November 21, 2025 • 28 mins
It’s a massive Saturday on Weekend Breakfast with Chris & Amy! The show kicks off with Schoolies nostalgia, awkward teenage heartbreak stories, and a heated mums-group debate about whether parents should be asking babies for “consent” before changing nappies.
From there, the team dives into summer cricket season, childhood sports memories, the strange joy of watching Channel 9’s cricket opener, and why some athletes just don’t have the personality they used to. Amy also shares a wildly effective parenting hack involving a missing $100 note… and how praising the “suspect” might have solved her problem a little too quickly.
Then it’s time for relationships, dating anxiety, and Amy’s newly single friend — which leads perfectly into today’s special guest:
✨ Guest Highlight: LJ from Unwritten Dating ✨
Website: unwrittendating.com.au
LJ — matchmaker, dating expert, and founder of Unwritten Dating — joins the show with fresh insight into modern romance.
She breaks down:
• Why people are burned out from dating apps
• The surprising rise of AI-written dating messages
• The biggest dating red flags and deal breakers
• Why lifestyle and values matter more than looks
• Why flirting is becoming a “lost skill”
• How she screens applicants and gives post-date feedback
• Why singles are craving in-person connection again
Chapters & Timestamps
00:00 – Intro: Saturday vibes, Schoolies nostalgia & old heartbreaks
03:00 – The Big Mums Group Debate: Should babies give “consent” for nappy changes?
05:45 – Cricket Season Returns: Why Amy hates it & Chris loves it
09:00 – Amy’s $100 Parenting Mystery: The genius hack that exposed the culprit
12:40 – Did the child learn a lesson… or become a klepto?
13:20 – Amy’s newly single friend & the dangers of “all eggs in one basket”
13:35 – Guest: LJ from Unwritten Dating joins the show
14:00 – Why matchmaking? LJ’s story, dating app burnout & AI messaging
15:25 – Screening clients, height filters, lifestyle matches & quick-fire compatibility
17:00 – Values, deal breakers & why friendship forms the best relationships
18:30 – Dating during COVID: The rise of two-walks-a-day dating
19:35 – The Andrew Tate problem & giving post-event feedback
20:49 – How to join Unwritten Dating (unwrittendating.com.au)
21:27 – Flirting has become a lost art — why modern daters struggle with signals
22:00 – Are more women signing up than men? LJ answers
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Transcript
Episode Transcript
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
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Speaker 2 (00:23):
Yes, sir, let's got good morning that remains to be
seen Chris Page and Amy Gerard in the morning. Hello, Hello,
good morning. Have you Saturday? How are you doing? You're
right good?
Speaker 3 (00:38):
I'm good.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
How are you better for seeing you?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Oh? Sweet?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Better being away from my wife and children. Good to
be here. Shout out to any of the kids out
there who are after schoolies starts this weekend.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Wow, that's still a thing, is it?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Yeah? I love schoolies.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
What did you do for schoolies last year?
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Not jet star fly?
Speaker 3 (01:00):
You're a sicker? You were toully?
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Were you every year? It's the best? No, you don't
you My son's out, guns out single it.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
God.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
I did the cruise. No, I know, I did the cruise.
You know, the cruise that went to like New Caledonia
and I don't know where else Vanuwatu.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
I think it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
I had a boyfriend on the cruise.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Really, I was gonna say, it's okay if you have
a boyfriend for schoolies, but if he's there, that ruins
the fun a little bit, doesn't What did you do
Gold Coast.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Of course you did.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Of course I did. It's the best good time. Yeah. No,
I was newly No, sorry, I was single. I was
newly single and heartbroken. Oh and honestly I look back
at it and I just want to grab seventeen year
old Chris and shake him and go wake up, you idiot. No,
don't worry about her. Yeah, it was my first life
(01:51):
that hits hard. So I was sort of moping around
at schoolies and lose. There was this really girl called
Jess as well, who like, no, there wasn't no. We
met these like friends of friends, and like she was
there and she was wearing these leather pants and got
into bed with me and I didn't do anything. Oh god,
you don't know anything when you're seventeen, do you?
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Kids?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Have fun? Be safe, but have fun and avoid Bonnie Blue.
Because Bonnie Blue, the notorious entertainer, has been spotted at
the Australian Embassy in London begging for a Australian visa
because she got banned from coming out and filming her
content at schoolies.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
If Australia lets her in, I'm leaving. Honestly, surely they're
going to say no.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
I don't know, she's applied, she's been to the embassy
like that, straight to the thing.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Keep that absolute dirt bag out of this country.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
I just look back and think, oh, well, no one
lies on their deathbed wishing they'd had less sex at schoolies,
you know.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Well, unless they're lying on their deathbed because of them.
Because yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Every week we like to put our finger on the
pulse of what the mums of Australia are talking about.
The best place to find that out is inside that
secret society of the Facebook mums group. So let's check
it out. What's the big issue in the Facebook mums groups.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Hey mammas, I've just read something that's really frustrating, especially
as a pregnant mum.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
To be number three's on the way.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Some experts and childcare centers are now saying that we
should ask our babies, oh God, for consent before changing
their nappies, as in, I'm going to change your nappy now?
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Is that okay? How's a four month old replying to you?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I've heard of like no means no before, like googo
means googo? Or does Google mean no?
Speaker 1 (03:39):
And look, I understand teaching respect and boundaries, but seeking
permission from a screaming newborn who's sitting in poo just
feels ridiculous. I feel like asking a baby for consent
is as good as the poo in the nappy? Right?
Speaker 3 (03:52):
Does anyone agree with it?
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Big issue? Okay with you? On teaching respect boundaries. Consent
absolutely very important once you're a sentient being. Babies don't know,
I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
There are a lot well exactly right.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
And also consent is about asking if it's okay, because
usually they can't do said thing themselves, right, Like I
wouldn't ask my two year old, hey, can I wipe
your bum? Because if he's turning around saying no, guess what,
I'm gonna wipe it anyway?
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Don't you boys just demand that from you anyway? I
just get called to the bathroom, Come and wipe my bum, Mom.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Mom, wipe my bum?
Speaker 1 (04:35):
And I go in there and he's touching his toes
and yeah, So that is that is a byproduct of
being a parent. Now daycares, that's part of the job
looking after your child. If I turned up to a
daycare and my kid was sitting in a pooey nappy
because at six months they couldn't have said yes please,
I'm going to be furious.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Sorry, he's been wearing that nappy all day. He's fly
blown now because because he didn't give consent to the
educators to change his nappy.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Like this is absolutely ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I think where I would always ask, can send if
I've ever got a girlfriend or friends over or anything
like that. I used to go to a mom's group
every Tuesday, and sometimes I'd say, oh, you know, I'm
taking my two boys to the toilet, or does another
All the kids want to come at the same time,
and so if a kid needs some help, you know,
wiping their backside, I'll always say, do you want some help?
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Do you need me to help you? Yes? Please?
