July 24, 2023 • 3 mins
The Struggles Of Co-Parenting With An Ex
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So my little boy, Raffi had his fourth birthday yesterday.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Actual birthday, actual birthday. Yes, that's frog cakes, new bike,
that's right.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Actually, my girlfriend Naomi made him froggy cakes, which he
asked for, and his mum ended up making him a
digger cake, which is his other love, his other great
lovers diggers.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Oh, thank goodness, no competition with the frog, that's right.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Although apparently when she brought out the digger, she'd been
quite creative and had the digger actually scooping a bit
of cake out. Here's your cake, and Brandon looks and
got ah it ruined it, just.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Like your dad likes everything in its.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Got to be perfect. Yes, So we did something yesterday
for the first time. Amber and I, who haven't spent
any time together really since we broke up, other than
exchanges when which we do, you know, a couple of
times a week when we swap over.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Now, how long have you been broken up for?
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Three? About three years?
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Two?
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Okay, so this is a really red letter day yesterday. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
So we decided that we would go somewhere together, the
three of us, and so we met at there's like
a jungle gym place on Winnam Road, and so we
met there at lunchtime, which is when we would normally
be exchanging him yesterday, and said, let's just hang out
for an hour or so.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
I'm so proud of you.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Yeah. Eighteen months we've worked together, we've talked about you
doing that and you've kind of gone, I don't.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Want to, and then you did.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Yeah. I just knew he wanted it and like it.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Oh, well done.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Yeah, so we did. We hung out and you know, honestly,
it was fine. Most of the time it was one
of us with him like climbing up a ladder or
whatever else, and then we'd switch over. But then when
we sat down and we ate together and and you know,
he didn't even notice, like he didn't. For him, it
wasn't weird or.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
How good is that?
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Right?
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah? It was great.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
It just means for him he's feeling like this is cool,
this is Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
How did it wrap up? Because he has been known
to drag both you and Amber and your current Partnaomi
into a four way hugathon.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
He did do one of them. Like rather start what
I saw him, he was hanging on to his mum
and he brought me in for like a for a cuddle,
just try and get the heads together.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
But Naomi wasn't there, right.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
She wasn't She was at work yesterday. So yeah, it
was just the three of us, and well, what was
where it sort of went a little sideways toward the end,
is that we're sitting down. I got him some chips,
got him some hot chips. His birthday, he's allowed.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
And sorry, you're allowed hot chips anybody any day.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Yes, you're still four. And so we're eating hot chips.
And he said to me, and ambassiting across from me,
he said to me, he goes, hey, Dad, you want
to you want to watch me eat these bucking chips?
And I me and Amber both stopped, looked at each
other and going, what did you just say? Leaned in
a bit and he said and he had a bit
of a smile, and he says, do you want to
watch me eat these bucan chips? Made a real may
(02:45):
real point of enunciating the bee and I stopped, and
we've sort of looked at each other again, but like,
who's going to do this? And I said okay, I said, mate,
it sounded very close to a naughty word. Then, so
I'm not going to respond to it, okay, and then
he went and he just and then you just started
eating chips again. So he was just testing the waters.
I guess, I guess did I do the right thing?
(03:07):
Do you reckon? How? How do I respond to that
when he's calling it? Because I mean, I know we
all know.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
I don't know where you're going with this.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Yeah, absolutely, he's a smart kid man. He was waiting
to see which one of you.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Two That was a test.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
That was a test to see which one of you responded.
And the fact you looked at each other and then
chose who did it, that's so good, well done because
you kind of a setting a boundary that says, no,
we're both aligned here and you're using a word and
no oxygen.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
No oxygen my bell once she was little, just to
be playing with Doll's house. Did did you try the
S word? But you have it back to us and
we just look away, just do something else, and you
could feel they're looking around and go, how let go
just get away with that again?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Did you did you laugh about it later like or
did you
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Tell you we thought it was hilarious
So my little boy, Raffi had his fourth birthday yesterday.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Actual birthday, actual birthday. Yes, that's frog cakes, new bike,
that's right.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Actually, my girlfriend Naomi made him froggy cakes, which he
asked for, and his mum ended up making him a
digger cake, which is his other love, his other great
lovers diggers.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Oh, thank goodness, no competition with the frog, that's right.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Although apparently when she brought out the digger, she'd been
quite creative and had the digger actually scooping a bit
of cake out. Here's your cake, and Brandon looks and
got ah it ruined it, just.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Like your dad likes everything in its.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Got to be perfect. Yes, So we did something yesterday
for the first time. Amber and I, who haven't spent
any time together really since we broke up, other than
exchanges when which we do, you know, a couple of
times a week when we swap over.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Now, how long have you been broken up for?
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Three? About three years?
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Two?
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Okay, so this is a really red letter day yesterday. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
So we decided that we would go somewhere together, the
three of us, and so we met at there's like
a jungle gym place on Winnam Road, and so we
met there at lunchtime, which is when we would normally
be exchanging him yesterday, and said, let's just hang out
for an hour or so.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
I'm so proud of you.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Yeah. Eighteen months we've worked together, we've talked about you
doing that and you've kind of gone, I don't.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Want to, and then you did.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Yeah. I just knew he wanted it and like it.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Oh, well done.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Yeah, so we did. We hung out and you know, honestly,
it was fine. Most of the time it was one
of us with him like climbing up a ladder or
whatever else, and then we'd switch over. But then when
we sat down and we ate together and and you know,
he didn't even notice, like he didn't. For him, it
wasn't weird or.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
How good is that?
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Right?
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah? It was great.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
It just means for him he's feeling like this is cool,
this is Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
How did it wrap up? Because he has been known
to drag both you and Amber and your current Partnaomi
into a four way hugathon.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
He did do one of them. Like rather start what
I saw him, he was hanging on to his mum
and he brought me in for like a for a cuddle,
just try and get the heads together.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
But Naomi wasn't there, right.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
She wasn't She was at work yesterday. So yeah, it
was just the three of us, and well, what was
where it sort of went a little sideways toward the end,
is that we're sitting down. I got him some chips,
got him some hot chips. His birthday, he's allowed.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
And sorry, you're allowed hot chips anybody any day.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Yes, you're still four. And so we're eating hot chips.
And he said to me, and ambassiting across from me,
he said to me, he goes, hey, Dad, you want
to you want to watch me eat these bucking chips?
And I me and Amber both stopped, looked at each
other and going, what did you just say? Leaned in
a bit and he said and he had a bit
of a smile, and he says, do you want to
watch me eat these bucan chips? Made a real may
(02:45):
real point of enunciating the bee and I stopped, and
we've sort of looked at each other again, but like,
who's going to do this? And I said okay, I said, mate,
it sounded very close to a naughty word. Then, so
I'm not going to respond to it, okay, and then
he went and he just and then you just started
eating chips again. So he was just testing the waters.
I guess, I guess did I do the right thing?
(03:07):
Do you reckon? How? How do I respond to that
when he's calling it? Because I mean, I know we
all know.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
I don't know where you're going with this.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Yeah, absolutely, he's a smart kid man. He was waiting
to see which one of you.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Two That was a test.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
That was a test to see which one of you responded.
And the fact you looked at each other and then
chose who did it, that's so good, well done because
you kind of a setting a boundary that says, no,
we're both aligned here and you're using a word and
no oxygen.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
No oxygen my bell once she was little, just to
be playing with Doll's house. Did did you try the
S word? But you have it back to us and
we just look away, just do something else, and you
could feel they're looking around and go, how let go
just get away with that again?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Did you did you laugh about it later like or
did you
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Tell you we thought it was hilarious
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