💰 Man Refuses To Give Girlfriend $2,000 From His $20,000 Savings To Cover Rent

Whose side are you on?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Gold, across Australia, it's Jonesy and Amanda driving you home.
The internet is divided after a man refuses to give
his girlfriend $ 2, 000 from his $ 20, 000 savings to help her
in the rent.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
Yes.

Speaker 3 (00:13):
She's saying, I need your help. You've got $ 20, 000 savings.
What kind of relationship were you in that you were
flat out saying no?

Speaker 4 (00:21):
Yep.

Speaker 1 (00:22):
But he did say to her, Don't go into this place.
You can't afford it.

Speaker 3 (00:27):
But then if she was your partner, as irritating as
it would be to help, would you then watch her
maybe lose the place she's living in and have to
go into share accommodation with another friend and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,
live in a car, whatever it might be? Would you
stand by and watch that?

Speaker 1 (00:41):
It's a real can of worms. That's what it is. 13, 55, 22.
As the worms spill out onto the bench.

Speaker 3 (00:49):
We're kind of asking you, whose side are you on,
hers or his? They both have a point of view.

Speaker 1 (00:54):
Heather has joined us.

Speaker 2 (00:55):
Hello, Heather. What do you think?

Speaker 4 (00:58):
I'm on his side. So, no, I wouldn't give. If
it's for pleasure and your own things, I think it's
your own responsibility.

Speaker 2 (01:08):
What about if you were married, if they were married? Same.

Speaker 4 (01:12):
I'm married. We split all our expenses right down the middle.
And then anything left over from our own pay is
our own money. And if we get into our own
credit card debt, it's our own debt to pay.

Speaker 1 (01:23):
Heather, that's different to my wife.

Speaker 2 (01:25):
Thank you, Heather.

Speaker 1 (01:27):
What's yours is mine and what's mine is mine.

Speaker 2 (01:30):
She does a lot of stuff, Brendan.

Speaker 1 (01:32):
Of course she does. Greg has joined us.

Speaker 2 (01:35):
Hello, Greg. What do you think?

Speaker 5 (01:37):
Guys, I got engaged to my partner a few years ago,
and she doesn't earn anywhere near as much as I do.
And while she earns a decent wage, I will not
see us struggle as a couple. And I've got substantial savings,
so I'm more than happy to offer anything we need

(01:59):
to get us through hard times. I pay the bulk
of bills. I send her a bit of money each week.

Speaker 6 (02:06):
If she's running short.

Speaker 5 (02:07):
And I have no issue with it. So that's my
point of view. I've always been a provider.

Speaker 2 (02:13):
And I'm the same. And I'm the same in my relationship.

Speaker 1 (02:16):
You're a provider.

Speaker 2 (02:17):
Harley has earned.

Speaker 3 (02:17):
Money through all the years we've been together. But when
I was doing Breakfast Radio... I was the one who
went back to work and he was the one who
made sure the kids got to school and blah, blah, blah.

Speaker 4 (02:28):
Yep.

Speaker 2 (02:29):
The shared duties. If I said, no, this is my
money and that's the end of it.

Speaker 7 (02:32):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (02:33):
I can't imagine doing that.

Speaker 1 (02:34):
Thank you, Greg. Tracy has joined us.

Speaker 2 (02:36):
Hello, Tracy.

Speaker 1 (02:37):
Welcome to the can of worms.

Speaker 7 (02:38):
Hello.

Speaker 2 (02:38):
Welcome to the can of worms. Whose side are you on?
Hers or his?

Speaker 1 (02:42):
Ohio.

Speaker 7 (02:42):
I'm on his side. They don't live together.

Speaker 6 (02:45):
She's an adult.

Speaker 5 (02:46):
She should be responsible for her own decisions.

Speaker 4 (02:48):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (02:48):
If they live together, different story.

Speaker 1 (02:51):
That's true.

Speaker 5 (02:51):
They're committed.

Speaker 6 (02:52):
There's a committed relationship.

Speaker 1 (02:53):
Yep.

Speaker 2 (02:54):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (02:55):
Thank you, Tracey.

Speaker 3 (02:56):
So that's where the line is drawn is if you're committed,
you're living together and you make that effort.

Speaker 2 (03:00):
Interesting. Thank you.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
Carla has joined us.

Speaker 2 (03:02):
Hi, Carla. What do you think?

Speaker 5 (03:04):
Hi, I'm with him.

Speaker 7 (03:05):
She was told, don't go into that apartment. You know,
her problem, basically.

Speaker 2 (03:13):
Even if it was the end of the relationship by
not helping?

Speaker 4 (03:18):
Yeah, definitely.

Speaker 1 (03:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (03:20):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (03:21):
Yeah. Thank you, Carla. A lot of the ladies are
signing with the fella.

Speaker 2 (03:25):
Interesting, isn't it? Dave, what do you think?

Speaker 6 (03:28):
Well, I'm on the side of the guy as well,
but as the others have said, they're not living together.
There's a lot more than just a simple yes or no, really.
Two grand's not a simple, I'm a little bit short
this week. Two grand's a fair way under. So as
someone else also suggested, who knows what she spent it
on and why she's two grand short. If they were married, absolutely.

(03:50):
I mean, my wife, we've been married 40-odd years, and
as I think you said before, what's mine is hers,
what's hers is hers as well. That's a joke, but
very much a shared responsibility, and if we're short of
money and she needs money, I give it to her,
and she also has her money, and I happen to say, well,
hang on, I've spent more, and it goes both ways.
But there again, that's if you've been married for 40 years.

(04:12):
So there's no such thing as a line of what's
mine is mine and what's yours is yours at all.

Speaker 1 (04:17):
We have that in our relationship. We don't really have
any trouble financially.

Speaker 2 (04:21):
But you're a committed couple. I'd be intrigued to know.

Speaker 1 (04:23):
But we never gripe about money. I will question sometimes
when we're getting some tiling job or something done. I say, well,
have we got a few quites for this? But that's probably...
And then I get accused of being Scrooge McDuck.

Speaker 3 (04:37):
Well, I'd be interested to know more about this relationship,
how long they've been together. Maybe she's wanted to move
in with him and he's a guy that says, no, no, no.
I'd like to know more about the circumstances.

Speaker 1 (04:47):
Let's wrap up this can of worms with Trudy.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
Hi, Trudy. Are you siding with him or her?

Speaker 7 (04:53):
Mainly with him. Like you're saying, it depends on what
their relationship is like and how serious. If I wasn't
comfortable with, all that savings that I had wanting to
part with it, like you're saying, she could be a spender,
I'd be saying to her, well, why don't you move in?

Speaker 4 (05:10):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (05:12):
Why don't you move in?

Speaker 2 (05:13):
But I wonder why that's not an option.

Speaker 3 (05:14):
I wonder what it is about their relationship that stopped
that being an option.

Speaker 1 (05:18):
And that's why it's a can of worms, you see.

Speaker 4 (05:20):
No, it's not.

Speaker 1 (05:21):
Yeah, it is.

Speaker 4 (05:22):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (05:22):
Well, yes, but that's not why it's a can of worms.

Speaker 1 (05:24):
No, that's why it's a can of worms for this
particular forum.

Speaker 2 (05:27):
Yes. But I'd like more information because.

Speaker 1 (05:29):
Until they're talking around the water cooler on Friday. Then
it becomes water cooler chat.

Speaker 2 (05:33):
Or why don't we go into the pub test?

Speaker 1 (05:35):
Well, there's many places we can go. But thank you
for all your calls.

Speaker 4 (05:38):
Thank you.