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Of course I'm always gonna ask that first, because a
lot of kids can do it themselves, sure, but as newborns,
babies under one, they can't give consent.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
So this is just ridiculous, big issue.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
I got nothing else. What you said was perfect, Thank you,
well done. I'll shut up. I said we were going
to talk about something that women find horrible and painful,
but that men love.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
I'm not going to say what I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
I'm going to play you something and you'll have an
immediate reaction to it, okay, because it means it's summer
in Australia. You look blank, Come on, you don't know
the cricket music.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Oh god, cricket. It was that cricket music.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
That's the Channel nine cricket music. Summer's here in the
cricket starting. The ashes started yesterday, Amy a.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Crowd.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
I love talk.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
I hate cricket.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah, Americans and stuff that don't understand. They go, oh wow,
how long does a game go for? And you go
five days? What go? And sometimes there's not a result.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Yes, look, I don't mind watching most sports, but cricket
is probably at the bottom.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Really yeah, I just find it really boring.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
I get that with the Test matches? What about the
twenty twenty when.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
So the only cricket games that I don't mind watching
the twenty twenty.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
It's changed a lot over the years, though, do you.
I mean when you were growing up, right, even if
you didn't like watching the cricket, I bet you in
high school could have like named the Australian cricket team
because it was just stars with like Adam Gilchris, Matthew Hayden. Yes,
Adam Ricky Ponting.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Yes, Ponting does a really good wine.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Now, yeahd of Shane Warn.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
I've heard of Shane Warn.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
The only person I know from the Australian cricket team
now would be Steve wa.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
Oh wait, I mean Steve Smith. Oh that's right, Stephen
Mark Waugh. They used to live around the corner from me.
They were in the Australian Cricket Stephen Macaw.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
I'm just saying from one to eleven it was just
star stars and that this is nothing against the current
Australian team because they're a great team. But there's just
I bet so many people couldn't name like five of them.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Yeah, And isn't it funny you'd think that you would
because of social media.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
You'd think there, why is that?
Speaker 2 (07:44):
I think that some of the characters of the game
are missing? And I mean I mentioned Shane Warn like
he was so much more than a cricketer, wasn't he
He was an icon? Yeah, so people know him, whereas
you can't imagine Marcus Labushane prancing around in a London
apartment with a giant inflatable penis.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Well, he was a bit of a He was a
ragamuffin a bit of a cheeky little sausage behind the scenes, wasn't.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
He he was?
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Which is what we like a bit of personality.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Now the Australian cricket team are gonna ring up and go.
Are you saying all of us have no personality?
Speaker 3 (08:17):
You reckon? They listen to this show?
Speaker 2 (08:19):
No, I don't reckon. They're probably getting ready for day
two today. Actually, abs, can I tell you one great
thing about watching the cricket there's a commentator called Kerry O'Keefe.
Have you heard of him? No, his nickname is Skull
because he sort of looks like he's a bald guy.
And no, he looks like a skull. And he's got
the best laugh. He tells jokes in the commentary and
(08:39):
let me play his laugh.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
Come on you, Oh my god, he sounds like Dr
Evil speaking.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Yeah, he tells like these great or great slash bad jokes.
Gives the punch lighter the.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
That's the best thing you've got to offer me about cricket. Yeah,
arrest my case. I've got a really good parenting hacked.
It has been tried tested and it absolutely works. Sure
hit me, Okay, So one hundred dollars night went missing
from my bag.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
You had one hundred dollar not have you been near
the casino. That's the only way my wife forgot. If
she sees a hundred dollar note, she's like, when were
you with the casino?
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Anyway, one hundred dollar note in my bag and it
went missing. Now I had my suspicions. I kind of
knew how it would be. My kids love to rifle
around in my bag. Charlie's usually looking for lip gloss,
the boys looking for gum. I was speaking to my
very good friend Jen, my parenting educated do I do
the Beyond the Chaos podcast with? And I was telling
her and I said, you know, I'm going to go
home and threaten them with Sanna not coming. And what
(09:50):
I like to do is line them up in a
line and say, right, no one's leaving this room until
someone confesses.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Yeah, you go like usual suspects of it.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Yeah, go all like disciplinary, like authoritarian style.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
But she goes, can I just give you one little tip?
And I try it. Obviously she's a pro.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
She said, what I would do is grab the child,
I won't name names who you think has taken the.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Note, and say, listen, Bobby, I'm not saying who it was,
but pull them aside and say, hey, I actually need
your help.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
You have really, really super sleuth eyes. You're so good
at finding things. Now, one hundred dollar note.
Speaker 3 (10:33):
It's gone missing. It was in my bag.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
I think I might have taken it out, but I've
lost it and I can't find it anywhere. Do you
think you don't have to tell the others because I
know how good you are? Yeah, could you give me
a hand and try and find it? Because I know
how good you are at finding things. And this child
of mine, without hesitation, skipped upstairs, didn't even pause when
(11:02):
they were up there. Like I in my head, I
was like, if you're smart, you're taking at least five
ten minutes.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
You're rustling around.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
This child came downstairs within ten seconds.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
Yeah, handed over the note.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Actually, this child came waving the note above its head.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
I found it.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
I found it, And so what I did was I
offered said child, praise.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Oh my god, I knew.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
That you were the person for the job. You're so clever.
And this child was so proud of themselves.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
That's a good one. They feel, they feel empowered, they
feel a bit special and hopefully as well that child
now goes on it feels better to do the right
thing because he was Obviously he felt great going I
helped Gee.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
You're saying, hey, what makes you think it was one
of the boys.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
You told me it was Bobby, so he knows. Hey,
this feels really good doing the right thing and helping mum.
I bet it felt a hell of a lot better
than stealing one hundred bucks.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Out of my course here's my only thing.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
And I felt like it was a really successful win
from a parenting perspective. And Jen has assured me that
kids taking things is very normal.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
It's all very age appropriate.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Obviously he's not twenty stealing car from car yards.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
Or anything like that.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
But I do wonder was there a lesson learned there,
like did he know that stealing was wrong?
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Or has he gone you know what, Oh, that feeling
of helping mum was great.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
I'm going to steal everything.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
I'm go go to addressing it. He's going to have
like a magpie's nest there under his bed with all
the shiny things.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
He's going to be stealing my engagement ring. He's going
to be stealing like important shoes.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
Because if I get that much praise for one hundred bucks,
imagine what I'll get for the diamond ring.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
It was a bit of an eye opener for me
because I've tried the other approach many a time and
it's got me nowhere. Yeah, and I've ended up just
screaming the house down and then finding the stolen goods
in someone's room or eventually someone's been caught out. Whereas
this was a really nice way of acquiring the money
back without me having to fly off the handle.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
So I feel like it was a win.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
So far, so good. Come back to me on whether
or not that you get the long term results or
whether or not he now goes full Clepto's his space. Also,
did he say, mummy, why is the note rolled up?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
No, he didn't say that because it wasn't.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
We heard Amy's friend has just gotten out of a
long marriage and you're very concerned about her putting all
her eggs in one basket straight away.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I think it's a good idea for her to date
around and maybe just have some fun.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Date around is a nice way of putting it. You
may have heard of the website Unwritten Dating dot com.
