350: Weed, Porn, and Masturbation: The Trifecta! (ft. Jason Lange & Luke Adler)

"Porn was the #1 relationship I had in terms of intimacy."

So says Jason on his experience of sex, love, and closeness in his 20s. (Fortunately, after engaging in personal growth, including men's work, he's now married to a radiant goddess!)

If you've ever struggled with your relationship to porn -- and if that has also impacted your relationship to sex and sexuality, you're far from alone. Countless clients of ours start out with a challenging dynamic with porn, and here's the truth: Porn use isn't really about porn. Weed use isn't really about weed, either.

When it comes to using weed, porn & masturbation, and other substances like alcohol, as Luke puts it, "It’s almost always covering up deeper material that men do not know how to handle."

The good news? There are lots of ways to handle that material, safe spaces within which to process it, and a TON of energy, vitality, and joy on the other side.

Remember: Personal growth works, so work it.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• “When I watch porn, I have the freedom to experience pleasure and the freedom to not experience rejection.”
• “Gimme the weed again because I don’t want to feel the Shame Guy!”
• “We all do things to avoid feeling the thing that we don’t want to feel.”
• “Emotion starts as sensation in the body.”
• “Most of what ails you can be significantly soothed by connection.”