🍺 PUB TEST: Not Telling Your Date You Have A Child Early In The Relationship - Yay Or Nay?

Does not telling your date you have a child early in the relationship pass the pub test?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
You're listening to the Jonesy and Demander podcast. This isn't
like you to bring up married at First Site for
the pub test. I've fallen into married at First Site again.
I know I'm addicted. I have a problem.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
I live vicariously through you because I choose not to
watch it, and you said this year you weren't going to.

Speaker 3 (00:17):
But I know you've been sucked back in.

Speaker 4 (00:19):
Okay, so married at first site this year.

Speaker 1 (00:21):
There's a lot of first The most disgusting kiss ever
on Australian TV.

Speaker 4 (00:30):
I'm going to a mango eating competition that was dreadful.
The most irritating man on Australian TV. No, no, this guy? Hello, Hello,
what do you watch five minutes? Mate?

Speaker 1 (00:49):
Anyway, one of the brides on the show has a
child and someone let the cat out of the bag.

Speaker 2 (00:57):
She didn't want to let the cat out of the bag.
She didn't want people to know, apparently.

Speaker 4 (01:00):
And as she so maternally put.

Speaker 3 (01:03):
It, who the hell told him I had a kid?

Speaker 1 (01:06):
I'd be pointing the finger at by drunken uncle Jeer.

Speaker 3 (01:09):
So what does what is jeer?

Speaker 2 (01:12):
Jeer does?

Speaker 3 (01:14):
She's the housemim a daughter? Oh okay, she's got a daughter.

Speaker 4 (01:23):
Okay, so uncle's five beers deep.

Speaker 2 (01:26):
I'd be pointing the finger at the drunken uncle. And
also cesarean scars always a giveaway.

Speaker 4 (01:29):
They're always a giveaway? Where get those from?

Speaker 3 (01:31):
See?

Speaker 2 (01:31):
What point are you going to discuss this? This is
the thing that I find interesting. And I know this
is a TV show and it's you know, supposed real relationships,
et cetera, But it does start a conversation. If you're
not going to admit to being a parent a that's
a red flag that the child's not front and center
for you.

Speaker 3 (01:49):
But I think you have the right of going.

Speaker 2 (01:52):
Into this show to know if someone you're matched with
has a child, because it's okay to say you're not
up to that, and she should want to know whether
he's up for that.

Speaker 1 (02:00):
When this is different times When we were kids, my
parents said, don't come home with a single mother.

Speaker 4 (02:06):
That was the that was the thing. That's how they
the prism of nineteen ninety.

Speaker 2 (02:12):
I've been married since two There are lots of single
parents around. But also you are allowed to not want
to parachute into somebody's life and raise their children.

Speaker 3 (02:20):
That may be a wonderful thing for you. But you're
allowed to have the choice.

Speaker 1 (02:24):
But I'm looking from Geo's side of this at the
moment because in a way, you're sort of going on
well at the older merredith first side is not a
natural thing.

Speaker 2 (02:33):
No, but she has filled out a million forms, she's
had a psyched test.

Speaker 4 (02:36):
But isn't her job to tell the yes, it is
the groom.

Speaker 3 (02:40):
No, it's her job to put that in her information.

Speaker 2 (02:43):
And if he hasn't been informed of that, that's probably
the producer's deliberate story.

Speaker 1 (02:47):
We of course, Yeah, that's why we're talking about it,
that's why we're watching it.

Speaker 3 (02:51):
I know.

Speaker 2 (02:52):
But I do think that that sets up a terrible
person if people think, oh, that's what happens. I do
know someone who did that. She thought it'd be a
short term fling one point. At what point, if it
becomes more serious, do you say, here's something I need
to tell you.

Speaker 3 (03:04):
I just think it's fraught. It's a red flag if.

Speaker 2 (03:06):
It's not important enough to you. Yep, and he or
she has a right to know if you have a child, I.

Speaker 3 (03:11):
Think, what do you think you're putting this to the
pub test today? Not saying early in a relationship that
you have a child. Does this pass the pub test?
I'd say it's a big no. Got to mention the kids.

Speaker 2 (03:23):
Do you want to relate to with somebody?

Speaker 1 (03:24):
How do you know if they want kids or not?

Speaker 3 (03:26):
You're setting yourself up fail.

Speaker 2 (03:28):
You should bring it up first thing.

Speaker 4 (03:29):
You know, you should say.

Speaker 3 (03:30):
That you have a kid.

Speaker 4 (03:31):
I'm twenty three years old, I'm.

Speaker 1 (03:33):
A full time single dad and I get on the Tinder,
I get on the day and app I cut it
forward and just say I've got a kid. Love.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
No, I think it depends whether it's a not negotiable
on your list. For me, it's a not negotiable no children,
and so no, it doesn't pass the pub test for me.

Speaker 1 (03:48):
Well, I'm with Jonesy firstly that I've been dragged into
marriag at first side again.

Speaker 4 (03:52):
But I'm with Amanda. Is the having a child or is.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
A kid as you referred to, it should be front
and center, So not mentioning it definitely doesn't pass.

Speaker 4 (04:01):
The public No.

Speaker 3 (04:02):
Upfront and honest. Your children are your life. You know
that's coming with you into the relationship. It happened to
my daughter and she was upfront and honest. So upfront
and honest you're keeping your priority.

Speaker 4 (04:12):
You should be telling guys that you're serious about that.

Speaker 3 (04:15):
You've got a kids. But if you're at the pub,
I'm looking for a one night stand, I don't think
you need you.

Speaker 2 (04:20):
That's interesting because what happens if you have a one
night stand and it ends up oldest, it'll be a
two nights stand? Look what I'll see him from a
month and a night. What if you end up having
a long term relationship? This is the stuff of movies.
At what point do you confess.

Speaker 4 (04:31):
This is what you say? He's a packet of chips. Mate,
I'm sit in the car for a bit.

Speaker 3 (04:35):
Save that to the kid.

Speaker 4 (04:36):
Yeah, I'm not saying it to the person.

Speaker 2 (04:41):
Idiots, I want to make kid to school. Do you
mind sitting in the back of the car with a
packet of chips?

Speaker 4 (04:44):
What is old? May think?

Speaker 3 (04:46):
Sha sha with him? I'm with him.

Speaker 4 (04:49):
You have to be so.

Speaker 2 (04:50):
I know you're going to talk about this show again
tomorrow and you're going to say I just dragged back in.

Speaker 4 (04:55):
It's an addiction.

Speaker 3 (04:56):
Okay, you can do something about that.

Speaker 4 (04:57):
I've got to get help