Dot au LJ is the expert matchmaker from Unwritten Dating,
and she's here in the studio with this, Hey LJ.
Speaker 3 (13:48):
Moor, not how did you get into matchmaking?
Speaker 5 (13:52):
Because I was single for five years before I'm at
my fiance. Everyone suddenly thinks you're a dating expert because
you're single for a long time, and I went on
a lot of dates in that time. So if people like,
why don't you become a dating coach or do matchmaking?
Then it came up with the idea that if I
do dating events, yes, then that would be brilliant because
then I can get the people to do the matchmaking.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Yes.
Speaker 5 (14:12):
So and also, I mean so many people. You've probably
got friends that are so sick of like burnt out
from the dating apps, oh the app.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Like the Tinder, and just so much disappointment that comes from.
Speaker 5 (14:22):
Like they really are completely like they definitely served a
purpose one hundred percent. I met my partner on a
dating app. Not against them, but I think they've definitely
served their purpose and people are so burnt out from
them that they're ready to meet in person, ready to
connect again. So that's how it started.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Because I've got a girlfriend who is incredibly successful, beautiful girl,
and she just refuses to get on the apps. She says,
I don't want to talk to somebody via my phone.
I want to meet them in person.
Speaker 5 (14:49):
I think also now, unfortunately you don't even know if
you're talking to them because so many people openly admit
that they use AI, Like so many people say, oh,
I'm just really busy, I'm really time poor, Like I
haven't really got time to like properly replied to messages,
so I just literally like put it in AI. So
you don't even know. Then if you're chatting to like,
don't even know their personality.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
You could just have two robots. You could have won
on either end as well because amy. And the other
issue is the photos because amy is prejudiced against short men.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
I am not. My first boyfriend was short of you.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
He was a short king. But you get a five
to three guy that has photos with other very short
people and hides it. But you're the human safeguard as
far as people lying or pretending to be something they're not,
So do you You will meet the people before they
go to your dating event and interview them.
Speaker 5 (15:39):
So with the dating event, everybody will fill out a
questionnaire before they arrive. And I think people like that
because it's showing their intention. I think one of the
issues nowadays is so many people are flaky.
Speaker 3 (15:49):
They're ghosting.
Speaker 5 (15:50):
They might meet someone and it says on their profile
looking for long time relationship, but actually you meet them
and they're not. They're like, oh, actually, I just want
someone casual. And then with the match making one hundred percent,
I meet everybody who is on the matchmaking database, so
that I actually, yeah, I know that they're genuine and
know who they say they are and get to kind
of feel their personality, style, lifestyle. So important that people
(16:11):
match their lifestyle and values.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Of course, what are the most important questions that may
seem trivial, but you know from experience, are real deal
break is it? I mean, I know like Dog and
Cat People is always a big one. Is that the
type of movies you're like, is it politics?
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (16:28):
What are the deal breakers there?
Speaker 5 (16:29):
I ask a lot of like quick five questions.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
So do you want kids?
Speaker 5 (16:33):
I mean that's a big one.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
That's a big one.
Speaker 5 (16:35):
Also if you if you mind meeting someone who's already
got kids, you know, things.
Speaker 3 (16:38):
Like this, that's big.
Speaker 5 (16:39):
Also, Yeah, quick five questions, like you know out of
this you know would you go on a snow holiday
at beach holiday or a city break, you know, just
to kind of because I feel like when you ask
someone that it opens up to them saying, oh, actually,
I really love city breaks because I really love galleries
and ballet and the arts. And then if you get
someone who absolutely loves skiing and the snow and like winter,
and that's something as well, like it's a passion that
(17:01):
you'd love. You don't have to, but it'd be nice to
share that with somebody. And then I also put like
manifesting in the questions, so I say, how do you
manifest and visualize your weekend with your person in the future.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
What do you want out of the relationship?
Speaker 5 (17:15):
Yeah, how would you see that with that person? So
that sort of thing. If they like going to the markets,
or if they like, you know, vineyards, because it's someone
gonna love going to vineyards and who doesn't marry foodie
who doesn't drink.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
A wine tasting is the perfect place because you can
actually watch someone tasting wine and see if they spit
it out or not. And LJ you mentioned before. When
you're setting people up, one of the questions you ask
about is people's values. But how do you drill into that?
What do you ask to find out what someone's values are?
Speaker 5 (17:47):
I ask them about their values, But then I say
to them, think about your past relationships, even your friendships
as well, your friendships and your past relationships, because often
that's where you'll get your values from, isn't it because
you've learned how you want more communication in your next relationship.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
And I was always brought up and I remember, you know,
the whole saying, you always what the same is it.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
Test driving a car?
Speaker 3 (18:11):
No, not to storry car? Opposites are track? Oh yes, yeah,
what's your stance on that?
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Because I actually feel like the most successful relationships I've
had were actually quite similar.
Speaker 5 (18:21):
I always say, just literally get to know each other
as if you're making a new friend. Yeah, because that
kind of like takes away the pressure of thinking is
this my future husband? But also I really think that
most relationships are built on, like the best relationships are
built on friendship. So with that whole opposites attract thing. Actually,
if you think about your best friend, you and your
best mate like the same things, don't you And you
(18:43):
do the same things and you want to like go
to see the same gigs and career the same music
see LJS.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Sort of the middleman or middle lady here. And because
you put in the hard work of dating a bunch
of people. So this is for people who don't have
time to go out and sleep with hundreds of people,
hundreds of.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
People like nine.
Speaker 5 (19:01):
But it's a numbers game. I've said that all the
time when I was single, I sometimes in COVID. A
lot of people say it was a hard time to
day in COVID, but I found the opposite, and it
was the easiest time.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Because no one had anything else.
Speaker 5 (19:12):
No I had anything to do, so you couldn't kind
of be like, oh no, I'm busy. Well, so I
went on several dates in COVID, like one or two
a day, like just walks.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
You mentioned COVID dating, and I just had the first
thought of you know, when you meet someone and you know,
remember COVID was crazy because people were been divided, and
you go, oh, hi, I'm l J, I'm JOHNN. So
are you vaccinated? Are there any of those sort of
curveball questions that are in the questionnaire that basically just
put a line through a people. I mean, like I'm
just instant read do you love Donald Trump? You know
(19:44):
you were against vaccinations?
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Like?
Speaker 2 (19:46):
Are there those sort of hard lines?
Speaker 5 (19:48):
I don't put them in, but I will say it's
At one event in particular, there was there was one
gentleman who started talking about Andrew Tate at the table
quite positively. Yeah, And a few of the girls came
up and said, can you believe he's talking about this?
And but I yeah, I don't put that in the questionnaire.
Maybe I should, do you think I should? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (20:07):
Do you like Andrew tape content?
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (20:10):
No, you will not becoming to any events just.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
On that bloke who was talking about Andrew Tate. I
believe another part of it is that you will give
feedback to people after it based, so you'll do post
interviews after it. So for a guy like that, the
fact that the women said that to you, is that
a situation where you'd go to him afterwards and go, hey, understand, Oh,
I definitely do. Maybe lay off Andrew tATu.
