I am Mitle Southey. I am a circle holder, intuitive guide and founder of Circle School. Everything I do is to support my mission, which is to help as many women as possible experience the transformative power of circles.
A big part of that is mentoring women on the art of being a circle holder, and helping them create circles in their communities and as part of their business.
Today I talk about 7 beautiful steps for filling your circles.
1. Have Profound Clarity
Make sure you have profound clarity on how many people you want in your circle. Do you want an intimate circle of 4? 8? 10? 12? Really commit to how many women you want.
One thing I do is create a virtual circle with Post It notes on the wall. As each woman books a spot, I write her name on one of the Post It Notes and a big love heart and say ‘thank you’.
Have a visual representation, so you can really honour each woman as they join your circle. Remind yourself that as each woman joins, they are contributing to the energy of the circle. The first woman who joins is always so special to me, as she is joined with me, and she is helping me call in those other women who will gather with us.
2. Raise Your Vibration!
What is the feeling state you are embodying when you are sharing your circle? When you are talking about it? When you are creating a graphic or poster? Or sharing it with the venue you’re holding it at? Check in with yourself when you’re talking about it. Do whatever you need to do to raise your vibration and get into that space, that energy that you want women to feel. Give them a taste of your energy.
That might involve going for a beautiful walk in nature. Or turn some music on and dance it out. Perhaps it’s chanting or drumming. Jumping up and down. Exercising. It’s whatever it is for you to get into the feeling state that is going to ripple out. So when you are posting, sharing, talking about your circle, the women you are talking to are meeting with your beautiful energy of enthusiasm. Of joy. Of love for the circle. As opposed to an energy of irritation or desperation. It’s all about energy, and the energetic resonance you have when you’re calling in the women you want in your circle.
3. Visualise Your Circle in as Much Detail as Possible.
Take time to sit in heart coherence or meditation or whatever brings you into that beautiful state. Take yourself through that circle. Use your imagination. Take yourself on a journey from when you arrive in the space, whether that’s online or in person. Imagine when you greet those women who are joining you. See all of you taking your place in the circle. See the number of women you decided are coming in. See each of them. See the centrepiece or the alter or the mandala.
As you are imagining the scene, as you look at each of the faces of the women, you may find you recognise some. There may be a prompt to remind you, ‘Oh, I’ll reach out to her’.
Take yourself through the welcome. The opening ceremony. The creation of the centerpiece. The heart of the ceremony. You’ll have clarity on your theme. You’ll know what you’ll be sharing.
Do this as many times as you need. You might do this every day leading up the the start. Or once a week.
It’s a very powerful step in getting into energetic alignment with that vision that you are holding.
4. Act as if…
Once you’ve got yourself into that energetic state and you have visualised, then act as if that circle is full. See how that impacts in the way you show up. See how that informs the conversations you are having. And how that helps you to stay in that place of enthusiasm and joy and excitement for your circle.
If you find yourself waning, and it’s not filling up as quickly as you’d like and people aren’t booking, come back to your energetic state. Tune it to what feels out of alignment. Go within and see if there’s something there. See what’s going on.
One of the ways I ‘act as if’ is to pay for the venue. Once I do that,