Are People Assholes? Or Just Unskilled?

In this episode, we go straight at the question everyone’s thinking but nobody wants to say out loud: Are people just assholes? And our answer is… usually, no. Most people aren’t out here trying to ruin your life—they’re operating with zero interpersonal skills, low self-awareness, and a whole lot of unhealed triggers.

We break down why labeling someone as “an asshole” is lazy (and honestly, it keeps you stuck), how conflict avoidance quietly destroys relationships and businesses, and why the real flex is learning to pause, collect data, and take radical responsibility—even when your ego wants to make someone else the villain.

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3 Key Takeaways:

1. Labels kill nuance (and keep you suffering). When you slap “asshole” on someone, your brain starts hunting for proof—and suddenly you can’t see anything else about them (or the situation).
2. Most “asshole behavior” is unskilled behavior. People avoid hard conversations, don’t know how to communicate compassionately, and don’t understand their own needs—so they act out, explode, ghost, betray, or sabotage.
3. The way out is radical responsibility + objective “data.” Don’t try to fix people while you’re triggered. Pause. Ask better questions. Create space for real check-ins (like a business would). That’s how you stop repeating the same painful patterns.

 Quotes: 

• “Conflict avoided is conflict multiplied.”

• “You’re not the villain in their story—you represent the parts of them that are unhealed.”

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