Speaker 5 (20:32):
No, I definitely do. If there's something that has come
up and it hasn't happened to be fair very often,
maybe like twice, and I've been you know, had sixty
more than sixty events, now, but I definite would. Yeah,
I would go to them and say, oh, you know, that
might not be very appropriate. Yeah, And then with the matchmaking,
once I've matched them and they've gone on their date,
then yeah, I will talk to both parties and I'll
(20:53):
give feedback.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
And so if I'm a single and Chris is a
single guy, how do we get in contact with you?
Speaker 3 (20:59):
Like, do you have a website where you jump on?
Speaker 5 (21:01):
Yeah, there's a website Unwritten Dating dot com dot au,
and then on Instagram as well, where I've put all
the events that are happening. I've got something coming up
called Unwritten Love Lounge, which is all about meeting like
flirting coaches, dating coaches, sex coaches, like therapists, because I
find that a lot of people will go on a
date actually and then I'll get the feedback from them,
(21:23):
and both of them will say, oh, yeah, I thought
she was great, but I just don't think she's into me.
And then she'll say, oh no, I thought it was
really great, And they haven't given off the vibe to
each other because they're so out of practice or never
were in practice about flirting like.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
A soft little armstroke. I'm actually a great flirter. Yes,
my husband's discuss.
Speaker 5 (21:42):
Oh yeah, I'm like, I'm just very tactile with people.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
I want to ask one last question.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Do you actually find that you get a lot more
interests from females than you do males or is.
Speaker 5 (21:52):
It a fifty to fifty split or I think the
I think with the events, a lot of females will
come sometimes with girlfriends or they're just you know, so
they're off the apps. Now so many of the amazing
like gorgeous, intelligent, smart women. I'm so done with the apps.
So yeah, for sure, I will say that the females
will come forward like quicker, but then yeah, but then
(22:15):
now the men, you know, I feel like the tides turning.
Even in the last year that I've been doing it,
I feel like it's definitely changing now where men are
more upfcoming and they're just kind of getting themselves out
there and hopefully they know that the apps aren't.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
The always the inter Well, I'm one hundred percent going
to tell I've actually got two girlfriends.
Speaker 3 (22:32):
I'm going to tell them to jump on your website.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Yes Unwritten Dating dot com dot au, get involved.
Speaker 5 (22:37):
And hopefully I can find them love. Yes, a special person.
Speaker 3 (22:41):
Sure you'll get invited to the weddings if they were.
Speaker 5 (22:42):
I'm going to become a celebrant. Actually did I tell
you that? And I'm going to do the weddings of
course next twenty twenty six.
Speaker 3 (22:50):
Oh amazing, that'll be so cute.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Thank you j from Unwritten Dating dot com dot au
of your single check it out. I mean, what have
you got to lose?
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Absolutely thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
All right here was going to be a segment you
hate It's news to Amy where I read out news
headlines and you go, oh yeah, that's good or bad
and we chat about some it was garbage.
Speaker 3 (23:12):
I mean you know, I mean you said it.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Let's call a spade a spade. Sure, got a new
one for you. It's bigger and better. You're gonna love
this one.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
I'll be the judge of that.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Now, come on, it's going to be fun. It's called
it's called Around the World with Chris and I've got music,
I've got sound effects.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
This is gonna yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Okay, so we're going around the world. What I've got
a news story here from every country in the world,
and it's just going to randomly choose a country with
music to tell me which news story to read out? Okay,
all right, so let's get the first Let's get the
first country here. Ah, yes, okay, this is England. Here
(23:53):
we go, I've got my English news story here. English
parents are giving British school children an average of six
days off school a year for mental health days.
Speaker 3 (24:04):
Great.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
I'm into that. I reckon that's a lot better than
sending a kid to school if they're you know, having
some stuff.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
Absolutely, I'm all for a mental health day. I also
think that five days.
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Especially when you're six and seven and eight, five days
is six.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
N It's a long time to be at school. So
six days across the whole year great.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
So but if a kid is going, oh, you know,
I really don't want to school today, they're just having
some stuff, is it better to teach resilience and go
you go to school and teach the lesson or go,
you know what, take the day off?
Speaker 1 (24:36):
Well, I think you need to pick your battles and
be able to read a room with your own children.
I think if they're trying to get a day off
every single week, you might need to put some boundaries
in place. But I think if you haven't open honest
conversation up front, being like, hey, there's going to be
six days that you can just take off when you
want to have a mental health day.
Speaker 3 (24:53):
We're going to tally them up, but make sure you
use them.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
All right, that's what's happening in the UK.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
Do that in Australia.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Well, we're going to the world. You're going let's go
to another country. Where do we go?
Speaker 3 (25:03):
Japan?
Speaker 2 (25:04):
Tokyo, North Korea?
Speaker 3 (25:08):
Oh okay, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
Sounded Chinese to me. North Korea executes big shot couple
who became arrogant after the success of their business.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
Now, people say Australians have tall poppy syndrome. Listen to this.
This couple, they were running a business where they're in
their fifties, running a private business where they sold, repaired
and rented electric bicycles. Okay, yeah, they became too successful.
So the North Korean government don't you hate a big shot? Well,
you know those people that just need to be put
(25:38):
back in their place.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
Yeah, the people who've lost the humbleness.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
Yeah, well that's what that was. This couple they got
too big for their boots over in North Korea, so
they face married a firing squad in peon Yang with
hundreds of people watching.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
No they didn't, but surely they committed a crime.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Yeah they were big shots.
Speaker 3 (25:57):
That's not punishable by death.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
In North Korea, it absolutely yes, anything goes over there. Yeah,
i'd like to say. I mean I wouldn't in Australia.
I think there's some big shots who they don't need
to face a firing squad, but just to be brought
down a few pegs.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
Yeah, and put back in their box a little bit.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
Sure, let's go to another country.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Disgraced actor Kevin Spacey claims to be homeless.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
Oh really yeah, fall from Grace well.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
Two time Academy Award winner. But we know Kevin Spacey,
he was a pretty handsy guy.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
Being homeless though, that's a bit of a stretch. Where's
all his money gone from all his movies?
Speaker 2 (26:36):
This is where he's upset people again and I feel
like he's out of touch. Claims to be homeless, and
then you read on and it says he's been living
in hotels, like the ritz doesn't say which hotel, but
that sounds like the dream.
Speaker 3 (26:50):
I'd love to live in a hotel, Love to live
in a hotel.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
Imagine that every day, someone just comes and cleans up
behind you. Yeah, make a phone call and food gets
delivered to your door.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
And just leave the tray outside the door when you're finished.
Thirty four to ninety five for unlimited adult films for
twenty four hours.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
Oh wow, it sounds that you've bought one of them before.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
I don't know who the hell's actually buying them now
that surely there iPhones have killed hotel that business model
all right, last one? Oh that's just good Australian waltzing Matilda,
We're back home.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
The Liberal Party have proposed a new policy to screen
migrants coming into Australia to see whether or not they
have Australian values.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Oh like if they like veg, you might well.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
Yeah, you've sort of jumped on to the point here
that people are making because they've provided no more details. Ebie,
what is an Australian value? Like, yeah, back in the eighties,
it's like, yeah, you've got to be crocodile dundee and
you know, drink Fosters. But what is in twenty twenty five,
what's an Australian value?
