May 6, 2025 • 17 mins
This episode is a raw, honest behind-the-scenes look at what happens after you leave something successful to follow a deeper calling—and it doesn't go the way you thought it would. If you’re feeling stuck, lost, or questioning everything, this one’s for you.
Key Takeaways:
- The emotional rollercoaster of leaving the Tag Team and navigating life after a successful partnership.
- Why finding alignment in your business might take years—and why that’s okay.
- The danger of running from your true calling and how to recognize it.
- How fear, doubt, and self-sabotage sneak in (especially when you're on the verge of something great).
- The quiet moment when everything clicked and Rachel finally gave herself permission to go all in.
- What Rachel would tell herself two years ago—and what you might need to hear today.
- Encouragement for those who are ready to build something of their own but feel like they’re constantly starting over.
- A peek into the inspiration behind Rachel’s skit characters and why they’ve brought new life to her business.
Power Quote:
"Alignment doesn’t always feel like lightning. Sometimes, it’s just a quiet knowing that this is it."
Closing Reminder:
If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing because you keep changing directions—this is your sign that you’re not failing. You’re evolving. You’re finding your way. And it’s safe to try, pause, pivot, and try again.
Hang out with me more!
Send me the message PODCAST over on Instagram at @rachelaperry and I’ll send you my "Parties-Optional Profit Plan!"
For Additional Resources for Direct Sellers:
www.rachelaperry.com
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to the Direct Sellers Podcast, the podcast
for direct sellers who are readyto get uncomfortable, build
their business and grow a teamwhile changing the face of the
direct sales industry.
I'm your host, rachel Perry.
Join me as we get real and talkabout all the things you need
to kick some serious directsales booty From overcoming
(00:26):
limiting beliefs to sharing theexact strategies you need to
attract the right people whobecome customers and beg to join
your team.
I've got you covered, girl.
I'm going to be your new BFFwhen it comes to balancing life
and kids while building yourdirect sales business with poise
, peace of mind and, of course,a good set of fake eyelashes.
Let's get started.
(00:48):
Hey guys, welcome back toanother episode of the Direct
Sellers Podcast.
I'm your host, rachel Perry,and today I'm just gonna get
really real with you guys andI'm so excited.
I love episodes like this, whenI get to share a little bit of
my story.
So this episode is for you.
If you're kind of in a fog,maybe you're questioning
(01:10):
everything, maybe nothing feelsright.
That's what we're talking abouttoday, because I've been there.
So, as you know, I left the tagteam back in 2019.
And when we dissolved the tagteam in 2019.
And when we dissolved the tagteam, I didn't realize how hard
(01:31):
it would be for me personally,because I was the one that chose
to leave.
I felt that I was being calledto something else and it was a
really hard decision.
But what I didn't anticipatewas that I would lose my
identity in the process, and so,after it's been four and a half
years of searching, trying,launching, pivoting, questioning
(01:55):
, something has finally clicked,and I just wanted to share what
has changed and what I wouldtell myself two years ago.
If I could go back in time,what would would tell myself two
years ago?
Like, if I could go back intime, what would I tell myself?
You know, there've been so manymoments over these past four
and a half years where I'vethought should I quit?
Like is this working?
(02:15):
Am I even good at this?
Should I not have made themoves that I made?
And I think, because the tagteam happened so beautifully and
so organically, I sort ofexpected that to happen with
this business, with my personalbusiness, and what people don't
talk about is that it can takeyears until you feel truly
(02:37):
aligned in your business.
It wasn't like a big aha momentfor me.
It was a series of small, bravechoices that I made, stacked on
top of one another, and therewere times when I felt like I
was wading through a mud pit.
I didn't know if I was doingthe right thing, I just kept
trying.
And there were so many timeswhen, like I would find success,
(03:02):
I would launch a program andpeople would join and I was so
excited.
But I didn't feel like thedepth of excitement Does that
make sense?
Like I wasn't like passionateabout it.
I would have it for a littlewhile and then it would
dissipate and I thought that wasjust because it was me and
there was something wrong withme.
And I was helping people and Ilove helping people, but I think
(03:23):
I was running from what I wasreally meant to be doing and I
had all these ideas but theythey didn't light me up.
And there was something that Iwas running from and that was I
wanted to teach direct sellers,network marketers, how to build
something of their own,something that they owned,
(03:44):
something that they didn't have.
