Hayley has come across a very simple tip that would help many people navigate how to respond to their significant other when they are in a time of need.
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I heard podcasts here more mix one or two point
three podcasts, playlists and listen live on the free iHeart app.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
My algorithm on Instagram is quite interesting something I probably
wouldn't share with anybody, but this one did pop up,
which was kind of nice, and it was really useful.
And this is something that can potentially save your relationship.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
I'm always interested in keeping my wife as my wife
because it's been good.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Yeah, I've enjoyed the life until now.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
It's been quite nice. So this is something that's going
to save your relationship. It's called the three h's right.
So I was going to read out what it is
and I found it really interesting. So when someone you
love is upset, you have to ask them this question.
Do you want to be helped, heard, or hugged? So
let me just describe what it says. It says helped
(00:57):
is to deconstruct the problem and identify potential solutions.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
I already know what you.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Are heard is listen intently and allow the other person
to vent. And hugged is to provide that comforting, physical.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
Touch, a little bit of emotional support.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
And as a woman in the relationship, we expect that
you should read us and know which one which h
to use to help us.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Well, I think you've answered your own predicament that helped
is easily the best of those three.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Is this a natural I'm not just generalizing here, but
is this a natural man thing to go?
Speaker 4 (01:35):
I just want to fix it.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
If I had a problem and I came to you
and the options were being helped, heard, or hugged, I
always want to be helped.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
I would like you to solve my problem.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
That's how you help your wife, Eliza.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
Because I'm about something.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
I'm an extremely logical person.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Do you ever think that she maybe wants you to
listen and just she just wants to vent?
Speaker 1 (01:57):
I think sometimes that you can you can combine totally.
You can combine and helped with hugged. But there always
has to be helped for me.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
See, I I find the helping would probably be the
most annoying thing as I when I'm angry or upset
about something, I just want to talk and I just
want someone to agree with me.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
But don't you want Jimmy, your husband to also then
fix the problem.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
No, because I think I'm quite I don't want someone
fixing my problems. I just want to be heard and
if they agree with me, that'll that'll reset my mind
to go, Okay, that's what I need to do.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
I need to come out of the solution myself.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
If I see that Eliza is in need of assistance,
then I want to help.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
That's what I want to do.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Yeah, but it depends what she wants.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
You love that because you're logically a logical thinker.
Speaker 4 (02:50):
Is she the same as that though? No?
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Absolutely no. No.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
So maybe she doesn't want to be rationally emotional.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
Yeah, so she's like me. She's all over the shop, right.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
But that's why we work together because I can help
and she can stop me at times on the robot.
Speaker 4 (03:03):
Yeah, you think you're being.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Helped, I think, yeah, what Jimmy do you?
Speaker 2 (03:09):
I would say, he's actually really good.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Man being perfect?
Speaker 4 (03:16):
No he's no, he's not perfect.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
He if I'm upset about something, generally, my thing is
I'll go My first thing is can you give me
a hug?
Speaker 4 (03:25):
I do it to you. I'll come and hug you.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Yeah, and we can hug and help at the same time.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
But I don't want to be helped. I just want
to be heard.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
I just want you to listen to what I have
to say and it also agree with me, Like, just
get on board and fricking agree with me, and then
I'll get the courage to go and make my decision myself.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
It's a really interesting thing.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
And it's also it's also if you do have partners,
Like so Maximaliza and me and Jimmy are very similar.
I'm married to a Max and she's married to a Jimmy.
We're the same, like, same dynamic in our relationships.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Put me to the test.
Speaker 4 (03:56):
I'm gonna put you to the test.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
I'm gonna have some scenarios for you, and I wanted
you to see if you can read me and what
I need.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Yeah, I think I could do that.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Yeah,
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