⚡MINI: Should Hayley Pearson's Bizarre Rule Qualify As Child Abuse?

In this eye-opening episode, we dive into one mother's controversial parenting rule that has sparked debate among listeners. Hayley Pearson reveals her deep-seated fear of her children choking while she's away from home, leading to a strict "no eating alone" policy for her 10 and 13-year-old sons. The conversation takes an unexpected turn when her 10-year-old Alfie joins the studio, offering a child's perspective on this unusual restriction. As the hosts challenge Hayley's logic, a caller shares a personal choking incident that seemingly validates these concerns, raising questions about where rational parenting ends and overprotection begins.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:10):
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Speaker 2 (00:16):
App coming up in about fifteen minutes from now. But
we do have to talk to Haley Pearson, the child abuser.

Speaker 3 (00:22):
I don't say things like that. No, no, no, my mom
and dad and my mother and everyone listening. That's awful.

Speaker 4 (00:27):
We don't say that word. Well, we won't say things
like that.

Speaker 3 (00:29):
If you stop a busy stop, guys. This is why
they're saying it.

Speaker 5 (00:33):
I've got this weird, morbid brain where my children everything
to me and if anything happened to them, I would
not be able to survive. Right, So I've got this
weird thing and always have with my kids choking.

Speaker 3 (00:47):
I've had a fear of them choking.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
Which is very normal when they're like starting solids at
six months old till about three years old.

Speaker 4 (00:55):
You get a ten and a thirteen year old.

Speaker 3 (00:57):
I've got a ten and a thirteen year at this point.

Speaker 5 (00:59):
Yeah, we're at the stage now where we can leave
them for a little bit, like so Jimmy will go
swimming and I'll go to work or doing something right,
and so when we're gone for that period, of time.

Speaker 3 (01:12):
I say to the boys, whatever you do, don't eat, right.

Speaker 4 (01:17):
That is so baffling.

Speaker 3 (01:20):
Alphie is in the studio with us right now. He's
my ten year old.

Speaker 6 (01:22):
He Hi, Can you when your mother leaves you at
home alone and you're starving for food, but she has
this rule that restricts you from eating.

Speaker 4 (01:36):
That's got to suck, mate, Yeah, it does.

Speaker 7 (01:38):
It's worse than choking to death. Starving to death.

Speaker 4 (01:42):
Yeah that's true. No it's not. That's true.

Speaker 3 (01:45):
No, starving is a long game. Choking is immediatem.

Speaker 1 (01:48):
But I don't ever told me when I was eating
my dinner that I had to not eat because there
were kids not choking in Africa.

Speaker 5 (01:55):
Last night, last night, Max I was I went to
host an award and Jimmy was swimming.

Speaker 3 (02:00):
So the boys had a window of time by themselves.
How long it was about an hour?

Speaker 4 (02:04):
Right? What time is this?

Speaker 3 (02:05):
So this is around now?

Speaker 4 (02:10):
Very interesting?

Speaker 3 (02:11):
I gave him a muffin before you left, did I not?

Speaker 5 (02:15):
And I and anyway, I left, and I get a
text message from Alfie saying.

Speaker 7 (02:19):
What Bob's eating?

Speaker 3 (02:21):
That's his brother Bob.

Speaker 1 (02:22):
Bob was eating And I was like, yeah, because he's
a thirteen year old growing boy.

Speaker 5 (02:25):
All right, we's fourteen, and I was like, well, he
shouldn't be. Can you please make sure what's he eating?

Speaker 3 (02:31):
And then you said crunching nut and I was like,
that's the worst thing, because you can choke on crunching
nut corn flakes.

Speaker 7 (02:36):
It's nuts.

Speaker 5 (02:38):
And so then I wrote back, can you please watch
him very carefully and make sure he choose all his food?

Speaker 7 (02:41):
He shared to tell him to choose slowly. I'm watching
eat a whole bottle of cereal?

Speaker 3 (02:46):
Why would you do that because I have a fear
of them choking. Can you imagine something happening and me.

Speaker 5 (02:52):
Not being there and and then not being out of
context me.

Speaker 2 (02:55):
He's got a text from your husband, Jimmy, who said,
remind Hailey that Bob is actually fourteen.

Speaker 3 (03:00):
Yeah, I said fourteen.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
Oh I think he heard you say thirteen.

Speaker 3 (03:03):
Max said thirteen.

Speaker 4 (03:04):
He's not my son, but I would be feeding him
if he was my son.

Speaker 5 (03:07):
Can I say, my husban Jimmy is also on board
with me. We both have a rule of no eating
in the house when we're not there.

Speaker 1 (03:12):
Jimmy, if that's actually true, you are a psycho because
to say to your sorry don't have a music by
while we're away because you're a hybry boy. Not a
music but because I'm worried you might choke because I
think you're three years old.