That was their own.
Honestly, that was their ownand I kept running from it.
You guys, I kept running fromit and I think part of that was
because I was scared.
I think there was some fearthere doubt, a lot of doubt, and
(04:05):
I kept coming back to it.
I kept coming back to it.
I would create a program andthen I wouldn't.
I would go back to what I knew,which was teaching direct
sellers how to build theirdirect sales business.
But suddenly, not even suddenly,there was no one moment where I
(04:26):
feel like this change happened,like there was.
There's no one moment that Ican be like and that was the
clarity I needed.
But I think my clarity cameafter this live event that I
went to with the coaching groupI'm a part of back in April and
I was just.
I showed up to this eventwilling to be really vulnerable
(04:50):
and willing to recognize and seeif there was something that I
was not.
I don't know what I was notdoing or doing right.
Like I, I really wanted to beopen to change and that's hard.
And I remember one of mycoaches said you're not charging
enough for your product and Iwas like right, and he was like
(05:11):
you're not speaking to the rightpeople.
And all of a sudden I had thismassive aha, like I've been
hiding again so much of thisfour and a half years I've
gotten really brave.
I've done brave things, butI've also been fearful.
I've also allowed myself to wow.
(05:32):
This is such a big deal to methat I'm sharing this, because I
don't think I've ever sharedthis so openly before.
But I allowed myself to fallback on things that I knew
because I was scared of theunknown.
I was scared of failing All thethings I teach you guys about
and I didn't realize I was doingit.
(05:53):
And I think so often this isthe process, right, the process
is falling back into old ways,trying new things, then getting
scared, like this is all of the.
I don't regret any of it.
I love who I've been able towork with and I I love all the
things that have come from allthese moves that I've made.
(06:13):
But I think after this liveevent, something clicked for me,
and I don't know what it was.
If you guys followed me back inthe tag team days, we used to
wear wigs and do funny skits allthe time, right, like remember
the minivan moments?
I loved those so much and Ithink I tried to come up with
(06:35):
some alter egos, like I.
I tried to recreate Jasleen.
I tried to tap it Like.
There are so many videos thatI've done where I I tried to do
it and it just never felt right,it never felt aligned, and that
made me sad a little bit,because I love to make people
laugh, and I thought, well,maybe that's just that time of
my life is over Like, maybe,maybe I'm not meant to do that
(06:58):
and came back from the liveevent back in April and I don't
know what it was, girl, I waslike inspired and I've created
these new characters and I'mdoing something different and
I'm making people laugh and I'msharing Instagram and TikToks
Instagram reels and TikToks,pretending to be different
network marketers, and it's somuch fun and I think it was just
(07:22):
time.
I think I had to grieve the lossof the tag team.
I think I had to be willing, bebrave enough to step into
really what I felt called to do.
I had to be willing to do thatand it was soon as I did it, as
soon as I did what I've beenrunning from.
It was like this alignment,like you know, when you find
(07:43):
that puzzle piece and you put itin and like the last puzzle
piece, and all of a sudden,everything feels right.
That's exactly what happenedand I think it was me being
willing to do the thing thatscared me the most.
And you know, the truth aboutalignment is that it doesn't
always feel like that.
It doesn't always feel likelightning.
Sometimes it's just a quietknowing like this is it.
(08:03):
And that happened to me justbefore the live event that I
attended.
I had created the backup plan.
It just came to me one day inJanuary.
I was like I'm going to call ityour backup plan and that's
what I'm going to teach directsellers to do build something in
addition to their direct salesbusiness.
And I felt that I felt likethis is it, this is it, this is
(08:23):
it.
And I think that came after lotsof exhaustion, lots of
questioning, lots of tryingthings that did work and didn't
work but didn't feel right.
I had to give myself thatpermission to start over as many
times as I needed, and therewas a lot of guilt.
That happened there A lot oftimes where I was like, oh,
rachel, you know like why do youkeep starting?
(08:44):
People are gonna get soconfused with your messaging and
all of that.
But looking back, I'm like, ohno, I needed to do all of that.
I needed to go through all ofthat.
No, I needed to do all of that.
I needed to go through all ofthat.
I think alignment doesn'tnecessarily mean everything is
easy all the time, but I dothink that it makes hard things
feel worth it.
