull
out your notes, pull out your you know whatever wherever
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you're keeping that information, and just look at the fact
that yes, you are qualified, Yes you can do it.
You've done it, and this time you'll do it even better.
So that truly does work. It really does.
Speaker 5 (24:10):
And you know what I recently they I was like,
I was completely a form because I was supplying for
something and they were asking me, do you have any
experience in hosting events? And in my manner, I was like, yeah,
I do, but I don't know how many I have.
But then they asked me to list them and I
started to writing them down. I was like, oh, damn, no,
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I do have a lot.
Speaker 7 (24:33):
Why am I thinking like I did not have any exactly?
Speaker 4 (24:38):
And you know, that's one of the things when I
did my teedics talk and I said in there and
this is because it was from the Harvard Business Review,
and it literally said that about men, how they will
apply for position when they feel they may be only
sixty percent qualify for it. But a woman will look
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at the same position and feel she has to be
one hundred percent qualified before she will even apply for it,
which is such you know, a big expect cause see
they get in the position and they think, I'll just
learn as I go. But we feel like we have
to walk into it knowing everything. And that's not true.
Speaker 5 (25:22):
That's right, And I think it's it's the way we
have been conditioned to, you know, to be perfect, always perfect,
and because of that, I think we just walk away
when we don't meet all the requirements, all the requirements.
Speaker 4 (25:38):
Sometimes we talk ourselves out of something that could very
well be you know, what we're good at, you know,
and have them good at, and just don't we just
don't recognize it.
Speaker 7 (25:50):
Yeah, I agree, I agree.
Speaker 4 (25:55):
We're your podcast Stories Beyond Borders. It explores identity migration,
and the meaning of home.
Speaker 6 (26:04):
Correct.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
What has surprised you the most from some of the
stories that you've heard.
Speaker 7 (26:14):
Everything, everything, Because.
Speaker 5 (26:19):
Some of the stories that I that I listened to
were quite surprising and at the same time unrealistic, because
before hearing these stories, I was like, no, this kind
of happen nowadays. But I did, like I used to
like think that some some some of the reasons why
people live their countries, which you just see it on
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like on on on movies, like in the movies. There
was this particular guest who told me that she had
to leave her home country because of like war reasons
back in the days. And she was telling me about
this episode where like she just took her teddy Bear
and then like she just like left the country with
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her with her mother. And I think that that was
just happening in the movies, Like I was like, it's
happened in the movies, but the fact that she told
me that it really happened to her, and I was like, Wow,
that's that's like, that's that's really like and I like not,
you cannot imagine something like that. So for me, that
was quite an eye opener. And then there was another
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another guest who also talked about her being by racial
and how you know, like she was half white and
half black, and how you know she felt privileged because
she looked white, but sometimes you know, she wished, she
wished that she looked black to be closer to that
the other part of her identity. And a lot of
these stories are really relatable too, Like I invited people
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who are very similar to me, Like they grew up
in one country, but the parents come from another country,
and even though the countries could be different, go through
the same struggles, you know, trying to fit in, trying
to look alike, you know, trying to be like that,
you know, those people that are living in the same
countries as us. So it's been a nice experience so far.
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I enjoy, you know, interviewing people, enjoy hearing their immigration stories.
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Now, have any of the conversations that you've had on
your podcast, has any of those stories stayed with you
or shifted your own perspective?
Speaker 5 (28:34):
Definitely. One thing that I am much more aware is
that every single human being has a story to share.
And one thing that I'm also much much more aware
is our names we have. You know, each one of
us has a different name, and sometimes people ask me
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how to pronounce my name.
Speaker 7 (28:56):
Like a little bit like you said at.
Speaker 5 (28:59):
The beginning, I'm a bit more mindful too about like
pronouncing people's names, because I feel like when you are
mispronouncing someone's name, you are in a way not disrespecting.
But I'm trying to find a better word for this,
but you're like, you're not showing respect towards the person's story,
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and you know.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
And then again, some people, I think they just they
may not feel comfortable asking you how to pronounce it.
Speaker 6 (29:34):
But I for me, I always do it.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
If it's the name that I'm not that familiar with,
I do it because I'm coming on air and we're
putting it out there, so I want to make sure
I'm putting it out there correctly. Now, I think there
was only one guest that I had that her name.
It was just a tongue twister, you know, it was.
(29:59):
It was just hard for me to pronounce it correctly.
But I still try to make that effort to do
that because I knew just looking at the name. I
couldn't just come on air and automatically think I knew.
Speaker 5 (30:12):
What was yeah, yeah, for sure.
Speaker 7 (30:15):
And I'm not like I know this.
Speaker 5 (30:16):
Sometimes it's it could be like a you know, an
honest mistake. We don't do it on purpose, but I
realized that it's important to ask people's name before because
names do carry a meaning, they do carry a history story,
you know, they do carry a lot, and sometimes behind
the name there is really a lot. And so for me,
(30:39):
it's something that I'm a bit more mindful now. And
I'm very curious now when it comes to two names
that I'm not used to. I know there is there's
so much that this person can share about themselves.