Speaker 4 (03:24):
I have just started solids. Is crazy.

Speaker 5 (03:28):
I'm okay with yogurt. I have some yogurt or some milk, han'
up and go. I'm fine with that.

Speaker 7 (03:33):
I don't know yogas don't fill you up.

Speaker 4 (03:35):
No, they don't you on something out feet.

Speaker 3 (03:38):
I don't know what point though.

Speaker 5 (03:40):
I'll stop with Austin being fourteen, Like do I stop
at like eighteen?

Speaker 2 (03:44):
An adult's going to drive in two years, he's going
to have a job. What about okay, fourteen year old's work.
What about when he's going to break at work? He's
not going to be able to eat dinner on his breaks?

Speaker 1 (03:53):
Sorry, I can't. Mom told me I'm not allowed to eat.
God your first job.

Speaker 3 (03:59):
They can eat when they're out with other people by themselves.

Speaker 4 (04:01):
He's on a school excursion. He's on a school excursion.

Speaker 1 (04:04):
Everyone goes through the museum, all the fourteen year olds,
and they're all having their little I'm just going to go. Sorry,
Mum told me I'm not allowed to eat unless she's
watching me because I might choke.

Speaker 5 (04:14):
The teachers are going to call with other people, guys,
so quick on you.

Speaker 3 (04:19):
I think there's other parents out there that are the
same as me. It's when you're you're alone, you're not
allowed to do these things. You know that a cook
you know, not that a fried egg when I'm not there.
Any of that stuff's different. Because I'm morbid. They can die.
I don't want my kids to die.

Speaker 4 (04:30):
But tell them, tell them not to get to bed.

Speaker 2 (04:33):
I could also die from hunger.

Speaker 4 (04:34):
Mixed one of two point three.

Speaker 2 (04:36):
Yeah, ten year old start out think in the studio
with us a couple of minutes away from eight.

Speaker 5 (04:40):
We're just talking about the fact that the boys thing
gets weird that I have a rule at home with
my husband where the boys when we're not home because
at the age now that they can be at home
by themselves for a little bit, they're not allowed to eat.

Speaker 3 (04:49):
That's the rule.

Speaker 4 (04:50):
They're ten and fourteen. They know how to chew. You're
worried that they're going to choke.

Speaker 3 (04:53):
Worry they're going to choke and then I won't be
there to save them.

Speaker 4 (04:56):
It's extremely morbid.

Speaker 1 (04:57):
But Deanna and two Wells has been inspired by this
call and called in Deanna, what are you making of this?

Speaker 8 (05:04):
Hailey? I think you're spot on.

Speaker 9 (05:07):
I have an eighteen year old at home.

Speaker 8 (05:09):
And I would not leave my little ones.

Speaker 9 (05:11):
With them with him to eighteen seventeen year old boys.
And everyone thought I'm crazy, and I said, well, hey,
they don't have a license yet, so who are they
going to get for help? And then about two months ago,
my husband.

Speaker 8 (05:24):
Was choking on a piece of chicken Kiev and he
comes running into the bedroom saying, come, dad's choking. And
so I've come in and I've come and given him
some massive blows on the back and he's coughed up
this piece of chicken. And I said, see, and that's
why I don't leave the boys home with the little kids.
And he's never argued.

Speaker 1 (05:45):
No, Deanna, will you not allow your husband to be
at home by himself eating food?

Speaker 9 (05:50):
Now, well he comes into one of them, he comes
as a kid. I think, so, no, he's fine, but
not the kids, not the eighteen year old with the
little kids.

Speaker 5 (06:03):
But say Alfie's choking, Austin doesn't know how to save
his life, and they can't call that.

Speaker 3 (06:08):
What are they going to do?

Speaker 1 (06:09):
Oh my god, say you fall over and you crack
your head open, and while you're gardening and no one
else is at home, like what are we doing here?

Speaker 4 (06:16):
Let's wrap all of ourselves in bubble wrap forever.

Speaker 5 (06:18):
And I will continue to do that, Diana, thank you
so much for sharing. Can I just say that is
an awful feeling?

Speaker 3 (06:23):
Did you think he was going to die?

Speaker 6 (06:26):
Now?

Speaker 9 (06:26):
I plan to enter flat fight and flight mode. So
I have done Thursday training and so I know what
to do and I'm not soft on giving those big pats.
And he trying to give my husband a smack on the.

Speaker 1 (06:37):
Bike, right, yeah, so true.

Speaker 3 (06:39):
See, Alfie, That's why I do it. Okay, okay, no.

Speaker 4 (06:43):
No, don't take that Outfie.

Speaker 7 (06:46):
Shell should eat at home by myself.

Speaker 4 (06:47):
You should still be able to eat it. Hey, Alfhi,
be the radio announcement and tell us what song this is?

Speaker 7 (06:52):
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station on mixed one or two point three