I think that is so powerful andI think when I came back and I
(09:12):
don't think it was necessarilythe live event that changed this
I think that was just sort ofthe turning point after all of
this searching, and I just feelso much more activated now and I
hadn't felt that in years.
Even some of the time duringthe tag team, like I didn't have
this activation, I felt like Iwasn't doing what I was meant to
(09:32):
be doing.
And I'm sharing this with youbecause I think a lot of you may
feel this way.
A lot of you may feel likeyou're not super aligned, you're
not necessarily loving in lovewith what you do, and I just
want to encourage you that youknow all the things that you're
doing, the steps that you'retaking, the things that you're
(09:53):
trying.
They're all getting you closerto where you're meant to be.
And I think so often we feelguilty because it's like for me
it was like oh, I'm alwaystrying something new, like I
can't seem to stick to anything.
But that wasn't true.
I was just trying to figure outwhere I was meant to be and
sometimes yes, sometimes I wasrunning away.
(10:14):
I was trying to avoid out offear, but I was always moving
forward and I want to encourageyou with that, because that's
part of it.
And I had one of my studentssay to me the other day I just
don't know if I'm meant to bedoing this direct sales business
anymore.
It just feels so hard.
And I will tell you like thatwas part of it for me too, way
back when, when I was doing mydirect sales business like there
(10:37):
comes a point or there came apoint where I was like this is
just a little bit not what Iwant to do anymore.
And if you're starting to feelthat way, just know that that
might be a sign, that might be anudge to start building
something of your own, to startcreating a digital product.
You can sell that.
You can still do your directsales business, but you're just
(10:57):
starting to build something ofyour own.
You know, I think if I were togo back and talk to myself, I
think if I were to go back andtalk to myself, I think what I
would say after two years ofthis journey, I think I would
say because, you know, I hadgreat success in the beginning
(11:18):
and I had, I mean, I've hadgreat success across the four
and a half years, but it hasn'tfelt right.
It hasn't.
It hasn't been flowing, though,like I wanted it to, like it
did, necessarily, with the tagteam.
But I think what I would tellmyself is I would say you're not
behind, number one, you're justbuilding something real.
You're not behind.
So I want, I want you to hearthat too.
You're not behind, you're justbuilding something.
(11:39):
Okay, don't force what doesn'tfeel right.
I tried a lot of differentthings that didn't feel right,
felt right in the beginning, andthen it just didn't feel right.
Going forward, okay, and itwould be easy to look at that
and be like, well, that's afailure, that's a failure,
that's a failure.
But I don't see any of them asfailures.
I just see them as things thatjust didn't work.
(12:00):
It wasn't right.
Right, but I had to figure thatout before I got to where I am
now, and everything you'relearning is going to come back
around in ways that you can'tsee yet.
I would tell myself that, likeeverything you're learning,
rachel, everything you'relearning, listener is going to
come back around in ways thatyou just can't see yet, and it's
(12:21):
safe to pause.
And it's safe to pause.
And it's safe to pivot.
And it's safe to trust your gut.
It's safe to try differentthings.
It's safe to say I don't thinkthis is for me anymore.
Or it's safe to say I want morefrom this.
Right, I just really want toencourage you and I wish that I,
if I, could go back and tellmyself that I would, because
(12:44):
there were so many times where Ifelt like a failure.
There were so many times when Ifelt like maybe I wasn't cut
out for this, maybe I wasn'tmeant to go solo, maybe I
misread the pull I had felt Allthose things, but it was all
part of it, it was all part ofthe journey.
(13:04):
So my encouragement to you isthat if things ever feel off, if
they feel off right now, ifthey feel off in the future, it
doesn't mean it's not workingand it doesn't mean that you're
doing something wrong.
It just means that something istrying to shift.
Stay in it or take a break.
But, whatever you do, don'tgive up on the version of you
that's trying to come out.
(13:25):
But whatever you do, don't giveup on the version of you that's
trying to come out.
I was talking to my expandladies today.
We were talking about the innermean girl and how the inner
mean girl gets really, reallyloud when you're on the verge of
something, when you are aboutto expand, and so often we
listen to that inner mean girland we let her stop us.
But my encouragement to you isto not let don't let her stop
(13:46):
you.
Don't let don't self-sabotageyourself because you are meant
for more.