Speaker 4 (30:50):
Well, it's it's amazing that you say that, because my
name I always felt that it wasn't that uncommon, But
you wouldn't believe how many people pronounced mine, well one,
because they assume that it's supposed to be pronounced a
certain way when they look at it, and you know,
(31:11):
it's not. It can be pronounced several different ways, but
they always assume the I guess their version of what
they want it to be. So, you know, I get
that too. I just correct them and then let it
go and you know, and hope that they remember, Okay,
that's the way it's supposed to be pronounced. But yeah,
(31:33):
I totally understand, and I definitely think that if you
see someone's name and you know you can't pronounce it,
you really should ask, you know, out of respect that
you like you said it, because you want to make
sure that you're getting it right.
Speaker 6 (31:47):
So I'm glad. I hope that I will.
Speaker 4 (31:55):
So tell me, looking back, what would you tell your
younger self who was still searching for where she belonged?
Speaker 5 (32:10):
I think I will definitely tell her, like, give yourself
permission to be whoever you want.
Speaker 4 (32:24):
Yeah, wow, Okay, now your book again. I keep going
back to your book because I just think it's so fascinating.
Speaker 7 (32:34):
What do you.
Speaker 4 (32:35):
Hope women will take away after reading your book or
listening to your work?
Speaker 6 (32:42):
What do you hope they'll take away from that?
Speaker 5 (32:44):
To accept themselves for who they are and embrace every
single aspect of their identity, and.
Speaker 7 (32:54):
To basically.
Speaker 5 (32:58):
Pursue in life which don't have to be necessarily what
society expects them to be, so to put themselves first,
to follow their dreams, to big, to dream big.
Speaker 6 (33:12):
Yeah okay.
Speaker 4 (33:14):
And just to make sure the listening audience know the
title of the book, let me give the title again.
It is I want to make sure I got it right.
It's this Her book is discovering your Identity, a rebirth
from interracial struggle. Is that the entire I gave it
(33:37):
the entitle entire time. Okay, that's what it is, a rebirth,
discovering your identity, a rebirth from interracial struggle. So I
just wanted to make every sure that everybody know since
we keep kind of alluding to the book that remember
with the title, and I'm going to type it in
the chat so that it can go across screen and
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be on there too. So finally, what's next for you?
And how do you hope to continue empowering women to
live boldly and unapologetic.
Speaker 5 (34:13):
So definitely, I do have a lot of things in mind,
and there are a lot of things that are in
the in the progress. So I definitely want to continue
volunteering and being part of the organization Women and Leadership
as the culture for the Manchelle chapter and create events
and community over there for the women in Montreal. I
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do want to continue mentoring. I am a big advocate
when it comes to mentoring and sharing your wisdom with
the other women, and I think that happens really through
conversations from one woman to another woman. And the other
thing that I want to do and you like did it,
which is to deliver ethitics. Eventually it's my it's my
(34:54):
big dream is to be on the stage and speak.
So I've been, uh, I've been working hard for Dowin,
but it's been quite challenging, I have to say challenging
so far.
Speaker 4 (35:07):
Hey, that look okay, now let's not go back into that, uh,
that syndrome again.
Speaker 6 (35:12):
You'll be able to do it. It can be done,
so we know it can be done.
Speaker 4 (35:17):
So that's what we're going to keep thinking that you
will get that done.
Speaker 6 (35:22):
So tell me if you have one piece of advice.
Speaker 4 (35:27):
To leave with our viewers and our listeners, what would
that advice be?
Speaker 8 (35:33):
One piece of advice We need to invest your time
in getting knowledge, to continue studying and to.
Speaker 5 (35:48):
Have a life as a lifelong learner.
Speaker 6 (35:51):
I've heard that.
Speaker 4 (35:53):
And what if if our viewers and listeners wanted to
get a copy of your book, where can they get it?
And also if they wanted to reach out to you,
how can they do so?
Speaker 5 (36:06):
Yes, So my book is called Discovering Your Identity Reverse
from Inteition Struggle. It's available on Amazon and if people
want to connect with me, I have a LinkedIn profile
called Omeho Sign. I have a YouTube channel called Sign
and my podcast is available on Apple and Spotify, and
it's called Stories Beyond Orders.
Speaker 4 (36:27):
Absolutely, and I also made sure to put your email address.
Speaker 6 (36:32):
It's also running across it has run across the screen.
Speaker 4 (36:36):
So I just want to thank you so much for
coming on the show and sharing your journey with us.
Speaker 6 (36:43):
It has definitely been powerful.