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Surely it's you've got to be able to throw back
a VB. You've got to be able to walk in
thongs properly.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Yeah, okay, I like that you walking thongs.
Speaker 3 (28:03):
Have a firm handshake, Yeah, you don't.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
Need limp fish Yeah, handshakes you go straight back to
where you came from. You don't have a good grip.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
What else?
Speaker 2 (28:11):
I just think it's like a fair go friendly, easy going.
Speaker 3 (28:15):
Laid back, good sense of humor.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
But then we're already a very multicultural country. Like I'm Australian,
I'm true blue. But nothing I love more than like
a succulent Chinese meal down the Chinese restaurant.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
Chicken.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Yeah, yeah, buttered chicken. None of this is Australian.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
It'll be interesting. Why don't you write to that politician and.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
Ask Susan lay don't worry, she won't be around for long. Okay,
let's get out of here. We'll be back tomorrow am
and we'll do it all again. Enjoy the rest of
your Saturday.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
See in the morning.
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Speaker 2 (00:23):
Yes, sir, let's got good morning that remains to be
seen Chris Page and Amy Gerard in the morning. Hello, Hello,
good morning. Have you Saturday? How are you doing? You're
right good?
Speaker 3 (00:38):
I'm good.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
How are you better for seeing you?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Oh? Sweet?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Better being away from my wife and children. Good to
be here. Shout out to any of the kids out
there who are after schoolies starts this weekend.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Wow, that's still a thing, is it?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Yeah? I love schoolies.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
What did you do for schoolies last year?
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Not jet star fly?
Speaker 3 (01:00):
You're a sicker? You were toully?
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Were you every year? It's the best? No, you don't
you My son's out, guns out single it.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
God.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
I did the cruise. No, I know, I did the cruise.
You know, the cruise that went to like New Caledonia
and I don't know where else Vanuwatu.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
I think it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
I had a boyfriend on the cruise.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Really, I was gonna say, it's okay if you have
a boyfriend for schoolies, but if he's there, that ruins
the fun a little bit, doesn't What did you do
Gold Coast.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Of course you did.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Of course I did. It's the best good time. Yeah. No,
I was newly No, sorry, I was single. I was
newly single and heartbroken. Oh and honestly I look back
at it and I just want to grab seventeen year
old Chris and shake him and go wake up, you idiot. No,
don't worry about her. Yeah, it was my first life
(01:51):
that hits hard. So I was sort of moping around
at schoolies and lose. There was this really girl called
Jess as well, who like, no, there wasn't no. We
met these like friends of friends, and like she was
there and she was wearing these leather pants and got
into bed with me and I didn't do anything. Oh god,
you don't know anything when you're seventeen, do you?
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Kids?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Have fun? Be safe, but have fun and avoid Bonnie Blue.
Because Bonnie Blue, the notorious entertainer, has been spotted at
the Australian Embassy in London begging for a Australian visa
because she got banned from coming out and filming her
content at schoolies.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
If Australia lets her in, I'm leaving. Honestly, surely they're
going to say no.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
I don't know, she's applied, she's been to the embassy
like that, straight to the thing.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Keep that absolute dirt bag out of this country.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
I just look back and think, oh, well, no one
lies on their deathbed wishing they'd had less sex at schoolies,
you know.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Well, unless they're lying on their deathbed because of them.
Because yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Every week we like to put our finger on the
pulse of what the mums of Australia are talking about.
The best place to find that out is inside that
secret society of the Facebook mums group. So let's check
it out. What's the big issue in the Facebook mums groups.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Hey mammas, I've just read something that's really frustrating, especially
as a pregnant mum.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
To be number three's on the way.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Some experts and childcare centers are now saying that we
should ask our babies, oh God, for consent before changing
their nappies, as in, I'm going to change your nappy now?
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Is that okay? How's a four month old replying to you?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I've heard of like no means no before, like googo
means googo? Or does Google mean no?
Speaker 1 (03:39):
And look, I understand teaching respect and boundaries, but seeking
permission from a screaming newborn who's sitting in poo just
feels ridiculous. I feel like asking a baby for consent
is as good as the poo in the nappy? Right?
Speaker 3 (03:52):
Does anyone agree with it?
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Big issue? Okay with you? On teaching respect boundaries. Consent
absolutely very important once you're a sentient being. Babies don't know,
I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
There are a lot well exactly right.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
And also consent is about asking if it's okay, because
usually they can't do said thing themselves, right, Like I
wouldn't ask my two year old, hey, can I wipe
your bum? Because if he's turning around saying no, guess what,
I'm gonna wipe it anyway?
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Don't you boys just demand that from you anyway? I
just get called to the bathroom, Come and wipe my bum, Mom.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Mom, wipe my bum?
Speaker 1 (04:35):
And I go in there and he's touching his toes
and yeah, So that is that is a byproduct of
being a parent. Now daycares, that's part of the job
looking after your child. If I turned up to a
daycare and my kid was sitting in a pooey nappy
because at six months they couldn't have said yes please,
I'm going to be furious.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Sorry, he's been wearing that nappy all day. He's fly
blown now because because he didn't give consent to the
educators to change his nappy.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Like this is absolutely ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I think where I would always ask, can send if
I've ever got a girlfriend or friends over or anything
like that. I used to go to a mom's group
every Tuesday, and sometimes I'd say, oh, you know, I'm
taking my two boys to the toilet, or does another
All the kids want to come at the same time,
and so if a kid needs some help, you know,
wiping their backside, I'll always say, do you want some help?
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Do you need me to help you? Yes? Please?
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Of course I'm always gonna ask that first, because a
lot of kids can do it themselves, sure, but as newborns,
babies under one, they can't give consent.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
So this is just ridiculous, big issue.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
I got nothing else. What you said was perfect, Thank you,
well done. I'll shut up. I said we were going
to talk about something that women find horrible and painful,
but that men love.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
I'm not going to say what I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
I'm going to play you something and you'll have an
immediate reaction to it, okay, because it means it's summer
in Australia. You look blank, Come on, you don't know
the cricket music.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Oh god, cricket. It was that cricket music.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
That's the Channel nine cricket music. Summer's here in the
cricket starting. The ashes started yesterday, Amy a.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Crowd.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
I love talk.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
I hate cricket.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah, Americans and stuff that don't understand. They go, oh wow,
how long does a game go for? And you go
five days? What go? And sometimes there's not a result.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Yes, look, I don't mind watching most sports, but cricket
is probably at the bottom.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Really yeah, I just find it really boring.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
I get that with the Test matches? What about the
twenty twenty when.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
So the only cricket games that I don't mind watching
the twenty twenty.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
It's changed a lot over the years, though, do you.