But are you willing to openyourself up to that more because
you deserve it?
But you may feel that you don'tand that is a lie.
You know I'm reading, rereadingthe Big Leap and I've talked
about this before.
If you've been in any of mychallenges, you know I've talked
about it.
But I'm rereading it and I readit four and a half years ago
(14:09):
and I'm reading it now and it'sso different because I'm in a
different stage of my life.
But he talks about the author,gay Hendricks talks about how we
have this upper everyone has anupper limit problem and we get
to that upper limit where andit's that point where we're like
nope, I'm good, I don't deserveanymore.
Like, have you ever had thatfeeling where you're like
everything's going great in mylife and then something bad
(14:29):
happens?
Or then you do something andthen you're like, oh see, I knew
it couldn't stay great forever.
That's an upper limit problem.
We do that to ourselves becausewe don't feel that we deserve
to go beyond that ceiling thatwe've created for ourselves.
But that's a lie.
None of that is true, and so Ijust want to encourage you today
to recognize and try torecognize.
(14:51):
Like are you doing that?
Are you self-sabotaging?
Because guess what?
There were many times in this,over this past four and a half
years, where I questioned God.
I was like maybe I'm just notgood enough, maybe I'm not meant
to do this.
I'm not making as much money asI was with the tag team.
Do I stick with this?
Do I go find a job?
Am I meant to be doing this?
(15:13):
And every time, I felt like Godwas saying keep going, keep
going, keep going.
And I did.
And there were things thatdidn't work and there were
things that did work, and Iwould change my messaging and I
would change my messaging andthen I would change it up again,
and change it up again andchange it up again, and there
were so many times where I feltlike I wasn't, I was failing
because I kept changing things.
But the reality is is I wasjust on this journey to figure
(15:35):
out and find this alignment, andit doesn't happen overnight.
Sometimes, sometimes it does,but sometimes it doesn't.
And I just want to encourage youthat you are meant for
alignment, you are meant to behappy, you are meant to love
what you're doing.
And if you don't love whatyou're doing, take a look at it.
Are you being called tosomething else?
And maybe that is just creatingthat space, that digital offer,
(16:02):
something more.
Maybe that's the door you needto be opening, or maybe it's
something else.
And that's the door you need tobe opening, or maybe it's
something else.
And I just really want toencourage you today.
You are where you're meant tobe, but just don't be afraid to
try new things, don't be afraidto pivot, don't be afraid, don't
see yourself as a failure,because you're not.
You're just expanding.
Thanks for letting me share thattoday.
(16:23):
I so appreciate it.
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I appreciate you listening, Ilove hearing from you.
So, as always, reach out.
Let me know that you listenedhow you liked this episode.
I do adore you.
I truly adore you, and I'm sograteful that you're a listener,
so I'll see you back.
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(16:52):
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Welcome to the Direct Sellers Podcast, the podcast
for direct sellers who are readyto get uncomfortable, build
their business and grow a teamwhile changing the face of the
direct sales industry.
I'm your host, rachel Perry.
Join me as we get real and talkabout all the things you need
to kick some serious directsales booty From overcoming
(00:26):
limiting beliefs to sharing theexact strategies you need to
attract the right people whobecome customers and beg to join
your team.
I've got you covered, girl.
I'm going to be your new BFFwhen it comes to balancing life
and kids while building yourdirect sales business with poise
, peace of mind and, of course,a good set of fake eyelashes.
Let's get started.
(00:48):
Hey guys, welcome back toanother episode of the Direct
Sellers Podcast.
I'm your host, rachel Perry,and today I'm just gonna get
really real with you guys andI'm so excited.
I love episodes like this, whenI get to share a little bit of
my story.
So this episode is for you.
If you're kind of in a fog,maybe you're questioning
(01:10):
everything, maybe nothing feelsright.
That's what we're talking abouttoday, because I've been there.
So, as you know, I left the tagteam back in 2019.
And when we dissolved the tagteam in 2019.
And when we dissolved the tagteam, I didn't realize how hard
(01:31):
it would be for me personally,because I was the one that chose
to leave.
I felt that I was being calledto something else and it was a
really hard decision.
But what I didn't anticipatewas that I would lose my
identity in the process, and so,after it's been four and a half
years of searching, trying,launching, pivoting, questioning
(01:55):
, something has finally clicked,and I just wanted to share what
has changed and what I wouldtell myself two years ago.