Speaker 4 (36:46):
I was I was just excited when you reached out
and wanted to be on the show, and after seeing
your book and knowing your journey, it was it's just
great to have you here. Thank you so much for
joining us. Thank you alrighty, you take care and hopefully
we'll see you again when you do your ten X talk.
(37:09):
We'll bring you back to tell us about thanks. All
righty okay, So thanks again to my guests, Miss Ermie Hassan,
and now I'm just going to give you all a
little bit of what's going to be going on. I
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is choose Yourself, Identity, Power and Purpose and my guest
is Miss You're me Jssin and I tell you what.
I am honored to have her here because she is
coming to us from Canada to day. But before I
bring her on, let me just give you a little
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the Chartered Financial Analyst and Chartered Alternative Investment Analyst designations,
and she works in financial in the financial services industry
while using her platform to advocate for women's empowerment, identify identity,
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and self leadership. Her book, Discovering Your Identity, A Rebirth
from Interracial Struggle explores her journey as a third culture
woman navigating belonging, culture and self worth. Ermi also hosts
Stories Beyond Borders, which is a podcast that amplifies diverse
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voices on identity, migration, language, and the meaning of home.
It is such a pleasure to bring to the Successful
Women's show, Ermi Hassan Hi Hi, it is such a
pleasure to have you on the show. Thank you. I
know your schedule is probably really busy. Our goal to
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just be glad to hear some of your journey and
also talk about your book a little bit. So tell
me something you you know from your bio. I can
tell that you wear Mani hats, finance, professional, author, speaker,
podcast hosts. So how do you personally define success at
(04:47):
this stage in your life?
Speaker 5 (04:50):
I define success with one word, which is alignment. It's
something that took me and why to understand. I think
as a society, we think the success it's about career, reputation,
financial status, your perception that people have about you in
(05:12):
the society. But it realized for me it's about doing
the things that make me happy and doing the things
that I am most I feel most fulfilled, and for me,
it's really about finding things that are online with my
goals and values.
Speaker 4 (05:31):
Now, your book discovering your identity, Now I can tell
that it's deeply personal. What moment or realization inspired you
to finally tell your story.
Speaker 5 (05:46):
It was basically a couple of years ago when I
was invited to different podcasts and every single time they
would everyone was so fascinated about my story of being
at our culture key, and I saw this as an
opportunity to basically write my book. I didn't think it
was going to come at that moment in my life.
(06:08):
I didn't think it was going to come that soon.
I knew that I was going to write a book eventually,
but it came literally like four years ago, and so
I saw this as an opportunity to make those conversations
into a more concrete thing by writing my book, and
I so published it.
Speaker 6 (06:27):
Mm hmm wow.
Speaker 4 (06:29):
And you know what, like I said, it seems like
it's very personal to you because as a third world
or as a third culture woman, you've navigated, i know,
questions of belonging and self work. When did you begin
to see your identity not as a struggle but more
(06:51):
is strength.
Speaker 5 (06:54):
And even that it happened a couple of years ago,
I think I had to do a couple of internal
work and a lot of reflection, and a lot of
understanding of myself and my identity and how I wanted
to be portrayed in the world and what kind of
cultures I wanted to represent. And so after having a
lot of conversations, open dialogues, finding community of people similar
(07:20):
to me, I finally came to the realization with me
exposure to multiple cultures, it's it's an asset. It is
more like a strength, something that I can use as
my storytelling. And so me having exposure to, you know,
two cultures to begin with the Bengali Titanian one, it's
(07:40):
it's an asset. It's quite powerful, powerful, and it means
you know that I can speak to languages. It means
that I have exposure to two cultures. It means that
I have exposure to to different transitions to different cuisines,
and so that it was in that moment that I
saw this more like a like an asset and not
a weakness.
Speaker 6 (07:58):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
Now know we all know that many women they feel
pressure to kind of shrink back or maybe conformed to
fit into professional or cultural spaces. How did you learn
to choose yourself instead?
Speaker 5 (08:19):
I agree with what you just said. I feel like
we just shrink ourselves more often than not to fit
an ideology of what's considered to be the perfect daughter,
the perfect women, for women working for a company. But
for me, really, I came to a realization that I
(08:42):
didn't want to like follow that, and I put myself
first by basically putting boundaries and protecting my energy, protecting my.
Speaker 7 (08:56):
Aura.
Speaker 5 (08:56):
And it was at that moment that I decided that,
you know it, it's okay to think differently. It's okay
to uh to follow the unconventional, It's okay to put
yourself first. It's okay to follow your own path because
at the end of the day, you you cannot always
make everyone happy, and so it's more important that you
(09:17):
make yourself happy before making you know happy someone else.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
Absolutely, and that is definitely key and what you said
about you know, like I said, shrinking back, that's that's
something women tend to do a lot. And so I think,
you know, reading your book is would be a perfect
example to help them to move past and beyond that
(09:44):
type of uh you know, behavior conforming too and just
realize that, hey, you have to do what's best for you.
