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Speaker 1 (00:10):
My Heart podcasts, hear more kiss podcasts, playlists, and listen
live on the free hard app on any night out
with your partner, doesn't matter what it is. I was
at a weekend, sorry, a wedding on the weekend. It
happened to me, Yeah, a little bit dusty. So at
some point in the night, your partner is going to
say to you, doesn't matter which one it is, male, female, whatever,
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they will say, I'm going to go home, but you
should stay. We've all been on the receiving end of that.
Maybe a lot of us have given that. Now here's
what I want to know. On thirteen one oh sixty five,
When your partner says to you you should stay, do
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they really mean it or is that like a bit
of a bit of a wink or almost like a challenge,
And like I'm saying you should stay, but what I'm
really saying in my eyes is.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Come home with me. I'd like you to come home
with him.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
Are you asking me?
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Well, so I will be asking you, but I'm asking
everyone listening. Thirteen one oh sixty five. It happened to
me on the on the weekend, ten thirty pm. My wife,
she organized the taxi. She said you should stay. I stayed.
Now I passed this information onto my mate Pete. I
was like, now I'm going to stay. And Pete had
this conversation with his wife where it was like I
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think I think we're going to stay. His wife said yeah, yeah,
you should stay. Then when we walked them to the cab,
there was something weird happened Will because they both paused
at the car and it was like, well, I thought
we'd I thought we'd discussed this pause.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
They paused as if to think, like, well, you're coming
in on.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
I feel like there was a pro conversation where you
guys both said you should stay, And because of that
small pause, I'm now just wondering, like, do you ever
actually mean it when you say you should stay?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Now?
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Will Now your friend Pete, Yeah, he's Pete.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Hell out, No, I don't need to say that.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Could be any Pete, could be Pete sam Press, could
be any Pete.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
So I'm interested because any Pete is a lot older
than you.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Yeah, and you would have thought that he would have
ironed that out, given that he's been probably married for
a very long time.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
But he's to be falling into the same trap as.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
I'm sure, men all around the world continue to until
the day they die if they're in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
The funny thing was, so Pete Sam press. So he
came back in with me. We hit the dance.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
Did you talk about his rivalry with Agacy?
Speaker 2 (02:39):
A lot of that chack, a lot of that check.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
We got on the dance floor and I could just
see the guild all over his face.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
And so half an hour later.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
More importantly, who hits a dance floor with Pete? Helliah said, no,
one had a great time.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Half an hour later, let.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
Go to a dance move just earlier.
Speaker 4 (02:56):
It does a bit of a bob twisting points, yeah, yeah,
twisting point.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Anyway, he went home half an hour.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
That's got the guilt.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
I stayed the court.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Well, I feel like Sam and I thirteen six.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
If you've got something to say on this when your
wife says you should stay, do they really mean it?
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Good that we can.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
I take this from both sides of the fence, really,
because we've got the what men think, but then also
what women think.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
I would love to hear a female okay seven.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
I had a really bad one of these early on
in our relationship where she said, I think you should
stay where. What she meant was please come home with me.
And then I got home and then she was like,
I thought I told you. And then and then she
said to me, oh, I really wanted you to come
home with me. And I was like, well, that sucks.
I'm not going to read your mind. And she was like, yeah,
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it's totally fair enough. I won't do that again. So
we haven't really had that problem because we coveted. Okay, Well,
it's a pretty important one to cover off, I think,
because it really is. I've been in previous relationships with
this has been an ongoing issue where they want to
seem like cool or flexible or whatever in front of
me or their friends or whatever it is. And I'm like,
I don't think like I'm with you, Like I'm choosing
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to be with you. If you want me to come home,
I'm happy to come. I can also stand up for myself.
By the way, if you say I don't mean you
can't sound off yourself, and Mim would be very aware
of that.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Oh she owns you. But that's fine. That's how you.
That's your dynamic.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Whereas if Sam said to me, Sam said to me
come home, if Sam said to me I come home,
and I didn't want.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
To come home.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
I would also feel comfortable and like I want to
stay for a bit longer. So like, just we're adults,
We're all in charge of our own feelings.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
And I feel like this is a coward's phone topic,
and I think it's great.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
I should have had this conversation in private with my wife.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
Maybe have you, But I take it and.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
I just started shooting that maybe she wanted me to come.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
Yeah, was she angry that she didn't make it?
Speaker 2 (04:44):
No, she wasn't.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
But I drunkenly came home at the time, the twelve
thirty one o'clock. The buss pickers up at midnight, so
I wasn't on that late. But then I drunkenly couldn't
figure out the code of the door. And then I
tried to I tried to open.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
There was a slide issue.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Well, there was a sliding door into the sweet bathroom. Yes,
I was sliding the TV off the wall thinking it
was the sliding.
Speaker 5 (05:07):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
And then I had the gaul in the morning.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Our four month old baby was in the room as well,
and I had the gaul the next morning to go
like because I was just out you know, we've had
a few drinks.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
You just think out right. I woke up and I
was like, amazing, Murph slept through the night. I was like,
how dare you well fair to start to Murph for
a big walk that morning?
Speaker 3 (05:30):
When your wife says you should stay.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
When you're out, when you're out at night, it gets
to a certain point in the night they say to
you you should stay.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
Do they really meant?