If I could go back in time,what would would tell myself two
years ago?
Like, if I could go back intime, what would I tell myself?
You know, there've been so manymoments over these past four
and a half years where I'vethought should I quit?
Like is this working?
(02:15):
Am I even good at this?
Should I not have made themoves that I made?
And I think, because the tagteam happened so beautifully and
so organically, I sort ofexpected that to happen with
this business, with my personalbusiness, and what people don't
talk about is that it can takeyears until you feel truly
(02:37):
aligned in your business.
It wasn't like a big aha momentfor me.
It was a series of small, bravechoices that I made, stacked on
top of one another, and therewere times when I felt like I
was wading through a mud pit.
I didn't know if I was doingthe right thing, I just kept
trying.
And there were so many timeswhen, like I would find success,
(03:02):
I would launch a program andpeople would join and I was so
excited.
But I didn't feel like thedepth of excitement Does that
make sense?
Like I wasn't like passionateabout it.
I would have it for a littlewhile and then it would
dissipate and I thought that wasjust because it was me and
there was something wrong withme.
And I was helping people and Ilove helping people, but I think
(03:23):
I was running from what I wasreally meant to be doing and I
had all these ideas but theythey didn't light me up.
And there was something that Iwas running from and that was I
wanted to teach direct sellers,network marketers, how to build
something of their own,something that they owned,
(03:44):
something that they didn't have.
That was their own.
Honestly, that was their ownand I kept running from it.
You guys, I kept running fromit and I think part of that was
because I was scared.
I think there was some fearthere doubt, a lot of doubt, and
(04:05):
I kept coming back to it.
I kept coming back to it.
I would create a program andthen I wouldn't.
I would go back to what I knew,which was teaching direct
sellers how to build theirdirect sales business.
But suddenly, not even suddenly,there was no one moment where I
(04:26):
feel like this change happened,like there was.
There's no one moment that Ican be like and that was the
clarity I needed.
But I think my clarity cameafter this live event that I
went to with the coaching groupI'm a part of back in April and
I was just.
I showed up to this eventwilling to be really vulnerable
(04:50):
and willing to recognize and seeif there was something that I
was not.
I don't know what I was notdoing or doing right.
Like I, I really wanted to beopen to change and that's hard.
And I remember one of mycoaches said you're not charging
enough for your product and Iwas like right, and he was like
(05:11):
you're not speaking to the rightpeople.
And all of a sudden I had thismassive aha, like I've been
hiding again so much of thisfour and a half years I've
gotten really brave.
I've done brave things, butI've also been fearful.
I've also allowed myself to wow.
(05:32):
This is such a big deal to methat I'm sharing this, because I
don't think I've ever sharedthis so openly before.
But I allowed myself to fallback on things that I knew
because I was scared of theunknown.
I was scared of failing All thethings I teach you guys about
and I didn't realize I was doingit.
(05:53):
And I think so often this isthe process, right, the process
is falling back into old ways,trying new things, then getting
scared, like this is all of the.
I don't regret any of it.
I love who I've been able towork with and I I love all the
things that have come from allthese moves that I've made.
(06:13):
But I think after this liveevent, something clicked for me,
and I don't know what it was.
If you guys followed me back inthe tag team days, we used to
wear wigs and do funny skits allthe time, right, like remember
the minivan moments?
I loved those so much and Ithink I tried to come up with
(06:35):
some alter egos, like I.
I tried to recreate Jasleen.
I tried to tap it Like.
There are so many videos thatI've done where I I tried to do
it and it just never felt right,it never felt aligned, and that
made me sad a little bit,because I love to make people
laugh, and I thought, well,maybe that's just that time of
my life is over Like, maybe,maybe I'm not meant to do that
(06:58):
and came back from the liveevent back in April and I don't
know what it was, girl, I waslike inspired and I've created
these new characters and I'mdoing something different and
I'm making people laugh and I'msharing Instagram and TikToks
Instagram reels and TikToks,pretending to be different
network marketers, and it's somuch fun and I think it was just
(07:22):
time.
I think I had to grieve the lossof the tag team.
I think I had to be willing, bebrave enough to step into
really what I felt called to do.
I had to be willing to do thatand it was soon as I did it, as
soon as I did what I've beenrunning from.