Speaker 7 (09:52):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 4 (09:54):
So what does self leadership mean to you and why
is it especially important for women today?
Speaker 6 (10:03):
Do you think.
Speaker 7 (10:05):
So? For me?
Speaker 5 (10:06):
When I think about leadership, I truly think that it's
all about impact, influence, and it's about sustainability. I think
that women are typically leading in a way where they're
creating impact and inspiring other women to do the same.
It's no longer about titles. I think I used to
(10:28):
have that notion that leadership is all about, you know,
climbing the corporate ladder and being the CEO of a company,
being the VP, the SVP of a company. And honestly,
that's how I used to think the success was going
to be that if I can become a manager of
a company, it means all of the successful women. But
I realized that I was developing those leadership skills even
(10:50):
by being in a lower level positions and it wasn't
you know about my title. Well, it was about the
fact that I was part of a community, building a community,
giving back to the community. It was about inspiring other people.
And that's how I started to see leadership. It's about
leading by example and being an inspiration to other people
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and making sure that you are creating an impact. And
when I think about big names, most important leaders that
for me were true, true leaders, that's what they did.
You know, Like if I think about Gandhi, who is
someone dra I very much admire. I think he was
a true leader, very charismatic, he was giving back to
the community, he was helping people. And so for me,
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that's what it means when it comes to when it
comes to leadership.
Speaker 4 (11:39):
Absolutely and you're absolutely correct when you say, you know,
a lot of people look at leadership as having a
certain title and that gives them that, you know, I'm
the leader, But it's really not about titles. It's about
you and how you handle yourself, the way that you
like you said, impact you make, and how you're you know,
(12:03):
the people that are looking at you, just what exactly
are they thinking of you as the person they want
to follow you know so, and and and all those things.
That plays a big part in in in leadership. And again,
like I said, a lot of people don't realize that
it's not about the title.
Speaker 6 (12:25):
That's it.
Speaker 7 (12:26):
That's it. For women.
Speaker 4 (12:31):
Who feel caught between cultures, expectations, are are certain roles.
What do you think is the first step toward reclaiming
their own authentic identity.
Speaker 5 (12:53):
I think it's about finding good allies, finding like partners
or trusted people. I call them partner meaning that I
always say, it's like any kind of like network that
you do. It's about partnership. And I think that finding allies,
finding mentors, finding finding people that advocate for yourself are
(13:17):
the first step to reclaim yourself because I think sometimes
we're the we are our worst critiques. We don't believe
in ourselves, we don't we don't trust ourselves. And I
think sometimes if you have the right kind of people
around you who support your ideas and who encourage you,
(13:39):
they will help you to find that power that it's
sitting there but it's waiting.
Speaker 7 (13:44):
To be used.
Speaker 5 (13:46):
And so for me, I think it's about finding the
right people around you mentors, allies, partners, people that advocate
for you. And I think it's also important to don't
just rely on your group of people. I think it's
okay to go out and find other kinds of people
that are like similar to you in terms of like
(14:07):
values and who has your same interests. So, for instance,
like there are so many like local events that happen
in every single city that you have, conferences, you have
social events, networking events, you know, especially now with international
rooms and you have you have so many just go
ahead and participate to some of these events and network
(14:28):
with like mine, like like like people. So that would
be my advice for for anyone who's like reclaiming, who's
looking to reclaim themselves.
Speaker 4 (14:40):
You know, I totally agree with that, because if you
stay in that same little box, then you know, where's
the stretch, Where's.
Speaker 6 (14:49):
How are you going to?
Speaker 4 (14:51):
You know know what how you should you know look
at In other words, have different perspectives too, because when
you meet different people from different places, like for example,
here I am, I'm here in Maryland and you're in Canada,
so we're kind of reached the cross here to network,
(15:13):
and that's pretty much what it's all about. And you
have to and I think That's why I like to
bring guests on from different areas of you know, around
the country, different things like that, because.
Speaker 6 (15:27):
It's always a different perspective.
Speaker 4 (15:29):
You can always see, uh, what how they look at things,
even with leadership, even with success. You know, everybody have
their own definition of those things, how leadership should be,
how success You know how to define success. But if
you stay in the same little box, then you're gonna
keep that same opinion. You won't have a you know,
(15:52):
you won't have that different perspective.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
That's it.
Speaker 5 (15:55):
I agree, and it's and I think that's how you
that's that's how you get like different ideas and different
interests when you get outside of that comfort zone and
you're willing to speak with someone that you would never
have spoken before.
Speaker 6 (16:09):
Yeah, exactly, exactly.
Speaker 4 (16:12):
Now, representation is a major theme in your work and
of that, So what do you believe telling our stories,
especially as women of color or immigrant women?
Speaker 6 (16:27):
Why is that so powerful?
Speaker 5 (16:32):
So for me, when I think about representation, it's about possibilities.