I mean when you were growing up, right, even if
you didn't like watching the cricket, I bet you in
high school could have like named the Australian cricket team
because it was just stars with like Adam Gilchris, Matthew Hayden. Yes,
Adam Ricky Ponting.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Yes, Ponting does a really good wine.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Now, yeahd of Shane Warn.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
I've heard of Shane Warn.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
The only person I know from the Australian cricket team
now would be Steve wa.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
Oh wait, I mean Steve Smith. Oh that's right, Stephen
Mark Waugh. They used to live around the corner from me.
They were in the Australian Cricket Stephen Macaw.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
I'm just saying from one to eleven it was just
star stars and that this is nothing against the current
Australian team because they're a great team. But there's just
I bet so many people couldn't name like five of them.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Yeah, And isn't it funny you'd think that you would
because of social media.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
You'd think there, why is that?
Speaker 2 (07:44):
I think that some of the characters of the game
are missing? And I mean I mentioned Shane Warn like
he was so much more than a cricketer, wasn't he
He was an icon? Yeah, so people know him, whereas
you can't imagine Marcus Labushane prancing around in a London
apartment with a giant inflatable penis.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Well, he was a bit of a He was a
ragamuffin a bit of a cheeky little sausage behind the scenes, wasn't.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
He he was?
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Which is what we like a bit of personality.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Now the Australian cricket team are gonna ring up and go.
Are you saying all of us have no personality?
Speaker 3 (08:17):
You reckon? They listen to this show?
Speaker 2 (08:19):
No, I don't reckon. They're probably getting ready for day
two today. Actually, abs, can I tell you one great
thing about watching the cricket there's a commentator called Kerry O'Keefe.
Have you heard of him? No, his nickname is Skull
because he sort of looks like he's a bald guy.
And no, he looks like a skull. And he's got
the best laugh. He tells jokes in the commentary and
(08:39):
let me play his laugh.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
Come on you, Oh my god, he sounds like Dr
Evil speaking.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Yeah, he tells like these great or great slash bad jokes.
Gives the punch lighter the.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
That's the best thing you've got to offer me about cricket. Yeah,
arrest my case. I've got a really good parenting hacked.
It has been tried tested and it absolutely works. Sure
hit me, Okay, So one hundred dollars night went missing
from my bag.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
You had one hundred dollar not have you been near
the casino. That's the only way my wife forgot. If
she sees a hundred dollar note, she's like, when were
you with the casino?
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Anyway, one hundred dollar note in my bag and it
went missing. Now I had my suspicions. I kind of
knew how it would be. My kids love to rifle
around in my bag. Charlie's usually looking for lip gloss,
the boys looking for gum. I was speaking to my
very good friend Jen, my parenting educated do I do
the Beyond the Chaos podcast with? And I was telling
her and I said, you know, I'm going to go
home and threaten them with Sanna not coming. And what
(09:50):
I like to do is line them up in a
line and say, right, no one's leaving this room until
someone confesses.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Yeah, you go like usual suspects of it.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Yeah, go all like disciplinary, like authoritarian style.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
But she goes, can I just give you one little tip?
And I try it. Obviously she's a pro.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
She said, what I would do is grab the child,
I won't name names who you think has taken the.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Note, and say, listen, Bobby, I'm not saying who it was,
but pull them aside and say, hey, I actually need
your help.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
You have really, really super sleuth eyes. You're so good
at finding things. Now, one hundred dollar note.
Speaker 3 (10:33):
It's gone missing. It was in my bag.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
I think I might have taken it out, but I've
lost it and I can't find it anywhere. Do you
think you don't have to tell the others because I
know how good you are? Yeah, could you give me
a hand and try and find it? Because I know
how good you are at finding things. And this child
of mine, without hesitation, skipped upstairs, didn't even pause when
(11:02):
they were up there. Like I in my head, I
was like, if you're smart, you're taking at least five
ten minutes.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
You're rustling around.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
This child came downstairs within ten seconds.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
Yeah, handed over the note.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Actually, this child came waving the note above its head.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
I found it.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
I found it, And so what I did was I
offered said child, praise.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Oh my god, I knew.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
That you were the person for the job. You're so clever.
And this child was so proud of themselves.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
That's a good one. They feel, they feel empowered, they
feel a bit special and hopefully as well that child
now goes on it feels better to do the right
thing because he was Obviously he felt great going I
helped Gee.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
You're saying, hey, what makes you think it was one
of the boys.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
You told me it was Bobby, so he knows. Hey,
this feels really good doing the right thing and helping mum.
I bet it felt a hell of a lot better
than stealing one hundred bucks.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Out of my course here's my only thing.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
And I felt like it was a really successful win
from a parenting perspective. And Jen has assured me that
kids taking things is very normal.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
It's all very age appropriate.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Obviously he's not twenty stealing car from car yards.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
Or anything like that.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
But I do wonder was there a lesson learned there,
like did he know that stealing was wrong?
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Or has he gone you know what, Oh, that feeling
of helping mum was great.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
I'm going to steal everything.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
I'm go go to addressing it. He's going to have
like a magpie's nest there under his bed with all
the shiny things.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
He's going to be stealing my engagement ring. He's going
to be stealing like important shoes.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
Because if I get that much praise for one hundred bucks,
imagine what I'll get for the diamond ring.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
It was a bit of an eye opener for me
because I've tried the other approach many a time and
it's got me nowhere. Yeah, and I've ended up just
screaming the house down and then finding the stolen goods
in someone's room or eventually someone's been caught out. Whereas
this was a really nice way of acquiring the money
back without me having to fly off the handle.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
So I feel like it was a win.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
So far, so good. Come back to me on whether
or not that you get the long term results or
whether or not he now goes full Clepto's his space. Also,
did he say, mummy, why is the note rolled up?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
No, he didn't say that because it wasn't.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
We heard Amy's friend has just gotten out of a
long marriage and you're very concerned about her putting all
her eggs in one basket straight away.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I think it's a good idea for her to date
around and maybe just have some fun.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Date around is a nice way of putting it. You
may have heard of the website Unwritten Dating dot com.
Dot au LJ is the expert matchmaker from Unwritten Dating,
and she's here in the studio with this, Hey LJ.
Speaker 3 (13:48):
Moor, not how did you get into matchmaking?
Speaker 5 (13:52):
Because I was single for five years before I'm at
my fiance. Everyone suddenly thinks you're a dating expert because
you're single for a long time, and I went on
a lot of dates in that time. So if people like,
why don't you become a dating coach or do matchmaking?
Then it came up with the idea that if I
do dating events, yes, then that would be brilliant because
then I can get the people to do the matchmaking.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Yes.
Speaker 5 (14:12):
So and also, I mean so many people. You've probably
got friends that are so sick of like burnt out
from the dating apps, oh the app.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Like the Tinder, and just so much disappointment that comes from.
Speaker 5 (14:22):
Like they really are completely like they definitely served a
purpose one hundred percent. I met my partner on a
dating app. Not against them, but I think they've definitely
served their purpose and people are so burnt out from
them that they're ready to meet in person, ready to
connect again. So that's how it started.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Because I've got a girlfriend who is incredibly successful, beautiful girl,
and she just refuses to get on the apps. She says,
I don't want to talk to somebody via my phone.
I want to meet them in person.