Speaker 4 (05:41):
But you know what's really funny, it's just as I
said that, and you qualified it with when you're out
at night. It's funny like that's the only time whether
you question whether you should stay. True they mean it,
because like you know, if you're you know, the swimming
pool with your children and your wife says you should stay,
You're like.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
I didn't think about it.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Probably that probably means stick around, you know what I mean?
Speaker 5 (06:03):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Yeah? Or to be mad to think that they weren't
just being honest.
Speaker 4 (06:07):
Yeah, it's not only when you're out and about you
doubt it. Yeah, it's weird for them to insist that
you stay and have a good time.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
Why do they hate us woods? Let's go to Mary
on or Marie, I.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
Should say on thirty one sixty five, Marie, I'm gonna
sick with Marie?
Speaker 3 (06:23):
Is it Marie Murray or Mary?
Speaker 4 (06:26):
Mary?
Speaker 2 (06:27):
I'm sorry? There you go, I guess.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
So, Mary, what are your thoughts if you said to
your partner you should stay on a night out, what
do you really mean?
Speaker 5 (06:36):
I mean you should follow me home?
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Is there is there a way can you? Can you
say it to me?
Speaker 3 (06:44):
Like?
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Is there a way of you saying it which would
suggest that you don't really mean it?
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Is there a tone change or something?
Speaker 5 (06:51):
Mary, I think it's more about my face or like
my body language. I think you can tell that. I
don't mean you should stay, but I don't want to
ask you to come.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
I want you to want to come.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
You want me to want to come?
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Is black magic? I can't have what I cannot what's
your face doing?
Speaker 2 (07:09):
Like?
Speaker 1 (07:09):
What what's what are the facial facial moves or gestures
that I should be looking out for in this situation?
Speaker 5 (07:14):
No smiling, I think is a big okay.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
One okay, lack of smile? Okay?
Speaker 1 (07:20):
So then Mary, in the situation, so say, if you're
my wife on the weekend, you do a no smile,
you should stay. I take that as just you've just
you've just said to me that I can stay.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Am I in trouble when I get home?
Speaker 5 (07:35):
Do I be honest?
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Be honest?
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I guess man, I've been troubles, not like.
Speaker 5 (07:41):
You're in trouble. I'm just disappointed to come home with me.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
It's even worse.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Thanks so much for your honesty. I appreciate it.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
I'm rid of those women in my life.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Mary.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Yes, like I'm glad. I'm sorry I rephrase that like
I'm glad I'm no longer in a relationship with a marror.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
You figured that out, you, you and your partner.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
You can be like that, don't you think that's just
that's a shocking way to be honestly.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Person what you want? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Yeah, yeah, analyse if you're in a relationship, yes, and
you know she might be.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Are you in a relationship no? Okay, okay, thanks for
reminding me. Thanks for reminding me.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
She wants to Keywi guys. By the way, if your
kew he's interested, or if your disco lines.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Yes, Australian disco lines us okay, yeah, anyway you're in
a relationship with disco lines? Yes and no and no
doubt mister Lines wants to stay because he's that for
I can imagine that, mister Lines would he never leaves.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Disco Lines never leaves.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
It's time for one more so, mister Lines says to you.
You have a chat with him, and you go, you
should stay, Disco. What do you really mean?
Speaker 2 (08:55):
I think I'd be like, you should stay. But if
I'm like, if I'm just going home because I'm tired,
you should stay, you should stay.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
But if I'm going home because I'm unwell, and I
say you should stay, I mean I would like you
probably come home.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
Why do you just ask him to come home? Then?
Speaker 4 (09:09):
Because he's Disco Lines, and you respect the hell out
of it exactly.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
You want to have Oh, that's that sucks.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
Scooters called okay, scooters called thirteen one and six five,
that's that's a shame.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
That that's a that's the thing.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Yeah, and discolorad are cool.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
I feel friendly, Scooter, you feel for Disco Well.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Disco is confused in trouble, in trouble when he gets home,
if he ever.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Gets I was.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Gone for a month, Scooter Scooter.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
We're good, mate, We're a bit confused, but we're good.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
What are your thoughts on this? Mate mate.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
When I was younger, she said, I'm going home, you
can stay. I would have come on for two days.
Twenty five years later, she says, come on, I'm already
in the car before she.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
It's a maturity thing. Skirter, good call, I skirt bit
of wisdom from you. My friend Amy has called Amy.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
No one, no one. I'm sure that wasn't disco lines.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Sun of the World sounds Amy? Amy?
Speaker 1 (10:10):
What are your thoughts if you if you say to
your partner you should stay, what are you really saying.
Speaker 5 (10:16):
You should? Bloody say so I can get the piece
of wire at home?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
What was that? Sorry?
Speaker 5 (10:22):
So I would say I'd like to go against every
other female. But when it means stay, it means stays.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Oh you're actually you actually want to go home alone?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Yeah, yeah, see that's healthy. That's healthy.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
So then let's just let's just live in a world
where you're going out with mister Lions. Just go lines
and then he doesn't come home for three days?
Speaker 2 (10:48):
Where does that sit?
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Then that that's going a bit about the father.
Speaker 5 (10:51):
Beyond this, I'll be hunting him down, hunting him down.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Yeah, no one can find lines.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
Yeah, I've edited a relationship like that woman said to me, stay,
didn't come home, she still would