And I also think representation as leading by example and
being determined. So what I mean by that? And for me, representation,
like I said, it's very very important.
Speaker 7 (16:53):
But for me.
Speaker 5 (16:54):
Really, what it means is that I'm showing up for myself,
but I'm showing up for other people. If I do
not show up at all, I'm not making any kind
of changes. And I always make this example of what
happened to me. A couple of years ago, I went
to an interview and before going to this interview, I
(17:14):
looked into the management team and I was like trying
to see if there was diversity, if there was a representation,
and of course there's none of that. And so I
pointed this out during the interview, and I asked the interviewer,
like what do you do in terms of that, Like
why don't you have women in your team? Why don't
you have women of color in your team? And he
(17:36):
was quite honest with me, the interviewer, Like he was
really upfront about it, and he was like, you know,
it's not about us not wanting to have representation, it's
just that women do not apply. And let me tell
you this. I was a little bit turned off at
that moment, and I also didn't want to go to
that interview because I was like, there's no representation. What
am I going to do there? But I told myself
(17:57):
that not you know what, I'm still going to go
to this interview. If I been today got the job,
my face will be on the website. And that's how
I'm going to make that change going forward. Anyway, I
did not the interview went well, just to like say,
very briefly went well, but I decided not to go
with that because it was not aligned with me. But
(18:17):
for me, that's what it means representation, like making sure
that you are changing the story going forward by showing
up in places where representations is very much needed.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
Exactly because sometimes it just takes one to open that
door for the others to follow, you know, to be
able to go through the door. And as women, as
we've talked about the shrinking back, a lot of times,
we don't think we're qualified sometimes to go into those
places like you went. You know, you did the interview,
(18:56):
but when you ask that question that could have deterred
you from even doing an interview.
Speaker 6 (19:02):
Yeah, so that was.
Speaker 4 (19:05):
Good, you know that you you you definitely you went
on through it. Now your book, when you talk about
discovering your identity and different things like that, what made
you decide to write your story? What made you decide
to just put it in print.
Speaker 7 (19:24):
You know what, I like.
Speaker 5 (19:27):
I read another book prior to writing my book, and
when I was reading that book, I just felt the
person was telling my story like it was so relatable,
and I thought maybe maybe even my story could be
relatable to someone. So that's why I wanted to write it.
(19:47):
And I was going to different shows, to different many podcasts,
podcast shows where they were asking my story of being
a tour culture kid, and they were all very interested
in knowing my experience growing up in Italy, and so
I was like, you know what, let me just let
me just write it, you know, really, just write it
and see where this could go. I just didn't think
(20:09):
it was going to happen that that soon. And for me,
it was like journaling. It was digital journaling because I
was just typing it and I was talking about my childhood,
my teenage whose who was quite It was quite nice
as a process because I was relieving those moments as
if they happened yesterday, even like it's been twenty years,
(20:31):
and so it was it was quite a nice process.
And it's easy when you are talking about yourself, so
it was quite effortless. I would just sit down every
day and write it. And then I saw the actual
concrete creation. I was like, oh my gosh, I did it.
You know, it's I can go and tell people.
Speaker 4 (20:48):
Now now based on all of that, have you, you know,
ever struggled with, say, imposter syndrome, particularly being in the
inn that you're in, And if you did, how did
you work through it? Because again, like we talk about
a lot of women, sometimes they don't feel qualified to
be in those areas, in those spaces. So was that
(21:13):
something you ever struggled with?
Speaker 5 (21:16):
Okay, you know what, I was never familiar with this
word until I started to go to webinars and workshop
and they would like talk about imposter syndrome, and I
was like, what is that?
Speaker 7 (21:28):
What is that?
Speaker 5 (21:29):
But you know what, I think we're all a victim
of it. We just don't realize it. We just don't
realize it. And I think me too, like I always
tell myself, you know, I can do this, but then
I start second guessing myself. And that's when I realized that, Okay,
this is me, Like, you know, it's my imposter syndrome.
(21:49):
And I think every single person suffers from it, and
women especially, and we're always always like second guessing ourselves
and so me one thing that I did because I
am guilty of it, I try to work on it.
I try to work on it by reframing some of
(22:10):
the sentences, by writing like positive affirmations that I can
do it, by rewirying my brain to think otherwise. So
I use this little trick to make it like work.
And then the other thing that I am starting to
do is also like document a little bit of the
things that I accomplish, because sometimes I'm thinking, I don't
(22:31):
think I'm good enough for something, But then I'm like, no,
but I did all of those things and.
Speaker 6 (22:35):
All of that exactly.
Speaker 4 (22:37):
So that's a good point, you know, because I started
doing the same thing a little while ago, because just
like you, you know, even though you do things, but
until sometimes until you put it down, you think, oh, wow,
I did do that. You know I can't do that,
And because we do second guess ourselves as women, and
(22:59):
it's always well, what if I'm not good enough?