Speaker 5 (14:49):
I think also now, unfortunately you don't even know if
you're talking to them because so many people openly admit
that they use AI, Like so many people say, oh,
I'm just really busy, I'm really time poor, Like I
haven't really got time to like properly replied to messages,
so I just literally like put it in AI. So
you don't even know. Then if you're chatting to like,
don't even know their personality.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
You could just have two robots. You could have won
on either end as well because amy. And the other
issue is the photos because amy is prejudiced against short men.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
I am not. My first boyfriend was short of you.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
He was a short king. But you get a five
to three guy that has photos with other very short
people and hides it. But you're the human safeguard as
far as people lying or pretending to be something they're not,
So do you You will meet the people before they
go to your dating event and interview them.
Speaker 5 (15:39):
So with the dating event, everybody will fill out a
questionnaire before they arrive. And I think people like that
because it's showing their intention. I think one of the
issues nowadays is so many people are flaky.
Speaker 3 (15:49):
They're ghosting.
Speaker 5 (15:50):
They might meet someone and it says on their profile
looking for long time relationship, but actually you meet them
and they're not. They're like, oh, actually, I just want
someone casual. And then with the match making one hundred percent,
I meet everybody who is on the matchmaking database, so
that I actually, yeah, I know that they're genuine and
know who they say they are and get to kind
of feel their personality, style, lifestyle. So important that people
(16:11):
match their lifestyle and values.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Of course, what are the most important questions that may
seem trivial, but you know from experience, are real deal
break is it? I mean, I know like Dog and
Cat People is always a big one. Is that the
type of movies you're like, is it politics?
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (16:28):
What are the deal breakers there?
Speaker 5 (16:29):
I ask a lot of like quick five questions.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
So do you want kids?
Speaker 5 (16:33):
I mean that's a big one.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
That's a big one.
Speaker 5 (16:35):
Also if you if you mind meeting someone who's already
got kids, you know, things.
Speaker 3 (16:38):
Like this, that's big.
Speaker 5 (16:39):
Also, Yeah, quick five questions, like you know out of
this you know would you go on a snow holiday
at beach holiday or a city break, you know, just
to kind of because I feel like when you ask
someone that it opens up to them saying, oh, actually,
I really love city breaks because I really love galleries
and ballet and the arts. And then if you get
someone who absolutely loves skiing and the snow and like winter,
and that's something as well, like it's a passion that
(17:01):
you'd love. You don't have to, but it'd be nice to
share that with somebody. And then I also put like
manifesting in the questions, so I say, how do you
manifest and visualize your weekend with your person in the future.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
What do you want out of the relationship?
Speaker 5 (17:15):
Yeah, how would you see that with that person? So
that sort of thing. If they like going to the markets,
or if they like, you know, vineyards, because it's someone
gonna love going to vineyards and who doesn't marry foodie
who doesn't drink.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
A wine tasting is the perfect place because you can
actually watch someone tasting wine and see if they spit
it out or not. And LJ you mentioned before. When
you're setting people up, one of the questions you ask
about is people's values. But how do you drill into that?
What do you ask to find out what someone's values are?
Speaker 5 (17:47):
I ask them about their values, But then I say
to them, think about your past relationships, even your friendships
as well, your friendships and your past relationships, because often
that's where you'll get your values from, isn't it because
you've learned how you want more communication in your next relationship.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
And I was always brought up and I remember, you know,
the whole saying, you always what the same is it.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
Test driving a car?
Speaker 3 (18:11):
No, not to storry car? Opposites are track? Oh yes, yeah,
what's your stance on that?
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Because I actually feel like the most successful relationships I've
had were actually quite similar.
Speaker 5 (18:21):
I always say, just literally get to know each other
as if you're making a new friend. Yeah, because that
kind of like takes away the pressure of thinking is
this my future husband? But also I really think that
most relationships are built on, like the best relationships are
built on friendship. So with that whole opposites attract thing. Actually,
if you think about your best friend, you and your
best mate like the same things, don't you And you
(18:43):
do the same things and you want to like go
to see the same gigs and career the same music
see LJS.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Sort of the middleman or middle lady here. And because
you put in the hard work of dating a bunch
of people. So this is for people who don't have
time to go out and sleep with hundreds of people,
hundreds of.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
People like nine.
Speaker 5 (19:01):
But it's a numbers game. I've said that all the
time when I was single, I sometimes in COVID. A
lot of people say it was a hard time to
day in COVID, but I found the opposite, and it
was the easiest time.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Because no one had anything else.
Speaker 5 (19:12):
No I had anything to do, so you couldn't kind
of be like, oh no, I'm busy. Well, so I
went on several dates in COVID, like one or two
a day, like just walks.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
You mentioned COVID dating, and I just had the first
thought of you know, when you meet someone and you know,
remember COVID was crazy because people were been divided, and
you go, oh, hi, I'm l J, I'm JOHNN. So
are you vaccinated? Are there any of those sort of
curveball questions that are in the questionnaire that basically just
put a line through a people. I mean, like I'm
just instant read do you love Donald Trump? You know
(19:44):
you were against vaccinations?
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Like?
Speaker 2 (19:46):
Are there those sort of hard lines?
Speaker 5 (19:48):
I don't put them in, but I will say it's
At one event in particular, there was there was one
gentleman who started talking about Andrew Tate at the table
quite positively. Yeah, And a few of the girls came
up and said, can you believe he's talking about this?
And but I yeah, I don't put that in the questionnaire.
Maybe I should, do you think I should? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (20:07):
Do you like Andrew tape content?
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (20:10):
No, you will not becoming to any events just.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
On that bloke who was talking about Andrew Tate. I
believe another part of it is that you will give
feedback to people after it based, so you'll do post
interviews after it. So for a guy like that, the
fact that the women said that to you, is that
a situation where you'd go to him afterwards and go, hey, understand, Oh,
I definitely do. Maybe lay off Andrew tATu.
Speaker 5 (20:32):
No, I definitely do. If there's something that has come
up and it hasn't happened to be fair very often,
maybe like twice, and I've been you know, had sixty
more than sixty events, now, but I definite would. Yeah,
I would go to them and say, oh, you know, that
might not be very appropriate. Yeah, And then with the matchmaking,
once I've matched them and they've gone on their date,
then yeah, I will talk to both parties and I'll
(20:53):
give feedback.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
And so if I'm a single and Chris is a
single guy, how do we get in contact with you?
Speaker 3 (20:59):
Like, do you have a website where you jump on?
Speaker 5 (21:01):
Yeah, there's a website Unwritten Dating dot com dot au,
and then on Instagram as well, where I've put all
the events that are happening. I've got something coming up
called Unwritten Love Lounge, which is all about meeting like
flirting coaches, dating coaches, sex coaches, like therapists, because I
find that a lot of people will go on a
date actually and then I'll get the feedback from them,
(21:23):
and both of them will say, oh, yeah, I thought
she was great, but I just don't think she's into me.
And then she'll say, oh no, I thought it was
really great, And they haven't given off the vibe to
each other because they're so out of practice or never
were in practice about flirting like.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
A soft little armstroke. I'm actually a great flirter. Yes,
my husband's discuss.