It was like this alignment,like you know, when you find
(07:43):
that puzzle piece and you put itin and like the last puzzle
piece, and all of a sudden,everything feels right.
That's exactly what happenedand I think it was me being
willing to do the thing thatscared me the most.
And you know, the truth aboutalignment is that it doesn't
always feel like that.
It doesn't always feel likelightning.
Sometimes it's just a quietknowing like this is it.
(08:03):
And that happened to me justbefore the live event that I
attended.
I had created the backup plan.
It just came to me one day inJanuary.
I was like I'm going to call ityour backup plan and that's
what I'm going to teach directsellers to do build something in
addition to their direct salesbusiness.
And I felt that I felt likethis is it, this is it, this is
(08:23):
it.
And I think that came after lotsof exhaustion, lots of
questioning, lots of tryingthings that did work and didn't
work but didn't feel right.
I had to give myself thatpermission to start over as many
times as I needed, and therewas a lot of guilt.
That happened there A lot oftimes where I was like, oh,
rachel, you know like why do youkeep starting?
(08:44):
People are gonna get soconfused with your messaging and
all of that.
But looking back, I'm like, ohno, I needed to do all of that.
I needed to go through all ofthat.
No, I needed to do all of that.
I needed to go through all ofthat.
I think alignment doesn'tnecessarily mean everything is
easy all the time, but I dothink that it makes hard things
feel worth it.
I think that is so powerful andI think when I came back and I
(09:12):
don't think it was necessarilythe live event that changed this
I think that was just sort ofthe turning point after all of
this searching, and I just feelso much more activated now and I
hadn't felt that in years.
Even some of the time duringthe tag team, like I didn't have
this activation, I felt like Iwasn't doing what I was meant to
(09:32):
be doing.
And I'm sharing this with youbecause I think a lot of you may
feel this way.
A lot of you may feel likeyou're not super aligned, you're
not necessarily loving in lovewith what you do, and I just
want to encourage you that youknow all the things that you're
doing, the steps that you'retaking, the things that you're
(09:53):
trying.
They're all getting you closerto where you're meant to be.
And I think so often we feelguilty because it's like for me
it was like oh, I'm alwaystrying something new, like I
can't seem to stick to anything.
But that wasn't true.
I was just trying to figure outwhere I was meant to be and
sometimes yes, sometimes I wasrunning away.
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I was trying to avoid out offear, but I was always moving
forward and I want to encourageyou with that, because that's
part of it.
And I had one of my studentssay to me the other day I just
don't know if I'm meant to bedoing this direct sales business
anymore.
It just feels so hard.
And I will tell you like thatwas part of it for me too, way
back when, when I was doing mydirect sales business like there
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comes a point or there came apoint where I was like this is
just a little bit not what Iwant to do anymore.
And if you're starting to feelthat way, just know that that
might be a sign, that might be anudge to start building
something of your own, to startcreating a digital product.
You can sell that.
You can still do your directsales business, but you're just
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starting to build something ofyour own.
You know, I think if I were togo back and talk to myself, I
think if I were to go back andtalk to myself, I think what I
would say after two years ofthis journey, I think I would
say because, you know, I hadgreat success in the beginning
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and I had, I mean, I've hadgreat success across the four
and a half years, but it hasn'tfelt right.
It hasn't.
It hasn't been flowing, though,like I wanted it to, like it
did, necessarily, with the tagteam.
But I think what I would tellmyself is I would say you're not
behind, number one, you're justbuilding something real.
You're not behind.
So I want, I want you to hearthat too.
You're not behind, you're justbuilding something.
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Okay, don't force what doesn'tfeel right.
I tried a lot of differentthings that didn't feel right,
felt right in the beginning, andthen it just didn't feel right.
Going forward, okay, and itwould be easy to look at that
and be like, well, that's afailure, that's a failure,
that's a failure.
But I don't see any of them asfailures.
I just see them as things thatjust didn't work.
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It wasn't right.
Right, but I had to figure thatout before I got to where I am
now, and everything you'relearning is going to come back
around in ways that you can'tsee yet.
I would tell myself that, likeeverything you're learning,
rachel, everything you'relearning, listener is going to
come back around in ways thatyou just can't see yet, and it's
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safe to pause.
And it's safe to pause.
And it's safe to pivot.
And it's safe to trust your gut.