Speaker 6 (23:01):
Would if I fail?
Speaker 4 (23:02):
What if? What if?
Speaker 6 (23:04):
It's always you know, in the back of your.
Speaker 4 (23:06):
Head, what if? Or or you know, so you I
totally agree with you.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
I do that.
Speaker 4 (23:13):
I started doing the same thing, writing those accomplishments down
and believe it or not, at the end of the year.
I a few years, a couple of years ago, I
started making a video and I do the video at
the end of the year to put out there all
the things that I accomplished, my company account accomplished during
(23:34):
the year. And I mean, it's always to me so amazing.
It's like, dang, I didn't know all you know, did
all that during the year. But that is such a
good thing to do, believe it or not, because again,
when you when that imposter syndrome hit, you just pull
out your notes, pull out your you know whatever wherever
(23:56):
you're keeping that information, and just look at the fact
that yes, you are qualified, Yes you can do it.
You've done it, and this time you'll do it even better.
So that truly does work. It really does.
Speaker 5 (24:10):
And you know what I recently they I was like,
I was completely a form because I was supplying for
something and they were asking me, do you have any
experience in hosting events? And in my manner, I was like, yeah,
I do, but I don't know how many I have.
But then they asked me to list them and I
started to writing them down. I was like, oh, damn, no,
(24:32):
I do have a lot.
Speaker 7 (24:33):
Why am I thinking like I did not have any exactly?
Speaker 4 (24:38):
And you know, that's one of the things when I
did my teedics talk and I said in there and
this is because it was from the Harvard Business Review,
and it literally said that about men, how they will
apply for position when they feel they may be only
sixty percent qualify for it. But a woman will look
(24:59):
at the same position and feel she has to be
one hundred percent qualified before she will even apply for it,
which is such you know, a big expect cause see
they get in the position and they think, I'll just
learn as I go. But we feel like we have
to walk into it knowing everything. And that's not true.
Speaker 5 (25:22):
That's right, And I think it's it's the way we
have been conditioned to, you know, to be perfect, always perfect,
and because of that, I think we just walk away
when we don't meet all the requirements, all the requirements.
Speaker 4 (25:38):
Sometimes we talk ourselves out of something that could very
well be you know, what we're good at, you know,
and have them good at, and just don't we just
don't recognize it.
Speaker 7 (25:50):
Yeah, I agree, I agree.
Speaker 4 (25:55):
We're your podcast Stories Beyond Borders. It explores identity migration,
and the meaning of home.
Speaker 6 (26:04):
Correct.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
What has surprised you the most from some of the
stories that you've heard.
Speaker 7 (26:14):
Everything, everything, Because.
Speaker 5 (26:19):
Some of the stories that I that I listened to
were quite surprising and at the same time unrealistic, because
before hearing these stories, I was like, no, this kind
of happen nowadays. But I did, like I used to
like think that some some some of the reasons why
people live their countries, which you just see it on
(26:41):
like on on on movies, like in the movies. There
was this particular guest who told me that she had
to leave her home country because of like war reasons
back in the days. And she was telling me about
this episode where like she just took her teddy Bear
and then like she just like left the country with
(27:03):
her with her mother. And I think that that was
just happening in the movies, Like I was like, it's
happened in the movies, but the fact that she told
me that it really happened to her, and I was like, Wow,
that's that's like, that's that's really like and I like not,
you cannot imagine something like that. So for me, that
was quite an eye opener. And then there was another
(27:28):
another guest who also talked about her being by racial
and how you know, like she was half white and
half black, and how you know she felt privileged because
she looked white, but sometimes you know, she wished, she
wished that she looked black to be closer to that
the other part of her identity. And a lot of
these stories are really relatable too, Like I invited people
(27:51):
who are very similar to me, Like they grew up
in one country, but the parents come from another country,
and even though the countries could be different, go through
the same struggles, you know, trying to fit in, trying
to look alike, you know, trying to be like that,
you know, those people that are living in the same
countries as us. So it's been a nice experience so far.
(28:15):
I enjoy, you know, interviewing people, enjoy hearing their immigration stories.
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Now, have any of the conversations that you've had on
your podcast, has any of those stories stayed with you
or shifted your own perspective?
Speaker 5 (28:34):
Definitely. One thing that I am much more aware is
that every single human being has a story to share.
And one thing that I'm also much much more aware
is our names we have. You know, each one of
us has a different name, and sometimes people ask me
(28:55):
how to pronounce my name.
Speaker 7 (28:56):
Like a little bit like you said at.
Speaker 5 (28:59):
The beginning, I'm a bit more mindful too about like
pronouncing people's names, because I feel like when you are
mispronouncing someone's name, you are in a way not disrespecting.
