How Lifestyle Couples Keep Their Relationships Hot, Happy, and Connected
Couples in The Lifestyle — often referred to as swingers — practice a form of ethical non-monogamy that usually involves consensual sexual play with other singles and/or couples. Though swinging still gets its fair share of judgment, research and lived experience show that many couples find that it strengthens their emotional connection, deepens their communication skills, and supports ongoing erotic exploration.
In this quickie episode of the Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast, Jess and Brandon dive into advice from three experienced Lifestyle couples who generously share their insights on how they keep their relationships strong — and their sex lives sizzling.
Curious about The Lifestyle?
If you’ve ever been curious about the Lifestyle — or if you’re just looking to bring some of that open, playful energy into your own monogamous relationship — their wisdom applies. Some of the themes we explore include:
• Why clear communication is the real aphrodisiac.
• How setting — and revisiting — boundaries creates more freedom, not less.
• What “success” looks like beyond just sex — think trust, self-awareness, and mutual growth.
• How embracing pleasure (without shame) fuels deeper connection.
Whether you’re Lifestyle-curious, monogamish, or simply committed to keeping your relationship vibrant, there’s something to learn from couples who choose intentional, consensual exploration.
Listen now to hear real-world advice from couples who know that passion doesn’t have to fade — if you’re willing to keep learning, laughing, and, yes, talking about everything.
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3 Sex & Relationship Lessons From "Lifestyle" Couples
Episode 333
[00:00:00] You're listening to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice. You can use tonight.
[00:00:15] Brandon Ware: Welcome to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast. Dr. Jess, how are you feeling today?
[00:00:19] Jess O'Reilly: I'm feeling all right. I'm feeling good. Talk to me. Why is that? We have just disembarked the Desire Cruise, and I don't know if this was maybe number six for us in terms of Desire Cruising, but we just came off a week in Greece with one stop in Turkey.
[00:00:33] Jess O'Reilly: It was a lot of fun, but it was pretty intense.
[00:00:34] Brandon Ware: Yeah, it was intense.
[00:00:36] Jess O'Reilly: Lots of socializing.
[00:00:38] Brandon Ware: Yeah, that's an understatement. I always like to party. Oh my gosh. I can't keep up. I don't know. I gotta, I gotta tell you, I don't know how they do it. They're up at like seven in the morning and they party hard until like three in the morning.
[00:00:49] Jess O'Reilly: Is that, is that their schedule? I don't know. I'm asleep long before
[00:00:52] Brandon Ware: that. I'm, I'm, I'm impressed.
[00:00:55] Jess O'Reilly: But it's super friendly crowd. Oh yeah. Like it's so much fun while you're on, but then, you know, when you come off of something that's so highly social, at least me. Oh, I feel like a total drop. I just need to be quiet for a bit.
[00:01:07] Jess O'Reilly: Need some time to chill. Yes. Now we are also on route to Atlanta for Sex Town South via Toronto. Very excited for this.