It's safe to try differentthings.
It's safe to say I don't thinkthis is for me anymore.
Or it's safe to say I want morefrom this.
Right, I just really want toencourage you and I wish that I,
if I, could go back and tellmyself that I would, because
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there were so many times where Ifelt like a failure.
There were so many times when Ifelt like maybe I wasn't cut
out for this, maybe I wasn'tmeant to go solo, maybe I
misread the pull I had felt Allthose things, but it was all
part of it, it was all part ofthe journey.
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So my encouragement to you isthat if things ever feel off, if
they feel off right now, ifthey feel off in the future, it
doesn't mean it's not workingand it doesn't mean that you're
doing something wrong.
It just means that something istrying to shift.
Stay in it or take a break.
But, whatever you do, don'tgive up on the version of you
that's trying to come out.
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But whatever you do, don't giveup on the version of you that's
trying to come out.
I was talking to my expandladies today.
We were talking about the innermean girl and how the inner
mean girl gets really, reallyloud when you're on the verge of
something, when you are aboutto expand, and so often we
listen to that inner mean girland we let her stop us.
But my encouragement to you isto not let don't let her stop
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you.
Don't let don't self-sabotageyourself because you are meant
for more.
But are you willing to openyourself up to that more because
you deserve it?
But you may feel that you don'tand that is a lie.
You know I'm reading, rereadingthe Big Leap and I've talked
about this before.
If you've been in any of mychallenges, you know I've talked
about it.
But I'm rereading it and I readit four and a half years ago
(14:09):
and I'm reading it now and it'sso different because I'm in a
different stage of my life.
But he talks about the author,gay Hendricks talks about how we
have this upper everyone has anupper limit problem and we get
to that upper limit where andit's that point where we're like
nope, I'm good, I don't deserveanymore.
Like, have you ever had thatfeeling where you're like
everything's going great in mylife and then something bad
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happens?
Or then you do something andthen you're like, oh see, I knew
it couldn't stay great forever.
That's an upper limit problem.
We do that to ourselves becausewe don't feel that we deserve
to go beyond that ceiling thatwe've created for ourselves.
But that's a lie.
None of that is true, and so Ijust want to encourage you today
to recognize and try torecognize.
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Like are you doing that?
Are you self-sabotaging?
Because guess what?
There were many times in this,over this past four and a half
years, where I questioned God.
I was like maybe I'm just notgood enough, maybe I'm not meant
to do this.
I'm not making as much money asI was with the tag team.
Do I stick with this?
Do I go find a job?
Am I meant to be doing this?
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And every time, I felt like Godwas saying keep going, keep
going, keep going.
And I did.
And there were things thatdidn't work and there were
things that did work, and Iwould change my messaging and I
would change my messaging andthen I would change it up again,
and change it up again andchange it up again, and there
were so many times where I feltlike I wasn't, I was failing
because I kept changing things.
But the reality is is I wasjust on this journey to figure
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out and find this alignment, andit doesn't happen overnight.
Sometimes, sometimes it does,but sometimes it doesn't.
And I just want to encourage youthat you are meant for
alignment, you are meant to behappy, you are meant to love
what you're doing.
And if you don't love whatyou're doing, take a look at it.
Are you being called tosomething else?
And maybe that is just creatingthat space, that digital offer,
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something more.
Maybe that's the door you needto be opening, or maybe it's
something else.
And that's the door you need tobe opening, or maybe it's
something else.
And I just really want toencourage you today.
You are where you're meant tobe, but just don't be afraid to
try new things, don't be afraidto pivot, don't be afraid, don't
see yourself as a failure,because you're not.
You're just expanding.
Thanks for letting me share thattoday.
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I so appreciate it.
I love you.
I appreciate you listening, Ilove hearing from you.
So, as always, reach out.
Let me know that you listenedhow you liked this episode.
I do adore you.
I truly adore you, and I'm sograteful that you're a listener,
so I'll see you back.
Here's it for this episode ofthe Direct Sellers Podcast, but
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our fun doesn't have to end now.
You'll catch me hanging outover on Instagram between
episodes and I'd love for you tojoin me.
So hop into my DMs.
I promise you're not gettingany hate girl messages and I
promise I'm not going to beasking you to weirdly buy
anything.
Send me the message podcast soI can send you my free 90 day
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