But I'm trying to find a better word for this,
but you're like, you're not showing respect towards the person's story,
(29:24):
and you know.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
And then again, some people, I think they just they
may not feel comfortable asking you how to pronounce it.
Speaker 6 (29:34):
But I for me, I always do it.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
If it's the name that I'm not that familiar with,
I do it because I'm coming on air and we're
putting it out there, so I want to make sure
I'm putting it out there correctly. Now, I think there
was only one guest that I had that her name.
It was just a tongue twister, you know, it was.
(29:59):
It was just hard for me to pronounce it correctly.
But I still try to make that effort to do
that because I knew just looking at the name. I
couldn't just come on air and automatically think I knew.
Speaker 5 (30:12):
What was yeah, yeah, for sure.
Speaker 7 (30:15):
And I'm not like I know this.
Speaker 5 (30:16):
Sometimes it's it could be like a you know, an
honest mistake. We don't do it on purpose, but I
realized that it's important to ask people's name before because
names do carry a meaning, they do carry a history story,
you know, they do carry a lot, and sometimes behind
the name there is really a lot. And so for me,
(30:39):
it's something that I'm a bit more mindful now. And
I'm very curious now when it comes to two names
that I'm not used to. I know there is there's
so much that this person can share about themselves.
Speaker 4 (30:50):
Well, it's it's amazing that you say that, because my
name I always felt that it wasn't that uncommon, But
you wouldn't believe how many people pronounced mine, well one,
because they assume that it's supposed to be pronounced a
certain way when they look at it, and you know,
(31:11):
it's not. It can be pronounced several different ways, but
they always assume the I guess their version of what
they want it to be. So, you know, I get
that too. I just correct them and then let it
go and you know, and hope that they remember, Okay,
that's the way it's supposed to be pronounced. But yeah,
(31:33):
I totally understand, and I definitely think that if you
see someone's name and you know you can't pronounce it,
you really should ask, you know, out of respect that
you like you said it, because you want to make
sure that you're getting it right.
Speaker 6 (31:47):
So I'm glad. I hope that I will.
Speaker 4 (31:55):
So tell me, looking back, what would you tell your
younger self who was still searching for where she belonged?
Speaker 5 (32:10):
I think I will definitely tell her, like, give yourself
permission to be whoever you want.
Speaker 4 (32:24):
Yeah, wow, Okay, now your book again. I keep going
back to your book because I just think it's so fascinating.
Speaker 7 (32:34):
What do you.
Speaker 4 (32:35):
Hope women will take away after reading your book or
listening to your work?
Speaker 6 (32:42):
What do you hope they'll take away from that?
Speaker 5 (32:44):
To accept themselves for who they are and embrace every
single aspect of their identity, and.
Speaker 7 (32:54):
To basically.
Speaker 5 (32:58):
Pursue in life which don't have to be necessarily what
society expects them to be, so to put themselves first,
to follow their dreams, to big, to dream big.
Speaker 6 (33:12):
Yeah okay.
Speaker 4 (33:14):
And just to make sure the listening audience know the
title of the book, let me give the title again.
It is I want to make sure I got it right.
It's this Her book is discovering your Identity, a rebirth
from interracial struggle. Is that the entire I gave it
(33:37):
the entitle entire time. Okay, that's what it is, a rebirth,
discovering your identity, a rebirth from interracial struggle. So I
just wanted to make every sure that everybody know since
we keep kind of alluding to the book that remember
with the title, and I'm going to type it in
the chat so that it can go across screen and
(34:01):
be on there too. So finally, what's next for you?
And how do you hope to continue empowering women to
live boldly and unapologetic.
Speaker 5 (34:13):
So definitely, I do have a lot of things in mind,
and there are a lot of things that are in
the in the progress. So I definitely want to continue
volunteering and being part of the organization Women and Leadership
as the culture for the Manchelle chapter and create events
and community over there for the women in Montreal. I
(34:34):
do want to continue mentoring. I am a big advocate
when it comes to mentoring and sharing your wisdom with
the other women, and I think that happens really through
conversations from one woman to another woman. And the other
thing that I want to do and you like did it,
which is to deliver ethitics. Eventually it's my it's my
(34:54):
big dream is to be on the stage and speak.
So I've been, uh, I've been working hard for Dowin,
but it's been quite challenging, I have to say challenging
so far.
Speaker 4 (35:07):
Hey, that look okay, now let's not go back into that, uh,
that syndrome again.
Speaker 6 (35:12):
You'll be able to do it. It can be done,
so we know it can be done.
Speaker 4 (35:17):
So that's what we're going to keep thinking that you
will get that done.
Speaker 6 (35:22):
So tell me if you have one piece of advice.
Speaker 4 (35:27):
To leave with our viewers and our listeners, what would
that advice be?
Speaker 8 (35:33):
One piece of advice We need to invest your time
in getting knowledge, to continue studying and to.
Speaker 5 (35:48):
Have a life as a lifelong learner.