Speaker 5 (21:42):
Oh yeah, I'm like, I'm just very tactile with people.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
I want to ask one last question.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Do you actually find that you get a lot more
interests from females than you do males or is.
Speaker 5 (21:52):
It a fifty to fifty split or I think the
I think with the events, a lot of females will
come sometimes with girlfriends or they're just you know, so
they're off the apps. Now so many of the amazing
like gorgeous, intelligent, smart women. I'm so done with the apps.
So yeah, for sure, I will say that the females
will come forward like quicker, but then yeah, but then
(22:15):
now the men, you know, I feel like the tides turning.
Even in the last year that I've been doing it,
I feel like it's definitely changing now where men are
more upfcoming and they're just kind of getting themselves out
there and hopefully they know that the apps aren't.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
The always the inter Well, I'm one hundred percent going
to tell I've actually got two girlfriends.
Speaker 3 (22:32):
I'm going to tell them to jump on your website.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Yes Unwritten Dating dot com dot au, get involved.
Speaker 5 (22:37):
And hopefully I can find them love. Yes, a special person.
Speaker 3 (22:41):
Sure you'll get invited to the weddings if they were.
Speaker 5 (22:42):
I'm going to become a celebrant. Actually did I tell
you that? And I'm going to do the weddings of
course next twenty twenty six.
Speaker 3 (22:50):
Oh amazing, that'll be so cute.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Thank you j from Unwritten Dating dot com dot au
of your single check it out. I mean, what have
you got to lose?
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Absolutely thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
All right here was going to be a segment you
hate It's news to Amy where I read out news
headlines and you go, oh yeah, that's good or bad
and we chat about some it was garbage.
Speaker 3 (23:12):
I mean you know, I mean you said it.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Let's call a spade a spade. Sure, got a new
one for you. It's bigger and better. You're gonna love
this one.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
I'll be the judge of that.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Now, come on, it's going to be fun. It's called
it's called Around the World with Chris and I've got music,
I've got sound effects.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
This is gonna yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Okay, so we're going around the world. What I've got
a news story here from every country in the world,
and it's just going to randomly choose a country with
music to tell me which news story to read out? Okay,
all right, so let's get the first Let's get the
first country here. Ah, yes, okay, this is England. Here
(23:53):
we go, I've got my English news story here. English
parents are giving British school children an average of six
days off school a year for mental health days.
Speaker 3 (24:04):
Great.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
I'm into that. I reckon that's a lot better than
sending a kid to school if they're you know, having
some stuff.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
Absolutely, I'm all for a mental health day. I also
think that five days.
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Especially when you're six and seven and eight, five days
is six.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
N It's a long time to be at school. So
six days across the whole year great.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
So but if a kid is going, oh, you know,
I really don't want to school today, they're just having
some stuff, is it better to teach resilience and go
you go to school and teach the lesson or go,
you know what, take the day off?
Speaker 1 (24:36):
Well, I think you need to pick your battles and
be able to read a room with your own children.
I think if they're trying to get a day off
every single week, you might need to put some boundaries
in place. But I think if you haven't open honest
conversation up front, being like, hey, there's going to be
six days that you can just take off when you
want to have a mental health day.
Speaker 3 (24:53):
We're going to tally them up, but make sure you
use them.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
All right, that's what's happening in the UK.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
Do that in Australia.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Well, we're going to the world. You're going let's go
to another country. Where do we go?
Speaker 3 (25:03):
Japan?
Speaker 2 (25:04):
Tokyo, North Korea?
Speaker 3 (25:08):
Oh okay, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
Sounded Chinese to me. North Korea executes big shot couple
who became arrogant after the success of their business.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
Now, people say Australians have tall poppy syndrome. Listen to this.
This couple, they were running a business where they're in
their fifties, running a private business where they sold, repaired
and rented electric bicycles. Okay, yeah, they became too successful.
So the North Korean government don't you hate a big shot? Well,
you know those people that just need to be put
(25:38):
back in their place.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
Yeah, the people who've lost the humbleness.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
Yeah, well that's what that was. This couple they got
too big for their boots over in North Korea, so
they face married a firing squad in peon Yang with
hundreds of people watching.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
No they didn't, but surely they committed a crime.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Yeah they were big shots.
Speaker 3 (25:57):
That's not punishable by death.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
In North Korea, it absolutely yes, anything goes over there. Yeah,
i'd like to say. I mean I wouldn't in Australia.
I think there's some big shots who they don't need
to face a firing squad, but just to be brought
down a few pegs.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
Yeah, and put back in their box a little bit.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
Sure, let's go to another country.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Disgraced actor Kevin Spacey claims to be homeless.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
Oh really yeah, fall from Grace well.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
Two time Academy Award winner. But we know Kevin Spacey,
he was a pretty handsy guy.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
Being homeless though, that's a bit of a stretch. Where's
all his money gone from all his movies?
Speaker 2 (26:36):
This is where he's upset people again and I feel
like he's out of touch. Claims to be homeless, and
then you read on and it says he's been living
in hotels, like the ritz doesn't say which hotel, but
that sounds like the dream.
Speaker 3 (26:50):
I'd love to live in a hotel, Love to live
in a hotel.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
Imagine that every day, someone just comes and cleans up
behind you. Yeah, make a phone call and food gets
delivered to your door.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
And just leave the tray outside the door when you're finished.
Thirty four to ninety five for unlimited adult films for
twenty four hours.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
Oh wow, it sounds that you've bought one of them before.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
I don't know who the hell's actually buying them now
that surely there iPhones have killed hotel that business model
all right, last one? Oh that's just good Australian waltzing Matilda,
We're back home.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
The Liberal Party have proposed a new policy to screen
migrants coming into Australia to see whether or not they
have Australian values.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Oh like if they like veg, you might well.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
Yeah, you've sort of jumped on to the point here
that people are making because they've provided no more details. Ebie,
what is an Australian value? Like, yeah, back in the eighties,
it's like, yeah, you've got to be crocodile dundee and
you know, drink Fosters. But what is in twenty twenty five,
what's an Australian value?
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Surely it's you've got to be able to throw back
a VB. You've got to be able to walk in
thongs properly.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Yeah, okay, I like that you walking thongs.
Speaker 3 (28:03):
Have a firm handshake, Yeah, you don't.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
Need limp fish Yeah, handshakes you go straight back to
where you came from. You don't have a good grip.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
What else?
Speaker 2 (28:11):
I just think it's like a fair go friendly, easy going.
Speaker 3 (28:15):
Laid back, good sense of humor.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
But then we're already a very multicultural country. Like I'm Australian,
I'm true blue. But nothing I love more than like
a succulent Chinese meal down the Chinese restaurant.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
Chicken.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Yeah, yeah, buttered chicken. None of this is Australian.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
It'll be interesting. Why don't you write to that politician and.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
Ask Susan lay don't worry, she won't be around for long. Okay,
let's get out of here. We'll be back tomorrow am
and we'll do it all again. Enjoy the rest of
your Saturday.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
See in the morning.
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