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August 3, 2023 41 mins
  Whether at work or in a personal relationship, rejection can suck. Listen to the SexWithDrJess podcast (above) or read the brief summary and full transcript below. As always, thank you so much for being here and engaging with our content. We appreciate you. Check out our affiliate links and remember to use code DRJESSVIP at for exclusive savings! Code DRJESSVIP THANK YOU! 💜 (for real) Code: DRJESSVIP-Save $ + Support Us! No pressure — but if you’re shopping, use our code DRJESSVIP for exclusive savings and a little support for us, too. Win-Win! LOVEHONEY.COM WE-VIBE.COM This is an affiliate link. We may earn a commission. Thank you! Rejection Happens — in the Boardroom and the Bedroom  We poured through messages from across our community—sexual partners, executives, performers, and friendship groups all shared the ways rejection shows up. Why did this matter so much? Because we tend to feel it more acutely when it threatens a core identity or social capital.  Practical Strategies to Manage Rejection Broaden your connection toolbox If your world runs on sex—or status—build emotional, intellectual, physical, creative, communal ways to feel seen. Reframe rejection as protection Sometimes “no” is a headnod from life steering you toward better matches or priorities. Flip the initiation script Both people take turns initiating—this sharing builds empathy and reframes what a “no” even means. Prioritize quality Better communication and attentiveness in sex and life mean fewer personalizations of “no.” Let yourself feel You’re human—sit with the emotions, don’t rush, don’t blame. According to the APA, developing psychological strategies to cope with rejection can help you build emotional resilience and reduce the long-term impact of repeated “nos.” Rewrite your inner narrative Spot those “I’m unworthy” loops and replace them with evidence-based truths. Lean on your circle Friends, partners, therapists—hold space and shatter the isolation of shame. Practice rejection Like auditions or casual dating—it builds resilience if your crew is cheering you on. Ask what you want Name the emotional needs—time, recognition, validation—and invite your partner to help meet them—not out of obligation, but nuance. Shift from “no” to “not now” Softer refusals paired with alternatives keep connection alive. Take a beat That primal panic? Pause. Regulate. Breathe. And reapproach clear-headed. Derive growth from “no” Every rejection teaches something—skill, timing, values, boundaries.   Products to Explore for Pleasure, Connection & Self‑Care We-Vibe Nova 2 – sleek and powerful for those self‑focused nights turning inward. We‑Vibe Moxie+ – discreet, wearable, and inclusive, perfect for feeling desired on your terms. Code DRJESSVIP We-Vibe Nova 2 Save with Discount Code - DRJESSVIP • Dual stimulation with flexible clitoral arm = stays in place as you move & deep rumbly vibes. • App-controlled for solo or partner play from anywhere. • Waterproof & rechargeable — ready for bath, bed, or wherever you'd like. We-Vibe.com Lovehoney.com This is an affiliate link. We may earn a commission. Thank you! More to Read: Internal Link Suggestions For tools to open these key conversations, check our post on erotic connection – Quick connection exercise for couples. If you’d like to explore balancing intimacy and exploration, see erotic seduction – The core erotic feeling. Stay Connected Loved these tips? Subscribe to our newsletter for sex and relationship insights and catch our full conversations on the Se...
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