Speaker 6 (35:51):
I've heard that.
Speaker 4 (35:53):
And what if if our viewers and listeners wanted to
get a copy of your book, where can they get it?
And also if they wanted to reach out to you,
how can they do so?
Speaker 5 (36:06):
Yes, So my book is called Discovering Your Identity Reverse
from Inteition Struggle. It's available on Amazon and if people
want to connect with me, I have a LinkedIn profile
called Omeho Sign. I have a YouTube channel called Sign
and my podcast is available on Apple and Spotify, and
it's called Stories Beyond Orders.
Speaker 4 (36:27):
Absolutely, and I also made sure to put your email address.
Speaker 6 (36:32):
It's also running across it has run across the screen.
Speaker 4 (36:36):
So I just want to thank you so much for
coming on the show and sharing your journey with us.
Speaker 6 (36:43):
It has definitely been powerful.
Speaker 4 (36:46):
I was I was just excited when you reached out
and wanted to be on the show, and after seeing
your book and knowing your journey, it was it's just
great to have you here. Thank you so much for
joining us. Thank you alrighty, you take care and hopefully
we'll see you again when you do your ten X talk.
(37:09):
We'll bring you back to tell us about thanks. All
righty okay, So thanks again to my guests, Miss Ermie Hassan,
and now I'm just going to give you all a
little bit of what's going to be going on. I
am honored, of course, to share a continually share that
(37:32):
I'm officially one of the founding women on the empower
Her Wall by she Rises Studios in partnership with Phoenix TV,
a global movement of showcasing two hundred trail blazing women
on one powerful digital wall inside Allegiance Stadium in Las Vegas, Nevada.
(37:55):
So on February twenty second, twenty twenty six, the empower
Her Wall will be unveiled, and when the lights rise
and the cameras roll, the world will witness something extraordinary.
It will see two hundred women standing together, not in competition,
(38:15):
not in division, but in unity, equality and shared prosperity.
I'm also really really excited about the Successful Women Radio
and TV show. As you know, we were on the
feed Spots list of the top one hundred best career,
(38:36):
mindset and working women podcasts, and that now we have
gone from number sixteen on the list. Guess what to
number eleven. Yay. I wish I had some streamers to
put out there. I'm telling you that's not bad if
I say so myself. So you know, this list highlights
(38:56):
podcasts that empower women to build success successful careers, navigate
workplace challenges, and find true fulfillment in work and life.
And I'm honored to be among those that are on
that list. And as an example is our guest that
was on here today telling us about her journey of
(39:18):
how she did the things that she did. So those
are the types of things that we want to continue
to bring on the show and share with you all.
Don't forget to make sure to check out my book,
Show Up to Rise Up Explore the Transformative Power of
a Positive Mindset, which achieved bestseller status on Amazon in
(39:40):
the Women in Business category.
Speaker 6 (39:42):
It's also available.
Speaker 4 (39:44):
On Amazon and to get the book, you can put
my name in the search box and it will come
right up. Or you can email me directly at Madlin
at ex WSI dot com, or go on my I
should say, go on my website which is www dot
(40:05):
EXWSI dot com, click on the Success Bookstore and you'll
be able to also purchase the book from there. And
if you have not viewed my TEDx talk that I
did in Vancouver, Canada, make sure to do so. The
topic was show Up to Rise Up, and you can
watch it on YouTube. Just put my name in the
(40:29):
search box, or you can send me an email at
info at EXWSI dot com and I will send you
the direct link so that you can make sure to
check it out. Because I'm always excited to see that
It's still going out there. People are still viewing it.
(40:49):
It's at two hundred and twenty six eight hundred and
fourteen views, and of course my goal is to reach
one million plus views. So I do want to thank
you all in advance for your support and continuing to share,
to like and commenting on the videos. So make sure
(41:12):
you keep continuing to push it out there. I'm also
a contributing writer to the on It magazine where I
share nuggets and resources every month. Ow It magazine is
a resource for personal and professional and business development, so
make sure you get your free subscription and to do so,
(41:36):
you can also contact me Madlin at EXWSI dot com
for the details on getting your free description to own
It magazine. Again, I want to I would like to
thank my guests Ms. Irma Hassan, and my viewers and
(41:58):
my listeners for joining me today. This is a successful
women's show. I am your host, Doctor Madelin Ann Lewis,
and if you would like to reach out to me,
you can email me at info at EXWSI dot com
or go to my website www dot exwsi dot com
(42:20):
and while you're there, you can download my free three
part video series on three things every woman should do
to position herself for executive leadership. I would also like
you to sign up for my online course which is
Cracked the Career Code how to Lead with Confidence, Charisma
(42:42):
and Credibility. To sign up for the course, you can
go to www dot crackthcreercode dot com. You can also
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helping women to accelerate the path to success. Thank you
again for joining me. I love you all to life
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